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Reshma Saujani

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“He does. He does understand. I mean, he does understand. He gets mad at me sometimes. Why are you always fighting for girls and moms? What about the boys? You know, it's funny, I would bring him everywhere from being on the daily show or giving a commencement speech. And so he's seen Mama lead and speak. And he knows that I'm helping people. And I think it's in many ways. He always said that he wants to be a kindness engineer, that he wants to, you know, be an engineer to help people. And maybe get, hopefully, I'm going to take credit for that a little bit because I think he sees that, you know, in the work that I do Yeah, he's an old soul.”
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“Know if I've had a day, but I've definitely had a couple hours. And I think the last time was I actually got to visit my son's school for the very first time in the pandemic. And my son is a little Gandhi. He is like the kindest little soul. And just being able to watch him and him show me his things and just seeing him interact in the joy and like the confidence and the kindness. And I could have sat there all day. And it felt like, again, a minute because I think I was so happy.”
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“Basically, this propaganda that we're not good enough, that we're not smart enough, that we don't belong. And the real resistance in this moment is saying no more. I'm not reading those books. I'm not taking those courses. I'm not taking that class. I'm not buying into that bullshit. I'm I can lead to”
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“How did I become this woman when I used to be that girl? And I remember thinking, yeah, it's because I've been in every single powerful room. I've met every single CEO, every president, every prime minister. And when I meet them, I'm like, you? You're running what? Me and my girls, we can run circles around you. And I realized that it's never been about whether we're qualified, whether we're prepared, whether we're ready. That we've really never, really dissected all of the undeserved, unearned privilege that so many people have. and that we have literally bought and been fed, you know.”
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“And I used to be that girl at Yale Law School in my constitutional law class going like this. And a few years ago, I got asked to give a speech at Bill Gates' summit. And the slot that they had given me was between Bill Gates and Warren Buffett. And it was the only speech that anyone was giving. It was a summit of Fortune 100 CEO. So you can imagine who was in the room. And I remember them saying, you know, this is a really hard speaking slot, Rashma, because most people are really intimidated because Bill and Warren are sitting in the front row. And it can be a little scary. And I remember as I was sitting there in the backstage, they had given me 10 minutes to speak. I remember thinking, man, I wish they gave me 12 because I really had some more stuff to say. And then I remember thinking, how did I become...”
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“And so what I am saying in many ways is really radical. And it's very deeply seated in us. And it's not just, it's women, it's people of color, it's poor people. Anybody who is not, who has really had to do grit perseverance, found themselves in rooms that people don't look like them. We're still asking ourselves, do I belong here? Should I be here? And we're constantly being fed information, book, podcasts, movies that tell ourselves that we just have to change one more thing about ourselves, that we have to fix one more thing. And, you know, it's just simply not true. I always say that I feel so lucky that, you know, through the work that I've done, I've been able to be in almost every single powerful room. I've probably met every single powerful person in the world.”
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“Rather than change things, that we live in a world where we respect and we dignify women and girls. We're not there yet. You know, we're so far from being there in many ways. And I think part of it, again, is because of the things that we've sold women, that we've basically told women that the problem is you. Think about all the books that women read confidence code. I got to learn how to do a power pose. I gotta lean in all of it is about women thinking that you're wrong. The amount of times that women come to me and say, I have imposter syndrome. I'm like, no, no, no. They didn't let you in. You're in there because you are the best. Now you're made to feel like you snuck through the back door.”
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“So we have true equality, you know, that little girls can be everything and anything, honestly, you know, that they can be president or prime minister, that they can launch a company, you know, and get seed funding, that they can be a scientist, that they can literally, or they can be a stay-at-home mom, that they can be whoever and whatever that they want. And I think my hope for mothers is that they too don't see their biggest dreams die in the vine. that they don't live a life of regret and envy and should have been, would have been because they let things happen to them.”
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“That are about protecting our kids. Mothers against drunk driving, mothers who are marching against gun reform, mothers that are trying to protect the climate. But there isn't a movement of mothers fighting for moms. You know, I tell people all the time, you can't change the lives of girls unless you change the future of women.”
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“Else. That's not what vacations look like. My vacation, everyone's fighting with each other, and we're screaming tell the truth. About what it looks like. And that's how we begin to shift, I think, the cultural image of motherhood and we shift from being martyrs, you know, to being respected and to being valued. But like, you know, again, I think motherhood needs a refresh across the world. And then finally, it's really about advocating for change. We just went through, you know, in the US, you know, we just went through the president kind of proposing policies and nothing got changed. We didn't get, you know, United States is one of the only nations that doesn't have paid leave. You know, we don't have affordable child care. In the UK, you have a parental income. We don't have those things. We need to really make structural change that comes from the government to really make lasting change. And we, you know, as working women have to learn how we fight for ourselves. You know, we have so many movements.”
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“Corporate policies. The third thing I talk about in this book is about how do you revise the culture? Again, it's so normal for women, for example, to hide their motherhood. I remember when I became a mom and my team was like, great, like you should be a mom bogger. I'm like, no, anything but a mom. You know, moms are seen as like, you know, again, you know, when you become a mother, you're seen as like, you don't no longer care about your career. It's like where you go to die. And I think we have to start shifting that and we have to start parenting out loud. You know, you shouldn't be hiding your kids from your workplace. You shouldn't be apologizing when your kids interrupt your Zoom call. You shouldn't be waiting to the last possible second to say that you're pregnant. Because you're worried that your employer is going to discriminate against you. You know, we have to really start parenting out loud and being honest about that. You go on Instagram and you see pictures of mothers and their kids and they're all beautiful and they're wearing matching.”
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“Probably again across the country, across the world is about you should get a mentor, you should get a sponsor, all of the programming that we do around women's empowerment is about fixing women. It needs to be about fixing workplaces. You know, why don't companies offer childcare? Why don't companies mandate paid leave for men so that you're, again, doing childbearing from the beginning, you get the ratio right? You get the equation right. Why are we still fighting flexibility in remote working? Why are we still trying to demand that men and women commute two hours and not see their children or their pets or their elderly parents? You know, why are we resisting again? You know, what we've learned from the pandemic and forcing ourselves back to the old normal. And how do we push against this? And again, shift.”
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“Shifting employers. I am literally just like I was with girls, I am on a mission to get companies to start subsidizing childcare, you know, in the United States and then in the world. You know, in the US, childcare is like the largest expense for families. Most families pay more for childcare than they pay for their mortgage. And right now, less than 10% of companies subsidize childcare. We often think of child care as your personal problem. But childcare is an economic issue. And so I am, you know, building this national business coalition to get companies to start paying for people's childcare. They pay for people's egg freezing and IVF. They should be paying when you take care, you know, I mean, when you have a child. And so how are we shifting again this idea of, you know, what employers should be doing? You know, it's women's history month last month. And so many of the conversations we were having.”
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“Yeah, so look, I mean, empower is really about like women are always told, like, you should just meditate more or do yoga. And if you do that, you'll feel really good. And so I didn't want to take those kind of dated, you know, again, fix the woman stuff. But really, what are some like non-negotiables? And so one of the things I talk about in the book is this idea of creating tangible boundaries. And so like in my house, you know, my husband does the nights and I do the mornings. And if I'm sitting around watching Netflix at six, he'll be like, hey, can you change a diaper? Can you warm up with a bottle? So at six o'clock, I just bounce. I go for dinner by myself. You know, I go out with my friends. I walk, but I'm just, my point is I'm gone. And so I've created that boundary so that I don't get roped into doing more of that unpaid labor than I need to. And so I think that the need to create boundaries for all of us is really critical. You know, the second piece is really about how are we.”
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“He didn't want anything. You don't get it. It doesn't matter because you never wanted it. And so, you know, that has been a really big gift for me in really staying focused because if I'm put on this earth to be a warrior and my job right now is to fight for mothers to get them respected and dignified and to change workplaces, you know, so that they work for women and that this is the once opportunity to make that structural change. Then everything I'm saying yes to is about furthering that. My service for the people.”
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“The Githa is basically our kind of religious book in Hinduism, but it's really a book about spirituality and about how do you stay really focused on what you're meant to do in this earth and not get distracted by all the shiny things. And that's really important to me as I kind of enter this stage of my life of, again, staying very focused on what I'm on this earth to do and not getting distracted by all the shiny things. One of the things that Keitha says is like, it doesn't make sense that human wants, that humans want things because all you're doing is inviting yourself for disappointment.”
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“So, two things. I think one, impact. And two, I love, listen, I love people who are starting up and who I know that if I go on their podcast or if I have them interview me, I will be the most famous guest that they have and it will help them. I like to be that person. And sometimes my team will be like, Rashm, you don't have time to do something. No, no, no. These are the ones that are actually. Most important to me. And because someone did that for me. And that's how I'm sitting here with you today. And then I think the other, I, again, I think going back, I've been studying the Bhagavad Gita, which has, again, been a gift I gave myself this year because it's been something I've been wanting to do for a long time.”
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“And then, of course, my friends were like, the real one, my husband's like, the real one? I was like, Yes, the real one. But it was so. Amazing One getting that because that I had been chasing them for so long and finally they asked me. But to it was Exactly, I wasn't chasing it.”
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“We would be honored if you'd be our commencement speaker. Now, Stephen, like the commencement speakers are normally like Hillary, Barack, you know what I mean?”
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“of like, you know, three, four talks a day, getting on planes, doing the thing, not sleeping as much, eating too many chocolate chip cookies. But I think my habits. And have been much more healthier than they've ever been. I'm also really practicing not wanting things. I think growing up as an immigrant, I needed credentials. I needed value. I needed those degrees. I needed that validation. I needed those accolades. And I was always chasing the next big thing. And it's funny as I sit here, there's nothing I want. There's no title I want. There's no award I want. There's no recognition I want. And when I start catching myself wanting things, I pull back. You know, I told you I was just applied to Yale Law School three times before I got in. And I got a call last November from the president of Yale Singh.”
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“To do this Up here, I gotta, but no, it's like. Maybe I won't get this chance again, but oh well. And it's really liberating. And so I think the only reason why I'm a six, quite frankly, is I'm in the middle of a book tour. And so I've definitely been orientating more towards old Rushma.”
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“And then trying to take the red eyes to be home for my babies. And I don't do that anymore. You know, I say no. I realize that like. It's not that this opportunity is going to go away. I didn't realize that before. You know what I mean? I was like, I got to do this. I got to show.”
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“I would say take a break, you know, or do things for yourself. And listen, I think I'm much better at that. So I got one of the best things I got for myself was a whoop. So I'm like obsessed about my sleep. And to the extent that I will go to bed at 8 a.m. or leave a dinner early, because I know that if I'm getting eight hours of sleep, I am my best version. I try to play tennis three times a week. I love tennis. I'm horrible at it. But I love it. You know, I... Try to have fun. I went to a Justin Beaver concert last weekend. I do date night. I got girls' trips planned. I make more time for myself. I don't get on, but basically for 10 years as I was building girls or code, I would probably do two to three flights a week.”
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“I would say that I am a I would say that I am a six. Now, I mean, I'm exhausted. I'm not gonna lie. I think the, I think, two little kids, now two and seven, you know, the pandemic has been crushing. You know, my seven-year-old eats his clothes because he's anxious. You know, my two-year-old, you know, can't talk yet. He's got asthma. He gets sick all the time because now the masks have come out and now his son, his brother doesn't have one. So he's getting sick. So, you know, our kids have really been traumatized because of the pandemic. And now we're traumatized. And so I do think that like, and I think a lot of the women in my life, I think we just need a beat. Like I wish they would announce like a national vacation for like a month.”
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“They're broken right now. And young people feel like they can easily talk about their mental health and how they're feeling. But it is not again, you don't hear mothers talk about that. We're not supposed to. We're supposed to be martyrs, essentially, or have it all together. And so there's no outlet for us. I say in my book when working women make a list, it's like their kids, you know, their partner, their pet, and then themselves. We are last on the list. We do no self-care and society doesn't, you know, doesn't expect that we should be doing that. It's seen as being a bad mom or being selfish when we spend time on ourselves.”
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“That you basically have to meet, and it's exhausting. And it's why we have a mental health crisis. You know, 51% of mothers say that they're anxious and depressed. The CDC released a study saying that the subgroup that is suffering the most anxiety and depression are working women. You're seeing this in the UK. It's an alcoholism, adderall addiction. It is on the rise. Rising suicide rates of mothers. Mothers don't break.”
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“It's because we're in this moment of intensive parenting. Think about our parents didn't even know where I applied to college. They didn't know what I was doing at homework. It was just like, go raise yourself, right? Now, you know, we're taking our kids to Spanish, Hindi, and Chinese. You're learning three languages, going to piano class, you know, basketball class. We're constantly on top of our kids because that is the societal expectation that we have to intensively parent our children at the expense of our own mental health. And we also have to be completely on as workers. Again, we're in this hustle culture where you're constantly driving, driving, driving, you know, at work. And so if you're a working woman, You have these two huge expectations”
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“and the unconscionable choices that mothers, mothers of color have to make every single day Because we don't make it possible for them to be mothers and have a job. And so that is when I was just like, All of this girl boss equalities expression to court and office, it's just all about you was like, that's a lie. And I've been selling this lie for the past 10 years. And if we're really going to get to equality, we have to fix the systems.”
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“And I kind of had that same sense that I had when I started Girls With Code Like, this is a problem that needs solving. Again, especially for women like our mothers. You know, my mom, when I was a kid, I was a latchkey kid from the time I was seven. And my parents couldn't afford the $50 a week for childcare. And so from the time my sister and I were seven and ten, she would pick me up from middle school and we would go home. Now, my memory told you that we lived in this neighborhood that didn't really want any brown families there. So we wouldn't walk home. We would run home. And then we would open up the door and close it and we would hide in the closet because we were terrified. And I think about how my mother felt every day at 3.45, knowing that her babies were running home because they couldn't afford.”
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“And then people on the right will motherhood's a choice. So you don't get to have affordable child care or paid leave or any structural support because you chose to be a mom. And it was the first time I was like, wow. Motherhood is controversial.”
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“Is the president going to get on and announce the plan that we're going to have to make sure that we don't devastate decades of feminism? And so there was no plan. And that's what really inspired me to start this most. I wrote an op-ed. I often, Stephen, when I get angry, write. And then just post things, post articles. And I made the mistake. I actually, it was the best thing that ever happened is I read the comment section. And my op ed was that we need a Marshall Plan for moms. And when I read the combat section, people on the left were like, well, what about the dads? And I was like, even though, again, men had not been pushed out of the labor force because this was from a data perspective solely affecting women.”
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“And then the second thing was you started seeing, again, over the course of the pandemic, 11 million women leave the workforce. And I knew from building girls who code because, you know, girls who code, I was trying to solve the gender gap in technology. But what people forget is that we didn't always have a gender gap in technology, that in the 1980s, we were pretty much almost at parity. And then we pushed women out. And so similarly here, you can't have women be 51% of the labor force and then become, you know, in the 40s, again, percent of the labor force and have all those women leave in nine months and think that it's an on and off switch. So I remember like, well, where's the plan?”
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“I thought two things came to my mind. The first one which was incredibly naive, like, aren't they going to ask me? Because, you know, in the United States, we have these time and use surveys. And so we knew in the early months of the pandemic who was doing the homeschooling. It was women. And so we knew that if we made a policy like closing down the schools, that it was invariably going to force millions of women to leave the workforce because they couldn't supplement their paid labor. They were going to have to supplement their paid labor for unpaid labor. And so the fact that someone that I don't even know. Can make a decision that could affect my life on a dime. Terrified me.”
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“Everything will be fine. And I remember when September came and I got that letter from our Department of Education, my son goes to public school in New York City, they announced this thing called hybrid learning, where you got to log on your kid at 9 o'clock, 10 o'clock, and 11 o'clock, all the while maintaining your full-time job.”
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“Well, listen, I mean, I as a mom, you know, found myself 2020, you know, start of the year with girls who code having a Super Bowl ad. I was going to teach more girls than I ever had before. I was having my second baby finally, you know, via surrogate. And so I was really looking forward to once I was born, just spending that time with him and just hugging him and kissing him and staring at him because I had missed carrying him in the womb. A few weeks later, the pandemic hit and I found myself having to take care of my newborn homeschool my six-year-old and save my nonprofit girls who code from being shut down. Because when pandemics hit the first resources to go are to women and girls, my whole leadership team were bothly working women. And what we were saying to each other on the Zoom chat was just hold on. Hold on. Because when September comes and the schools open,”
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“Why are you not supposed to be sad at work? Why are you not supposed to cry? Where did these values show up? And how do we get them out?”
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“Because I think that book was also about corporate feminism, about fixing the woman and not fixing the structure. And look, I acknowledge that in the book, that, you know, what I used to say is, you know, while we're fixing the institutions, let's figure out how we can fix ourselves, i.e., you know, unlearning perfectionism and orientating yourself towards bravery. But I really believe that, Stephen. You know, I really bought into that, that we could get to equality, you know, that it was really about the power pose, you know, and the color coding of your calendar and the delegating more and the not crying in the bathroom and all the things that you were supposed to do to be a leader. And I think that's what women have been told. And so we were never looking at, well, what's wrong with the structure? Why? And Fergus Ambro going back to my experience I was telling you about fertility, you know, why do we do performance reviews and that wellness reviews?”
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“Hey, I had no heartbeat and I went and gave speech. Like, that's almost like what we think we're supposed to do to lead. That's strength. And I think we have to completely revise what that means and what it means to be a leader. And it means, you know, empathy. I too, you know, was leading Girls who could during the pandemic and had to lay off a bunch of people. And until that point, I had never cried in front of my team. And I would just cry and cry. And then I would get mad at myself for about crying. But then I'd be like, no, no, no. That's exactly what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to cry. You're supposed to show vulnerability. You're supposed to say, hey, guys, I just got some incredibly horrible news. I'm not coming to work. That's often seen as a sign of weakness, and we have to make that a sign of strength.”
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“Well, I mean, I think the thing is that I think many of us live in this up and then crash And that's what we think is the way that you're supposed to live. And I think you need to live always healthy, meaning like you have to put your personal mental health and your personal. First. And so don't wait for rock bottom to hit. See the signs early on and take those breaks, take that time off, you know, take a nap, whatever it is that you need to do, don't live in that same way anymore. But it's hard because, again, the entire girl boss culture, the entire kind of lean-in culture, the entire CEO culture is about living that way. It's almost like a badge of honor.”
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“And so for me, I got that really wrong. Really wrong. And I don't want people. And part of what I'm grateful for is people didn't know. Because, you know, I'm also in the responsibility of a lot of young women who work for me. And I don't want them to think that that's”
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“And so it wasn't until, you know, I think when it became too much of the way that I was leading and living. And by the time after I had my first and the second, my second child, the same pattern started becoming, I remember, one time I got, I was in San Francisco and I had to go fly to Utah. And same thing, you know, doctor calls and says, you know, your levels don't look good. You're going to miscarry soon. And I got on that plane to Utah and I had to sit down with the governor of Utah. Again, another thousand girls. And then I just broke down. And I remember I assembled my team and I said I can't do this anymore. I am taking a couple months off or a month off. I need you to run this organization. This is what is happening in my life and has been happening. Every picture, every TED talk, when I look at me standing with President Obama or the TED Talk, I think about the tragedy or the baby that was quite frankly dying inside of me.”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I'd have to go to the doctor's office. My husband and I for the 11-12 week-in. And I'd have something planned in the evening introducing President Obama, speaking to a thousand girls, doing a fundraising dinner. And the doctor at three o'clock would say, I'm sorry, Mr. Johnny, we don't hear a heartbeat. And instead of saying, hey guys, I can't show up. I'd say, okay, I cry. My husband would be like, Rashma, go home. And I'd be like, I got to show up at this thing. And I'd show up. And I would did that for. Seven years, six years, seven years where it just, and I would remember it would stand there in front of the crowd and be like, something's wrong with me. The fact that I can do this, and I would be oftentimes standing in front of a thousand little girls, the little girl that I desperately wanted.”
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“I would so I think what I got really wrong was the personal. You know, at the same time, I was trying to build girls with code. I was trying to have a baby. And I had more miscarriages than I can count. And I got into this habit at Girls who Code very again. So, you know, I launched Girls of Code. I'm launching my campaign. I have my first miscarriage. And I think when you have your first miscarriage, you think, oh, is this a fluke? And then I had a series of them. But I would literally, you know, then I'm heads down building girls with code. And again, I think when you are a social entrepreneur and you're building something, the work is never done. And it's always at the sacrifice of others. And you always are giving, giving, giving, giving. And I would get into, I got into this habit where...”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“She emails me. Tereka emails me at five, being like, oh my God, you must be over. I'm so overwhelmed with all the messages that I've gotten congratulating me for being the new CEO of Girls or Code. You must also, and I didn't want to make her feel back, she's such a wonderful person. I was like, yeah. And I realized that that moment because I wasn't the head bitch in charge anymore, right? I wasn't the CEO anymore. And so it was a wonderful, though, lesson a little bit too about how much of that is coming from who you are. And how much of that is really this? You don't know until you die”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Oh my God, you know. You do. I do too. But you know what's fine? I'm going to tell you this I stepped off as CEO a year ago because I also never believed that anyone should do anything for too long. And I had built the organization. I had the money in the bank. I had a vision. I had an amazing woman that I wanted to take the reins for me. And the day we make the announcement, my chief of staff glory is like, okay, I brush, I'm going to block off two to four because you're going to get inundated with so many messages. Congratulating you, thanking you for your service. And I was like, okay, yes, I'm ready for it. Trick and I make the announcement nothing.”
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“I'm better now because I just send flowers. So it's like Know what? Because I don't need it. And maybe I tell myself I don't need it. People don't say to me on a daily basis, good job.”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I don't believe in jobs. But for some people, it's the job. But I don't believe in jobs. So what do they say if you have the triangle, right? You have eight people. Every organization has top A people. And so, and also I was just telling you about my father that sent me the 10-page email or, you know, about all the things I did wrong, I wasn't good at great job. You for doing that Because I was in this was church, this was religion. And so I got better at these things. One of the things I was always good at, though, was hiring people who were smarter than me. Never had an ego about, I want to be the one. And so I had really amazing people from the beginning who, as they say, knew how to speak Reshm”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I do have a passion filter. Yeah, but then when you become a thousand people, you're not going to get everybody who's going to have that same passion and that same intensity.”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Better know I got big vision and I want to get it done. And I work all the time. And I don't stop. And I'm always pushing. And I believe in many ways I'm an evangelist. And I believe in so it is my gospel. Girls are pro was my life, my gospel, my religion. And so I think if you're going to come work for me, it's your religion too.”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, I mean, one, I didn't know what I was doing, you know. And like I'd never built a large-scale organization like that. And so, you know, I had one of the good things was that I had a board that believed in me. Always build your first board as family and friends because everybody then is wanting you to succeed. And so they really protected me. Like I am, I'm intense. And if you're going to come work for me, you know, it's going to be intense. I you know, I don't I'm better now but”
2022-06-06 · The Diary of a CEO · How I Taught Millions Of Women The Most Important Skill: Girls Who Code Founder: Reshma Saujani · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT