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Gabrielle Union

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2018-12-12
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2018-12-12
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  1. “Darker black men are sentenced differently and more harshly than lighter skinned black men. This isn't in our minds. These are real things. This is another show. This is another show. But we got to try to put all of this into our little black girl.”

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  2. “Well, then there's hope for all of us. And reconciling all of those feelings along with the loss of this beautiful soul, it highlighted this need to amplify the voices and the beauty and the souls of all of us in the African diaspora. We are all worthy and we are all beautiful and we all need to be upheld. Our natural sisters, our weave sisters, our wig sisters, our extension sisters in every hue, beautiful, worthy, the jokes at our expense as brown women, as dark-skinned women. We are made to be caricatures. We are deserving of love. We are deserving of respect. We are deserving of attention. We are deserving of equal treatment. You know, you get into, you know, how discipline is doled out, even among black children along the color spectrum, how black men are sittance.”

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  3. “Brown or women with tightlier, you know, more tighter coiled hair. And the people that we decide are the most beautiful in the world. It just came up, you know, recently with the passing of Kim Porter. And for so many of us talking, it was what Kim represented was this beautiful. Bright light who was brown and unapologetically she was a bad M effort. Like she was so dope and she was so loved and universally upheld as this standard of beauty that we didn't have. One of the things, which is a whole nother conversation that Puff chose her.”

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  4. “And how other people treat you, but you can control how you react to it and respond to it and how much of that you allow to land. So as long as we're still having these conversations about team light skin and team dark skin and this, that and the other, it's a thing. It's a thing that we have to acknowledge. You can't tell brown girls, dark skinned girls and women that it's all in their minds. And if you just do X, Y, and Z, it's going to disappear. It's not. We're living in the real world. And so much of colorism is centered around who gets chosen and why. Who gets uplifted? Whose voices are amplified? Who gets the attention of this guy or this type of person? And for a lot of us, the people who seem to get skipped over for that attention and who get passed over to be chosen are the darker skin, browner, you know,”

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  5. “We will tell her all the things my parents told us, but we will also tell her you are beautiful, you are worthy from birth, you are worthy, you are beautiful, you are stunning, your skin is rich and it holds so much history and beauty and love, and we will drive that into her every single day. But again, you know, I talk about it in my book. You can't self-esteem your way out of other people's BS.”

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  6. “So, my parents raised us to give us compliments about our intelligence, which yes, amazing, they always told us you can do anything, you're amazing. They said all, I mean, every compliment you can imagine except you're beautiful. We love you as you are. Your skin is beautiful. They thought beauty is fleeting. So, why would we ever focus on that? So I started looking out for anyone who would tell me I was beautiful. I don't go, great, I'm smart, whatever. Somebody tell me I'm pretty.”

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  7. “Knowledge, a feeling, and a sense of community that doesn't always feel like it exists when you're in it. You are not alone. There's many paths to parenthood, to motherhood. It doesn't have to match your friends or your sisters or your mamas. Every path is real and beautiful and valid and worthwhile. But more than anything, oh, you are not alone. You don't have to suffer in silence. You don't have to suffer alone. There's hope. There's hope. There's answers. We got you.”

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  8. “But no, he is one of those people that the longer he has time. He notices everything. Like he's out there like Edward scissors hands with the, you know, with the landscapers. He's walking around with the painters. He took down a bird's nest yesterday.”

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  9. “He was like, well, I'll figure it out. I'm like, no, there will be no idle time here. If I'm going to work 12, 16 hours a day, I need to not have leave and you're on the couch and I come back when you're on the couch. Something else has to happen. So how about you play one more year and figure that out?”

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  10. “Because Sandra Bland. You know what I mean? Absolutely. A woman who knew her rights and her articulating her rights with passion and vigor that obviously was needed. She's no longer with us. No longer with us. So I wish we had the luxury of raising her differently because she's a woman. No.”

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  11. “and how blackness can be demonized, weaponized, and criminalized. You never said half the things that they said you said.”

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  12. “But it's things that you can't That are hard to teach, like tone. How someone will receive your tone or what they imagine in their minds, you knowing your rights, you speaking by our standards respectfully. To a person in authority explaining your rights to exist in your neighborhood, you're not causing any trouble, you're not doing anything, can be received as aggressive, disrespectful, inappropriate, and they can use all of those things to kill you, to hurt you, to arrest you, to put things on your record. And it just happened last week in their school. And these things never end. And we have to, we're going to.”

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  13. “And we both get in the golf cart and go look for them. And while we're going, a police officer pulls up next to us. And like, slows down, and then, oh, D Wade. But what I tell our boys, if someone stops you, whether it's one of our neighbors personal security, a police officer, you don't say your name, you don't say, don't recite your rights, which they know I'm Dwayne Wade's son. We are in South Florida and that will go a lot further than anything else you could possibly say. You come home and tell us and then we will handle those people. But come home.”

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  14. “It's too late. Nobody can see them. And if anything happens because they change the locks on that gym and what it will look like is they're breaking in.”

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  15. “On our neighborhood. The other black family is his old teammate, Chris Bosch. He lives the Lovendors down, so we would only allow them to walk the dog from our house down to the Bosches because the Bosches had security. And we could say, you let us know they thought they were on their own, but they're totally being documented. But even 11 doors down, we told them how to wrap the leash around, you know, just one finger, right? But don't put your hands in your pocket. Our street isn't super well lit. We're in Florida. It's a stand your ground state. So it's not just police that you have to be concerned about where we live. Each house has their own, most people have their own personal security. So if you frighten one of our neighbors, they, and they, because people have gotten away with it, can shoot you and kill you and get away with it.”

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  16. “That's true. We all know that's true. Or just telling how they have to walk the dog down the street. You know what I mean? The fact that I had to split it.”

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  17. “Don't you be wandering around their house? Wand Don't go in any room where you are not seen or documented. I actually love social media for this reason. Our black photographer.”

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  18. “Eight or nine, you only stay in rooms where that family can see you. If anything comes up missing or anything goes wrong, you will be blamed. Like, you stay where they can always see you.”

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  19. “Oh, the first sleepover. In general, most parents are a little weary about letting your kids stay somewhere else. But when parents of black children and they're going to someone else's house who's not black, we told them you only go in areas where the family that you're sleeping over.”

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  20. “I wish I never had to, but it just feels like every week there is something happens where I have to explain yet again and drive it home and explain new situations.”

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  21. “Raising her. That's more of what I was excited about. And Zaire, you get right. I don't know. I have rights. And Zaire said, I don't know where this kid. I'm like, do you have ghostwriters for these texts? Because he said, he's like, I'm so excited for you. You deserve this to raise one of us from scratch”

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  22. “Yeah, and because I ended up raising boys, and that's sort of what I thought, well, if I could raise one from scratch, you know, that I, you know, I had full control over. And, you know, because the other thing is a step parent, you actually have no rights. He has full custody. I'm here. If they have to go to the hospital, he has to give me. I don't have any rights. My parents show up for everything. They have no grandparents' rights as step grandparents. We don't say that, but we don't have any legal rights. So you're here because you want to be here and you love, you know, you love to be, but having a child who I don't have to consult with any other person outside of my husband about”

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  23. “They call me what my family calls. And we have a beautiful relationship But I'm not their mom. You have to leave space for their actual parents. Even if the parent is absent, even if the parent's out of the country, you cannot, you should not, try to occupy that sacred space that should be held for their parents no matter. What is the situation”

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  24. “I mean, as a step parent, your job is to be consistent. So if you are more disciplined natured of a person, just be that. Don't go from Bobby Knight to push over. Span of 30 minutes, like whatever it is, whoever you are, just be consistent so they know what to expect understand that your role is to be an additional, helpful, reasonable, responsible, caring, loving adult. Your job is not to replace their mother or father as a step parent. And I've never gotten that confused. I've never encouraged them to call me mom or mother or mama or.”

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  25. “Well, I wrote that before we were even sure we were able to To have success with the surrogate. So it was more hopeful, wishful thinking. But now that it's here and we just had the boys here for Thanksgiving patience. And that every child has different needs. You can't do one stop shop parenting for all of them. They all have very different needs, very different personalities. They're not all going to respond to the exact same needs.”

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  26. “Not to sound like super cliche, but you have to be the change you want to see, and whether that be just documenting all of us doing normal things, loving things as a family. And the people that we follow on social media, the people that whose voices that we amplify, who are amazing, loving, nurturing women. And then as someone who has the ability to help create images for media, to create those stories and to create those images that people can look to to see anytime they turn on their smartphone or their television or go to the movies. We have a responsibility to show a variety of parents. And I think we have never had that variety. We've missed the loving part of that variety.”

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