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Dacher Keltner

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“In our hominid evolution was distributed in communities, right? And there's this concept called aloe parenting, which is we all kind of take care of young ones, even if they're not our own. We're all affectionately related to each other in that work. There's much more sexual fluidity in that dynamic that probably reflects the truth of today that we don't face with this Victorian ideal of singular romantic love. And maybe your generation is moving us toward that sort of more communal approach to love. And it's complicated, right? It involves different ideas about sexuality and different ideas of caregiving, but probably healthier. And I hope it happens.”
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“I know, and not only that, but just think about I'm going to be wait, I'm going to do everything from physical exercise to streaming movies to cooking food with one person, right? You know, it's interesting, Stephen. There's this really striking literature, you know, one of the raw facts of our evolution as our offspring are very vulnerable. They're the most vulnerable offspring of any mammal on the face of the earth. They take seven to eight to 20 years just to, I even say like 55 years to even semi-functioning as an individual. But what that meant is love.”
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“You're young, man. You get time So I think this model of singular, devoted, all consuming romantic love has misled us. And we need varieties of romantic love, which your generation is creating, which is exciting. And then we need to remember the other forms to have the rich life. And then you get at that, you know, I got the right social configuration to give me those 10 years of life expectancy.”
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“Where we express many kinds of love, and it comes with a lot of complexity. So when I teach Love, I say there are all these kinds of love, right? Walt Whitman love friendship. You know, I mean, friendship love. And in a lot of the data, friends give you more happiness than any kind of relationship, right?”
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“Living configuration, romantic relationship configuration in Sweden, Sweden has really high rates of people co-parenting but not living with the parent, right? And that may be a model to be moved, not living with the partner, sorry. And so I think that we have many kinds of love, one of them being a monogamous love. It puts a lot of pressure to with this old kind of romantic chivalrous Victorian ideal of like, that's the only person. I don't think that works, right? And so we're moving towards more flexible arrangements.”
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“So serial monogamy is what many believe to be kind of our default orientation. There's variation around that. Some are more polyamorous, others are really fiercely monogamous given genetic makeup and cultural makeup. My belief is, and your generation is really bringing this to the fore, which is that the old model of single monogamous relationship for 60 years probably is not working. When you look at divorce rates, 50%, those people who stay together, half of those marriages are really pretty unhappy, so it's not working. You look at certain cultures, I was struck, Stephen recently. The Scandinavians always do really well in happiness measures, right? And I was like, and I just Googled, like, you know, what is the sort of...”
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“What a terrific question. Well, you know, anytime that you pose these questions, right, you have to remember, you know, and I always approach things from an evolutionary framework, which is humans are many different kinds of individuals. There's massive individual variation. And when I, you know, and there's cultural variation. So some cultures will be less monogamous, others more. Yeah, I think that the safest answer we can offer, and it's dispiriting, and I teach it to my young students at Berkeley, is, you know, I hate to tell you this, but you're in love right now. Odds are very good that that's not going to be the last relationship you're in. And so we tend to move from one semi-committed relationship to another.”
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“Yeah, and it's just like, why would you ever say thank you? It makes you weak, it makes you vulnerable and the like, et cetera. But there are a lot of great thinkers from David Hume, Adam Smith, Charles Darwin, you know, early, a lot of the East Asian contemplative philosophies. Our best human tendencies come out of emotions, of gratitude, and express them. And I think that your example speaks to sort of a big shift culturally. And what do we do with these emotions at work? They're really vital to our sense of connectivity and community.”
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“Source and manifestation of gratitude. And it reminds us in Western European thinking, probably largely Western European male thinking, has been so hostile to emotion.”
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“And what I love about your system, Steven, I've taught gratitude in a lot of organizational contexts, and sometimes people force it. Like, you know, okay, let's see what we're grateful to. Each person in this meeting, it's like, oh God, that's tricky, but to allow it to be spontaneous and intuitive like you did, right? And let it flow. That's the strong surprise.”
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“Use your body to calm down, breathing, yoga, sports, whatever, and gratitude is a winner. And I think awe is up there now too. But gratitude, practicing gratitude benefits the cardiovascular system. It helps people who have heart vulnerabilities, patients, they do better. It is very good for your place in social networks. Like I joined a group. I'm worried, I'm socially anxious. What do I do? Practice some gratitude, you know, say thank you and show a little appreciation to people. You will have stronger social ties. We did research showing it's good for romantic bonds. on occasion like hey thanks for doing the dishes or i appreciate how you the jokes you tell or i love your music selection it helps right so it's it's A safe bet for a happier life.”
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“It's huge. And you know, Stephen, like when following and teaching the science of happiness literature for 25 years at UC Berkeley, I started teaching a happiness course, I think it was Harvard and As for the first 25 years ago and tracking like what are the things you can count on. And when I go out and teach happiness, it's very humbling, like you asked me in some sense a related question to have a parent come up to me and say, you know, my son is massively depressed and suicidal. What do I do? You know, and obviously you go see a therapist and you consider medication, but the happiness literature can point to like these are the five Safest things to do social connection. Develop some way to.”
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“In writing about awe, there are some things that are intuitive, like, oh, nature makes us feel awe and people's moral beauty and kindness, your story on the train, but how in the world music sound waves hits our ear, produces a neurochemistry in the brain. And the next thing you know, you're crying, you know, and feeling one, that's amazing to me. And we still, I don't know if science will ever answer it. You know, it's just the transcendent power of music and you're lucky to share it.”
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“That are moving bodies. I see this pattern of movement, and I am part of that. And as the poet Ross Gay says, these boundaries between self and other become very porous, you're like, whoa, we're our one organism. That's awfast. And I don't understand why. Gratitude is more, you know, you're at the show. Somebody looks you in the eye and smiles and you feel like they're grateful for you. It has this more readily understood economy to it almost.”
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“That's a complicated question. But your examples tell us that the vastness of that experience of like, wow, there are sound waves that I'm producing”
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“Right. Yeah, exactly. You know, music rushes into you. And you start crying Ryan, you're like, oh my God. So, what's a recent experience of that for you?”
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“My work colleague brought me lunch. My child did the dishes tonight. Whoa, I feel grateful. Gratitude really close. As you intuit, but it tends to be different in that awe tends to be about vaster things. Like, you know, you almost get into a car crash or you get into a car crash, you almost die. And you're like, oh, I'm just, I feel awestruck that I'm alive. And then awe has more mystery to it. You can't understand it.”
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“Yeah, what a terrific question. There's a deep philosophical tradition of David Hume, Scottish philosopher, Charles Darwin, Martha Nusbaum more recently a Chicago philosopher that we, and it really animates a lot of this conversation, the work I've done is like we have these amazing emotions that are like deep intuitions about the world that are good for us and good for the world compassion take care of people who are vulnerable awe, you know, connect to others to face vast mysteries and gratitude Adam Smith, the great economist, felt like this is the emotion that holds societies together, gratitude, the feeling of reverence for things are like, wow, this is really important and sacred of things that are given to you. And that is key. Like, oh, my friend help me with my work.”
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“Moral beauty or being in collectives or sports. And I just threw myself into it. And, you know, frankly, The idea of everyday awe, which is very important in the book, we can find it anywhere on the train with the active generosity. That is now, it just feels”
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“It hit me hard. You know, it was. And that's well put. Like for the first year. Know you ask these questions like, why would a guy who teaches speech therapy to the poorest kids in the United States go with a teenage daughter and a young family, come on? Come on. And Donald Trump is indestructible. And you're like, the world is fucked, you know. And I grappled with that very hard. And then I was, as you well put, I was in this antithesis state of awe. I was like, nothing meant anything. You know, it was all pointless. I could sense nothing bigger about life that mattered. And that's why, you know, that's why I said, all right. I have this career that allows me to do these investigations. And we're all investigating. We're all searching for these things in music or.”
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“Find on places I wouldn't ordinarily find it, like just to open my mind. Like, whoa, I'm at a symphony. You know, I love African music and Sona Jobarte. And, you know, and here I was in this symphony, not understanding it, but starting to feel it. You know, nature's easy for me. I've always backpacked and gone into the mountains. I had a lot of spiritual conversations, you know, of like, I'm not a religious person. And I was like, what is this? Why mystical awe? And what it gave me, I think with respect to my brother's death is an openness. Like, we don't know what life is. We don't know where it goes. We don't, you know, and it opened my mind to a lot of new sources of awe.”
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“I did. It took a lot of work. You know, I was in a really tough place. I just was started anew. Like, where do I find meaning? And I find meaning working with prisoners. I don't know why, you know, but just being in prisons, volunteering, helping with the formerly incarcerated. I challenged myself to”
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“In our globalized culture is the problems of capitalism, the search for meaning, the reduced life expectancy U.S., rising anxiety depression. And I was kind of in that state suddenly like, wow, my career's good. But, you know, and so knowing a little bit about the science, I was like, I've got to do this myself and go get it.”
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“But I just did, I was lost because he was a very important voice to me. And I was waking up, wasn't sleeping, panicky. And like a lot of people in grief, I was like, You know hallucinating, like I would see him, follow a guy in the streets and he wasn't him. I'd wake up thinking he was there. I felt his hand on my back a couple times. And it was weird. I had this epiphany in this really bad state of mind, the worst I've ever felt. Like I got to find awe again. You know, I have to my brother, he and I went dancing and did wild things and backpacking and, you know, just live this life of awe. He was my source and he was gone. And so I wrote the book, you know, and I dug in and just started writing about him. And he features prominently in the book, what he meant to me and how I grieved his loss and then worked up the science too. So in many ways, you know, what we're observing.”
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“And he was my source of meaning in many ways in life. And he got colon cancer and died And it was brutal and horrifying. And at the moment of his dying, the last night, he was sitting by his bed. And he was my moral compass in life. Super kind really only cared about, like, devoted his career to the least. Kids in the country, these poor kids. And when I was watching them die, I had an awe experience. I was like, What is going on? He seems really calm. He's heading into a space I don't understand. I saw like pulsating light, you know, that was uniting everyone around him in this sense of reverence. Sacredness of his life. And afterward, I was knocked into a really profound state of grief where this about five years ago, I couldn't make sense of the world. I could do my work.”
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“You for asking that. Yeah, you know, it is hard to write books, and we had done a lot of research on awe. And, you know, one of the reasons I wrote the book was Know I'm now at an age where I've been following how we're doing as cultures and a lot of the things that have surfaced here, Stephen, are true. Feel lonely, they feel Drift. They are searching for something more meaningful than elevating a paycheck. And I felt that awe was part of that story, that awe gets us to what is meaningful to us as individuals at a moment in history. And then my younger brother died. And, um, He was born. I'm one year older. We had this wild childhood, you know, of like born in Mexico and raised in the late sixties in Laurel Canyon, a very experimental place, wandering the foothills of the Sierras.”
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“Know we have redwood trees that are a thousand years old that, oh, this little moment of consciousness that is so self-critical or stressed or egomaniacal, it's just a moment in time of seven, nine billion people, for me personally, it was liberating to find this in awe. Like you were saying, this is just one human's effort.”
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“But that's what's great about awe in the human mind, right? We need the ego and the self and we need to maximize our interests and desires and reproductive possibilities, etc. status, you know, all that. Obsessive stuff. But man, we have this great realm of transcendence that awe is part of that, you know, and in our studies, you know, we literally, we took students up to this tower on the UC Berkeley campus. They got to look out at the, and they no longer felt stressed about things. We had students look up into trees and just admire these. We have a lot of tall trees on campus. And I hope you visit sometime that are beautiful and tall and make you feel like.”
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“Quiets it, it puts it into perspective. And what's striking, Stephen, which took us a long time to figure this out scientifically, is It actually feels liberating, you know. Oh, it's.”
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“Yeah. And it's powerful. Yeah, one of the paradoxical qualities of awe and is this shift, this transformation in sense of self that you're talking about. And it's profound, which is, you know, in the one of the early writing traditions around awe, which is spiritual journaling, a lot of people early accounts of awe in the Bhagavad Gita and Julian of Norwich and the great Christian writings. Almost every spiritual tradition, the Buddha, it's this like, God, I'm having this ecstatic, awe, mystical experience. What's it like? And they write about the self just like vanishing, you know. Psychedelics has a rich tradition of ego death in it. Carl Sagan has this great statement about space like yours. Like, man, when I think about the universe, Look at me. I'm just asleep. I'm a little speck of dust. The self is huge in our minds.”
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“I'm the center of the universe when you look up. Yeah, thank you for bringing that up. And one of the simple, actionable things that we've been teaching at Greater Good, we have a practice on this, is look at the sky, just like look up, take a minute. If you ask the average citizen in a city like London, when's the last time you looked at the sky?”
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“And that's feel like you're at home, right? And it's striking. Think about it conceptually, like here I am on a moped in nature with, you know, the ecosystem's kind of moving into my body and my brain. And out of that comes the concept I'm home. And that's what awe does is it says I'm part of this people.”
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“Are contagious in our feelings. Your story gave me the chills. And then my chills bounced back to you and you got the chills. So we're united and connected. And now, you know, The thinking is we're very cooperative alongside violent and rapacious and the like and collective. We're hyper collective. We synchronize with each other physiologically. We mimic each other. We collaborate unlike any other primate. That's just who we are. It's probably our big strength. I think because in part hyper-vulnerable offspring needed a lot of care, right, to live. Food scarcity, warming in the face of cold. And we need emotions and social practices that make us feel like we're collective and awe is it. It's so striking, Stephen. I don't know if you've had an awe experience in nature recently. Being outdoors”
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“Massive book, right? You know, if you read that, the argument, which is true, is we are, we have these genes that are replicating themselves through us. We are these machines that replicate genes, right? And all of our characteristics are ways to do that. And it's all the language is very aggressive and adversarial. These genes are competing with these genes. I'm competing with other people in the game of evolution. And there's been this massive shift in evolutionary thinking in the past 40 years where, you know, we're just starting to discover around the world people share 40 to 50 percent of a resource with a stranger if asked. Just like as a default, that's our intuition. We have neurophysiological systems like oxytocin, parts of the brain, and the vagus nerve, which help us sacrifice and give. We readily”
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“Feel less distress, less pain, and more awe and joy in their lives. So it's just this simple addition to a daily walk, right? Listening to some music do it more intentionally. And a lot of the studies of awe are really simple. You know, just watch an awe, share an awe story, which you shared to me that just gave me the goosebumps. That goosebumps is a register. It's these little muscles around hair follicles that are part of what are called your parasympathetic autonomic nervous system, which calm you down. So share stories of awe. So there's a ton of ways in which you can build more everyday awe into your life.”
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“Pause, take some breathing, deep breathing, get synced up with your footsteps. This is a classic kind of walking meditation approach. And then look for awe, right? Take a moment to look at small things. Look at the reflection on this cool mug. Then pan out and look at the vastness of where you are, city or nature up at the sky. That was it, right? And that gets you into this awe mindset. And our participants were 75 years old or older at that age, a lot of data suggests you start getting more anxious and depressed, right? People you love are dying. Your body's falling apart. You are facing your mortality. And the awwalk over eight weeks once a week compared to really rigorous control condition led our 75 years old participants.”
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“Behavior. Yeah. Yeah. You know, this was one of the most exciting developments of the science of awe. When we started to get this picture of the health benefits of awe of less stress, a sense of time, reduced loneliness, right, loneliness forty percent of people in globalized cultures feel lonely, right? That is hard on the body. We started to think about awe interventions. And one of my favorites that has compelling health data, if you will, is A lot of people go for regular walks. The UK is famous for its walking traditions. You know, it's one of the great cultural strengths, you know, just paths and, you know, and walks, et cetera. And so we just added one element to people's regular walk. And we called it the awe walk, which is when you go out,”
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“Giving a little stressed out 12 year old, young 12-year-old some awe each moment in a classroom, we know that's really good for health and creativity. So it's good news in terms of what it can bring to us.”
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“I'm not a, I don't know why this happened to me, but I've taught happiness to hundreds of thousands of people online and in classes and the like. I was a grouchy kid, stressed out most of my life, terrible meditator, but I was forced into this job. And surveying the science of happiness we've been talking about, man, two minutes of awe every other day is about as good for you as anything you can do. It calms stress, calms stress regions of your brain. talked about inflammation. It reduces inflammation, activates the vagus nerve, which is this bundle of nerves that wanders all throughout your body and calms your heart rate. It's good for digestion. So, you know, it's good news for the human psyche. And when we talk about”
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“It's amazing. And that we don't understand scientifically the contagious power of chills and awe. But, you know, it's not this stereotype that we are led to understand or think about with words. It's around us all the time, right? The generosity in the train, the beautiful clouds, a piece of music, a visual design, you know, driving here to your studio, all the incredible design of London. It's around us. And so it's there every day. And, you know, Stephen, I”
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“Kindness, I guess. Yeah. And what's stunning to me, and this is a digression your story just gave me the chills. Yeah, exactly. And that's amazing.”
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“Yeah, thank you. You know, one of the fascinating things, Stephen, when you're, you know, is when you study this complicated realm of emotion, is we have these words that we all use to talk about an emotion. And they're much as we have words about ethnic categories or class categories. Oh, he's lower class or he's African American. Those are just words and concepts that may not capture reality at all and awe suffers from this, which is when people talk about awe or they share it on Instagram, they share the big moments of like, is that the Grand Canyon? Or is it in the Lake District or by this cathedral? But in point of fact, there are a lot of ways in which we feel awe all the time, right? Encountering somebody who's really kind in the streets. You're like, wow, that was really generous.”
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“Yeah, I was just feeling an emotion you have when you encounter something big or vast that's outside of your frame of reference, right, of reality that you don't understand. That I think I like the word mystery, wow, who, I can't figure this out. And then that emotion of awe stimulates wonder, right? Like, how do I, why do rainbows exist? when light bends through water molecules so it's it's an emotion that drives wonder and creativity”
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“That 65 year olds who practice altruism and compassion have greater life expectancy. And you can go on. Each of these, what used to be thought of as kind of New Age, soft things like awe or compassion or breathing benefit us, you know, just simple breathing if you breathe in and out, counting to four as you breathe in, counting out to four, actually increases neural density in this part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex, which helps you handle stress.”
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“This really comes into focus for me, Steven, when I speak to medical audiences. I do a lot of work with healthcare providers, you know, teaching medical doctors, residents, helping programmatically with kind of the spirit of hospitals and the like. I talk about awe that the feeling of awe reduces activation in the inflammation system in your immune system. Your immune system is all these cells distributed throughout your body that helps you protect against dangerous elements on the outside, viruses and bacteria. And the feeling of awe sort of reduces the activation of the cytokine system, which heats up your body. And if your body is always hot, that is bad news for your heart. It's bad news for your diabetes. And awe helps moderate that. I teach the work on compassion.”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, striking, right? Really disturbing. And we had the conviction and there was this new science of things like if you have strong social ties, it adds 10 years of life expectancy to your life, right? If you practice kindness, it quiets down the threat regions of the brain. And so we at Berkeley in partnership with the journalism school kind of had the sense early, like if we can get this knowledge out, right, in actionable prose where you read it and you say, oh, I could teach breathing to my medical team or I could teach an awe walk to my neighborhood friends. That would be good for the world.”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, thanks for asking. 20 years ago, post 9-11, we were in a world much like post-Trump and Boris Johnson and others fragmented? What happened to humanity? What happened to community? Why are life expectancies in the United States dropping the last two years? What's going on?”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Wow. Well, it begins early with my parents who were, you know, very important in my education and my formation. So my dad is a visual artist and my mom taught literature and poetry and romanticism and got me interested in. All kinds of things about the human mind. And then as at UC Santa Barbara as an undergraduate and then went to Stanford for PhD subsequent to that, worked with Paul Eckman as a postdoc, who's kind of a pioneer in the study of facial expression and inspiration for the show Lie to Me, and then became a professor. Wisconsin, and then UC Berkeley for 27 years and helped run the greater good science center, which is about disseminating kind of the new knowledge of meditation and compassion and stress to a broad audience and have taught at Berkeley, which I love for 27 years.”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, we've actually done experiments, right? You know, it's a movie about a child who has cancer, and poorer people show activation of the vagus nerve, which is part of compassion. Well-to-do people, less activation, the wealthier you are, the more you navigated for. Serious economic policies that hurt the poor. And this is where it gets really worrisome.”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“There are all kinds of findings that speak to this. You have premature babies. They used to just put them in these little units that warm them and they would die. And then they figured out they needed skin-to-skin contact. They need food. And they live. They gain 47% waking. You know, the deepest craving we have is to be appreciated by other people. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. And if you want others to be happy, practice compassion, if I am kind to you, my act of kindness makes you more kind downstream. And then that person you've helped actually is kinder to another person.”
2023-02-06 · The Diary of a CEO · The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT