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Lisa Ling

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first: 2019-09-26
most recent: 2019-09-26
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“I mean, I think we covered a lot. I think you're great. And I hope we can work together in some capacity, maybe on psychedelic stuff. Yeah, I would love that. I would love that.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It is. And I try hard to read a lot of the messages that I get, but I'm not great at it because I've been trying really hard, especially when I'm around my kids, to be present with them. And, you know, I am going to start taking bigger breaks from social media because I just, you know, I think we all need to just have those breathers. And I hope people will do that along with me. Yeah.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Like that, which I hated about popularity in high school magnified. And I just, you know, I think that we all need to just like put it aside from time to time and just like breathe and really, really connect with people. So like the message that my billboard would contain would definitely have to do it with just like, you know, connecting with humans.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, dinners that I see my friends posting about that I wasn't invited to, and I feel this like pang of like, why wasn't I invited to that? You know, I definitely have felt that. And I'm thinking to myself, I'm an adult. I can get over this stuff pretty quickly. But for this young generation of kids that is growing up with this, like not getting invited to a party and not just any party because you don't just post any party on Instagram. You post like the sickest party you've ever been to on Instagram, right? And not getting invited to that. Like, what does that do to your ego? You know, it's like the thing I hated the most about high school was just like, I remember that kind of obsession I had with popularity, you know, because I think all young people, they want to know what their place is and they want to have friends and, you know, they want to be popular. Social media is every...”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I mean, look, yeah, and I mean, you know, and I need to practice what I preach because I'm on my device a lot. I try really hard now to put it away when I'm at home. And if I have to do some work on it, I'll tell my kids, like, I'm going to go upstairs and do another room because it's just, it's rude for me to be on my phone in front of them all the time. And how can I expect them to not be on the phone all the time when, you know, they get their devices one day or when their parents one day? So I try really hard and I am as guilty as the next person of going down that rabbit hole of social media late at night. An hour will elapse and I'm still on Instagram and feeling really shitty about myself because I've just looked at these perfect lives of people, you know, and look like I'll be honest, there have been”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You're able to recognize a I recognize how much it benefited me to take the time to understand my mom's past. It was one of the most important life lessons for me.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, they say that empathy is a key driver in success. You know, some of the most successful people have had those characterizations or could be characterized as being empathy. I mean, there's a direct correlation between empathy and success. But yeah, I mean, and I think that it's also you can develop empathy too. It's not like it's something that you're born with, right? And I think for young people, for any parents who are listening to this or just young people who are really attached to their devices, I think, you know, take that time, as I mentioned earlier, to just like put it away and have conversations with people, like really, really connect with people on a human level. I think that the further we get away. From that, you know, the further we get from being able to feel empathy.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Hey, it's easy to live in a bubble and to be told what to think and then spew what you've been told. That's easy, right? It's hard to try and understand the truth or take the time. It requires time and energy to get invested in other people's stories. But I do in my heart of hearts believe that you emerge a better and smarter human as a result of taking that time. It is in no way a waste.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And when you read that book, you will, I mean, everything that you just said, after you read that book, you'll go, okay, now I get why she responded to this book, because your jaw will be dropped. And again, like everything that you learned in school, you will think differently about it. You'll think about this other perspective. And I think it will change the way you view our institutions. I think it'll change the way you think about what it means to be an American. And hopefully it will strike a chord with you and you will just feel more empathy because of You know, like how this country was like the way this country was founded”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I haven't read me You have to read this book because it will turn on its head so much of what you have always believed to be true about this country. It goes into graphic detail, the savagery that took place with Columbus, with Christopher Columbus on the Native Americans, the Native people who inhabited this land. I mean, it just forces you to rethink everything that you've learned and to think about it in another context. And it's a profound experience to read this book and think about it in the context of history.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And one more book, even though I haven't gifted it to a lot of people, but it is, I credit this book with propelling me to dig deeper and to not always believe the narrative. And that book is a people's history of the United States by Howard Zin.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah, you know, just following the journey of this shepherd boy to far flung corners of the earth was just such a like a fantastical journey for me, you know, though he realized that the most fascinating place was inside of him, you know, and the most thoughtful important place was inside of him. Like I just will always, that book will always have a very special place in my heart.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Which seemed very fair. It's so good. It's so good. And you would not think, you know, when you hear the term democratizer that The greatest among us, or whoever lived was someone who has been reputed to be such a villain in history. But that was all contrived too. His portrayal and the portrayal of the Mongol army was all contrived. So it's just so fascinating to read. And it's, I cannot tell you how many people I've gifted that book to.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Based on Genghis Khan. And when you look at, if you were to look at his army, it would consist of people who, in some cases, had blonde hair and blue eyes because he conquered so much of Eastern Europe. But that's a story that I think also in this period of class divide is really a moving one because he was this character who was a slave at one time himself went on to conquer two-thirds of the population of the earth because he elevated people and the lowest level of human to rise up in his army.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, because I think that history has portrayed Genghis Khan as the ultimate raper and pillager of the universe. But what people don't realize is that his Mongol army, I mean, he was one of the world's great democratizers. that the only way the Mongol army was able to take control of most of the world in 25 years it took the Mongols 25 years to conquer the amount of territory that it took the Romans to conquer in 250 years was that the Mongol army would go in they would take out the aristocracy and give the lowest level citizen right the slaves in some cases an opportunity to rise up within his army Khalisi's character on Game of Thrones I heard was”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The book that I have gifted the most often, you would not expect this of me, but it's called Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World. Fabulous book.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I mean, I say in the episode, like the one thing that I've done, because I've gotten medicine prescribed and I get the literature and I just, I don't even open it, but I realize now that it's incumbent on me if I'm going to put something in my body. I need to look it over. And if I have any questions whatsoever, I need to ask. We all need to be doing that more regularly. We have to take the initiative, even though I do believe it's a doctor's responsibility to really know what he or she is prescribing. We also need to take responsibility and read through the literature when we get it.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, yeah, and that's again, that's why I lauded you for really taking on psychedelic therapy, because I think that it could, you know, under the right guidance, right, in conjunction with therapy, I think it could be really revolutionary and allow people to kind of like open up those pathways that have been closed up for so long. And I'm just honestly, I am absolutely terrified of a lot of these pharmaceutical drugs. Don't really know, like, really, really know the consequences and how to help people get off of them if they find themselves dependent on them.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I mean, I really, really hope people tune into this because, you know, isn't it curious that these medications are so widely prescribed? Yet our culture is more anxious than ever. Like that's the irony in all of this.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's just, it has made me infuriated because doctors are the people that we entrust with our safety, with our lives. In many cases, don't realize how to treat the symptoms of these drugs.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, the benzose episode made me the most pissed because I started to realize that this class of medication is one of the most widely prescribed on earth. Yet doctors in many cases don't know how to get people off them if they are starting to exhibit symptoms of withdrawal. I talked to a very high ranking psychiatrist at Stanford in the Stanford Medical School and I asked her when you are in medical school did you learn how to deal with benzo withdrawal or did you learn how to get people off of these medications? She said no this is a psychiatrist at Stanford and now you have general practitioners, you have internists, you have pediatricians prescribing these drugs for an indefinite period of time.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We need to start seeing what real sex really looks like and not, you know, this artificial porn that is heavily produced and plays on, in most cases, your wildest fantasies because it's just not real and it's damaging kids' minds.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, we in our episode, we feature an adult film actress who's on a mission to tell porn consumers that it's fantasy and that what you don't see is that before cameras even started rolling, they negotiated what they will and will not do. And they had a conversation about consent. You know, what kids can access? You don't see people talking about consent, you know, or negotiations or women exerting any kind of power at all. We also spend time with a woman who created this website called make love not porn where she shows real people having real world sex, which means like they're not perfect body types. There may be mistakes. There may be, you know, it may get messy, but she thinks that”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, very randomly, actually. I mean, I'm a pretty voraicious reader and consumer of information. And we will generally pick about 20 topics and present them to CNN, and they will approve eight of them for us to pursue. But for me, it's really about exploring worlds that are just different from me that I think people would find interesting. The porn ed episode and the benzos episode to me, there are two issues that I think people need to know about. You know, as far as the pornography episode is concerned, like parents need to wake up and They have unfettered access to extreme kinds of pornography, even if they have really rigid filters on their devices. I mean, you're basically giving your kids a super computer to have on their bodies. And so there are some issues that we take on that I just think people need to know about.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Short periods of time, but there's a whole generation of people who've been on them for years, and it's a highly, highly addictive drug. And there is a fear that benzos are the next opioids. We also explore women in the marines. They've been the last branch of the military to allow women to participate in combat and we embedded with the marines at Camp Pendleton. We're doing an episode about swingers because swingers aren't what you think they are. They've now evolved into like an entire lifestyle that just welcomes free sex. And we also have an episode about this gang in Mississippi. It's the fastest growing gang in Mississippi. It's a white gang, although they're not a racist gang. But we understand why We attempt to understand why that gang is growing so fast in the state of Mississippi.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, our show, This Is Life, is on CNN. It premiers on September 29th, a Sunday, and will air on CNN every Sunday thereafter. Our first episode is called Porn X because so many young people are getting their sex ed from pornography. You know, porn has always been around, but now the ease of access, any kid with a device or access to a vice can access unlimited amounts of porn and it's having a devastating impact on an entire generation and the way they perceive sex and relationships. We're also doing a piece about benzodiazepine. So we're talking about value, adavan, xanax, clonopin. These are medications that are used for anxiety. If you're not on them, you probably know people who are. And they are medicines that should be used for very short”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Condone what they've done. It doesn't make what they've done right in any way, but it gives me the ability and the opportunity to try and figure out how to prevent the next young person who may be exposed to the same things from going down that road unless we can identify like where that behavior comes from and what those people were exposed to it's not going to make it any better just to call them animals and try and hunt them down. You have to attack it at its root if you're ever going to be able to make real progress.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Absolutely, Tim. I mean, you know, when we worked on a piece about the MS-13 gang, the gang that President Trump has called animals, right? And yes, they have as an organization committed unspeakable atrocities and have committed the most violent acts imaginable. But if you, you know, and this is not in any way to condone that savagery. But when you take the time to understand the kinds of things that these people were exposed to in their home countries or the pressure, they may have been under to do what they did. It doesn't make you or doesn't make me, I should speak for myself, feel sorry for them. It doesn't make me.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Was what he was supposed to be wearing. I saw him no differently in lipstick and earrings, and I did an hour before when he was just talking to me as Steve in a t-shirt and jeans. And it just goes, it's just like such a testament to this idea of listening people and hearing people out. I'm as guilty as the next person of just following the people on Twitter who espouse the same beliefs as I do. You know, it's so easy. I watch the media that espouses what I believe. And it's easier than ever to exist in these silos. And so what I'm trying really hard to do in life, but also in my show, is break out of those bubbles and really hear people out and understand how other people have, because that's the only way that we're going to be able to, you know, come to an understanding.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Honest with you, if I saw you walking down the street randomly, I would probably look at you like, oh my God, what is going on? Like that guy is a freak. Like I might just be predisposed to have that feeling. But having spent time with him getting to know his story, just like getting inside his head. allowed me to see him so differently that”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I mean, a couple seasons ago, we did something about gender fluidity, and we profiled a man named Steve who was starting to dress in women's clothing. And Steve told me that he'd always wanted to. Like he always felt this connection with his feminine side. But because we live in a culture that has never welcomed it, in fact, to the contrary, was really, he felt like he had to suppress that feminine side. He never, you know, would wear women's clothing out like he always felt like he was more gender fluid than not. And so I was in a room with him as he was putting makeup on, putting earrings on. He put a dress on. And I literally said to him, Steve, I have to.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Really, I think elevated humanity and brought things to light that otherwise like no television outlet or media outlet would touch. For me, our shows are less shows about activism. Our shows really are an exploration of different worlds or subcultures or different issues. And just people coming up to me constantly and just saying I had no idea that black Muslims had such a big presence in this country and that the women actually feel very liberated by being able to wear a hijab because they don't feel the pressure of Having to show their bodies or using their bodies to influence anything. I think just people expressing their enlightenment, their enlightenment or their just that they learned something from something that I've done, like that is really satisfying and fulfilling for me.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Oprah was certainly when I was a correspondent for her show. I mean, it was pretty remarkable what she was able to do when I reported in the Democratic Republic of the Congo a story about gang rape and just these women having to endure the most unfathomable horrors. I think in two airings of that segment, over $3 million was raised for the organization that helped me do the story that was providing aid to these women. And that just really showed me the power of Oprah. I mean, it was unbelievable. I don't know that there will ever be that kind of force for good as Oprah. And I really miss her on television because she”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Irrespective of what you may have been accused of or how you may live your life, we are going to give you a chance to tell your story. I might ask you some tough questions, but ultimately this show that we do is really about giving people a chance to share. And I try really, really hard to be as non-judgmental a listener as I can.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, yes, I certainly have been aggressive throughout my life and my career about trying to get access. But in recent years, since we've had this show, This is Life on CNN on the air for the last six seasons, six plus now. I think that people have gotten a good sense of our show and a good sense of me. I think if you're a regular viewer of our show, you see that I am not a sensational or exploitative person. I like to think of myself as the vehicle through which people can experience other cultures or communities that are different from theirs. And over time, I think that people have Have started to recognize that if they are going to share their story on a show, ours would probably be a good one to do it because we do give people an opportunity to tell their stories. I mean, at the end of the day,”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Do the right thing for them and leave this place better for them and to do everything that I can to, you know, like it sounds so cliche, Tim, but like make the world a better place for them. And so, you know, as we are kind of, again, like in this period of just hostility and ugliness and darkness and our, you know, the people that we are supposed to look up to are politicians, our business leaders in so many cases are so morally bankrupt, it makes me more defiant than ever to want to ignite dialogue and to give people a way to get to know their fellow humans better. I just, you know, I don't feel Like what I do Supposed to be doing right now”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“At the time when Barbara kept asking me those questions and almost reprimanding me for because she could tell that I was just so ambitious that I was not really devoting time to my personal life. I didn't take it seriously. But now I just, every time I look at my kids, you know, I'm just so grateful that I was able to have them. I mean, I had a number of miscarriages after the first one. And I definitely went through periods where I thought that I might not be able to have kids. But I am so grateful that I have them because they not only are my life. I mean, everybody loves their kids and everybody considers their kids their life, but they really have made me want to”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“But I just, I am so grateful to people like Barbara for telling me to not neglect my personal life because they are just their everything to me. And everything that I do now in my work and in my life is to try and make this a better place for them and to try and bring people together and ignite dialogue, especially in this period of just ugliness and hostility. Because I've always just believed that the more we know about each other, the more we will respect each other and the better we become ultimately.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That I mean, it was really sick and twisted. But now I look at my children. I have a six and a three year old. And even though they drive me crazy and at 46 year olds old, I think to myself, like,”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And I think back on that, and it makes me really sad because I so idolized her and wanted a life and a career just like Barbara Walters. And the most important lesson that she taught me was to not neglect my personal life. And I will cherish that advice because I was someone who never wanted to have kids. I never had that biological desire. I've been married for 12 years and six years into our marriage. My husband said, well, why don't we just try? And I thought, I don't really want to, but if it's something really important to you, we can try. And then I got pregnant pretty quickly. And then I had a miscarriage. And then I got crazy. Then I'm like, I want to have a kid.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Remember, I was young when I started working on the view. I was in my mid twenties. I would always think to myself, I want to talk about how you got the interview with Fidel Castro or Monica Lewinsky, or how did you do that? But now, in retrospect, looking back, I learned so much from these women about Because what Barba was doing was basically telling me that she did those things. She neglected her personal life in pursuit of her career. And I could tell that there was a hole left in her. And I remember when she was retiring from ABC, Barbara Walters has interviewed everyone, but she said her biggest regret was not spending more time with her daughter.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's funny because all my life as a young person, I always fancied having a life like Barbara Walters or Oprah Winfrey. And so when I got a chance to actually work with them and sit at a table with them and look to my right and see them, it was just surreal. I had like outer body experiences whenever I'd looked to my left and I'd look into the eyes of Oprah Winfrey. And I remember I was always a really ambitious young person. And I've always been kind of a sponge that likes to absorb as much wisdom as I can about how to be a better reporter or how to be more successful, right? And every time I interacted with Barbara Walters, the first thing that she would ever ask me is, you know, are you taking care of your personal life? Are you neglecting your personal life? Are you taking time for your personal life?”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Those are really important feelings to experience. And we've just totally done away with all of that because we're now existing and just swipe culture, right? And we don't even have those opportunities. We don't allow ourselves those opportunities to even feel anymore. And I think that that is, you know, it's really dangerous because if you don't have those outlets and you just default to those devices, you can find those dark communities and dig yourself even deeper into a hole. And so the extent that you can seek out human contact put the phones away and just like sit in a room together without phones, see if you can even do that, smile at each other. Just have some human contact.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“To have a release in a safe space to be able to just kind of express your feelings. It's so healthy to do that. And I'm so emphatic about trying to convey that message because right now we're all, humanity is just so addicted to devices that we're not connecting with people. You know, it's ironic. We're so connected with the world. You know, we can find out any score to any game at the tip of our fingertips, but we're more isolated and lonely than ever because we're defaulting to these devices and not communicating enough with human beings. I mean, you know, remember when we were kids and we would call, you know, when I would call that boy that I had a crush on, those feelings that it would evoke. My God, I would get so nervous and like, you know, I would like start breathing heavily and it would take like an hour for me to get up the nerve to make that call.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And there are things that just shouldn't be, those are things that should not be ignored. Now, if you absolutely can't afford therapy, if you have a group of friends, and particularly for men, again, like men aren't, they're not conditioned, they weren't raised to be communicative and emotional with other men. But if you can get a group together regularly, once a month every two months, to just like talk and let down the guard, you know, convey that it's a completely private conversation. No one outside of the room should know what is said. But, you know, people need that outlet to be able to just release, whether your friends offer you constructive advice or criticism is almost irrelevant. You just need”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, well, unfortunately in our culture, our healthcare system is not conducive for people to find therapists or even have insurance cover therapy, which I think is so ass backwards in every possible way. And that's why so many doctors are just prescribing pharmaceutical drugs for people to band aid or put a band-aid on their pain. And so what I would say to people is, you know, check with your insurance plan, see if it's covered somehow or if a part of it is covered. And I think people are hesitant to spend money on therapy because it's not cheap. Therapy is expensive. But I have to say that Investing in therapy if your insurance is prohibitive and you can find therapists that are less expensive than others such an important investment because you're investing in your future, you're investing in your mental health and”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, I think it's particularly critical for men to do this because I do feel like right now there are a lot of young men and men who are feeling crisis right now, whether it's the job market or the Me Too movement or whatever. The suicide rate, for example, is skyrocketing among men. And I think that for so long, men have been told to not feel or to not show emotion. And I think that igniting that process of getting to know your parents or your father for young men, I think it's just a really important. Important thing for people to really do because young men really need permission to be able to feel. And as so many men feel in crisis right now because they've never been given that permission to feel”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“More. And so I didn't have a lot of money at the time, but I knew that this was going to be such a necessary investment for me and for my mom too, because it was obvious that she had never talked about a lot of this stuff. And so we took this trip to Taiwan and a lot of it was really painful. A lot of it was amazing because it was just the two of us having this journey and we kind of shared intimate moments that we'd never shared before as mother and daughter. And to people out there listening, if you've never taken the time to really understand your parents' lives, I would really urge people to do so because it's really, it will bring People so much more clarity as to who their parents really are and why they have made the decisions that they've made.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Very much so. You know, I started to just ask her some questions, and I could see that some of the questions I asked her, like I could just see her body change, you know, like a simple question like how would you describe your child's hood? Or were you happy as a kid? And, you know, when you were seven years old, like, what did you, what did you want to be? What was your day-to-day like when you were an eight, nine-year-old child? And when she would go back to that period, Tim, it was really like I'll never forget how she went from, you know, this adult, you know, my mother who was supposed to be the protector of me, became this little girl. And it was really hard for her to even answer those kind of simple questions, like, what was your childhood like? And it propelled me to, you know, want to know.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, I kind of keep in the back of my mind like really trying to understand how this person got to this place, how this person became the way he or she became.”
2019-09-26 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #388: Lisa Ling — Exploring Subcultures, Learning to Feel, and Changing Perception · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT