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Rachel Louise Snyder

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“I know subscribe usually means you're paying something, but this time it means you just are notified when there's something new. There are many more to come that we're excited about, so thank you for watching and listening.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Maybe you were as shocked as I was to learn that globally the most dangerous place for a woman today is inside her home. If you or someone you love is experiencing or is at risk of domestic violence, I'm urging you to read Rachel Louise Snyder's eye-opening book No Visible Bruises. It's happening to you, you got to see yourself in every page. You can buy the book right this second by scanning the QR code on your screen. Literally scan the code. You'll have the book in seconds. Our listeners tell us that the podcast is resonating with you and is serving as a bright spot in your day. That means a lot to me. So here's the thing. I would really appreciate it if you like and subscribe to the Oprah podcast on YouTube or wherever you podcast. It's just a quick tap of the subscribe button. And that way you won't miss an episode in your queue. You don't have to pay anything.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, so that a woman in a group like that doesn't feel so ashamed because I think there's so much shame attached to it. Absolutely. Because you're trying to create this facade that everything's okay and you're so ashamed. Absolutely. So creating the space where women can feel comfortable.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“But if you suspect that someone that you know is in this situation, what should you say to them? What do you think you should say to them?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, I thank you for writing this book, and I thank you for being here for this critical conversation and for helping us to see that we need to do better because the stats are getting worse, not better. And all of the talk about self empowerment, we need to do a better job of looking out for each other and especially for other women in our lives. So thank you so much, Susan. Thank you, Dasmond, Rob and Maddie, for allowing us to see the devastating impact that this has had on your families and Rachel's book no visible bruises what we don't know about domestic violence can kill us is available wherever books are sold. Normally after a conversation like this, you put up information about domestic violence hotline. It feels like it's one of those mandatory things people do and say.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Thank you. In the afterword, you write that you didn't think that you had a personal connection to domestic violence until you did. Tell us what happened.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, That's so true. If you know somebody's crazy enough to make this happen, what's a restraining order going to do, right? We're wishing all the best for you and your family as you go forward. Thank you, Rob and Maddie, and we thank you for sharing your family's story. Thank you. Thank you.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“What is a message or the wake up call you want people to take away from your family's tragedy? What can we learn from you all?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, the children who were in their home at the time of the murders are now, I understand, just four and one, how are they doing and where are they?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That they were going on with their lives That they were going to, and he never indicated to you, your brother, that it was a problem. The children”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's how he felt. What is that? What have you found in your research? I sent a chilled on my spine because I've heard that in other stories that a man saying, In the case I'm thinking of, I'm going to buy the house across the street from you, and he tried to. He tried to. And I think it's one of the most important things I tell when I do speaking, I tell domestic violence agencies make sure when you are doing your trainings that you are inviting the local clergy, that you are inviting local HR departments, that you are inviting the social workers from high school. Like we've got to bring in other systems and other people. I just feel so awful and it was so recent in your case. And I mean, I read about it in the newspaper as well. And he had broken into the house weeks before, right”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“This is what I don't understand, and maybe you all don't either. I don't understand the person is beating you up, the person is, you know, obviously enraged, and then has this need to believe that you are mine, right? Because hadn't he said to her, Rob, or maybe she told you this, I read this, that you will never be married to anybody else but me, you are mine.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah and which is interesting because Rachel says in no visible bruises that there is no end date, right? There is there is no end date. Unlike war, natural disaster, any kind of criminal act, there's no end a for domestic violence. That's, I think, what so many of our systems don't.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Did you know that the exhusband was an abuser? Yeah, and Rob, I understand as soon as you heard what happened, you knew who was responsible. What did she say about her ex-husband, Monique? What did she say?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“National headlines, Spincer's sister Maddie and her husband Rob joined us now from Ohio, Maddie and Rob, we are all so sorry, really, for your family's loss. But hopefully this story helps bring light to somebody else's story who's listening, been listening to us, Rachel has written a book about it and has been through many, many, many, many, many cases, very much like yours. Maddie, tell us a little about your brother and his wife.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Thank you. We appreciate you. Next, I talked to the family of the murder victims recently in the headlines, a couple fatally shot in their Ohio home by the women's ex husband. We'll be right back, speaking to their family next. Thanks for joining me on the Oprah podcast. I'm talking with author and journalist Rachel Louise Snyder about why domestic violence is on the rise. If you know someone who may benefit from listening to this conversation, please share the link to this episode. It may just save their life. This past December Spincer and Monique Teppi were fatally shot in their Columbus, Ohio home in the middle of the night while their two young children slept nearby. You all might have seen that story or heard about that story. Eleven days later authorities arrested doctor Michael McGee Monique's ex husband. He is currently charged with murder and has pled not guilty.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know what I think is so important what Dasmond just said because as I was reading from Rachel's book earlier, so many women think they have to stay in the relationship because they don't want the broken home. And I think that's... Dasmond describing his eighty year old self underneath the covers and the fear that So, thank you both. Thank you. Thank you for joining me. Thanks”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, I wish, as I said to Dasmond, I continue to think about you, and I wish you both just goodness and mercy, and thank you so much for sharing, and you know, and I'm sure you've heard this yourself because anytime I've ever brought up your story, people were so moved by your story so many women found the courage to get up and leave and make a plan for themselves, begin to make a plan for themselves, and eventually leave because of hearing your story and because of that interview I did with young eight-year-old Cutie Pie Dasmond at the time and your willingness to liberate yourself allowed a lot of other women to get free for themselves.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It sucks to see, but it's great to see you. It is great to see you. Yeah, and I wish you nothing but goodness. Goodness and mercy may it follow you all the days of your life goodness and mercy. Susan, what message do you want abuse victims to take away from your story? You can come out on the other side. It's wonderful to see you and your beautiful son.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“How do you think, Desmond, what you witnessed in your home, the terror, and the fear? I mean, you just described, you know, your eight-year-old self hiding under the blanket and, you know, blocking so many things out. How did that shape who you are today?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The last time we spoke, you told me you couldn't forgive your father for what he'd done until you'd spoken with him. Are you still in that space? Do you Do you even want to forgive?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, you know, I remember talking to you and also talking to your son Dasmond, who was just eight years old when that videotape was made. Dasmond joins us. It's nice to see you again here. Oh my gosh, we got to put your little boy face up there compared to now. Thanks for being here. What are your memories of that time? What are your memories of that time? Was that a tough question?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Every time it happened, you think maybe it won't happen again, or did you reach a point where you realized it's always going to happen again?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Can you share with us because Rachel has talked about no visible bruises and shared a bit here about how it starts with the controlling with the don't want to, I don't want you to drive, I don't want you to work. I know you were working and one of the reasons why he was convicted is because your co-workers saw you coming in bruised and it was your co-worker who kept a record of what had happened that actually allowed him to be put away. So tell us how did it start?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And what do you think when you see yourself? I'm sure you're not going around looking at that tape, but you certainly have a memory of yourself in that position, in that docile, subservient position. What do you think of yourself and what do you want to say to that woman in that tape?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So in two thousand four your ex husband was sentenced to thirty six years in prison, the longest sentence ever at the time imposed for non lethal domestic violence in New York State at that time and understand that he was released in 2021 after serving seventeen years of that sentence. How has his release impacted you and your family?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, because I always worried about your son who was filming that, how that would affect his life, affect his view of himself.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“As I said, I've done thousands of shows and thousands of interviews, but your story and the story of your boys, you know, always remains with me. And anytime I talk about this subject of domestic violence, or as Rachel has said, the word is really terrorism. Don't you think that's a better word? Terrorism.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, after we aired Susan's story on the Oprah Show, operators from the National Domestic Violence Hotline reported that they received three times the number of phone calls than normal, and they had to hire extra people. Susan now joins us via Zoom. Hi, Susan. Hi.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Susan says simply asking her husband if he'd like a sandwich set him off. With her oldest son, 13, on the other side of the linge, and her eight-year-old son also in the room, Susan's husband calls her stupid 23 times, Heifer 28 times, among other dehumanizing names.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The videotape records 51 minutes of fear for more than 40 of those minutes, Susan stands in the same spot, desperately trying to avoid”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Hi and welcome back to a difficult but important conversation about domestic violence, a silent epidemic impacting more women than you may have realized. Well, one of the stories, you know, I did 4,561 shows. I've interviewed over 35,000 people one-on-one. And so a lot of things get buried in my memory, but there is one woman's story that nearly 20 years ago I had a conversation with this woman, Susan, who was a mother of three who had endured seventeen years of physical and emotional abuse by her husband. Her story was especially shocking. It shocked our whole audience because her thin husband, Rachel, forced her thirteen year old son to videotape the violence. So there we see her son on camera filming it, and I want to give warning that this footage is a physical and verbal abuse and may be difficult to watch.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“After a quick break we catch up with a woman I met on the Oprah Show, whose story is seared in my memory. Susan endured seventeen years of physical and emotional abuse. Her husband even forced her then thirteen year old son to record the abuse on camera. We'll be right back”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And so they love the power and the control and the, I'm the one, if you're not going to be with me, you're not going to be with anybody. Right.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's not something that can be resolved. That's for me. But you just decide one day I'm not going to do it anymore. Absolutely.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“These guys. I think, and also in no visible bruises, one of the things you talk about is when you ask law enforcement, do you think that men can be rehabilitated from violence and change? They say no. And women who are abused say they hope so, but the men themselves say yes. And I think yes is the answer, but it takes a lot of work. And I think for any woman who's living with an abusive husband, unless that person or an abusive spouse or partner or brother or whomever, if that person isn't willing to seek help for it, they're not going to resolve it on their own.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So interesting, he had said to me either before that or after that every time he hit his spouse, he would tell himself it will never happen again. It will never happen again. I won't do it again. This is the last time this is the last time. And feel terrible afterwards. And I thought that's what every addict feels. And so I was wondering, in your interviews and conversations with men who've abused, does it feel like an addiction for them? Does it feel like something they can't control?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I know, I know, I know. I remember having an aha moment years ago when I was talking to this man named Zeke, and I remember walking into the room with all these guys who, you know, were in this program supposedly for rehabbing. And they all looked so like normal.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So 60% of the cases people have been strangled. You spent years conducting interviews and sitting in on group sessions with abusers, and what surprised you about the men you encountered, the men who were the abusers.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So research reveals that 60% of domestic violence victims are strangled, which dramatically increases the chance of violence in the home. Why is strangulation often the last step before homicide?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Right. But what I want women to do is to see the signs early. I mean, one of the things that I said for years and years and years on the show, and I think it did have an impact because I know a lot of people have since told me that they left when they realized that love doesn't hurt. Love doesn't hurt. And you allude to this literally in the preface, I think this is so profound. You say, we live in a culture in which we are told our children must have a father, that a relationship is the ultimate goal. It's already broken. He's hitting you in front of your children. It's already broken. Right.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“What did she do to try to get herself out? Yes. Because every woman knows that you can't make a sudden move, that it's a process to try to get yourself out.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Wrote that so profoundly that I just thought, wow, you're living with a rattlesnake in your house. And you're willing to live with a rattlesnake in your house. But then you brought up a point because we all have asked this question over the years. Why do you stay, why do you stay? And you say we should be asking the question, why is he violent?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Our listeners tell us that the podcast is resonating with you and is serving as a bright spot in your day. That means a lot to me. So here's the thing. I would really appreciate it if you like and subscribe to the Oprah podcast on YouTube or wherever you podcast. It's just a quick tap of the subscribe button and that way you won't miss an episode in your queue. You don't have to pay anything. I know subscribe usually means you're paying something, but this time it means you just are notified when there's something new. There are many more to come that we're excited about. So thank you for watching and listening. Thank you for listening to the Oprah podcast when we come back. Award winning journalist Rachel Louise Snyder shares the harrowing story of a twenty three year old woman killed by her own husband. Welcome back to the Oprah Podcast. I'm talking with bestselling author Rachel Louise Snyder. Her book No Visible Bruises opened up a new.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think the word domestic violence also just marginalizes the experience that so many women have because it makes it feel like he slapped her or they were arguing there was an argument that went on and you know it does not In any way articulate the terrorism that you spoke of, nor the amount of devastation and fear that a woman lives in.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So you say for most of human history, I was surprised by this too. I knew it, but I hadn't absorbed it, that for most of human history, society didn't even recognize domestic violence as being wrong. I mean, that, and still in other parts of the world, it's perfectly legal to beat your wife, beat your spouse.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Are you surprised, as I was surprised when I read your book, I was surprised that I'd been talking about it all these years and there have been multiple articles about it and people have talked about it and movies about it and that the stats were one out of four in the 80s and now they're one out of two now. Are you surprised that we've gone backwards?”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And you're walking on eggshells and you don't know which one is going to slightly crack that day and send totally. The person off on a tangent that you couldn't even imagine. Yeah.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. So, as I said, you spend all this time interviewing victims and law enforcement and abuses themselves. And you say, if you get nothing else from this today, I hope we can make the shift in our culture. You say the term domestic violence, which I've used over the years everybody uses, does not accurately describe what happens to women. What does? What is the term we should be using”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And so my thing is, and you know this too, because you have spent eight years interviewing victims and law enforcement and abusers themselves, that the moment it starts, that's when you should put it in check.”
2026-06-23 · The Oprah Podcast · Domestic Violence Crisis Now Impacts 1 in 2 Women, with Oprah and author Rachel Louise Snyder · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT