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Dan Goleman

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2020-12-24

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1. “Motivating ourselves, keep our eye on the goal, staying energized to get there, which is motivation, as part of how we manage our emotions. Another thing is that I've found through research that are about a dozen competencies, each of which nests within a different one of the four dimensions. And these competencies distinguish outstanding performers, particularly in the workplace and particularly among leaders. So I outline all that in the new introduction to emotional intelligence to update my thinking.”

   2020-12-24 · Intelligence Squared · Christmas Special: Dan Goleman on Emotional Intelligence with Manveen Rana · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source

2. “Sure. First of all, it's actually a misconception that I started the concept. I am not the father of emotional intelligence. I saw the term first used in a very obscure journal article written by, actually a friend of mine. He was a junior professor at Yale then, Peter Salave and his then graduate student, John Mayer. Today, Peter is the president of Yale University. I think he has a lot of emotional intelligence, helped him along. In the twenty-five years since I saw the concept, and by the way, they weren't the first to use the phrase, but nobody had heard of it really. The 25 years since writing the book, I've really changed my thinking about what the components are of emotional intelligence. In the book, I talk about five parts, but I statistically and logically actually I combine two. One was motivation, the other emotional self-management.”

   2020-12-24 · Intelligence Squared · Christmas Special: Dan Goleman on Emotional Intelligence with Manveen Rana · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source

3. “Relationships handle relationships effectively to be able to harmonize, collaborate, be a good team member, be a good leader. These are the active ingredients. So in short, that's what emotional intelligence means to me.”

   2020-12-24 · Intelligence Squared · Christmas Special: Dan Goleman on Emotional Intelligence with Manveen Rana · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source

4. “Well, first of all, thank you. It's a pleasure to be here. And emotional intelligence, in short, is being intelligent about emotions. I see it as having four particular parts, each little different from the other, but interplaying. The first is self-awareness, knowing what you feel, why you feel it, how it impacts what you say and what you do. The second is managing emotions. I don't mean squelching them. I just mean keeping the disruptive ones, the upsetting ones, from keeping you from doing what you have to do, focusing on your task and so on, and keeping your goals in mind, feeling optimistic instead of being overly burdened by setbacks. Then the third is empathy, tuning into other people, knowing what they're feeling. And people don't tell us in words. They tell us in facial expression, tone of voice. And then finally putting that all together to manage your relationship.”

   2020-12-24 · Intelligence Squared · Christmas Special: Dan Goleman on Emotional Intelligence with Manveen Rana · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source