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Blake Mycoskie

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  1. “Like, not be comfortable on that ski lift until that conversation happened. And then once I got the praise and the attention, I could focus on anything that the other person was talking. But it was so hardwired into me. And now that I say that, it's just like so embarrassing, but I never knew that until I went to Hoffman. And then once I went to Hoffman and I said to myself, okay, there's a healthy amount of needing attention and love, you know, to feel secure. But mine is totally out of whack based on this pattern. And here are the things that happen when this pattern starts to get triggered. And now I almost play games at like parties or ski lifts where I lead the conversation every which way possible so people never find out that I'm the founder of Tom's. And it's beautiful and it gives me this sense of like deep spiritual connection to my spiritual self, as they would say in Hoffman. And so that's just one small example, but I think it gives you an idea of how some of these passions.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  2. “Characteristic and a friendship and definite romantic relationships, which we'll get to because it all comes full circle, Tim. And so what I learned in Hoffman, and I'll give you a very specific example because it's embarrassing, slightly disgusting now to me, but I have beat it. So it makes me very happy. And that is, it was so hardwired into my brain to be the center of attention and to be praised by people that I would get on a ski lift. I love snowboarding. And I would get on a ski lift. And before we got to the top of the lift, I would subconsciously manipulate the conversation so they would ask me what I did for a living. And then I would get to say, I'm the founder of Toms, in which unanimously you get praise. You built a business to help millions of children. Wow. Like, I mean, and so literally I would.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  3. “Kind of held up in incredible high regards by everyone by giving my grandparents A the first grandchild. And I was literally the apple of her eye. And I could do no wrong. I was just loved at every single second in minute. I mean, her whole world revolved around me. And so I grew up, even when I did have brothers and sisters, which she also gave the same love to them, there was always something special of me being the first, not just by my mom, but I would say the whole kind of aunts, uncles, grandparents, everyone. And so I grew up really experiencing high levels of attention at all moments in my life. And so the pattern that came from that was I needed to be the center of attention to feel comfortable. And now this is not very attractive.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  4. “Yeah. I mean, I'll share one and it's embarrassing, but I think it's embarrassing because it's so, it's just, it was such a driver in my life. And I think some people will really connect to this. So it's a good example of how your parents can do all the right things and you're still going to have these patterns. So my mom did not graduate from college. supported my dad through medical school, selling her blood, waiting tables, you know, had as my dad became this very successful doctor, you know, she was serving as the housewife and didn't have the same sense of, I would say pride that my dad did in his vocation. And when she had me, I was not only the first child in our family, but I was the first grandchild in a very big Maikowski family. And so my mom all of a sudden got”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  5. “Work there, and I continue to support them financially so more people can go that can't afford it. But yeah, it is, I mean, I have goosebumps over my whole body just getting the opportunity to share how meaningful Hoffman was because I'm so grateful to it.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  6. “Fat I had in my abdominal area where a lot of men carry body fat because of stress and anxiety. And I literally went from having, you know, I wasn't overweight, but to having like crazy abs and everyone was like, what did you do? And I'm like, I didn't do a single fucking crunch. I just went to Hoffman. And I mean, and literally I lost weight as I lost mental weight. And so since then, I have started a scholarship fund. I've sent over 200 people that have needed the financial backing or resources to go. And I've also sent pretty much every single one of my friends and family. And it's the only thing in my life that it bats a thousand. There's not a single person that hasn't come back and said that was the most important week of my life. And it helps you become a better parent. It helps you become a better spouse. It helps you become a better leader for sure. And I've gone back into graduating.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  7. “Macro patterns, if you look through 20, 30 years, you can kind of see, oh, I do this and it leads to this. And ultimately leads to this. And that has really not served me. And so then they give you the tools to really rewire your brain in a way so that you're not a slave to these patterns and habits. And it's the most freeing experience ever. I mean, it is, I mean, one of my favorite things I love to talk about, Hoffman, is, and this is definitely not anything that they would ever promote as an expectation to have. But I went to Hoffman in 200, I want to say 16. And after Hoffman, I remember coming back to the Tom's office and our CEO at the time, he's like, man, you look lighter, like physically lighter. And I was like, I feel lighter. And then over the next couple weeks, I literally lost 12 pounds in anybody.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  8. “Like to be competitive or have drive now as a conscious choice versus a pattern that I can't turn on or off in any situation. Because sometimes like it's not healthy to be incredibly competitive, you know, in a romantic relationship, it's probably not that healthy. Definitely not with your five-year-old son. I mean, there's a lot of times in which I am glad that I can recognize and see that pattern happening, but then dampen it for the situation. But the Hoffman process, what you do when you go there is they take you through a series of exercises. It's very experiential and it's very unconventional, but it is more effective than anything I've ever seen. And through the week, what you do is you really recognize what patterns you have from both of your parents that you want to let go of that aren't serving you anymore. You also then see these vicious cycles that play out in your life. And so these are...”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  9. “Two things with pretty much every single pattern and behavior of our parents in my case. And that is we either emulate the pattern or the behavior to receive their love, or we do the exact opposite to demand their attention. And so this is as a child how we survive. And Bob Hoffman and a lot of really, really smart people have studied this from a psychological perspective. And so what happens is the way that our brains get wired and all the patterns that end up driving pretty much every decision in our life after the age of 12 are hardwired in there based on us wanting to either receive love or attention from our parents. Now some of those patterns go on to help us in innumerable ways, I would say, my drive in competitiveness has blessed me in many, many ways.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  10. “Yeah, the Hoffman process. I mean, there's probably three to four experiences or practices that I've taken on in my life that have by far had the greatest impact in a positive way. And I love to start with the Hoffman process because it is at the top of the list. The Hoffman process is an eight-day program that Bob Hoffman started 30 plus years ago. It came out of Eselin. And its main concept is focused around this thing called the negative love syndrome that we all experience from our parents or primary caregivers regardless of if they're the greatest or the worst. So every single child has this experience. And basically what it is is when we're young, we are very astute to our primary caregiver's patterns and their behaviors. And we do one of”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  11. “Playing golf, which does not make you exactly the most attractive husband when you have to take a taxi home at the end of the day because you can't drive.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  12. “Leaves and especially maybe ends up living in LA or New York City or San Francisco. They love the excitement and the adrenaline and the uniqueness of those cities, but you can't really ever take Texas out of a Texan. And so I always thought, you know, once I got married, once I started thinking about family, Austin, Texas would be back where I need to be. And that was a big driver in the sabbatical too. So it was to take some time to reflect to see how stable Tom's was on its own without my day-to-day running it and to, you know, really kind of explore whether Texas is going to be the long-term place for me and Heather at that time. So that was the decision. Now what happened was pretty much a disaster because I had to put my attention to something. And so I like to play golf and I like to drink beer. And so I pretty much spent all day drinking beer.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  13. “There's reasonable laughing. Yeah, I mean, what was done is not pretty. And it almost led to a divorce one year after getting married. I'll get to that in a second. But the decision that led to it was, you know, I've been an entrepreneur since I was 19 years old. So by 2012, I had been doing it for 16, 17 years. Toms was a very successful business, you know, driving hundreds of millions of dollars in sales and helping millions of children around the world. I had just gotten married. And for the first time in my life, I just wanted to take a break. I mean, I just, I was just needed to have some time to kind of reflect on all these companies, this new relationship I was in, this new commitment I had made in getting married. And I always thought I would move back to Texas. That was the big part of it too. You know, I grew up in Texas. And I think anyone who grows up in Texas.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  14. “I would convince them to leave the lights on for me to hit against the backboard. And so I think that was in my nature, just incredibly self-disciplined and driven. And that's what allowed me to excel as far as I did as a tennis player. But you really need the natural talent too to go pro.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  15. “To be completely honest, I was not very talented naturally. I worked really, really hard. And I mean, I lived at this one academy with some of the top players in the world, the John Newcomb Tennis Academy when I was 15. And out of 50 top players from around the world that are worldly ranked and go on to become professionals, I won the hardest worker of the year award. That was the only way that I could even compete with some of those players was just because I outworked them. And so I don't know if that's a nature versus nurture thing because I think I have a two-year-old daughter now and she's so freaking driven. I mean, like she goes to swim lessons and just swims across the pool and never looks up to see for applause or anything. Like I see that eye of the tiger in her and I definitely had that at a young age. I mean, from the day that my parents gave me my first tennis racket and I got a tennis lesson, I wouldn't come home till it was dark.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  16. “I would say the The thing that probably is the greatest contributor to that was the discipline and drive that I learned as a young child trying to become a professional tennis player. My whole life growing up from age nine or ten was practicing tennis, living at tennis academies, training. And it was not one of those situations where my parents, you know, pushed it on me. If anything, they thought I was a little bit obsessed and they worried about my drive at such a young age. But I really look, when I look back in my entrepreneurial career, those early businesses, I think, were just new vehicles for me to compete and for me to build an identity like I did as a great tennis player as a young child.”

    2020-07-16 · The Tim Ferriss Show · #446: Blake Mycoskie — TOMS, The Hoffman Process, Conscious Uncoupling, and Psychedelics · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT