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Evy Poumpouras

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“If your intention is right and you've prepared and you're doing your best and you're being genuine, not authentic, you're being genuine, and you genuinely care about the people you're speaking to the audience, then it's all okay.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's the difference. Command your voice also the science and research, because I know you like science and research, the more we speak, meaning if we talk a lot and we use a lot of words and we don't get to the point, we are seen as less trustworthy. And people value people will assess how competent and confident you are in the way you speak. Get to the point? Say it with less words and be impactful, command what you say. So I think what we're trying to say is I command what I say. I'm not as worried in my head am I wrong, am I right? Am I going to say the wrong thing from time to time? Sure. Who isn't? But I'm owning my voice, and I think people are so afraid to own their voice. Own your voice. And if you're wrong,”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“What did I just do? I just told you what I'm about to tell you really isn't that important. So don't even listen. Why do we do that? I'm here, I'm speaking. What I have to say, if I'm saying something of value, if I know I'm saying something of value because I'm trying to share and make the whole system and the process better, then pause. I'm going to pause. I'm going to speak. I'm going to share. But if I'm talking for myself because I'm insecure, I want people to see me. Everybody needs to know you're sitting at that table, right? Make yourself known. Make sure they can hear you. Make sure they see you at that meeting. You just made that about you. You shouldn't be at that table.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I'm gonna own my time and my voice. I'm not gonna waste your time. I'm gonna get to the point. I'm not gonna belabor the point. That's different. But I'm get to the point and I'm gonna pause and I'm gonna own my time. So when you speak, again, this is, it's how you say it, not what you say. You also want to give people time to absorb what you're saying, to feel what you're saying. When you slow down, also as a presenter, I am less likely to make mistakes. I am less likely to say the wrong thing live on camera when I do the news, I am less likely to do these things and I'm more likely to be able to think, process, and share. And you're right, how many times do people do presentations? And when I do communication for companies, I always tell them when you're doing your presentations, please don't do this. All right, guys, just one other thing. Let me put this in here. I don't want to waste anybody's more time or take up any more time. Just really quickly.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I don't want to waste your time. I'm not that important. So let me hurry through this. So I don't, because you're more important than I am. 100% right. I watch President Speak. Barack Obama, again, this is something I shared publicly and I think it's okay. He was brilliant at this. He would watch his speeches. He would speak, and he would take his time. He would do emergency, you know how they would interrupt TV shows or something, emergency, you know, message or breaking news from the White House, whatever. I never saw him rush through anything. I never saw him say to himself or think I better hurry up through this. You know, I'm disrupting Gray's anatomy. People want to get back to the show. No, I'm the present of the United States. I have something relevant to say, and I'm going to say it.”
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“me here what third time? Thank you, I'm super humbled. But this isn't about me, it is about them the audience, right? I don't matter I'm irrelevant, you're irrelevant. We're two people who are trying to share information that may be hopefully make the world a better, more wise, more just place. Maybe it helps make people lives a little bit better. That's what matters They matter, we don't. And so, when you bring that in and you put all your energy on the person you are speaking to because they want to hear it. If you put that there, then they feel it.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The right part of my voice, my deeper tone, my authentic tone, you know, it's very different. Hi, I'm Evie. How are we doing? Okay. One of the things I really make sure in front of my daughter, not to go on a really high-pitched voice because I don't want her growing up talking like this. I want her to grow up having a stronger, deeper toned voice because the research shows when you own your voice, people respect you and they see you as an authority. And so I just don't want to inadvertently give her that high pitched voice, which doesn't mean it's her natural voice. It's the voice that I've helped cultivate and groom for her to have. So let's just put that right there. So those are little things that I also have awareness of. I don't want to tell her, hey, speak this way. I'm going to show her how to speak and she's going to mimic that. So when you look at how you present yourself to others, so as far as when I come here, I come here and I look at it this way. This interview is not about me.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“When I speak, I own my voice, so there's paralinguistics there, and I learn this from doing the news, because if I don't sound like I know what I'm talking about, it does not matter what I say, it's what I sound like. So Even using the”
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“I feel that such a waste of time. To spend, to sit and analyze yourself. Now, if you're not a good speaker, I look at it as I want to work on my speech, it's parallinguistics it's called, right? I want to try for my the best tone I can so that I can speak with authority. Research shows that it's not what you say. People sometimes sit and memorize like what they're going to say the words they're gonna use when in fact the research shows How you say it impacts people more than what you say.”
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“Well, President Bush would run the trails when we'd go to Texas or Wago. You're not going to run the streets of Washington, D.C. So the White House has its own internal gym. But they did run. They were very athletic. President Barack Obama every morning Jim So the part of integrating the body into the mind is key. I saw them all do it. And I think that plays a role. It can't just be we separate the mind and body. When you physically take, I've just seen them all do it, and I learned it also as an agent. Like, you had to work out and you had to use your body because Also, when you use your body and you're moving it and you're working it out, you're taking care of it, you feel good. You feel like you're doing something powerful and positive for yourself and that in and of itself builds confidence and strength.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Do you know what they will also do? I can't speak for all of them, but a lot of them worked out. Like their workout was built into their schedule. President George Bush junior, he would bike. He used to actually be a run. He was a very fast runner because they would ask for agents to run with him. And when you run, when you would run, you have to run with your gear on. President Clinton was a runner. Then Bush started biking, so you had to be a good biker.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I need to kind of find my roots. President Barack Obama, I spent every holiday in Hawaii. He went home. George Bushr, he would split his time between Kenny Bunkport and Texas, Houston. So that was another thing they'd all go. It'll go”
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“You don't tally that, you're okay with making the wrong decision. It's like, I'm going to make my choice. I hope it's the right one. I did the best I could, but I'm comfortable with that. But if you're so worried about it's the wrong decision? Don't make one. And that's in and of itself that confident people don't do that. So the other thing I would see presidents do, they had time to themselves. Meaning, like, you would see them, they would have time where they would be alone, and they would think they weren't always exposed or surrounded by people. George W. Bush he would go to Waco to the ranch. That was his roots, that was his place to like,”
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“They're okay. I don't need to know. It doesn't have to be 100% right because, and here's the other thing, because we're so scared of making the wrong decision. And unless you're the president of the United States or you're in law enforcement and you may shoot the wrong human being, which I get. But overall, most decisions, not life or death. Make a decision and then feel okay with it being wrong. If you're so insecure that you're terrified, you're going to make the wrong decision. Why? Because you're going to look dumb, you're going to feel dumb. Confidence, you don't care how you look or how you eat. You're not sit and you're not quantifying. He's going to think I'm done. She's going to think I look stupid. They're going to think this. And even for yourself.”
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“By studying myself, by surrounding myself with people who are informing me, who are also steady, and then I make the best decisions I can with the moment the information I have in front of me now, one of the things we do and we all do this we do a disservice to us when things don't go or work out the way we thought they would, we beat up on ourselves. I should have known this, I should have this, I should have that. And anytime I start to do that or I have somebody and I always say, I'm like, my husband used to say this too. He's like, you made the best decision you could with what you knew in that moment. Don't go back. Make yourself feel like shit because you feel you should have chosen differently.”
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“And they would just make decisions. The other thing I saw and I witnessed, they worked very hard. They worked I would see presidents sit up I mean I think it's okay to say this I really don't talk about the people I protected out of out of respect You know there's a Greek saying everybody loves everybody loves the treason nobody loves the traitor And so I'm just always careful not to say but I would see presidents like I remember President Bill Clinton he'd be up till very late hours of the night studying reading preparing just reading President Barack Obama I mean I'd work midnight shifts sometimes and he was up studying sitting at his desk reading preparing they would study they would spend time studying so all those things collectively help you feel like I'm as informed as I can be”
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“I'm going to say this to be the President of the United States, it's no small thing, so for you to get to that place you You are exceptional. I say this in a neutral way. People get very personal or biased, and I don't just because I served under various presidencies didn't matter what the party was. And I learned so much from all of them. But as far as making decisions, there are a couple of things one, they had a really good circle around them in her circle. Like everybody didn't have access to the president. There were layers around the president, so everybody didn't have access to them. That was really important. But the circle around them was a circle that was there to support them. Everybody around them was steady. I never saw anybody go cry at the White House. I never saw anybody lose their mind. I never saw anybody get emotionally dysregulated. I never saw this. And that was important because that kept them steady. The other thing was they were very good at delegating. So they didn't need to know everything, but they would find people who knew more than they did to give them advisement to help make decisions.”
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“And he was telling me he had a story of, I think he was telling me he had a client and who he was just trying to get him to work out. And the client was overweight and having all these issues. And what the client did, what they did is the client just tried to create progress. So the first day, what he did was he took his sneakers and he just put them in front of his bed. And that was it. And then the next day he took his shoes and put them outside the door of his bedroom. And then the day after that, he took the shoes and put them in the kitchen. And then the next day he took the shoes and just put them on. And then the day after that he took the shoes, he walked outside and put them on outside. Then the day after that he took the shoes and just went to the corner and then came back. And then he went from being severely obese and having being very unhealthy to running marathon. And that's how he did it.”
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“Because it's a myth we've been fed a myth that to make big change in your life you have to make do big decisions you have to make make big movement and the big change you create in life it's through the small movements you just reminded me of a story my buddy Don Saladino he's like the he does training for all you ever watched a lot of those Marvel movies or the DC movies with all those characters he trains a lot of them to get them physically fit for the movies”
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“It goes back to a lot of the stuff that we're saying, that sometimes overanalyzing and trying to make sense of things does you a disservice where sometimes if you just let things be and you just move forward to try to execute, the goal is to execute and do because if you sit and try to analyze everything, how should this be done or that be done? Or if you look at the bigger picture of what it's going to be like, it can kill you. It can kill your confidence. Training, I had no idea what training was going to be like. Absolutely none. I went in there completely blind, completely clueless. I actually thought it was going to be like college. Haha. I learned my lesson the hard way. But this I think we need to be a bit more present and focused and just start executing and making progress. Progress no matter how small is progress as long as you're moving in that direction, but thinking about something ruminating over something, playing that CD over and over again, procrastinating, just start.”
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“And that's how you do it. What's right in front of me? But if you look at that whole picture of how am I going to be all of this So overwhelming and so Just so hard. It's just gonna kill your confidence whether it's like I want to do this. What's the first thing I need to do? Then the second thing. I would think, and I'm asking you when you build your businesses, right, or your company, did you just put one foot in front of the other and just try to do it, or did you stop and say, you know what? Stephen, let's have a conversation. I need to be confident before I do this. I need to build my confidence. Did you sit and do that? And once you checked off that confidence bit, then you're like, okay, now I'm ready to do this.”
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“You had to claw your way to get that job, and then prove that you should be there. They did everything they could to wean you out to kick you out. And so I think when you're determined like you stick, you just stick it out and you're just, there's days where I'm like, I don't know how I'm going to get through today or even runs. We would do runs. And one of the things they would do just some mess with you, they take you on a run for miles and miles, and you never knew when it was going to end. That's the worst. At least if you know, hey, we're going to run from here to here. It's going to be two miles, three miles, five miles, ten miles, whatever. Tell me what I'm looking at, but it wouldn't tell you. So you'd start running, and then you'd hit a point, like, and you'd think, at least I would, I think, oh my God, how am I going to do this? And you know what I would do? I would go and I'd be like, just make it to that tree, which is five feet ahead of me. I made it to the tree. Make it to that mailbox. I made it to the mailbox. Just make it to the next tree.”
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“Tell you this, I've never heard anybody from field of work I came for say I feel like I'm an imposter. You're not a whole imposter syndrome. I've never had that. Again, I didn't hear it till after I left the service. It's wild because all these things, I had no awareness of them because they were never discussed in the circle that we were in. So I also think sometimes when we sit and discuss these things to such extent that they actually start to plant seeds of doubt. I'm not saying we shouldn't study and have self-awareness, but I think when we over-evaluate to such a degree, we never did that. And you know, how do you build confidence in, I think about training. Training, there was nobody cheering you on. There was nobody like, hey, Pomperis, good job, good job, girl. Good job. They were trying to get me sent home. You had to fight. You had to claw.”
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“So, when you're used to making decisions, whether right or wrong, but when you're used to making those decisions and believing in yourself and trusting in yourself that you're making the best decision you can with the information you have at that moment, that builds confidence. Be a decision maker. I think those are the two most important things having awareness and honestly just show up and Just show up, don't worry about being confident, worry about simple things. Show up on time.”
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“If you're around insecure people, it bleeds on you. Like you're gonna absorb what other people are. And if you're the most confident person in the room, it's probably not a good thing. It's not a good thing. You want to be around people you learn from. It can't just be you're at the top and everybody's looking to you. Your bassub's gonna crack, number one. The other thing I learned about confidence research shows law people in law enforcement are perceived to be highly confident, and one of the reasons they believe it is because they're decision makers. You make decisions on the spot every day life and death decisions, and there's nobody to turn around to be like, hey, can I ask you your opinion on this? What do you think I should do with this guy wielding this knife? Should I shoot? Should I not? Should I pull out the pepper spray? I mean, what would you do in this moment? You'd be dead.”
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“Let me say this first. I've been around very Steady people, confident people, I suppose I've never seen anyone or heard anybody talk about it. I've never heard anybody in the circle of where was, whether it's former Seals, US Secret Service, I've never had anyone talk about it. And I think one of the secrets is they don't talk about it. They don't think about it. They don't give it that much life. They just, I just am. I just are. So I think that's one secret where people try to, they think about it so much. And I think it goes back to what we're saying initially. Stop overanalyzing just be you. Just do. But now if you're looking at confident people with things that I notice traits amongst confident people or steady people, they have a strong, they have a good circle around them, meaning they're very aware and meticulous of who's around them and who they associate with. Because if you're not...”
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“Right? More action based in the female brain may be a bit more. Let me talk to you. Let me try to understand. And actually, if you look at the data for a female cops versus male cops, female cops have less complaints against them made against them. And they tend to think because they're better communicators. They have less complaints. Because when you're a cop, you're going to get a complaint. There's no way. You're going to get them like, you're going to just get them. But women tend to have less female officers tend to have less complaints. And they think that they're just better at dialoguing and de-escalating.”
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“In my experience no, and I will say, and this is just a lot of men were very good at assessing, one of the reasons, look, the vast majority of polygraph examiners were male. There were some women and they were very good too. The vast were male. Males, men are good at being more rational. It's actually, they were trying to figure out if there's a difference in the brain between men, brains and women's brains. And there's not much. The one thing that they saw is that women have more discernment. So a female brain tends to activate a little bit more, and they tend to think about something more than the male brain. A male brain may be a bit more impulsive.”
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“There's times where you clear people, and that's really important. So, that's why when you would, at least when you talk to people and even to this day, we're all biased, but I try not to come in and project that. I really try to give people a fair chance to show me what's happening instead of coming in with pre-judgments. And so you're better at reading their behavior too when you're talking to people. So with him, he revealed a whole bunch what had happened to him. It was sad. It was empathetic. It did not clear him from what he did. He eventually actually with the confession I got, he was eventually tried as an adult. And, you know, that was very detrimental, obviously, to his life, right? It impacted his life. But I could have genuine empathy in that moment. Empathy is I'm just trying to understand where you are and how you feel. That's not sympathy.”
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“So with him, that specific one, I spent a lot of time speaking to him, and I did bring empathy, so empathy does not mean I agree with you I'm trying to understand you. And what turned out with him is he had been sexually abused himself when he was young. And so all that stuff came out. And it did not excuse his behavior or what he did, but it was It was genuine, I was genuinely curious, I was genuinely asking him. And at the same time, I needed to find out the truth. Look, there were sometimes I would have somebody across from me and I'm thinking they did it. And then afterward, I'm like, they didn't do it.”
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“You could be empathetic, so all different crimes have different types of Characteristics. So somebody who's a terrorist, let's say, that's more of an ideology. And they were typically raised from being very young to feel a certain way. So I understood coming into a room that I'm dealing with someone who's been groomed from a very young age to see the world a certain way, so that's why I did not bother wasting my time trying to change that person's viewpoint.”
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“We're not connected to the community around us and how we impact others. Everything is what's happening to me, what's in it for me, me, me, me. It's like, do you know that you impact other people? You touch other people, you affect other people's lives, you make other people's day better or worse, you make the work environment easier or more taxing. You do that, but everything has become Myself, and we've lost that balance of The world does to me, but I also do to the world”
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“But I don't do a lot of the talking. A good interviewer doesn't say anything. Interviewer says less. Don't make it about you, don't try to guess where people headspace is. Ask them. You seem like you're something I said before is upsetting to you. Could you tell me a little bit about that? Explain to me what it is that you're worried about right now. Describe to me what you concerned at. We used to call it TED. Tell me explain. Describe. It's just a great way to get people talking. Just get them talking. But going back to what you're saying, it's just everything is very about me, me, me. We become so identity-based that we don't really.”
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“That's a problem. The problem is they're going to be too afraid to tell you things. You want people to come to you and to give you the bad news, to tell you when things aren't going right, because you want to collect intelligence. You're collecting intelligence. Because when you have the right intelligence, then you can make the right decisions. But you must know what's going on around you. So when you pass judgment and you're telling everybody your opinion and you're bringing your authentic self, people filter information. Because they're bringing versions of themselves that they think you want to hear. We don't want that. I was very neutral. I'm a neutral slate. Even to this day, I try to be neutral in that I allow people to come to me, and people are very open and they share, and it works”
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“I'm listening'cause I'm not there for me, and I'm not there to pass judgment. The quickest way to shut people down even in business. You want to know what's going on around you all the time. If people are too afraid to say things or don't tell Stephen, oh, you don't know how he's going to react or he's going to get mad as this, then.”
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“Okay, tell me what happened, tell me more non judgment, poker face, you know why? Because what I think my authentic self is irrelevant. What mattered? Getting information, getting a confession so I can find out what happened so that investigators could figure out what to do so this little girl wouldn't be victimized again. That's what I mean by your authentic self. Don't come in and be phony. Nobody wants a phony, but authentic self has become me, me, everybody check me out. It's me, me, me. I was irrelevant. Personally, it was what I was contributing. What was my goal, my task? That's what I mean by authentic self. So when you show up to work, wherever you work, what are you bringing to bring value to the whole team? Because your authentic self could be on bringing my problems, I'm bringing my opinions, I'm bringing my judgments. Honestly, nobody cares.”
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“Between the ages of three to four of her age, he sixteen. Could you imagine if I brought my authentic self into that room? What would my authentic self say? What are you thinking? How could you? It's a three year old. No, I brought my professional self.”
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“In teams nobody cares about I don't mean in any way they don't care about you personally Who what are you bringing? Are you bringing value? Are you bringing solutions? Are you getting things done? My authentic self, could you imagine if I brought my authentic New York self to every interrogation I did? I would interview people who commit crimes against children. I'd one case through a little girl she says about the person who is babysitting her which was a sixteen year old young man young man. He touched me down there three year old little girl so they call me in to do this interview on this young man this little girl saying he touched her down there they're three they're not really able to communicate can you talk to him? So I'm sitting talking to him this interview and I'm trying to find out what happened. Well as I'm talking to him you start to reveal more and more. He did touch him down there and he did other things to the point where he confessed he had full on sex with this little girl.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Don't bring your authentic self to work. I don't want your authentic self to work. I want your professional self. I want your respectful self. I want your empathetic self. I want your competent self. You can bring authentic self to Thanksgiving meal with your family if you'd like to. Does that make sense? Use secret services like come in, everybody be your authentic self. You don't get high performers, you get sloppiness, everybody's doing their own thing. That's not a team. If you're team oriented, you leave your authentic self here and you bring your genuine self who genuinely cares about the mission, who genuinely cares to do a good job, who genuinely knows that it's not about you, it's about the collective team, that's who you bring. Your authentic self is about who? Me, me, me, me, me. I'm all about me.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Externally I can do it very well, sometimes at home with my husband who's also Homeland Security Special Agent, US Secret Service. I sometimes it's nice to put it down because it's hard to be on all the time. It's hard to self-regulate all the time. And so there's moments where he'd be like somebody's a little emotional right now. And so I'll check myself. But there are those safe people that once in a while you I think it's important if to have, but even with him, you know, you don't want to do that to people because then you make people your method.”
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“I did. I was very hot headed grown up. I was just like my father. I'm Greek. I'm New York. I mean, it was, I just had nothing going for me. I had to learn. And I learned in the NYPD. I was very young, and I was very fortunate to be around very premier people who were talking about your hiring process before, how it's slow and drawn out. That hiring process is very slow and drawn out. They pluck you. Because the idea is if we put you in here, you better fit well because just one person's going to muck up the whole thing. We don't want efficiency. And so with that, I was around very highly regulated people, highly intelligent people. And so because I was around very highly regulated people and instructors who kept me in check.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's how you regulate emotions. That's self regulation. So because he's so highly fear based, he's very poor at the moment at self-regulating his emotions.”
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“You feel it, you feel you feel it, you feel that energy, right? And does it repel people? Yeah. So he had this very emotional reaction. And what did she do? She's like, I don't want any part of it. She disappeared because his fear, which he couldn't control, and that was more self-regulation on his part, not confidence. Self-regulation. And he couldn't manage that. He couldn't like his governor, we all have a governor who manages our emotions. His governor was out to lunch. And so he completely released. So self-regulation is your ability to regulate your motion. So even though you're panicking, you're afraid, you're angry, you're sad, there has to be a governor that says, I know you're there, keep it quiet.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Fear based. Being fear based is not a great place to be. We all visit it, and it's okay to have fear. Fear is an emotion, but when it becomes your identity and it sticks around a lot, that means every decision you are made is throttled by fear. And so his dating is throttled by the fear that I won't find somebody fast enough.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So he's fear based. So his decisions are being made because he's afraid he won't find someone. So he's dealing with something that's not confidence he's dealing with. He's insecure, but his decision is I need to find somebody now because I'm afraid I won't find somebody or I'm afraid I won't get married or I'm afraid I won't have kids. So everything is fear-based with him. It's like when you make a decision, you know, I can't quit my job because I'm afraid I won't find another job. I can't leave this bad relationship because I'm afraid I won't find somebody else. Those are fear-based decisions. So everything he's doing is pushed and promoted by fear. So him dating trying to find someone, it's not because he truly does he want to find somebody, yes, but the bigger drive is I'm afraid I'm not going to find somebody so I'm trying so hard. So all his decisions are fear based. So that's why his response.”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“When somebody says it, why are you saying it? And do you genuinely mean it or are you saying it to see the other person's reaction? Are you saying it because you want to feel better? Because I know some people who maybe did want or do want to have kids and they can't or they can't find a good partner and so a way that they make peace with it too is they say that. And everybody makes peace with things their own way or some have had past relationships where the other people, you know, their potential partners were turned off by especially there's like this thing and I don't know if it exists now, but where some guys may be turned off because they think women want a guy who just wants to have kids. So I don't want to put off that vibe. So I'm going to say this to you so you don't think.”
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“Yeah. So it's always when you said that in his circumstance, but you always wonder why would, and some people truly don't want to have kids and there's nothing wrong with it, but I have found, because I've seen it too.”
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“I want to get to the conference thing in a moment. I'm actually curious because you said something and I'm wondering. Do you think These women, like your girlfriend and the girl he was dating, do you think they genuinely meant it when they said it?”
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“Okay. We're going to break this down, but I want to ask you a question if it's okay. How do you build your confidence, or what's something you do that builds your confidence?”
2025-09-25 · The Diary of a CEO · Secret Agent (Evy Poumpouras): Never Be Yourself At Work! Authenticity Is Quietly Sabotaging You! - Evy Poumpouras · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Change his value system. I'd be there all day and all night, weeks it would never work. That's what we do. We try to fundamentally change who people are. I have people I care about very much and love, and I have tried, too. There are times where you love somebody so deeply and you're like, please, especially if it's something that harms them. But I've also learned they don't want it, and the ironics is sometimes the more you try, the angry they become with you. Who are you? Right, you're imposing yourself and your beliefs on somebody else, and they're right, who am I? Just because I think life should be lived this way, it does not mean that they believe life should be lived this way. They're probably thinking, what's wrong with this? Nothing's wrong with this.”
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