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Africa Brooke

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“Things are starting to shift a little bit more. I think people have stopped being so fearful of what is known as cancel culture, even though I prefer to call it collective sabotage, because I think that's a much more accurate term for it. I think people are being less afraid now to ask questions, to be like, actually, let's hear what this view actually is. We don't have to agree with it, but we can at least acknowledge that it exists. But I think people that are on the right, from my own experience, especially if we're talking about media, et cetera, have been more willing to have these conversations and to have more debates and to honor that gray more than the left.”
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“Because most people would not have that conversation with me because the moment you critique something from the left, you're labeled as being on the right, which is just the most absurd thing I have ever heard. But I think now, two years on,”
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“But even that approach is seen as right wing now. So I understand why a lot of people really are getting pushed out of the left and more into the center.”
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“Most people that identify as being on the left would not have that conversation with me. It's only just starting to happen now. The only people that would be willing to have those conversations with me would be people that would be seen as being on the right. And I found that very interesting, that, you know, when you look at being a leftist, it is about being tolerant. It is about, well, I guess that would be, what would that be? Would it be classic liberalism? I guess so, right?”
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“Speaking of cults, when I wrote my open letter. Why I'm leaving the cult of wokeness, I Was really trying to have this conversation because essentially I was speaking about what we're talking about now, an invitation into that middle ground where most people are, inviting people to acknowledge nuance and contacts, to really realize that black people, for example, we don't all think the same. We have very different experiences. We have very different opinions, we have very different beliefs, world views,”
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“The majority of people really are in that center, in that middle ground. I would say if you were to look at my values and what I stand for objectively, yes, I'm a left-leaning person, but I don't make that my identity. I don't look at everything on that side and say, okay, check, check, check. I agree with that. Everything is context dependent. And there are many things that I agree with from different sides because I just look at what is the context, what are we talking about. Does this make sense to me? Is this applicable in real life? So that's the sort of process that I take myself through. And it's neither left or it's very much in the middle. Like everyone, like the majority of people.”
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“Yeah, the exact same. You know what? I don't think I've ever... Even used language like I'm on the left or anything like that. And maybe there's something about being an immigrant because when I speak to immigrants and people that are not from this kind, I think we have a different relationship with politics in general. You will never really hear most people saying that on the left or they're on the right. I think it won't really happen. Most people are...”
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“Yes, yes I see that a lot. And have you found Would you say I think from listening to everything you've said, I kind of have an idea of what this would look like for you, but would you say that you're more in that nuance? Would you say you've always been more in the middle? Or have you ever found yourself on either side?”
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“I'm going to get likes. I'm going to get opportunities. I get to sort of feel it really feeds the ego as well when you have your echo chamber and you have people that say yes to everything. You have people that see you as some sort of leader. But I think it's building some very interesting characters online especially.”
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“They just have to disagree with. And they usually, that's why when I talk about, you know, this kind of. Seemingly a battle between the woke versus anti woke. I always see that essentially they're quite the same, they're exactly the same. You will have the people that are, for example, anti-woke want to be contrarian for the sake of it, you know, screaming about how woke everyone has got if people are, let's say, talking about being inclusive. They'll just label that as woke. It's the exact same behavior as they claim to oppose, which I find very interesting, how people can be so Loud about something and be so convicted and be wanting to point out a specific type of behavior, not realize.”
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“Absolutely. I think it is. I think it is because it's it again perpetuates another idea which ties into this that we need to be on this pursuit of constantly fixing something. And I think I've also seen people do that in the, as you say it as a brand, but people making it, yeah, making it the actual business, their public persona, this is who I am. And I think it encourages other people or makes other people feel that they need to do the same thing or that they need to sort of make their pain, their identity as well. You also see this with people who are contrarian just for the sake of being contrarian, right? I think that's where you”
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“You know, you sign up for this course, get this book, listen to this podcast, and then it's done. Then you're healed. So I think there's a lot of people that are in a very good place. If you were to look at it in a very holistic way, but continuously believe that they have to rid themselves of these very human things and this, you know, inevitable human discomfort that we all experience and they put labels on it to make it mean like it's this So yeah, I think there's a culture right now where people are on this continuous journey of healing when actually some of these things won't actually go away completely and that's fine. That's normal”
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“Ever, and I think we have a current culture actually. So I'm a A Makojian consultant and speaker, etc., who's in the realm of self-help, but despises. The self help industry for a multitude of reasons because I think it perpetuates that idea that idea of healing as if it's a destination”
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“Oh I love that you say that, Stephen. I really do because I think it's again this idea that it has to go completely before we step into the other one. And I think that's what holds people back from fully stepping into their new identity because they think. If I'm really supposed to be here, and this is actually real, and I have all of this new evidence, that's not supposed to be there at all. And I think, again, those multiple truths, they can coexist. It's just what you choose to feed over and over again.”
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“Love fully because when I did, I was shut down because a part of me thinks I don't deserve it. I was incapable of receiving opportunities because I'd feel like this has happened way too easily. I'm supposed to, it's supposed to be hard, but this is so easy. So I would be suspicious of it and sabotage it. So those are the two main areas that I've really”
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“I would just experience so much discomfort knowing that my mum is working so many hours as a nurse on her feet and she's probably making half of that or just about that. So what I would do, and this was not a conscious thing until I started looking at my money story, I would let those emails sit, any email that was saying I would be getting paid. I would let those emails sit until it was too late. They've probably offered someone else because I just felt so uncomfortable making money so easily. So I would sabotage any opportunity to get paid. But if it was free, I will reply straight away. I'll do it. But when you're in business that doesn't fucking work, it doesn't work. But even outside of that, I was shown that because I was incapable of receiving when it came to money, I was incapable of receiving in so many areas. I was incapable of receiving”
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“So many different money stories. Money is very hard to come by. Money doesn't grow on trees. You have to work hard for money. So many ideas about rich people. Rich people are bad. Rich people are this. And no one in my family explains.”
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“I used to sabotage any opportunity to potentially make more money than my mum. So my mum is a nurse. So when I started sharing my sobriety story and I started realizing that I'm actually very good at what I do in terms of speaking, in terms of supporting people, I'm a very curious person and I do have a powerful story, a powerful story that allows me to reach so many different types of people. So it gained a lot of traction quite early on in 2016-2017. So I would start getting speaking opportunities. In the beginning, everything was sort of free. And I was okay with that. Never had to negotiate things around money. Money was not something that was spoken about in my family growing up. I don't know what it was like for you, but the only time that money conversations were really had was through arguments. You would only hear money spoken about where there wasn't enough money, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So I always had.”
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“First, relationship that I ever saw, a man and woman, a couple being together was my mother and my father. And that's the model in which I had to kind of build my own idea of romantic love and what relationships look like. So I've never wanted to get too close. And I could never have said this to you before. I didn't have language for it. But when I looked at the patterns from relationship to relationship, I always thought that they had a timeline as well, never going anywhere beyond the one year mark, always feeling like, okay, that's enough. We've done our time. Let's release. Yes, so I think romantic relationships is one. And I also had one in terms of money. And this one I really had to nip it in the bud when I started my consulting firm five years ago.”
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“You know what I think it is? I think it's a, to put it very simply, I think it's a feeling of if you really get to know me, you might abandon me. And I think this is not something that's even, you know, on a conscious level because I have a strong sense of self. I know who I am, etc., etc. But I think there is still those sort of traces from childhood from everything that I've experienced in my life that those remnants of that have that voice that say if I really let you in and you actually get to know me, you might abandon me. So what I need to do, I need to find a way to get in there first and abandon you before you abandon me. So that might look like, as I said, once the person is starting to kind of get close, I will feel suffocated. I'll feel like, okay, it's getting too much. I need my own space. What's wrong with you? Yah Danger.”
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“Self You know what it is for me romantic relationships and it always helps me when I'm very honest about the fact that this is an area where I still have self-sabotaging tendencies. So what that looks like is Feeling when someone is trying to get close to me, I will immediately start to feel suffocated. I'll start to feel like I need to find something wrong with you so that you don't get too close. Even if I want you to get close, but it's because there's a A pot of me doesn't want to be vulnerable because vulnerability in that area means being exposed. It means being raw.”
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“No, no, and it's not supposed to be because I think we also have this idea that it's supposed to be easy, you know, that kind of once you make a decision and you decide that you're going to do it, that it should just work. And if it doesn't, if it's uncomfortable, that means it's wrong. That means you should pull the plug. That's not always the case.”
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“Suggest, and I say this to my clients and anyone that I speak to, allow yourself to be in that discomfort because a lot of the time it's where you currently are with your identity and the identity that you're trying to step into, someone who is more lovable, for example. But that middle part is going to be quite uncomfortable and you just have to stay there while things sort of reconfigure.”
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“Someone who manipulates me, that's why I choose someone who cheats on me over and over again. That's why I choose someone who shames me or whatever the details might be. So I think there's always some kind of reward that we're getting from that situation. And I think it can be a very, sounds quite abstract, but I think it can be an important question to ask yourself. What reward am I actually getting from this? And is this going to be worth it in the long term? And all of this to me kind of sounds like shifting your identity and what you're used to and allowing yourself to get used to things that might not be familiar yet. I think you also have to understand that when you're breaking some kind of cycle, it's going to be uncomfortable. That's why I'm a huge advocate for discomfort, because I think a lot of us, when we change a pattern, the moment we feel uncomfortable, even though it's good for us, the moment we feel uncomfortable, we pull the plug. And we often pull the plug so prematurely. So I think one of the things that I would say.”
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“I think one of the things, I think questions are always the best place to start. I always like to think of self-sabotage and self-destruction as self-protection. You're actually protecting yourself from something. And a lot of it is unconscious. You're not consciously deciding to get in your own way. You're not consciously deciding to stay in chaos and drama because you just absolutely love it. Maybe for some people that might be the case, but for most of us, it's entirely unconscious. But I think getting clear on what the benefits are because you're getting some kind of reward from it, right? Because if you don't think that you're worthy, if you don't think that you're lovable, that's always going to be the belief that you feed every single time. It's some kind of confirmation. It's like a Caid that I wasn't unlovable. That's why I choose someone who shouts at me. That's why I choose...”
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“I have a problem with alcohol, but cocaine is not the problem, so maybe I can still have a line every now and again and then, you know, and then I can still be with my friends. So all of these justifications, but when I really looked at it, I was uncomfortable with my life actually being drama-free, chaos-free, and being reliable, being able to be there for the people that I love, because I was just so comfortable in that destruction. And I chose it every single time until I didn't, until I couldn't.”
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“It made me uncomfortable because it didn't feel familiar. And there was always this thing in the back of my mind that would sort of say, you're going to fuck up anyway. So might as well just do it now, you know. And that's when the justifications would come. Things like, I haven't had a drink in six months. So maybe if I just have one, it's going to be different, you know, or I would say things like, um,”
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“Anything that is familiar anything that is familiar feels safe in some way, even though objectively it might look like how is this person not changing their life? Clearly, they're losing everyone around them. And I'm talking about myself, losing everyone around them can't even stay in any job for longer than a month, unable to commit to anything incredibly unreliable. How can they not see that something needs to change? But the thing is, when you are in that cycle of self-destruction, self-sabotage, if it feels familiar, it's kind of all you know, that when I would have those bursts of sobriety where I'd be sober for three months and six months, and I didn't have any chaos, I didn't have any drama. I was reliable. People were saying that they're proud of me. You know, I could see that I was doing well. It made me uncomfortable.”
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“Oh yeah, it's probably one of the most grueling things I've done, which is why actually I'm actually very grateful for all of those times that I did relapse because I think I was reminded every single time just how much I wanted to break this fucking cycle and how much I had to because it's so”
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“An individual without all of those things, can I even be by myself? So there was a huge spiritual cost, and once I realized the cost of all of those things, it was around the same time that I discovered the concept of self sabotage, right? When you get in your own way. And that helped me so much just to even have that language to understand what this thing actually was, why I had been in that destructive cycle for such a long time.”
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“I would even say, you know, a low-level paranoia, because when you wake up not knowing whether you've done something, but feeling like you will need to apologize for something, going through my phone just have an idea of what I've done or what I didn't do, who was I with, how did I end up all the way in fucking Surrey when I was in Soho not too long ago? So there was a huge mental cost, but also there was a spiritual cost because just like I said right a few moments ago, not getting to know yourself and then getting sober further down the line and feeling like you're a newborn baby. I didn't even know what I like to do. What the fuck do I actually enjoy doing? If I'm not drinking or smoking something or snorting something, what do I actually enjoy? You know who am I?”
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“The cost was that I never got to know myself. I never got to know myself, not in the ways that I really wanted to anyway. I got to know the version of me that I thought people wanted, so I wasted a lot of time doing that. And there was also a very real mental cost because waking up next to someone, not knowing where you are, not knowing if you've had sex with that person, there's a huge mental cost to that on your self-esteem. It feels a lot of shame, if you was a lot of guilt, because I would be in relationships sometimes when these things would happen. Have I cheated on my partner or was this just something innocent because my clothes are still on? It really, really had a huge mental cost. So there was a lot of things anxiety. There was a lot of insecurity.”
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“Exactly. So it's like another word that comes to mind as we talk about it's deception, right? It's a form of deception. And I think for me, it was. Not even just about deceiving other people, it was deceiving myself so that I could live with myself better, you know, if I see myself through this lens. But yeah, it's very interesting how we can hear certain words and think, no, that doesn't resonate with me. I don't do that. But then it just shows up very subtly in the things we do every single day. But yeah, lying was a huge thing, a huge, huge thing for me. And it's something that I really had to look dead in the eye when I got sober six years ago. Yeah.”
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“And when alcohol was a part of that as well, it was just even more explosive. And I think there was something quite addictive about that, being able to create your own reality and convince other people that that reality is actually true. So it was definitely a big part of my drinking, something that would come out.”
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“It just became habitual because anytime that I felt like I wasn't fitting in in the way that I wanted to or that things were happening within our home that were just very uncomfortable. And I didn't, again, have the language for this. It was all just feeling, knowing that something is quite wrong, I would then go into a different environment and just create a story. And when you were speaking to example, I think he was talking about something similar in relation to lying where he was saying kind of embellishing the truth, if you will, to kind of create a story. And I resonated with that so much because I think that's exactly what it was for me, just trying to create a different world.”
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“It was allow me to Feel accepted. It was Allowing me to sort of create my own world, because the world that I'd been in, a world where I had Someone that was supposed to protect me and my siblings and my family did the complete opposite and damaged our family in a very, very, very big way. I remember that it did start in Zimbabwe when I would be at school and I was quite young, maybe even six, probably around six or seven. I would go to school and sort of tell other kids about my dad and who he was and how amazing he was and all these things that he would do. And part of it were true, but most of it wasn't. Most of it was just me trying to create a reality that I could live with, a reality that made me feel safe, a reality that made me feel comfortable, a reality that other people could sort of step into for a moment and think, wow, that's incredible. So therefore, it would make me incredible in some kind of way. So I think I started to get rewarded for that.”
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“Confidence that I felt that first time. And I tried and did replicate that same pattern over and over and over and over again for 10 years. And that's when I started to see that I was behaving in the exact same way that my dad did. So I think that's the sort of shadow that started to form.”
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“But that was also very confusing in itself because I still didn't quite fit in. Because now to most of the black people that I was around, I was white because of the way that I spoke. By the time I was 14 and I drunk alcohol for the first time, sort of silenced all of those things. I remember it was in a park with some friends and the more that I drunk, the more confident I became or so I thought. And the more that I just felt at ease in myself and in my body and with the people around me, even though I didn't start binge drinking or blackout drinking from that moment, an imprint had been made, a pattern started to develop that every time that I drank from that time, the intention was to get fucked up. The intention was to experience that same level of comfort and”
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“Something that I love, but it was quite big. It was the first time that I realized that I'm black. I had never, Stephen, had to think about it before, ever had to think about it. But we moved to Kent when in 2001, when we first came to the country. And in my school, it was probably me and my sister and one other boy called Curtis. We were the only black kids in the entire school. And I know you've shed your similar experiences with kind of just seeing just how much you stand out in an environment that you have to be in. And we were living in Kent for about three years. And then we moved to London. But the imprint was already made. The insecurity around who I was as a young black girl. When I moved to London, it was completely different because now I was seen as Prissy. I was seen as attractive.”
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“Oh, that's a fantastic question. You know what? I ended up replicating pretty much the same drinking behavior that my dad had. From the age of fourteen up until twenty four when I finally got sober, so a decade long, I was a blackout drinker. I was a binge drinker very specifically. I didn't know when to stop because my intention was never to stop from the first time that I drunk. It's almost as if something magical happened. I realized that I could change who I was, that I didn't have to feel insecure anymore, that I didn't have to think about the areas in which I'm different, the areas in which can lead to me being abandoned because I'm different. And what I mean specifically by that is when I came to the UK when I was nine years old, I always say this, and I will continue saying it because it was one of”
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“You know what? That's something that Still unfolding because I think there's only so far that Other family members will go in terms of really telling me and my siblings or anyone else that wants to know the reality of what was really going on. But I think he was also from a family where people didn't really have many conversations. His younger brother had committed suicide when he was 26. There were other instances of mental health. that wasn't really spoken about as well because culturally people just didn't talk about these things so i think there were things that he was suppressing that i'll never ever know about so i think i've had to make peace with the fact that i i won't be able to get all of the answers as to why and how i just have to understand what did happen and what i experienced and forgive where i can get answers where i can and also let go of expectations”
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“Speaking to my siblings about what we had all experienced in the home because we never really spoke. I don't know what it's like in your family or when you were growing up, but we never really spoke. About much, especially when it came to things that were potentially hard to talk about, things that it revolved around emotions and being vulnerable, things that had anything to do with intimacy or a lack of intimacy. Even the most obvious things, like seeing my mum being hit and not talking about it, almost just pretending that it didn't happen. So I think in adulthood, when I started seeing how other families were, when I started to see how open other people are, I then started to see the lack in what I had experienced growing up. So I think that's when I started to kind of wanted to know more. Did anyone else see what was happening? Did my aunts and uncles know what was happening? Why didn't anyone talk about it? Why didn't anyone talk to us? So I think I had so many why type of questions, which fueled a lot of my resentment. Yeah.”
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“And I never mourned his death because of the resentment that I was holding towards him. But then when I got sober, years later, I had to hold multiple truths about him to realize that he was a beautiful man. I got to experience him in the very early years of my life as being a very present father, as being a very loving father before alcohol came into his life in the way that it did. So I had to then start holding multiple truths about him because it wasn't all bad. So I think I hold those fond memories because I've had to realize that they did actually exist beyond everything else.”
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“Yeah, I think it's actually the letter. I think I definitely understood that this wasn't right, although, to be honest, there were a lot of behaviors that my father exhibited that were considered normal just because of the culture. For example, things like disciplining your wife through hitting her, etc, etc. Or your children. It was just kind of seen as normal. But I definitely knew that it wasn't right. I definitely knew that there was a problem. I knew that seeing a person that is that drunk was not something that felt comfortable. It wasn't remotely normal. And I'm able to now, I think in adulthood, hold multiple truths, which is something interestingly enough that I speak about a lot of my work, the importance of being able to hold multiple truths. Because like I say about my dad, I saw him as a bad person. I saw him as an evil person even. And he passed away in 2004.”
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“Very abusive and he was physically abusive to my mum and to myself and my siblings. But I don't even look at those things and think that I had a horrible childhood in Zimbabwe. I have so many wonderful, wonderful memories of being home and I still call it home, you know. When people ask me where I'm from, I always say Zimbabwe before I say the UK or that I'm British.”
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“Oh that's good Some Zimbabwean From Zimbabwe, and I think this accent always fools people into thinking that I was born and raised here, but I was born in Zimbabwe, which is in the south of Africa. And I came to the UK when I was nine years old. So I remember my life back home in Zimbabwe quite clearly and vividly, actually. I don't remember it being hard apart from my experiences with my father, even though he could be the most charming man and he was such a beautiful man. He was the kind of person that walks into a room and you can feel that Maxwell has arrived. Just a very beautiful spirit, but when he was drunk, he could be very different, completely different. So I think the times that I can remember experiencing most of my sadness or frustration as a child was experiencing that side of my father because he could be very”
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“From the age of 14, I was a blackout drinker. That's when I started to see that I was behaving in the exact same way that my dad did.”
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“If you're on the left, then you're the good person. If you're on the right, then you're the bad person. We're hanging out online where these platforms incentivize binary thinking. Are you with us or are you against us? There's only so much you can take. Most people didn't like when I said that as a black person, I'm not oppressed, that there is a very real difference between being a victim and making victimhood an identity. Because if you don't think that you're worthy, that's always going to be the belief that you feed every single time.”
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