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Greg Behrendt

lines on the record: 28
first: 2020-02-05
most recent: 2020-02-05
sittings or episodes: 1
sources: podcast

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“Here's what I'll say about this generation. You're nice people. Black president, right? Gay marriage, rock on. But men, you are weak ass. Ask a woman out, like just the sensitive, skinny jeans, mustache. Dude, get it together.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Absolutely. Every time, guys, every time. Who you are, especially if you're successful. Really hide it And I think these guys would agree. I think when a guy says he's intimidated by your success, he's breaking up with you. That's it. I don't think he's acting. Do you feel that way”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Not if they're good dudes. Why wouldn't you want to be with a guy who wants to be of somebody who's successful and wants to see And is impressed by the fact that you can hold the job.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I think part of the thing, like a lot of people have bad dating habits, part of breaking a habit is actually doing something, taking some sort of action that indicates I have changed. I'm doing this differently.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And put yourself out there and go on a date with someone that's a maybe. Maybe the waiter's your guy. But if you're not out there, if you're not spending a little bit of time just giving it a shot and again, knowing that you're fine anyway because you don't need this date, there's a difference between a want and a need, right? You can want a man. You can want a relationship. When you have a need, The need controls you. The need has the power, right? You're the want. You want to be in a relationship. You should be okay if you're not in one. I want a Porsche. I'm going to have a mini. It's going to be fine.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“That's the wrecking it with your love. Like, I was super happy. I was like, I can do this bachelor thing forever. I don't need anybody. I feel fantastic. It's just a different perspective. And then when you're there, you can't believe you weren't there before. It's just a matter of continuing on your singular path that honors you.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And by the way, everybody pretty much ends up being a loser to the one that isn't, right? So when I was dating, and right after I got sober and I was seeing a sober girl and everything was going great, and then a skillet flew across the room at me, and I'm like, how is this happening? How am I not meeting somebody? I called my mom. I'm like, you know what? I'm, what am I 32? I'm not meeting anybody. I got it together. I have a thing on TV. Things are happening. Why is it not happening? So I just said, you know what? I'm not going to try to be in a relationship. I'm going to have an apartment. It's going to be gorgeous. I'm going to live by myself. It's going to be like a bed and breakfast. You come over. The sheets will be clean. The coffee will be good, right? I'm going to take care of myself. I'm just going to worry about me. And literally this one.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Are hurdles to it all, right? But if you don't have that attitude, what are you doing? Like, okay, so guys, the cool guys aren't showing up yet. You're 26 years old. It's going to happen. Just keep being you. Just keep being in the world. Keep succeeding. Keep going. Keep doing the things that you do. Get there. Also, it's not time yet then. The universe has said it's not time. So stick to whatever it is you need to stick to.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“No, I really disagree You don't need to know that people don't need to know the rules in society. You need to know who you are as a person, period. And it doesn't matter. People are like, Greg, you haven't been dating for a long time. There's texting and there's different websites and all that stuff. But here's the thing you're still you on a text, on the phone, you still get to set the rules and you still get to, oh, you're shaking your head, we'll talk in a minute. You get to set the rules for who you are. And so you get to decide what happens.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I mean, do I know you after one date? I don't. I don't know you. And now we're having sex. And when we're done, I might go, oh, you know what I mean?”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And I do think a little bit if a girl wants to. Don't they're gonna like I actually had a girl go, Is there something wrong with you? And I'm like, Yes. But there was a girl that I was seeing and I was like, I had just gotten sober and so they were like, don't sleep with anybody for 30 days. Know them, whatever. And so this girl wants to”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Because sometimes I'm sure everybody's had an office romance or a school romance where you were in a class with somebody, you didn't notice them for the first couple weeks. And then they became the most attractive person in the world”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“That's great. Yes. When I met Amira, I was like, wow, this is, I got to pull it together because this is, I always say that, I always tell the story when I saw her. So first time I saw her, when I fantasized about her, I imagined the van with the baby. I went past the sex to the van and the baby. Now, I didn't tell her that and I wouldn't tell her that. I mean, I didn't, she'd know she's finding out now. What I mean is I saw somebody who had their life together who I thought I could make a life with this person. I didn't tell them that, and I just kept up my little secret, but I definitely felt there was something she was putting out into the world that made me think that. And it was the way she carried herself.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I just genuinely didn't want to go out with people and not I liked her most. We waited a long time until we had sex. And then it was, you know, of course amazing. Anyway, that's a whole other show. And then it was Valentine's Day, and I said, I love you. And I said, you don't have to say it back.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, I did a lot of the same because I was an alcoholic. And so there was a lot of like, I'm not really sure what your name is, but you seem awesome. What part of town are we in? And then I got sober and I wanted to try and start to do things differently. So one of the things I thought I would do was I would start dating”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, and you don't have to go way into it, you don't have to go. I think, you know, this person may also have kids or may not. I think you say, I'm a mom, I have kids, they're important to me, but let's talk about other stuff.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Okay, yes There are certain things that are important to know where you know it's what I was thinking. A person will feel like, whoa, you sprung this on me. And those things are obvious. Yes, if you're a single mom, you should tell, dude, I'm a single mom, right? If you're an arm, you should tell someone, I don't have an arm. Because it will surprise them later.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“You should be trying to have fun. Just like you would with any other friend. You know what I mean? I don't go out with my friends every day and go, you know what? I have this wart. I don't tell them all the personal stuff. I think it's a matter of looking at it as this thing. It's a journey and it's an adventure and you're going to go on this. Okay”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Here's the thing. All of us are complex and interesting and have a lot of stories, right? But we want to parcel them out, right? We want to parcel them out. We want to be able to share that one later when we get to know somebody. Let's just find out about what we like about each other. Let's find out what each one of us does in the world.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“How many kids you want to have right away that you have ADD or that your dad died when you were two or that you're obsessed with cats? Going too fast, it going too hot, too aggressive, they're going to chase the guy away. Where are we at? What does this mean? When am I meeting your parents? The guy does not want to feel like he's trying to be pent down or held back. They have to let it kind of progress naturally and not rush into things.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“No, not at all. I don't know when it's switched, and I bet these guys will agree. We like you. We want you. You have the power. Why are you giving it up so easily? Why aren't you making us work for it? Because we will do as little as possible if you let us. Am I right? He's nodding, right? I'll do as little as you let me do because I'm a dude and I have other things I want to do. Make me work for it, hey, it's exciting, and I'm gonna get something great at the end of it. I like a sense of accomplishment. Men like to win. And if you're telling me I'm not winning, I'm going to try and win.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Here's the thing having those thoughts is okay, but just let them be thoughts, right? You're not gonna not, every time we meet anybody, there's a little bit of, wow, this could be something, right? But if you let that overtake you, the dude will feel it, you'll say something that indicates it, and then he's like, I gotta go. Pretend that that date is address rehearsal for another date. So go out on that date like this is just one that I'm doing to get ready for dating.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Really nervous and awkward on a first date because Up in the idea that this person could potentially be the one, and I don't want to blow it. So, how do I just relax and be myself and let go of that pressure?”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“As soon as he comes in the house and you're waiting for it because we all know it's going to happen. And as soon as he says you complete me, I scream.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Number one, a man would make my life complete. If somebody feels that you need them to complete their lives, they will run from you as fast as they can, right?”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, yes. When you are at a point in your life where you are happy and content and you love yourself and you can lay down on your bed, put your head on your pillow, and know that you're okay by yourself as soon as you're there, someone will come along and ruin that with their love. Because you're desirable then. There's nothing more attractive than liking yourself.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“But the thing about the book is it's more than just a dating book because the reason that this bar is low is because people's self-esteem is low and they will allow themselves to accept something less than a date because they don't think they're worth it. And that's the problem.”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Women have lowered the standards for dating that dating has become unrecognizable. It's at a point where it's like tweet, tweet, sleepover, breakup. That's it. That's what dating is now. And it's not a good bar, and I have two daughters, and they will go on dates. When I let them date at 35, they are going to go. But what constitutes a date that's what we need to get to, right?”
2020-02-05 · Oprah's Super Soul · Greg Behrendt: Stop Settling and Start Dating Smarter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source