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Dan Harris

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“You can check out the podcast. We've had illustrious guests such as Tim Ferris. Many of the meditation teachers who've been referenced in the course of this show are regulars on the show. We post episodes twice a week. So basically it's a fiesta of if you enjoy, if you like thinking about human flourishing, that's all we talk about just like Tim and Sam and others do as well. So you can check that out.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That is the truth, dude. Like, you can change and you've demonstrated this is why I was so, sort of galvanized by listening to your podcast. And I knew some of it because when you came in to do my podcast a while ago, you actually, I think we had stopped rolling, but you had told me some of the story. And so I was aware of some of what I was going to hear on the podcast. But just hearing more about the work you've done to recover from this grievous injury. Makes that point that we can change. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but it is doable. And what are the options?”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“All of the things we don't like about ourselves that you can through various modalities, including meditation, therapy, psychedelics, walks in nature, working on your relationships. There are so many ways that you can train your mind. I'm obsessed with music. And I used to, back when record stores were a thing, I would always go to Newberry Comics in Boston and spend an hour or so flipping through the new records. And they would have this whiteboard that listed all of the... Upcoming releases when I was so interested to see what new records were going to come out, and there was an expression above the list. And it said all dates can change. So can you.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Know if this would work on a billboard, but the most exciting idea I've ever encountered, and I think it's now my job on the planet to spread the word about this, which is in part why I was badgering you about writing your book, because I think your book makes this point, will make this point in a beautiful way. The most exciting idea is that the mind is trainable, that we are not stuck.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I did a documentary like an hour long documentary about this Amazonian indigenous tribe. We finished it and posted it in February. It's on YouTube. You can watch it there. It's also on Hulu. And I went and followed this indigenous tribe. They started their own paramilitary organization to go out and do this incredibly dangerous thing of arresting illegal loggers. Illegal loggers are basically the tip of the spear when it comes to deforestation. The way it works is the loggers come in, they take all the valuable trees, and then people come in and flatten the whole part of the forest and turn into grazing land for cattle. If you want to know why we have so much deforestation, you can largely blame your cheeseburger. This tribe, though, is incredible, and we embedded with them on a mission, and we were right. It's just like so much action unfolded in front of our lenses as they went out and...”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Religion by REM. And it's basically a little mini documentary about how they made the song and ended up telling the story of the band as part of that. And so, yeah, that's what I find myself watching when I'm looking to relax”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I love, I'm a sucker for a rock duck. So I will watch pretty much any documentary that comes out. So obviously the king of them is the last waltz, which is Martin Scorsese movie about the final concert put on by the band. There actually is a new documentary called Once We Were Brothers, I believe. And it's also about the band, Robbie Robertson. It's on Hulu right now. And I loved that. But I will watch, like, my wife and I just watched a Showtime documentary about the go-goes, and it was amazing. I watched a decidedly mediocre Netflix documentary about the K-pop band Black Pink. But I loved it anyway, even though it wasn't really that good. No direction home about Bob Dylan, a song exploder, which is the new Netflix show where they do a half hour on a song that I watched one last night just last night about losing my relationship.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I will just say, I will just finally say that one of the great joys of my life recently has been having a son or a child, but he happens to be a boy. And we moved to the suburbs and we're doing the most quintessential cheesy suburb thing, which is he's a Cub Scout now. He loves nature. So we have these Cub Scout pamphlets and we walk around the yard trying to identify trees. And that has in part been fueled by the reading of the overstory.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And the book is about nature. The book is ostensibly about trees, but it's really about humans and their relationship to trees. And he is able to render these incredible characters and create this really page turner of a book that is, again, sort of ostensibly about trees, which makes it sound very boring. But now I'm fascinated by trees, and I loved the book, and I just couldn't believe, still can't believe how much how talented a writer he is. It's just, it's not fair”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Page one is tough actually. I can see why you wouldn't get past page one because it's a barn burner of a story. And so, in fact, you don't need to look at this as homework because it's in a massively pleasurable read. The only warning I would give you is that as a fellow writer, I found the book to be utterly humiliating because I realized that he has more skill in a single paragraph than I will ever muster in my entire writing career. This guy is a force of nature.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, so the books that I most recommend are, it won't surprise you all going to be, with one exception, they're all going to be sort of meditation books, although the one exception has some pretty strong ties to it, too. For people who are interested in learning more about this, I recommend why Buddhism is true by Robert Wright, Waking Up by Sam Harris, Buddhism Without Beliefs by Stephen Bachelor, Real Happiness by Sharon Salzberg. And now there's a new entrant which would be you belong by Seven A Selassie. The non-meditative book I would recommend, but it actually has some pretty strong dharma overtones, is perhaps the best novel I have ever read. And it was sent to me by Sebene Selassie, who I just referenced who wrote that book, You Belong. She's a meditation teacher, and her love language is to send people books. And so she sent me a book recently, and it was called The Overstory. Did you read it?”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“She's had to say this to me time and time again, and it is really a relief. She's like, I don't care why you're doing it. You're doing it. And you can't fake the doing of it. Whatever your motivations are, like if you're really doing it, you're really doing it. And the benefits for her, for my son, potentially if I do my job correctly and write the book well, the benefits for other people should be real. So that was, I was just, I audio record all of my conversations with Jerry because I often write about them and I was just re-listening to that the other day. So your question is serendipitous because I happen to happen to have her words fresh in my mind. And yeah, it's very moving for me to hear.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“She said she was very proud of my dealing with it forthrightly and really digging in. And I said at the moment, well, Bianca, you know, like I'm writing a book about this. So I'm essentially getting paid to do this work.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And so I thought it was going to be like a cute little device I would use for a book. It turned out to be so devastating that it became the whole book. My sort of dealing with what I learned in this 360 and... It's the best thing that ever happened to me as horrifying. One of the best things that ever happened to me, as horrifying as it was. And so anyway, Jerry called Bianca over and she said that she was incredibly proud of me for dealing with all of the contents of the 360, which she has read. First time she read it, she cried.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's like basically I got to eavesdrop on a conversation that's 16 of my closest colleagues and friends and family members had behind my back and all the feedback was anonymized. And it was, I was sick for days. And that's the book I'm writing now is that's the panic attack of the book I'm writing now. So the first book began with a panic attack. This book begins with the 360.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Okay, exactly. There be Dragons, which, by the way, I've learned how to hug. But I didn't know this warmth toward my inner dragons in the when we did this two and a half years ago. And the results were devastating, devastating. I mean,”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yes, I will. So, a 360 review is a corporate thing mostly where you hire a company, an executive will hire a company or the executive's boss will hire a company that comes in and interviews said executives superiors, peers, and subordinates. So you get a 360 view of how they're performing in the company. I with Jerry did the colonoscopy version of this where Interviewed 16 people both from my professional life and my personal life. So, like, my wife, my brother,”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It took me a while to recover from it. Okay, so I'm still recovering. This was like two and a half years ago. And I had a 360 review. I did it as a cute little thing that I thought might be a good element for a book that I was writing.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And she said the following, which was So, just by way of background, I got involved with Jerry because I had a 360 review. This was two and a half years ago. For those of us, brutal. Yeah, okay. Have you ever had”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I don't have to guess actually because Jerry Kelowna not that long ago he and I were having a Skype session and he asked me something the effect of like what would be a similar question to what you just asked like what would Bianca say and I said well we don't have to guess let's bring her in and she she's pretty shy so she was mad at me for doing this but I pulled her over in front of the camera and he asked her a bunch she loves him so she was happy to see him so she asked him a bunch of questions he asked her a bunch of questions and”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Starting to just play with the idea of this anger may just be a naturally occurring phenomenon just like a storm, as Joseph Goldstein often says, takes the nutriment of eye out of it and makes it so much less loaded.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You can view your emotion as a weather pattern. This is not my analogy, but you can view what is a hurricane or any storm. It's a confluence of meteorological atmospheric events that come together to create a storm, but you can't find any core to the storm. There is no essential nugget of storm. It's a coming together of a variety of phenomena. And the same is true for your anchor. But we just don't see it that way.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Viewing it with some warmth and then viewing it as just nature as a selfless phenomenon that you don't have to claim. That project seems like a, I would love to be further and further along in the development of those twin mutually reinforcing capacities over the next three years.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There is anger. And I see that as related to the it's not just that you have a warm relationship to your anger. You see that the anger isn't as like identifying with it as my anger. Instead of seeing it, and this is kind of radical, As nature. We again think of ourselves as atomized individual egos, right? Just nature is outside of us. We're looking at it through this lens of me. But absolutely, it can't be true to go to the clich ⁇ about like the atoms that make up your body are from the first exploded stars. You are part of nature. And so therefore all of the horrible little things that you're thinking all of these things that you that feel so much like you. That's nature too, and that helps you not identify with it. It doesn't have to be your anger anymore. It can just be anger. And so the combination of”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Terms of how I'm treating myself and then how I'm treating other people and then all of the ramifications of that dynamic. And so it will show up in lots of ways. Like how am I about my own feelings about my own body or toward food or toward productivity or how am I in my marriage? How is all of that modeling, which of course your kid's going to see? How is that all impacting him and what kind of human he's going to become and all of the ripple effects of his actions in the world? So yeah, that seems like the project to me. And it's not just as simple as, you know, you talked before about like kind of, and I didn't respond to it because we moved on, but there was, you were talking before about like selflessness or not self. The idea in Buddhism that there is no solid self here. So instead of saying I'm angry, you can just say this.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Look, there's a superficial level that's not unimportant, but the superficial level of, you know, I'm really focused on professionally on building a brand and a company that is going to help a lot of people and grow and be good for our employees. And writing the book is sort of related to that. And so all of that stuff, which I would put on the more superficial end of the spectrum, well, again, not being unimportant. That's there. I would say deeper is this stuff, again, just to invoke this cheesy little hug the dragon phrase, you know, like, that seems to me like to be incredibly onward leading. And to have... Profound ripple effects for like every aspect of my existence. The more I can switch my response to my own Use this phrase again, sort of inner To a sort of slightly amused warmth. That just strikes me as really consequential.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Those days when I was reluctantly exposed to the faithful and had that incoherent sense of maybe there was something I was missing, but I didn't want exactly what these guys were doing. I feel like I figured that out. I mean, I've figured out much, but I figured out the various access points for me to start this investigation.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“God, this is where you get into the sort of cliched stuff. But feeling connected. And so I haven't toyed much with psychedelics, although I'm very interested in it. But you can get that in psychedelics. I can get it pretty easily in meditation. I can get it in socializing with my friends. I get it with, I have a five year old and a son, and he is just like just a constant source of this and also like worry and frustration too in engaging in the lifelong exercise and project of being in a marriage. So there's so many for me that it seems like such a target rich environment for contemplating Externally and internally. I mean, that has been just such an incredible shift in my life since.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, it's totally essential, and it really comes in the form of Buddhism. And it's not just Buddhism. I don't want to be too sectarian about this. It's just living an examined life generally. And so for me, that can happen in the form of my meditation practice and going on meditation retreats. But it's also hosting a podcast where I get to interview all sorts of people, including you. It's listening to other people's podcasts. Yours, Sam's, our mutual friend Peter Attia. It's reading books. So it's walking in nature. It's anything that can jar you out of the constricted... An ego being a small, self, peering, fretfully out at the world through your eye holes, and more into”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That the universality, I think, of bringing some warmth, exploring through various modalities you've described, therapy, CBT in particular, but also psychotropic drugs and meditation, hearing you walk through that narrative in a much more granular way and letting us watch your process. I think there's an enormous amount of value you could provide there. Again, I'm not saying you're fucking up if you don't do it, but I could see how it would serve a lot of people if you did do it.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, I say this very gingerly because, again, it's not to apply pressure, but it's maybe to, it's a perhaps weak attempt at remotivation, if that's even appropriate. Because I think there's a difference because the podcast was stupendous in many ways because of course for people who suffered trauma and as you guys exposed on there it's you know or described on there it may be as high as one of every three women and one in every six men and perhaps even higher given the shame around reporting it among men so that's a huge population but beyond that there were the themes that you described that really resonated with me who luckily didn't suffer any childhood abuse. There are the themes you described in there that are very similar to the themes that I'm describing which is viewing these adaptive patterns, behavioral patterns and storylines that we adopt in childhood. You talked about sort of a dissociation which made a lot of sense was brilliant as a kid but not so useful as you got older.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I'm going to answer that. But can I just go back to your book for a second? And I don't say this to be a devil whipping you. And I think it's totally fine if you never write the book. And because the service you provided by releasing that podcast is already immense.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Not as impactful, I don't think, as 10% happier. And so my goal for this next book, and I may fail, but I'm willing to make the leap of faith and the investment, largely because I'm trying to figure this shit out for myself. And so it's just going to take me a long time.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Then your relationships get better. And as a consequence of your relationships getting better because we know that relationships are in many ways like the apex predator of like self-care techniques or self-care aspects of self-care, then your inner weather gets better and then your relationships get better and it goes into a virtuous cycle upward spiral. So for me, like that's what I mean when I'm talking about love. I wrote a subsequent book to 10% happier called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics and I wrote it really quick and I made myself and everybody around me miserable and in the end”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“A lot of Buddhist circles that you can think about love as kind of anything north of neutrality, just like the human capacity to care. And you can also think of it as omnidirectional, which I think is perhaps the most interesting aspect here, which is, and this gets to the hug the dragon aspect of it, it's like if you can start to love yourself, and I don't mean love yourself like you're walking around giving yourself hugs or talking about how great you are, but like have some warmth toward your own inner ugliness or as Ramdas has said before he passed, he said, it's not about defeating your neuroses, it's about becoming a connoisseur of them. Like if you could think about like self-love in that way, well, that's like the unlock that can improve your relationships and lead to a really virtuous cycle of, okay, so your inner weather is bombing.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think it's similar to what you're working on in some ways because I know you're writing a book about healing. And I would say, I've only recently started using this formulation of I think it's a book about love. Which is, and I think love has gotten a really bad rap because it comes down to us through Hollywood movies and love songs and all you need is love, which I love that song, but like it's definitely not true. Like you also need to brush your teeth and whatever. There are lots of other things you need. And I also think we don't think about love in the right way. Our understanding is kind of limited to the romantic or maybe the way we feel about our kids.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“When did you have the book I'm writing now is much to the consternation of the people in my orbit is going to take me at minimum four.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There was a great expression I heard once that you should only write a book if you have to. And I felt like I had to write this book because I was trying to figure out these incredibly important issues to me around anxiety and ambition and the voice in the head and the remedies for that or the ways to work with it. I only fully started to get some level of understanding as I was writing. And so that's really what kept me going.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So it was not good. I mean, the initial print run was 15,000. I really didn't think it was going, I honestly didn't think it was going to succeed, but of course I had the fantasies. But the thing that got me going from day to day, because I remember I had many conversations with people in my life, including my brother who's really like my closest advisor and probably the smartest person I know. I remember him just kind of marveling at like, dude, you are, it took me five years to write that book. And he was just like, you are spending so much time on this thing and you have no idea. You know, if it's going to be published or whether it's going to be a success, what are you doing this for? And I think it was because I needed to figure this stuff out. And I know you know this, Tim, because you've written so many books.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, okay, so they then tried to bargain me up to 20 or 30% happier And I was like, you don't get the joke. And they also at one point tried to get me to change the title to Be Happy Now, which I”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“All the messages I was getting, including from my own publisher, were that this was not going to, first of all, I couldn't sell the book. I had a fancy book agent and he got me one meeting. And that one...”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There was the fantasy, which I really was aware that was a fantasy. And then there was the thing that kept me going day to day. So the fantasy, yes, was that I was kind of like a, man, still I am, like a B or C level network news person who, you know, I worried about ever like really cutting through in that industry and, you know, also could see quite clearly that it's not an industry that's kind to its senior statesmen. So what was my future here? And so like my fantasy was that I would create a whole new brand for myself in some ways and that it would really help a lot of people who would reflexively reject meditation in the ordinary course of events, but if talked about in the right way would really embrace it. And so that was my fantasy. But I didn't allow myself to indulge in that that much because”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“This was a complete leap of faith. I had no reason to believe this was going to be a success. I did not think it was going to be success. I thought it was going to be mildly embarrassing and then go away. My publishers”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I mentioned to Barbara Walters one time that I was working on this book, she turned to me and literally said, don't quit your day job. I had no reason. This was a complete. I say this as somebody who's already outed himself as an atheist or an agnostic or whatever. But like I.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Many, many levers to pull here. And there's one incredibly powerful one is just having good relationships. It's just right there in our evolution. We evolved to be social creatures. This is how we survive. We killed the Mastodon as a group. And yet we have, as the great writer Johann Hari has written, we're the first generation to voluntarily dissolve the tribe. But we need the tribe. And so making your own tribe, and if you're introverted, you know, for you, Tim, it might be about like smaller close-knit group of really, really powerful intimate relationships, but we need those relationships. And I would recommend to people like being super deliberate about keeping those up, even in a pandemic.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We think we can do everything alone, social media, which is further sort of taking us out of seeing each other in person. And I think this is a gigantic social issue. And on an individual level, to be practical about it for your listeners, I think being deliberate about cultivating interpersonal relationships will unbelievable dividends. You know, we've talked a lot about meditation, but I'm not a meditation fundamentalist. I think there are many...”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Out of the city, we had the incredible good luck to be able to. Our lease was ending in the city, so we were able to get out of our apartment in the city and rent a house up in the suburbs. And it has a pool. And so over the summer, we're able to bring our friends over all the time. And my happiness level went through the roof from regular social engagement. And this actually speaks to a huge issue in our culture, which is the lack of prioritization of social connection, which has led to a pandemic that predated the current pandemic, which was the pandemic of loneliness, which is a major contributing factor from the evidence I've seen to depression, anxiety, drug abuse, suicide. There are many contributing factors here from the way we live, you know, the way our societies are structured, the myth of individualism.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I am not an introvert, though. I actually get an enormous amount of energy. I think I have some introverted tendencies. Annika and I started Annika Harris and I started talking recently about this and we never finished the conversation. I think she might have a good diagnosis for me. But I have some introversion in me, but generally speaking, I really love seeing my friends. And there was an episode a couple of years ago where my wife and my son and I went to a rooftop party. It was a goodbye party for two of my colleagues at ABC News. And it was just a small group of my ABC News colleagues. And it was so much fun. And I got in the car afterwards. And I was like, why am I in such a good mood? And I realized it's because I don't do this anymore. I'm not making this a priority. And so over the last couple of years, I've completely switched that, which is hard during COVID. But, you know, we moved.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's not a non question that was super redundant when I just said, not a non question, but it's a real question. And I think actually the reason why I've had a big shift on this, I was not very good at keeping up with my friends and prioritizing social engagement for a long time. Largely Well, it started a little bit when I stopped doing drugs, and that could have a negative relationship on your friendships on your friendships with people who are still partying. So there was that. And then as I started to write 10% happier and then all of the stuff that happened after 10% happier, like launching a podcast and a company and all that stuff, I was just, I told myself I was too busy. And so I was really like letting my friendships starve.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And one of the things I really learned from Jerry and why Jerry focuses on the leadership in organizations is that a primary thesis of his is that when you have unexamined baggage as a leader in an organization, you pass your pathology along willy-nilly throughout the rest of the organization. It just starts to mirror your idiosyncrasies. And now that I'm helping to run an organization, I mean, Know, I worry about, and Jerry and I have talked a lot about my anxiety leading bleeding out into the rest of the organization. And I really have to watch that.”
2020-11-19 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #481: Dan Harris on Becoming 10% Happier, Hugging Inner Dragons, Self-Help for Skeptics, Training the Mind, and Much More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT