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Brené Brown

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“I will. I have enjoyed every minute of this. I would say it has not been easy. We went to some hard places together. It's been meaningful. Thank you”
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“I do believe in the connection around exercise, dementia. And I took care of my grandmother with dementia, with my mom. And my mom and my grandmother made a lot of different lifestyle choices than I've made, but the whole strong ground metaphor is that I'm going to go see a trainer. And one day he looked at me and he said, He called me Brown. He said, find the ground brown. And I looked down. I said, okay. And he goes, not the floor, the ground. Take your feet. Push in to the ground. Use your mind to connect with your body. Push into the ground, and then tell your mind you're going to be using fucking lats. And I was like, okay, so I did it. And I felt them. And I started whispering every time I would do a weightlifting thing, strong ground, strong ground.”
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“It was completely relief. I mean, the day before she died, I think we had a really important time with her. I'm sure she is playing dominoes with Ann Richards and Molly Ivans and great other female Texas politicians. Democrats. Because my mom was very radically political. The window of grief was just years of. There was very early on, there was no calling her to say, oh, Charlie got a really cute date. Let me show you the homecoming pictures. Or, hey, Ellen, you know, got into her master's program, that all just went away, just every week. And so That's why the whole strong groundbook, there's a sentence in the first chapter that said, I have a sticky note on my window, on my mirror in the bathroom that says, I'd rather be the oldest woman in the gym than the youngest woman in assisted living.”
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“I can't talk about it without getting emotional because it's not like I blamed my mom because she's in the middle of this disease. But it was like I didn't see her for two months after that. And Steve kept saying, I said, I can't. And he's like, you gotta heal from that. I mean, just imagine being dropped back in a worst case scenario situation when you were 13 or 14. And then, you know, you're just like, I can't, I can't. And, you know, my sisters were like, I got, we got, we got this. And then they'd go through a period where they were like, I can't right now. And then, okay, I got it. But Steve always had it. Was like, I got the diaper. I'll take him to dinner. I'll meet with the doctors. Like, that's partnership. That's partnership.”
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“Kind of how she showed up as a parent in her marriage with my dad. And so then one day I went to go take care of her and I saw that thing that hadn't seen since I was 14, you know, and I'm 54. And it literally like I couldn't drive, like it brought me physically to my knees. Like my husband had to come and get me. And I don't like.”
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“I mean, yeah, it. Lose someone that you love, like I love my mom in bits and pieces, in chips and bones, in, you know, like that is, you know, and then there was a day when she just got incredibly, incredibly cruel. Like my mom was the fulcrum. Family changed on her back. She was the first person to go to therapy. She left my dad. She got us into therapy. She worked three jobs. She changed everything. She talked about the long history of addiction in our family, you know, on both sides, everywhere. She changed our family. And so to say she was like, you know, somebody who I respected and revered is an understatement. And, you know, And we did so much healing work around.”
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“My mom died on Christmas Day after my sisters and I were her primary caregiver for four years with dementia. Wouldn't wish that shit on the people I hate the most. I try not to hate people Gives me grace for it on occasion. I would not wish that on anybody. Know there's the reality of it. You know, she gets there, there's an accident, you're showering your mom, you're bathing your mom. She knows just enough. Be humiliated by it. This is life. Like, this is caregiving, you know. And it's a tremendous emotional, physical, mental weight that falls primarily on women who are also, in the workforce. Thank God I had two sisters. So there's three of us. Many people have very many people have zero. It's like you and your PhD resourceer. I have resources. Water resources. And I think it almost killed me.”
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“Well, we get external help, but we read, we try new things. Try new tools. We're just, we don't ever want to be done learning and trying to be better for ourselves and for each other. And that's a lot. I mean, 38 years together is. Not just like the slow roll movie of a life and a family, but we've buried parents. Know we've gone through illnesses, we've raised kids, we've Gone through different seasons in our own lives where we were not synced at all. It's really, really hard. But it's, I'm more proud of it than anything I've ever done because my setup for success was zero.”
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“Yeah, yeah, yeah. I struggle with vulnerability, but I really respect humility in people so much that even if I'm not feeling humility, I will fake humility and be like, I need help. And then I'll say, shit, this is real. This is hard. They say, got my number. Damn. They just call the thing a thing and it hurt my feelers. But I guess the biggest thing is that neither Steve and I nor I had any modeling of what a healthy relationship looked like at all. Think one commitment we made is to just. Keep showing up. I think these are the three commitments. Keep showing up. Don't buy into the bullshit that it's supposed to be easy. It'll be the hardest thing you ever do, and ask for help. And that's not, there's no, I wish I could give you like a, here's the secret to it. But the secret to us is we keep showing up.”
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“I'll just start by saying I think therapy Work is so incredibly powerful and helpful. I think the Gottman's work. Is really like we read the Gottman's work together sometimes. So I think that's helpful.”
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“That's a ragged edged break on that marble jar. And it just happens over time. Other people think that they're nuts, and it makes them question their own judgment.”
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“The trust in the Marvel Jar has been very helpful for us. And let me tell you, there are behaviors. This is plastic. There are behaviors in relationships where you take this whole thing and just slam it in the ground. I think that's an obvious one. There's one that's a more ragged edge of grief and distrust than even cheating. Which is just slowly disengaging.”
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“Now trust is and I think we had nailed this. I thought this was how this was going to happen. We were wrong. You've been working your asses off for six months on this, and I've got to deprioritize it today standing right here in front of you. But I'm not going to bullshit you. You've been working your ass off on a priority that literally does not exist today. I want to stop and say thank you. I saw what you were doing. I want to be completely transparent about why the priority has shifted. That I'm going to ask you for the same level of work on the new priority. Yes or”
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“You put the numbers together, and there's a fever dream in the United States, and there's new tariffs, and you wake up and you've got a revenue line that's in crisis. And then you can just look at your people and say, hello, everyone. This is like back to the executive presence. Trust me, here's what we're going to do. And it means nothing to people. What matters is the leader that walks past you in the morning and says, hey, good to see Steven. How's your mom's chemo going? Marbles. Then when the crisis happens, you don't need to say trust me. You just need to say what's on your mind. They trust you.”
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“Build trust and stop and say what's going on, or to build betrayal and pretend like I don't see her hurting. So I stop, I take the brush out of her hand, I start brushing her hair and say, let's go on. That's a sliding door moment that we have all the time, right? And so to me, trust is built slowly over time, a marble at a time. And that's how we teach trust to the most senior leaders in Fortune 100 companies. The trust is a marble jar. It's earned. Leaders believe, and you're a leader, so you know the temptation. Leaders believe that in the middle of a crisis,”
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“Yeah, I mean, just like, yeah. So I go to the Gottmans research on trust and I read right off the bat where Gottman say trust is earned in small moments every day. He tells a story. It's my favorite story that he tells and I've had them on my podcast and I've done blurbs for their books and written forwards. They're just great. So he tells a story about how he's also a mystery lover like me. He's on the second to last page of his mystery. He's like, oh my God, oh my God, who did it? And he jumps up to go brush his teeth and he walks through the bathroom and he sees his wife crying and brushing her hair. He's like, shit, don't look. Everything's good. Just go to the bathroom and get back in. Get back to your book. And he's like, that's a sliding door moment. I have a choice in that moment”
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“Why was that a big deal? And she goes, Because everybody's divorced and remarried, and I've got eight, you know, four sets of people. And she remembered their names. And what was shocking to me is that Ellen was conveying. That these marbles were being earned on these very small she knew my grandparents' name. She gave me a seat to sit at. She checked on me when I was missing school. And so it made me start thinking about the literature on trust. So I immediately go to the Gottmans. Have you had the Gottmans on here?”
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“Every time you share something with someone that's confidential and they don't share it, they get a marble. Every time you build trust, when you want to share something really private and personal, you look for a friend whose jar is full of marbles. Do you have any marble jar friends? She's like not the ones I shared with today, and I said, Who are your marble jar friends? And she said, Hannah and Lorna. And I said, Tell me something they do to earn marbles. Oh, well, like, if I get to my tray late at lunch and there's no place to sit, Lorna will scoot over and give me half her seat and then we just share one seat and I can sit at the table. And then the other day, when I had strep throat, Hannah was worried about me. So remember her mom called and said, Hannah's worried about Ellen. Why wasn't she at school? But then the biggest thing that Hannah did was the other day, Oma and Opa, my parents, my mom and her husband, came to my soccer game and Hannah looked over and goes, Oh my God, you're Oma and Opar here.”
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“Everybody was laughing and pointing and making fun of her. And she said, I will never trust anyone again. And my response immediately in my mind was damn straight, not fucking person. You trust your mamma, and that's it. Like that was my response. But again, that's not the right thing to do, right? You want a kid who can develop trust with others. So I said trust is really hard. She said, I don't understand it. And her teacher at the time, Mrs. Bockham, had a marble jar. And when the class would collectively make good decisions, she would put marbles in this empty jar. And when it got full, they'd have an extra recess and party. And so immediately what came to me, because I'm describing trust, which is a hard concept to a fourth grader, I said, trust is the marble jar. She's like, what do you mean? And I said,”
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“So, this comes, you know, where do I get my information? Ellen's in fourth grade, my oldest. She comes home from school. Front door closes. She slides down the door into a heap sobbing. Oh my God, Eleanor, are you okay? Are you hurt? What's going on? She says that Something hard happened. She shared it like very confidentially with one or two of her friends during recess. When she got back to the classroom, they had told everybody in her class all thirty kids.”
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“So, those are the four skill sets of courage. Again, evidence based, observable, measurable, and teachable. We've taken 165,000 people through this work across 45 countries, collected data on all of it. It's so exciting. And it withstood all of the complex changes over the last five years, including AI, organizationally, because this is where we do our work. I'm not a therapist or clinician. I don't work with families or individuals. I mean, I have a therapist, but I'm not one. So I think Can develop courage skills”
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“Would love to do this exercise with you sometime to understanding what gets in the way of you wrestling with vulnerability, kind of owning it and moving through it constructively. Three, how to build trust and how to become super important, trustworthy to yourself, self-trust. Because one of the first casualties of failure or disappointment or setback is we lose our ability to trust ourselves, our ability to make good decisions, our ability to take care of ourselves. And the last one, which is my favorite, because it can really, I've seen it really change in organization, is how to get back up after failure and disappointment, how to reset, how to manage your own bounce when hardship happens.”
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“This was research that emerged like 15 years ago, and I was really, really nervous because I'm a grounded theory researcher. I'm a qualitative researcher. So a grounded theory is only as good as its ability to work new data. So you develop a hypothesis or a theory based on data. And then as you collect more data, does the hypothesis hold? And we collected that data pre-pandemic, you know, pre a lot of things. And so I was really worried about the four skill sets of courage, which are Identifying and understanding your core values.”
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“Not possible It's just pretend that's called anxiety, like pretending that you can control the chessboard of other people's lives, your own, much less other people's lives. But I think I do it out of...”
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“Why I think metaphor is helpful. I mean, most of us can understand if you back me into an emotional corner. What are you going to get? Like as a leader, I know my armor, perfectionism, micromanagement, I get super intensive, I get recklessly decisive. I know my armor, and my team knows my armor. I think my armor in my personal life, especially when it comes to my kids, when I feel vulnerable, is control, control, control. Take over all the chess pieces.”
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“Developmental milestone of middle age, which you are squarely entering, which is kind of when the universe grabs you by the shoulders and pulls you really close and says, I'm not fucking around anymore. Gave you gifts Choosing not to grow into them is not benign. There's a consequence for that, and your armor is getting in the way. Grown ass person now. You have different choices. Let go of what doesn't serve And that is the big milestone, I think, that we have to wrestle with in midlife. What no longer serves that's preventing us from growing into who we want to be.”
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“The hardest is Maybe one of the biggest findings of my research over the last 25 years is it's not fear that gets in the way of us being brave with our lives and our work. It's armor. Everybody's afraid. It's okay to be afraid. Dangerous is the armor that we reach for to self protect when we're afraid, and how that armor moves us away from love, connection, and our values. And so I think the hardest work is for me constantly being aware of what is my armor? What am I, what am I grabbing for when I'm afraid? What am I grabbing for when I want to protect my sense of self-worth, my ego? And how heavy that shit is? At some point, I had to wear it Because that was survival for me growing up. But this is the big”
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“Yeah, I mean, like I'm not gonna, I have like really serious boundaries. I'm a very boundaried person. But when I see someone behaving in a certain way, I was like, my asshole sees your inner asshole right here. I get what you're doing. I'm not going to tolerate it. I'm going to set a boundary around it. I'm not really judging you for it. It's just that behavior is not okay right here”
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“I don't think that's in the consideration set for a very Beautiful reason If we could fix it. Never have to wrestle with it again We would be so short on grace for other people. That we would”
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“Yes, the belief that I will overcome anything. I've overcome the belief that I will ever arrive. I am grateful for the skills that I have that are new skills, that keep me more aligned with a person, the mom, the partner, the leader that I want to be, but I Mindful all the time. I try to stay very mindful that I am scary when I'm scared. I catastrophize very easily, and that's painful for everybody around me. And I don't need to be liked. I just need to be myself. But those are things. I will sit down two days ago and be like, oh my God, it'd be so freaking easy to be liked here. I was like, this will be, this would be a piece of cake. And I'm like, shit, I don't do that anymore.”
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“At Steve, what's wrong with mom? And Steve goes, she's practicing gratitude. Let her do it, otherwise she's going to get on a crazy train. It's going to be all health. And, you know, like, because part of me wants to say, oh, God, oh God, it's so beautiful and so joyful. And get in your truck and follow them right now if he's speeding. I want to know about it. If he's not stopping fully to stop sign, follow them until this date is over. You know, that's what I want to do because I'm afraid Because the joy of that moment was just too much for me. Vul”
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“No, it's a training. Oh shit, no. I mean, standing at my front door. Watching my 16 year old daughter walk down the sidewalk with her boyfriend in high school and get in his truck for prom, right? And I'm standing there and I'm like, oh God. What am I worried about, Prom Night, like Karak, right? Of course, when I tell the story, the military is always like, pregnancy. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, car wreck. And so I just remember staying there and she gets in and I'm staying next to Steve and Charlie, my sons, you know, at this time he's 10. And I'm like, I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful that I'm a part of it. I'm grateful that they did the crossoge and the boutonier over here. I'm grateful that I got to help pick out the dress. I'm so grateful. And Charlie goes.”
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“And it's interesting because the group of people that we research, the only group of people that could take that, you know, there's a bodily quiver, right? A vulnerability? Have you felt The only people that can really lean into joy consistently are people who use that vulnerability quiver. As a reminder to be grateful To be able to practice gratitude in that second. So gratitude is a huge enabler of joy.”
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“And I said, I want to pause you for a second. Tell you how brave it is to talk openly about something you want so much when you don't have control over whether you get it or not. I want it for you because you want it, but regardless of what happens, I admire your courage for wanting something and sharing out loud that you want it. Because if you don't get it, I'll know that it was a crushing blow. That's so great because I'll be here for you when that happens either way. So we, and I'm really, we call it foreboding joy, that joy is so good just waiting for the other shoe to drop. And people who have trauma histories are really like that. Like for me, The way I was raised When something good happens, I'm like, oh God, now what's going to happen? Statistically, bad shit's going to roll around any second now”
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“I lost my mom two years ago. My kids, it's like having your heart live outside of your body, like to love is to be vulnerable because it's to risk grief and losing. Belonging is vulnerable, the most, the most vulnerable human emotion Joy is so vulnerable that when some of us get close to it, we dress rehearse tragedy. Prepare for disappointment. Like, it's so vulnerable that we don't even let ourselves feel joy because we're so afraid someone's going to rip it away and we're going to get sucker punched by disappointment. Or no People choose to live disappointed. Rather than to feel disappoint, risk feeling disappointed and get excited about something. It's like the first time my kids shared with me when they were young. Certainly not the way I was raised. But, you know, I really, really want to make this team, Mom.”
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“Develop, see how trust your own instincts about the accountability of this group to hold themselves accountable for their behavior, like vulnerability is not more necessary for any of us than anybody else, but certainly more difficult for some people, for sure. And I think what's hard about that, what's so painful, probably the most painful part of my career is that regardless of why the armor is on. Without vulnerability, you cannot access The experiences that are the most meaningful in life love. Love someone is to be vulnerable from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. You know that you're in a relationship. To love is to be vulnerable Have you ever buried someone you loved?”
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“Me and you want to start adding, you want to start adding variables like race, gender, like, you know, anything where there's social systems also at play. That's survival. Like telling me right now my career, like, hey, you should be vulnerable with your new team and talk about your previous failures, you know, well, of course I could do that. And I would do it and everybody would clap and they think, oh man, she's so brave and take the new person who's a young black woman or the new first LGBTQ person on the team and say, hey, tell everybody, don't tell anybody shit. Develop trust first”
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“We've had a lot of hard things happen to us. I think this is where I really believe the democratization of coaching and therapy, that a lot of times we have to work with people, like we have to get help to be able to open up and take off some of the armor that we put on because sometimes that armor that we put on is freaking survival.”
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“Taking in what you told me. I want to be respectful and honor that. And I don't have a way to file it right now because I don't know you well enough. So I appreciate the share. I mean, we also call it spotlighting. So like if I had a military grade spotlight that they use in the wilderness, I work with the military a lot. And I picked it up and put it in your face right here. What would you do physically? That's our reaction to too much vulnerability too fast. Like, yeah, I don't know you. So you're talking about the slow stacking of courage, of vulnerability and trust. And then you're also talking about that”
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“Let me prove to you that you're not trustworthy. Oh, I see. You're backing away. That's what I thought. I'm backing away because we haven't built a relationship that can bear the weight of this story. Can we start small Vulnerability, trust, vulnerability, trust, vulnerability, trust. I think in my work we call that the smash and grab. Like I'm going to hit you with something really big and then watch you go away and use it as evidence. And it takes a really skilled person to say, yeah, I'm really.”
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“Yeah, I mean, I think what you said was so loaded with so many things. So first of all, there's this very interesting relationship between vulnerability and trust. And how does that work? And people always ask me what comes first, trust or vulnerability. Do I trust you first? Then I'm vulnerable, or am I vulnerable first, and then I trust you? And I think it's a very slow stacking. We get to know each other. I share a little bit. I don't share, hey, nice to meet you, Stephen. Here's my darkest horrible, most painful trauma, you know, because that is actually that kind of litmus testing is actually a form of armor. I'm going to throw something at you that our relationship in no way has been built long enough to hold. You're going to go away and I'm going to use that as verification that vulnerability is dangerous. Like that's litmus testing.”
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“So I got in my car and I drove home and the whole way home I just kept saying to myself over and over fuck Brene Brown Fuck Brenay Brown When's the turn on the story, you know? And he said, I got home and I walked into my apartment and I pushed the door open. And both my roommates were wired in and they were on their computers. And they looked up and said, dude, what's going on? And he said. I told her I loved She told me I was awesome. And one of my roommates looked at me and said, That's not how it works. When you are going toward them, they go away. So you're always kind of going away so they come towards you. And he goes, Oh, oh, no. No, I don't want to be that dude. I was daring greatly And he said both of his roommates just got teary eyed and went Right on, man, right on like anyone.”
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“Well, you've had to go first Yeah. I mean, there's this great story that I tell about. I gave a talk here. It was actually in LA, and afterwards a kid came up to me. He was probably 22 or 23, and he said, Can I tell you a story about your work and how it's really changed my life? And I was like, sure. And a kind of a crowd grew around. And this is like the last time I ever got penned, like not being able to exit a stage because it was such a traumatic, it wasn't traumatic, but it was like, he said, well, I was dating this woman. And I was so crazy about her. So I took her to eat to our favorite restaurant and I waited until the dessert came because we love this chocolate volcano. And I ordered it and I said. And she looked at me and she said, I think you're awesome. And I think we should date other people. And then she Uber home.”
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“Courage is the willingness to show up and be all in when you cannot predict the outcome. Courage is saying I love you first. You want to know what vulnerability is? I love you first. Have you ever said I love you first?”
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“No one could answer it. Finally a young soldier stood up and said three tours There is no courage without vulnerability. So is vulnerability important? It is if we want to be brave with our lives. If we want to be able to manage ourselves in a way that's values aligned and courageous, we have to be able to reconcile how we feel when we're uncertain at risk or exposed. I mean, and really, weirdly The next week after the trip to Fort Bragg, I was with Seattle Seahawks, the football team, NFL team. Ask the players An example of courage on the field or off that did not require vulnerability. They said that it's not possible. There is no courage. Like if you're doing things in your life, in your work. And there's no risk, no uncertainty, and no exposure. Then they're not brave. If you know how it's going to end, That is not courage.”
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“Let's define it. Vulnerability is the emotion we experience when we are up against uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. So vulnerability is what I feel. It's the cringe, the awkward, the thing that the emotion I feel in times of uncertainty. Risk our emotional exposure. So it was really interesting because I had a hard time helping people understand because we're so raised to believe that vulnerability is weakness that it took a trip to Fort Bragg, working with special forces to ask soldiers a question. Give me a single example of courage in your life. One example that you've witnessed or you yourself have done. One example of courage that did not require uncertainty, risk, or emotional exposure”
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“Jack I give you your PhD on the just laying still. No, I think that I respect the approach. It's just one of the reasons I decided to come on because I respect the approach.”
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“Right, right, right, right, right. And so I just think it's an interesting question. I don't have an answer. I just know that it's an important question.”
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“I don't know. I just think it's an interesting question for this time, and I think it's an interesting question when you have a platform that's powerful. And I think if you're doing the best you can to make decisions based, what is the question? That drives your decision making No, like just in general. Yeah, got yours. You want to help your listeners and you want to do good.”
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“And so Houston is home to the biggest medical center in the world, like in the world. And I live in the medical center area in the beginning there were just, you know, there never stopped being funerals for physicians and people working on COVID. And so to hear on podcasts that it doesn't exist. That you can use Windex or, you know, like some bullshit like that. I just started to, and then I got into a little desktop around it in my own situation. And so I'm always interested as we enter this world in platform and podcast responsibility.”
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