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Glennon Doyle

lines on the record: 46
first: 2017-08-08
most recent: 2017-08-08
sittings or episodes: 1
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“Everybody's afraid of their pain, but what they should be afraid of is the easy buttons. Because that's where the suffering comes in. Pain is mandatory for all of us, it's what teaches us. Is trying to rise before the fall.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Oh my gosh, because when I feel someone's been unkind, I know that all that just happened is that they just felt the hot loneliness. But they don't know how to be still with it. So they just treat it like a hot potato and pass it on to the next person. Pain is not a hot potato. Pain is a traveling professor, and it just goes and knocks on everyone's door, and the smartest people I know are the people who say come in and just don't leave until you've taught me what I need to know.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So, what happens when we transport ourselves out of the pain is that we miss all of our transformation because everything that we need to know to become the people we were meant to be is actually inside of our hot loneliness. So when we jump out of it, when we jump off our mat, we are like caterpillars who jump out of our cocoon right before we would have become butterflies. You know, so all of those easy buttons I was using, mine were food and booze and drugs, but some people are sex and shopping and unkind and unkindness.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Oh, without a doubt, my sobriety. I'm so excited. I'm a person who for the first half of my life was so scared of pain. Ran from it in so many ways, I just thought I was a person that couldn't handle it, and now I think of pain as like, I feel like a scientist too has like discovered this new material that inside of it has life-changing properties, you know? Like, do you remember those commercials where the second things got kind of uncomfortable? A red button would come up and someone would hit it. And then everybody would just be transported out of the stressful place into this pain-free place.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Perennial plant blooms and the winter comes, and it goes away and then comes back. And I think that's what loves are. Like some loves are just meant for a season and they aren't going to bloom again, right? But what happens with that kind of love is that it goes back into the soil to create richer, newer soil for the next love to bloom, right? It's not that it was wasted. No love is wasted and love never fails. Whether your love is an annual or a perennial, the result of both are new life. So, yeah, that's what I think. I think love just comes to change you.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, and it goes with the marriage thing, too. I mean, I don't think that God gives us love other people or animals so that we have them forever. I think that God gives us love so that it changes us. And I think that so that we grow. And I think that that is how I feel about marriage too, what I told him about his fish. Because I really think that, and we'll bring up the idea of death things have to die for new life. I think of love and marriage now as, you know, plants, like we have annuals and we have perennials, right? And the annual plant blooms for a season, and then the winter comes and takes it out and doesn't bloom again.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I don't know what's going to happen. I for one know that I don't know what's going to happen tomorrow, right? So be still a no, it's not about right or wrong. It's not about doing the right thing or the wrong thing. It's about doing the precise thing that's directed to you.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And you know, and the reason for the going and the coming is because the knowing doesn't give you a five year plan. It just only tells you the next right thing. And so today it was stay away. Don't go back for comfort. Don't abandon yourself. Don't do it. And then a week later it was try. You know, it was different constantly, but I had to check in to get the knowing.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I think, and this is the best way I can describe it because it's so hard to describe, when it's my fear or when it's my mind, it's words. My mind loves words, words, words. We're making this excuse to stay, the arguments. When it's God, it's just a knowing. It's just lower. It's deep. It's a voice that doesn't speak in words. It's like you can be saying words and the knowing comes and is opposite of that.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And there was my only hope during that time was that I knew if I got very still for just a few minutes a day. I would know what to do next”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Absolutely And that's when I got my Best Still tattoo because it seemed like at that time there was just voices everywhere. You know, there were voices of people, even good people wanted to help me, but everybody had an opinion of what I should do. You should stay, you should go, you should.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I never believed Oprah ever. I needed to save my marriage to save myself. I just always knew that the end of the road was redemption, either way. If we stayed together Was redemption, and that if we separated and used the pain to heal ourselves, that that was redemption. It's very important for me to say that I think that sometimes if a woman has a choice between saving her soul and saving her marriage, she needs to save her soul. That if your soul or your body or your mind are being threatened in any way by your marriage, then you just go and you know deeply that there is a big difference between leaving a marriage and leaving God. There is a huge difference between leaving a man and leaving God. Because God is every bit of the God of woman as God is of man.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So I don't know. I think that really what happened when crisis came in and stripped me of that perfect mom and wife thing, I think I found a truer identity. I really do. And I think I figured out that the only identity that I will ever be allowed to claim is child of God. That's what I was named when I was born. That's who I'll be when I die. And that's the only identity that I have that nobody can come and change or take. That has made me a little less fearful.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Because they're the ones who know that the only things you really need are also the things that can't be taken from you. Sophia”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So, I can find out what's left over. And what was left over the first time and what was left over the second time is really my faith and my hope and my love. Those are the things that can't be taken from me, right? And I think that's why women who have been to rock bottom, I think that's why they're the brave ones and the kind ones and the wise ones.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Landslide. Yeah. I mean, the way I think about rock bottom now, whether it's the rock bottom of my marriage or my individual rock bottom, is that rock bottom is a crisis. It's a crisis. And everyone wants to avoid crisis. But what crisis means literally is to sift. Like a child who goes to the beach. Lifts up the sand and watches all the sand fall away hoping that there's treasure left over. And that's what crisis does, has done for me. It comes into my life and I have to watch everything fall away that I thought that I needed.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Are always there. Yeah, I always thought, come on. But I really didn't know. Yeah, so that day we separated. I just said get your stuff and get out. And I don't know. I mean, the lucky thing for me was that I remember knowing, I mean, I'd been through Rock Bottom before, like I'd been through a serious, it felt like an eviction from my life, right? It felt like someone had handed me an eviction notice for my life, like this little life that you've created that you love. Here you go, you're out But I'd had that before. Because the pregnancy test was the eviction for my life. The difference was that my life sucked with the first eviction. I mean, I was a drunk. So it felt like being invited to something better. This one didn't feel like that. This one felt like just...”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Know it is about Landslide. Like everything's being pulled out from under you. Because now I can look back and see what there was plenty wrong, but I didn't know at the time. And whenever anyone had told me that they didn't know, I thought they were.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“He said, I've been unfaithful. And it wasn't, or there have been other women. I think those were the words. There have been other women.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“But then one day in therapy, oh my gosh, we were just sitting there. I thought we were just going to talk about something mundane. I don't know. And yeah, he said I have to tell you something. There is something I have to tell you. Yeah. The second he said that, I was like, oh,”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“With this other circumstance. What are we doing? Yeah, and I felt connected. I felt connected, like the real me to the other real other people, you know, the stuff we were meant to help each other carry.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“All of them would say that as a disclaimer. And I thought this is interesting. This is like, this truth telling is something that can unlock people. You know, like if we're really meant to connect with each other, then what are we wasting our time?”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And here's my friend Sarah's number six. My favorite snack food is hum All of them, all of mine were like that. Like all of that was like the most lighthearted one. And so I thought, oh, we're not doing that here either. We weren't doing that. And I wanted to die. I just wanted to just take it all back. But then later that night, I started opening those emails from people. And they were from people who I had known my whole life, but I had never really known because these emails said things like, oh my gosh, Glenn, I just read your list and I've been bulimic for 12 years and I've never told anyone, Glenn, and I just read your list. My husband and I are struggling. We don't know where to turn. Glenn and I just read your list. My dad's depressed. And on and on. And then they'd all be like, I mean, not all of it because we're going to.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“six times. So that's our bat signal for like I've done something inappropriate that's going to require a lot of cleanup on her part. So that's when I thought, oh, I really should have read someone else's list before I did mine. So this is my number six. Recovering food and alcohol addict, but I still find myself missing booze in the same twisted way that we can miss people who repeatedly beat us and leave us for dead.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Right, right. Yes And so I walked away in two hours later, I came back and Oprah there were like my list had been shared all these times from my personal page and I had 27 new emails and I thought something something and Iris.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Or afraid of me. I don't know. Maybe some calls to people. I don't know. So then I actually did, I was desperate for a place to tell the truth. I knew I needed that for my sobriety. To just stay naked and unashamed, like this is me, and I don't think it's a mistake. So I knew I needed a place to tell the truth, and I actually did start feeling this invitation to start writing. Like it felt like an annoying tap from God. Get off the couch and start writing. But I ignored it because I just love watching TV. So one day I was passing the computer and I saw this thing going on on Facebook called the 25 Things. So, my friends were just like making lists about things about themselves and I thought, awesome, I can make a list. So I sat down at the computer.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So then I said, okay, what I meant is that I just love every minute of it. I just hate when they sleep. I just stare at them. And I think if there's one word that would describe how I feel as a mother, it would be fulfilled. That's how I feel, is fulfilled. And then we ended the moment. And I thought, okay, well, we're not going to be honest at play dates. All right? That's a shame.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And the woman turned to me and said, So, how do you feel? Like you've got the three babies at home. How do you feel? And I thought, awesome, we're going to talk about how we feel. And I remember because I'm a metaphor girl, right? So I've been working on a metaphor for how I felt. So I said, okay, I don't know a lot about science, but I know there's like two different kinds of volcanoes. And the first volcano is an active volcano, and the second one is a dormant one. And the dormant volcano looks calm on the outside, but inside she's like bubbling with boiling hot lava that at any moment could just explode and kill everyone in the vicinity. That's how I feel as a stay-at-home mom all day. And by the way, that's perfect. That's exactly how it feels. It's an amazing metaphor, but everybody just silence and just like wide eyes.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“A few times I remember after I brought my littlest home. I was staying home with my three kids because that is an amazing idea for someone with high anxiety. I was just dripping with babies and just, and I remember going to a play date.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Because I thought, oh, this is the way you can do life You actually don't have to do the shiny perfect thing. You can get through life by showing up and saying, okay, it actually is this hard and I need help. I need a higher power and I need you. And that's how we're going to get through this thing together. I mean, I want to decry at the end of the first recovery meeting when I figured out that you have to leave. Like this is, you're going to send me back. In there”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, but the other truth is that some people are desperate for it like they need air. that it's worth all the rejection you get when you're real because every time you tell the truth it just clears the field for other people to tell the truth and then the truth gets bigger and bigger”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“We end up sometimes telling our truth in different ways than words, dangerous ways. Like, this was the food for me, the booze for me. I think we tell the truth with something. Everybody tells the truth with something, whether it's, they say I'm not fine with a credit card, or they say I'm not fine with overeating, or they say I'm not fine with booze or sex, yes, unkindness or whatever it is, which is why it's so powerful when you can integrate those two selves and tell the truth, the story of what's going on on your inside with your words.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, I mean, I felt split into my entire life. There is the part of me on the outside that's saying the things that I'm supposed to say. Like, I'm fine It's like Disney. Fulfilled. And then there's the part on the inside of me that's like scared and lonely and confused a lot. And what I think that happens is I really think that we are all truth tellers. I think we are just made to tell the truth. And so I think that people who, it is very hard for the world to hear the truth from a woman, it's easier for the world to hear the truth from a man. But since negative emotions are less acceptable from a woman.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Listen, I just think I was broken. I wrote in my first book that I was broken. And now it just makes me mad every time. This is why writing words in books is so precarious. This is why Jesus only wrote in the sand, right? Like, I just, I hate that I wrote that. I don't think that I'm broken at all. I think, so this is what I tell people about being sensitive, just being a sensitive human being. I no longer think that I'm a mess. I just think I'm a deeply feeling person in a messy world.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I was afraid of pain I really thought of myself as broken, I thought of myself as someone who could not handle pain. And so I hid from it, considered.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Sitting at that meeting was the first time where I figured out maybe I can do this. Maybe I can be a sober, vertical human being. Those honest people.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“They are. A lot of problems. But we're all all jacked up, right? And their outsides match their insides. It was so, it was like, it was a relief.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“When I found out I was pregnant and decided that I wanted to be a mother more than I wanted to be numb. That's the first time I wanted anything more than I wanted to just be numb. And my sister picked me up off. These are my people. They are all jacked up.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, yeah, I think that's what, and we all have these, you know, perfect outsides where we try to make our outsides perfect, but I think that's what was so powerful to me the first time my first recovery meeting.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, well, I mean, because of what our culture tells you as success, if you are a person who happens to be thin and is wearing nice jeans, people think that you have all the universe's secrets in your pocket. Right. It's very interesting. Oh my God, especially if”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“You know, love and pain are so risky. And I think I figured out earlier that I was someone who couldn't handle either. And so why not hide? You know, addiction is just a little hiding place where sensitive people can go so we don't have to be touched by love or pain.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“She should be early humbling I don't know. I just think I was a really sensitive kid and I think I figured out that addiction was a place to hide. It's a hiding place.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah. Yeah. And anytime you have an identity that's in something that can be taken from you. You're afraid So I think I was afraid because I knew that being a pretty girl is something that could be taken from me and it's taken from everyone when they're 12. Right, the end of the game was soon. I could feel it coming. Everybody had that duck.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Afraid other scared, lonely, I was really self-conscious. I think there are some kids who just aren't self-conscious. I see them. I just always was very self-conscious of my body and I felt other. I felt separate.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, but I'm also a girl who, so when I was a senior in high school, I was admitted to a mental hospital for bulimia and depression. And then the week after I got out of the mental hospital, I was sitting on a homecoming car waving in the homecoming parade with a sash across me that said leading leader of my class. And I remember sitting there thinking, where do these people want to follow me to? But it didn't matter because I was following the rules on the outside, you know? And so that's what I figured out. Like, people who need help often look like people who don't need help. The rules of high school are, be pretty, be quiet, follow the powerful boys lead. Like I actually was. I was following the underground rules of high school pretty well. It's just not a. Those aren't the real rules of the world.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“What a beautiful little girl. Remember that? Yeah. Yeah. I think the world wants girls to be pretty and small and quiet. And as long as I was able to stay pretty and small and quiet, everything would be fine. And the second I figured out that how can you be a successful girl if the purpose of being human and growing is to grow and define your voice? So it's a setup, right? If to be a successful girl, you have to be small and quiet. But to be human, you have to become big and have a voice.”
2017-08-08 · Oprah's Super Soul · Glennon Doyle: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source