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Africa Brooke

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“Stephen, thank you. You know what I was saying to my friend, Emily, that I was really just looking forward to this conversation. Especially in the time where everything is so heavily politicized and people are sort of lead with identity and what it means to be a certain person. I think I was just really looking forward to having this conversation with you because of the work that you do beyond the work in itself, your curiosity and your willingness to sort of learn and to be open and to change your mind and to be corrected and to also be assertive but to also be soft and to just allow for ideas to exist openly without disagreeing or agreeing, just hearing. I think it's yeah, I think it is, you know, something that is quite rare, but I think through conversations like this, it actually causes a beautiful ripple effect. So I do think this is the start of a friendship. So thank you. Thank you.”
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“To me it does Yeah, and I'll tell you what I mean by that it's almost like that feeling that I was telling you of when I would get emails and offers to speak for half an hour which comes so easily to me and get paid so much money. I would resist it because I know that I can do it and I know that I'm going to get rewarded so much from it, which means that there's a leap in identity that has to happen, which feels quite scary. So it's almost the same with this event and this idea that I have. And it seems, as you say, like it doesn't make sense. It's scary because you know that it's going to succeed. It's scary because you know that it's going to work. And something that I've had to work on over time is the fear of success. Yeah. So this event and this thing that I want to do is sort of linked to that. It's a barrier that I have to”
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“I want to start a festival or a huge annual event that is a place for all of us to express our unthinkable thoughts And it's going to be a place for people to come and see what honest, raw, unfiltered, respectful, compassionate communication looks like in real time. I want this to become something that is global and want it to become Something that has a life of its own outside of me I've wanted to do this for a very, very long time. And I know that I'd be able to do it very well. But I think it feels scary because I know that I could do it very well. Yeah, and I've never shed that out loud.”
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“Yeah, and it's tied to what I mentioned around romantic relationships. allowing myself to be more vulnerable. I think that Allow me to have access to layers of happiness that I haven't yet experienced. That's what comes to mind but it feels like a very big question. Because I think it makes you, well, it makes me have to think about even just with the word lack, it makes me have to sort of turn. mirror unto myself. Yeah, but I think honestly I'm able to be vulnerable in so many other areas, but if I think about the happiness that I could experience in terms of romance, vulnerability.”
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“Interrogate any way. You blow on it and it just fucking crumples. So they've just gone with the cult. It's like it's the script. It's the script. That's why I think questioning. And it can seem so simple, but questioning can really allow you to sort of snap out of this trance because a lot of it is a trance. It's a script that people repeat and you regurgitate and you parrot. Right.”
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“But Stephen, that happens That happens in some messages that you get. How can I deny, how can you deny that you're oppressed? I've had people tell me. So that's very interesting because it tends to be white people a lot of the time that do that. Because they kind of, and in a way, I sort of can understand where they're coming from in that they really want to stand up for something. They really believe this idea that every single person that fits into this identity market thinks and behaves and has had this experience. They don't then realize that they've become quite regressive in their quest to be progressive, which is very”
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“And we're Depressed now, and we're going to ask you about oppression. Right, so I think there's a bit of cognitive dissonance where then someone like me says, actually, no, I'm not oppressed. People don't kind of know what to do with you then.”
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“Africa, as a woman of colour, what have you experienced? Nothing. What if I haven't experienced any kind of what if I don't have some kind of story? Because I started to find that it would put me into a position where I would kind of feel like I have to find a story where something but what if nothing happened? You know, why can't I just be seen as a writer, as a consultant, as a business owner, as an entrepreneur without being a black entrepreneur or a black speaker or all of which I really value and I see the importance in recognizing those things in those specific terms. But why does it have to be positioned in such a way where I have to look for adversity connected to my race? So I've really started to be very firm around that and to reject that and in interviews to say, I'm really curious to know why you opened the question like that, you know, and sometimes people don't even realize they're doing it because they've”
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“Black people would step forward to talk about the struggle. Because just like you say, I started to notice actually that every panel that I would get invited to do all the interviews, it would start with something along the lines of So Africa, as a black woman,”
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“No, and I also, another reason why I'm very fierce about this Because I think as we have those conversations around representation, et cetera, I think we do need to see more people, whether it's black, brown, what have you, people that are in the minority, depending on where they are. I think we need to see them positioned as powerful sovereign beings. So the reason I'm very serious about the conversations I have and saying, no, I'm not oppressed. I do know what oppression looks like. And I will continue to champion for, as you say, equality, et cetera. It's actually my responsibility to claim my power as an individual who inhabits a black body. It's actually my responsibility. This has to be a part of the representation conversation. We can't always just want”
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“Which is not true at all. I've just never seen myself as a victim, ever, ever. And I won't. I won't do it. There's a real cost to that, just like we were talking about before, there's a mental emotional, spiritual cost to that, and I just won't fucking do it. And I think it's a lie. It's a lie to make myself believe that I'm a victim and that I'm oppressed and I'm a powerless individual. I'm not. I'm not.”
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“I never would have had to declare anything like that at all. But I think something happened, especially in the past two years where to even sort of see yourself as a powerful individual means that you're taking away from other people”
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“I think not I think. I know why. I wasn't raised to see myself as a victim. I just wasn't culturally or in my family home or with everything that my family and I or I as an individual have been through. I have never for one second, apart from the moments where I needed to misplace my own anger and outrage and blame onto other people around me. I never saw myself as a victim to the world. So I think for me, it's not even a conscious decision that I have to be like, okay, it just is. I don't see myself in that way. I don't walk through the world thinking that my skin color is a burden. I know that there are things that I might experience because of it. I'm very aware of that. I don't ignore that, but I don't see that as the only truth or the only side of the coin. So it's always been quite easy for me to say that. And a few years ago,”
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“oppressed. FGM is an example. I'm a huge advocate for working with survivors of FGM, female genital mutilation. So I work with a lot of grassroots activists. I do a lot of work around that. So I understand what oppression looks like, sex-based oppression, but for me as a woman, I as an individual am not oppressed. And I think a lot of people didn't like me saying that for some reason. Because I think some people saw it as me undermining. Black people or undermining women, which is very odd, you know, to even think about. So I think that's something that is to me completely non-controversial that was seen as a controversial statement to make, maybe because of the climate at the time. But that's one of the things that I can think of.”
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“Maybe a small minority, but a very loud minority, especially at that time where everything was so overly politicized really didn't like me saying that as a black person here in the Western world, having have come from Zimbabwe, a country that is the population is genuinely, truly oppressed. And I know what that looks like. I'm not oppressed. I'm not oppressed because of my race. I don't see my race as a burden. Yes, there are things that I've experienced, a lot of adversity that I've experienced. I know the reality of what it means to live under the systems that a lot of us do in and out of the Western world. And at the same time, I'm not oppressed. As a woman, I'm not oppressed. Yes, there are oppressive systems and things that absolutely have to be questioned and looked at, and there are many things that I advocate for where people are truly.”
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“I'll tell you one of the biggest ones that most people did in like a couple of years ago. When I said... That as a black person, I'm not oppressed. I mean, you could say that anywhere else in the world, and it would be like, yeah, of course, we understand. But people.”
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“Painful to shed aspects of my identity and I actually enjoy that. I enjoyed that because it is part of my growth process. And this is not a PR answer or anything like it's the absolute truth. I experience the discomfort that I experience, but sometimes it's painful because it means that I have to make decisions that scare me. It means that I have to allow myself to be fully seen and really step into that idea of being visible. And with visibility comes a lot of vulnerability as well. So I think that is a pain that I enjoy and will gladly accept. And then the x-rated thing that I will not say, that's a pain that I want. No, no, no. This one I'll keep to myself. Thank you. We just don't want to”
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“I experience a lot of growing pains now more than ever now as my especially in the past I would say four years, as the work that I do in the world reaches more people and as I'm constantly stretched in a lot of ways, which I really do enjoy, but it challenges my sense of self. I think sometimes it can feel”
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“I love that term mutual development, and it makes me think actually that this is a term that can apply even outside, maybe even especially outside of romantic relationships, this idea that people don't have to be perfect, that they don't have to exist in the way that I want the world to be or in how I expect them to be, maybe we can actually mutually develop a different perspective together because we're two different beings coming together.”
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“And our worldview, and we expect the person wherewith to reflect the exact same thing back to us, but we don't ask questions.”
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“If they run off good, it's been a game changer to just ask the person that I'm dating or my current partner to be like, how do you like to be loved? How do you like to receive love? And how do you like to give it? Because just those simple questions can change so much. And then you can use the same with sex. What do you like and what do you not like? What have you changed your mind about? What do you like to do now and again or maybe not so much sometimes? How much time do you need? How does your arousal actually work? And I know that some people might not know how to answer these questions for themselves. So it's actually very good to start asking yourself those questions before speaking about it with someone else. These are questions that you can just start to ask yourself before introducing them to someone else, but they can change so much because I think we get into relationships and make so many assumptions based on our individual experiences.”
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“I realize that a lot of people. Expect someone to give in the way that they like to receive. You know, so no one really says, okay, how do you like to receive love? How do you like to give love? And the moment that I started asking those questions, even though I, believe me, I fucking cringed in the beginning, I'm like, really, am I going to argue? But you get used to it”
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“That you can have a full body orgasm, that you can be very slow, that foreplay can be the main thing that you do, that you can experience orgasm without penetration. Just so many different ways of articulating that experience of sex. And it's just that an experience and that changed so much for me.”
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“Drinking and drugs and everything that came with it, I felt like those were the moments that I could be fully expressive without needing to perform, which is very interesting because you would think it would be the opposite, that I would then perform more. But I felt as if I could actually speak my mind if I didn't enjoy something. Can we try this? Can I do this instead? Or I just want to give or I just want to receive? Can we be slower? And then when I was sober, I felt like I couldn't say those things. Because if I say to you as my partner, I might be emasculating you. I might be embarrassing you. You might think something is wrong. So I would just perform and you're performing as well. And then it just causes a huge disconnect. So tantric sex was the first thing that I came across that made me realize and really articulated that sex is actually not a specific destination. Did you know that you can actually enjoy sex without a jacket?”
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“I could tell if they were sort of, if it was like a script almost, like a play-by-play, like this is exactly the method would do this, would do that, switch into this, switch into that. It wasn't sort of flowing and very intuitive as to what's actually needed in that moment, which reminded me of porn. And I would also realize actually, and this is something that I've spoken about so much because I ended up starting a sexual wellness company called Cherry Revolution over time. And I realized that even some of the positions I would get in were very much like porn because certain positions in porn are like that because the camera is there, not because it's comfortable, because that's the shot for the viewer to be able to see it. So when I started to see that, I'm starting to replicate this in my most intimate private moments, but we're both doing it. I made myself believe that I didn't enjoy sex.”
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“Yes. And you know what? You've articulated that so beautifully in terms of sex being a language and it's going to look different for every single person because something that I realized is that I could tell when I was with a man sexually”
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“sober that every time that I was having sex, for example, I faked every single orgasm. It was all a perform. I didn't know much about my body because I'd learned from porn. And because the men that I was with had also learned from porn, we were just in a performance and no one's actually talking about it, right? So in times when I was in relationships and I made myself think I don't want to have sex, I don't want to have sex anymore. It actually was not that. I didn't want to have this type of pornified sex. That's what I actually meant. So what you just said is really important. And I realized that's when I found tantric sex, actually. Yeah, that's when I found tantric sex around 2018 because I realized that I had always felt like sex was being done to me.”
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“No, no, no, no, that resonates so much. And I'm really glad that you said this because I think you're speaking something that is on so many people's minds or something that they've just never really put language to. And a big part of my awakening, if you will, and really addressing that sexual shame is because I also learn sex from porn at 10 years old, 10 years old. So by the time that I had sex for the first time when I was 14, it was very much like a porn performance, to put it very simply. And I speak to so many people, men and women, about this very specific thing. A lot of us learn that we should perform, that sex should be driven by orgasm and ejaculation. And this sort of production, if you will, which is not actually accurate for most people when it comes to what really actually feels pleasurable, especially for women. So I started to realize when I got...”
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“Oh my goodness. So when I sort of wanted to really understand where a lot of the sexual shame was stemming from or just Also, even outside of sex intimacy, intimacy, feeling very disconnected to other people when it came to intimacy, but also from myself, I realized that I could only be expressive as a sexual being if I was drunk or if I was high, if I was in that place where, of course, my inhibitions are low, but I had no insecurities. I didn't have to feel like I'm doing something wrong. I didn't have to feel like my pleasure was wrong. But then when I got sober, all of those things came to the surface. And then I had to look that in the eye. So that also became something that I started sharing over time. As well as sort of sharing my journey with sobriety, I then started sharing the things that were revealed as a byproduct of me getting sober and sexual shame was a huge one, was a big part of that.”
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“I learn again not directly, more so indirectly, that being a sexual being was not something that was of God. It was not something that was supposed to be a part of who I am. Pleasure was never discussed, sex was never discussed. Intimacy in general. I never saw my parents hold hands. I never saw my parents hold hands. I never saw them kiss. I never saw them hug. I never saw any sort of affection. But I knew that they loved each other. I knew that they cared about each other. But affection and intimacy, I just never saw that. Not for a moment. Did you see that growing up?”
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“Yes, absolutely. So I'm going to Sort of keep referring to my sobriety in that period of my life because it was so transformative and it revealed so much to me, so much that I could have never imagined at the time. So something that also happened when I got sober, I think this was about a year into my sobriety. I realized just how much sexual shame I was holding, so much of it. And I Initially, sort of wanted to fix it, wanted to do something about it. What are some surface level things that I can do? What can I read? What can I sort of dive into? How can I deal with it from where I am now as a 25-year-old? But I quickly realized that I actually had to trace it back to see where it even comes from. And I realized just like so many things, it did come from my childhood, being raised in a Christian home and”
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“Wow My goodness and you know again what you've just done is hold a mirror up to because I can feel a sort of tightness in my chest but I also feel kind of like a relief My shoulders at the same time, so it feels quite conflicting, but it makes sense. Because you've just held a mirror up to me. Because in every other area of my life, whether it's business or life or writing, I'm very sure. I can have any type of conversation. I'm very assured and confident and know exactly what I need to do. But it's amazing how in certain areas there's still that sort of childlike, oh, I can't do this. It's too much. That's too big. That's why having someone even in a brief exchange that can hold a mirror up to that part of you and just ask just one question without asserting or trying to put forward a specific thing you should do.”
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“I would absolutely have that conversation. And you know what? I'm grateful, very grateful that you and I have just had this exchange because when I found that journal a few days ago and I saw that entry saying I need to speak to her. I wrote, I'm going to do this this week, and I finished the entry with If I don't do this, I'll never know what our relationship can be. I'm going to do this this week. And it was seven years ago. Gonna fucking do it this week. You're gonna get a message from me saying.”
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“So, you could say there's always an element of self-sabotage when it comes to this, but it's a fear of some kind of unknown around that.”
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“Hot in some way, and I know that there's something that I can do and say to sort of break that, but I just, there's a lot of resistance around it because in my family, There are just certain conversations we don't have, but I've been starting to have those conversations with some family members, but she's just the one person that I haven't done it with yet. I think there's almost a fear of the unknown. what our relationship will look like beyond this. And I know it can sound mad because someone listening to this might think just have the conversation. I'm a huge advocate for conversations that are uncomfortable. But when it comes to this, for whatever reason, There's a fear of the unknown, even though I know that the unknown is going to be potentially a stronger relationship.”
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“It does, it does she was on that list of amends? that I had to make back in twenty sixteen and I made amends with everyone on that list apart from her and I see her quite often and there'll be times where I feel like I want to say something because there's not even anything specific that happened it's just the way that I was behaving at the time that I was in the height of my destruction and she had just moved from Zimbabwe to here and I was always her favorite cousin and we were so close and she was so excited to see me and to see me after all of these years and when she came she didn't meet the me that she remembered and I noticed that very early on and now we're much older seven years later I can still see that there's a part of her that feels”
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“I haven't and I wrote that entry. It's in the journal that I found the other day. Thank you for pointing that out I haven't. It's been seven years since I wrote that. Maybe now”
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“Oh, that's a good question. I was lying about how I really felt about my relationship, so I was writing as if my boyfriend at the time would read it. So I wasn't being completely honest about how unhappy I was. I wasn't being honest about Cheating in our relationship when I was drunk, I wasn't being honest about my relationship with alcohol. I wasn't being honest about how I really felt about one particular family member who I really wanted to heal things with. It felt weird because. We didn't speak about emotional things in my family, so there was a lot of resistance around mending that relationship, even though I knew exactly what I needed to do.”
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“and writing. Writing has always helped, but you know what's interesting? I found, especially in those 10 years, I would write in my journal as if someone was going to read it. So I would lie, you know.”
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“Reading something about why lying to yourself is a form of self-betrayal, it meant that every time that I was in a situation and I could feel myself about to lie, I would kind of challenge myself to not and to just say something different or to just say what I actually mean. So I think it's been a combination of self-study, reading, tuning into the self-awareness. I already had, but using it in just a different way and actually stepping into the arena and practicing. So I think that that has helped me kind of developed my sense of self over time.”
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“You know what? I think I've always loved to read, I've always loved to read and to hear other people's stories and to hear other people's thoughts. So one of the first people that I discovered the eighth time that I got sober was Carl Jung. So he's an incredible psychotherapist who explores shadow work. And, you know, I was shadow self, et cetera. And I think through his work and then finding many other teachers, many other mentors along the way, just through books mainly, books and self-study, I was able to findly have language for the things that I was experiencing internally. So I think it helped that I did have that foundation of already being quite a self-aware person. But now having language for my behavior. And I think just through different practices, even”
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“Something else? I wonder if another word that's coming to mind for some reason soft, I think it's both possible to be soft and whatever you would consider hard because just in very simple language, when I hear the word resilience, you have to be hard. There's something sort of, it's not necessarily stoic, but it's sort of that kind of language where you're really fully grounded in yourself, you're back as straight, you're internally up, you know, whereas the other side of that is maybe there is an element of fragility, which is fine. I don't think it's a bad thing, allowing yourself to be soft, allowing yourself to be, to not be as strong all of the time. So I think...”
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“The word weakness comes to mind, but I don't know if that's accurate. I don't know if that's accurate to what is I'm not sure but it's interesting because the word weakness comes to mind and may be a part of me. Even for someone listening We think associating the word weak? Yourself means there's something wrong with you, that it's a bad word. I think there's this idea that it's bad to be weak or it's not acceptable to be weak. But I think we all have moments of weakness. But I don't know if that would be the opposite resilience. What do you think?”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know what? I guess this is where I would bring it back around to holding those multiple truths. Because why do we think that we have to choose between one or the other? Why can't you be both emotionally resilient as an individual, as a being, and allow yourself to express yourself and allow yourself to be vulnerable and allow yourself to have those real low moments that we all do. And I think both can coexist. It's really not one or the other.”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Are not emotionally resilient and are not nurturing and sort of cultivating that within themselves, it continues that cycle where you just end up in perpetual victimhood. And then we are in a culture that rewards victims. And I think self-correction there actually. And I want to make this very clear, that there is a very real difference between being a victim, someone who has genuinely been victimized and making victimhood an identity. There's a huge difference between the two. But I think when you start to make victimhood and identity for anything and everything, that's when it might be time to actually hold a mirror up to yourself.”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, and I think because we're also being encouraged, especially the younger generation, who I really now more than ever want to make more of an effort to really speak directly to them is because I think we're sort of training each other to not prioritize emotional resilience because along with personal responsibility, resilience is also another controversial word. You know, this idea that you can build a strong foundation within yourself that even if something happens externally outside of you, you are able to deal with it. You don't have to go into that deep, dark place and think that is it, full stop. So I think because most people”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's mad. And I think I speak to my family and my friends about all of these things quite a lot, actually. And because I'm still very much in touch with everyone back home in Zimbabwe. And because I have that perspective, when I compared to that part of the world to the Western world, this just seems like a completely different world, like some kind of show. It can't be real that people can get upset to know that there are things in your life that you can control. Yes, you might have experienced X, Y, and Z, but you are responsible for how you move forward. Yes, there might be other components. Maybe it is the system. Maybe it is your familial environment, whatever the details might be, but there are also things within your control. The fact that people can Label that as being bigoted the moment you say, I just”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, 12th step is AA, essentially, Alcoholics Anonymous. You go through a process, a 12-step process of accountability, essentially. And one of those steps is making amends, reaching out to the people that you've harmed and making amends. And that's what I had to do. And I really did that. And there was a lot of shame. There was a lot of guilt. There were a lot of people that didn't want to hear it. But there were a lot of people that were very grateful that even after all of these years, I'm coming to them and acknowledging something that I did or played a part in. And only then could I actually move forward with my sobriety, knowing that I am responsible. Yes, I've experienced a lot of adversity, but I am the one that gets to decide what now. So fast forward to finding ourselves in a culture where even just conversations around personal responsibility are”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“adversity what now what fucking now No one else can do it for you and I think that helped me so much and another thing that I had to do which is a part of that responsibility and accountability was making amends so people that have followed the 12 step program for example will know that making amends is a huge part of it. I didn't follow the 12-step program I”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, oh, it was huge. It was huge, and it had to be one of the first things that I did. Actually, as I think about this and sort of speak out loud, I think what allowed me to get and stay sober that eighth and final time was taking personal responsibility. I think all of the other times I had wanted to place blame on a lot of things outside of me. So my dad would have been the easiest person because he was an alcoholic and because of his abuse and because of everything we experienced and because of the instability, because of coming to a new country, moving to a part of the UK where just me, my sister and Curtis are the only black kids. The adversity I experienced from that. So I think there were so many ways that I could externalize, right? But I think the moment that I was able to say, okay, well, Africa, what part did you have to play in this? So you've experienced all of this.”
2022-07-14 · The Diary of a CEO · Victimhood & Self-sabotage Is Destroying The World In 2022: Africa Brooke · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT