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Elizabeth Lesser

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“To be gentle on yourself, that I think my favorite thing about what we talked about today, Tim was this idea of the stick in the river that, you know, to work hard, to pursue excellence, but to be forgiving and gentle, you know, we're all bozos on the bus, we're all tripping over ourselves.”
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“Wow, that's asking a lot. I'm like a quote slut. I have so many quotes. I think it would probably be not either or, but both and more.”
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“So that full hearted fathering to me is knowing that it's a masculine, valid, that there's a lot of muscle given to it, you know, like I love that men love excellence and strength and muscle and all the, I don't know, you could probably come up with better adjectives, but I want care and love to have equal amounts of muscle.”
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“Would like to live in a culture where not only is it expected of mothers, it's also expected of fathers, but it's also expected of the society, so that we have child care and that we have parental leave and that because it all starts with the kids in the home. That's where it all starts, you know, Gloria Dynam, you quoted her. She said, I'm forgetting it fully, but if we want to have the Justice outside the home, we have to have it in the home. If we want to have freedom outside the home, we have to have it inside the home. So it starts with enlightened families and relationships.”
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“While one, it's not a sense that you're babysitting, that you're given your partner, this is, you know, assuming it's a heterosexual couple, that you're not giving your wife some time off. It's an assumption that If women can penetrate the old world of male female. Work work and make money and work and be outside the house, that men can make equal interior changes that allows them to actually want and need to father as much as women want and need to mother, and more than that I mothered pretty fiercely, and I lost a lot of traction in the work world because of it, but I always knew someone had to take care of the kids. And that was falling on me.”
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“To have a lot of clout that like a boy would feel enormous pride to have his tend and befriend nature developed, that a man would be proud to cry and share and talk and all the things that are considered, you know, oh women, you know, you're so you talk too much, you're too emotional, like that the qualities of emotional intelligence would be really cool and hip and dudes would want them.”
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“I think a lot about like I have three sons, and they all have children now. And they are the most heroic fathers. They are in there with their kids unattended befriend level just as much, sometimes more than their wives. Their wives have jobs, they work hard, they make money. So do my sons, but there is a true expectation that parenting is shared. That would be one of my great hopes from the book, that, you know, how we always say a girl can be anything a boy can be, but we rarely say a boy can be anything a girl can be. I would like that statement”
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“That everyone then wants to be like which has put tendon befriend type people at a disadvantage, and also once you do get into powerful positions, that's how you feel you need to be and it goes against your authentic core. So I'm less interested in women getting into power and more interested in validating and valuing and calling heroic the tend and befriend instinct.”
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“Like, think of some of the statues you see everywhere. I once made a study of this. I walked through Central Park, and I made a note of every single statue in the park, and I think there's something like fifty nine statues and like fifty of them were soldiers, were young men holding each other with blood and General Sherman on a golden horse, and just everywhere it was soldiers and generals. And I thought now what if there was a statue of a woman giving birth with lots of blood and pain and her helpers all around her? That would just seem so like weird, wouldn't it? Like, oh, don't show that, but it's what you pay attention to as a culture and name heroic.”
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“Or befriend, you know, women, you come home from a hard day at work, you're feeling early pissed off and angry, you call three or four of your friends and you talk it out and you feel these circles of befriending, helping you sort things out and finding new ways to deal. That's the befriending circles. So under stress women often will tend or befriend. So the human instinct is not only to fight or flee. Yes, everybody has the fight or flee, but everybody also has the tend and befriend. And it's not a question of women good, men bad. It's this imbalance of what we have called heroic and leadership, which is all the fight or flight. Without much of the tendon befriend, I mean imagine”
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“Well, in two thousand seven Shelley Taylor, a scientist at UCLA, realized only men were used in the laboratory. None of those studies were done on women And that's the way most studies, medical studies, psychological studies were done in the 1960s, 70s, 80s, all the way up until the early 21st century. So she brought women into the lab and she did a lot of research into studies done on female animals. And she came up with the term in a wonderful book that people, I think, should read called The Tending Instinct Shelley Taylor. She came up with the phrase tend and befriend under stress in these laboratory experiments. Women's instincts were more to tend to the most vulnerable in whatever the tribe, the clan, the family, the organization, the business.”
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“Are trans men, you know, there's a great book out recently of a woman who transitioned into being a man and suddenly wanted to become a lightweight boxer because there was so much aggression and wanted to know how to channel it. So there are distinctions between women and men. And there's great variety. So it's very hard when writing about all women and all men. But in general, there's less aggression in women. You know, there was this study done in the thirties and forties Walter Cannon, he was the one who came up with the word fight or flight. So they did studies on human beings, brought them into the lab. What happens under simulated stress situations, measured the hormones, measured different chemicals in the blood? Oh, under stress all human beings fight.”
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“Well, this really did become as I was writing the question I was grappling with, especially as you look at many women who gain power you look at some of the Women who are in Congress now and you think, really you want that story? That's the story you want. How's that different? So where I have landed is It's not so much that women have less aggression, actually I think we do because I'll go into that right now. You know, we are both nurtured and natured beings. And if all you want to do is look into the research of hormones and the effect of estrogen and testosterone and progesterone, and we, most women do have more estrogen. And if you talk to people who have gone through transition, trans people, you know, men who get flooded with estrogen and how it totally changes their experience and vice versa, women who”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So I decided of all the stories that I unpack in the book, whether it's Eve or Pandora or literary women, I decided to call it Cassandra Speaks because it really speaks to me of women know something of great value, just like men do, but our stories and our instincts and our values and sort of our because of both nature and nurture what we care about has been determined as second class behavior, you know like Caretaking roles. They're not very important compared to a CEO or a fireman. The things that we hold dear and know how to do have been invalidated so that we don't even trust ourselves. We don't trust what matters to us matters the most in the world. And that's why I named it Cassandra so that we would all start telling our truths and demanding to be heard and validated.”
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“She defied normal courtroom procedure and she allowed any girl who wanted to speak for as long as she wanted to speak to tell her story. The trial went on for days, and doctor Nasser had to sit there and listen to every single girl tell her story, and before each girl spoke she would say I hear you I see you your words matter? Leave them here with me and then go out and live your life and they were believed, and I would watch these little girls' faces and by now some were women, because some of these girls were molested at like nine years old. And their whole countenance would change with the experience of telling their truth being validated.”
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“Gymnastics, yeah, and over 30 years he had been claiming to do medical treatment on hundreds and hundreds of girls and young women, but really he had been sexually molesting them, and they would tell their mothers and fathers, they would tell their coaches, they would tell their university, the Olympic Committee, and no one would believe them. Year after year they took the word of this one man over these girls, and finally some of the girls started speaking out and speaking out, and there's the judge who was assigned the case in Michigan, Judge Rosemary Aquilina, just someone everyone should know about.”
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“And then she would tell her people in Troy, and so she could inform history. So he gave her the gift, and then she would not sleep with him, so he cursed her. He didn't just take the gift away, he said Cassandra. But no one will believe you. And so as I was reading and studying that story and other Greek stories, I was watching the televised trial of those hundreds of girls who had been molested by doctor Larry Nasser. You know, he was the doctor for the Olympic Committee and Michigan.”
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“Cassandra was a mortal. Princess in Troy, and Troy and Greece were always having wars, and she was so beautiful she was the youngest and most beautiful daughter of King Priam, Queen Hecuba in Troy. This is all Greek myth. These are not real people. These are the myths, just like Adam and Eve. They weren't real people. So these are stories that inform us through the ages. Cassandra was so alluring that even the gods wanted to have her. And Apollo, son of Zeus, Woed her by offering her a gift she couldn't refuse. She didn't understand that the gift came with the payment of being his concubine, but she wanted this gift which was prophecy. She would see into the future, she would know what was going to happen.”
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“The old power books. I went back and read, you know, Machiavelli and San Z and different business texts that describe what leadership and heroism look like. And I just spent these years exploring the research in how women lead. Is it different? How women do the inner visim work so we don't just, you know, Nietzsche says be careful when fighting monsters. You don't become one that there was so much going on with women getting into the corporate world or into leadership and then like nothing was changing. Who cares? So that was the exploration and that was the genesis of the book.”
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“In fact, they're horribly hard And I said, yeah, maybe I'll do that. And I started work on it and I sold it to my publisher and I got the contract. And then so much happened in the culture around women in the three or four years I was writing, the Me Too movement, Trump, things like that, intersectionality, Black Lives Matter. It was a really difficult writing project to write about the old myths, the old origin stories from the Bible and the Greeks and all the Western traditions that have painted women in one way.”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There were 2,000 women and a smattering of very brave men in the audience in a ballroom in New York City, in a hotel, and every year since then I have had this conference with everything from all the women Nobel Peace Prize winners to activists and artists and the first woman astronaut and just any woman who's a maverick and breaking the mold and asking herself what do I do with my power and can I do power differently? And does that have anything to do with me being a woman? These were the questions we were asking and I would give a keynote every year to start it off and I thought actually when my daughter-in-law said why don't you just take all those speeches and turn them into a book? I knew better that it wasn't going to be that easy because books are never easy.”
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“Clarence Thomas, who was up for the becoming a Supreme Court judge, the first black Supreme Court judge, and she accused him of sexual impropriety. And she was treated very poorly, and he, of course, was appointed the judge. And she really put the word sexual harassment on the map. And I also invited a friend of mine, Eve Ensler, who wrote the Vagina monologues and a couple of other people to explore what happens when women become powerful. How does the world react? What happened to you? What's going on when we put these words together? And it was so explosively popular. Hundreds of people came. I was surprised. I thought maybe like 50 people would come. So I repeated it the next year and the next year, like by the third year.”
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“And so this was putting the words women and power together. Like what if I create a conference called Women and Power? And we just explore that. So I invited just like four or five different speakers. One was Anita Hill and the Clarence Thomas Hearings were still fresh in the American mind where Anita Hill had been brought into the hearings and she accused”
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“That twenty years ago I started I curated one conference at Omega, I've curated many conferences on so many different subjects. And I often do a conference based on what seems to be making people uncomfortable. That's funny, given our little bit of last conversation. But like what makes people kind of whoa, wake up and say, Why does that make me uncomfortable?”
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“It's so true. It is not something that I learned until somewhat recently, and I think it's really important. And there are diminishing returns, and there are problems that you create by excessive anything.”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There's one by a Catholic mystic he's no longer alive Henri Noen O N, I think could be NON. And I think it's called Ungrief. It's a small book and it's a beautiful book. And that book by Kessler and Elizabeth Cooper Ross is also a wonderful book”
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“So having unconditional friendliness to loss and grief and change is hard, it's a hard practice, but any of those books to read about grief and loss before they happen its preparation so that you can welcome the inevitable.”
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“Yeah, I recommend lots of books on grief and death, that there's a Wonderful Sufi saying, or maybe it's a Buddha saying, I don't remember, die before death, and then do whatever you want, it's all good. So, really owning that we all die, we all lose, and making friends with that, you know, Hemma Chodrin, a Buddhist teacher I've studied with a lot, she calls mindfulness unconditional friendliness.”
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“Individual's courage to feel it all the way through and to ask it to have its way with you and teach me and to wear it as a badge of love, to wear your grief proudly, and not to think you have to have closure.”
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“And you'd see the woman in black walking in the town square and you'd say, Oh, give her space, give her room. She's mourning. Or you sit Shiva in the old Jewish traditions for a year or just cultures, indigenous cultures where the underworld, the underworld of darkness and loss and feeling these are like sacred places to go into, and we've lost that because it's not productive to grieve, so instead you swallow it and you end up really not being productive at all because you're drinking too much and eating too much and working too much just to cover the wound so it's both to me a structural social thing that we don't give time for grief and loss and mourning, but it's also a”
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“Understandable that we'd close down the heart. You get wounded as a child, you shut down, but then you shut down to everything. So one thing is to buck the system that says your mother died you should go back to work in three days, like in the old country, you would wear black for a year.”
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“I love the words grief and mourning. I think grief and Is just a sign of how well you loved. Grief is like a badge of honor you loved. You are a lover, and of course you're going to grieve, depending on how much you give of your heart when the object of your love is gone, it's going to hurt. And part of consumer culture is that we look for closure, which is one of my least favorite words. I'm just into keeping it open, keeping the heart wide open, because if you shut down to pain, you shut down to joy, we all kind of know this intellectually, you know, that the heart is a big muscle and you keep it wide open, you're going to feel everything. And it's very understandable.”
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“And let trust that that movement will do its thing. I've been such a fierce seeker and experimenter with so many different psychological and mystical and medicine traditions like going for it and I'm going to clear out every stick in the river. And I've really loosened up on that. It's like do a little bit, give it a really good try, work on your ego's need though to control everything and just see what happens little by little and then throw it up to the fates. I certainly got a big download about what you just said in that work with my sister.”
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“I think it's so critical and such a Beautiful revelation. One thing I've really feel I've learned better. Since that work with my sister, and just getting older, there does not have to always be resolution. There often just has to be the questions. It's like you don't have to pull out every single stick from the cleared out river. You can just pull out a few so that there's a little more movement.”
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“Colleague, their friend, and to say what they needed, to apologize, to express fears and wounds. So it's a courageous act to bring your authentic self into a relationship, and it takes some training and some help, so I would say let's say you have someone in your life you'd like to do some of this exploration with forgiveness, acceptance, explanation, seeing, hearing, I would say get some help, do it with a witness, a coach, or a therapist, because it can go south really quickly. And so commit to it and don't do it with someone who doesn't want to do it. You cannot drag someone onto the dance floor. There has to be some. Shared interest in this idea.”
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“And so I was leading mindfulness meditation classes for first responders in New York City about six months after 9-11. I did it for maybe, I don't know, three months. It's a short course in teaching basic mindfulness skills, and everything was going fine with these guys who I absolutely adored. Until I tried to bring the The idea of mindfulness into being mindful in our relationships with others and really getting down into what's going on for you in your soft heart. That was no, they were not going to go there. It was terrifying. It was easier for them to go into a burning building on nine eleven To get soft with their wife or their”
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“This secret that we're all carrying around that we don't They don't live up to what other people who other people are, that we're somehow flawed, and all kinds of weird coping mechanisms come from that. When we put that down, when we just show up with the other person, am I enough? Oh yeah, you're enough You're enough stop trying to be something else you're okay and you find that enoughness in each other It's like a freaking miracle and it's not that hard but it's scary you know I write about this in my new book I was asked after nine eleven a lot of people were asked social workers therapists mindfulness teachers to go and do a lot of the first responders had to take these PTSD courses and they didn't have enough teachers”
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“And what we uncovered was that each of us thought the other one didn't really value like or see us. We felt judged, and without taking the time ever because none of us are taught this to say Is this what you think about me? Is this what you need me to be, to be loved by you, instead of checking it out, we did all sorts of weird things attacking each other, rejecting each other, feeling hurt, lashing out, never having those essential conversations of how do you see me? What do you need from me? What is going on in our relationship that's keeping us from connecting? How do we meet each other in each of our core authenticities in a way that creates love and a creative relationship? So we needed that help I'm sure you know this and listeners you all know this too. There's some sort of bizarre magic that happens. When we put down what Rumi, the great Sufi poet calls the open secret.”
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“And I gotta hide it, and I have to correct it by being like all those other people. And, you know, we get these scripts from our parents, our school. If we're a person of color, there's the white supremacy way to be. If we're a woman in business, we need to be more like the warrior man. Men have to be a certain way within relationship. There's all these like confusing scripts that keep us from finding, well, who am I? What is my gift? And how can I be that in the world? And the way that related to the conversation I had with my sister these sessions, we only did three of these sessions with this wonderful therapist who walked us back and back and back into our childhood.”
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“The most loving way. So I just want to put a caveat on the idea that all you have to do is work on uncovering your authentic self. But ADD, all of us have this ever since childhood, these scripts that we have to fit in, that there's a way to be and that there's something about the way you are that isn't right. I mean, if you ask almost anyone, I tend, especially recently having written this book about women, to focus more on, you know, the imposter syndrome and ADD in women, but I know men have it too, a sense that there's something”
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“Will authenticity is one of those buzzwords like spirituality that has, you know, some people Don't like that word, or it's been over used, or there's this idea that all you have to do is be yourself and then everything will just work out, forgetting that there are other people out there who may react to your authentic self.”
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“If you don't work with those two things together, you either become too hard, you know, that stop can just make you so rigid and hard and kind of like an asshole. Or if you're too open and too sensitive and too soft, you just get run over because that's what happens. So that is to me like a noble meditation. Do no harm and take no shit.”
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“And then there's the other hand which is saying stop and it felt to me like it was a good way to describe what that meditation, that Buddhist meditation is. It's like you can be so open to the suffering of the world and of your own heart. Keep your heart wide wide open. That is the path of the sacred world. But if you don't have a strong backbone, and that's why you see in meditation the posture of a strong back, if you don't have that strong backbone and that ability to say no, I have boundaries, I know who I am. I am valid, I belong here”
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“Often take a whole lot of shit from the medical professionals above them. And so she and her fellow nurses loved that slogan Do no harm, but like no who you are and have a strong backbone and have some boundaries and it reminded me of a very common Buddhist practice you see that Iconography of the Buddha or Kwan Yin with one hand, the right hand up in a stop. Mudra gesture like you're putting your hand out like stop and then the left hand is a cup it's the gesture, the mudra of compassion you're holding all the suffering of the world in your hand and transmuting it into care”
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“We did this clearing with each other where we looked at the assumptions we had made about each other over our many years of being sisters, and we cleared them with each other. Did you mean that? No. What did you mean? It was amazing. We fell so deeply in love, and she lived for a year after the transplant. She called it the best year of her life because she was able to kind of start doing that same work with other people like letting go of assumptions and coming into a cleaner, fuller relationships. After she died and I was going through her office, I came across that needle point framed needle point do no harm and take no ship and do no harm is the hippocratic oath which she was a medical practitioner. But then she was also someone who was very aware that”
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“you'll do anything. You'll jump out of a plane. This was her jumping out of a plane, going into therapy with me. And we did that. And we worked on our relationship very quickly because we didn't have much time. It was amazing. We called it our soul marrow transplant, not a stem cell transplant, but a soul marrow transplant.”
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“Nervous and stressed. You can get a cold your cells can, you know, your immune cells can be diminished by your stress. I thought, well, if every cell in her body after the transplant is mine, because that's what happens in a bone marrow transplant, they kill all of her blood cells and every bit that is reproduced comes from my stem cells. It's a little more complicated than that, but that's the basic science of it. And I thought, well, like if they're all my cells, I certainly want to work on our ancient rejection and attack because maybe we could teach ourselves how to get along. And so I suggested to my sister, should we do some therapy together, which for her was like so anathema to what she's all about. But, you know, when your life is, when you're about to die.”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“match we lined up ten for ten, which is considered a perfect match. And this was exciting but also mystifying to all of us since Maggie and I were so different. And when I studied up on the science of bone marrow transplant, what can happen once the donor's bone marrow gets into the patient is that the patient can reject it or the donor's cells can attack the patient. They call it rejection or attack, attacker rejection. And that's the actual word medical term. And when I heard that, I thought to myself, well, that's what my sister and I have done her whole life. We've attacked each other. We've rejected each other. And since I believe in the mind-body connection, you know, you're... Own if you're”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Loving yet we're so different relationship and there were times like in all siblings' lives where we weren't the kindest to each other. And when she was diagnosed with a very serious lymphoma and the only thing that would save her life was a bone marrow transplant. And for any of you listening who know about the science of blood cancers, the really serious ones are you will die within weeks if you don't treat it. And bone marrow transplants almost kill you in order to save you. And so siblings are the ones who are most likely to have a good match DNA match of the stem cells that is found in the bones, in the marrow. And so each of our sisters were tested and I was the one who tested as her perfect.”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, I found a needle point with that slogan do no harm but take no shit in my sister's study office after she had died. Ah, she's my little sister, and I come from a family of four daughters and Maggie, my youngest sister, was the most, you know, like if there was a favorite, adorable one who everyone loved it was Maggie. And she was a nurse practitioner and an artist and a very tough customer. She thought just about everything I did in my life she called it woo woo voodoo she was a western medicine you know she she lived in Vermont and her patients were all the rural poor and she just had very little tolerance for the woo-woo stuff we had a”
2021-03-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #505: Elizabeth Lesser on Building Omega Institute, ADD (Authenticity Deficit Disorder), and Seeking The Emotion of Illumination · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT