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Safi Bahcall

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first: 2019-03-15
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“Compare Steve Jobs and Isaac Newton. That's absurd. Well, let me pull on that a little bit more. Oh, it turns out Steve Jobs didn't really develop the Macintosh. He had this assistant named, no, he didn't have an assistant. There was a guy working at Apple who had been working on this project that he called the Macintosh project for a year or two before jobs. And he tried to interest jobs in it, and Jobs dismissed it. And eventually, just because by default, after Jobs had kind of messed up the Lisa and Apple III, that was the only project they could find. And history got rewritten that like, oh, he invented it. That's not really what happened.”
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“That's where you go. The visual I have, because I have sort of a visual for everything, is that there's this dense forest of stuff, which is all the facts and data and stories. And there's this beautiful clearing on the inside, which is like a central core idea. And you're looking for the path in. And so you're running around the circle as fast as you can, and you're looking for a path in or something to guide. Maybe you're looking for a little red sparrow that's like hiding that's going to peek out behind a little leaf or a tree. And you're running, you're looking, looking and running as fast as you can. And then all of a sudden you see that. So you need speed, you need attention to keep your eye out for that tiny little red sparrow to say, I'm over here, this is the path. And then you need courage because it may look like a really wacky sparrow. You need to have some balls to really follow that idea because your first thought is there's just no way. Now there's no way I could.”
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“Just And I've always thought since I sort of have three rules for everything, creativity for me is about speed, attention, and courage. You want to go as fast as you can. For me, getting the stories is about speed reading. So I read through, you know, I had so many sources. I think I have like about 5,000 files. I mean, I scanned almost all the books, so I have everything electronic. I could search in a database electronically. I was just reading as fast as I could because eventually something, that's number two. First is speed. Second is attention because you want to be reading as fast as you can. And all of a sudden there's a tiny little thing like, whoa, wait, what?”
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“Once you start, that's the advantage of writing FBR, writing Fastbed Wrong is that once you start going at high speed, just like all this stuff.”
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“Yeah, and when you ask what did I do to get these wacky stories in each chapter, all of them are so different, comparing one trip at Pan Am with Bob Grenner in American or Steve Jobs and Jeff Raska versus Isaac Newton and Robert Hooke comparing across two centuries. I have absolutely no clue where they are. I would just lock myself in my little cave, shut the blinds, and I would just I would disappear into some zone and then I would re-emerge at 530 to pick up my daughter from daycare and I'd look at what I'm going to do. Where the hell did that come from? I have no idea. So, to answer your question, I have no, I would just look at a blank page and then I'd look up at 5.30 and just this weird, what did he call it? Wacky sh And that's the grocery shopping. You know, we were talking about the Robert Rodriguez film.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Very funny guy. We were having beers at the Dutch Goose in Menlo Park, which I used to go to 20 years ago. And he's been like a lifelong customer since he was like 12. And we're in the second or third beer. And there's another author friend of ours there. And at some point, he turns to me and he goes, your book. And I go, yeah. I said, man, that was some wacky shit. And I take, I feel like that's some of because you know I did Pan Am and Einstein and Kepler and Steve Jobs and U-boats”
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“I'd love to say at his system or method Absolutely not. I literally started with a blank page and almost panic. I actually had to learn. I added one of my rules is patience over panic because you start with a blank page and I just had absolutely no idea what was going to happen. Where it was going to go, what story. You know, I end up with all these kind of crazy stories. In fact, actually probably the nicest thing somebody said to me about the book was this guy named Bob Sutton who wrote this book called The No Ashle Rule.”
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“The drafting fast bad and wrong, the FBR, running as fast as you can, is like going to a supermarket and just filling your cart as fast as you can with all this stuff. And then it all comes together in the editing. So it's actually very interesting hearing that from Robert Rodriguez because it just reminded me of the kind of the three hats that I wear when I'm writing.”
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“Drafting is where you're writing FBR fast, bad, and wrong, just as fast as you can. Then the editing is where it all comes together and you try to make it, you know, you get rid of all the glitches and make it shine. And as we're talking, I was thinking about this movie you took me to see this premiere you took me to see yesterday by Robert Rodriguez where he made this kind of amazing movie for $7,000. And before that, he was talking about a masterclass. He was doing his masterclass in film, which was just really a masterclass in creativity. And he was talking about how in film he thinks of making a film as also in three stages like cooking where you write your recipe, then you go grocery shopping, and then you do the editing at the end. It's like you're cooking. I think it's very similar in writing. The hunting, the finding that the narrative thread is like your recipe.”
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“The three hats of writing hunting, or the way I think about it is there's hunting, there's drafting, and there's editing. So hunting, you're looking for the narrative thread that's going to hold your story together, or if you're doing nonfiction, the series of stories and the series of anecdotes and the lesson you're going to draw. So that's the hunting”
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“Telling stories of people. You don't really do that in academic science. You write a paper. You're not going to write a paper saying, well, let me tell you about the day I first had this idea and then I was wrong about this and then Joe, that's not how you write an academic paper. And when you run a biotech company, you're at a you do your earnings call if you're public or you're at an investment meeting and you do your 25 minute roadshow. Let me tell you a story about how failures and the characters and the, no, they're like, what's your, you know, what's your, what was your R&D spend? Just the facts, man. Just the facts.”
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“People don't really connect to ideas. People connect to people If you can tell a story, tell a story about people. Through which an idea is revealed, that's the best of all worlds. So just talking about ideas is so, so just talking about people, then you're sort of a fairy tale. But if you can combine the two, Tell stories of people through which an underlying idea is revealed and through which is connected by an underlying idea, which is what I tried to do in this book. That's for me the grander challenge. That was really kind of a big challenge. How do you not do A and not do B, but do the combination of A and B? And so I was not good at.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Okay, so You asked about acronym or the. The other writing lesson was these multiple hats. So in Reading, it was Rickles. Now I'm going to put on my hat. It has nothing to do with style. So just shut off that part of the brain. You reading really fast for a story or a content. And then Reese, I'm reading for ear art and skill. So it's pure writing skill. And so the way I trained for it is to think strategically about where am I weak? So I can explain a technical idea pretty well. That's what I've been doing my whole life, whether in academic science or running a biotech company trying to explain technical stuff about how a drug works or the biology or chemistry to people who are not as technical. So explaining an idea I can do even in plain English. Books that just explain ideas are boring. I don't even like reading them.”
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“Beautiful but very different writing style, but also for how do you write about emotion? How do you write about people? How do you write about characters in a kind of a poetic way, not overtelling, but using as few words as possible. Anyway, that's Reese.”
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“Hall is warm. He wrote, he just passed away, sadly. He wrote so. Movingly and sparingly about incredibly deep emotional personal things, his love affair with how he Fell in love with his wife and how he thought she would outlive him and how they made all these plans. And then she came down at an early age with leukemia and he just couldn't believe that he was out burying her and she was just, but he writes it in not a maudlin way at all. And he writes it so beautifully and so powerfully and so tightly. So I read Hall for How do you write about emotion, which I had zero experience, especially as a scientist was not like a top skill of wine. And communicating emotion was not something I had any skill in doing. So I read him not only for the”
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“Time I'm hearing his name. I remember talking to some English friends and I laughed at me that I didn't know who he was. Anyway, some friend had sent me this essays and I picked that up. And as a poet, he also has incredible word choice and rhythm and pacing. And it's very different than Nabokov is fun, but it completely eccentric and a completely unique style that only applies if you're a Russian ⁇ migr ⁇ who plays with the dictionary for fun. So it's not relevant for... Copying anyway, it's just interesting to develop ear. But in a book of is cold, he's clearly, as he's writing for entertaining himself with language. He doesn't have any, he was the first to say, I don't have any messages. I don't have any morals. And you can sort of tell he doesn't really care about his characters. He's just playing. He's playing with language.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Nabokov, for example, I was reading for kind of the musical rhythm and the pacing and the tricks that he uses on transitions or others. He wasn't the only one I did that. Donald Hall, whose book Essays After A, he was, again, I'm kind of ignorant when it comes to literature. A lot of people knew this. He was a poet.”
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“Got it. So that's the research here. Let's say you're writing about World War II. Then that's in Rickles. You're reading very fast as fast as you can and as deeply as you can in chasing different threads and different footnotes and different archival. And that is the Rickles hat. You're reading for the information, for the content, or for the lessons you want to use or for the stories you want to tell. Rickles. Totally different hat is Reese reading for ear, art, and skill. So when I was reading,”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Whatever it is, whatever it is, Rickles, reading for information, content, lessons, and stories. Rickles. And so that's for the raw, if you're writing non-fiction narrative, that's for the raw meat of the facts or the ideas of the story. And you're really reading for information, for content, and for lessons”
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“You're laughing. I could tell it's like silly and stupid, but that's how I think about it. Rickles is reading for information content lessons, Rick R-I-C.”
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“And this thing is definitely not on. So in reading, there are two modes, two hatchiware, or at least for me. And the first one I call rickles, and the second one I call Reese.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's the hats For me, I realized, and again, a lot of this stuff took a long time, there are two hats you wear on reading and there are three hats you wear on writing. And you just want to be very clear about what hat you're wearing when so you don't confuse them. And then you're much more efficient. And you asked about acronyms. I have some really silly. I don't think I've ever said these out loud. It's more like inner voice acronyms. But since you're an old friend.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Funny you're saying that because the physics of that is the angular momentum of the wheel once you have high angular momentum you're much more stable than at low angular momentum”
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“Not if you go slow, not if you say, oh, is it 1941 he did this or was it 1939? Was he with this person or was he with that person? Am I spelling his name correctly? Let's go check on the internet. Then you've lost the thread. And it hurts on many levels. Not only do you get less done You lose the creativity because it's only when you're at high speed to like, and the wheels are turning, and you're like, oh, wait, wait a minute. Oh, I could go here. Oh, I could go there. And oh, I could go here. Like when you're driving fast, you can make a left turn. It has a big impact.”
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“You don't get the style. The sentence doesn't sound good. Great. Write fast, write bad, and write wrong. Terrible style, terrible grammar, terrible word choice, wrong facts, and that liberates you. That liberates you to follow the narrative thread and just keep going and going with it and not stop and backtrack. Because every time you stop, maybe it's like a car going down the highway, it's easy to stop, but then you have to spend all this fuel to get back up to speed, and you might not get there. So once you're finally going, what you often discover, you write a lot too, is like once you start writing and start pulling on that narrative thread, it's just really surprising where it goes, but only if you go fast.”
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“The wheels are turning, and you think you can see it's like driving, you can only see a few feet ahead because you're in a fog. And sort of the mist clearing like, oh, I see. I see where I'm going with this thing. Let's just go. The inclination is when you write a sentence or a paragraph or the first couple paragraphs is to stop and backtrack either for style or for facts. I'm doing nonfiction, right? So I'm not doing fiction. So in such and such date, this guy did this thing, and then he did that thing. Was it really that date? Let's go check the internet. So, you want to write, so that is a disaster. You'll never get anything done if you do that. Said the trick is to go exactly 180, especially if you haven't write FBR, write fast, bad, and wrong. Put the wrong date.”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So I had kind of five rules on Style that I worked on and iterated five rules on story that I worked on and iterate and five rules on just writing process, which is sort of writing routine. But probably one of the most important ones on the routine and process was write FBR. So that stands for Write Fast Bad and Wrong. And the reason that that's so important is that, especially if you have any kind of perfectionistic tendencies, and I know a lot of people write about this, but FBR is what resonated for me and how I remember it, it just means when you're starting to write, let's say you found the idea and the narrative thread and the thing that”
2019-03-15 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #364: Safi Bahcall — On Thinking Big, Curing Cancer, and Transforming Industries · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“All right, right FBR. Okay, so that's one of the writing rules of thumb that I learned that was one of the most important. After a year or two or three, I kind of broke out writing for myself into style, story, and process.”
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“She really cared about science and the search for truth in family and really didn't care for anything else. Like all this stuff of the glitz or, you know, financial or material stuff and that is really sadly pretty common in Manhattan. She just had no interest. She just liked the science she was doing and figuring out good science and she cared deeply about family and that was it. And she knew what she cared about and she clearly just had fantastic values and I was like this woman is awesome”
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“I'm not trying to be entertaining or tell a story or blah blah blah. It's just like this is the actual me. And she's like a female version of me. Not really, but female version minus 14 years and very attractive.”
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“And so then I arranged to meet her. And then we meet up one week later, and it was supposed to be like just a coffee afterwards. It's like the least romantic. I was down at the Dana Farber Cancer Center for some meetings, and she was working right nearby. So we met at the Longwood Medical Gallery. The least doctors and scrubs everywhere. And it's just fast food court. And like there's some cheesy little hotel there with its cheesy little restaurant. I forgot to name. I sit down five o'clock supposed to be a 30-minute coffee and it turns into five hours. I'm like neither I don't even notice the time. And for the first time, I feel like I'm not trying”
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“He's like, oh, Safi and Magdai want to introduce you. Magda's interested in so-and-so. And Safi does such and such. And later I found out he Googled me and there was this kind of profile written about me online and there was a little video and he'd forwarded all that stuff. I didn't know that at the time. But anyways, so I get this email. And then so 10 milliseconds later I Google her. And out comes this like model post. And I'm like, what the freaking hell that's a cancer biology PhD who's a postdoc at Harvard? Oh my God, I am so taking this meeting.”
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“And I'm thinking like ding ding ding ding ding. I'm sort of kind of like, sure, well, I'll see if I can make the time for that meeting. And so I go home. And the next morning, I'm thinking, all right, what are the odds? It's Saturday night in New York. Some guy in line for a drink tells you something about his ex-girl that he's actually going to follow through. This is less than 10% chance, right? So I'm already thinking, how do I figure out who this guy was? And then I get this email.”
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“I'm just like mentally, you know, like planning the next day, planning like tomorrow. I'm going to figure out, does he know the woman who's hosting? And then can I find out what his last name is? Anyway, I'm doing all these calculations in my head. And then so he says, you know, when he asks, you know, like, how do, you know, what's your connection? I explain, oh, I run a biotech. I said, you know, I run a biotech company in Boston and Cancer Research, who's our advisor. Oh, I know that guy. And he says, oh, do you mind if I introduce you? Because she might be interested in a job in industry.”
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“How can I stalk this guy electronically tomorrow, figure out who his ex-girlfriend is, and then somehow accidentally arrange to bump into her? And this was all within the first.”
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“And I'm all of a sudden my ears perk up, my antenna goes up like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Really? Because this was a pretty good-looking dude. He was kind of this tall and nice looking guy, and he was clearly well adjusted and kind of a likable guy. And I thought, A, cancer research in Boston, that's what I do. B, if this guy's pretty good looking, his ex-girlfriend is probably pretty hot. C, she's probably pretty well adjusted because if most women and science are, there's so few that they just, the guys are like sharks. But if she can interest a guy who doesn't know any science who's pure arts, she must be kind of a well-rounded personality. So A, B, C. I'm like, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. And because I was already on the lookout because of this system mindset like whom I'm dating. And so within about the first 30 milliseconds, I'm like,”
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“I don't know this part. Okay. So I was at a cocktail event. Actually, Catherine was at the wedding too, who was responsible for all this. There was a theater production group in New York, and they had their annual Gala, and I went to raise the flag in support. But it was full of kind of artists and theater people that I didn't know the first thing about theater or all this stuff. So I would just like went to line online for a drink just to hide out and have an excuse not to talk to people. And there was a guy standing next to me. Who said, oh, hey, my name is So, what is your? What do you do? And I said, Oh, I do medical research. Because in New York, nobody knows what, or at the time, nobody knew what biotech was. And he said, oh, that's interesting. My ex-girlfriend does cancer research in Boston.”
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“Anyway, so no, it just started, and very shortly thereafter, um, Was sort of set up on an introduction. I call it a date. My wife calls it a business meeting. So there's a slightly different perspective here. I don't know if you know this story. I don't know. Because you were at the wedding. I was”
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“But yeah, it is breaking out, and then finding people who you think are More resonant really kind of excite you and you really enjoy and are more the way you want to be aspirationally how you want to live your life and Through that process, I mean, not long after I did that. System mindset as opposed to outcome mindset on dating, you know, I went out on a couple of days and they were just totally different level. I enjoyed them at a much different level because I was really, you know, how much am I genuinely enjoying dinner as opposed to how much am I telling stories and trying to be funny? And it was funny and she laughed and that's great. Let's go to bed or whatever Thing's not on, right”
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“Well, firstly, we're guys, so we don't talk about guys don't really, I think women have a much more communicative thing and guys are just like, Oh, whatever. He didn't answer a couple texts, so you know, whatever. It's also Manhattan. So, you know, the social life is like, let's text 10 friends at 5 p.m. and see what's going on at 7 p.m. And whichever two you find me. And so after a while, you don't answer some of those texts. It's like, so breaking with some guy friends turns out, you know.”
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“How much do you like having dinner together? And what I realized is like when I went back and looked, I wouldn't rank high how much I like to have dinner with the people I'd been dating. And so that's what I started looking for, people who were more just an intellectual mindfit for me and less worried about any of the other stuff, less worried what any friend would think or anybody would think or anyone around me. So you're smiling.”
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“Yeah, and you know that within the first few, and you're just not going to go there, and it's so overrated, it's so overemphasized anyway, that's not something you need to think about. What's under-emphasized is...”
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“Is he going to be having a lot of dinners together? And if that's not appealing to you, it's going to be a tough marriage. And the physical stuff takes care of itself because you won't be there. But that was just a great...”
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“Make different decisions about who I want to go out on dates with because that stuff is not really me. It's not deeply. I'm making the first few conversations fun, but then I'm getting bored. And I had an old friend who told me there were sort of two criteria for Finding the right life partner. It was a New York guy, and he was a very older guy, and he was a mentor, and he very successful, also very good-looking, very sort of classic Midwest gentleman and been very successful in dating. And I'd learned a lot because he was on his third wife. This is a footnote. But very happily married. And I think you learn more by from failure, obviously, than success. So he'd learned a lot and he said, just two criteria. One, mental health, and especially in Manhattan, that's a pretty high bar. And two, find somebody you like having dinner with.”
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“The most important thing is not to fool yourself, and you need to remember that you're the easiest person to fool. And I was fooling myself. I was saying, oh, I'm really into that person because they're a great people person and we have all these great people insights. Meanwhile, the person wants to go to clubs at midnight or 1 a.m. And that's the last thing I have any interest in doing. So, when I said I'm really being influenced, I need to just. Step out of this. I need to actually break up with some of my guy friends, which is a weird thing to think, but. You get kind of reliant, and then you just sort of follow. I need to break up because this is influencing me. And I need to.”
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“Meet some other variants. And they were really especially interested in kind of some of the more superficial qualities and sort of fast dating based on like superficial stuff and how people look or how people. And as much as I thought I was a good guy, I sort of fell into that trap. Of dating based on much more superficial. And because I was able to make conversation reasonably well and have a good time, I could have a fun first or second and then kind of fool myself into thinking, oh, I really connect with this person. Because look at these really interesting conversations. You mentioned Richard Feynman, one of the great Feynman quotes is,”
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“I got it. I think one of the lessons there is that No matter how self aware you think you are, you're really influenced by your surroundings a lot more, or at least I was, really influenced by who I was surrounded with more than I appreciated. I thought, oh, I'm my own person. It doesn't matter. But at the time, I had a number of friends who were in the film and fashion world. And so I didn't have a lot of time to arrange social life stuff because I was flying all over. And so I would go to social events with them and they were really interested in other film and fashion. So a lot of my dates were like film and fashion or occasionally I would”
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“And I took a weekend and I just said, all right, let me be really, try to be really honest with myself. I do want something more serious. I want a life partner. Let me just think through the last 10 or 20 dates that I've gone or women that I've gone on some kind of date with, like, why did it not develop? Is there any pattern here? What was I thinking when I, again, what was your decision making process that you want to? And then when I was pretty honest about it and stepped back and looked at it from view above, there was a pattern that came out. This is stupid. I'm doing this same pattern over and over, and I need to be thinking in a completely different way. And I need to be making my decisions about who I date and why I date them in a totally different way.”
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“Anyway, I'd been dating five or five years, six years, seven years. And at that point, my father had gotten ill. And then passed away from cancer from a rare type of leukemia. And that, I think, gave me a mind shift. Like, what am I doing here? And I had been doing this sort of mindless, kind of like the Gary Kasparov pond takes bishop. Well, that didn't work out with that dating thing. So let me not date, you know, some woman who looks like this was in the profession Y or has this characteristic. So, okay, so that solves, you know, that's one pon takes bishop. Don't do this move. Don't do that move. But I'd never step back and said, like, what am I just systematically? What's wrong here? Like, why have I not dated anyone for more than two months or three months in a bunch of years”
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“And five years, sort of ten years, I was sort of single guy in Manhattan and then a friend liked to describe it as, you know, you have junk eating whether you just move from car. It was sort of like junk dating. Like there's a high on the first date. And then that high is still sort of there on the second date and then it fades on the third date. And so then you go to the next one because there's a high. And so Manhattan life is full of this sort of junk dating. Like you have the junk eating thing. You go from one to another. And then you never, it's really a bad, bad place for dating, I think, because you never, there's so many carbs around. So, you know, everyone's looking for the next shiny penny and you don't actually take the time to really relish and savor and get past a couple little speed bumps to find what's really valuable underneath.”
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