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Tracee Ellis Ross

lines on the record: 52
first: 2020-02-19
most recent: 2020-02-19
sittings or episodes: 1
sources: podcast

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“Because I feel like joy is revolutionary. It holds a different space than happiness. And I don't know that happiness is really the goal, but a sense of wholeness and joy. And I feel like we need a lot of that right now. And it allows us space to kind of be present in our lives. But I don't know. I think I'm in a space where it's time for me to dream new dreams, which is a really fertile and fun place for me. But I really like this idea of Being joyful in my own humanity so that There's another example of what it looks like to allow ourselves to be the humans we are.”
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“It's hard to direct myself. Mostly because I'm such a difficult actress. No, because it's a different part of my brain. As an actress, I act from my heart and my gut and as a director, it's my mind and my eyes. So the switch, the gear switch is really difficult. So I prefer if I'm not in it. But I like being in charge”
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“The word, Jesus' the word. And the other is to change the paradigm for how we as curly coily and tight textured people, because I don't believe hair has a gender, are marketed to so that we can actually love the way our hair authentically comes out of our heads and see another space and other imagery that actually matches up with our beauty and our glory and all of that. So it has happened and it is so exciting and I love being a CEO and founder. I love using my brain in this way. It's similar to the directing and the producing. Like it's so much fun.”
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“The truth is, I tell the story through all aspects of my life, joyful self-acceptance, and allowing us to take up our own space and live in that. But so pattern is a hair company. For curly, coily, and tight textured hair, a space, a mass of people, a community of individuals that I am a part of that have mirrored back loving myself to me that are not serviced by the beauty industry. Ten years ago, when I finished on girlfriends, I wrote a hair care brand pitch and it's taken me 10 years to get it off the ground. Some of it is the fact that the world has now awakened to our power and our beauty and our glory and the gravity-defying awesomeness of our hair. Pattern has two missions. One is to create effective products that work and are not toxic, that are good for your hair and actually make it juicy and joyful.”
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“Find a new partner That little love of my life. But I don't have to wake up and walk her. So it's me. So I get to be choiceful about the day I'm living and how I'm doing all that.”
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“I love it. So trees, choiceful solitude, I talk for a living. It's wonderful to be quiet. I love it. It feels really good. But so all these ways that wholeness kind of gives me the biggest of containers to hold the truth of my experience as opposed to this idea of what I'm supposed to be living, and that feels so much better. Even wellness sometimes, even people saying, well, you're looking for a balanced life. I'm like, well, sometimes it's not very balanced. Like, how do I be with myself when it doesn't feel balanced? How do I love myself even when I feel like I'm unlovable? What are those steps that I take? What are the daily actions that I can take? And I feel like that is one of the benefits, the beauties of being single. Like, I have time to ponder these things and I get to be choiceful about who I spend my time with and how I spend my time because there's no given. There's no like I gotta go do this. And when my dog passed away, like, I haven't been ready to...”
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“Yeah. And, you know, it's how I met loneliness. Loneliness was this big, scary monster for me for so long. So long, this thing that I was always running from. Like, I'll be lonely. But if I don't do anything for my birthday, if someone doesn't plan something for my birthday, like this thing, like, or, well, I'm single. Well, I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. Who's going to take care of me? But I've answered all those questions and I've realized that like... The wholeness makes space for all of it, I can feel scared that I'm going to be lonely and I can also ask myself, but don't you like being alone?”
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“Acceptance, real acceptance, honest acceptance, yes. I feel like for me, the journey is mostly about wholeness and making space for all of the many mixed bag of feelings.”
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“And our words are so important. The way we use them. And one of my biggest, most regular prayers is gentle, gentle. And I got to say it twice because just once sometimes I don't hear it. Gentle, gentle, Tracy, give yourself 1,000 breaks and then give yourself 1,000 more.”
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“Is actually that scary space. I want to sing how in God's name do I get there? How do I face this fear? So what I discovered is if I break it down to the bite-sized pieces and give it a may as opposed to an I am, the may offers a gentle invitation while honoring where I am and gently inviting me to where I want to go. So may I know that I am a singer allows me to not feel like a singer. May I know that I'm worthy of love without effort, allows me to gently move my way there. And for me, for example, fun is a tough one because I always feel like there's something I should be doing. So may I know that I can experience fun. And then it allows me to break those pieces down even smaller. Like may I do things that feel lighthearted? May I do things that make me smile? As opposed to this big scary thing that's over here”
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“Thank you. Okay, so a lot of people use the affirmations I am And they worked for me for a minute, but they also, the fastest place to wear. The fastest way to where you want to go. So the fastest place to where I want to go is through where I am. And I discovered that the space between where I am and where I want to be is often the thing that frightens me the most.”
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“Get away And so I got her in the car, and the first note happened, and she was on this side. So she pushed my arm. And then she turned to me and her face was covered in tears. And she said, finally.”
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“And you can imagine, you know, we all have fears. We all have these things that we've hidden away that we think are not worthy of coming forward because they might not be good enough, they might be compared to somebody else. And I had to realize that it's not the sound of my voice. It's the honesty of my voice that is the key. I'm not supposed to sound like my mom. I'm never supposed, I'm not even supposed to be her. I can't fill her shoes. No one can fill her shoes. All I can do is make a pact with myself to be myself on the ground that I get and even make more ground for me. You know what I mean? Yes, yes, yes.”
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“Okay, so I will cry. This was one of the most beautiful moments of my life, I think. I don't know if you guys know this, but listening to music in your car is the best place to listen to your music. So I was like, mom, I'm ready. She's like, you're ready for what? I'm like, I'm ready for you to hear it. Okay? I was like, I'm going to pick you up. So I picked her up and we sat in her driveway in my car. She came out of the house. She came out of the garage. Got in my car. Closed the windows. And I was like, okay, here it is, mom. Here's me.”
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“Just in general, like I do scary things and I'm like, just go, jump off the cliffs, go, go, go. And then I get to the other side. I'm like, what did I just do? That was terrifying. That person. And so there were moments during the movie that during the movie I wasn't frightened. But what I was doing was stepping into all of me.”
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“And it was there was during the process, it was strange. I don't seem to get scared while I'm in the process. I get scared after.”
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“Even though I was terrified, even though I'd never sang publicly, even though no one had ever heard me sing, even though every time this makes me cry, every time there was a moment to sing with other people, I would make it funny because that way people wouldn't listen with the you're Diane Aros's kid ear. So, another way I hid myself, and I kind of, it was as if I was walking around with not all of me because there was a part of me that I wanted to shine, that I wanted to live that wasn't. So it was like it was an arm tied behind my back. So I did this movie and I play a singing star and I had to record seven songs.”
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“I said yes. Can you tell how hard it is for me to talk about this? I'm sweating right now, first of all, and I feel so inarticulate. No, no”
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“I found my voice papa papa papa found my voice And I was like, okay, I don't know what that means. I went upstairs and an hour later they called to ask me to campaign for Obama and I started this journey of living a space louder than my own experience using my voice for more than just myself. About eight, nine months ago, a year ago, I guess it is now, a movie came along to sing.”
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“I think it was very unconscious that I tucked her away. It felt dangerous. It felt like I was going to be obliterated and compared. I remember early on there was an interview you did with Lisa Marie Presley. And I felt like, oh, that's a scary place to be in, the comparison. Somehow I just tucked her away. But it's been a dream of mine. And at 47, Like this year, two of my biggest fears and dreams have happened. So I'll backtrack to about 2007 Obama started campaigning. And right before that, because I've said I meditate a lot and I journal and I do all these things, right? So I was sitting under my tree in my backyard. I'm very big with trees. I find them to be some of the wisest. They just really, I learned so much from them. So I'm sitting under what I call my, it was my tree in my backyard, and I was meditating and this came out.”
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“Tell we're all from the same mommy in terms of the way we walk through the world, the way we interact with people. I mean, I don't know if I sit here and Do all that, let's think. I don't know. I don't know if I could articulate that in a quick way, but finding my own space and my own self has not been in response to my mom, but there was a part of me that I hit off, even though it was my original dream, which was to sing. Yeah, so I mean, I've done well as a comedy lady. You know what I mean? And then I started this journey of finding my own voice and realizing that I had a socially active voice and a political voice. And as a woman just finding my ability to use my voice and to speak up for myself and others. But there was this little girl in me whose original dream was to be on a stage in a sparkly dress singing.”
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“She's And so to answer your question, first of all, thank you for sharing that. And I don't take that lightly, and I haven't in my life taken that lightly. As a result, you know, it's interesting being a kid. Like, will I be able to find my own space? And I always could feel the energy coming at me. But I knew that the energy was coming at me because I was a piece of something, someone that other people loved. And so I wanted to find. My own thing so that I was deserving of any attention that came at me so that it didn't feel like I was a fraud in the And part of the reason my mom is such an extraordinary mom is because she really, all five of us are so different and she's really given us the love, the breadth, the safety to find our own space and journey.”
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“I always say, and I don't just say it, I mean it, I felt like I grew up in her embrace. Not in her shadow, in her love and in her care. My mom is extraordinary. And the Diana Ross people know, like, the mom doesn't, Dinah Ross doesn't hold a candle to my mom. I'll just do that.”
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“That mirror back to me the truth of who I am when I can't see it, that love me when I can't feel like I can't love myself. I'm really close to my siblings. Rhonda and Ross are here. Rhonda and Ross, where are you guys? So I have Rhonda, my older sister, me, then Chudney, my younger sister, then Ross and Evan. I talk to Rhonda a lot and Evan a lot. Chudney and Ross, we don't talk as much. They're not as talkative, but they are heart people.”
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“So, eating soup is really helpful. I love a bath. I often have to wake up for work at 4:30 in the morning, and sometimes I will take a bath at 4.30 in the morning because it just doesn't shock me into my day. It just gently moves me into my day. I have really good tribe of girlfriends and friends around me that”
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“Got a blow on it Then you got to put it in your mouth. And you got to swallow it because I don't know, but you can chew really fast and not really chew. But like soup, there's like a whole, and I define meditation as doing what I'm doing while I'm doing it, which is so much easier.”
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“It's like just a joyful thing, which, by the way, When the dreams happen, sometimes it's like, okay, I can I really do this. But in that, I have found that doing my best to stay present is my biggest gift. And staying present for me often means going as slow as the slowest parts of myself, moving slowly from A to B, a really practical one. It's going to sound crazy, but peeing when I have to pee. All of us do it, we forget, we hold it, it seems really intimate and weird, but it's one of the ways that I know I'm present with myself holding space for myself and like really taking care of myself. I try to eat really well. Sometimes my mind starts moving as fast as my day and as fast as all the things I need to be doing. So soup is really helpful.”
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“I have an arsenal of tools, but because of how busy and full my life is, time seems to be the thing, right? There's just never enough of it. So I have learned that, and by the way, it's full with such good things. It's like dreaming.”
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“Oh, just stop it. You know what I say when people play Botox? I'm like, no. Wash your face, change your underwear, look at a tree. You know what I mean? But really, because if we spend so much time thinking about and talking about what we look like, how are we going to do all the other things we need to be doing? It's hard. It's And I get it because you want to feel good. I personally work out a lot because I like to feel strong in order to get to it through a 15-hour day. I got to feel strong. You know, that's why I eat good food when I'm working, because I got to feel strong. Otherwise, you wilt.”
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“I don't know. I just try really hard. Like there's sometimes where I'm like, oh, we're not going to do that because I feel like often I'm squeezing myself everywhere, just squeezing it. And getting older is fascinating.”
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“Yeah, and you can, yeah, you know, I mean, it's like, but I don't want to traffic in that. I don't want to traffic in that stuff again that feels juicy and abundant and that actually has the long-term run of like making you feel a certain way. And I often see myself and go, oh, wow, I feel so much prettier than I look. But at the same time, who cares? There are so many things happening in life that who cares what I look like.”
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“So beauty for me has been about discovering myself and about owning what makes me feel good, listening to what makes my heart sing, and actually meeting that person. And I find when I, like pretty is a whole different thing. Pretty is like a thing that, I don't know, you can get it in a can at 7-Eleven or something. I don't know.”
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“And the moment, and that takes me to something else, but I want to answer you about beauty. But will you remind me to say something about May's? Okay, may I may.”
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“It has really evolved. I remember watching the Nina Simone documentary and thinking to myself my God. Why is her name not next to the word beauty? I have never seen such a woman inhabiting her skin. I mean, I was, my whole body was sort of riveted from that. I was like, this is what I call beauty. When I see people who are just in their skin living at that height of themselves, I am blown away. And so my, you know, there's an industry around beauty that is based on telling people you need to look like that so that you can buy these things. And I just completely disagree. I feel like the industry of beauty should be based on meeting yourself because all of us.”
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“Well, I laugh like this. My hair is big. When I smile, my mouth opens wide. I get loud sometimes. Sometimes I'm soft and sometimes I'm not. And I get angry and there's all these different pieces of me. And I didn't know where they were supposed to fit. I was trying to become this thing that I thought others expected of me. And the truth is that all those things that I tried to hide about myself, I taught myself how to smile so my top lip would go away.”
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“Some of it has been my own personal expectations of myself. There's one of the things I say to myself sometimes what I think of myself is none of my business. Not only what other people think of me, but sometimes my own ideas of myself, like just enough. Thank you so much. Goodbye. You've had five minutes now. You'll need to stop. Or you can do it, but in another room, please. But really, it's been about unpacking these ideas that often I don't even know I've adopted, ideas about who I think I should be. Like, I don't know. I used to think it was my job to be this quiet, demure, gentlewoman. Who would listen And”
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“Oh my god, I'm gonna read now. Golden Globe. Oh, Golden Can you imagine if I won that year? I would have been married myself with an award. No, I won the Golden Glove. Just as good”
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“But I wore a white dress that was a couture Ralph Lauren dress that was made on me and for me. And I realized during that process it was my moment to be married to my own. And to actually walk in what I had created and built, that this was a moment that was not just mine, it was all of ours, all of us who have been being the leads in our lives for eons, but somehow don't get the moment of recognition. And I was going to marry my own self, my own experience, and live in every juicy moment of that, whether I won or not, knowing that I was holding what I wanted for all of us. And then you won! I didn't!”
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“And you know what? As you were talking Do you know what I did? When I was nominated for the Emmy, my Emmy the first time, it had been 30 some odd years since a black woman had been nominated in that category as lead actress in a comedy.”
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“And I've always wanted to have the conversation because you are just a couple steps ahead of me. And I just mean in the years she's been on the planet.”
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“Be specific. My mom has always said that. Be specific. Make a five year plan. Make a list. Yeah, I mean, I need to knock it back a little bit with my list making. But can I just say, though, that I've been dying to have this conversation with you because there are so few women who hold the space of robust, abundant lives that are not in context to a man.”
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“A really good hugger, but you know, the partner that I will meet, that list has also expanded. How he hugs is important, but that I feel safe that he's trustworthy, that we're equal partners, and there's equity in our relationship, that we both get to negotiate our partnership, not by the standards of what the culture says, but instead about what's important to us about connection and relationship.”
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“Oh my God, I was so specific I'm gonna have to wear it to my 50th birthday. I wanted to wear a Victorian dress with this. We don't need to spend time on that. Yeah, I want to know. With a Victorian dress. I have the shoes, by the way, and I wanted to wear multiple vintage 90s, like hang off my shoulder with a little bit of a corset and a skirt, and then I was going to change into for the reception. Reception. Yeah. A cream suit with a wide leg trouser with a very large exaggerated cuff and a double-breasted jacket. And a satin lapel. And my man was going to be”
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“I only have three years, but people might keep asking me, and I don't mind if people keep asking me because every time they ask me, it's an opportunity for me to change the narrative and expand the story of what we can be and who we are as women.”
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“In that context, so many people ask the question Have you ever thought about having children? Like, I mean, my child gave my life meaning. I'm like, are you saying my life is not meaningful? Yeah. And because of the structure that we live in, it is so easy for me to feel undermined with all the accomplishment that I've had and my accomplishments, I don't mean the whopper stuff. I mean like I take the garbage out before it stinks. Like I eat food that's good for me. I get my sleep. I show up for my friends. And that makes a life very meaningful. And somehow the rug gets pulled out so quickly when people put me in the you should be married. Why aren't you married yet? Like what's wrong with you?”
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“And also waiting to be chosen. Well, here's the thing. I'm the chooser. I can choose to get married if I want to, but in the meantime, I am choicefully single, happily, gloriously single. And I do wish there were more examples. And one of the reasons I'm okay talking about it, and by the way, my life is mine, that speech really was geared towards that. I was like, you know, at the time was 45 years old and single, and I had just pushed out my fifth kid on television.”
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“It's the most important thing to talk about. And it didn't even dawn on me then afterwards I had a lot of shame about having revealed something so vulnerable. And then it took me about two years to realize how revolutionary the thought is, particularly for a woman.”
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“It's interesting when I did that speech, I was terrified to do it. I felt like I needed another three days. I knew it was too long, didn't have time to cut it down, and I kept saying to myself, you are enough just as you are, even if you think it should be different, you get to show up just as the speech is, and that works. This is fine. But I was also terrified because I felt like there were such important things going on in the world, and I felt like this was not an important thing to talk about.”
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“It brought a lot of tears to my eyes. It also begged a lot of questions. Where are the places where I'm not living my own life? And so many of the epiphany moments that occur are met with grief and tears and My own judgment, and then even when you have a moment like that, even when I had this moment of naming those words and holding them and hearing them, I then also didn't just do it right away everywhere. Right, that's what I'm saying.”
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“What is that? And these are the moments that I say to myself, what is that? You kind of question, what is running me right now? Like, what is this dialogue I'm having? Where did it come from? Is this some tape that's mine? Is this a cultural tape? Is this me thinking I have to ask permission of somebody to live my own life? And in my journaling, I wrote, my life is mine. And it just, I mean, I say it and it takes my breath away because one doesn't realize really, particularly as a woman, particularly as a black and brown woman in this culture, in the swirl of patriarchy and racism and sexism and all of these things, these things that are sort of giving us a map that is not necessarily our own, that we can actually make choices for ourselves that are not just externally for ourselves, but that actually match that very quiet voice inside our hearts. And it launched me into...”
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