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  1. “Pushed through that alarm clock and opened really the space for us to dream for a long time. You can dream about your life beyond 50, beyond 60, beyond 70, beyond 80. You can have dreams that last a lot longer than when I was growing up, that exist in your mind. In my generation, over 50 was white space. It looked scary. It looked empty. It's now so full there's not enough time for everything. And that is a sea change for these next generations. So while I think younger generations of women have a lot of struggles and a lot of challenges, and we should talk about that at some point, they have a much longer runway. And I just think it's really important to enjoy the ride.”

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  2. “You and I grew up in an age where there was always a clock ticking and there was a sense of urgency to everything we were doing that kept us from being completely present and enjoying the moment or feeling the pain of Like we had to just keep going, run out that clock. There's no clock anymore. You can do anything, anytime you want, and it's best if you slow down. Take that time off. Take an off ramp for a long time. Enjoy yourself, really connect with people instead of trying to check things off in your life. That runway has been paved by so many women who have”

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  3. “It's the biggest thing I've ever learned, and it happened in the past few years. And I actually thought that was, I thought I was at a place where there was nothing more to learn. And I could not have been more wrong. And the biggest message I can give all women, especially young women, but all women, is that it's a long runway. Our lives have a very long runway to achieve our dreams. to reach our goals, to make new goals, to pivot, to reinvent, to go through a divorcivary, to have that family, maybe find that elusive relationship that you've always been looking for or that elusive family that you've always dreamed about. We have such a long runway, a runway that I don't think, Catty, you and I ever thought we had. I think you”

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  4. “Oh, easy. I'm back from maternity leave, and I just want you all to know I really appreciate how much you guys are being so sensitive to the fact that I've just had a baby. I promise you, I want to work late. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. And I'm here and I'm available. So project A, B, and C, I have so many ideas. How can I be involved? And just please remember that I am so interested in being a huge part of this team, just like everybody else. I so appreciate your sensitivities, but I'm doing great. And I'm actually, I find that the work is so fulfilling. It makes me a better mom. So let's go.”

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  5. “Know exactly what the situation is here, but I'm all about building trust by having direct confrontation about problems and direct connection about how to fix them.”

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  6. “Really happy to hear from you about that and go, Oh my God, I am so sorry and become your best supporter, like realized what they've done. You know, people are busy. They don't often, you know, say, I need to think about every person in the room. And I think women, we like. Is very easy to get insulted and to walk around with that feeling for a long time and to talk to other people about it. Oh no, you talk to the person that you're having an issue with only and you never talk to anyone else about it and you establish trust. Okay. If you go to someone else about it first and then that person hears about it around the edges.”

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  7. “Like all the time, but it is this something she can talk to him about. Maybe can they can team up and support each other? Is this something you have to like announce in the room? I mean, you're going to have to have to look at the dynamics of the situation and fix it and immediately do not let this fester. If this has gone on for more than a week, you're part of the problem. This has to be nipped in the bud when it happens. If someone tries to take credit for your work, you have got to get your name on it. And under no circumstances allow it to continue. So I don't know if it's a conversation she needs to have with that person. And that person, you don't know what's going on in people's lives. And you don't know what's going on in their minds. Literally might be...”

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  8. “Get ready to bleed. You're going to leave this place and I'm going to go build this one over here and join that one over there. And we're going to burn your place down. Good luck, mother. So please bleep. But you get it. Like their attitudes about themselves is your loss. Our attitudes about ourselves when things don't go well is it's all my fault and this is my fault.”

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  9. “They don't do what I did, which was cower away and cry in the moment. And then for months after, and then walk around with, and I'm fired sign of my forehead. They're like, what?”

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  10. “One. And then you go back and then you go back. And if you do not get results, you look for another job. But at 27, you don't want to be acting like you're 45 and you've conquered the world and you expect private jets along with, you know, I don't know what. And you've got to like look at where you are and what is reasonable. Look at the economy. Look at your ability to get another job as a competing factor if you can. That's obvious. Obviously, if you can get another offer, that changes the game and you go in and you leverage that. And you know what? I have met women who have done that, who've gotten another offer and feel guilty about it. And I'm like, oh my God, you have just become double your value. You are going to make so much money. And they're like, yeah, but I feel guilty it's going to look like I went by and they're back. I'm like, are you kidding me? What do you think men do all the time? And like when they're fired”

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  11. “Don't have to do the death rattles that I did, you know, you don't have to do these horrible, ridiculous extremes. It is basic. It's the same thing every time. You just add on a little more. So if it was H-I-J, you can do L-M-N-O-P. You can say, you know, three months ago I had done A through K and now we're at LMNOP. I've really earned this. I'm really at a level of a senior whatever here. And I've got this title. I think my title needs to change. How can we solve this problem? You know, and I love it here. I'm inspired to be here. I love everything that I come to work and my work is top notch because my passion meets the actual work that I'm doing, but it has to match my value that I'm getting back. And right now, we're not on a good path. So I want to fix this problem before we have a really big.”

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  12. “Salary to increase, and this is what I'm looking for. I'm really hoping that we can come to an agreement here. You may get a flat no right from the get-go, and then you go back three months later or six months later.”

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  13. “At 27, you don't know who you are, you don't know your value, you don't have enough to say where you could have that connection like I had with Phil, where we had, you know, two years of back and forth about this. So he knew I was serious and it came from a very authentic self-knowledge kind of place. 27, you're still building. At 27, you're going to face a lot of no's to get to yes. So you need to go in there, knowing it might be a no. And you still got to go in there and do it. You've got to do it because you've got to practice your skill of communicating effectively. And so you need to say, I've been at this company for this long. And here's the work I've accomplished. A, B, C, D, E, F, N G, and also HIJ. And I know that it is a proper time for my”

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  14. “Then you shouldn't do that. And that's really important. You have to be ready to walk. You have to have another option. In my case, I was ready to be unemployed again and deal with that. Then continue feeling undervalued and slowly letting that anger build. And then it would impact my performance on television. And then ultimately I would end up like hurting myself. You know, I would end up doing to myself what I was accusing them of doing and not, you know, being valued. And so I thought I needed to walk rather than watch this slow demise of my on-camera presence.”

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  15. “You need to marry me, or this show is over. You got no morning Mika, and good luck tomorrow. And I was dead serious and I said it without a smile on my face. But there was a tinge of humor to it, but there was a complete sense of resoluteness. I was ready to walk. Phil knew it. And I said, you need to understand there is no morning Joe without morning Mika. And the first person who would tell you that is Joe or Willie. But I'm going to tell you that because you're not going to see me tomorrow morning. And I was ready to wong. And that was when things changed.”

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  16. “So, here's what worked. But I also say don't try this at home. I'm going to show you what worked, but then I think what most should do. So what worked for me was this show is amazing. And while the show is called Morning Joe, there is no Morning Joe without Morning Mika. And Phil, you've kind of become like a bad boyfriend. You know what that is? That's a guy that you live with. You do his laundry. You make his dinner. Now, Phil and I have a relationship at this point. We've learned to laugh at things. And you think he's going to marry you. He never marries you. It never happens. Why? Why would he marry you? He's got everything for free.”

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  17. “I was like, Phil, this is over. Okay, I need you to deal with this. I am part of the show and it's time for me to get raised. And I poked his chest. And he was like, you and he poked it back. And he was like, wow. And we were like, never mind. This didn't work. But like acting like the guys doesn't work. The F-bombs only work if you're an F-bomb kind of person. You got to bleep that. But I mean, seriously. Don't go in there angry like anger. Angry is no good.”

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  18. “That went really well. That happened. All right. I also, oh, this is a bad one. I kind of did this a little bit in the first one, but you never bring your issues into it. So the second one was, listen, I had no idea how much this job would cost me from like the clothes to the makeup to hair. And I've got to take care of my mom and my dog. And I've just got a lot of expenses. And it like, I can't do the math here. And I just, you know, I've got a lot of pressure on me. And I swear I did that too.”

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  19. “Hi, I'm so sorry. So I just, I know it's like, I know everyone's cutting and all the shows are cutting. And I still was hoping, I am so sorry, but I was hoping that we could talk about raising my pay. I just, I have a lot of great.”

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  20. “So, the wrong way would be to apologize your way into the conversation and to apologize for asking for the rates, which I literally have done. I apologized. And then I ask for the rates. Okay.”

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  21. “Just like know your value carries over to real life and getting value back in all relationships. I think this carries over to their personal connections as well. I think that taking risks, which was your question, I'm sure you're like Mika, your answer is completely out of this world. But you asked about taking risks. And I think they're very risk averse at this point. For a lot of reasons. We need to inspire them to find that fire back again.”

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  22. “And with, I think, economic crises in our future, AI and other things that may happen on the political landscape, I think jobs are going to be hard to come by. And I think a lot of young people don't show that hunger, that hungry eye, that eagerness, that I'll be right there. I'll be there tomorrow first thing. Thank you, email, you know, follow up, like that kind of on point you've got to be after it and going after it. I don't think they're feeling it, Gaddy. I really don't. And I think as you and I start, you know, continuing with our work, I think there's a whole different set of challenges to take on when it comes to talking to young people about finding their sweet spot. And that also carries over.”

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  23. “I think that I feel like young people today have suffered a number of gut punches between COVID, school shootings, and now the age of Trump. I think that they are hurting. And I don't know if this is just women, but I think taking a risk at work or, you know, promoting themselves, it's like I'm very worried about the next generation at this moment in terms of when it comes to jobs, careers, and progression. I don't think we fully understand exactly just how much is weighing on them.”

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  24. “True. Right. And also, or you're that person who's so mad that they're doing that, that you're saying to other people, can you believe I'm the only one who has to do? And you're like chattering about it because you're mad. You're venting. This is like, keep it clear. Be happy with what you're doing. And, you know, the chattering about why am I the old way? We don't want to get into that. It never works. It may be making a great point, but it doesn't work to be voicing disgust about something that you said you would do.”

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  25. “And Katie, I would say deflect immediately because you don't want to be that person who says, okay, I'll do that. And then it's like...”

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  26. “Where after a time you get kind of sore about it. You kind of get annoyed about it. And then you End up undermining yourself because people can tell you're kind of pissed off. So you've got to keep it clean in terms of what you're doing. Is it what you want to do? Or is it what you have to do? Is it your job? If it is, do it really well.”

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  27. “Right up his alley. But then also start doing your job and be doing your job as effectively as possible. I mean, if you have value, again, it's about the bottom line. If you're doing a great job at what you do, if you're pushing in areas that are bringing value back to the company, it's going to be okay to not do the birthday cards or whatever. So I sometimes think people take on things to make up for what they're not bringing to the table. Don't get into that trap. Make sure what you're bringing to the table in terms of your job is top notch work. And only do things on the side that you want to do. If you really enjoy it, if you're going to end up being kind of frustrated that you've been pigeonholed into doing office party or something, that, that's going to ultimately go back to the equation I was talking about earlier.”

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  28. “Well, I mean, I wouldn't be like, no, I'd be like, good, I've got, you know, I'm doing this. How can we do this together? Or gosh, I'm trying to think I'm going to be working late on project A and project B. Can we find someone else who can be like the point person on this? I just want to make sure that it gets done. It's so important. There's got to be a way to deflect it.”

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  29. “Well, I mean, first of all, if you walk into a job and everyone and everyone just turns to you and says, you should be doing the birthday cards just because they don't know anything about you. And it's just they're assuming it. That's not a good fit. But if you've develop into that because you have offered or have taken the opportunity to do those things now, listen, if you like doing those things, some people really like I tend to like doing that stuff. You got to do it because you enjoy it, the extra stuff. Or you should be doing other extra stuff that you enjoy that's going to get you where you want to go. So I personally wouldn't take on those roles. I mean, if they are outside of the job, if it's not what you want to be doing. Just say no.”

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  30. “Yeah, well, we want to stay in a box, you know, follow the rules. Here's the line it's straight, here's the line, it's straight. There's another here and here. And we like this, you know, and sometimes that is not exactly what, I mean, I don't know one successful man who plays by the rules, who's like waiting for his opportunities and looks at the documentation and says, I shouldn't be looking for this until this time. And like, there are no rules. Make relationships and find your way forward by putting yourself out there and seeing what works. And also, it's okay to fail. Those failures are, I mean, you can talk a little bit about this because in confidence code, Catty, you talk about how failures are like in a way they're unbelievable lessons that stick with you”

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  31. “Having a relationship, knowing what it is, and it's going on in their life, finding out what they need, you know, looking for voids to fill, like grab opportunities by looking for them, by making those relationships and putting yourself out there. And I'll tell you, my events across the country, the one thing I learned is that women really struggle with putting themselves out there, putting themselves in uncomfortable positions and pushing through that so they learn how to do it better next time.”

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  32. “Destructive, and it's the go to for so many of us. Cut it out, cut it out. What is it that makes you great? You got to be able to say it. And you got to know it. And if you can't put it into words, you really can't expect anyone else to because you're the one who is to speak for you. And I don't mean to sound like I'm sort of like angry or anything like that. I'm just saying, come on. So those meetings with the managers, if they're not coming to you, how can you get to them? How can you get some weekly meetings or monthly quick lunches? Maybe start out by meeting with a manager and not asking for anything. Just being delightful, you know, and connecting and getting the groundwork.”

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  33. “Yes. And stop doing that. Like none of that thinking and talking. Now let me just be completely bored with that because it's boring to be negative. It is boring to vote against yourself. It is absolutely done. It is unsuccessful and it is completely.”

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  34. “Know, first of all, you have to look at what your skills are and value them for yourself. There would be no Brzezinski family without Mika Brzezinski. You know what I mean? Instead of the way I looked at it when I was a lot younger, is how do I fit in this family? You know, I realized that.”

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  35. “Know there's actually quite, I did start to realize that that's actually a talent, that's actually important. I mean, because to have a civil conversation, you have to be able to laugh and you need someone to help connect one side to the other.”

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  36. “Ability to figure out how to teach kids who maybe learn differently. But back then it was just the Wild West. And I was a real failure. And so as a result, I had to find a different way to survive in this dynamic. And in these family conversations, I found that when things got really tense, I found that my space ended up being like the person who cracked the joke at a moment that would maybe bust the tension or, you know, help my mom feel better about the argument.”

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  37. “So that dynamic was interesting, yes, but it came from a different place. Like we would have one of my brothers, Anne, he's a Republican, Marx, a Democrat. My dad would do these family debates at dinner. My mom would end up on wherever she's an artist. So you never know where they're going to land. But I always found that because I didn't intellectually measure up. My brothers are both literally brilliant. their knowledge of history and their ability to retain information matched my father's. And I see my dad in both of them when I hear them talking. And I knew at a very young age, that was never going to be me. That my skills as a student were bad. And I think today perhaps they would have been better because we have more.”

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  38. “I was in a very intellectual family, and it was Heartbreaking at times how I felt when I disappointed my parents on that front. Like it was really because I love them and I revered them and they are, as you know, you know, you knew my parents, but you also know how much I love them and how the entire way that I look at my life is framed by their example. They had such a profound impact in terms of what I want for myself and what they were able to do coming to this country with nothing, fleeing, quite frankly, for their lives and able to build from nothing this incredibly fascinating, multi-dynamic, and intellectual atmosphere that we could grow up in.”

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  39. “Yeah, in my family dynamic, I was the youngest and the only girl. So I was in a different category from the get-go. The expectations felt different. Now, my parents really were frustrated at how difficult I was to educate. I had some sort of learning disability, had a role been around, maybe things would have been different, but it wasn't. And I really, really suffered in school. So then there was this intellectual difference.”

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  40. “Absolutely. I think we're, you know, in a way, there's a lot of work out there that's far more articulate than I am out this. But obviously the socialization of girls versus boys has a huge impact on that.”

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  41. “What I found out part of knowing your value is communicating what you need and what you want, communicating effectively. People can't read minds. Don't know what you want unless you say it. And so many years I had a hard time saying what I wanted or what I needed. And then you're left unfulfilled and then you don't express what you need in the right way because you're unfulfilled for so long. It goes back to at work if you're paid less than your colleagues and you know you're being treated badly or you know you're behind and then you let it go and you don't verbalize it and you don't communicate effectively then you either explode or you're kind of not pleasant to be with and then ultimately it kind of becomes this recurring phenomenon in your life”

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  42. “Your way into conversations if you're undermining, if you're being self deprecating, if you can't look in the mirror and say, you know what, I'm looking pretty good today, then you know what, you've got to really think about that because you cannot live your days and nights feeling like you're less than. And there are ways that I talk about how women can practice that. And some of them are really technical. And, you know, like how to do a good Zoom interview or a Zoom conversation or how to shake hands or how to walk into a room and immediately command respect. All of it is, it's not just the words you use, the data you know, but it's your physical presence. And it's useful. And it's important and it's effective if you want to be a good parent, if you want to be a good spouse, which I wasn't. You know what?”

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  43. “Didn't know my value. All around. I was dancing for everybody and trying to be the person who, you know, made everyone feel good in the room. I was like trying to make sure everyone knew I was nice. I had all my priorities wrong because I wasn't commanding in my relationships respect back, value back. And that's why know your value is about way more than careers. It's about living a full life and being fulfilled by your relationships, getting that value back and knowing that you deserve it and knowing that it is a standard that you have for yourself commanding respect, not fighting about it. It's just there. And that was something that I really struggled with and I realized a lot of other women did too. And that it's something you really have to work on with yourself every single day. If you're apologizing,”

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  44. “I love this question because I really want to focus on how know your value at this point as we have grown and developed on a number of levels here in the United States, but also abroad. It is not just about your career. The career is really just the example. Knowing your value and the skills that you use to get value back at your job can be transferred literally to every relationship in your life, getting value back, whether it is a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, your kids. Every single relationship in your life, you need to know your value. And if you don't, they will own you. Okay. Those kids are going to own you. And they'll see it in your eyes. And I struggled with that, with my girls as well because I.”

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  45. “The results are magnificent. Do you always get the money you're asking for? No. No. But you get that muscle. And then you ultimately will get that money. And the more you put yourself through it, the easier it is.”

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  46. “Do my job fully, which includes the part of taking care of myself. And so I set out to find out more about this. And when I wrote that first book, you wouldn't believe I had like the former chair of the FDIC. I interviewed women from the, you know, the highest heights in every industry and they all struggled with it. And I realized I was really tapping into something that was quite universal across all ages, stages, places in life, women who have made it despite themselves, women who can't get in the door. This book was for everyone and still is. And I did it because I wanted to figure it out for myself and I wanted to pay it forward for other women because once I did figure it out, I was like, my God, these are simple techniques that take confidence to put these skills into play. But once you do,”

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  47. “I had done it again. I had signed a contract too soon. I had, you know, lurched for stability as opposed to waiting for the moment to be right because it was my moment to ask for more and I missed it. And so I thought, my gosh, if I can't do this, I grew up with multilingual parents who came here as refugees. One became the National Security Advisor of the United States of America, and the other became a globally renowned sculptor, artist, who makes pieces that are two to three stories high and several tons. I love your monster. My mom worked with a chainsaw on her art. She's so cool. What is it about me that I can't?”

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  48. “Not how it works. They're not going to be nice. They're not going to say, oh, she's so great. I've noticed she's working so hard. No one's going to be watching you. You have to look at what you're doing. You have to make sure you keep track of the data about yourself, what it is that you bring to the table. You have to be sure you can art.”

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  49. “How quickly can I sign your head in? Like, yeah, that was me. And I had that the thing was that was really a trigger to like write the book and figure this out and then share it with everyone. The trigger was when I signed the morning Joe contract and it was far less than everyone else. And quite frankly, I had no one to blame but myself. No, I worked for a great guy who needed me to kick his butt and to hold him to it. But what company is going to say, hey, listen, you don't know your value. Let me remind you and pay you tons more. That's not.”

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  50. “It is your job to drag that uncomfortable part as long as you can. Drag it out as long as you can to get the most that you can out of negotiation. And I just didn't know to do that.”

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