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Ted Baxter

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first: 2019-11-11
most recent: 2019-11-11
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“See, everybody learns something new. Get the hell out of my way. I don't got the gun. And I shall run you right over. Anyway, Ted is so nice. I am not. And he's the lovely one. Any Thanks very much. All right, you WWEDWBAXTHR.com.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And I'll never forget that. And so I put that through my talks now. You know, I'm talking, I just said USC the other day is great. And I told him about always my main mantra now is to give giving back to people.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Very much so that's really. During the last 10 years after I had my stroke, I had entered the Tony Rammens, I forget what the name of it was, but I went through that three days. Oh, yeah, his crazy. Yeah. It's actually interesting. And the thing is that I got a lot from that was the last priority. celebrate and give back to the society.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“To help people, it keeps you live longer. I mean, I have my partner, Scott Galloway, on the pivot podcast, wrote The Algebra of Happiness. And if you play sports, you're more healthy than if you watch sports. If you help someone, you're more healthy than if you help yourself. It's really interesting. It's all these lessons. But what's really important to think about, this is an increasingly fast world. It's a twitchy world. It's gotten a meaner. It's become a meaner world for sure. And one of the things to remember is when you're stopped like this, whether it's by stroke or whatever in the case of Ted and I was stroke, you have to keep in mind that”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You never know. You still can. All right. People need to think about just to take a pause and just think about their lives and if they're doing the things that they wanted to do it, if they really wanted to do has a passion that they wanted to do every day. What I would say people, just think about it you're dealing, you're dealing with, you know, like you go to Starbucks every day. And just everybody's so busy every day. Just think about one day to take up some pause and just help another person About what she does or he does that day.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And a pancreatic On us. Did you have kids? Did you? No, I haven't had kids. That's the only thing that mattered to me for my stroke was my kids. That's the only, that's it. Nothing else. So it creates a kind of freedom in a lot of ways. Yeah. That was the only thing I worried about in the whole thing is my kids.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And so this took me down. In the world saying, you know what, it's not like that. So now I'm worrying about things like that for other people, not so much for me. I have a beautiful, beautiful new wife. And I want all the things that I gave I would give her. We're going to be able to do it. Other than that, I'm not really worried about anything. Sometimes I worried about my brothers because they're getting older than me. But my father died now. died of Parkinson's disease and my mother died from cancer and a pancreatic cancer. But, you know, I think that were two events that to us as a family that really took a lot of toll on us.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, well, you need to be very careful how you're walking around. Basically, in my case, I was doing this in the world. I could be Hong Kong, Tokyo. Bali, whatever, for vacation, for business. Be careful that you're not. Because I had the situation, I thought I was a superhero.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah. He's coming back. It's going to come back. It's like two or three years. Communicate this stuff. So tell me, let's finish on sort of the lessons you've learned yourself, what you can learn from me. We always try to learn from adversity, of course. Everyone tries to do that. In my case, I worked harder. I spent more time with my kids, but I definitely. And I had a dad who died at a young age of an aneurysm. So I'm very familiar with the bad case scenario. So what are the lessons you would take out of it?”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah You know, because I still have this right side. It's varicose veins because they tell you, okay, you can go in, we can laser it. It's coming back. It's going to come back. It's like two or three years. It's coming back. But so every once in a while I worry about that and stuff. But now, you know, now I'm hoping I can get to be a speaker as a second way I can communicate this stuff.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah. Well, what I did, I had to have two seizure surgeries surgeries without this. The first was, it's easy for me to tell you, is a PFO to close that in the PFO. So that was that done. Yeah, I didn't. Mine was so small. Yeah, something. M pluser PFO occluder. So that was done during the one year after I had the stroke. But this one, the other one was a green-filled filter.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's cumin and you can't have broccoli. I don't know. I just went off of them all because it was interesting. Now just lately, recently, someone has expressed to me, I just had a doctor's appointment. You know, they don't think I'll have another choke, but they don't know. They don't essentially know. But one of the things one of the doctors is telling me is like, when I first had my stroke, which was probably different than yours, they wanted, they decided surgery to close up your PFO is not a good thing. Years ago, they thought it was a good thing. And now again, they're starting to think it's a good thing.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Then don't use the drugs, and then you can have a stroke. And I was like, I think I'm gonna pick the stroke. It was interesting, it was an interesting moment. And so one of the things you have to start deciding is what kind of medication you have, what kind of how you want to live your life, stuff like then, what kind of risk profile you want to take. But what's hard is the idea that one of the things that having a stroke does is things like that. Like if you take this medication, this is what you have to take. This is the result. And if you have this medication, this is the result. And if you don't do any medication, this is the result.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Than younger people, but more and more younger people are having. That's a big trend, or else they're discovering that's what they are. It's a really interesting trend that's happening at a younger and younger age people are having these strokes. And so what they did is they treat you as if you're elderly and you don't have, you're sent, you don't move and things like that. And so a lot of the drugs are very not conducive to a lifestyle. And I remember after my stroke, I was on one of the drugs and the new drugs are much better, but they don't have, they are blood thinners, but then if you got in an accident, you could die of bleeding out because they don't have just, the warfarin's the only one they have an antidote to if you have something like that. And the new one's not as much. It's changing, of course, all the time. But, you know, drug development is slow. And so I was in Hawaii and I was like, can I go surfing or, you know, hiking? And they're like, well, have you fallen, you bleed, you could die.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Terrible. Yeah, there's all these new drugs just for people that don't know that there used to be warfarin used to be the drug you take and then you can't eat broccoli essentially whatever because more strokes were happening to older people”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Meaning recovery, the ability to recover from a catastrophic thing. So where do you spend a lot of time thinking about the science of it? Because it's things, the medications have changed. Are you still on medications on blood thinners?”
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“No matter where you went to therapist or whatever, they'll all tell you it would say, look, is there gonna be a positive mindset or not? Because if without that, you can forget it. So that's first and hope, obviously. Then I would say then you can bring together, you can bring to the determination. If you've got all that perseverance, all kind of stuff, if you can bring that in the second concepts. And the last concept I would say that you need to, if you have to use some of the tips that I have in the book, or if you have, I'm sure, I mean, then nowadays I'm hearing about stem cells, therapy, maybe that could be a good idea for you. Look, the doctors are going to solve this.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I thought about that when I just had the middle of first five years, five or six years, I thought about this. But then I thought about it and I'm thinking, you know, I can really make a big difference for the people that just had a stroke. And I just did just watch to go to one of Fasia clubs. How many times are you going to be there? Every one week you've been there, it's been 20 people. Let's say now you're there and it's like 60 people said you could make a difference to those people.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It wasn't like that. I wasn't doing direct effect. Communication recovery group, we called it. I do that every Monday every Monday”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, me neither. Skip it if you can. Because I had it, I needed to have different life script. So right now I've been through so many different ways to tap my brain, different types of ways. My relationships are better. My writing is better. In terms of development and progress, and my book is better, I want to help people. This is the thing. I want to help people now. When I worked at Citadel, it wasn't really...”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, let me talk about that first. Somebody else used the word of silver lining. So I came up with the idea of how a massive stroke changed my life for the better. It's now 14 years after my stroke. And my life is better now than it was then. I wouldn't suggest a stroke for anybody. Right.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I was, it wouldn't stop. I didn't want to have any breaks that you said in one of your article. I said, you know that there's a limit. If you're going to be in this world. So, why should I sleep? You know, I mean, it's probably not the best idea, but I like it. I like it. That's why I can get through a 24-hour day with six or seven hours. Right.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It made me aware. Now, you need to do less. Now I thought I think now I have four jobs and 17. Yeah, that was the way I'm going to get better, the speaking, just what I did pre-stroke. And of course, I always say that I'm going to do that, but I could try to do this as I'm doing it right now. Maybe one day it'll get better. Right. But who cares? I was talking to Jane Brody, and she said to me, you have intelligible speech, so no problem with that. And I think that's great. And, you know, she told me that to me. I have a better sense and awareness of people right now than you do.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We're here with Ted Baxter. He's the author of Relentless How a Massive Stroke Changed My Life for the Better. I thought that was a really interesting thing. I wouldn't say my stroke changed my life for the better, although I guess it did. It made me aware of how quickly I needed to move. Like I hadn't been aware I could be stopped. So in that way, it was good. But one of the things that I recall when I had a stroke is how everyone came up to me and said, now you need to relax. Now you need to do less. Now you're such a hard charging person. I thought, no, I'm going to triple down. Now I have four jobs and 17 children and everything else. So I had the opposite effect. I love the term relentless. Is that why you called that? You just have to keep at it”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, no, now, now, now I've been working. I've been doing this five or six years since I had my stroke. So now I decided to get myself, first of all, to write this book. Right, right. Which I think is great. For me, I can use it as a therapy for me. So that's good. But I really want the people, the readers and regular person to take this read my book. I want them to see it and to know that what I'm getting to spread awareness of the people maybe he hasn't known somebody that has a stroke or have themselves have a stroke or maybe people with aphasia so maybe they could gain some tips and techniques that I have got some of this book”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Exactly, yeah, and yeah, you know, the thing is when I was there and I was coming back in the hospital, I was sitting there with my wife and she told me about this one day and she told me about this in the hospital. She told me about the doctors They told her. That I have two years to give my speech back. After that, your husband will plateau. So, where he is, that's when you get to deal with. And I heard about this. I was thinking there's no way. There's no way”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And do it. Right, right. When people are in those kind of states, you are, again, there's so many hard charging people listen to this program and stuff like that. The ability, the stop process being stopped essentially from your advancement, because you're probably one of those people like me, type A personality. We're advancing, advancing, advancing, constantly doing something. To be stopped like that is really a shock. It's like what? This isn't the story I am supposed to be in. Exactly.”
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“And we break for lunch and come after that. And we have music or art or one-to-one or things like that. And I did that for six weeks. And my wife was gone because they wanted to be around there. And I really wouldn't want to be there. So then after that, I came back and that was in Michigan. It was Ann Arbor. It was fantastic. For right now, it was tough for me to tell the world really, for me to say that that was my one thing I did, that if I didn't have it, I wouldn't be. No, because you did one of those things between that and working out. I had a private therapist. Kind of stuff. But the thing is, I've done all that stuff, and some of them makes a lot. I needed some money for some of them, but that just gives me a ticket to the dance. I was the person that I really had to get myself On the dance and do it”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“As the place, and we, in fact, we went to a visit up there. And so we talked to them. And they told her, they said, look, after nine months after your husband had a stroke, it's probably too early. But she said to them, I said, look, he's not an animal. It's not like a person like...”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“University of Michigan Aphasia program without having that in this, then I wouldn't be talking what I'm talking about. And explain what that is, the aphasia program. Yeah, then about nine months after I had my stroke, my wife decided that she picked this.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You mean talking about my speeching? Speeching. Speech. Yeah. So what I do, what I did is, well, the first thing that I did, I went to the Walden Books bookstore, right? Looking for Wear flashcards where it was. And I saw it, and it was like, it started from kindergarten through sixth grade. And my wife said, you want this? I said, yeah, I told her, yeah, yeah, that's what I want. So gave it to me. And that's why I started to do that for the next day. And I did that for every year. I started from kindergarten. I got through to eighth and ninth grades and like that. But after I gave my wife crazy here because she's the person I had to listen to me. She got it. So that was working. And then I could see my speech start to get better, right? But without having a”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So let's talk about the mental because one of the things that's difficult is the inability to express yourself, even if you're thinking, not being able to express yourself as quickly as you're used to. Talking about that struggle.”
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“That took me, I mean, I guess I started to jogging about eight months, nine months from the stroke. So all in, I would say three, four years after that, I was good.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We both cried That's what's fascinating about a stroke is that you can recover, like you can recover, but it's basically reteaching yourself from birth almost certain things, depending on what happened, whether you had a weakness on one physical side, whether you had something with your mouth, and then, of course, thought processes, which is the hardest part. But let's go through this. So the physical part is that you just trained yourself like crazy and you were getting control of your body, which I think makes people feel like they're in control of themselves because most people walk through life all day, not even thinking about the control of their body. I'm totally aware since my stroke, every aspect of movement. You know what I mean? That I can move much more so than you are without it. So you did that. And how long did that take?”
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“And first time we did it, we both cried. I was sitting, I couldn't believe it, right? By the time I was finished this, I knew, I knew it was going to be my mental brain will get the idea here.”
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“So the thing is, when I went to the hospital, after eight weeks, then they give me the discussion about having to be in the hospital. And then OK, now you can go home. Right. So at that point, I couldn't be able to use my right side, my right leg and my arm also. What I did, I went to my wife. I said, look, I want you to take a rope and put it in my back with this left side of my arm. I'm going to try to eat dinner tonight with my right side.”
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“She had a perfect trainer. This guy's an ex San Diego football player. So he knows he knew what I needed. So you wanted to get your ball.”
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“Right? I mean, you know, the thing is, I also knew that the fact that I couldn't talk, that was a totally different animal compared to not be able to move my body. So that I took care of that first. So for example, first thing I did, I joined Crunch in the middle of Chicago. I got a trainer. Don't ask me how, but I talked to the administrator. She understood you wanted it to be. Right, exactly.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Training Next day, right. Right. So brief is that you'd been just doing recovery learning how to speak again, learning how to walk again. The CFO of eBay similarly had that, and he slowly, I think he still has some arm movement issues, but the same thing. You have to learn. He did come back and did a bunch of different things, but Bob Swant. And one of the things is realizing how quickly you can come back or not, or whether you can return to what you were doing.”
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“Well, then after this happened, the stroke, then I have to really have to think about it. And the first, it took me about eight or nine months for me to realize that I can't get back to my job. So, I mean, for me to tell myself that, look, you had all this, Wharton, you went to, you did all the training, had all that stuff. It was all gone. It's gone. And you can't come back and say, just making you sure you can deal with somebody that's dealing with Morgan Stanley about the stocks the next day. It wouldn't happen. But when I accepted that, that's when my recovery took off. Right.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, that was my pinnacle of my career. That citadel. I had everything I wanted to have. It was a small, small group compared to Citadel versus CSFB or PW. Right, that's credit space. It was huge. I mean, but so for me to come back and doing this job, it was a CFO. It was basically what they could groom me was to do the job global financial controller, perfect. And then after the next, if we're talking about this, the next year, you're going to be the CFO.”
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“So they decided to wait to see if it would clear up. Because often it's astonishing how much the body can heal itself. But it's the process. You had a much longer process. Mine was almost instant. I was fine within hours, which was weird. They thought I happened to be in China, which wasn't my favorite place, but it turned out tremendous doctors there. But one of the things they did want to do was intervene, really. They wanted to close up the hole in my heart or they wanted to operate, but the blood clot dissipated and I decided not to have, I had a doctor come to me and he said it was just minor heart surgery. And I was like, there's no such thing. But what was interesting is the lack of knowledge about stuff in terms of what to do in those situations. And both of us are, of course, lucky to have smart people around us that would help us. When you get back, we're going to talk more about what happened after his stroke and how his massive stroke changed his life for the better. This is Ted Baxter. He was formerly a managing director for the hedge fund Citadel.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And they came back, and she said, and I said, Okay, let's not do anything. So that's what we decided. And we had two doctors that was there. We got this from, well, she got it from the CEO of Citadel. His name is Ken Griffin, who was the name of Dr. Sullivan and the neurologist from Chicago, which was Dr. Tabor, was fantastic.”
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“And for her to make the decision. She was talking to CEO for Citadel. We're talking like she met him before, but dealing with person like that, you're talking from her and pull him in this CEO board of directors. Of the world of the investment to deal with you and making questions. What did they do?”
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“Yeah. So the thing is, and this is why my wife, I give all this kudos. To her, I mean, if I didn't have her, I wouldn't be even talking to you about this situation right now. I'd be would have passed. I mean, she asked, the thing is, is they came to her and said, look, Mrs. Baxter, you have to make this decision. We can go through. We know he has his clot. We know where he is. We know the clot is in his brain. So we can go in there and yank it, hank it out, or do anything”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's it Right, so eating was a problem, same thing. Things dropped out of your mouth. That happened to me Yeah. And so what happens for people that don't know? Stroke happens on one side of your body, essentially, wherever the stroke hits the other side of your body is impacted, correct? I think that's correct. So you had the PFO, which is a hole in your heart. You had a clot, a DVT, and you also probably had blood that was thicker, correct, or something like that. Some people do. I did.”
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“She would tell me that you use the word of girl. So I know she's a girl. That's it. And then that's my speech, my language. I didn't really know what was going on. Now, as far as the physical, my right side of my body, I couldn't move. It was my right side from my foot through my head.”
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“Couldn't do anything. What else? I couldn't comprehend. My brothers were there and I didn't know half of them, but I couldn't be able to tell my wife her name.”
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“Yes, instantly. I think that's the difference with me. I knew it, and they immediately started treating it just like instantly. Which I think makes a difference, makes a big difference. So afterwards, when you find out what was your reaction to it, and the name of your book is, I want to know what it means relentless and also how a message you changed my life for the better. So I want to get into that in the next section. But right in the recovery period, you were without language. Your right side of your body was unable to.”
2019-11-11 · Decoder with Nilay Patel · Recode Decode: Ted Baxter · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, it does have anything AFib of your heart says, no, none of that. So they were thinking, well, we really didn't know. Plus, you have to put it in your mind that that was in a hospital, in a suburb of Of Chicago Okay, so”
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