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Tom Bilyeu

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“Man, thank you for one of the most fun interviews I've ever done. This is a lot of fun. No, it really was. It was awesome.”
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“And I would fundamentally be similar to who I am. Wouldn't be the same. My mom obviously had tremendous influence on me, but I would not be anything like what I am if I hadn't been married to Lisa. Like it's just crazy. It's crazy the thousands of little ways, little moments where she's in my head, like encouraging me or making me question a decision, making me think smarter about something. I'm just crazy. She loved the idea of behind every great man is a great woman. And she was just so adept at like, go ask for this. Go talk to this person. Push on that. And I was like, I don't know. Like that makes me feel uncomfortable. She's like, no, no, trust me. You've earned it. You're worth it? Push for it. And I would push for it and get it and be like, whoa, what the hell? So it was just extraordinary.”
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“Yeah, shape you. Like she's just, she's my best friend. She's my lover, and with that she has all of the levers at her disposal to help me maximize my potential. And she has openly pulled those levers and made me believe and encouraged me and supported me, oh my God. And so just like all of these things. And so one day somebody asked me, like, who's had the biggest influence on your life? And I was like, my wife, like, that's just so self-evident. It's the one you could remove anybody else from my life, even my mom. And I know she doesn't want to hear that.”
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“I was like ugly crying, like having a hard time catching my breath. And I was like, you're never going to get enough credit for how you've shaped me that I wouldn't be who I am if it wasn't for you. And remember, I found my wife when I was 24. So I went on one date with her and never looked back. She's the only woman I've ever said I love you to in a romantic way as my mom likes to remind me. She really, really shaped my brain. She shaped my beliefs, she shaped my motivations. Like, you know, a woman to whom you are sexually attracted, there's almost no end if she's got real emotional wisdom. There's almost no end to which she can motivate and encourage and”
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“That's a great one. Okay, so I will preface the story of how she did it with one of my favorite stories about my wife. So long before my wife became an entrepreneur, she had She had really influenced me in like a Jerry Maguire way where it was like she believed in me when nobody else believed in me even when I was struggling to believe in myself like she just had an irrational belief in myself in me and I often think back to who would I become if I hadn't met her because I was in a dark place I didn't have like it's not like I had all the beliefs that I had now I didn't have any of these beliefs I thought I was not smart enough I did not think I could accomplish and so my wife in many ways manipulated me in these wonderful ways to get me to see what she saw and it was empowering and it made me yeah yeah like I really can't do this and it really is that moment of Jerry Maguire where he's like yeah this is good like keep coming like she would just do that at these critical junctures in my life and so long before she became an entrepreneur I don't remember what happened but I was weeping man I'm not a crier”
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“Passionate. I could live an entire life where I was an anime scholar. I didn't discover anime until I was in my forties, but now I could, I am not kidding. I could become an anime scholar and live an extraordinarily joyful life. So I have to be really thoughtful and people that take my course hear me say this a lot. You're standing in a room with a thousand doors. Your job is to close 999 of them. The problem isn't finding a door to walk through, it's shutting the doors and only walking through one. That's the hard part. And so my life has been a never-ending series of frustrations that I can only really excel at one thing at a time. But it's not confusing to me that every 10 years I've completely reinvented myself.”
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“Much I like it. And I tell other people how much I like it, and I do it in this embodied way where I get really excited And so I've reinforced all these things in my mind that I really like I really like Japan man. I really like enemy. I really like manga. I really want to make like those essay anime videos that people do and like get into some really obscure anime. And I want to watch every anime on Netflix and write books about that shit and write books about why as a storytelling format. It's just different, man. Like I'm obsessed. But I also want to learn Greek. That would be dope. Learning Greek like with my wife. I'm super passionate about that. At one point we were going to move to Greece. I was going to learn. I promised myself at one point I would get published in Greek like this whole thing. I also want to write a book. This mindset stuff, man. It's really like a big thing for me. But by the way, nothing gets me like storytelling. So I really want to tell my stories. But I also like video games. So it's like, yo, so all of these things speak to me at a level that's like screaming passion where I am.”
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“And I walk people through the process. You don't find it, you build it. Now, one thing that I worry about is because all of our minds are different and because there's a region of the brain that I just recently learned about for determination where they can hit you with transcranial magnetic stimulation, hit the region of your brain that deals with determination. And you'll be like, I can do it. I know I can do it. What can you do? I don't know. I just know I can do it. So they can actually trigger this sense of like, I won't stop. I'm going to do it. But you have no idea what it is that you're not going to stop doing. So there's all these weird things. So anyway, there's a region in your brain for motivation, which only reinforces this idea in my head that maybe I'm just really good at building desire. And so over my life, one, I react to things very strongly. And then when I like something, I pour myself into it and I remind myself how.”
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“And that really bothers me. And I'm not sure why, but I have something in the way that I view the world, my belief system, my value system, the natural rewards that I get for even in this podcast, we've covered a lot of weird things. And I can talk pretty deeply about a lot of different topics because I love that shit. I want to be able to go deep on a lot of different things. I don't want to do just one thing. And so that is the one thing that haunts me is I can. I could give something up and go do something else very easily. My identity is not tied to this, that or the other. But I want to do everything I want to do. The question I get asked the most is Tom, how do you find your passion?”
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“My brain isn't wired that way. I don't cling on to things like that. So for me, it's like I want to feel good about myself when I'm by myself. I want to have fulfillment and I want to do things that I love in and of themselves. And because, and this is the one thing that haunts me. In fact, this like I say this and I think people think I'm kidding, but I actually worry about this in myself. So I have one thing in me that is problematic. It's the very thing I have to struggle against in business. Like I'm constantly having to course correct when people hear me teach the opposite of this is because it's the lesson that I need to constantly remind myself. Really believe you can do anything you set your mind to. Not everything”
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“Detach myself from the success, the achievement, the whatever, because when we left Quest, it was like, just done, and it wasn't hard for me in the slightest. Like Lisa really was part of her identity. So for her, having been a founding member of Quest.”
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“with business, I wouldn't have been able to do it if I couldn't imagine a life that would be just as awesome. And so there is a parallel life where I'm a writer and I chill and spend time with my wife and, you know, whatever, learn languages and just fucking travel around, whatever. Like that'd be awesome. I would love that. I just love this one a little bit more. But if I, if this diminished in its joy, I've got this other thing that would be so dope. So yeah, I don't have any sort of like, oh my God, what would I do? And I remember, so I've proven this stuff to myself. And look, never teach something that you isn't like you're not living it, that every word out of my mouth I live. And I realized that I could very easily just”
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“Yeah, and I think the right answer is I ask myself a slightly different variation of that same question. And it goes like this. Do I still want to strive enough to make it worth not going and doing that peaceful, stress-free life, which for me would be writing, just rightful time. I have enough money. I never need to work again, ever, not a single day in my life. So every day that I choose to go to battle, I'm choosing to go to battle. And so the second that the answer is no, I actually isn't worth it anymore, then I would go do that and I would just write. And knowing that I have that in my back pocket is extremely liberating. So I know at any time I can stop. I can detach. I cannot continue to pursue this. And that has allowed me, it's like this magic trick that allows me to carry a lot more weight, to deal with a lot more stress because I know every day is a choice. And so that allows me to have fun. It allows me to remain playful. It is like when I think about how much stress I've taken.”
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“In 46 years, I have Never found myself to be the best at anything, and yet the pursuit of being the best has been one of the most thrilling rides of my life.”
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“So I once told Lisa, I said, look, I'll give up virtually anything for you, but don't ever ask me to give up my ambition because I don't know who I am without it. And I don't know that I want to. And look, I'm very thoughtful about in my back pocket I keep Buddhist style detachment so that if ever I got overwhelmed it wasn't fun anymore or whatever I would just pull out the detachment and I know how to do that and I know how to not strive. I know how to loosen my bonds to desire and wanting, which is, by the way, something very wise for everybody to get those tools in place, especially if you're a striver. But I love it. I love the pursuit. I don't need the wins. The pursuit makes me feel alive. And business is the only game I found that you can play until you die. And so there's something really awesome about striving to be the best. Even though I don't know, I've in all of my years, in 46 years, you're very kind toball my.”
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“There was never like, oh shit, I shouldn't I? Once I made that decision, it was everything. So, my advice to anybody in that situation is there should be a line where you say, and now, because of what I want this relationship to become, I'm going to make it my number one. Now look, I've built extraordinary businesses even with my wife being my number one priority. And she isn't the thing that I allocate the most time to, and that's important to understand. But she's my number one priority. So if ever she came to me and said, hey, I really need you right now. But there was something really important going on in the business. I'd be like, word, totally unconflicted. Awesome. What do you need? I'm here, which has happened many times. So on that, it's actually nice to Jocko Willings' point of discipline equals freedom, knowing that she's my number one, that I don't need to be conflicted if ever those two, any two things collide, it's always Lisa. There's like a peace in that.”
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“compared to my wife nothing nothing so i mean it's just oh my god it's incredible man it's incredible and so that to get that requires sacrifice it requires attention it requires making it your first priority because otherwise there's going to be a moment where one person needs that and they realize that they're giving that up right and the thing is though from anybody's perspective if you'd ask me at the like when we were first dating i would have said the same thing there's no way We just got together. You know what I mean? So you're not going to be my number one priority. So for me, there was a line in the sand. When I decided to propose, that was a very difficult thing for me. I really thought about it, man. I debated it. Is she really the one? And finally, I was like, well, I'm either never getting married or I'm marrying this woman because I have never felt like this. Like she feels worth the sacrifices, all that. And once I proposed, I never once thought about it again. There was no cold.”
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“It is the most profoundly joyful thing I've ever experienced in my life. It stabilizing. So the people that have the strongest home life take the biggest risks. I remember when I heard that, I was like, whoa, that really makes sense to me because I will say, what I say to myself all the time is, hey, I'm building this thing. I'm really putting myself out on a limb, trying to build this company. If it all goes to nothing and the whole world thinks I'm a moron, at least I have my wife. And I'm just like, oh yeah, word. Like I will have my wife. Like no matter what other people think, if I continue to honor her in the way that I honor her now, I will have my wife. And so the only thing I fear I don't fear going broke. I don't fear losing my business. I fear losing my wife. Because the outsized return that I've gotten out of this marriage compared to what money's brought me or whatever micro fame that I have, like it's awesome. Money is awesome. The microfame is awesome, but it's nothing.”
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“Yeah, I will say that. I've got a 20 year marriage to back up my thesis here. And if A relationship is compromised because you have two people that view the world in even slightly different ways that want slightly different things. And so, I mean, Lewis has made it clear that there are two things that are more important. So there's going to be constant collision and friction there. I think we have an innate desire as a human being to be somebody's number one priority. And I have found in my own life that there is nothing more extraordinary, nothing more uplifting, no high, higher than being somebody's number one. That is your number one, and you love and respect each other, and you have a thriving sexual relationship and you.”
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“Is amazing. And that's going to buy them several years of like he told me, I understand, but I believe relationships require too many sacrifices for them not to be the thing that you reinforce as your highest priority. And if it isn't giving you more than anything else gives you, then it will always lose out. And so ultimately, they will either be living parallel lives, anybody that chooses this. You'll end up living parallel lives where you each have something that's more important, like kids, which is one of the reasons, at least and I didn't have kids, because we were both honest, like the kid would be our first priority, which means that each of us would fall into second place. And did we want to do that? And so that was part of why we didn't have kids. And I think that's right. I think that if you're going to raise kids, yo, they need to be your first priority. But I don't have kids, so whatever. There are probably people that have way better advice than me on children. But anyway, that was part of why we didn't have kids.”
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“Well, so it will be a question of results. So Lewis, you know, I love you, brother. So I will just say this, that he was honest with her.”
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“This really about? And so then we got to the real issue. And I realized, oh my God, in communication, you have to admit your flaws, your insecurities. Like you need to immediately go, okay, I'm angry. And I know that when I'm angry, it's because I'm insecure. What am I insecure about? Oh, I'm insecure about this. Oh my God. And then you just own it. Here's what's really going on for me. And now you can process through and get to where you really want to be. But most people assume they're angry because the other person is wrong. And once you assume you're angry because the other person is wrong, you're never going to get to the real issue. And so Lisa and I are very good about, okay, what's really bothering you? And then you, and of course, when you're in it, it just really does feel like they're just wrong. And so I'm mad because they're wrong. But I have a just belief system that you end up getting triggered because you're insecure. And so we have to figure out what was the insecurity that got triggered so we can address that and figure out the path forward.”
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“Now we're arguing about the tea, as my wife and I call it. The biggest argument my wife and I ever got in ever was over a cup of tea. We were screaming. We were on our way to a wonderful vacation. I actually turned the car around and was like, we're not even going. We're going home right now. And literally, when I turned around, I was like, this is over a cup of tea. I'm like, there is no way that we are arguing about a cup of tea to the point where I am turning around and we're not going on the only vacation that we've taken and whatever at that point it had been like 18 months So I'm like”
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“Single sentence, what's bothering you? Most people can't do it. And I'll stop her. You're waffling. Stop. Satan's single sentence because you don't understand it well enough, and therefore we can't get to it. And so she holds me accountable to the same thing. If I'm all over the place, then she's like, hey, single sentence, give it to me so I can actually understand where you're at. Most people, they can't. They can't get to a single sentence or they don't want to get to a single sentence. They want to like, but it's all of these crazy things. It's like, it's impossible to deal with. So give me a single sentence summation of what your problem is. No commas, no parentheticals, no run-ons, a single sentence. I'm feeling insecure because you didn't pay attention to me when I asked you if you wanted to go on a date this weekend. Word. Now I know right where you're at. But if you don't want to acknowledge that that made you feel insecure.”
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“Which would make your life in the moment temporarily easier? I can't tell you the number of arguments that we'll be in, and she'll give me an out where she's restating my thesis a little bit wrong, but it would end the argument. And all I have to do is say, thank you so much. That means so much to me that you understand that. And I'm like, that's not quite it. And I know that when I restate what it really is, it's another hour or two of arguing, but you got to do it. Because then you can actually get to this is where I am at. Help me understand where you're at. And then let's find the way forward. But if you never, here's the big problem. Most people do not take the time to articulate to themselves what's bothering them. So my whole thing, and this drives my wife up a wall when we're in an argument. She likes it the rest of the time. But say in a...”
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“I think it's less likely to happen as of today. I am too ignorant on the subject to give you anything other than to parrot people who are far more educated on the topic than I just want to be very clear. I know my lane. And so I have formulated a hypothesis based on other people's research. I have not done the research myself. I would never want to be on national television asked about foreign policy. Like I would just do the worst person in the world. But Ray Dalio's. Assessment of the situation is so astonishingly well researched and he's been in the thick of it for decades. He spent hundreds of millions of dollars just on research of global trends and movements. And so when he says that he pegs US civil award about forty percent and US-China conflict at about 40%, I just trust it. But that is literally me blind.”
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“Sheathed. You hear Bruce Lee talk about this a lot. Sunzu, you know, the whole thing is to be so dominant that nobody wants to fight you. And in that, you can actually choose peace instead of peace sort of being just because you're too weak to fight. So my hope is through story, I can tell ideas that make people value differences that make them want to meet in the middle, that make them want to love and be loved, and to, of course, adopt personal responsibility with a plum and recognize that they can get better and that nobody can stop them and that the world desperately wants for them to come alive and to acquire skills that matter to them and build things that matter to them and unify and create incredible things.”
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“So, yeah, I'm definitely not going to contribute in that way. So, my way to give you one glimmer, I wrote a comic book with Steve Aoki called Neon Future, which is entirely about Nelson Mandela's third way. And it plays out in a fictional way between people that have augmented their body with technology and people that haven't. But it was me and a comic book exploring those ideas, that trying to point out. So you have this guy, Kita Sovi, who is representing the third way. He has every reason to be angry, to strike back, to kill, and yet his only thought is of sacrifice and bringing people together. But he's also tough and he's a badass and he's not a pushover. And that whole idea of the meek shall inherit the earth and meek being defined as the most dangerous person on earth who keeps their sword.”
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“My hope is I can contribute. I certainly don't think that I don't have the intelligence or the temperament to be a world leader. So I will just tell you right now that that is entirely off the table for me. I have zero interest. I don't think I'd be good at it either. So let me be very clear. This is not me thinking, well, I'd be amazing, but I just don't want to do it. I would be terrible.”
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“Our differences and all of that stuff. And we won't be, so we'll be pulling in opposite directions. China will be getting stronger in the world stage. And in our moment of maximal weakness, they make a move for Taiwan and we have a choice to make where we either back down and then we effectively forfeit our leadership status in the world, which will almost certainly mark the end of the dollar as the global reserve currency, which will be devastating. Or we fight and now we're in a hot war with China. Either of those options suck. So how do we find a diplomatic solution? That is my obsession. And that brings me back to Web3 with just Pollyanna ideas abounding. But I am optimistic. Through all of that, you ask me what the bad thing looked like. My hope is that we avoid it, but that is the thing that I worry about. That's my disaster scenario.”
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“So, yeah, to go back to your initial question, I worry that we are headed towards either a civil war or a war with China or both, and that if China is smart, they're watching us, going, yep, they're maximally divided, that, man, we're going in a real dark place. I've never talked about this stuff out loud on camera. And I think that the war in Russia is going to create a food shortage. Watch the All-In Podcast because these are just crib notes. And so as they were talking about in the recent episode, basically that the food shortage will be backstopped by China. China will exchange that for military bases, et cetera. We're going to continue to fight in America over dumb that hardcore people should not be fighting over, that we should be resilient in coming together and, you know, loving.”
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“It is the friction between you that makes this magical. And so stop trying to convince the other person. Try to meet in the middle with respect. Try to understand where the other person's coming from. Value their opinion. So my wife and I were alike in a lot of ways, but in sort of a fundamental disposition, we're very different. And so we talk about that all the time. I value that you see this differently than me. And hopefully you value that I see this differently than you. And let's use that friction to navigate a more intelligent path forward.”
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“Excuse me, whatever party is closest to the middle becomes the party that wins the election. But as you look at the graphs, they're just moving far. So I'm just like, yo, I refuse to take a political identity. That should scares me. I think people are just putting themselves in a gnarly position. I'm over here channeling long walk to freedom as quickly as I can, trying to think just like unity, unity, unity, getting people together like, yay, like as Pollyanna as I can make it sound. Like we just have to recognize that there are two predominant personality types, those that are more on the personal responsibility side, and those that are more on the empathy side and that we need both. And we have to value each other. And I remember, so I've been in business relationships in the past, not to dox anybody, but where I had partners that they just would butt heads and make fun of each other all the time and just like the other person's a dumbass. And I was like, what are you talking about? Like you're both extraordinary. And so I kept trying to get them to see.”
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“But I think we are headed in the wrong direction. I think that we are getting more and more divisive. And I think every single person has to say to themselves, I have to race to the middle. And right now people are racing to the extremes and they want to dehumanize the other side. And look, there are things like on the personal responsibility side. I'm not angry with people that are angry with me. I'm like, I need to find a way to like meet you in the middle so that like we can both learn from each other and we can have love for each other. And ultimately, it's the friction between the two sides and that not everybody should come over to my side because maybe it's too harsh and it doesn't show enough empathy for people. Word. Like, hey, I'm down to like come to that middle, but I need you to come to the middle, right? And so what ends up happening, like you can look at these charts that show whatever candidate, presidential candidate in the US is whatever party.”
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“Oh, Jesus So, this is fun. This, I'm sure, will be the last time that I go on a podcast. So just had Ray Delia on my podcast. And in his book, he pegged Civil War in the US at a 30% chance That book came out, I think, two months ago. He now pegs our chances at 40. So we're moving in the wrong direction. Remember, this is the guy that spent inordinate amounts of money researching the movements of these societies. And he's just like, we as the American Empire, we are in mid to late stage five. And stage six is civil war and revolution. So I think we're probably look here's part of why I love Web3. I think Web3 is the only thing I can see on the horizon that gives us a shot of bringing back a thriving middle class, which is precisely what you need to do to avoid a bloody civil war or revolution. So that's part of the reason that I'm so gung-ho about it. I try not to be delusional, but it gives me reason for optimism.”
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“The reality is that I'm like, I don't think we get out of this cultural momentum quickly. I think that the phrase tough men make good times, good times make weak men, weak men make hard times, hard times, make strong men, and you loop and loop and loop and loop. And we have been in good times for a long time. And so I think we've, I'm just going to keep doing myself damage here. I think we've gotten soft. And I think because of that, we are headed for hard times. And I think the hard times will take care of any of the values and belief systems that aren't useful in the acquisition of skills.”
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“It's cyclical. Everything is cyclical. And so once you understand the cycles, one, it can be a little daunting. So if you read Ray Dalio's book, Principles for Dealing with the Changing World Order. Oh, it's going to fuck up your sleep. So you're welcome But he outlines, he goes back, he goes back, I think, to like 500 BCE, but he really focuses on the last 500 years. And he shows you, this is all a loop and that there are only so many personality types. And you can just watch culture loop and loop and loop and loop. And cultures build up and then they crash down. The next one builds up and then it crashes down. He's like, it's freakishly predictable. It goes in six steps the cycle does. And there is not yet a society in the last 2,500 years that has avoided this cycle that lasts about 100 to 150 years.”
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“It has lost so much momentum just in my lifetime that the pendulum is swinging so hard in that direction. So I don't know if it swings back in the next five years, the next 50 years. It will swing back. But if now we're going to really derail. But I remember as a 16-year-old boy reading about Roman orgies, and I was so angry because I was like, how is it possible that they were having orgies two thousand years ago and me now in like the mid-90s like my mom would have a seizure. I wasn't allowed to go through the movie Basic Instinct. So it's like, I was like, how did we go in my 60 year old brain? How did we go backwards? I was like, I feel betrayed by all the generations between Roman orgies and now. I was like, how did we end up here?”
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“I'm freakishly optimistic, but because I need a belief system that is both true and optimistic, I don't want to fall for traps. And if I paint myself a falsely optimistic view of what's real, I'll get tripped up.”
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“Trying to make contributions to physics or that ended up being Hisk. And he just realized that I can actually get help from people, but not if I'm not helping myself first. It was just something that we respond to.”
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“What are you going to say? What advantage did he have, right? He literally couldn't move. So in his early 20s, he starts losing every function that he has other than his brain, and he realizes at one point, this sucks, but if I, in fact, he has a quote, oh God, people are really going to hate this. Stephen Hawking, okay? Quadriplegic in a wheelchair basically can blow in a straw and move his eyes. I think towards the end, like he could only move one eye. I mean, it was crazy. So this guy, there's just not a lot he can do. He's been spoon-fed since he was like 30 years old, like crazy, crazy. Imagine not being able to go to the bathroom by yourself forever, like every time crazy. So this guy says, what I have found is that no one will help you if you don't help yourself. And it just is, man. We look at somebody who, despite all of that, is like...”
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“We all in some way, we all have it worse than somebody else, right? So somebody with Tourette's, that's sucks. I would not want to have Tourette's. Somebody that gets multiple sclerosis, that sucks. I would not want that. Alzheimer's cancer, heart disease, whatever the thing is that makes your life worse. It really does make it worse. But the only thing that compounds that problem is to lean into that that it sucks to be me. Whereas take Stephen Hawking, right?”
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“So that sucks for me because I've really had to contend with anxiety. Like, this is one of the biggest issues in my life. I think about anxiety almost every day. So it is really a thing that I've had to manage, especially for somebody striving in the way that I have. So I'm constantly putting myself in the position of being anxious. I remember in high school, I promised myself I would never again do anything that made me nervous. That was the word I used back then, that I would never again do it. And yet my adult life has been a betrayal of that promise that I made to myself in high school because all I do is put myself in situations that make me anxious. But the striving and getting better has been a reward of untold proportions. So when I think about”
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“It's all true. And if you have a neurochemical imbalance, that really sucks. Like, I can just tell you, looking at my mom, I'm prone to anxiety. So there is, I'm sure when this all gets mapped out, it will become clear that I have markers for anxiety whether they were epigenetic or genetic.”
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“And when he comes out and says, we need to find the third way, only the path of unity makes any sense, and like just brought people together and refuse to be in that victim category. It's like, nope. Like what happened happened and now we build from here. Oh, man. It gives me the chills every time I think about it. So anyway, that's intoxicating to me. I am so into that, but I recognize the cultural momentum on the other side. And so I know how people end up getting just enough out of that that they stay there.”
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“Oh my god, you have to read this book. Like, when I say there are a few humans I look at and go, I don't think I could ever be that amazing. Holy hell. He was in prison for 28 years. And he comes out and is like, no, no, no, we're not seeking revenge to oppress is to give up your humanity. That was his whole thing. And so he's like, I feel bad for people who oppress me because they had to give up their humanity to do it. So I am certainly not going to come out and be the oppressor. That would make no sense. So it's what I call the third way. This is me totally. He just didn't use those words. This is me ripping his ideas off. But his whole thing was there are three paths before you. Remain the oppressed. Not going to do that. Become the oppressor, not going to do that. The third way is to find that way of unity. And that's what he was all about. It's the most insane story. Like nobody ever earned their bona fides more than Nelson Mandela, by my estimation.”
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“As the ability to close your eyes, imagine a world better than this, open your eyes, gain the skills you need to make that world come true. That's power. And to get that power, you have to acquire skills. To acquire skills, you have to take responsibility. To take responsibility, you have to reject being in the victim category. Even though it's real. Like that's the other thing. I want people to understand the most insidious thing about excuses is that they're so valid. You have a valid reason to feel like a victim. may really be being victimized. But the question is, is that going to serve you moving forward? I'm obsessed. Have you read the Long Walk to Freedom by Nelson Mandela?”
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“But what you've given up is really being able to change and to acquire skills and to become capable of more. And so my obsession is getting people to understand skills have utility. Now, if skills have utility and they let you do something better than other people, you can do things that other people can't do. That's A, monetizable, B, there's something hardwired in all of us to work hard to gain skills that allow us to serve the group, right? As a social animal, you have an imperative buried in your brain. There was no way to escape it, to contribute to the group. So if you embrace personal responsibility, you're going to get all these other kinds of rewards because you'll be able to accumulate skill set. You'll be able to dunk and people will not be able to stop you, right? Like that becomes the reality that you live in. It's super intoxicating because going back to this idea of why it matters to make sure that you have a narrative that is true. Because when it's true, your predictive machine of a brain can actually predict how to change the world to what you want it to be, which I will define power.”
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“I'm going to bend it more to identity. So you build your identity and I have the deck stacked against me for whatever reason. When that becomes your identity and you value yourself for that, like I have the deck stacked against me and I stand strong in the face of this and I can deal with these slings and arrows or I fight back against them. And so I become like I'm really on a mission to fight against this. And all of that becomes your identity. So now you have to give up personal responsibility to embrace that and to fight for it. You get that, right? You get the tribe, you get the other people in that community that feel the same.”
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“But my thing is, you can actually get out. And you, how about this? You can make your life a hundred times better, no matter how bad it is, you can make it a hundred times better. And that joy seeing people do that is everything. It's everything for them. It's everything for me as somebody who just likes to see people win. And I don't see that same 100x improvement on people that embrace. Different value system, but it's real. And there's a lot of momentum”
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