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Robert Waldinger

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“No, they're not, they're not partly because relationships are the background. I mean, if you think about it, we've never known the world without relationships. Most of us. Most of us do not live in solitude. And so there have always been people around, which means we tend to take relationships for granted. And it's only when you pull back and you look at thousands of lives that we saw these powerful effects, the differences between people who had good relationships and people who didn't. Most of us are, you know, it's like that old joke about the two fish swimming along and the older fish swims by and says, hey boys, how's the water? And one fish turns to the other and says, What's water? And, you know, we're in this swirl of relationships all the time that we take for granted. And so it's particularly difficult for us to understand that”
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“It could be, and we think that has to do with stimulation of brain pathways. So the thing that makes relationships a little scary and risky because people are unpredictable, is also the thing that stimulates our brains. So when I came in here, you and I had never met. So I was going to talk to you. I didn't know what you'd be like, right? I didn't know what the questions would be like. But that's good for my brain because you've got my brain running on a lot of different circuits. And that's stimulating my brain circuits. That's a good thing. You, I think, are preventing me from becoming demented earlier.”
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“Only is as dangerous to your health as smoking half a pack of cigarettes a day or of being obese. And so what we know is that there are these very real concrete effects of social isolation and loneliness that damage us as we go through adult life.”
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“All of those indices dropped off, we stopped investing in other people, and it seemed to coincide in the US with the introduction of television into the American home. And then he went back in the early two thousands and did the same survey again. All of those parameters had dropped off further, so what he's shown is that we're becoming much more isolated, certainly in the United States, but also in the UK and in the developed world particularly. And it seems to have a lot to do with social mobility. It seems to have a lot to do with digital media and forms of entertainment, many different causes, but the net effect is that we are becoming more isolated. And to your question, there's an investigator, Julianne Holt Lundstad, who studies loneliness and what she has estimated is that.”
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“Yes. We haven't seen that decay, but there are many other studies that have, and in fact There's a sociologist named Robert Putnam at Harvard, actually, who wrote a book in the eighties called Bowling Alone, in which he studied what he called our investment in social capital, like how much do we join clubs, go to churches and mosques and synagogues?”
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“Oh yes, absolutely. We get socialized all the time. In fact, there's some research on adolescent boys, and the research suggests that younger boys have close friends and they emotionally confide in each other. And then as those teenage boys get older, they stop doing that. And there's some idea that it's not considered manly to do that. So the boys stop doing it. The girls continue to do it because they've been socialized that it's okay, that it's feminine, it's perfectly reasonable for a girl and a woman to confide in other people, whereas manly men don't do that. And that's one of the stereotypes in the ways that we're raised that hopefully is subsiding. that there are more ways to feel like a real boy or real man that include emotional engagement with other people.”
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“Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so it literally involves a process of learning sometimes for many men to learn to say it's okay. And one of the things we know is that men often have an aversive physiologic reaction during arguments that make them want to withdraw so that the same kind of fight or flight mode for men make them want to hang back and for women may make them want to engage. And that's a little bit trickier. The science is a little trickier in that regard, but there's some idea that that's part of what goes on for us gender-wise.”
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“That's right, they are less likely to open up. In fact, when they've done studies of how couples argue with each other, they videotape them, what they see is that men are more likely to withdraw during an argument. And women are more likely to pursue to say look, I want to talk about this. And the man is likely to kind of clam up and literally sink back in his chair And so”
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“You know, so if I have something upsetting happen and I go home and complain to my wife, I can literally feel my body calm down. You know, if you have a friend you can call and you can talk about what was upsetting, you can literally feel that return to equilibrium. What we know happens is that people who are lonely, people who are socially isolated don't have that, and what we have been able to demonstrate is that they stay in a kind of fight or flight mode. So higher levels of stress hormones circulating like cortisol, higher levels of inflammation. And that's how we think, we're pretty sure that isolation, loneliness, or toxic relationships through stress can break down your coronary arteries, can break down your joints, can make it more likely that you'll get type two diabetes.”
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“So there are a lot of theories about this, but the best theory for which there's some good data has to do with stress, the idea that good relationships actually help us manage stress and help us manage negative emotion. So, you know, stress happens all day long, right? If I leave here and something upsetting happens, my body will literally change. My blood pressure will go up, my heart rate will increase, I might start to sweat, right? That's normal. The body goes into something called fight or flight mode. We're supposed to be able to do that because we want to prepare to meet a challenge. You know, evolutionarily, it's a good thing. But then when the stressor is removed, the body's meant to return to equilibrium.”
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“But some people couldn't list anyone, and some of those people who couldn't list anyone had romantic partners. Yeah. So you can be lonely in a romantic partnership, right? You can be isolated in an intimate relationship. So all that is to say that it is really the quality of a secure connection that we're talking about, that we think everybody needs at least one of in the world to get these kinds of benefits”
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“Men live twelve years longer on average if they're married and women live seven years longer on average if they're married. This is some studies in the United States. That said, it's not the marriage license. It's about an intimate connection. And you can have an intimate connection with somebody who's not a romantic partner, could be a good friend, could be a sibling, could be an adult child, so many things, you know, so many ways to have this. What we think is that everybody needs at least one person to whom they feel securely attached. Our original participants in our research, at one point we asked them, who could you call in the middle of the night if you were sick or scared? List everybody, and most people could list several people that they could call”
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“Unfortunately, I can, and because I just want to say that you do not need a romantic partner to get these benefits, because some people have said to me, well, if I don't have a romantic partner, should I just walk in front of the bus now and end it all, right? No, no, it's fine not to have a romantic.”
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“And I think that's where we may be able to help each other find things. So, you know, if you don't want to order the Kit Kat on Uber Eats, right, what could you do instead that might help, that might feel okay? And I think it's that, you know, if we think about alcoholics anonymous, one of the reasons why it works is it doesn't just say don't drink, it gives you a whole social network of people to support you, and it gives you activities to do and people to be with every hour of the day, right? And so what it does is it gives you something to put in place of that drink that you want to reach for. And even so, it's really hard. And so I think what we need to say is let's put in place some things to help us manage so that we don't reach for.”
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“You know, often it's not the Nancy Reagan strategy of just say no, right? You know, if you think about that, that discipline Can't just involve saying no, it has to involve having something to turn toward.”
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“So basically, by and large, we're trying to get rid of some of the less pleasant experiences of our momentary life, but they'll pass all by themselves if you just pay attention.”
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“It is difficult, and that's where suffering comes in. One of the things I see as a psychiatrist, but we all see this, is that people often want to change their state. They just want to change how they feel. There's this great cartoon I like. There's this meditator sitting on a cushion, and there's a thought bubble over his head. And what he's thinking is, I really do want to be in the moment, just not this moment. And if you think about all the ways in which we want to change our state by gambling, the excitement of gambling, or the sugar high we get when I get some delicious ice cream, or, you know, that it's a way of changing that kind of sense of malaise that comes over us moment to moment. And I think one of the things we can do instead is simply be present for that malaise and then watch it pass, which it does eventually.”
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“To exploit that brain. So then how can we be intentional enough to turn away from that software when we need to, right? When we need to turn toward each other, when we need to have real time. Contact with each other that so nourishing emotionally and psychologically, how can we keep from going down the rabbit hole that social media has evolved to keep us hooked on? Not because social media is evil, just because that's how they've developed in order for people to make a living.”
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“No, we can't leave the world, and the world is always going to keep changing. So, for example, sometimes we can demonize screens and we can demonize the digital revolution, that's not going away. But I think for me, the question is, how can we be as intentional as possible? That our brains evolved, as you're saying, they don't hate us, but they evolved in certain ways, and so they need correctives. Similarly, the digital world has evolved in certain ways. And so digital software is designed, digital media is designed to grab our attention and hold it.”
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“Exactly, exactly. The other thing is when I look at the animal world, I think, you know, think about all the ways that we get preoccupied with. Do I look right? Or, you know, am I dressed right? Or have I achieved enough, right? And then I look at birds and I think I bet they're not showing up well. And I do find that this practice of mine can get me there some of the time, not all the time, but some of the tim”
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“Well, what I find is when I put the comparisons aside, which I can sometimes, I'm so much more at peace You know, when someone says to me, do you know that so and so got this many views or so and so you know had this many likes on social media? I can feel a little part of myself get anxious or close off or start making that comparison that almost physically hurts a little bit. And when I let that go, if I can just sit and look at a tree for five minutes, I get a sense of equanimity that I can't get when I'm doing these small comparisons.”
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“And to compare ourselves because with that comes comparison, and we know that when we compare ourselves to others more frequently during the day, we are less happy.”
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“And if I really let that sink into my bones, that's scary. And so I'd rather write a book with my name on it. I'd rather, you know, endow a building that'll keep my name on it for a while until the building falls down. Do something that makes me last longer, that makes the bob self feel more real. So that's the deep Zen dive that I didn't mean to take you on, but that's, I think, for me the most helpful explanation at why we all, myself included, get preoccupied, why these by these badges of achievement, if you will.”
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“ourselves feel more real, more permanent, more fixed, like we really exist. And I think he's right. I think about all the ways, you know, I think about all the ways I've been preoccupied with, you know, am I going to be remembered when I'm gone? Well, I'm probably not. You know, 50 years from now, nobody's going to really remember who I was.”
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“Okay, there's a writer named David Loy LOY who writes about this, and I think he's really on to something In Zen philosophy, that if you really look for the self, if you sit down on a meditation cushion and you look and I look for Bob, like who's Bob? I can't find him. I can't find me anywhere. I can find a swirl of thoughts and ever changing sensations coming from my body, but I can't really find a fixed thing that I call Bob, and that what David Lloyd argues is that all of us at some level know this, that there isn't really a fixed self that's going to go on through time and that's going to last after I die, and that it's at some level scary to know that, right? And what David Lloyd argues is that many of us are grabbing for things like wealth and fame and dominating the earth and dominating each other in this kind of wish to make.”
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“By contrast, you can't measure relationships. They're kind of messy and complicated, and they're often full of ups and downs and conflicts. And so you can't quantify it. You can't hold on to it. It's always changing. And so by contrast, these relationships that actually turn out to make us happy are not, you can't get your hands around them as easily as you can get your hands around these things you can kind of grab for these shiny brass objects you can go for”
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“Probably the three big ones were most wrong about fame. And badges of achievement If I win this prize, if I get to be CEO That kind of thing. And because the culture tells us all day long that these will make us happy, and because they're measurable, I think one of the things, you know, if you think about fame, I mean, it's likes. It's how many downloads of a podcast. It's how many people read a book, right? And it's measurable, it's quantifiable. Wealth, of course, is quantifiable, and achievement. But what we know is that those things don't do it. Now, meaningful work can make us happy, can be fulfilling. That's different from getting the prize, getting the badge.”
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“I think there's something about Wanting to be seen, like you're actually saying, I want to know you. I want to know what's going on with you. And that there's something about that that makes us feel like we belong, that makes us feel like we're connected. And so what we notice and what we talk about in the book is this idea that when we actually are curious about another person, it's giving them a gift. It's giving them a way to be seen, a way to tell about themselves, that we all really yearn for at some level, or almost all of us do. And so it's something we can give to each other every day.”
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“who we don't like but what we find is that the culture gives us these messages about what will make us happy that turn out not to be the truth. A lot of the messages are about consumerism. You know, we're told if you buy this car, you're going to be happy. If you serve this brand of pasta, you're going to have blissful family dinners. And even though we sort of know that this isn't the truth, the advertisements really do inculcate this sense that if we consume the right things that will be happy and what we know from our research and many other studies is that's just not so and that these connections with each other actually do make us happy. I mean, for example, you and I are talking now and your questions and your interest in my work is actually energizing for me. It's actually making me happier than when I walked in the door today.”
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“And they asked them beforehand how much do you think you're going to like this assignment we've just given you? And the people who were assigned to talk to strangers said, I'm not going to enjoy this. Afterwards, after they'd completed their assignments, the people who had talked to strangers were much happier than the people who had done their usual staying on their phones or reading the newspaper. So it's an example of how we're not so good at knowing what's going to make us happy, and particularly when it comes to connecting with each other, that there's something about these kind of small conversations that we can have with strangers or even with someone we barely know that turn out to be very energizing more of the time than not, but we're always afraid, we're afraid someone's going to think we're strange if we strike up a conversation or we're going to get stuck talking to someone who”
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“Yes, and we're bad at knowing what's going to make us happy. I'll give you an example, and it's in the book. There was a study in the city of Chicago where They were studying commuters, people who were about to get on the train and take the train to work like they did every day. And so they took a random sample of people in one group and they were assigned to do what they always do on the train. It could have been listening to music or reading the news on their phone, whatever they did. The other group randomly was assigned to talk to a stranger on the train, which none of them had ever done to them.”
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“It's very much made me take care of my own relationships, so because the biggest, most surprising finding in the study was that it's our relationships that keep us healthier and happier. You know, I'm a Harvard professor I could work non stop until I drop dead. I mean that's just the way academia works and what I realized was particularly once my kids weren't there pulling me away to go take them somewhere or do something with them that I could just work all the time and so what I've started doing is to be much more intentional about calling my friends about saying let's go for a walk let's go out to dinner let's make sure we get together I never would have done that before particularly as a man I think women are much better my wife is much better at calling friends on the phone at making sure they get together I had to teach myself to do that I had to make myself do it I had to take my own medicine if you will based on what I was studying in my work life.”
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“We have about thirty brains sitting on shelves in a laboratory at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston. And what's rare about the most brains are collected because there was a big problem in life, for example dementia or a brain tumor or something. These are normal brains. And so what's rare is that these are brains about which we know what their life was like when they were twenty years old, when they were thirty years old. We know so much about them in life and now we get to examine their brains.”
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“It was looking at the big domains of life, it was looking at mental health, physical health, work life, and relationships, and What the study has done is looked at all of those same domains over and over again year after year for eighty five years. What's exciting for me about it is that we've changed our methods. So initially there were interviews and medical exams and people went to their homes and talked to their parents. Well now we draw blood for DNA. I mean DNA wasn't even imagined in nineteen thirty eight. We put people into MRI scanners and watched their brains light up when we show them different kinds of images. And, you know, that would have been science fiction to scientists in nineteen thirty eight. So what I love is we're studying the same subjects, but we're studying them using very different methods over time.”
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“Oh no, they are long gone I'm the fourth director And the third director was my teacher when I was a medical student. He lectured to my class about this study of men who were then in their fifties, and I thought this is amazing, and then about fifteen years later he took me out to lunch one day and said, How would you like to inherit this study? And I was flabbergasted, but very excited to be able to do it.”
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“Where studies of good normal development instead of studies of what goes wrong, most of what we study is what goes wrong so that we can help people. So these were radical in that sense, and then nobody expected the studies to last more than five or the most ten years, and the founders of the study would never have dreamed that you and I would be talking about this. From the children of all of these original seven hundred twenty four families.”
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“politically incorrect, but at that time that's what they were doing. And the other study was started at Harvard Law School by a law professor and his wife, a social worker, who were interested in juvenile delinquency, and they were particularly interested in how some children from really troubled backgrounds managed to stay out of trouble and stay on good developmental paths. How could that be? What were the conditions that allowed these young people to thrive? So they chose boys from the city of Boston in nineteen thirty eight whose families were known to on average five social service agencies for domestic violence, parental mental illness, physical illness, And they studied all those boys again looking at what makes people thrive. And so both of these studies.”
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“Um the study is the longest study of human life that's ever been done, as far as we know, of the same people going through their entire adult lives. That's what's so rare about it. Most research is snapshots in the moment or over two weeks or a month, so this is over eighty five years, seven hundred twenty four families. It was started in nineteen thirty eight. It was started as two studies that actually didn't know about each other. One was a study of Harvard College students, nineteen year olds, young men who were thought by the deans to be fine upstanding specimens, and this was going to be a study of normal development from adolescence into young adulthood. I mean, now we smile because, you know, if you want to study normal development, you study all white males from Harvard. You don't do that.”
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“It means working with people who are struggling with Mental illnesses with conditions for which we have help, and some of the help is medication, some of the help is talk therapy, some I became fascinated by how the mind works. That was what was most exciting for me when I was a medical student, and I realized that it was going to keep me interested most of my career, and it has because everybody's so different. I mean, I realized that if you treat one case of high blood pressure, you sort of know what the next one's going to look like. But when you talk to a new person, it's never the same as the person you talked to last week. So being a psychiatrist for me is getting to take deep dives into people's life experience.”
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“Well, there's some suffering that's not optional, right? There's pain, there's so many things that we can't control that hurt that we suffer from. But then there's optional suffering. There are all the stories we tell ourselves about things that turn out not to be true, things that I worry about that turn out to amount to nothing. Mark Twain had a wonderful quote that I love he said Some of the worst things in my life never happened. And that's the optional suffering that we're talking about all the ways that we imagine things that make us suffer a great deal.”
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“I am a psychiatrist A married father of two grown sons. I'm a Zen priest, and I'm a researcher, and the mission that I'm on is to relieve the suffering that's optional in the world. That's the vow I took as a Zen priest.”
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“They have. We know so much about them in life, and now we get to examine their brains. Most surprising finding in the study was that it's our relationships that keep us healthier and happier. There is research that shows that actually people who are married, men live twelve years longer and women live seven years longer. That said, it's not the marriage license. It's about Starting in the 1950s, we stopped investing in other people. Being lonely is as dangerous to your health as smoking half a pack of cigarettes a day, isolation can break down your coronary arteries, your joints. The brain declines sooner. My mission now is going to be to bring this science that we've worked so hard to develop and bring it to people in ways that they can use.”
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“Ted Dorf is one of the most viewed of all high for 85 years. We've tracked the lives of 724 families through their entire adult lives, looking at mental health, physical health, to see what really keeps people happy and healthy.”
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