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Dr. Paul Conti

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“There are cellular mechanisms in us. You know, people often talk about telomeres, which is one aspect that change as we grow older because we're very interested in figuring out why do we grow older, right? So there are processes in us that sort of mark time and that change across the aging process of humans. Now we don't understand everything about this. If we did, we could change it and live much, much, much longer. But we're trying to understand about it. And I think science has made a lot of very significant headway in understanding. And part of that understanding is the biological age of a person is different from the calendar age. So if you, you know, an example would be if you took two identical twins at birth and one of them is able to live in pretty good circumstances and free of trauma and has a pretty good life going. And the other person lives in a way that has extreme.”
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“Stay the same, like the person who's blaming themselves and ashamed and depressed doesn't have to stay that way. The person who's abusing a substance to try and cope or to try and kill themselves because they feel so bad. It doesn't have to be living like that. Like we really and truly can make change. The person who has an autoimmune disease or heart disease or rheumatoid arthritis that's inflamed after the trauma. Like everything is worse after the trauma. It doesn't have to be medically ill like that. Like the message I'm bringing is one based in hard science and it's one that has a real message of change, that it's not an esoteric principle. What we can and should be healthier, even if you think about more than 50% of complaints brought to physical medicine doctors come from a mental health perspective, how much of that is based in trauma. It's the majority of what is ailing us and the numbers actually do tell us that.”
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“Mechanisms. And that's what you see sometimes that it shouldn't be that one person does better than the other because they just happen to have different proclivities. But when we're not really paying attention to this and we're just kind of running forward and trampling people, then maybe the person who's a little more introverted in a situation like that, a little more inclined to be self-blaming, you know, like that's the person who doesn't do okay. And, you know, my mother didn't and died, I think, much younger than she should have of cancer. But this kind of trauma predisposes to the immune system not functioning as it should. And I can't say that this trauma caused her early death by cancer, but certainly there are a lot of scientific reasons to think that it was likely a factor in it. And again, unless we're aware of what trauma is and what it's doing to us, that we can prevent it. We can identify it and treat it, these changes to us don't have to.”
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“I think she was clearly different afterwards too and was much more isolated again in hindsight it's so clear to see but I think the guilt and shame that she felt was overwhelming and she was not able to get help you know no matter how much encouragement you know at some point I it was actually a psychiatrist and still couldn't you know couldn't get her to get help because I think she was just felt so ashamed and felt that help was inaccessible or that getting help was even more shameful. And, you know, the patterns change. I mean, there was still some happy times in her life, but the whole tenor changed and changed towards progressively more depression. And again, it didn't have to be that way either, but there weren't support resources for, you know, mothers who lose a child to suicide. And my father, who is more extroverted, than just had more natural support.”
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“Put some of it into perspective and I realized like, whoa, that was very basic. What was just done for me? And, you know, many, many, many people do not get that. And I almost didn't have it myself. And I was very struck by it and by how much of a difference it made to have a better understanding and get some help.”
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“No, no, at the time I just went inside. People didn't talk about it and were overwhelmed. And I became less healthy and felt different about the world. But there wasn't an outlet for talking about it. It just wasn't, though, how I had grown up. There wasn't a way people would say, let's check in. Like, how are you doing? And maybe you should see someone. It didn't happen. And it took until I realized, like, hey, I'm kind of trouble here. I need to get some help to then, you know, had an insurance card and to look on the back and say, oh, maybe I should go talk to someone. But that was a stretch for me. And I felt even embarrassed about doing that. Like I really didn't understand neither what had happened nor how to help myself. And then I went to someone and I just remember just how amazing it was to just have her tell me that, you know, I wasn't sick or crazy or like not going to be okay because I felt this way. She helped normalize what I was feeling and helped.”
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“Like, I'm really different and this is not okay. And it wasn't like just grief, you know, in the sense that sadness and loss, of course, were a huge part of that. But realizing also like I am different. And they'd had a very big effect on me, both the depression and the issues in him that weren't seen and addressed that led to his suicide and then the downstream effect on the rest of us. And that led me to leave. I had a business career and I went back to college and took some pre-med classes and went to medical school and then became very interested in psychiatry and brain function, both the psychology of how we think and the brain biology that underpins how we think and have been very much fascinated ever since.”
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“I had a youngest brother who died by suicide when he was 20 years old. I was in my mid twenties, which had just a terrible effect upon the family structure and upon me. And I felt the reflexive sense of guilt and shame without really being aware of it. I hadn't felt that before. I hadn't felt like I couldn't be in the world or make my way forward in the world. And I started feeling very, very different about myself. And I started behaving in ways that weren't healthy, you know, that were very unhealthy, drinking too much, unhealthy friendships and relationships and real change in me that I was fortunate to be able to get help for that really brought to the surface how much had changed after the trauma that I felt very different about myself and the world. It was cursed and maybe our family was cursed and I couldn't make my way forward and bad things were always going to happen and it was the real”
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“To death, right, then the calendar might suggest is so real and so tangible. And it's this is the effect of trauma upon us. And modern science knows this. Modern neurobiology, modern psychiatry, the research around us tells us this, but the things that we know aren't always at the forefront of our consciousness in society, which is a reason I think it's so important to spread the word about it.”
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“For the worse that doesn't have to be that way. And it's not just as if just mental health were saying something small. I mean, mental health is how we interface with the world, but it's our bodies too. Is that person going to get lupus? Is that person going to have a heart attack or a stroke? And how rapidly is that person aging? So we know that trauma by this definition that changes us because our coping mechanisms are overwhelmed makes us age faster than our calendar age. So you can say, well, that person is 40 years old by the calendar, but they're really 46, right? That person is 65, but really 73. If you look at the aging that occurs in us as a result of trauma. So if I say this in part to really speak to how concrete and real this is. So something that happens and changes you so that you are actually older than your calendar age.”
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“The numbers and estimates vary, but it would be hard to imagine you wouldn't have roughly one in five. I mean, likely you have more than that. But if you look at, you know, data across demographics and data for occurrences of traumatic events and the impacts we see downstream of these brain changes, we're talking about a very significant portion of the population. And then if you think of people who are either experiencing the post-trauma effects themselves, right, the changes to themselves or experiencing those changes through someone close to them, through someone they love, a parent, a child, a significant other, right now we're well over half the population that will experience a significant and negative life impact from something that either was with high likelihood avoidable or treatable. In other words, change.”
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“inside of us is affecting our health. So the epidemic of trauma is touching us in so many ways, but we're not identifying it. We're identifying different illnesses, for example. Like, oh, that person has depression. That person has cardiovascular disease, had a heart attack, right? But those things may be linked, including autoimmune diseases, all aspects of mental and physical health, but we're not seeing that at the heart of it is the trauma that then changes us and our brains and our bodies are different as we move forward. So to start seeing this commonality, that this is everywhere and we're not identifying it because one of the impacts of trauma is to make a reflexive sense of guilt and shame in us. So then we sort of hide things away so we're changed, made less healthier, and the very trauma itself leads us to have a tendency to keep it inside not.”
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“It says that practicing psychiatrist, what I started seeing over and over and over again is that the root cause of the vast majority of what I was treating, whether it was depression or addiction or panic, that ultimately the root of it was trauma, that if we traced back what we would learn is that there was something that had happened in that person's life, it could have been acute or it could have been chronic over time, but that changed their brain so that the brain is then different going forward. And that is the root of the problem. So from that sense, I could see there's an epidemic because this is behind what is ailing us, right? The 50% or more of complaints to general medical doctors are coming from mental health. These are general physical medical medicine doctors. So you imagine how much of what is going on.”
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“The key to all of this is curiosity. So, for example, let's say someone is addicted to their phone. Oftentimes addictive behavior is meant as an escape from something or even to self-punish. But when you scratch the surface of that, you might learn about an episode of sexual abuse that happened when the person was a child. This is not uncommon.”
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“Well, over half the population, and Krama can change us in very negative ways. For example, the odds of traumatic brain changes are very, very high. We know trauma makes us age faster than our calendar age. And we know that ultimately the root of depression, addiction, Parkinson's disease is from trauma. Modern science knows this, but we'll give them pills. With the idea the pill is going to fix everything, and then we're surprised that tens of thousands of people die each year from prescribed pills, and we've let that happen.”
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“Even if their children are not born until years later. Because trauma can change the expression of our genes. So we need to understand whether trauma is afflicting us, how it's afflicting us, and how we can treat it if it's there.”
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