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  1. “And my website, and I'm also on Facebook. I have a Facebook page, but I post there occasionally. Sign up for the mailing list, see some things. I send the email out today about some stuff that I don't always post because I'm always I like to communicate with everyone and just express my thoughts and likewise get thoughts back. So I'd love if you stop by and drop some thoughts off.”

    2017-08-09 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #21 Ed Latimore: The Warrior Poet · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT

  2. “My Twitter account is great. I'm always saying stuff on there. That's how you found me. So that's at ed lattimore, L-A-T-I-M-R-E, on E-D at the beginning at Latimore on Word. I'm hoping that somewhere on website spelled out. And my website is just www.edlatimore.com. So my name, my name, I always own your name, man. I learned that early on in the internet game. You own your name and people can find you easier. So Ed Lattimore, just like it'll be titled on the podcast on Twitter and on.”

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  3. “And just do things when you're already moving so you don't have to stop, restart, stop, restart. Your life will be a lot easier. You won't have to think about motivation to do dishes or clean your room or do your homework or whatever you got to do or go running. It's why I get out of bed. My secret to getting up early is just to start moving. You don't have to have to do anything. Just don't sit down for 15 minutes. You'll be surprised by how awake you're all minute 16, you know?”

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  4. “When I sit down to go do something else, I don't have to worry about doing work, or rather, I don't have to worry about interrupting my work to do that. I don't have to worry about going there to kitchen smelling funny. I don't have to worry about the cats freebing out. I don't have to worry about my girl going wild cooked, when them dishes gonna get done. You know, I don't have to worry about any. I have, all I've done, it's a small thing, but I've relieved so much. And maybe that is a sign of how cool life is these days that little hijack makes such a big difference. But I think the bigger lesson is that if you can take advantage of inertia.”

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  5. “Yeah, so I used to make that bet up immediately when I got out of it every morning, but I didn't. And then I switched it to the dishes. What does this do? First of all, to establish some regularity. Two, I gotta do the dishes anyway. If I'm already up and moving around, man, I'm telling you, this is the best part about studying sciences, right? Not like the knowledge, but the analogies you can make. Man, inertia is real. The minute you sit down, you do not want to get up. And if you keep moving, you don't want to stop. That's all inert is, right? And objects, you know, resistance to a change of its acceleration. If you'm already up moving around putting this in and I just, while I'm standing, then I go, all right, man, I'm going to do these dishes right now. Now I don't have to think about it. It's already taken care of.”

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  6. “But if a person, but if I chime in a buddy tells me he wants to do something, I go, cool, man. I never ask about it again because I don't want to stress them out. I know they ain't do it. Otherwise, they'd be all over it. I wouldn't hear all about it, right?”

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  7. “I'm never going to be the guy that says motivation doesn't count for a thing. And motivation is important. But it's a finite resource and it will exhaust itself. And when that falls off, you got to rely on maybe habit, system, and necessity, all kinds of things to get you through. Because that system is in place, it can be hijacked. And one of the ways we hijack it is we go and we get all this false recognition. It filled me. I've gotten a reasonable amount of recognition in my life for things that I have done. I'll tell you what, it's a lot. It feels a lot better and it's a lot less nerve-wracking when a person congratulates me for something and then they can also go look it up independently online and go, oh, okay, right.”

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  8. “Which is what you were trying to do. Worst case, you don't. And if you don't, now you've told all these people that you are going to, but there's nothing to show. So now what do you do? You hop on what they call the dopamine treadwill. You get back on and you talk about the newest goal. I mean, I don't know. I don't think I've seen you on Facebook at all, but I'm sure there's some version that's on Twitter though. Twitter tends to skew kind of different in terms of the activity that goes on amongst the users You see every someone goes, I'm trying to lose this amount of weight. I want to do this, or I'm going to start this, and people go, there's a bunch of likes and there's a big rally behind In three months, same spot. Nothing happened, nothing changed. Why? Because they got all the validation. Look.”

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  9. “Yeah, man, social media age, right? We are infected with this. This disease of self promotion, but we're not self promoting what we've done, we're self-promoting what we plan to do. And then we get a bunch of people to go, oh man, good luck. Go for it. You go, girl, whatever you see. And your brain, and this, I mean, this is true. There's a lot of research on this. Your brain goes, holy shit, look at all this approval. We must already did it. Why are we going to keep doing work now? We're going to stack off. There's just no benefit to talking about what you've done. Best case scenario, you do it.”

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  10. “Easy to have a temporary boost of happiness with a material thing, but all it is is a change in position. There's that rate of change. Once the change isn't happening anymore, you're back to being unhappy. So your whole life, if you want to be happy, you got to push towards something. Does that matter what you push towards? Doesn't matter what you want to be, what you're trying to become, but you got to be trying to become. You have to try to become something.”

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  11. “Levity, maybe I don't know, they feel that every day has a purpose because the purpose is raising this little person. And because this purpose, there are goals, maybe not explicitly stated, but certainly outcomes that one is trying to achieve, processes they're trying to enjoy. And I think that's why having kids does such a thing for a person. They say having kids makes you grow up, makes you mature, whatever. I think what it really does makes you focus on what's going to make you happy. And you got to make it happen in that process. And you quickly realize that happiness is not.”

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  12. “You're portion towards something, pain is part of it, happiness is like the other part, and they all kind of work together. And if you rest on your laurels too long, you'll become unhappy. But you always have to push toward something. Another person wants to have a happy life, they must always have a challenge to push towards. This is why I think the people I observe who are great parents are not even great parents or good parents. There's a general, I don't want to call it likeness because that's not correct.”

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  13. “Happiness is happiness is not an average rate, man. It's a rate of change of thinking in calculus again, right? If a person is sitting still no matter where they're at, whether they have a button, let's use money. If a person has a bunch of money or no money, they just sit still and do nothing. Their life, they're going to be unhappy. We tend to think of people being rich as happy. But no, there's nothing that pushes them, nothing that makes them grow and change. You can be miserable and poor. You can be miserable being rich. You're miserable in a relationship. You can be miserable single. What are you doing to push yourself? All happiness is, in my opinion, is a person pushing towards something Not the avoidance part. That struggle is this weird type of intertwined duality.”

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  14. “Have had a chance to see up close and personal. We're not talking about people that got married in like the 60s where it was a different game. Man, that was 2008, maybe. Teamwork, man. Teamwork, work together, pick each other up and one goes down. You know, there's all this argument out there today about whether that's even possible to find or not. It definitely is possible. But you got to build the life you want and you got to want that. Guys don't want it, some guys don't want to put the work in the better light, but when you do those two things, then you attract a person that will be a great teammate for you.”

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  15. “Always took that as a powerful lesson. They never insult one another. Now, they are highly critical of how one might handle the problem that occurs. But in terms of character assassinations, those do not happen. They're focused on solving the problem, not on destroying each other. You know, they don't view each other as adversaries, and that's what happens. And I think that's the commonality all the happy couples I watch, they'd never ever view each other as adversaries. Ever they're always in my house, I use the word team a lot, I'm like, word team, we're working together as long as we're together as far as I'm concerned. We're a team, and you either on my team or you're not on my team. She's bought into that, and that's good. So I think that's a really powerful framework. That's the framework I certainly observe in all the successful couples that I...”

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  16. “I have a buddy coming up this getting married. He's been with his girlfriend for like two years, and my best friend out in LA, I was the best man at his wedding, getting married when we were 23. They were together for like four years beforehand, so over 10 years. How do they argue? I haven't really seen my friend get married coming up in June, but the couple in Cali, I've seen them argue a few times. They never, I won't say never, but very rarely. No, in fact, I've never seen it. I'm thinking about it. They don't insult one another. That always stood out to me.”

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  17. “Wonder having a bad time, who yells, who raises their voice, who shuts off, who broaches the subject objectorily, who starts attacking character as opposed to the problem, who brings up old stuff, audices, it comes with who stays on target. You look at this, you can get a whole map, and the more experience you have looking at this, the more you can look at a couple and go, I know exactly how long you have left.”

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  18. “Can't tell you how many people I watch that see disagreements as an attack on the other person and as a way to bring down that's how they view victory in an argument bringing the other person down on us instead if you want to make a relationship work right and this is just how I would do it you need to look at it as here's a problem but we got to solve how are we going to solve this and us not solving it is part of the disagreement right now in fact I could even say it is the sole disagreement this problem that we have and we have two different ways two different approaches perspectives on how to solve it the key this is where that compromise now becomes important it's not important in the 80 it's that 20 that you disagree and that's where the compromise is important how are you guys going to work together get the thing done so you can learn a lot you you can't learn a thing about a couple when they're having a good time you learn everything”

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  19. “Oh my goodness, man. This is beautiful. And you can. You can tell a lot because look, everybody is great friends when everything is getting along. Every relationship is perfect when it's perfect. When it's not going well, then you get to learn about. Like we were saying about how music is not just the notes playing, but it's the notes not playing. Life is not just about the enjoyable parts. It's about the non-enjoyable parts too. Everybody gets into relationships with that same mentality that's got to be fixed. They want it to be good all the time. But that ain't going to happen. So when it goes bad, then you get to learn, okay, how do we, how is this person's conflict resolution? How do they work together? How do they see problems?”

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  20. “This ain't gonna lie. It's a weird thought, but that's the thought you should have, I guess. You should, and likewise, She has a similar thought, right? You're approaching the ideal, if you're approaching something that does not exist but you want to exist, you should be approaching a relationship as if you're introduced, like you're hiring for a company. You wouldn't build a company around somebody that you're not with yet. No, you build a company first, you find the employees, the fit or the employee, whatever your style is. That is my high-level view. Everything else I say, I think everything else I say. Can be traced to making that idea happen.”

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  21. “Means the relationship won't work. The foundation is just not as strong, and people forget the foundation starts with you. It's not with the people, it starts with you. And then when your foundation is strong, you select better. You have better standards. There's an inverse relationship between the amount of crazy I dealt with and where I was at in my life in terms of the women. And now that I'm out of a stable position, I have such a wonderful person. I sit there sometimes and I go, man, I done fucked up. I don't know when it's going like correct itself, but like it will. And I feel that. I mean, yeah. So some guys listen, I might call it like a beta idea, but like, no, I feel genuinely blessed, right? And I sit there and I go, man.”

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  22. “I see the idea. And I agree with it in theory, in application. You have just ended the entire association with the people that invested Tommy. Now, granted, you didn't ask to be here, whatever, but there's a lineage and a history that comes with that. I mean, you're the proverb and your future offspring of having it or family and for what? So you could do a thing. Far better to build around the life that you are actively making some of that is circumstance, your family, some of that is career that you're making. But I think prematurely getting into a relationship.”

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  23. “The compromise, so you should compromise on certain behaviors, right? You should improve, you should learn how, because you're never going to be 100% compatible with a person. And that's not the goal. The goal is like, okay, you're 75% compatible. How do we make that 25% work? That's where you start compromising. But when I hear stories about God's moving all the way across the country for a girl, they've only been with for six months. I'm like, probably better if you just meet one there and you'll be happy with it instead of the stress of a new one. When I hear like, oh, what are some of the worst ones I've heard? There's so many stories. Girl, this is an extreme version, right? A girl that decides she's going to forsake her entire family to marry a guy. I'm like, okay.”

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  24. “My high level view of relationships is that it's better to build a life and bring a person into it than it is to try and build a life around a person. If I could sum up everything and give you like the meta framework to work with, that is the framework you want to start with. You want to go, all right, how am I going to become a better person? And that's going to force you to become a better person. That's going to force you to grow. It's going to force you to improve. It's going to force you to become more attractive. It's going to force you to focus on any goal. And then when you meet the right person, then the right person is better able to fit in because it's not going to be compromised. I think compromise is one of the worst things you make in a relationship. You have to make it on some things.”

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  25. “That is not life. I mean, that's like, that's the equivalent of raising a teenager in college and expecting them to understand the real world, right? And see how that's turning out so far for a lot of young kids. People cannot expect the world to always be nice. That's just foolish. It's way better. What's that saying? I love some of these cliches, man. I got a few of them. It's not about waiting for the rain to stop us, learning how to dance during a storm, man. And that's the truth. It's ebb and flow. It can't always be good. And you wouldn't want it to be good. It's like music, man. Music is not enjoyable because of the notes you hit. It's the space between the notes. You need things to not be there. You need things to not be good, to appreciate when they are there, when they are good. People try to avoid that not part all the time. Only to realize that that's just not fun, right?”

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  26. “It's not necessarily bad, it's just not always a pleasant show of relaxing and having a good time. You want to get them to see that.”

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  27. “to understand that nothing in the world is free, right? And then they don't have to have an economics understanding. He just got to understand I got to do a thing for a thing to happen. If I don't do something, some bad things don't happen. And that's what good parents do. You just got to keep it up with academics and behavior and things like that. And I think that you start there. As they get older, I think the sooner you can get them into some type of skill-based thing or effort-based thing that will make them see the value of practice and work, I think that's good too. Whether it's like there's this thing kinder music going on now, and or you can get a kid to go run, even going running with you, just having fun with it. Just getting them comfortable with the idea. Life is not always enjoyable.”

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  28. “Even if it's a small thing. When I say work and earn, I mean, they have to get used to the idea of effort equals a thing. Like if a kid wants to go candy, I'm not saying don't give him candy, right? I mean, I am saying that at the core, but this argument, I'm not saying don't give him candy. Say, okay, you want candy. I'm going to need you to do X, Y, or Z. I mean, obviously, like good moral things that will help them become better, but they must learn the concept of exchange. I think the quicker you can get a child to understand the idea of exchange. And I'm speaking hypothetically, man. I'm sure there's a parent or a few hearing this going, that's impossible. Maybe it is. But based on some experiences in my past, I've got more experience raising children than people probably think or know. With that said, I think the sooner you get a kid,”

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  29. “Kids have to get used to the idea that there is no such thing as being naturally gifted. So the first thing you do, I mean, we're going to work from the assumption that children are blank sleep, whether you believe that or not is irrelevant, but for the sake of this argument, there's enough truth in it that we can use that as a basis for what I'm going to say. You have to begin speaking to children immediately in terms of effort as opposed to innate ability. There's no such thing as a good child. There is a such thing as a child that was able to wait 10 minutes and be quiet. There's no such thing as a kid that's good at math. There's a kid that was able to struggle through a problem. You don't want to get children used to the idea of instinct gratification. There's an odd that they have to wait for things. They have to work and earn everything.”

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  30. “But I do love spending time one-on-one with my friends. Like the way we're talking right now, that's how I do all my socializing. I haven't been to a group event. I'm going to a birthday party this weekend, but it's like of a person that I know really well and is a really good friend and invited me and understands how I think and view the world. So I know I'll be fine there. For the most part, yeah. I mean, I don't spend any time on group activities because it's boring, man.”

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  31. “While I'm fortunate because I have the good friends, right? So it didn't really change that at all. It has absolutely, I know myself well enough to know that if I was still drinking, I probably wouldn't have gotten to my relationship now. Not because I would have been like mean to her. I just would have been an asshole. I'd have been out at night. Maybe chasing girls or something. Who knows? But it is in terms of the people that I hang around. I'm probably not meeting people that I would have met. I'm not getting invited to things where I would feel bored. I got a theory about people, at least my kind of drinker, I got a theory. I go like. Gonna be like bored here. So I'm gonna drink. I'm gonna make it exciting for myself, have some fun.”

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  32. “And the sunglasses analogy with your emotions. Not that my emotions are muted. I feel things completely. I'm not celebrating with alcohol. I'm not drinking alcohol when I'm down. I got experience and enjoy life the right way. And likewise, I can look back at all the stupid things that I did and all the stupid ways I may have behaved. And I feel genuinely terrible about it. And no one ever warns you that that's what happens.”

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  33. “You ever watch Angel, the old show Angel that bought the vampire over the soul? And he was a vampire, so he did a lot of ill shit as a vampire. And all of a sudden he's got a soul and I feels guilty about it. So he spends a lot of time brooding and feeling bad and trying to do good to make up for all the evil we put into the world. That is something that no one warns anyone about. Like all the people I talk to who stop drinking, no one ever mentioned that. I don't think I'm unique in that regard because I've mentioned it in God's right between me all the time and talk about that same experience. I say that You, it's like taking sunglasses off and seeing the light yaws hurt because they're getting used to the light.”

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  34. “Are not addicted in this sense, right? A lot of the guys are the ones that just stop smoking cold turkey, for example. It's like, I don't want to smoke anymore. Peace, smoke for five years. And those are the true I can quit when I want to type people and I don't smoke. I've never smoked, but I'd imagine my brain chemistry is probably somewhat similar. But yeah, I just looked at everything and I said, you know, this is not going to work for me. Now, one day I might drink again once I've accomplished some things I want, but right now I have no desire whatsoever.”

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  35. “I looked at all the things and I said alcohol is a commonality there. Alcohol is a commonality there alcohol is in all of this. What is the benefit? Do I need to keep drinking? No Okay, see and that's how I know I'm not like that's how I know I'm not an addict like all the guys that I've talked to who have been able to just quit like that”

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  36. “Man, you know, I looked at everything in my life what I wanted to accomplish, where I was going to potential I had. I wasn't satisfied where I was in my life. And I did a quick 80-20 analysis and I was like, huh, in fact, I used to say, I used to say 95% of my problems, my personal problems are exacerbated are caused by the influence of alcohol, which is like an embarrassing thing to say now. Like, man, I was content with most of my life being a shit show because of drinking. What do you mean it wasn't that bad, right? But just wasn't what I wanted it to be. Once I realized what I wanted it to be.”

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  37. “Okay, so I've been really fortunate. I've been the victim of positive peer pressure. I've always had great friends and they have always, I feel like now I'm starting to catch up to the people they are, to put it in perspective.”

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  38. “Do myself and do better and pull those people up. Hopefully it inspires them to improve. But that big discord, that great discord that occurs, more people wanting your time as you become more valuable, you experience that when people will not improve, but they just want to spend time around you because they see you as like Something worth spending time around.”

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  39. “And hopefully it's positive, right? And just radiate that positive energy as you become a better person, as you become a more influential person, as you improve your life. People go, that's a great person. I want to spend more time around that person. But then the funny thing happens. They think that, but they're not at your level. And so you're like, okay, what's the trade-off? You don't have all the time in them, bro. You have a little bit of time. So you got to decide. Am I going to go spend time? Am I going to give my energy? I'm going to continue to.”

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  40. “That's like We'll just use like a hot girl, for example, start there, right? The hotter she is, the more gods want to date her. But because she's so attractive, most gods by definition will not meet her standards because everything's like a pyramid in that respect, right? At the bottom of the pyramid or most as the everyone, right? And then you move up and all those people at the bottom below you are like, oh, I want to reach up and I want to be higher up. And they're like, why would I want to go lower? And once you're at the top of the pyramid or very close to the top, there's so many people who will be like, I want to reach up. And you're like, well, why would I let you pull me down? And that's the struggle that happens all the time. The individual you become, you start to radiate a certain type of energy”

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  41. “Kind of reconcile clashing feelings and perspectives. I'm like, nah, you don't need to worry about all that. Just do what's going to work best for you. If people got a problem with it, They'll disappear. And if they don't, they will gravitate towards you and you're influencing the happy life you'll have will just become happier and better and you'll be able to better serve the people that do stick around.”

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  42. “You will see certain things that you look at as maybe soft or altruistic. No, those are great activities. For any other reason, you've been nice and kind to everyone you meet because it's the best thing for you. As I always say there's no disadvantage of being likable, right? You end up in a position to have more influence and to have more people like you if you're likable. Now I'm just using an example because people talk about, oh, what about doing things that make people like you? I'm like, yeah, but you're doing it for your interest. You're not doing it for them. And everyone wins. It's like the idea they talk about economics, right? The black hand of economics or something like that. Where if you just let the market be free, it will adjust and sort itself out, right? If you just let people pursue their interest, eventually they'll do what's best for the group. And I really believe that, and that's where that forgiveness or permission idea came from. Either one is an attempt to”

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  43. “Don't lead to a happy life, so what you have to do is you have to get very comfortable acting and doing with what you think is best for you. That's what I think is the secret to a happy life. I'm not talking about being selfish and I'm not talking about being a criminal or anything when people hear that because it's a nuanced thought they automatically jump to the negative or positive of the extremes thinking I can respect sure but you're missing a point the point is you need to get comfortable you need to be able to do what you feel is best for you. If you do that enough times”

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  44. “Oh man, both of those. Okay, so my personality, man, I don't really, I'm really bad at moderation. I'm just bad at it. I don't drink, right? It's easier for me to not drink than it is to figure out which enough and what's not enough, right? With that, taking going from that base of lacking moderation, forgiveness and permission, in my opinion, are two kinds of moderating activities. You ask for forgiveness when you've done a thing and you need to buffer or mitigate the effect of your actions. Likewise, you ask for permission when you're pretty sure you're going to incur the wrath of someone, but by definition, are you wanting to do it? At the very least, you'll be someone who's satisfied. So it's this way of existing to please the most people you can. And I don't really care for that thought either.”

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  45. “And they're the best, nor even Tom Brady still has a coach, right? He's the all-time winning Super Bowl quarterback in history and all these records, and this is great play, but he has a coach because when you have so many parts, you know, we just look at a God thrown a football and playing the game, but we forget we're looking at over 20 years of parts that have learned to work together the slightest little bit of the slightest part of that system getting out of whack and out of alignment will bring the whole system down. And a coach's job is to add messing up, fix that, that's messing up, fix that, and to keep everything tight.”

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  46. “It depends on the task, really. So, why do athletes have coaches? Why do a lot of business owners hire a coach? Why do life coaches, the good ones, right, exist? Some tasks you need constant feedback about you need constant feedback because the human being's natural tendency is entropy to always seek the easiest way the configuration of events that will result in the least output of energy A coach is there to make sure that doesn't happen furthermore coaches there to correct you when the little things are occurring little deviations are occurring that will eventually take you one way and by the time you get there you don't realize they were occurring we don't use your the example like why don't you ever coach your car well if you make a deviation you're gonna know real quick if if you're going straight or not and you can adjust that on your own to self-correcting mechanism is there the self-correcting mechanism is not there for for an athlete or for a business owner or a person trying to improve their life it's just not i mean even if they know”

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  47. “That's like my favorite part about being in the gym. It's like, I can do a thing now that I couldn't do skipping rope is a perfect example. Oh, terrible rope skipper. Now I can cross my arms and jump and do all this stuff. But I had put in time just go every single day. I used to have a horrible jab because I couldn't figure out the mechanics. But in my mind, I was like, I'm going to get a good jab. I'm going to get a jab, good jab because my coaches are supporting and now I understand enough to know it's important. So now I know how to throw a jab ball. And these are the things you just, you got to always want to be better.”

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  48. “You keep pushing hard work. If you keep doing work, you're going to get closer and closer and closer. But that's got to be your goal. You always got to be improving. Always tell people to talk about when they want to box. I'm like, if you want to do this, I'll tell you the reasons why you shouldn't. You shouldn't do it for money because there ain't no money in boxing. You shouldn't do it for to prove the haters wrong because they still want to hate. Now that's going to wait for you to mess up. And you definitely shouldn't do it for any female attention. You should do this because something deep inside you just says, man, you got to get in the ring, man. You gotta get better. And no one can take that away from you. You could never make a dom. Everybody could hate you. You could get injured. No one can take away from you the feeling of mastery. The feeling of getting a thing and being like, oh, I can do that. I couldn't do that a month ago.”

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  49. “I always say you always want a mistake away from losing the last fight, which means you catch it and you, okay, man, it's a good thing that I had just learned that from my last fight and didn't catch up to me this fight. Likewise, the fight I lost. If I had somehow got that lesson beforehand in a fight, but I didn't lose, then I'd be like, okay, I learned it and then keep moving forward. But to stay motivated, even if you didn't have all that, the one thing you gotta realize is that you're never going to be perfect. And you're not aiming for perfection. Once again, I think of things in terms of calculus. You are approaching perfection. The limit, is it approaches perfection?”

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  50. “Okay, let's pretend I didn't have a mastery mindset. What I do have and have always had, and I think this is a good sign of a good coach, man, you couldn't tell whether you won or lost when you start watching film. Because things start getting picked apart, what you did wrong, what you can get better. And if you want to get better, if you're there to improve, you take them and you start getting to work and you realize.”

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