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Dr Rachel Rubin

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“I would like to get better about practicing what I preach because we always say the shoemakers' kids don't wear shoes. I am addicted and obsessed with what I do. I love my work so much, but I don't necessarily spend as much time Lifting weights that I should, or not scrolling on my phone and paying attention to my children that I should. I don't spend as much time, you know, scheduling those quarterly spouse dates that I tell other people to do. And so I think practicing what I preach is a huge opportunity for me.”
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“Because so many people are hurting, relationships are hurting, people's health is hurting, people aren't having as much pleasure and joy, and quality of life that they could be having using what we already know to be true, simple things, communication, connection, education, basic medical care. These things can bring so much joy, health, great relationships, great living. I see it every day in my clinical practice, and I want that. I want that for every person out there. And I want them to fight for it. And I want them to advocate for it. And I want doctor just to show up in a big way to help them. And I think we can do it. But I am so passionate about this because I see all the, like I see how much it's not being done.”
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“I disagree. I think it's the simple, it's the vulnerability of watching others. It's the simple stuff that makes the biggest change.”
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“It's really hard to do that on your own because people don't want to hurt other people's feelings. And so just saying as it is may not be the right approach either. That's where, again, couples, therapists are very good at holding space for those different conversations. And I think one of the other problems here, Stephen, is many times there's no bad guy. Of course, when it's obvious someone cheats on someone, someone breaks trust, yes, there's a bad guy. But so often, you know, say someone has a higher libido than someone else. There's no bad guy. That person has a high libido and that person has a low libido. There's no evil bad guy, but there is still conflict. And so how do you deal with conflict when it's not a good guy, bad guy situation, and how do you love someone and evolve with them, right? Like I think it's not easy.”
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“And I think expecting your partner to have all the words and to know everything is the wrong answer. So that's where, again, that third party, whether people come to see me together as a medical person or a sex therapist or a third party to help you have that conversation, because I think we assume our partners know everything about their own bodies and can communicate about their own bodies. And that's just not true. Even showing that curiosity makes you quite evolved, right? And I think that that's the energy that we need in 2026 is breaking down those barriers because it will lead to stronger relationships, it will lead to stronger partnerships. And it's those hard moments that you grow the most from.”
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“I think you understand this perfectly, and for you to see it in this, you can help so many people because I think these are the fundamentals. How do we teach young people and old people that conflict resolution is important in intimacy and vulnerability are important in biology is important, science is important, and we can do this. I just taught you a few things that I know today, and not only did you understand it, but you were curious about it to ask further questions, and you can now figure out how it works in your own relationship, in your own life. You're even caring enough about thinking about your friends lives. And so if you've shown that this matters, and this is important, I just think how many people are going to benefit by your vulnerability and your curiosity and saying, oh, I could do that too.”
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“You must not love me, or is it, I actually understand the biology that your libido is lower because of this antidepressant. And two things can be true. So I think understanding your partner's biology and your own biology is quite important.”
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“Biology. So, super interesting. So, I spend two hours with people, and there are times when the partner comes to that talk. And so they get to hear sort of what their partner is describing. See the exam and they get sort of a tour of their own partner's body parts. And so it is helpful sometimes to bring partners into those conversations, the biology conversations of like, she doesn't want to have sex with you not because you're bad at sex. Look how painful it is right here at the opening of her velvet. It's like a sunburn. I touch it with a Q-tip and she's on fire. Like, what do you think your penis is doing? And it gives that ability to say, oh, it's not a me problem. How do I support her best knowing that this is the issue? So getting partners to understand the biology is extremely helpful. Or say you have a man who's taking an antidepressant or a hair loss medication that can cause sexual dysfunction as well. Say you have a man who takes an antidepressant, it lowers his libido. Is it, oh, honey, you're not attracted to me anymore?”
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“I think the most important thing is that biology matters in women, and we often spend so much time talking about psychosocial issues, about emotions, and all of that is true that is important to sexual health, but we minimize biology when it comes to women, and we have to let women advocate for themselves about the biology, and we need to train doctors to care about the biology. I would love to find out from all the women in your life and the women on your team, like what experience, like I would love for you to ask them their experiences with medical providers, because I don't think we have that curiosity of like, what are you experiencing? That's different.”
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“I think it's empowerment, it's communication, it's explaining to people. I think that all of the mindset stuff that you do and you talk about is so important because look, you changed your mind around your own situation with this ex of yours because you got education, right? You were able to see that it was more complicated than that. And I do think by educating people on bodies, on pleasure, on joy, on connection, on intimacy, I actually think it changes the narrative. I think people, we're in a sex recession, okay? People are having less sex than ever. People are not connecting. People are scrolling and they're on their AI chatbots instead of like human connection. We're getting worse at this, not better. I just think that we have to reach humans and we have to be able to talk about it to change the narrative.”
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“Of course they do, right? Your best friend deserves great orgasms, great sex, no matter what they look like, no matter what they weigh. Everybody deserves intimacy, pleasure, and connection with someone that they can have intimacy, pleasure, and connection with. But for some reason when we think of ourselves, oh, I can't be naked with this person. Oh, I can't be happy until I lose this much weight. I don't deserve an orgasm unless I am, you know, skinny. And that's a huge problem.”
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“It's a huge problem. Again, I wish that the energy that my female patients put into wanting to be skinny is enormous. And I wish that energy was put into wanting to be strong. But it's kind of funny because what people think about themselves versus what they think for their friends are very different. Your best friend, say they're overweight. Do they deserve great sex”
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“So, this is where you schedule it around a time that you know is going to work for you. So, I do, I tell people to do things like quarterly dates. So listen, I'm working in DC. Everyone is very high powered with very busy jobs. I say one Friday a quarter, you and your spouse can literally block your calendars, a quarter because a quarter. Okay, that means we might have sex every week. You might have your eight and late night sex, whenever you might have sex whenever you have sex. But once a quarter, have a day where you just block it out and you have a spouse day or a partner day or whatever it looks like. And maybe do an act, it doesn't necessarily have to be a sex day, but you actually take time of your little mini vape. Maybe you want to walk, maybe you want to hike, maybe take a bath, maybe get a massage, you kind of create space for you to actually say, oh, wait, we like each other. Oh, we like talking to each other. We don't have to just talk about the kids all the time. So again, the more you invest in each other and in a joyful way, the better sex you're going to have.”
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“It's just not real. It's just the same as WWF. Like, it's not real. And so that's the truth is, if you see your partner every day and you see your partner, you're high and you're low and the crankiest and all of these things and you're all working like crazy. Where is the space for that? Like that's not how humans work. So creating, that's why vacation sex is always fun for people or they find time. So again, if you've got kids and your kids are staying up later than you are and you don't have a lock on your door and you're worried about making noises and you don't want to be too loud. Like how are you going to have great sex in that situation?”
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“Dating life. And now you live with a person and you sort of, they see you at your best, they see you at your worst, they see you at your crankiest and your most hired. And so it's really hard to get that level of excitement when you're dealing with those, you know, sort of life circumstances.”
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“Oh, it's a huge problem, right? It makes logical sense. Again, if we go back to the fundamentals of if you're not sleeping, if you're overworked, if you're burnt out, if you have no white space for yourself, why are you going to have all this excitement for your partner and all of these things? Like if we're scrolling all the time at bedtime or if we're watching porn all the time or we're watching reading romance novels all the time, but we're not talking to the partner that we're with or we're not creating that time and space. I think there's a big opportunity for people in our modern society, which is over scheduled to schedule sex. I mean, they do this quite well. So when you were dating, right, and you would ask your date, you know, let's go out Saturday night, you were literally scheduling potential sex. You were like, I could get lucky. I'm going to plan for it all week. I'm going to get excited. I'm taking this person out. I'm like, it's going to be really fun. And I'm going to do whatever it takes to sort of cross that finish line. So we were always scheduling sex. And it was very erotic and fun when you're in your”
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“I think so because I think orgasm first will allow for pelvic floor release and relaxation, which will make penetration more pleasurable and enjoyable. I think women can have multiple orgasms. So there's a case to be made for before and after. Why are women having zero orgasms, men having one orgasm when women could be having three orgasms and men have one orgasm? So I think we should be actively trying to change the orgasm gap and focus on the pleasure. And I think making penetration the main event is where the challenge. I think penetration can be part of the whole story, but doesn't necessarily always need to be the main event.”
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“A high percentage of it. But a partner doesn't want to tell you, right? Like they're afraid to tell you because they want to make you happy, right? It's not that they're having bad sex. They just know that that's not what's going to get them to orgasm and they want you to be happy and to feel supported.”
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“Yeah, many. The statistics are quite clear. Like, if you're only having penetration and your partner orgasms every time and it's a perfect orgasm every time, I would say there's a high percentage that that's not real. Because the truth is, is orgasm often takes a lot of arousal and like, again, stopwatch. Every hetero, if a penis enters a vagina and they orgasm about five and a half minutes is on average how long men last, right? Like that's science. It's about five and a half minutes. Now, if you're longer, great job. If it's shorter, it's okay. It's all within the range of normal. Women, if penetration is happening, almost nobody orgasms in five and a half minutes. It's usually well over 13, 14, 15 minutes, and penetration is usually not how that happens. Because again, if you're distracted while you're trying to stimulate your penis, it's going to take longer. Women need focus on the clitoris. So again, if your partner is orgasming every time within that five and a half minutes and it's like clockwork, I would call bullshit on.”
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“That's a great question. I would say that no one is talking about sex at all. Women are hiding their pain from their partners. Men are hiding their insecurities and their frustrations. And there's a lot of shame around erectile dysfunction and sexual problems in men. And so a lot of people just either stop having sex or stop talking about it or sort of have a mediocre sex because they are not that great at talking about these things.”
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“I love my job. It's so fun because people will talk to me about their most full, like we do two hours and we talk about their lives and the context of their sexual health for two hours. And people never have those types of conversations even with their partners. And it is incredibly vulnerable. It's incredibly important for people to see that and see, oh, that was actually really nice to talk about. I didn't know this, that, and the other thing about my body.”
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“That about sex very often, right? They don't actually do after action what went well, what didn't go well. Do you ever want to try this? Like, what would be fun here? Like there is often a lack of curiosity.”
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“This is where things like sex therapy become really helpful of how do you have a third party? Because again, when your doctor's telling you to do something or bringing something out, it's so much less scary than if you're doing it on your own. There are also different apps and things like that where you can sort of dip a toe where you have, there's one called Spicer, I believe, where you can sext each other in ways and they'll push questions if you both agree it'll tell each other that you both agree with things. So there's ways to dip a toe here and sort of be curious about it. But again, that's where watching things together or asking the questions. This should happen not when you're naked in the bedroom actively having sex. It's okay to have conversations about sex when you're not having sex, right? Like you plan these podcasts before you actually sit down to record. Afterwards, you talk with your team, hey, this is what I liked about it. Here's what I didn't like. Let's change this in the future. Let's never have Dr. Rachel Rubin on again, right? Like these are the conversations you're going to have with your team. People don't do.”
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“Life, and it's a non negotiable, then find the rooms where there are other people who do that, those things too. I mean, what you will find is that people have all sorts of agreements and relationship setups as a sex doctor, like the things I hear in a room are quite wild and you wouldn't even believe. Like people are doing, well, I think people have multiple, like there are people who have open relationships. So they have multiple partners or they have certain kinks, right? So there are things that they really enjoy that maybe somebody would look at that and be like, oh, that's very strange. But there are other consenting people who also are comfortable and want to do those things.”
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“When you go to buy a house, you don't always get to choose what house you get unless you, you know, you build it yourself. Like there are compromises in life and there is no all-good or all bad. You're never going to find, this is actually the problem with pornography is you figure out the exact porn in the exact situation or even worse with AI. Like you're going to have a sex robot who's going to be able to do exactly what you want in the way that you want to do it. And people are afraid about what that means for intimacy and relationships and great sex going forward because the truth is sex is messy, it's awkward, it's smelly, there's fluids, there's funny noises, there's like it's vulnerable. It's like really uncomfortable sometimes to have these deep conversations. But isn't that why life exists? Like, isn't that the most fun part is when you can kind of have that with somebody else where they know all of you and they want to explore that with you? Now, if it's not the right relationship, it's not the right relationship, right? And figuring out if that is an important part of.”
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“Like again, I think it's that basic thing of what does great sex mean for you? What do you want? What is a great time? What's something fun? Like, what is it about sex that you enjoy? When you ask people, what do they get out of sex? It's like 200 different reasons. Everyone wants something different and everyone doesn't always know what they want. And then having that ability, if you don't know what you want, is having that curiosity to explore together.”
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“Need and want, not what gen what do women want and what is it? Like, what specifically about this person in front of me? What does she need to feel that erotic love support, connection, lust? And for the man too, like, what do you need to feel all of those things and what a good relationship is, is when people work together to try to optimize that for everybody.”
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“If you had a better understanding of the biology, if she had a better understanding of the biology, if she were vulnerable enough to be real with you and honest with you up front as opposed to kind of this bombshell that happened too late, all of that pain, all of that hurt probably would have looked different, right? It would have looked like the world would have looked very different. Now that's what I'm fighting against because I think that to your point, I think men are suffering. They're feeling disconnected from their partners. They're feeling a difficulty of even finding a partner. And part of that is because they lack that curiosity of like what do they want? What do they need? What kind of communication helps me get to where I want to go with this person? And a lot of that is vulnerability and curiosity and interest. And I think that's what women often are looking for in partners is they're looking for someone who's going to give a crap about them enough to care what they specifically.”
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“It's accurate and I think it really comes to this idea of your path to having a better understanding of that prior relationship was actually education and communication.”
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“What's so important is that you were able to learn and see and grow in this, right? A little bit of information gave you empathy for this partner where you took it on as a you problem. It became a U problem because it was both of you together, but it started with biology. And so if we actually taught people the biology or to think about biology or to like be able to talk about sex, to talk about the sexual health, to talk about genitals, to make them not private parts, how much better would your sexual upbringing really have been? How much less hurt and shame and guilt would you have felt? Because it actually wasn't you at all, right?”
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“Destroys it. And that's such an important story, right? Because if you had had access to the information, she thought she was protecting you by not telling you that information.”
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“Because we don't talk about money either. We don't talk about sex because we're trying to be pro. I don't know. Why do you think?”
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“Could we do this better? What is the algorithm want us to do now? No one's doing that in their sex lives. Like no one's even talking about it. Like, honey, what's working? What are we like? What's going on? I saw this thing.”
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“Like reactive, is it? Yep. So there, again, this idea of like, I want to have sex, I'm ready to go versus I want to have sex because we've started having sex and we've started that process and now I can get into it. Sort of like exercise. Some people are like ready to go to the gym and exercise and other people like, I don't want to never want to exercise. But once they start getting going, oh, I know this is good for me. I should do this. This feels really good. And that's sex for a lot of people. But again, it's also the question of what kind of sex are you having? If you have sex the same way every single time and it's not that fun and it's not that interesting to your partner, are they going to look forward to it? Are they going to want it? Are they going to seek it out? And is that really low libido at all? Or is that sort of a product of like we just aren't talking about it? If you had the same podcast guest on every single week and it was the same conversation every single week, it's not going to last you very long, right? You do different things. You try different things. Oh, what worked? What didn't work?”
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“Right. And that's a problem, right? If you're only able to do something in one way, in one position with watching one specific thing that may not translate into great intimate sex with a partner.”
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“Again, it was that deception, it's the hiding. That X of yours didn't tell you what was really going on. And so you felt disconnected from that person because you didn't get that honest truth of what was going on.”
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“It depends. It depends on the relationship and it depends on what each person needs in order to feel supported and connected, right? I don't think we can say blanketly it's good or bad right or wrong. I think if it is good or bad right or wrong for that couple, then it's a problem. Because there are couples who like to watch porn together. There are couples where, oh, maybe someone has a much higher libido than the other person. So you said, okay, the high libido person can use porn. And then once a week, we'll circle together and we'll have a great experience together because it's not everyone's job to meet each other on the libido.”
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“Relationships. Potentially, the right porn. Like, look, okay, let's look at something like heated rivalry. Have you heard of it? No. gay male hockey players. Okay, it's based on a romance novel book from Canada and HBO put it out there and it went viral in levels that the world has never seen before. And it is about two young men who fall in love, but there's a very sexual relationship between them. And heterosexual women have watched this 10 times over. Like they are addicted to this show. It's all over social media. It's this huge thing. It's essentially porn for women, right? It is women who are watching these pornographic episodes. And it's really important. They love it. It's supported. Everyone's talking about it. So I don't think porn in and of itself is bad. I think porn, you know, watching people have sex, watching people fall in love, watching people in romance, people like that. It gets them excited. It gets them around.”
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“And the women think they're broken because they're not having magical orgasms from penetration. They come to see me all the time and say, I'm broken. You have to fix me. I'm not orgasming during sex. They have wildly good orgasms with a vibrator with a hand, with a shower head, with whatever it is on their clitoris, and that's totally normal, right? And then you show them the body parts. You show this is the clitoris and the penis are the same thing. You activate a penis for Amanda orgasm. You activate a clitoris for a woman to orgasm. And once you teach them that, it makes perfect sense to them. Like they were normal the whole time.”
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“I mean WWF has messed up our perception of, I don't know, like what people's bodies, like exercise fighting. Like, like it's all manufactured and it's all manufactured because that's the algorithm that has been working to get men excited. And it doesn't, like, again, it's that question of that curiosity of who's watching porn, what do people want from porn? What are they getting from porn? Because it's not what women want typically. And it has really messed up people's perceptions of what is actually fun and pleasurable for the partner. So seeing that curiosity of like, what does my partner actually want? You know, you can have great sex without penetration. And so the question is, is what does great sex look like for you and your partner?”
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“So, you know how there's men who premature ejaculate, like who ejaculate very quickly? There are men who orgasm in a minute or less. That's probably like 8% of men. Okay. So if we think men and women's bodies are very similar, could we argue that 8% of women will orgasm within a minute or less? Theoretically, it makes sense, right? I think those are the women who orgasm with penetration. They're so sensitive. Their nerves are so sensitive that penetration is very pleasurable and then they have this magical orgasm and they do it very quickly. So it's good, it's often seen as like great in a woman and not great in men. And so I just have this theory that there are women who have extra sensitive body parts.”
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“Many times nothing, but Many times connection, many times sort of this need for closeness and pleasure, many times there are women who have extra nerve endings sort of inside the vagina on the top of the vagina, in the cervix. So there are women who love penetration, but many women get the main event from the clitoris. And so it's part of the whole menu as opposed to penetration is the whole story. And I think every woman's body is different. And so kind of making these broad statements of every partner likes this. But many women are asking for penetration mainly because they're like, okay, that's when you have your orgasm, it's done. And then I can go to bed. I can read my book. I can do all these other things. But the pleasure often comes from that clitoral stimulation. Now, some women can orgasm from penetration. I have a theory. It's a really interesting theory that maybe your listeners can prove with science or help me prove with science.”
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“She could potentially, some people do, some people don't, but that's the conversation is this something that is pleasurable? Is this something to try again? Is multiple orgasms something that you want to have or try to have? When does penetration happen during the dance? Because oftentimes men, orgasm, and then they're done, they roll over, go to sleep, whatever it is, is the orgasm happening after your orgasm, before your orgasm? Is it happening before and after your orgasm? Like, are there, because that could be a nice way to sandwich it of like there is, you know, giving the sensitive tissue some time to rest, then your orgasm happens and then you potentially go for round two.”
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“That's very similar in women. Okay, so it's the same. Except women can bounce back faster. Not all of them, but women can have multiple orgasms.”
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“If there's sort of a buildup and release of pleasure, right? That's orgasm. And again, that is often not happening during penetration.”
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“Communication, right? It's that question and also understanding that your partner never got told any of these things. And so this is where watching this podcast together could be really helpful to say, did you know that? What do you like? Do you know, like, can we look at your clitoris together? Like, do you know what these body parts are called? Where is it that you experience pleasure? Because some people find direct stimulation of their clitoris is too sensitive because we know that clitoris has like 10,000 nerve endings. So going directly over the clitoris can sometimes be too much. Some partners love it. Some partners want more stimulation on just the outside here. Some people need vibration. So that's another big problem.”
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“So this one, this kind of device is interesting because it is a wand that can help just like with trigger points. So if you have pain in these muscles, this can go inside, vibrate to help with engorgement, but can also get rid of some of the tension in some of those muscles.”
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“The vibrator industry would be a gajillion dollar industry instead of just a billion dollar industry because vibration can help activate this blood flow. And so for women, vibration on the outside can be extremely helpful because remember the clitoris is kind of around this area. And so by putting vibrators on the outside, now inside, you can also have pleasure, but not everyone experiences pleasure the same way. And so understanding devices and trying different things is really, really important.”
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“So again, when you were talking about orgasm and how women experience pleasure, it's all buried inside the body. So if your penis was entirely inside your body, say you gained 500 pounds, okay, and your belly was so big you couldn't hold on to your penis to do what it takes to have an or how would you orgasm?”
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