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Chris Williamson

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“No, it's a thank you. So I think people often wonder about what's going on behind the scenes or what somebody's like behind the scenes. And I needed some advice from you. So I messaged you on Saturday afternoon on WhatsApp. And within 30 seconds, you rang me and then put me in a group with the guy that was able to help with this thing. And then basically sort of carried us through this process for the next couple of weeks and kept checking in with me. That was very, very meaningful. And you didn't need to do it. I very much appreciate having you. I mean, you in my phone book is like a fucking hidden weapon. You're kind of like the Jocko willink to be able to get stuff sorted. But I just wanted to say thank you for that because it was really, really kind. It's awesome to feel like people have got your back. And that made me feel like that.”
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“Oh my god, I love that. People always ask like, what's the best conversation you've ever had? And I say it's like trying to choose between a thousand children. That was really special. And for people who know him, you should watch it again. People who don't know him should go and check it out so we can link that below. I highly recommend that. Yeah, honestly, the modern Wisdom Manual Review template, it's free, copy it, use it, and that'll put you on my mailing list for a once-a-week newsletter, which is a lot of the thoughts, a lot of the ideas that we've gone through today. I wanted to say something to you before we finished up as well.”
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“Oh wonderful I think agency. I think the belief that you have The ability to impact your surroundings because the opposite of agency is you basically holding your hands up and saying I am at the mercy of the world. Happen to life. Life doesn't happen to you.”
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“It's a great time of year to question that assumption. What would have to happen by the end of next year for you to look back on it and consider it a success? What would I do to make eighty five year old me miserable? What would eighty five-year-old me wish that I did more of what are the emotions I'm unprepared to feel? What are the thoughts that I thought too many times last year? If this was a movie and the audience was watching, what would they be screaming at the screen? Telling me to do with my life. Cool questions and Suddenly helped me, they helped me find directions, so I hope they've helped everyone else as well.”
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“First off, congratulations for making it through all of theirs. There's a lot of uncomfortable things to face with conversations like this. It really forces you to reckon with parts of your direction. You're like, fuck, I really don't want to have to have that conversation. I really don't want to face that thing. There's a great quote from John Paul Sartre. He said, I've led a toothless life. I have never bitten into anything. I was waiting, I was reserving myself for later on, and I have just noticed that my teeth have gone. This idea of being shunted to the side of your own life, of being a NPC, a non-playable character when you should have been the main character. Can be in service of other people, but you can still have some sort of action that you take into the world. This deferred life thing waiting for life to begin.”
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“Yeah, I am. If I was at three, twelve months ago and probably at seven to an eight now. So I Don't let the show drop and fix my health. I got close to doing both of those.”
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“And yet I realized that that was worth being happy about and that denying myself the opportunity to be happy about something small is basically holding my happiness hostage. Like until the bank deposit is sufficiently large, the ledger doesn't kick in. Like I can't pick up pennies, I can only pick up a hundred dollars bills. And It really fucking humbled me, dude. Especially if you're flying high. Two years ago, The show is just vertical. And numerically, it still is now. But it really, really felt like something had just come in to bring my feet back down to Earth. And I feel different to the person that I was last year, but I'm much more connected, I think, to a sort of truth. Alandiboton says, the best men are those who have been broken. And this year has definitely broken me.”
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“Somebody who's kind of kind Sensitive and I always thought that sensitivity was weakness, but it's not, at least not for me. Somebody who is resilient? in a very normal way. boring victories something that I've had to learn to take pleasure from this young is today The grandest accomplishment of your entire life But you went for a walk, or you were kind to that person at the supermarket, or you were gentle with yourself when you became frustrated and I thought Had to get over the shame of small pleasures that somehow me feeling proud about the way that I showed up in a tiny minute way that nobody else saw was sort of a comment of the smallness of my life. Oh, you must not have a lot going on, like how feeble, how weak, how minuscule must your life be that seeing that golden retriever was the best part of your mourning.”
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“And if that's the case, where am I deriving my happiness from? All I see is this endless stretch of work and discomfort and fatigue and tiredness and solitude, and I feel bad for the guy that had to go through that this year. Like I feel for him,'cause it wasn't easy and it was lonely, and I'm really proud. I'm really, really proud that. I kept showing up, I didn't give up on myself, I hit dead ends with regards to treatment, with regards to testing. It was like months I was going to bed at seven PM, waking up at eight AM Still tired sleeping straight through.”
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“Um Yeah, at the moment, yeah, I've been working hard on it, you know Happiness really only exists when uncertainty isn't there. It's very difficult to be uncertain and happy at the same time. You'd even make the argument that humans never chase happiness directly. They always chase certainty first. Because if you don't know how the future is going to pan out, how are you able to behave, especially if it's like chronic uncertainty, like, you know, severe uncertainty, not just, I don't know who's going to win the sports game tomorrow. I didn't know if I was going to get escape velocity to get out of this health stuff.”
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“Yemen, like, how do I optimize my happiness? Is a luxury that a lot of people aren't in a position to do? And that was me this year. I didn't have the spare capacity to optimize my happiness”
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“Talking about your illness is kind of like having a birthday, that what you get is inundated with lots of messages from people who are all really well wishing, but what it results in is just a ton of admin and a load of guilt if you don't reply. So I knew that if I started talking about all of the stuff that I was going through, it would be great because it would make other people that were dealing with it feel less alone. But it would also be an additional burden on me while I'm trying to fix myself of trying to sift through all of my friend knows how to do a parasite cleanse using goat milk and you can pray to the full moon I did. I really appreciate you caring about me so much that you've tried to link me in with this person. And sure enough, this documentary that I put on the channel that people can go and watch came out. And that happened mercifully. I was a little bit further through the journey.”
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“And yeah, this year has not been a year where I've been trying to maximize my happiness. It's one where I've been trying to sort of survive. And I did it pretty much silently. I did a video about it in maybe October time, something like that. But again, I want to keep my private life private thing was... Important to me because I didn't want to have other people Bing ill, anybody that is dealing with an illness will know this.”
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“It felt like my better self was slipping through my fingers. Like it was being ripped away from me due to... Some thing that I hadn't done, it felt so unfair, so comically unfair. I got literally like a personal curse that had been hit at me and it was specifically on the thing that I care about the most. So mold does typically lots of things, but three things energy, mood, and cognition. So it makes you tired all the time. It makes you low mood, and it makes you forgetful. There was a day when I looked down and I forgot how to time my shoes. Couldn't remember how to put my shoelaces together in order to tie my shoes as forgetting words, as forgetting the names of people that I'd known, forgetting the names of friends, dogs and stuff that I'd spent time with.”
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“Hard to just operate. Going to bed at seven o'clock at night for six months, unable to sleep because I was wide but tired because my cortisol was inverted, cortisol was higher at night than it was in the morning, so no matter how long I slept, I was never able to feel rested in the morning. And then dealing with it alone, dealing with it on my own and trying to go through complex environmental illness doctors and treatments and all of this stuff, that really made me face a lot of the fears of insufficiency that I've had. I think every man knows reflection when he's at his lowest. And I've been at some of my lowest points over the last 12 months. So for me, the happiness thing has been like, I just need to get through today. I just want to perform well on the show. I can't really think about the mood that I'm in when I do it because the mood that I'm in is just swimming in melancholy. I don't feel very good.”
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“Okay, well, this year has been a particularly difficult one for me because I got kicked in the nuts by health. America's wonderful country, but everything's trying to kill you. The food system, the municipal water, the building materials, the air quality. And I lived in a house that had toxic molds. I got mold poisoning, which a lot of people in America have, and it's so brutal. A ton of other stuff. And I spent a long time, best part of two years with two jobs. One was the show, the other was trying to fix my health. So after all of this, all this big modern wisdom review thing, all I did, my only two goals for this year at the start of this year were don't let the show drop and fix my health. That was it. That was all I wanted. Nothing else. Don't let the show drop and fix my health. So I really was humbled, like kicked in the nuts so many times that they were two-dimensional. They disappeared if you looked at them from the side. It felt like a cosmic joke. It felt so unfair, like working so hard.”
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“Complex quest I have to work hard to be in a good mood sometimes, and I don't like the fact that I have to work hard to be in a good mood. It feels to me like I need to stack the deck in my favor in order to be able to do that. And I wish that I didn't. And yet, I'm really proud of all of the things that I've done in order to be able to make my happiness increase. I have a set point. I had depression in my 20s. I've had a lot of anxiety as well. And I'm really proud of what I've done to overcome that.”
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“The second one was me, the third one the fourth one, and now I'm complicit in my own suffering. I've made myself I've made myself suffer unnecessarily and this is why the spit and sawdust and caffeine and big dreams Really, really important, but it has to be married with some self love. And maybe not in the beginning. Maybe if you're trying to get the rocket ship off the launch pad, use what you have, including... Self hatred and your need for validation from people and that chip on your shoulder from the kids in school. But after a while you need to accept that that is a toxic fuel if you use it for too long. But when inertia is at its greatest, I think you have to use what you have.”
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“And yet you can't deny the way that you feel. It's like one of the biggest lessons I've taken away from this year is my emotions are legitimate. Like the way that I feel is the way that I feel. And denying myself that is not helping anything at all. It's like, you feel scared before you go out on stage to go and give this talk in front of a few thousand people. You shouldn't be scared. No one's going to come and kill you and you start shaming yourself for your fear. And then you become anxious about your shamer about your fear and then bitter about your anxiousness about your shame about your fear. You've got this infinite regress of mean emotions. Like The first one wasn't me. The first one was the situation.”
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“And it does not know the difference. It feels like you saying your truth, saying, I don't think that this job's working for me, or you said something that doesn't land with me and you crossed a line, that feels like you're about to be rejected from the tribe, even if the tribe is now just a WhatsApp chat. And this repurposing of our nervous system. Gives us the additional complexity of the shame because now we feel shame. Who am I to have this problem? Do I not know that across the grand expanse of history this is nothing? My ancestors would have dreamed to have had the opportunity to have dealt with this problem instead of the one that they do.”
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“Absolutely. I mean, and There's this idea I had the other day of the shame of small fears, which is what this is about. So imagine explaining small fears to a caveman, say Grook, I worry about sending this message. Grok would respond. Will the enemy try and see the message? No. Will a saber-toothed tiger smell the message? No. Will it be etched on the wall for the rest of time? No, it's a little small rectangle. In case somebody doesn't like me or like what I say or I hurt their feelings, he just laughs in your face. And We have to accept the fact that the sort of fears we have in the modern world are both smaller and more complex at the same time. Yes, they're not about life and death, but our nervous system has been repurposed from bears to boundaries.”
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“Think about this Maslow's hierarchy of needs, an existential crisis, you asking yourself the question, anybody that goes through this review process, ChrisWellx.com slash review, anyone that goes through that and thinks, I don't know what to do with my life. Think about how few people throughout human history have ever had to ask themselves that question. Day to day desperately just trying to cling on to existence, unsure whether or not the cold snap tomorrow is going to come into the cave and kill them all. An existential crisis is a luxurious position to be in, and it feels horrendous. How do you hold those two things in your mind at one time? Like you're telling me I'm blessed because I'm asking myself questions that make me doubt the meaning of my life.”
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“This is an odd thing to hold in both our hands at the same time. You do not want to have a victim mindset. You want to have agency on the world. You want to enact stuff that's going on. You want to make it, and you're going to have to try really hard And also You need to give yourself a break. You have to know that if you nailed your day, you don't just make it back to zero. You got to plus ten. There's no arbitrary minimum level of productivity you have to achieve every day in order to be worthwhile.”
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“Feels upward aiming, noble, charitable. I need someone to teach me how to switch off and relax, feels dopaminergic, transactional, opulent Every underdog movie ever has a scene of some person down on their luck learning how to work harder and pull themselves up by their bootstraps None include a scene of a guy learning how to log out of slack at six PM, or finally enjoy a beach holiday. And like I said before, maybe more people do need David Goggins screaming in their face to go harder than need Eckhart Tolle whispering in their ear that there are enough already. But for a perhaps minority of people they actually need to hear the opposite message. We need a parasympathetic Goggins. Who's going to carry the TV remote and the Cheetos? Hashtag rest harder than me. We need to teach people to give themselves a fucking break and”
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“Need to learn how to chill out and relax. And lazy people need to learn how to be motivated and work harder. But given that someone is two hours into a podcast between me and you, I'm going to guess that they're probably type A, some version of a walking anxiety disorder harnessed for productivity, as Andrew Wilkinson says. And here's the thing that you may have already realized, which is type A people with type B problems often get very little sympathy. Because a miserable but outwardly successful person always appears to be in a much more preferential position than a content being lazy but on the verge of bankruptcy one feels like a limitation and the other feels like a choice. One is a systemic imposition and the other is like a bourgeois luxury. I need someone to teach me how to work harder and be disciplined.”
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“It's not to deny the fact that people have got real, legitimate resource and time constraints that mean that they can't do a thing. Life really is happening right now. I can't think of many times when you're going to regret. trying to make something happen now. I guess one other thing. Sort of people that have made it this deep into the episode are the ones that this is about. I think type A people have a type B problem. So insecure overachievers.”
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“People don't like that idea, and I get it. Maybe you will be remembered for generations to come. Just assume that you don't. This is this deferred happiness syndrome thing, dude. Like, don't wait. Life really is happening right now. There is this belief that once life's duties are out of the way, Then you can finally start doing the thing you want to and fully living your life. The Provisional Life, this sort of strange feeling that you're not yet in your real life. For now you're doing this thing or that, but there's always the fantasy that at some point in future. The real thing will come about. There is a kind of urgency that I think we could all do with. That's not to put pressure on people so that they feel. A failure if they fall short?”
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“Stop taking life so seriously. No one is getting out of this game alive, literally. In three generations no one will even remember your name. And if that doesn't give you liberation to just drop your fucking problems for a moment and find some joy. I don't know what well. Like life is inherently ridiculous and guaranteed to end sooner or later. You might as well enjoy the”
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“A superhuman amount of strength to come up and say hello, I just wanted to say I thought you looked really lovely today. Your name was the most terrifying thing that that guy has done that day. And if you don't, if you're not receptive, even if you don't want it, it kind of creates this culture of men feeling broken and like they shouldn't do that more. Yeah, there's some.”
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“Of a gentleman. Oh, mom, mom. Oh in 2025 in New York, there are women stealing finance bros salads, finding their names from the salad on Instagram and the messaging them and saying, sorry I accidentally took your salad. Like that's the 2025 equivalent of dropping the handkerchief. But receptiveness, I think, is important. Like, hey, ladies, if you like that guy and he's not approaching you, maybe assume that he doesn't know that you like him and apply a little bit more receptiveness. And the other side of this is if a guy does come up to you and you're not into him, don't mock him or make it uncomfortable to his face because you are ruining the next girl's chances who really does want him. By making him feel not enough for doing it. It's taken.”
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“Slightly unusual strategy that women can cultivate is receptiveness. So I think, especially in a post-Me Too world, a lot of guys are very scared of approaching it. Guys have always been scared of approaching women. But in a post-Me Too world, they've been taught that anything short of a hell yeah is a no get away from me so that you don't make the girl feel uncomfortable. Guys already were quite nervous going up and talking to you, so you have to treat a man and his interest kind of like slightly inexperienced golden retriever. Needs to be very loud, very obvious signals of interest from you. So in the Middle Ages, aristocratic Middle Ages, ladies would drop a handkerchief.”
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“Want something that even if that doesn't come along, you're still glad you did it. How many people say, I went to the gym in an attempt to get better legs because the guy that I want to attract is kind of like integrals that have got good legs and I want to wear like nice dresses and look cute in them and all the rest of it. But I really hated the way that my boyfriend didn't come along and I broke myself trying to do. I lost myself trying to do that. No, you made yourself. You won independently of whether or not that person came along. And how wonderful is that for you? So I mean, this is just me shamelessly shilling for everybody to go to the gym and get jagged. I think that would be good. One other thing I think that is maybe a”
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“Look, I would be tempted to go for the gym thing too. And the reason that I like it is that it is. You benefit on multiple levels. What you don't want to do is do something that makes your life feel like a performance for your future partner.”
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“Let's go Go to the gym. I started training when I was 18. The Center for Sporting Excellence at Newcastle University. I had no idea what I was doing and was taking blueberry extract and unflavored hydrolyzed way in a desperate attempt to see if I could gain some size and it just didn't stop. I like it. It makes me healthier. It makes me feel powerful. It added to my frame. I had real hard gain. It took fucking ages to put weight on. I remember when I was 20 and I broke 70 kilos for the first time. And I was like, I'm fucking huge. And I just didn't stop. And I think not only is it something that's great for me, it's something that really very reliably makes you more attractive to women.”
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“Where do they go? Like, if you love dance music, it's probably a bad idea to go to a breathwork class. Like, why not just go to parties that have got dance DJs on? Or if you're really into lectures and philosophy, go to an Alex O'Connor live event or something and hang around outside or talk to the girl that's next to you. If you really love sport, like obviously go to the gym, pick up pickleball, like start doing that. Where are the sorts of places inhabited by the sort of person that you want to be like? And there's bonus points. If you can go and do a thing that you have a little bit of a competitive advantage at, especially as a guy. If you used to play tennis in high school and you've got a bit of hand-eye coordination, you can probably be one of the best pickleball players at recreational court pretty quickly. And you're going to be that new guy who's like, you've seen, like, I want to play with him. Like he always wins or whatever it might be.”
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“Jim is one of the most reliable ways to increase your attractiveness, one of the most reliable ways is a man to increase your attractiveness. You need to be a real super chad to not need to have any physical practice at all and still be able to get the sort of woman that you want. So, okay, maybe you're going to start to go to the gym. But let's assume that you have reached the level that you need to be at in order to be attractive to the sort of person that you are. So that's the first one, right? Because if you're not, you're permanently condemning yourself to always pine after partners that aren't going to want you back. Step where do partners like the sort of person that you want to date hang out?”
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“And this again is why some time away from the urgent and the importance, some time to reflect, some time to listen to your fleeting thoughts, you know, you know that your wardrobe sucks. You know that your wardrobe sucks, and you hate fashion and you've excused it. It's like, I don't need to do that. I'm not interested or whatever Hey, dude, I'm sorry. Chicks care about how you look. Shock horror. They care about what you wear. Probably need to go and update the wardrobe. You got a female friend? You watch a few YouTube videos online? Maybe that's why you need to start. I'm a bit overweight or I'm a bit skinny”
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“You aim at first like the love problem. That's cool. The first thing you need to do is say, am I the sort of person who, the sort of person I want to date, wants to date? If not, it's obvious where you need to work on yourself.”
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“But you know that at home there's someone who loves you for who you are not for what you do, and they've always got your back. And I think it's Aiming for relationship that feels like a safe harbor is a really good idea.”
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“And finally, you want someone who's moderately open in openness, personality trait. Conscientiousness, agreeableness, openness to experience. You want someone who's moderately open so that they're prepared to go and do new things. As soon as you get into high openness, that's when wandering eyes come in. This isn't to say that personality traits are destiny, rah, rah, but based on Taitushiro's work, this is pretty reliable. I also like the psychological stability thing. I think that's really, really lovely. You want somebody who feels like home. You want a relationship that feels like a safe harbor that you can wall yourself off against all of the ills of the world. Your business can fall apart, your health can decay, your friends can abandon you.”
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“They returned to their emotional equilibrium, right? So let's say that we're going on holiday and the flight is canceled. And it's a big deal because their family is going out there. Is that the sort of thing that happens? And then there is a reversion to baseline within a few hours? Or is that the sort of thing that blows up the entire trip of the holiday with their family? Something occurs that causes emotions to be impacted. How long does it take to get back to baseline? That's emotional stability. And it's very predictive of relationship outcomes. Some other stuff. Conscientiousness. Person's thoughtful. Think a lot about you specifically Agreeableness and someone who's moderately agreeable You want somebody who when you propose plans is a yes and person like ha Yeah”
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“After some sort of emotional perturbment, after something happens, how long does it take for them to get back to baseline?”
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“Cross that off, cross that off, cross that. What am I left with? Really want to lose the weight. There we go. Now we can break that down into individual steps. I need to get a gym membership. I need to get some cool gymware that makes me feel good as I go to the gym”
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“This is one of the problems of overcooking your goals for the next 12 months. I think you can probably do two big things in 2026. Two big things. Probably lose £20 and get a boyfriend that you really, really love. You can't do that and move cities and start a new business and learn to play the piano. No. And that again is why don't go into a buffet and assume that however much food you put on the plate, your stomach will just expand to fit it in. Because what you're going to guarantee is that you fail. You can almost guarantee that you fail at doing this thing. Is it great to set your sights high? Yeah, that's real cool. And maybe you've got lots of things that you want to do, but just what would have to happen by the end of next year for you to look back on it and consider it a success? And what if you created a rank ordered list?”
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“Fuel source switches off, and then the booster rockets come on. That's as you get to a different level of altitude, and now you're using a different sort of fuel source, and then this falls away, the bottom falls off, and it keeps on going, and then it gets into escape velocity. Use what you have at the start. And at the start, most people have way more discontent than they do love.”
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“When this is taking off, on the launch pad is when it needs the most energy, the inertia is the highest, the resistance is the most. So that's when you need to use whatever fuel you've got. Use the chip on your shoulder from the kids that bullied you in school. Use your desperate desire to be seen by that girl out there. Use your need for validation from your parents, whatever it is. And then what happens is the old school style rockets, not the new Falcon 9 ones. What happens when this takes off”
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“That's what I meant when I said problems are a feature of life, not a bug. Like, there will be no day when you don't have any problems. And I Railing against it, why is the flight delayed? Because flights get delayed. Because flights get delayed. That's why. And did you think that there was going to be a day when no flights were delayed, that you were going to reach some escape velocity where this was no longer an issue? I love this analogy using escape velocity. Imagine that we've got a rocket ship here.”
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“Because if you're waiting for somebody to come along and give you that helping hand, sometimes you're going to be waiting too long.”
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“Style is supposed to be there. I can promise you that every single person who has gone from a place where they didn't want to be to one where they did has had to go through this lonely chapter and deal with all of this I think it resonates with people because the sort of people who listen to modern wisdom and your show are the sort of people that this is about. The kind of people who live in the UK and want to do something themselves. Who want to build a business, do something that there isn't a particularly good role model for? That's presumably because they want to do something. They want to become better. They feel like they're built for more. And this is what I meant when I said before that you can just do things. Just do it anyway. Do it tired. It's sad, do it lonely, do it without a role model.”
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“whose five pounds or they change companies but how many people do you know that have really changed their mindset I lost fifty or a hundred pounds or changed careers or moved from the city that they grew up in It's rarer and I think the reason that I love this lonely chapter idea is that it It names something that a lot of people feel is a bug, not a feature of personal growth, which is this discordance with their old patterns and their old friend groups and the fact that they don't know whether the uncomfortability is supposed to be there. Is this discomfort right? Is my self-doubt, surely I should just believe and see it, believe it, achieve it? Am I not supposed to just be, you know? Single mindedly going toward my goal.”
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