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Brené Brown

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“I also don't think that everything that we see that is projected as peer-reviewed clinical trial, you know, I think challenges to that system are also important. I think science cannot be a self-referencing system any more than any other system can be. So to have people that have different opinions or new opinions. but to let your listeners or your viewers know that this is not an opinion where there's a lot of data collected or that this is a controversial opinion is respecting people's cognitive self-determination. I just think it's an interesting way to do it. I think I launched the podcast and it became very big during COVID.”
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“The easy choice is. Say whatever you want. And I'll let my listeners sort out if it's real or not. I'll take no responsibility for the credibility The facts that are being presented. What I think is interesting about what you're doing. It just seems like a very solid approach where A big believer in science. I'm married to physician, I'm a social scientist, I'm not going to be the golden child of this administration when it comes to science for sure. I have an I love science. that I wear with a DNA scarf. So I'm like, I'm very real about that.”
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“Like you're cognitively a believer. And trying to move the rest of you to it. You've got the journalistic ethos of Equal opportunity. Insatiable, curious guy, right What do you think the responsibility is of someone who has a platform? To vet or understand the credibility, especially when it comes to science or those kind of things, of what their guest is saying.”
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“You are too dangerous for me. But other than that, I'd probably be willing to have a conversation with anyone. But I can understand why people pick sides. I tell you what, it is lonely.”
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“It's not, we're not wired for it, actually. So an order to do that, you've got a person here inside your moral inclusion. In order to be okay with that, you've got to push them outside of moral inclusion, to be morally excluded from somebody you see as human and worthy of moral inclusion. And the first step to moral exclusion, moving people out of a safety zone where you don't do horrible things to them. The first way to move people out is language throughout history. As long as people have lived. You hear people in this administration calling a community of immigrants an infestation? Same way we would talk about animals or rats. And so my only limit to hard conversation is if you're operating from an ideology. Where women are dogs immigrants are illegals. You know, if you're operating from that place of moral exclusion.”
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“No. No, and I think it's really confusing. And the only limit I have really is I am not probably going to have a conversation with you. If your beliefs question my humanity. That's going to be my line. That's going to be the line for me is going to be, if you're cruel, Name Collie. Or, if your core beliefs about who I am. Who other people are dehumanizing I can't, that I can't do because now I've betrayed myself in order to make a political point about nuance. Because dehumanization is a really interesting and hard thing. When you look at the research of people who studied dehumanization. And we talked about earlier with immigrant populations. There is a circle of moral inclusion. We are not built. We are not hardwired to hurt each other, to kill each other, assault, rape, beat.”
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“Oh, God, it is heartbreaking. It will break your heart and it will remind you of why standing alone? On the front of that book. What it will do is winnow the right word. It will narrow. Your belonging, your true belonging. Down to Very few”
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“Oh, I mean, look, if you're not Getting threatening shit. From the far, here, the far left or the far right, if you're not getting both, you're not doing your job.”
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“With the folks coming over in the dinghies from France, because I don't think we're going to be able to go without solving it because we do have an employment issue and a housing crisis. And then you go. You're out. My care for you, my connection with you completely dependent. You not questioning anything we agreed to back here. That's counterfeit connection. Real connection. I got to know what's going on in your mind because your face is like, we got to play poker. We have to put that on our agenda. What are you thinking”
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“I don't even know you, but I'm going to call you friend because we hate the same people. And you over there I actually do love you. You're a family member of mine But I'm not, you know, because we don't believe in the same things, you have no meaning in my life. Like it's like we have gotten to the place where Ideological bunkers And those are so dangerous because here you and I like let's say that we have the same belief around immigration. So we're going to flip this table over and we're going to get behind it in our ideological bunker and we're going to be like, yeah, we're right and these guys are fucking crazy and thank you all. You know, and then one day I'm going to turn to you and say, you know, one thing I'm wondering about. How are we going to solve the problem?”
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“I don't think you can truly belong. Anything or any group if you don't belong to yourself first. True belonging. Requires us to be who we are. Not to change who we are. That's fitting in. Fitting in is the greatest threat to belonging. Which takes us both back to our childhoods, right? Fit in, fit in, fit in, fit in. The problem is that that chameleon kind of skill set. Means that in order to fit in, the first person you betray is yourself. We've got to be able to stand alone, and that's what's happening right now in the world. I mean, if I look back at Braving the Wilderness, that was maybe the only prophetic book that I think I've ever written. I don't think I'm prophet-like, but man, did I call what was happening in terms of the big sort into ideological bunkers where we're going to get to a place where”
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“For me, it's God. It's a big challenge because I try to work from an ethos where I try to find God in the face of everybody that I meet, even if I want to punch you in the throat. I try to connect to you Whether I like it or not, and whether I like you or not.”
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“Sense of being a part of something bigger than you, I think is also important. So love and belonging, connection, irreducible needs. I think spirituality, I define spirituality as being inextricably connected to other people by something bigger than us. Maybe that's love, maybe that's God, maybe that's fishing. Like, you know, it's different for other people. For me, faith is one of my values and I'm a pretty serious God person. I'm a pretty deep person of faith. I guess I would ask somebody, what is that thing? Transcends. Difference. Political difference, ideological difference, race, gender, you know, belief systems, class, what is it That brings you to a common humanity place.”
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“Yes I think the answers to that question is yes. We're neurobiologically hardwired to be in connection with other people and in the absence of connection. There's always suffering. Always suffering in the absence of connection. So I think, I mean, just how we're built, mirror neurons, you know, our ability to sync up neurobiologically when we feel connected and are hearing each other. So to me, connection is the ability to be in a relationship where we can both give and receive, where we feel, seen, heard, believed, valued. That is that human connection is really important on a micro level, one-on-one with other human beings. I think a sense of belonging and a sense of place. And I don't know that that necessarily needs to be a location.”
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“Tom Brady. They said his pocket presence was so good he could tell where his offensive linemen were by the vibrations through his cleats on the field. So temporal awareness, situational awareness, what's going on, anticipatory awareness. About a great football player, right? Think about Masala. Don't kick the ball to where the striker is. You kick the ball to where the striker is going to be. Anticipatory in situational awareness Pattern recognition. Have I been in this situation before? Do I know how to, you know, where's the goalie in the cage? Where are they standing right now? Take my inspiration from sports all the time, which is why there's so many sports metaphors. I think there's not a better metaphor to describe work right now than. Premier League”
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“And the quarterback uses that time to decide where am I going to throw the ball? Am I going to run the ball? And pocket presence is the ability of a quarterback to use the on average two point eight to three seconds he has to read the field, understand where the defenders are, and make a decision. And so when I asked Emmanuel Acho, how would you define pocket presence? He said, And I want you to think about this in terms of your business. The ability to read the field without seeing all of it. And trusting your team well enough to make a move, even though you can't see everything. What are the skill sets you need right there? One, temporal awareness. You got to know how much time you have to get rid of that ball or get it down the field. They say Tom Brady, who played for the Patriots, is any of this ringing the bell?”
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“And pocket presence is an American football term. So do you know American football? Okay. So I'm a quarterback. I'm going to get the ball and have to throw the ball or run the ball or hand off the ball to get the ball down the pitch, down the field, right? And when the ball is snapped and the ball is put into motion. There's about twelve to fourteen hundred pounds of really angry people trying to drive me into the ground. The people that are protecting me from those defensive guys are called my offensive line. And the way they do it is they form a pocket around the quarterback.”
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“Me back to work where I'm the boss of everything, you know. So where do I learn those things? Well, cognitive and domain shifting come out of psychology. Jimma the lockmaster at Teddington. There's wisdom everywhere. I put it together through stories and metaphors. I mean, another thing in the book, I mean, I'm standing on the sideline at DKR, the University of Texas Longhorn Football Stadium. And I'm standing with Emmanuel Acho. Do you know Emanuel? He's great. He played for the Longhorns. He played for the NFL. Now he's a writer. So I'm standing there and we're watching the game and I look at him and I go, how would you define pocket presence?”
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“So, why do we do that? Because we need a lockthrough period. We need time to go into a chamber metaphorically, change levels, let go of where we were, lower ourselves to the rhythm of what we're doing now, cognitively we would call it cognitive and domain shifting. And we need time. So I looked at the Locke Master at Teddington and said, this should have taken a long time. Can we get this chamber filled up a little bit quicker? And she said, locking through takes what locking through takes. If you rush it, you risk capsizing. We get home and then we walk in the back door, and it's like, I can't find my shin guards. I think I left him on the pitch. Where are my goggles, mom? Oh my god, you didn't sign the permission slip. I had to sneak into the zoo, you know, and you're like.”
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“And how did that come to me? Because I was reading the book series The Rivers of London. And in that book series, there are two gods of the Thames and the Teddington Loch is where outside of London and Teddington is where custody changes for them. So I went to the Teddington lock because I was interested. I met the lockmaster. That runs the lock. She gave me a three hour lesson that day. We let narrow boats through, the Thames. I learned how Locke works, and that's the metaphor that I use to talk about the research on what do we do when we spend all day locking in hyper focused compartmentalizing, getting shit done. And then instead of going home to our partner when we get home, we spend 30 minutes in the garage on TikTok because we can't bear to go in.”
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“Everything, like every single thing Yes, I love history. Yes, I read academic papers all the time. Yes, I wake up in the morning and I read because of the nature of my work. I read the Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Bloomberg, The Financial Times. I read a lot, but there's a chapter in the book that was one of my favorite to write on the transitions home from work. And how tough they are. And how, if you're like me, you've had a very frustrated partner look at you more than once in your life and say, hey. I know it was stressful. I don't work for you. Change gears. Have you ever had that I use a metaphor in that book, in this chapter, of a lock.”
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“Yeah, no one's ever asked me this, which I've been grateful that no one's asked me. So what a pain in the ass, but because no one's going to like the answer”
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“Want my kids to know systems thinking. I want my kids to know anticipatory thinking, situational awareness, temporal awareness. I want my kids to have this complex set of skills. Do I want them to have jobs one day where all they're worried about a shareholder value? Really no. I want them to own their mind, own their intellect, own their attention, and own their focus. I want them to read. Want him to understand history. I want them to develop pattern recognition skills because these are the skills of the future. I want them to be able to hold the tension of nuance and paradox. Everything in their brain is saying pick one, pick one, reconcile, I'm uncomfortable, pick one, reconcile, I'm uncomfortable. That's neurobiology.”
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“Hardest chapter I've ever written in my life of any book was the chapter on grounded confidence and strong ground. What is the set of skill sets and mindsets that I think we're going to need to future ready and future proof ourselves to be leaders moving forward? And I think what was hard about it was the complexity of it was probably a combination of 30 different mindsets and skill sets. And when I was done, you know, for commercial reasons, someone on my team immediately said, geez, this is like a, if you can train people in these things, this is really, this is like really important. The first thing I thought was fuck that, my kids. Train Shame. I get it. It's important. We'll develop some instrumentation, measure it. We'll train folks in it. I think it's trainable. It's teachable. It's measurable. But really, I want this for my kids”
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“And so then I'm thinking to myself, well, which is it, dude? And then I start to extrapolate from there and wonder if there is a thinking class that's emerging where they're like, we're going to read philosophy and we're going to read the liberal arts and we're going to study history. And the rest of you just keep scrolling. Don't worry about the big words. We'll handle all the big words for you. Like it's like when they asked Steve Jobs, well, your kids must love the iPad. Steve Jobs said, Kids don't have an iPad. And then his biographer who spent time with his family said, he wasn't kidding. There's no technology. At dinner, they're talking about art and history.”
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“And then I was trying to think about, I guess maybe that's not the right term, but let me tell you what scares me the most. I'm in some weird rooms because of the nature of my job. I'm in rooms where the people who run these platforms and, you know, that own the CEOs of these business and the founders are in these rooms. And I hear them talking. And I hear things that are so misaligned that it panics me. So I hear someone say, hey, you know, tech billionaire, what should my kids study? I'm worried from my kids. Wow, they should study coding, physics, you know, and then five minutes later, as if that answer didn't happen, someone will say, what do you attribute your success? I mean, deeply when you think about it. And the same person will say, my deep reading of philosophy in the Stoics.”
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“He's always got an interesting point. Damn it. And he's funny. But he said, no, we need less cognitive sovereignty, Bernie. And I'm like, what do you mean? He goes, everything's about the for you page. Everything's for you. We need communal sovereignty. He's like, you know, the whole problem is that your for you page is completely sovereign. You intellectually and spiritually, I'm paraphrasing what he said. I'm sure it was like. Funnier and better looking.”
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“Yeah, I mean, you just laid it out. You just laid it out Emotionally dysregulated, were distrustful of each other, we don't trust ourselves very much, and we're disconnected. I can't give up on people, though. I'm not built that way. I just believe that we are more good than greedy. I was in conversation with Trevor Noah at an event, and I mentioned this term that I was really excited. And he challenged me on it. And I said, I think what we need is cognitive sovereignty. We need to wrestle control. Away from the algorithms and decide what we consume, what we read, how we think, think critically, and We need to think about our attention and our focus as commodities that people are after because they're after them, right? He had an interesting point, though. He always has interesting points, don't you think?”
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“Self protect, close the wall, put up the drawbridge, fill the moat with piranhas, and Just don't have that luxury. We've got to keep the boundaries permeable. We've got to keep learning, guessing, unlearning, relearning.”
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“Right, so a healthy system has permeable boundaries, meaning feedback is flowing in and out all the time. What happens when the world gets complex is we start not wanting the feedback. The complexity is too big. So we start shutting down those permeable boundaries. Well, what happens to a system where the boundaries are no longer permeable at atrophies? And in the process of atrophine, the system becomes self-referencing. Are we good? We great. Are we right? We're right. Are we on target? We're on target because the boundaries of the system are no longer craving outside feedback, even when it's tough. And in businesses today, the geopolitical realities, the market changes, AI, I mean, it's crazy. And so our predisposition. Shut down uncertainty and complexity. The biggest threat to the systems in which we work and live.”
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“Like, it'd be a bajillion dollar, whatever over a trillion gajillion. I don't know. But just thinking about that one podcast and the systems that you're touching, health, women's issues, family systems are affected. Like that podcast hits 20 systems that I can think of in my head right now. Divorce rates of people of women in their 50s and 60s.”
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“Experts you had on Around menopause women's life. I mean, I'm so excited about that. Just to be honest with you, like Mary Claire is my doctor. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Dr. Haver. What is interesting is the systems that just that podcast bumps up against. And the systems that would be sending feedback that, hey, this is not for me, I'm not clicking on this. I've shared that first one with 100 people. Because there's a reality to our lives that is uncomfortable for people. But those are your partners and your moms and your, you know, and your bosses and it's real. And I can guarantee if this was happening with the dudes.”
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“I'm a big systems theory person. I think in systems theory, I was trained in systems theory. I think if you don't understand systems theory, at least if you're leading an organization right now, you're going to fall behind because Complexity inside and outside of organizations is such that we need a framework to understand how all of these individual systems are bumping up against each other. You probably bump up against each other. Hundred systems a day, right? And so, what I would imagine the story I would make up about your success. This is true of any systems theory is in order for systems to thrive and grow. They have to keep permeable boundaries Meaning they have to allow feedback to flow in and out from other systems. To be aware. So I'm just going to give you a very good example. I'm very excited about the female.”
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“The deportation numbers that we're seeing. But we've never seen that level of cruelty and display. That is a real display of cruelty as a reminder of who holds power and who does not.”
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“Normalized? Am I just like, this is what I work in? This is like crazy. This is it, you know. But every now and then, you're going to have to do something that demonstrates to me how chaotic and cruel you can actually be. Like you're going to have to engage in periodic acts of cruelty to remind me that the fear is real and to put me back in it. And so one of the things you're seeing right now, I mean, like we in the US, The deportation and immigration issues. This is not a president that has tightened his belt on immigration more than other previous presidents. But we've never seen masked people grabbing people off the street while children hold on to their legs screaming, mom, mom, mom. Probably exceed.”
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“I think what we've seen be very successful over time is power with, power to, and power within. Collaborative power, co-creation power, Self awareness, metacognition, knowing yourself, knowing how you think and learn. So power with and power too. Power over is excruciatingly difficult to maintain. We're not neurobiologically hardwired to stay in fear for very long. So if I work for you You're using power over to lead me. You're threatening me with my job. You're threatening me with consequences. You're threatening me with demotion. One of two things is going to happen for me neurobiologically. I am either going to Just become numb to it. It's not going to be able, you're not going to maintain. I can't maintain that constant level of fear. It's just too demanding just physically demanding. Or I might get hyper.”
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“So, that narrative that you were talking about, it is a full circle, people in power use power to address issues that they're afraid of. They gain power by leveraging fear and giving people an enemy. That's how this works. It works like this. I mean, I spend 95% of my time in organizations, working with C-suite leaders, senior leaders. This is how it works in organizations, how it works in political, you know, how it works in faith communities. This is how power works in general. So power over is a very specific kind of power. And it's especially dangerous because in order to maintain it, You have to engage in periodic bouts of cruelty towards vulnerable populations. You have to remind people what you're capable of.”
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“We believe that power is infinite and can grow when shared. People who use power over work from a belief system that power is finite, like pizza. And if I give you any, I have a deficit. So it's got to be hoarded and protected and not shared. Power over is really important to understand because when people are using power over, they're definitely letting you know what they're afraid of because that's what they're focused on. And they're tapping into, and I think this is absolutely true, if you give people someone to dislike and blame for their pain. And they look different than the people who are voting, you will win a hundred times out of 100. If you say, I see your pain, I can tell you exactly the source of it, and I can fix this for you. And the source of it is going to be easy to see. You're not going to see yourself in them.”
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“Think he'll ever talk about anything more important than this, to be honest with you. That's why I thought your response was so interesting because if I was going to do the text box above your face. Would have said, Well, holy shit, that's interesting. Because when you use power, especially power over, because there's multiple kinds of power. There's power with and to and power within. So people that use power with and to and power within work from a belief system that's completely different.”
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“Would say before any Great progression Is a regression And I think that When you look at various, I know you have a very global audience. When you look at administrations, political administrations across the world, and you look at How power is being used right now. It will tell you a lot about what they're afraid of. What is that face? We're gonna have to pause”
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“Oh my god, yes. I mean, I think not just them. I mean, like, I think. Having young girls and young women. Keeping them From developing threats to their self esteem. Not just a parental thing. It's like asking them not to breathe because the air is poison. Like it's like every message from everywhere, the fashion magazines, you'd read them and you think I don't look like this. How am I going to look like this? You know, and you lather yourself up with baby oil and you put lemon juice in your hair, you put tinfoil under your chin, get as much sun cancer as you could because we didn't know, you know, like we all wore jeans that you had to put on with pliers for the zipper because they were so tight. Appearance mattered. This is Texas, baby.”
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“Yeah. Like, you know, big blonde hair with hot rollers, the higher the hair, the closer to God. You needed to be tough and strong and throw on a baseball cap and get somewhere really quick, low maintenance, and you need to be a beauty pageant queen”
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“I want it out of where I was raised. I wanted to leave everything I knew. And so I always felt like an outsider. I didn't. Didn't want to do, I mean, I wasn't popular. I wasn't dating a quarterback. That was a dream that my parents and their parents and their parents, you know, you were a bear cadet and you dated a quarterback and you got a farm. So I felt not cute, not popular, not understood. And then at home I wasn't easy going I was anxious And always ready.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Pissed off or shut down are your two emotional opportunities. And Atlas of the Heart, I write about 87 emotions that I think are important to understand because the limits of our language are the limits of our world. When you have two buckets. Everything must go in those. And in fact, in our research over the last 15 years, we found the average person can accurately identify and name three emotions, happy, sad, pissed off And so in my family, SAD was not an option. That was weakness. So you could be pissed or okay. So when I get scared, when I feel grief, when I'm anxious, when I feel disappointment, when I feel anguish. Just angry.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I thought, what? That's what I do. So I'm going to give you one of my tells. If I do a really high pitched what? That means I'm looking for my purse and I know where the door is. I just kept thinking, what do you mean? He said, it's got to be very uncomfortable to be with someone who sees you and really knows you and loves you so much when you have not found a way to see you and love you so much. It's got to be disconcerting. What an asshole, man. Like, wow. And it was true. I had to get to this point where I was like, maybe I should like me as much as he likes me and then make a better decision about whether this is going to work or not. When you grow up”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“For me, six months after we were married, I went to go see a therapist and I said, I cannot do this. I've got to get out of this marriage. And we had dated off and on for seven years before we got married. And I said, I got to get out. And she said, I could, this is hard. I could see how this is not working. And I was like, I had a twinge of defensiveness about Steve. And I said, what do you mean? And she said He likes you so much more than you like you. It must be terrible. Like, fuck you, man, you're fired.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. And so we had long conversations about our walls and slowly through those conversations. Those walls crumbled with each other, and we've been together now for 38 years. Yeah, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Bar none, dude. Nothing has been harder. When I started dating Steve Well, when we got married six months after we got married, this is, you know, you said for you, love was going to be being a prisoner. Having to just shut down to survive.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, not you You're like, you've crossed a piranha-filled moat that I like. But the drawbridge is like, I'm just going to see my Steve definitely. Definitely got over the wall. But it was like game recognizes game. He had a wall.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. And so, yeah, I'm sorry because I don't like to hear that about your childhood. And I don't like to know that about my childhood. But there was a lot of screaming. And so I think Hypervigil Protect Responsible With a dose of be very fucking careful. I will protect my siblings.”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, we had a lot of screaming, and there's a certain, like, if you grew up with screaming, hearing screaming through a wall. You know that sound Hear”
2025-11-03 · The Diary of a CEO · Brené Brown: We're In A Spiritual Crisis! The Hidden Epidemic No One Wants To Admit! · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT