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Bessel van der Kolk

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“So the issue is something happens and your brain and mind takes it in and then makes an adaptation to that particular event. That depends on how old you are in the circumstances. And it's very different for different people.”
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“Oh, absolutely. And that can go everywhere. You develop a mind and brain to fit with that particular situation. And if that particular situation doesn't help, you need to find new solutions. And so trauma and abuse really forces you to find other solutions, but many of them are not successful.”
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“I think that's again a selection bias of people she works with. I know certainly plenty of people have had plenty of people working for me who really get paralyzed in the face of challenges and who don't have a solution and become very dependent on getting them action. So I think she has a bit of an unusual sample actually.”
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“Moving together with other people gives you a sense of connection, sense of pleasure. They're really beginning to understand you can do it. At the Harvard Hospital, you wouldn't do the whole lot with people. You wouldn't dance with people.”
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“Getting drugs, lying on the streets, etc., etc. And to a large degree, I see that as an issue of accident. This past year, I visited a program in Los Angeles called Homeboy Industries. It's a program for formerly incarcerated largely Latin men who had no fathers who have been criminals. And it's a spectacular program where they honor the say, what do you need? How we can be together? How can we make a safe place for you? And I saw real treatment there, St. Quintin Hospital Prison, famous prison in California, is now trauma-based. They use my book as a poor text there. And they're transforming people's lives by acknowledging the reality of what they dealt with, helping people to be part of the healing system working. groups working with movement like it's in Quinton they have hula dancing classes I go like yeah”
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“That's true. That's true. But those are the people who managed to get into my practice. The people who don't find your solutions don't have the wherewithal and the capacity to make it into therapy with me.”
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“Yep, I think it's an intriguing question because it's not exclusively women. Of course, men have always done it in armies and basic training and the military. And what's intriguing to me is that when people join the military, they oftentimes are not very well put together people and they go through basic training and they really march together, they sing with people and they climb barricades and they go through composite physical experience with other people at the end of 12 weeks they feel competent and they feel connected and they have found a band of brothers. How do they do it? Not by yaking but by having very deep shared physical experiences.”
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“Because she says, you kn I watched to really experience what your body feels. Also, allowing your body to do things that it has been afraid to do and to explore how your body moves to the world in some ways.”
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“You could. But I do a lot of CBT with my wife, let's say. I point out her irrational behavior and that she should really see things from a different angle and that I should really see things correctly and I really have much success with that. And I'm a bit surprised at psychology does things that most spouses have failed in using very well”
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“In your body, heartbreak and gulf bench. You stiffen up. You've spoken. Subinda, you lose your power, you tighten up. That's really where trauma is lived.”
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“To thinking through trauma, and it became a meme, which is an interesting thing to see, actually. Well, I use it in my life every”
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“But the problem is, again we go back to where we started before the microphone is on, is that our focus these days is on productivity and behavioral change and not in how do we find out how to help you. All the things that I describe in my book, almost most of the things that I describe in my book as being helpful and 10 years ago I know some other things since that time are unconventional methods that do not get practiced in mainstream psychology and psychiatry because they need to be productive and they need to be cheap. And whether you get better or not doesn't matter, who you're cheap. The main motivat I think the profit point is killing. Good practice.”
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“Yes, that is the great news and also the amazing news that even though we know how to do some of that, we're not going there.”
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“Yeah, so if you're a kid and most people... Muskets the parents find him cute, or if he needs a grandparent, they say, oh, she's so cute. Oh, you're lovely, you're so sweet. And no kid is able to say, I'm just average. Look at building kids in this world. I'm not any curious than anybody else. Now, when the kids get old, you're really cute. That is your reality. And if a kid gets old, you're really ugly and nasty. I mean, that becomes their identity. So you really become how people treat you early on in your life. And that's a very big legacy that I, as a therapist, deal with is these imprints of early experience, which are very difficult to change.”
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“Chinese movement side. Which if you use it in Boston, people say you're crazy. But in China, you cannot talk. You can calm that body down by the way you move. And I became very interested in how culture is around the world actually have very different ways of helping people to regulate their physiology and their synchronicity.”
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“Filled every park then as now is filled with people doing Qigong and Tai Chi. And I go down into the park and do Qigong with the Chinese.”
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“Social conditions, physical conditions, movement, touch, synchrony, music. So in our world We got stuck in Western people, are allowed to do things. They can do one thing, is they can what I call take a swig. If you feel bad, you take alcohol, and that makes you feel better. So that's part of our respective tradition, is taking a chemical to change the way you feel. And anybody who says you should take that chemical, nobody ever say you're crazy. And the other thing that Western people are very good is yakking. So let's talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. and understand things. And then I'd like to tell people's story that the first time we happen to Beijing in 1992, and China was still very poor and deprived and miserable and coming back from cultural revolution, and nobody could talk about anything. No, nothing happened on the Mao, no, nothing happened, no Chinaman Square didn't happen, it didn't happen, and China was...”
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“Receive antipsychotic medications if you want. Yeah, that's a very big issue. It's not really my age of expertise. But giving drugs to kids is potentially very dangerous. Yeah. So if you give people medication to change certain chemicals in the brain at the developmental phase, it may actually... Changed the way that the brain gets formed and may not allow as happened with my son who was able to compensate for many things and his brain was able to learn how to react differently if you suppress all of that your brain may not learn these new adaptations.”
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“Both my kids were major inspirations for really exploring what was good for them. I'm particularly grateful for my son, who was such a really very scary kid in many ways, that my wife, whom I'm now divorced from, shows really great also in terms of exploring what might be helpful. And so Bidik got to also be aware of is the issue of privilege, that I made enough money that we could spend a lot of time trying to find things that would help my son. If we had lived in a housing project. Some would have been terrible. But because we were able to give him so much support and care by exploration that he actually found a way of rearranging his mental state”
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“Well, that is what's saved by some. Because I am a psychiatrist and I know about how these labels are little crutches that never quite capture what somebody is suffering from. And people want to put my son on medications. But I was a psychopharmacologist. I really studied drugs, but what I can and cannot do. And it's very clear that they were not helping him. And I didn't have to submit to authority as most parents would do and say, oh, my doctor says this and this and this. I say, I'm a doctor. I know about brains and I know about kids. And I don't know what the hell is going on with my kids. But he doesn't have bipolar disorder and he is not going to respond to lycium. And so...”
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“How I learnt love makers, for one thing. So my firstborn is a just easy and loving and numerous and pretty and girly. And she now is gender ambiguous and just divorced her husband to be with a woman. So that was completely transformed in her case. And to go through that journey with her like, wow, wow, wow, wow. And my son was a neuroatypical child, very out of control much of the time. physical reactions very bright but Reactive staying in bed Only play computer games. And he's grown up to be one of the most loving, thoughtful adult parents you can hope to meet. So both my kids have become very different people who I saw they were, but I have a very good relationship with both of them, even though I really don't quite understand either of them.”
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“So you don't have to follow it. Your kid will drive you crazy because kids do it. And at that point, I think having kids has found a great learning experience in life. We all. None of us knows what we're doing, and none of it teaches how to. Three important teachers How do you deal with this? Because it's very challenging.”
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“I think that's a big thing for all of us because we want to belong, we want to be a member of a tribe. And if you do things differently, Lose your and you become a lonely traveler. This is incredibly complex because people want to be part of a tribe. We cannot do without a tribe. And so the act of actually leaving your tribe is a very, very major pilgrimage to make.”
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“Good question. allowed me to have a life Much of life is automatic, but you can make a choice to do things differently. You start owning yourself. And that's the moment I started to own. I'm responsible for my kiss. I would follow, but I think it's right. It's really a moment of liberation, but also a moment of separation. I will not be like you.”
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“And I almost had an immediate impulse. I should punish my three-year-old. And I started to walk to her, oh my God, I'm about, I feel like crying. Oh my God, I feel about to re-enact what my parents did to me. And I made a physician, no mom, she is allowed to use this bathroom. And I said the limit on my mom, which was a transformative experience for me to actually realize that I'm about to repeat what was done to me, which people do routinely. And I was about to beat my daughter.”
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“It was never unpredictable. But something comes to my mind as you're talking is that same visits that my parents finally came, I had a three-year-old daughter at the time. We were staying at a house and put my parents on the first floor right next to the main bathroom. And then my three-year-old daughter went to that bathroom that was next to my parents' bedroom. And my mother came out and yelled at me, said, how dare she use our bathroom? You should punish her.”
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“And your perception may change My perception about my life and who I became has quite changed quite a bit over time as layers come open. But what you talk about, that things were predictable is very important. My parents also were predictable. Is enormously helpful for at least for you to anticipate, to know what you are supposed to do, et cetera, et cetera. Chaos is a terrible thing.”
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“That's an interesting cultural issue. That's sort of how. My parents and grandparents' generation saw their kids and then people who grew up in Northern Europe completely changed their attitude. Now you go to jail if you hit your kids in Sweden, for example. I think me in Holland is also not in the US. So people have really changed their mind. But in the US, when I talk about the downside of physical punishment of their kids, oftentimes particularly black people will say, I want to raise my childhood knowing about right and wrong. And the Bible says I need to punish my children. And that's what I'm doing. And you should not word the teachings of my church. And I don't argue with that because they're at least not straight on.”
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“Also words One of my patients, Madica, etc, all the time, oh, you'll never have friends if people really got to know you, they will all reject you because it's such a terrible That's pretty good. Well mother of honored people I'm treating, but it would not be an unusual thing to say. People do terrible things to kids.”
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“The crux is not being acknowledged and honored and for who they were as kids. That's the big thing is they were unseen and people did terrible things to them and nobody seemed to.”
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“But that's me. I mean, people with autism or people with OCD don't come to see me. I have a very narrow filter in a way of who comes to see me.”
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“No, but I don't know if my brother was insistent. I know that my mother was very uptight about sex, and I wonder what happened to her. And her fainting response to that means that I triggered something, but I don't know what I triggered. I would not jump to conclusion that my mother was instant victim. Something happened to her, but I don't know what it is.”
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“Not overblown to be curious about how you became who you became, about the internal ingredients of your cake are. I think that's very good for people to be aware of. How do you have become the creatures who they are? I think being curious about yourself is very necessary. Also to be curious in order to be curious of other people.”
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“That doesn't come from me data from this very big CDC study done by Vincent Fernetti. So this is a date on 25,000 people.”
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“My dad wife and her father carried my mother into her bed. So I don't know if my mother was sexually abused. She just fainted when asked the question. But that's how it goes. You barely get a straight answer to any of these things”
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“I asked her only Junior Professors Harvard had two kids, and my parents came to visit me, and here's an example of not so parents I had. I left at age 18 for the US because I wanted some distance between me and my parents. Ten, fifty years later, quite a few. They had never cost their And so they came, and we actually had a very pleasant time, very civilized. And so on the last day my parents were visiting us, I said to my parents, you probably don't really know what I do for a living, but a lot of my work has to do with incest. I wonder where does that come from? and I turned to what my mom and I said, no, I wonder if something happened to you that I picked up, that were you ever sexually abused? And my mom fainted, fell off her chair, and my father said, look what you did to your mother.”
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“Impact is that if you have a mother who is not available to love you and care for you, that becomes part of your perception of the world. And that means that there's a lot of work to be done about learning about affection and intimacy and closeness and vulnerability and all those sort of things.”
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“My mother was more or less broken by the pandemic of 1919 in which her father developed Parkinsonism and became one of those Oliver Sachs type people. So my mother was a very frozen person. which had a very impact on me. My father was very conscientious, loving”
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“1943, very important when you're born, has a huge influx on who you become. So my earlier imprint is of my father at some point was detained by the Germans. He was not in a whole station camp, but he was supposed to go off there. My mom is by herself basing small kids in hiding right next to the place where the Nazis are launching their rockets to go to London so half of the rockets fell into our backyard. And I have no conscious infant of that. But I grew up like a kid growing up in Ukraine today. And a lot of kids my age died. I was a very sickly child who was in law of hunger and misery. Half my generation died of starvation. And so I grew up with incredible pre-conscious imprint of what gets in you. And that must have left a trace in my curiosity and my being, including a trace of having a body that was very sickly.”
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“I had a very good psychiatric training in one of the Harvard hospitals and then I went the last state mental hospital in Boston which was also interesting there's a sanctuary for very disturbed people and so that institution gets closed I go work at the Veterans Administration hospital I met these guys who were people who I looked up to. They were good athletes, competent people, helicopter pilots all my age and these guys had broken apart and they had fallen apart and go and they reminded me of some of my relatives who I grew up with who also have been concentrating on survivors and Japanese camp survivors and then I learned much else after that but that really opened up my eyes to that People can be broken by life experiences. And that really intrigues me tremendously.”
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“At the end, the issue is the perception. Your perception. The issue is not the event itself. You and I may have the same event happening. And for me, it reminds me about my brother torturing me, or it reminds me about my mom being sick and not paying attention to me or whatever. And for me, it becomes a very big deal. And for you, it goes like, yeah, you know, but I have so many talents. Why not try something else?”
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“Yes, you could, depending on how you define it. And for some people it doesn't, for some people it doesn't. It depends again on the context. For some people you get fired, you go like, well, I didn't like those assholes anyway.”
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“Were too much for him, and you caused him to be the person that he is. I think that people in small tea trauma, it's relational trauma, which is a very big deal for most of the people I get to see in my practice. Most people come in not because of big T traumas. It is because nobody saw me. Nobody heard me. I was irrelevant. We always had to take care of my mom or my dad, but there was no room for us.”
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“Explain why not you need to be more accurate. But the small T-toma is a very real trauma when your environment around you doesn't acknowledge your existence. Most people, for example, after natural disasters, do very well because people get together after natural disasters. I've seen it where we have a cabin in northern Vermont. We've had terrible floods. The neighbors get together, they help each other, and you get a sense of cohesion, actually, and a sense of meaning. We're doing this together. Small T traumas have to do with not acknowledging what's going on with you, saying to kids, stop crying, I'll give you something to cry about. No, you don't matter. No, actually your dad is a drunk because you are such a difficult kid that your father was doing okay until you came into this family and you busted.”
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“Tramabili is an overwhelming experience of O my God when something happens and you're completely helpless and there's nothing in you that knows how to deal with”
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“Drama is a speechless experience. We did the first neuroimaging study about people reliving their trauma, and we saw that the entire cognitive part of their brain disappears, that when you're in your trauma, you're just one ball of emotion, and there's no thinking. So you're confused, you're befuddled. It shakes you from speechless terror. You become dumbfounded. So the whole traumatic experience is just beyond belief. And so you stay in a state of confusion and agitation and then finding language for yourself at this point is terribly important to help you to begin to organize your relationship to yourself. It's not enough, but language and defining your experience is terribly important.”
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“Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cognitive restructuring sort of thing. Or they get people better by blasting them with trauma and then before long they get desensitized with trauma. And I think both of these methods are just, they don't get it. That completely doesn't get the issue at hand, actually I cannot talk into being a reasonable person. People are not reasonable people. And trauma is as unreasonable as she can be. That's really at the core. If you understand trauma, is that your brain and perceptual system gets rewired so you see things? Almost entirely through the life of the past experience rather than current experience.”
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“People are being taught methods that they say can cure people in eight sessions, which they count. And so there is what people learn in school these days, although no good clinicians, I know actually practices that, is to help people thinking out, to straighten out people's thinking and to make them not think these crazy thoughts. And there really is no evidence that we can do that.”
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“There has been an evolution, which is quite striking. And when I first started to study drama, I was on the research floor at Harvard, and my colleagues said, why are you studying trauma when you croak nobody ever talk about trauma again? Like, it's a completely alien subject. And now everybody talks, everything is a trauma. And so from being non-existent has become a total explanatory mode. And so we have gone, as we always do from one extreme to the other. And my primary interest these days is not so much trauma. Trauma started it, but somewhere along the line I got to realize that trauma is to a large degree a breakdown of connection between human beings and synchronicity between other human beings. And these days, much more focus on how we can help people establish a relationship to themselves and to the people around them.”
2024-12-23 · The Diary of a CEO · The Body Trauma Expert: Medicating Kids Can Harm Brain Development! Eye Movement Trick That Fixes Trauma! The Secret To EMDR Therapy! - Bessel van Der Kolk · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I have been interested in how people survive extreme situations and How people can overcome the history of people doing terrible things to each other and how we can create a better world in that regard actually. So the mission has been rather social, but the investigation has been very much based on what we're learning about brain science, what we're learning about psychological functioning, etc.”
2024-12-23 · The Diary of a CEO · The Body Trauma Expert: Medicating Kids Can Harm Brain Development! Eye Movement Trick That Fixes Trauma! The Secret To EMDR Therapy! - Bessel van Der Kolk · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT