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Aisha Tyler

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first: 2021-12-07
most recent: 2021-12-07
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“Like, if people hate you, like, you know, there's, I mean, there are like these unwritten rules of comedy. And one of them is like you don't, if some of the people in the audience hate you, like don't turn all of them against you.”
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“He just is so powerful in his lack of caring. You know what I mean? Like, and And you watch it, and it is to be studied because he goes from kind of anguish to rage to this kind of delightful detachment by the end of the set. And I've seen some other guys do similar stuff, and it's always really fun to watch.”
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“They're not going to scare you and they're not going to drive you away. You're going to deliver the material that you were hired to deliver. You're going to make your money and then you're going to go off and spend it on Lightier and Chicken Wings. But no one is, you will not be deterred. And so I think because you understand that as a comedian very early on in your career, no matter what happens on stage, I will not be moved. So I just had material to do and I did it. And I think I remember thinking almost immediately, well, okay, I'm not going to get any laughs. So I'm just going to kind of like listen to this set and see what it feels like, see what the words feel like, see what might play in front of actual people. But it started to get really delicious. And I think if you watch the Bill Burr video, you'll also see that he starts to really enjoy it. It starts to be like this kind of savory masochism towards the end where.”
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“He says something really outrageous. Like, I hope your mother gets cancer in the center of her asshole. Seven minutes. It's just so, it's just a demonstration of tenacity. You know, he later, you know, he was embarrassed by it, but every comedian understands, you know, this kind of blood battle that you sometimes have with an audience where”
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“It's not like silence you can tolerate, right? But like people are screaming at him to get off stage. And he makes it very clear to the audience. You have to watch it because I'll never be able to do it justice, but he makes it very clear to the audience that he is not leaving the stage until he does his 10 minutes, that he does not care how they feel about him. And he's counting down the minute.”
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“Everybody's been, you know, everybody likes busted out there, like, you know, their marijuana brownie recipe for the year. They're all completely looped. You know, like one of their eyes is completely dilated and the other one is like falling out of their head. Nobody cares about your jokes about your mom and your family. So they could not muster compassion if they tried. So he starts doing stand up and it just immediately starts getting booed. And it's just this like this tidal wave of disdain. He knows if he doesn't finish, he will not get paid.”
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“ninety seven point raw, K-Rock, you know, like one of those shows. And it's like, you know, I don't know. Weezer's too cool of a band. It would be like Nickelback and, you know, some other band that sounds like Nickelback and then opening band you never heard of. Anyway, but they paid, I don't know why people still do this, but if you're a comic and someone offers you money, you take it. So they would hire a comic to kind of warm up the crowd, you know, early in the day. And, you know, no one pays to see Nickelback and then wants to sit through 15 minutes of stand-up. You know, everyone's drunk and on drugs. They're not even facing forward. You know what I mean? It's just like the work, like there's nothing, the only thing worse than performing in front of an outdoor audience is performing in front of people who are eating.”
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“It's Insane. So he was doing one of those big radio, you know, those radio station concerts, like the jingle ball or whatever. And I don't remember it was called the Weenie Roast. I think it was the Weenie Roast. So it's one of the shows at like some local station, like K-Rock.”
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“And I just thought I'm just, and I think also there's a discipline to comedy that if you're not a comedian, you can't understand, which is that you've got to get up and do your set. There is no, you don't get to tap out. Like tapping out is tapping out is true failure. If you went up and you had a bad set, well, you just need to write new jokes. But if you go up and you give up, that's true failure for a comedian. And there are some really famous examples of this online. I don't know if you know the comedian Bill Burr, but...”
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“Well, one thing comedians love is agony. I mean, we dine out on it as definitely like our stock and trade. So a comedian very quickly transitions from, oh my God, this is the worst night of my life to, oh my God, this is going to make a great story. That happens almost instantaneously. So we have a little bit of, we have some armor in that regard. We could wake up like naked and shivering on the side of the road with like no money and no phone and not speak the local language and you'd be thinking, okay, if I live, this is going to make a killer story. So I think in the moment, I just thought I had watched a couple other people go up and not do very well either. I was prepared for it not going my way.”
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“Just silent, it's just like just a wall of silence. And I got off, even thinking about it right now, it's so funny to me. Like I called a friend or I talked to a girlfriend afterwards. I was like, oh my God, like, I couldn't even call that a bad set. I don't know what that was, but it was so funny to me that I didn't get a laugh. Like there was this like bulletproofness that I got from that set that just made me impervious to anything ever going wrong in my life or career again. And even what I'm talking about now, there's a huge smile on my face because it was so funny how little I was able to elicit out of that audience. But it made me, it just made me so mentally strong”
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“Was called Brainwash, and they would have this open mic in the back of this laundromat. And comics know, you know, with these open mics, with these local open mics that typically there are no actual audience members in the audience. It is just a room full of comedians waiting for you to be done so that they can try out their material. All of them looking at their notebooks, not listening, not laughing. And you're just kind of trying to gut it out and pause where you think the laughter might occur if you were in front of actual human beings. And I just did a set where I just did not get one laugh. And I remember not even like a cursory titter. And I remember”
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“Oh god, I bombed so many times. It's just it all seeps together into an inky blackness. Any comic that tells you they've ever bombed is lying. And again, the only way to get funny is to bomb. No one ever gets funnier after they kill. They just walk. I'm like, follow that bitches and they drop the bike. You know what I mean? They go off and do shots at their friends. I mean, you really need to bomb and bomb hard to get funny. I remember doing this one show, oh God. So there was an open mic in a laundromat like South Market around the police station there. So what maybe like eighth and mission or something like that for people in San Francisco? I think it was called Brainwash. I think the...”
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“Now it's different than being an author or an athlete or even a musician because there's an autonomy to accommodate, absolutely. But you need other people. You can't do it. It can't just sit around your place practicing. You know what I mean? Like with music, you know you're sharp or flat. You know if you hit all the notes, you know if the tempo is right. But with comedy, the only way it works is in front of an audience. And so you're very dependent on stage time. And that's everything when you're a young comic is stage time.”
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“Months that you've been trying to get out in this club and you finally get five minutes, it's got to be a monster five minutes. And so Was just no way to improve. You can't improve.”
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“And there was the punchline and there was Cobbs, and those are still the only two clubs. Maybe there's some minor clubs that have sprung up since then. But, you know, they would book these big headliners. So the only time you could go up if you were an amateur, like a young comic was on a Sunday or a Wednesday. And there'd be 20 other guys trying to get on, you know, as well. And it would be wildly competitive. And you wouldn't be getting paid, you know, and then you'd be super anxious because you'd be like hoping, okay, I need to go up and I need to destroy because I want this club owner to hire me again. So I can't go up and I can't work out. I can't fail in front of this guy because he won't see this like, you know, when you watch like an Olympic skater during practice and they're falling. I mean, that's what practice is for. Practice is for like finding your weak spots and reinforcing them. But when you're up in front of a comedy club owner and it's been six.”
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“It became unsustainable. So they started to contract because of market saturation. The economy started to contract in the 80s. And people could watch comedy on TV. The proliferation of comedy on television affected people going out to see it in a club. So there were kind of those three factors all kind of intersecting. And when it happened, it was really aggressive. Like I said, I think there were maybe like five or six comedy clubs in San Francisco when I was in high school. And by the time I was doing standup in my 20s, there were two. So you would do, and they were attracting high end, like peak talent. So, for example, this club's still there. It's called The Punchline. I've been there a few”
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“You couple that with this explosion in comedy clubs, which were a relatively new phenomenon. I mean, when Joan Rivers was doing stand up, she was doing standup in strip clubs. There were very few comedy clubs. And comedy was kind of a part of a vaudeville approach. So you'd hire a singer and then you'd hire a comic, but there wasn't, there weren't places dedicated to comedy. So these comedy clubs opened. It was really easy to make money because comics weren't that expensive. you know, you had a two-drink minimum. People would come in. They would get wasted. You'd have huge margins on your booze. So these comedy clubs started proliferating. And then there just was just peak. There was just peak clubs. Saturated.”
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“Really bad. And so a lot of people watching probably thought, well, I can do that, you know. I also think about guys like, you know, Sam Kennison and Andrew Dice Clay. There was kind of like a golden era in that time. And we were seeing all those people on TV. Then we were seeing a lot of people that were like really subpar. And a lot of people were thinking, well, if that guy can write, you know, five crappy minutes about an airplane, I can.”
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“Yeah, exactly. And part of the reason why there are so many more celebrity chefs is because there started to be celebrity chefs on television. Right. And so, if you think about that in terms of comedy, what you see is, oh, that's a job. I can make money at that. Whereas people weren't really encountering live comedy if they didn't go to a live comedy show. And so you start to see these guys on TV and you think, and honestly, when ha, the precursor to Comedy Central started, they needed like they needed comics and they needed opportunities. They needed clubs. They needed content. It was a 24-hour network. So there were some good comedians on that station and there were some really shady ones.”
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“I think it was there were three factors. One factor was just there was just a glut. For live comedy, in some ways in the 70s and 80s was kind of a new thing. And it's not like people hadn't been doing a stand-up prior to that, but the proliferation of stand-up comedians in the culture really started happening at that time. And what that was fueled by, I honestly don't know. Like, why were there so many more comics doing stand up in the 70s and 80s? Maybe because that was the period where there were these superstar comics that were kind of, you know, I'm trying to think of who would have been really popular besides like Bill Hicks and”
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“Cupertino and Martinez. I mean, you would just go anywhere that you could get six minutes on stage. And there were a hundred other people trying to get those same six minutes. So it was really competitive. The culture, I think, was pretty supportive. Comedians were supportive of each other, but it just, there just wasn't enough stage time. So you just do anything and go anywhere to get it.”
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“I started doing standup at the beginning of the end of the comedy bubble. So when I started doing standup, the club community was contracting and some of the big clubs in San Francisco were closing. I think at one point there were maybe like five or six active clubs and then by the time I was working consistently there were only two. And there was just a lot of competition for stage time. And to get good at comedy, you can't just do it like once a weekend. You need to be on stage like every night. It's like being a high diver. You know what? It's literally like Malcolm Gladwell's 10,000 hours and you're not going to get 10,000 hours to stand up hanging out in San Francisco. Like you have to go everywhere and take every single opportunity to be on stage that you can get. So I would drive to Sacramento. I would drive to Fresno. I would do these terrible, you know, like bar shows in Menlo Park. And oh God, I don't even remember some of the places.”
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“It's far. It's always had, San Francisco has always had reputation for being a comedy town. Like the big comedy towns in the United States, from comedians' perspectives are San Francisco, Chicago, Boston, and New York. LA is not, I mean, LA is a company town, but it's not a comedy town. And San Francisco was always one of those places that people saw as like a real crucible for kind of original comedy. You know, it was like where the alts comedy movement happened. And Mark Marin and Janine Garofflo and these kind of alternative comics, Brian Pussain came out of. And it was a comedy town. But when I started doing comedy, it was like the beginning of the contraction of the comedy economy. So there was a period of time when there were just hundreds of comedy clubs everywhere and you could make a living doing stand up. You could kind of go from place to place and you could get a gig and you could get paid.”
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“Is right there. It's not a big city, even though I think when you feel when you live there, it feels like it, but it's like it's an intimate place. It's an intimate place.”
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“Yeah. Yeah, I think it gives you a freedom. People think it traps them, but I think it gives you this incredible freedom to just pursue art for art's sake and let a job pay for it and do it for so long that everything you do is just for joy. And it changes the way that you... Changes the way that you approach your art. You know, I would like, and I'd go to work at like seven and I six or seven in the morning and I work until four and then I jump in the car and I drive two hours to Sacramento to do a set and I come back at midnight. I do it all over again. But I could do that. And then it was just purely about the experience of performing and not about whether I was getting paid or not. So I did that for a long time before I finally quit my job.”
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“I was and I still am of the opinion that you should absolutely keep your day job, which I know is not in the most popular.”
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“Not in my head. So I remember seeing stand up at Dartmouth when I was like a sophomore and coming out of a show and being like, like, do you guys, like, do people know that this, like, you can go and have this feeling for an hour? Like, this is insanity. Like, I just remember like everything hurt from laughing, my face and my stomach. And I just never experienced live comedy before. So it didn't dovetail until like a job at first. It was just something I was going to do for fun. I kept my day job 100%. And I kept for a long time. I also didn't want to be like one of these kind of like miserable, you know, sweating stand-ups or like gripping their, you know, kind of inky notebook and sleeping on their buddy's couch. I was in a relationship and I had a job that paid great and I could make flyers for my shows at work. I was like embezzling, you know, a copy paper and push pins as aggressively as I could.”
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“Yeah, it's so funny because I don't think I even realized that Sinup Comedy was a job. You know, I was like a really bookish kid. And a lot of guys will have these stories about how they grew up, you know, with like Red Fox, you know, on vinyl that they listen to hundreds of times or, you know, Following Letty Bruce, or these idols, or Bill Hicks, I just didn't remember seeing live on the Sunset Strip when I was a kid, but I just thought Richard Pryor was an alien. You know what I mean? Like a magical person who came down to do this thing. The idea that that was like a vocation was just”
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“And so I'm a problem solver. I'm a matrix builder. I was like, well, how can I solve this problem right now? And I looked at all the ways that I could get on stage and Santa Comedy was the only thing I didn't need to know anyone for or have an agent or a band or connections.”
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“Because I didn't know. It was a really good question. It was like, why if I have my dream job in the city of my birth, why am I so unhappy? And I just lost soul searching and I realized it was because for the first time in my life, I wasn't doing anything creative. I wasn't performing.”
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“You know, it was like the mission was great because it wasn't just sign of conservation of conservation's sake. It was like conservation focused on engaging underserved communities. And it was the grooviest. And I was just miserable.”
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“I was always doing kind of like performing things on the side. Like I went to a high school that had a performing arts kind of like magnet or like a pocket school within the regular school called the Judine McIntyre School, the Arts. So I was kind of doing my regular classwork and then doing like improv and stuff and sketch on the side. And then I went to Dartmouth and I was doing some of the same stuff like, you know, I was in one of those infernal Ivy League a cappella groups that have been popularized since then by shows like Lee. And so it was always kind of doing that as a hobby because it just never felt like a real job. And I graduated and I was living in San Francisco and I was working for a conservation organization that was like a killer. It was like I got like my dream job. It was a group that purchased like blighted urban land and turned into parks and underserved neighborhoods that didn't have any outdoor space for kids to play.”
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“I always love science, but I'm just a person of letters, I guess. And I didn't have the appetite for it. It wasn't as glamorous as I thought. I think when I took my first engineering, I think I've got through the math class. I did fine. Like I applied myself and I got a good grade. And then I went to my like, you know, an introduction to engineering three. And it was about like building a fecal matter treatment plant. And I was like, this isn't feeling like hugging trees at all, man. We're just talking about poop all day. It's lost my appetite for that really quickly.”
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“God. In high school, it's so interesting because I was like super academic. And I think I thought I'd be an attorney. I was really, I was like, you know, I was like a big activist and I organized and marched and did all that stuff. And I was like really into, you know, the outing club and I rock climbed and all that stuff. So I thought I was going to be like an environmental lawyer, either an environmental lawyer and environmental engineer. And then I got to, and I really wanted to go to a school that was like really grounded in like a relationship to nature. So I was applying to like, you know, Marlborough College and Reed and Bard and these schools that were like out in the woods. And I ended up going to Dartmouth, which is, you know, in New Hampshire and has this big land grant around it. And I thought I would be an environmental engineer. And I think I just took like the first prerequisite math course for engineering. And I was like, yeah, okay, it's not going to be.”
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“And crippled in that way that, you know, and I know you've interacted with people like this, in that way where, you know, when something bad happens, their whole monologue is like, why me? Like, why did this happen to me? You don't understand what I'm going through. It's like you're not special. Everybody is experiencing the same thing. Everybody's heart is being broken. Everybody isn't getting the job they want. Everybody isn't going to sleep with what the hot person they want. Everybody is experiencing the same failures, these same injuries, but you just don't know how to tolerate them. You are not special. And that's not the same as saying you don't have potential for being special. There's nothing anybody's doing now that hasn't already been done that won't be done in the future. And those kinds of personalities drive me crazy because they just, they're so stuck and boring.”
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“Whereas I was just deeply disappointed throughout my childhood, so I know exactly what it feels like. I'm just like a neck, I'm like, ugh, that didn't go my way. Moving on, you know”
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“Absolutely. And their sense of like you need to know what it feels like to fail. And then what comes next? Because what comes next is what did I learn? How can I adjust? How do I pivot? How do I move forward? And just most people don't develop those mental skills. They're crushed by failure. And it's just an unavoidable element of life. And there's so many people that I know who's out of real. I mean, you know, genuine love, parents like, I just don't want to see my kid in pain. But like, how are you going to, how do people move through the planet? How do people move through life without pain? That's a false theory. It can't be done. It just cannot be done. And so people just become incapacitated the first minute they hit any kind of a speed bump in their lives. And they just don't know how they don't know how to navigate disappointment.”
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“And I think we just raise like these. I mean, I know I sound like everybody's mom, but I just feel like we're just, we're curating young people's experiences so aggressively nowadays that they just don't have any way to discover things about themselves. They don't develop not just self-sufficiency, but like a curiosity about themselves and their abilities and what they can tolerate and what they can do if left alone because they're just never left alone. I was just, I had a lot of time alone when I was a kid, and I still really.”
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“Like compound fracture, the bone hadn't come through the skin, but it was a multiple fracture. At the time it felt cruel, but I think my dad's larger attitude was no one is coming to save you. You have to save yourself. You have to find a way every single day to save yourself. And as a result, I think that as an adult, I just don't spend a lot of time anguishing over what's been done to me. And I was fine. I did ride my bike home and my arm was broken, but I still got home on my bike. And, you know, then the next day I got a super dope cast.”
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“Was not one of my strong air. But as I pointed out, it wasn't the result that was important. It was just the effort. So I would ride my bike to camp every day and ride at home. And it was a good. Know it was a good ride, it was like a five mile ride to camp. And I fell one day coming down like a hill, you know, kind of, I don't know, you know, this was like no helmets. This was a long time ago. I'm very old. Like, you know, no helmets, just like willy-nilly, your backpack on and, you know, you're not signaling. And I fell and I hurt my arm very badly. And I can't remember, but I contacted my dad and he's like, I'm not going to come get you. I can't leave work. You have to get home on your own. And so I rode my bike back from camp, you know, like another three, four miles in my arm was broken. It was definitely broken. I broke in my arm. And I got home and my dad was like, your arm's not broken. I mean, you see to stop complaining, you know, sore. And the next day I woke up. It was like black and swollen. And I had to like, you know, like lift it off the pillow. And he finally took me to the doctor and it was absolutely.”
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“Yeah, well, this isn't exactly a good example of a disappointment, but it's a perfect example of his attitude. I was going to camp. I was going to camp. I must have been about. Eight or nine. No, I'll say nine. And I was going to like, you know, Jiu Jitsu camp. And this was still during the free range parenting era where you just got up in the morning and you left at home and you came back later and that stuff was your responsibility”
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“You can't predetermine the outcome, but you can predetermine the effort because the effort is the only thing that you own. You can't own results. You can only own initiative.”
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“The engagement in your personal goals, like if I want to do something, whatever, I don't know, let's pick something really innocuous. Like if I want to like hike every day for a month or if I want to start meditating, if I don't dial it, it's not as important to me as not looking back and saying to myself, ah, I should have done it. Like it's the doing for me that is the reward. And then sometimes things go my way and sometimes they don't. The thing I find most upsetting is regret. Because that's something I have control over in the sense of if you didn't do it, you have nobody to blame but yourself, you know?”
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“The twisting is an elevated, yes Yeah, I mean. I don't know, like it's hard to say, oh, I'm nailing it, you know, that's not how I feel, but I do think that attitude of like, you know, just kind of go, and I wrote about a lot about it in my book, like the idea that like my parents raised me to be brave and in some ways maybe too brave, but the result has been like a relentlessness. In the pursuit of the things that are important to me. And that's not the same as like, I'm winning. I don't really think about things that way, but it's just if I want to do something that I do it and I don't really worry too much about whether it's going to go my way, not because I expect it to go my way, but because it doesn't matter if it goes my way, because it's the engagement that's most meaningful to me. It's the effort.”
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“Assholes, I still have to get up in the morning and make a life for myself. And so it's probably a combination of those two things.”
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“When people, if they have a hard time seeing the world positively or if they're struggling with depression, people like, we just need to look at it a different way. But I think that I probably just make more of the chemicals that enable me to be optimistic. I just have, you know, I've never really been depressed. But my father also was just a walk it off dad. He just did not feel sorry for me. And I was not allowed to feel sorry for myself. And so when things went wrong, and this is definitely sustained until I was an adult, I just get up and I keep going. And that was because, you know, my father was raised, he lost his father when he was very, very young. He's raised by a single mother. And tumble down Pittsburgh with the very few opportunities for a black man at that time. And he just never felt sorry for himself. He was just like, look, I can complain about the situation or I can just keep moving. And I so I think I've been nurtured in that way as well, which is the world is unfair. It's shot through with it.”
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“That's a really good question. And I think about that a lot because I think that my attitude or my point of view about things is half biochemistry and half like child rearing. My father is just like a preternaturally optimistic person. It's extraordinary. I always make this joke that if my father's house was on fire, he would like get a stick in marshmallows. Like he just cannot be deterred. I've never seen it. He's just never down. And so I think that I inherited that. And maybe it's attitudinal. I think I just probably make the chemicals in my brain that kind of keep me typically upbeat. You know what I mean? And I think it's important because I think a lot of times when people”
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“I don't ever remember it being like a point of agony. Just things changed. And maybe as a result, I tolerate change better than I would otherwise. Or maybe I even crave change. I don't know.”
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“Sister, like my relationship with her is so intensely loving and affectionate now. And I don't know, maybe if we lived in the same house driving each other nuts all the time, we wouldn't be as close as we are now. I mean, we spent the formative years of our lives living in different houses, what we like the same stuff and we care about the same things and our connections really deep. So I can't, I don't ever remember kind of sitting up at night feeling any kind of agony about the fact that my parents were divorcing. I did watch them try very hard to stay together. Like I do remember that when they got a divorce, I was like, they really gave it a shot. You know, I could see that they really like, you know, I just, they would break up and they'd get back together and they'd break up and they get back together. And I remember I'd like walking on them, they'd be making out on the couch. I was like, they are really giving this a go. When they decide, when they said it was over, I was like, okay, yeah, I don't ever.”
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