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Ryan Holiday

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“Yeah, you can't be like, I want to be classical musician and then compare yourself to Taylor Swift. They're different genres of music that have different floors and ceilings. So like, you know, it might be easier to break out as a classical musician. I'm not saying it's easy, but like, you know, there's a set audience. And there's also a ceiling. You're never going to be the number one album in the country. But by going for the number one album in the country you might get nothing and just understanding that You made certain choices. That you Strategy is by definition choosing certain objectives and not choosing other objectives. And if you try to straddle two strategies, you'll destroy yourself.”
2024-11-26 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Ryan Holiday: How to Win the War with Yourself · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“When I feel jealousy, I try to remind myself that you can't pick and choose. Like, if you want what someone has, you have to trade your whole life. And in that case, you almost would never take it. Or maybe not even your whole life. But let's just say, oh, why did they get this opportunity? I should have got this. But it's, no, no, you have to swap your whole career for theirs. Would you do it? And it becomes more complicated. A little from here, a little from here, a little from here. But that's not a possible combination because every decision, every goal. Inherently is making things not goals. There's trade-offs”
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“I try to remind myself that I write about an obscure school of ancient philosophy. That there's a floor and a ceiling to that. Look, if we compare ourselves to James Clear, we're all failures for artist book sales. But if you compare yourself to Millions of people who had killed even have a meeting with an editor is a huge success. Sometimes it can be helpful to really think about how bodish you would have previously defined success.”
2024-11-26 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Ryan Holiday: How to Win the War with Yourself · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think success was often more predicated on either very specific things or relative to other people and things. Their accomplishments. And I think I've gotten closer and closer to. Just not really care. And part of that is living where I live, how my life is set up, just valuing different things.”
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“Do you remember what I said the other times? I still think my definition of success is autonomy, like I've been saying recently, like success is how much you see. And I was like, all right, I'll be right there. I like that. To me, that's both success and power. I didn't have to ask anyone's permission. I didn't need to worry about the cost of. Missing a day's work or whatever, I just could handle it. Turns out it wasn't actually sick. You know, it was just had a cough or something. And so we just hung out all day. And then I had a talk that afternoon and he came with me.”
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“Sometimes I'm just reading generally about something I'm not writing anything about Australia. I just was there and now I'm interested in it and I have some basis of knowledge I'm building on. And it'll help me understand the 1700s and the 1800s and often it's I'm chasing something down that I think I know is down this hallway.”
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“I'm looking for illustrative stories or insights into how that person operated or solved problems. So like, you know, I read a book about Lincoln specifically as a politician. I read a book specifically about Lincoln's cabinet. I read a book specifically about Lincoln and literary inclination. I want to go really deep in a specific thing and that I'm finding stuff that didn't appear in one but appears in the other and that's how I'm building out the chapter that I'm writing.”
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“Business biographies. I don't read that many business biographies. I like my dream book is like a 900-page biography of someone I know nothing about or someone that I know a lot about.”
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“Crimes being an act of opportunity or desperation and that reform was possible that America rebelled and the ability to send colonists or the undesirables across the Atlantic to America evaporated and they had to find some new place to do it.”
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“I just have read these three huge books on Lincoln, so I've been doing a huge deep dive into Lincoln for the book that I'm writing now. And I think that's like... Maybe earlier in my writing career, I would have read one book and called it. And now I'm like, I'm going to read another and another and another. And so I'm just going deeper and deeper in stuff. Really, this book now about the founding of Australia that I'm finding really interesting called The Fatal Shore about like why did they start a penal colony on the other side of the earth? Well, the argument was that London had extremely strict legal system. An abysmal for profit prison system and a belief that like there was essentially a race of people that were criminals as opposed to”
2024-11-26 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Ryan Holiday: How to Win the War with Yourself · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, you're going to have to get better, just like spotting bullshit. You're going to have to be good at spotting AI versus non-AI.”
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“Would be better at it and be more highly compensated and the importance of it will be higher. And so you have to figure out what is the thing that you're going to be excellent at. And then you have to be, as we were saying, somewhat unbalanced in the pursuit of that excellence. But it's like the cost of being mediocre get higher and higher.”
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“Can see how insufficient it is compared to really great stuff. Tyler Cowan wrote this book like 10 years ago called Average is Over. And I think that kind of defines my philosophy of life, which is these technologies aren't eliminating. They're going to be eliminating large chunks of the people who are able to do that thing, but the people who can do that thing at an elite or an excellent level.”
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“And we're largely in agreement that Hemingway did a good job, right? Because he's considered one of the great writers. So it's like you're doing this simulation of a path that someone actually flew. Never is the AI able to predict the next couple words in that sentence. I've always found that very interesting. And it's a reminder to me that still the act of creative genius, of doing not any sentence, but like the right sentence the right way with the right words. Like Twain said that, you know, it's the difference between lightning and lightning bug. You do get a sense of the limitations of AI when you”
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“And sometimes, because I'm just sending it to myself to print back the office or whatever, I'll do it in Gmail. And Gmail has always had this kind of predictive AI in it where it's guessing the end of what you're saying. And I always found it really interesting as a writer, so I'm typing some sentence from Hemingway. So this is a sentence that has been written before. Unlike my average sentence, I'm making it up. This is a sentence that exists. So not that there's a right answer, but there is.”
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“I've used it with my kids. We'll have fun like. They'll be like, draw this or make this. They get increasingly excited about making it do more Things and the idea of seeing it as a tool as opposed to a replacement for something I think is really important. I want them to be familiarized with the inherent limitations of it. And I was like, this doesn't make any sense. They didn't have glasses. So, like, get rid of the glasses. And then it's like they redid it and then now more people have glasses. You know what? And it's also its inability to To iterate, like it's not very good at. This, I want this but five percent different it starts from scratch. And so again, yeah, I think the more you learn the limitations of it and the logic of it and if you can get good at prompting, like prompting as a skill, I want my kids to have that.”
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“I have to get a second opinion. I have to have it verified in some way because skepticism keeps me up. Because the costs, the reputational costs are bored. It's like trusting Wikipedia, you know. Yeah. It's good if it's right. Reputational hit is felt by you alone.”
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“Mean, I use it when I do presentations. I have it do I want a picture of insert a thing that's never been painted by a Renaissance painter before. You know, like when I'm trying to visualize things, I use it. And sometimes we'll use it in videos. We're like, you know, show Marcus Aurelius in a suit of armor. Show Marcus. So I use it for things like that, like track stuff down, but then I...”
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“To push back and to examine and when to verify because a lot of what it's going to spit out is not true or is only partially true. And if you're just defaulting to it, you're going to be embarrassed.”
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“Or that's going to take six months, or that's going to cost this amount of money. You have to have enough technical domain expertise that you can push back and get to the truth of things. And when I've worked with AI and I'm needing it to track something down that maybe, I'm like, hey, didn't so-and-so say something about this? And they go, oh yeah, they said this. And then I go, wait, or was it actually so-and-so? And they go, yeah, yeah, it was that. And what it's doing is it's telling me what I wanted to hear in the same way that people Google stuff or see stuff on social media and they go that feels true. That's it. If what human beings are good at is using tools and using and cooperating with other people, what we're going to have to have in this age of AI is a strong sense for bullshit and an ability to know when”
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“Handle that. Like, one of the things you learn as a project manager, like if you're working with someone who has technical expertise, is you have to know enough and they have to know that you know enough that they can't bullshit you. Like they can't say, no, that's not possible, right?”
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“I haven't seen it do anything that Even a pretty good writer But it can do things a lot better than people who are bad at writing. We clearly have problems in our society with people who are extremely credulous and susceptible to misinformation and disinformation and conspiracy theories and nonsense. I don't know about you, but when you interact with AI about something you really know about, You realize it's not very good, and it's very Fairy prone to telling you what it thinks you wanted to hear. And so one of the things I'm nervous about is people's inability to”
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“Yeah, you zoom out, you zoom in. You know, Thomas Merton, the Catholic monk, he becomes this monk, and he's a trappist monk, which they didn't technically take a vow of silence, but they are supposed to spend their lives in contemplation. But he becomes this prolific writer, and a lot of people are upset because it's somehow a violation of the vow, and he was saying, no, like, writing is contemplation. I'm thinking about What I think For people who are not writers, maybe that doesn't make sense. To me, writing my impulse to write comes from My inability or the insufficiency of what I can come up with off the top of my head, my belief in my ability if I sit down and have an uninterrupted bit of focus and concentration that I can get it. I can do that hostile active change in mere thinking”
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“Stopping to think and clarifying and going over Joan Dideon said that writing is a hostile act because you're having convince someone to see things the way that you see them or think the way that you think. And that's like it takes an immense amount of skill to do that. Very few people can do that off the top of their head.”
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“And it's a job interview. And Eisenhower could have just pulled an answer off the top of his head and riffed. And he says, can I have a desk in two hours? And Marcia says, sure. And he goes, he gets a typewriter and he sits down and he basically types out a memo everything he has studied and learned and thought about this exact problem his whole military career. He's been in the Philippines. He's been in South America. He's been, you know, he's done a lot, but he gets it on paper. And I think there's something about getting it on paper instead of. Whenever my answer, like the answer I just gave you is not as good as the answer. Or the analysis of that problem that I wrote in the book that I'm doing right now. That's how my mind works. And I think that's how most minds work. They're the process of really”
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“I actually have a chapter about this in the book that I'm doing now. Amazon has this culture where Not allowed to call a meeting unless you've written a memo about what's going to be discussed at the meeting. And multiple people have to edit that memo before you can sit down and do it. And why is that? It's not because memos are fun or anyone likes reading memos. It's that The act of having to put your thoughts in the agenda and the purpose of the meeting on paper is essential. There is this story about Eisenhower at the outbreak of the Second World War, Marshall is Chief Staff of the U.S. Army, and he's bet Eisenhower before. He sees sub promise in the town officer, and he calls him in and he says, you know, it looks like World War II is about to break out. Japan's on the march. What do you do”
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“Also, just think about the fact that for basically up until, let's say, 20 years ago, and that might be generous and we're not all on different scales, but Only one parent was thinking about these things really at all. And so just the immense cognitive load. And only one of the genders is aware of it in any way.”
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“Sometime between nine or seven and nine and then pick them up between two and four if you've got and then also let's say you're two different kids at two different schools or more. Yeah. It's insane. No society can't function this way. We're expecting, rightfully so, for parents to spend a lot of time with their children, but the world is not conducive to that at all unless you've retired or you're not working.”
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“Yeah, Tony Morrison talked about how she wanted to do all her writing before she heard the work mom. And so she would have to get up at like four in the morning and she'd write until six or something. I'm not quite on that schedule, but I do, yeah, I try to, like, my day is circumscribed by their day. And I also go, how the fuck are other people doing it? This is crazy. I could pick my own schedule. I could stop working if I wanted to. But how can you expect society to function? And you're in Canada, so you have some social safety net. But like, how could you expect your average American parent to drop their kid off at school?”
2024-11-26 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Ryan Holiday: How to Win the War with Yourself · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know what I mean? Like your dad wasn't ever doing that. And your grandfather certainly wasn't ever doing that. And then you go back a couple generations and they're like, probably didn't even know all their kids' names. It has changed way for the better. But yeah, I think about that too. You go, okay, I try to, I'm either dropping my kids off or picking them up or sometimes both every day that I'm in town. I'm not always in town, but when I'm home, I'm doing that. And so, yeah, very quickly your day is super circumscribed. And then there is this challenge or tension of like, can you be great at what you do? Working not even bankers hours, but like Stay at home mom hours or something, you know.”
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“It is interesting how this is like basically every woman's experience up until very recently and almost no men were thinking about these things. We're dealing with a set of expectations and a set of responsibilities for which there is not Centuries of cultural experience and lessons and examples to drawn.”
2024-11-26 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Ryan Holiday: How to Win the War with Yourself · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The easy answer would be professionally because it's easiest and it's the most. And you get the most feedback. Is there something a little shameful and sad about that probably? I don't know anyone that's like, I suck at work, but I'm great at home. So we naturally. Like I don't work as hard at being a parent as I do at being a great writer, but at the end which am I going to think is more meaningful, but one so much more measurable, more people care about the other one because it affects more people, at least in the short term, without you. What do you feel like you have the highest standards”
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“You're at least saying that you think it's important, even if you can't live up to it. I would rather have virtue signaling. Then the nihilism of lol nothing matters.”
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“Just Yet, but if I had to choose, you know, like people today are like, oh, it's all this virtue signal in, you know, it's like. Certainly better than the alternative, you know. I'm not sure this sort of the cruelty is the point vice signaling Is preferable, even if it's more honest, I would like people to be signaling. They say what hypocrisy is the Is the credit that vice plays to virtue?”
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“Characters sort of like what you do And yeah, look, philosophers can debate that question too. Like, is it good if you're doing good because you want a reward or because you're following”
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“Like the Stokes talk about, like, look, people can come and take all your stuff from you and you can be treated profoundly unjustly, but like, no one can affect your character. That is the thing you have. But oftentimes that's the first thing to go because we're Because our willpower collapses, or whatever. So, can you not turn into a radicalized asshole? It's to me the interesting question.”
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“Sort of care. Exactly. And I think. To me, that's the danger in today's world. It's not so much that you'll make a mistake and people will judge and criticize you for it. Because I think that's always been true. You're right. The internet makes not a place where grace is commonplace and where things can be wretched out of context and all of that. And yet actual danger is that in all of that scandal and attention and negativity, does it change who you are? Like I am fascinated by people who are fascinated by it, impressed by the people who have messed up, had scandals, been the subjects of cancel culture, mobs or whatever, and then they emerged from it, not caricatures of themselves. It actually wasn't this life-defining form.”
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“Probably overreacted. We certainly made judgments about this person based on a singular set of decisions that his subsequent actions revealed to be more complicated. And so aberration.”
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“It was like a salvation army style charity house, and he shows up one day and asks if they need any help. And they put him to work in the kitchen, like he's washing dishes. Any volunteers there every day for like the next forty years, and he becomes, it's like chief fundraiser and its main leader. And he just quietly goes about his life doing good work. And eventually there is an arc of redemption to it that you can't do good every day for decades without it inevitably being noticed. Did he get his political career back? No. Did everyone forgive him? No? Is his name still? Inextricably linked with a certain scandal, sure, but on net, most people look back and go.”
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“Has to apologize and ends up resigning as a result. And I tell the story of Professor because I think he's so interesting. So he destroys his political career. And today we would say he was canceled. And what would happen today is that this person would be basically shoved by one half of society and then perversely like embraced by another darker side of society that doesn't like those people, right? And you would see him get radicalized and fight against cancel culture. You know, we almost know exactly how that scandal would go. He would like rid of all of his political beliefs from before, embrace a different set of political beliefs, and kind of become almost like they become almost like these joker-like figures. And instead, he just quietly shows up one day at this charity, I'm forgetting the name of it.”
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“the profumo scandal in London in the 60s there was this cabinet officer in the British government who has this affair so she's cheating on his wife with a prostitute that Turns out to be a Russian spy. And any lies about it, and it ends up bringing about the fall of I forget which government, but it brings about the Prime Minister vouches for him and then the”
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“Small daily decisions, just like any other discipline. And that's why these virtues are so related. Like there's a discipline to justice. I keep my word. I help people. I Think about the consequences of my actions on other people I Don't do insert x y or z thing that might be legal, but not right. And so if you think about it as a practice. Can get yourself not only can you get yourself to a place where you're capable of doing it, but by nature of doing the practice, it's never going to happen. You're just going to pick some random ass person and put the fate of the world on their shoulders. You have to be involved in the thick of things, making decisions of consequence to ever find yourself in a position of”
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“We think of virtue as this thing that you have or don't have. Think of it as a noun when it be far better to think of virtue as a verb. Aristotle says like, how do you get better at playing the flute? It's by playing the flute. How do you become a more generous person? It's by doing more generous actions. He sort of compares Virtue to any other craft that, you know, a carpenter builds stuff, and that's how they become a carpenter. So, a good person does good things, not the way we sometimes think about it, which is like, go through your regular life, and then perhaps you will find yourself in some decision of enormous moral consequence upon which the fate of the world will depend and then let's hope that you draw from this ethical framework that you read about in a book and will make everyone proud. But in fact, it's like a series of”
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“Yeah, that's like 95%. You know, we're like, should, you know, a Nazis banging on your door. They want to know if you have a Jew in your basement. Should you lie to them or should you tell the truth? You know, like this is a cons categorical imperative. You know, a trolley is racing down a track and it's going to kill five people. But if you pull this lever, it'll go here and kill one person. What would you do? It's a way of abstracting. Away from the fact that we have morally charged decisions in front of us all the time and we Don't think about it and don't do anything about it. And that middle ground, if everyone just did a little bit better on this middle ground, the whole world would be immensely better.”
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“makes them so complicated as to make them almost worthless. Like how do you know what's right and wrong? What about this? It's like we almost focus on the edge cases as a way of”
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“That's the hard part. So I just have been doing this series on the cardinal virtues. So I did courage and discipline and justice. And on one level, yeah, we go, how do we know what's right and wrong? Is it the Ten Commandments? Is there some scientific basis or utilitarian argument for what's okay about? And then It is remarkable how much Societies and cultures all agree on some fundamental level as to what yeah there's disagreement some countries burn their debt some bury their debt some you know do this or that And all the philosophers that come to some level of like, well, what would happen if everyone did that? One of the things I don't like about philosophy is the way that it looks at these moral questions.”
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“I just heard something. Someone said, like, character, like your reputation is what other people think of you. And character is like what you do and people don't see.”
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“We don't want it for our kids, and we also know, though, if we hadn't had that, we probably just would have had somebody else. I've never met someone who had zero adversity in their life. Like sometimes people ask me, hey, should I create adversity in my kids' lives? Or do I need to seek out obstacles? And I'm of two butts. I think like having a physical practice is obviously a way of creating adversity at the same time, was it Dostoevsky would like gamble all his buddy away so that he would write better? I don't know if he needed to do that.”
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“Yeah, and would you wish it on someone, especially someone who right now is young and pure and has no none of these adult notions? A lot of people with dyslexia talk about how that dyslexia has shaped and informed the success they have. And then if you ask them, would you want your kids to have it? They're like, are you fucking out of your mind? We know like hard things and struggle and adversity. We know it's good for us.”
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“They're like, I need all of this. I read a story about Tom Brady watching his son playing video games and his son getting so upset and he throws the camera throws the controller at the TV or whatever. And he's just like, he was like, dude, I have that. And it doesn't always take you where you want it to take you. And so I suspect that part's there.”
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