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Tara Brach

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  1. “I want to appreciate you because I've been talking about evolution and I feel like you really are your curiosity and your way of interviewing one teacher says that attention is the most pure expression of love. And your way of interviewing and also moving through the world is deeply attentive and courageous and sets a model for us. It's a pleasure to hold hands. Thank you.”

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  2. “Yeah. Yeah, that's the simplest way. And then get on my email list. I'm not a massive emailer. I mean, I keep being told I should be, but I'm not. But I do let folks know then the different in-person and online courses that I'm doing, the ones that are coming up, this one on Fear that's coming up that I'm excited about. And Jonathan, my husband and I are teaching some relationship workshops. So those kind of things you'll find out about.”

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  3. “The real ask would be to pause enough so that you can contact what's really going on inside you and pause enough so that you can look at another and see the goodness that's there and mirror back some. Let people know.”

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  4. “Well, what happens is that when they come at the wrong time, we go into our old habitual either defender attack mode. And then actually create the walls that are the first thing we don't want. So it really helps, just like formal meditation. It helps to have on-purpose sitting times so that if something needs to present itself and you need to work through something, you're available. And that stuff will come up at other times too, but you kind of get more the knack of how to work with it then.”

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  5. “Really. In fact, I mean, he handed it to me. I looked at it and I gave up. I said, okay, let's go kayaking. You know, I drop this communication stuff. Let's just go play.”

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  6. “Exactly, exactly. Oh no. I know it strikes terror in a man's heart. I get it. But I did it and it was actually, I could even feel it as I was doing it was very controlling move. So he had that look and then he pulled out his iPhone and he said, Siri, what do you do when your wife says, how are we doing? And here's what Siri said, and I swear this is the truth. Sherry said, you say, I'm okay and you're okay, and this is the best of all possible worlds.”

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  7. “Well, a couple of times a week, and we do this more than that, but formally, like we have to, like it's on our side. whatever's going on could be in our lives but more is there anything right now between you and I and really feeling loving and feeling open and that's kind of the inquiry and then to hold a space for whatever's there so that we don't get into a habit of in some way covering over something and then having something build and then not be as tender and open with each other and we haven't been married that long. We've been probably together for about 12 years and it keeps on growing and unfolding and I will tell you one very brief story that one of our ritual sessions I had this feeling like he was kind of like staying on the perimeter and so on so at one point I said so how are we doing and he had that deer in the headlights”

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  8. “which is one of my favorite things in the world to be teaching. And that's the message. It's like have the nerve, the courage to feel what's vulnerable, that thing I said before about what are you unwilling to feel, to feel it, and to be able to name it in the field of relationship. Because what happened just the way when you name something inside yourself, you're less identified, when you do it together, it helps both discover a field of intimacy that really is filled with compassion and understanding that you can't get to if you're not willing to be vulnerable.”

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  9. “profoundly accept and love myself as I am, but I'm going to add on to that. And this is more relational because I'd like to speak to a little bit, you know, we do a lot of training to be with ourselves in meditation, but the missing component is how do we train ourselves to be with each other? And I would say to my 30-year-old self, take the chance of being more vulnerable. Let your vulnerability be there so that instead of feeling angry and expressing the anger, stay with the anger enough so you can feel the vulnerability underneath it and be able to name that. And this is particularly in intimate relationships. Like with my husband, we have a ritual of, and we, by the way, we teach courses in bringing mindfulness and meditation into relationships.”

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  10. “Oh, we got some raspberry bushes that... Probably pretty much less and they're like, oh my gosh. You know, I just went out this morning and picked a whole mess of raspberries. And it's like I really like simple pleasures. So that might count.”

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  11. “tobacco industry you know there's been some documentaries on racism that are like I just saw one called Undoing Racism or The Illusion of Race or something it just you know right now because the times are bringing it more to our attention it's like we're seeing what's happening in the daily lives of African Americans but we're just seeing like spot hits of you know unarmed African Americans being killed and then this whole you know shooting in Charleston It's like anything that brings that into our consciousness that this is not some distant other having a bad experience now and then these are our brothers and sisters part of our world right here who are living still in a daily way that is violent and oppressive. Documentaries that show that kind of thing.”

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  12. “You know, my favorites are more just because I have such passion for it. You know, any of the documentaries about there's been documentaries about the earth, those kind of things, documentaries about pharmaceutical industry. It's kind of the political ones that I'm believers in that undress things.”

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  13. “Well, wait a minute. What was that series? I'm forgetting it now that I love so much. You know, Albuquerque and Drugs and I went crazy for Breaking Bad. I went so crazy for it that I would be teaching a class and leading the meditation and knowing I didn't want to get home sooner so I could catch that. Yeah, so that's one.”

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  14. “When I'm working out, but you didn't ask me that You know, my son widened my taste. So I have a capacity to enjoy a whole lot of different art forms. But, you know, I don't like a lot of, I like silence. I like quiet. So I'm not, you know, I try to whenever I can have it quieter.”

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  15. “Surprised. I'm not sure surprised. I love Mozart and Beethoven. I love classical music. Not thinking that's going to be a surprise.”

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  16. “It's about really waking up and realizing that there's a basic goodness here. There's a humanness and an aliveness and intelligence and a love that's what we are. And we all have our particular qualities. There's this basic goodness. So a lot of what I'm doing in my books and in my teachings is how do we pay attention? pass any mask or persona just that consciousness the sentience the place that we're really in the same field”

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  17. “I'm not sure. I put it inside everyone's heart and mind. It's like, I feel like the Buddha said it pretty elegantly that if you're suffering, it's because you're forgetting who you are. You're living in a smaller narrative and that really each of our jobs is to start recognizing what am I believing that's limiting me? What am I believing that's keeping me small, separate, either feeling deficient or feeling superior? Because I talk about the transfer unworthiness that I can honestly say that I am as much in the trance of specialnesses, unworthiness, and both of them cause suffering, you know.”

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  18. “And fears what we're unwilling to fear. So it's like to become fearless, you need to feel fear and be willing to be vulnerable. Be willing to have everybody tell you, hey, you're going to go offline and then you're going to miss something to be willing to feel that vulnerability but not be driven by it.”

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  19. “Okay, so with non-traumatic serum, by the way, I'm doing a whole online course on working with fear in the fall, which I'll tell you more about, because I feel like for almost everyone I know really what's going to free us most, what's going to bring out most of our creativity and most let us be intimate in the world is to really learn how to work with the fears that we run away from. And in fact, there's one mystic who says there's only one really good question, which is what am I unwilling to feel?”

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  20. “And one of the interesting things to me is that if you go in Asia, these mandalas, which are filled with images and right at the center of them, a sacred space, and in order to get to sacred space, you have to pass through what are called the animal headed goddesses. And they're really fear and anger and hatred and jealousy. And the point isn't that you get the only way to sacred space is to encounter these energies, but be with them not try to sidestep them. So it's almost like it is the path to face fear. And then there's the question of, well, how do we do that in a way that actually frees us and not freezes us, you know And for me, the way that I work with here is, and there's a difference, by the way, between traumatic fear and the kind of fear we're talking about.”

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  21. “So that's where we get, now we're coming back to having tea with Mara. For you, go ahead and say I'm stepping back. I'm taking a sabbatical from whatever it is. And then your process, and it's an important process. It's not like I wish I could sidestep this so I could actually have my sabbatical. Part of it is you are learning how to find your peace and balance and ease in the midst of those energies of fear.”

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  22. “I'll let you know what's on the other side. So part of it is just knowing that, let me put this way, there's a payload of caregiver who said, who was with thousands of people when they're dying. And she said the greatest regret of the dying is not living true to ourselves, that we're living according to the expectations or the cultural fears or whatever. So your whole path is about playing the edge and not buying in. And part of what that means is that you're willing to feel the fear but not be driven by it.”

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  23. “because what will happen is it'll break, we all get habitual to some degree. And the trick is, can we keep on recognizing and opening out of any of the habits that stop us from being as sensitive and attuned as possible? And so you need a sabbatical to do that.”

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  24. “You can be a more full, more productive, more real being when you're not constantly being tugged around by that something more or something else. And then the second piece is if I think of people that are really good teachers or people that are really good writers, people that really have done the music that goes to people's soul, they retreat. They unplug. They take space, they step out of the busyness and open themselves to something bigger, something wider, something more mysterious and fluid in order for that to happen. And for you, and I feel this in particular for you because I feel like you're very plugged into the pulse in a very good way and your sensitivity and attunement. We'll get even deeper if you can take sabbaticals.”

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  25. “It's amazing. And so I can say for myself, Tim, that when I'm in my fear of not being prepared or the fear of missing out, my heart's not so open. If my son calls and I'm in the middle of it, I really am not able to take in him what's really going on for him because there's some part of me that's tense and on my way somewhere else. So it feels like first of all to have the aspiration to be free from that trance is the first step to recognize it's going on.”

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  26. “Else that you need to be plugged into. And one of my favorite little cartoons is of this man and a woman sitting in the living room and he's saying to her, you know, if I ever become a vegetable, just pull the plug, at which point she goes over the TV set and she hangs out the plug. And what I like about it is just like we're... We get into kind of an existential anxiety when we're not plugged in, like the world is moving on without us and how to deal with it. The first is what you're doing, which is name it. Name it and really get that this is a product of the times that we're at a very speedy time and it's accelerating. There's a relationship with the Chinese word for busyness that has to that's in relationship to heart killing.”

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  27. “Can't remember the name of the author, but it's really describing how technology actually shapes and changes our brain and whether it's the onset of typewriter changing because instead of handwriting, which brings out a certain part of our brain having a typewriter, but being plugged in all the time, our brain is changing and we're actually taking in a lot more information, but at a lot more of a shallow level, not so dimensional, and we've lost our capacity to actually immerse and drop into the deeper, more subtle dimensions of things. It's actually a change in the brain that people that used to be very avid deep readers just can't get themselves to. There's a kind of attention deficit when it comes to certain things. And what the internet promotes is a sense of missing out because there's so much coming in from so many different angles that you always get the sense that you're missing it, that there's just something.”

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  28. “You're right, and I think it's getting more so because of the degree of the internet, because we're always plugged in on so many levels. You know the book The Shallows. Did you read that”

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  29. “all the faculty and admin and parents are going to be of the group that we work with are going to be taking it and we've got on-the-ground mentors. So the idea is to see if we can change the whole culture of the school by bringing this in. There's so much research now showing the beneficial effects for kids. But to have the parents also to me is what's exciting. So we've been able to get some revenue enough to get the first round going on this. And I think it's going to be a very cool pilot that can be done elsewhere in other school systems.”

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  30. “Yeah, well, I've been advising and that's affiliated with us. And I think it's, you know, I'll let you know before the end because I'd love people to check it out. It's amazing what they're doing, the kind of work they're doing. And in fact, I'll tell you about one project that I really love, which is that I mentioned that Jack Kornfold and I are collaborating on this Mindful 40, this 40-day program. Well, minds, we're affiliated with minds, and we're going to be working in one very diverse, very underserved, very large high school in the DC area. And we're going to bring mindfulness to all parts of it. In other words, they're going to do the training with the kids. And Jack and I, this online program we have.”

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  31. “Collaborative, so they're able to be more emotionally intelligent, so they're able to find their center. So that one really excites me. And I spend some time working on that. In fact, Congressman Tim Ryan and I have done a number of presentations in the area to different schools that, and there's thousands of kids in the area that have now been taking mindfulness courses. So that's just an example of something I'd be working on.”

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  32. “That's what I'm happiest. Yeah, yeah, your ideal. Yeah. Well, usually that means that I am writing and putting together talks because I do it's like being a minister. I do my weekly talk and that's kind of where a lot of my energy goes. But I'm also involved with, we have a meditation community here in Washington and a lot of socially engaged action initiatives are going on. So I'm involved with projects like we're bringing mindfulness into the schools in the area.”

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  33. “Well, it varies like most people. If I'm traveling and teaching, because I teach different centers around the country and some in Europe, then I'm out and about.”

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  34. “Might have to come back to that because sometimes I'll just gift the essential roomie, which is a collection of poetry by Coleman Barks that I think is really, really beautiful, or poetry by the poet face. So sometimes it'll be poetry books that I'll gift. I really value Eckert Tolli's books. I think he's done a great job. I think Ajishanti's done fabulously even more with his audio, his talks than even his books, but his books also are wonderful.”

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  35. “Well, Jack Hornfield, who I teach with a lot and love, is a very good friend, has a couple of books that are very good. His classic is a path with heart. And the other book that is, I think, wonderful, I love Tama Chodron. And Tema Chodrin, one of her classics is when things fall apart. So those are two right there that really, really help guide into the practices and really help heal the heart.”

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  36. “but they're right there and they're easy to find. And then there's also the audio talks page, which gives the kind of background of understandings and so on that really help us to not only start a practice and sustain it, but really bring it into our lives. Because the big deal, I mean, everybody talks about sitting practice. Really, the big deal is can you and I be talking right now and still have that quality of remembrance where we're in touch with what matters, where we're embodied enough so we can feel feelings. We tend to cut off so habitually in our lives. And as you described earlier, we're so plugged into so many different virtual realities that to me the big challenge in invitation is, can we get more real and alive in our day and less habituated? less automatic and so that's the carryover”

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  37. “Well, the name, I don't remember the names, but I have featured meditations on the landing page for guided meditations, and just choose it according to length because there's pretty much the same content in them”

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  38. “Well, on my website, there's a landing page for guided meditations. And they're all free and they usually are anywhere from 12 minutes to 25 minutes. And you can start them. And they start off with really guiding us into presence and then they keep going. You can even stop them. I would use one of the featured ones. Those are the ones that are most generically useful, but also just play around. It really helps to have guided meditations to begin because you'll eventually internalize, you'll get an inner meditation teacher. But hearing it and hearing kind of a few different versions will give you a sense of what works best for you because sometimes I'll emphasize how to relax through the body and sometimes I'll emphasize how to really collect with the breath. And at other times, meditations on self-”

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  39. “And we're not always aware of that tension, but it stops us from fully savoring and luxuriating and being creative and alive in the moment. And what deconditions that tension is when we unconditionally open to the life that's right here and we don't resist it and we realize that, wow, there is space for what's here, even when it's unpleasant. Even when we're sensing a dying of some sort, To me, the gift of meditation is it actually teaches us how to be with living and dying. And so I don't feel that I think TM offers a support in one part of meditation training, but it doesn't go the whole way.”

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  40. “And one of the things I'm very aware of is that most of us are, you know, we're aware of our mortality and we're tensing against what can go wrong. And so we go around our day and in some way there's this tension about what's around the corner that might”

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  41. “Now there are other ways for concentration other than a TM mantra, but that's the way TM works. For me, the limitation is it doesn't allow you to see into the nature of reality. And by that I mean, it doesn't bring a kind of presence that allows you to sense what's actually happening now. Most of our understanding of reality is conceptual. We have ideas about things. To really have a clear, penetrating insight, we need to be present. And TM doesn't, it's like it aims the mind at something, but it doesn't open the attention so that whatever arises, you start learning how to be with it. And to me, the power and freedom of mindfulness is you start getting the knack of being with whatever.”

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  42. “Or a set of sacred words and repeating them and repeating them. And the benefit of concentration, which is a narrowing of the lens of focus, is that it actually collects the attention and the mind gets quiet. And when the mind's quiet, there can be experiences of bliss and serenity and peace and so on. So that's what TM does. It gives you a break from that incessant inner dialogue. And the more you practice it, the more easily it is to collect the mind.”

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  43. “I mean, I'm very fundamentalist about being non-fundamentalist. So, you know, it's like that one always gets to me because I think that different personalities and temperaments benefit from different things. And clearly for you, having that structure served you. So I like that there's a structure for some people, there's different styles of that structure. I offer all my meditations for free and I just feel like this came to me. This is given from the universe and I want to give it back. So I like whenever possible not to have to charge for something in this domain of waking up. So that always, and I also like that it be very available to populations that are underserved or can't afford it. So that's another piece. But in terms of the actual meditation, TM is primarily a concentrative practice. You're taking a mantra.”

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  44. “Well, first a lot of people from the old days found their way into meditation through TM because it was one of the earliest and most well-known. So just, you know, we have many, many people that practice mindfulness that started with TM. And there's, I think one of the things I always have my antennas go up on any particular style claims that it's the best or the one and the only.”

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  45. “In the Buddhist tradition, they called skillful means. It's like there are things that incline us. And so if the song inclines you, I know a woman who kept saying, I don't have meditator, don't have time to meditate because she would rush through her morning. And then she realized that her meditation time as well, she was boiling water for her tea. And when she poured her tea and when she drank her tea, and that was going to be her meditation. If you call it your meditation, you actually like, but you create some quality of sacredness or specialness or importance or meaning. And that's helpful. That starts inclining you. I go for anything that helps to move us towards presence.”

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  46. “Basically, pissed at my partner for not doing his or her share or whatever it is. You can name it. And if you name it, and here's the cool thing, when you name something, you're not as identified with it. That's the thing. It doesn't control you as much. There's a saying that when a shaman names a fear, they have power over it. So when you name thinking, you're no longer in the cloud of thought. You're opened up to something larger, and then you can choose, is this thought useful? Is it not? Often, you know, most of the time our thoughts are very habitual and they're fear-driven. And they just perpetuate a sense of being a victim or being at risk or being endangered or being strapped. It creates some space. You can relax open again to a bigger world.”

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  47. “I'm off base. Exactly. It is in radical acceptance and it's one of the most important support strategies, you know, naming or noting what's going on. It's really, really helpful. So with the breath, pick wherever the breath is easiest and most pleasant to detect. So for you, it might be the rim of the nostrils is refined enough and yet distinctive enough. And for somebody else, feeling the whole body breathing can be doing it. And for some people, the breath itself is not a good anchor. I know people that have had trauma around breathing and that's not the best anchor. So listen to sound instead. But you're right when the mind wanders and you want to bring it back, if you just name what's going on, if you just name thinking or worrying or planning or fantasizing, sometimes you can even name which of, you know, we call it the top 10 hits which of the top 10 is going on right now. Okay.”

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  48. “Just sit there. Now there are, of course, all sorts of very helpful guidelines on how to direct your attention that will help to not only quiet your mind, but wake up your senses. And one of the things that I most love about the effect of meditation is I'm more in my body. It's like I go through the day and I'm less in that trance of thinking where I'm in a kind of that I think of it as a home movie where I'm just off somewhere else and I feel more of aliveness and energy through my body and my senses are more awake. I'm more taking in the colors and the forms and the scents and so on. Sit still for a few minutes, come into your body as well as you can. The breath is a very good home base or anchor if you want to kind of calmly just kind of Be with the breath and that's it for starters.”

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  49. “To sit still for a few minutes and know that you're just doing this is your evolutionary strategy for bringing out your best and just a few minutes of sitting still. And one of my friends, as you put your tush on your cushion, you take what you get, it doesn't matter what happens.”

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  50. “That's exactly right. And that's the way we do it too. In fact, I've got a program coming out, I think, in January called Mindful 40, which is 40 days, and you can really, really get the practice down. And we do 10 minutes a day. And five minutes is some background and five minutes of a meditation. So I'm with you, Tim. I think starting with a commitment, no matter what to every day, helps a lot because nature loves rhythms and you can build a habit with that kind of everyday practicing. But here are the basic ingredients is that it's useful at the beginning to have a place that's quiet and that you're not going to get interrupted and it's useful to close your eyes just because that will, you know, there's less stimuli visually that stimulates associations. And it's useful.”

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