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Fearne Cotton

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“I'll send you them. I'll send you the whole bunch. They can be doorstops if they're not your thing, but hopefully you'll like them.”
2022-01-24 · The Diary of a CEO · Fearne Cotton: THIS Is How To Build Confidence & Set Yourself Free · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Think it goes back to everything we've just talked about, and that is to be 100% you. Don't mask bits of yourself you don't like, don't pretend to be fancier, cooler, smarter than you actually are. Literally just be you.”
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“Yeah, and without the voice in your head going, Oh, you should be doing this, you should be doing that. I'll be so bored of that by then. That will be just so dead to me”
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“Hair dye being obvious. I would say I still do things because I feel I should sometimes. Because I think, oh, how could I possibly celebrate, do whatever, unless I do the bit that I find uncomfortable? Whereas I hoped to be at a level one day where Just doing the stuff that really makes me happy. A real privilege to be in that place. But I would like to at the age of 80 to have earned some, I guess, space to just doodle around doing things that I really like and to hopefully encourage others to do the same.”
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“Yeah I am I think I've got a lot more layers to peel back I think I've got a lot more Digging around to do to get to a place where I am truly authentic in myself, I still have that romantic notion or image of myself aged hopefully, say, 80 with loads of crazy jewelry and wild grey hair and being completely eccentric and out there. And I wonder why I'm not just doing maybe not the grave bit, although who knows, but why I'm not just doing that now. I see myself as hugely authentic down the line. And I'd like to have the courage to step into that sooner. So I think the quicker I do that, the happier I will feel. And that's just an everyday thing of waking up, do I feel I can truly sharp as myself today? Or I don't. I feel vulnerable. I feel fragile. Maybe I don't today. But I'd like to be more and more in the space where I can just be me.”
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“So we're looking at loads of ways to do that and to introduce people to the subjects that sit within a happy place. If it's your first time learning or hearing about non-religious prayer or pre-cynical about spirituality or even you're moving into the territory of looking at mental health for the first time, that hopefully there's something within our business plan on our platform that doesn't feel scary to you or alien to you and that will allow you to listen to a new conversation or learn something new hopefully at a very accessible or free level to connect people for people to feel less alone and for us to reach as many people as we possibly can doing that.”
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“I do have big ambitions for Happy Place. And we've tried to sort of sit as a team and work out what is the goal. And we keep landing on the same thing. And it is to help as many people as we can in varying ways and in fun ways and in ways that are new to them, whether it's a book, a festival, a live experience, something digital. We're constantly wanting to connect people for them to feel less alone and to help them in some way, of course, within a business structure. So there's lots of sort of business stuff that goes behind that sort of nice benevolent thought of helping as many people as we can.”
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“When you feel part of something, you feel alive. And it hasn't got to be like you being at a party with loads of people, but you're feeling part of a movement, a collective, in a non-exclusive way. It's not about then others being outside of that, feeling part of something, just feeling your connection to nature. That is a beautiful starting point in any day to feel that connection. The rest is a bonus. If you can feel that, that is a lovely, lovely thing. It's not a return like what can nature give me? What can other people give me? How can I feel part of this rather than separate from it? Our separateness has caused us so much pain. And we don't even see it”
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“It's not global, you know, parts of the world more so in the east still have much more connection obviously to nature, but also to community, to each other, to not looking for a social pecking order to be part of something.”
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“When you feel the opposite of that, you're getting the return. And also, I think we've got to stop looking at the return. We've got to start looking at just being. And it's not always about being the best, the most successful, having the most whatever it is, quantifying anything and it being the most. It's about being part of a huge network of people and animals, please can we not forget this beautiful animals out there that we're just totally disregarding all day, every day who have probably more of a right to be on this planet than we do. We are part of a huge, massive connectivity. And we can feel the beauty of that. We can feel that energy pulsing through us whenever we choose to. We deny ourselves of it all day, every day. And we're about the singular, the insular, what can I get? What can I do for me?”
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“I would say, measure how good you feel. Measure how, like, talking about how connected you feel is difficult because you can't quantify that. You can't see it. You know, it hasn't got a flavor or a color. What is that feeling of connection? So first of all, look at all the times where you felt disconnected. We can all remember a time where you felt hugely disconnected from other people, from nature. when you are buying shit you don't need Disconnected from the natural beauty that is around us when you're bored and you're sat around thinking life shit, they're all moments of disconnection.”
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“in need of help, of support, and that they find some comfort. And then I'll go to the tricky bit, which is to ask for something that I need. And I find that bit sometimes quite hard again because of everything we've talked about. I deserve this. I deserve a little help in this department or some guidance. And I think as long as you think of it as a fun, curious thing to do, what's the harm in it? You're not signing up to some sort of... New religion or cult that you're joining, it's a fun thing to try, to have and watch for the results. That's what I would say. Be curious in... Happens next and the guidance if you're looking for the signs that appears like weird coincidences and stuff that happens that you can't ignore you can't ignore them the signs are everywhere if you if you've got your eyes open”
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“It's not woo-woo. It's not exclusive to a certain demographic who can afford to do it or they're in the right time and place to do it. This is, we can all do, this is the basics. Is the basics of life that we're sort of ignoring? And it's the simple and it's the fun and it's the curious. And they're the things that we usually lose because we're in a bloody rush. So non-religious prayer, which my friend Donna Lancaster has taught me about beautifully, I was probably already doing it to an extent because I've always had some sort of communication with sometimes I'll say dear universe or whatever. Sometimes I just speak or I'm just in my head like before I go to bed now I'm more sort of disciplined about it in the fact that I put my head on the pillow and I'll say first of all a prayer of thanks for whatever's gone that day or just the general state of how I am healthy, I'm in a warm bed. God, thank you for that. Like whoever you're talking to, thank you for my warm bed. That's so lucky. Then I'll go through a list of people that I want to send a message of prayer to, you know, whether it's someone that's...”
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“Of different ways in which I can articulate what that means to me and some of it might resonate with you, some of it might not. But for me, I found each subject very exciting. It was a new communication tool to communicate with everything around me.”
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“And see what you're wanting in your life and more of it will appear. Lots of the things I talk about in the book describe and support that notion there is something bigger at play that we are part of, that we can feel supported by, which will hopefully then, you know, eradicate loneliness or people feel disconnected from the world around us and then force more into sort of habitual negative cycles or whatever it might be. There are lots of ways that I think you can tap into it and that you can explore it and have fun with it. It's exciting like doing a little ritual in the rituals chapter. I love doing rituals. That's such a gorgeous way of honoring a moment for you to place meaning into something, for you to seek the meaning, find it and honor it. There's meaning in everything. It just passes us by because we're in a bloody rush. So hopefully in the book, I go through lots.”
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“Well, I have never aligned with a religion, so it's harder to talk about it eloquently because when there's the infrastructure of religion, you can talk about a God, a way of being and a system that works, which is beautiful. I've never had that growing up. I've never aligned or felt drawn to it. But I deeply feel that I can communicate with the world around me, which in turn, when you get on the sort of macro micro level, is within you. It's all the same thing. We are made of the same stuff. So that might link to non-religious prayer and having a communication with that something bigger. It might also be the law of attraction, which you touched upon earlier, where you are manifesting the things that you're cognitively thinking about and focusing on. You're seeing more of what you're focusing on. So, you know, look for red cars when you stop listening to this. You'll see bloody loads. Like look.”
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“But I also think as much as we are. I don't want to use the word insignificant, but as tiny as we are in the grand grand scheme of things, I also, alongside that, truly believe that we are supported by all of this greatness, not necessarily by the societal structures that we see and that we are told about constantly, but something bigger, something inexplicable, something that you might not even be able to label or want to label. But I do believe that there is support there.”
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“Small, small lives small I want big, expansive, I don't know anything. I'm here to learn. Here to learn, yeah, and I won't be here in however many years.”
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“Connection. This is bespoke. It'll be different for everyone. But for looking at the bigger everything, noticing that I'm on a floating ball in space, noticing that all of this is changing always and that there are trees thousands of years old. And I'm just 40. And what do I fucking know? I have to get myself out of this small structure that we've created on a societal level and look at the hugeness of all of it. And remember, when you look at that hueness, that we know fuck all. Because we don't even, we can't even get our heads around the fact, like what is infinity? How? No, I can't even go there. We don't know anything. We know nothing. And we have to keep coming back to that. As soon as we start going, yeah, I know everything about this and that. I know more than you.”
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“Look at the greatness of what is going on around us rather than at your phone or the smallness of, oh my God, my house is a shit, how everything's messy. And look outside of that. I have to do that every day so I don't get bogged down with, am I doing this right? Where do I fit into society? How successful am I? All of this greatness and how short life is, how short life is. And that in 200 years, none of us are going to be here. That's humbling. It's not bleak. That's humbling to get up every day and think there's a whole new load of generation, like people and things that will be happening and systems in place and technology or whatever it might be that I won't be around for. So I have to get up and be grateful and do all that stuff I want to do today, not next year when I'm braver, in 20 years when I'm older and quirkier and more eccentric. I've got to do it now. So I have to find that me.”
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“Be humbled by it because it's humbling when you really notice it or at night, look at the sky. If you're lucky to live in an area where there isn't too much light pollution and see one star, that might not even be there anymore because we can't talk about physics. It's going to blow my head off. But you know what I mean?”
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“Find it in really simple places, like going for a walk. And that sounds a bit too sort of casual and flippant, but I do. I try and go for a walk every day. And I went for a walk this morning, super early. Some was still rising. It was pissing with rain. It was bloody horrible. But when I'm out, I might be listening to music. I might go without my phone and just walk. This could sound very cheesy, but I'm often brought to tears because I extract myself from the, oh my God, my kids are late for school or I haven't done this email or how am I doing with this or what's failing with that? Or just let it all go. And I'm lucky to live near a very green space so I can walk around and look at trees and see there's green parrots in the park. whatever else is going on in nature.”
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“Hopefully that's happening. And I'm saying, you know, like even within my own management, not my management company, my managers who look after me, it's headed up globally by a female, not dissimilar age to me, who I respect hugely, she's called Mary. I love her. And two other people that I work with that are in my management team, Holly and Sarah females. And they're doing brilliant work and they're leading huge teams of people. I'm just happy to celebrate them and to celebrate that and to hopefully just see more of that going forward.”
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“Well, I hope so. I think the bolder I get in saying those things like, yes, I'm ambitious, yes, I want to be, you know, this, or yes, I am successful or whatever it is without cringing too much. Great. But also, I don't want to underestimate how young women today, teenagers, young people in their 20s, females, are already challenging that without the likes of me or anyone older. They're doing it because they see it and they want to feel differently And that, you know, I'll always be in support of that. But I think they're already doing it because I think the generation that comes next always acts as a reaction to what's been. And we're still climbing ourselves out of this hole.”
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“Changes to that, and to be part of a real positive movement where we celebrate each other and see for the younger generations that eradicated. So I think when there's a big problem, we also have to look at the excitement in changing that because that's a great, big juicy challenge there.”
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“So we've been indoctrinated by the patriarchy, maybe more so than men, or certainly at an equal pegging. And I had a chat with Catelyn Moran about this. You know, it's unfortunate that the patriarchy is screwing over men as much as it is women, but it's also indoctrinating women as much as it has men. And we're fighting against it, but we're also still all judging each other and going, how come she's got to do that? Well, it's all right for her. She can do this or whatever it is, rather than celebrating each other and going, that's inspiring that you've done that alongside being a mother or not, just being a woman in business, still not easy, with or without kids. There's still judgment, there's still, you know, all sorts of things do that hierarchy that don't make sense for a female to enter that system. So there are, you know, but I don't want to be too downbeat about it because also that is in itself there is excitement there for women to make great.”
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“But it's a subconscious thing. People aren't sort of having these thoughts and going, oh, this isn't fair. I need to bring this up. This is subconscious, historic, problematic territory that we're in. And, you know, my parents' generation were probably the first generation to be juggling en masse, work and kids. So this is very new for women. Before that, like my nans. Were sort of almost, I think, told by my granddad, no, you're not working, you've got to bring up the kids, we're at work, and they did it. So, this is new. We're still figuring it out, and it's still really hard, and it's still really painful. And there's so much judgment. Know what meant to do about it, but you know, keep trying and encourage the younger generation of women growing up now. My daughter and stepdaughter to move through it with more ease.”
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“I feel deeply, I don't know what it was, upset that you've posted this for all mums out there that don't have the time to do a yoga workout or a workout, this is really difficult for me to see. And I just said to her, You say the same to Jay Wicks because he doesn't work out every day. And I don't think anyone's going, who's got Jay? Where's your kids? Who's got your kids? You've got two young kids. Where are your kids? Because they've automatically, without thought, gone, oh, his wife's got the kids. So he can go to the gym and do a workout. I work more than my husband. So yeah, I'm going to say to him, I'm going to take 20 minutes out to go for a walk or to do yoga. Or can you do the school run so I can do it?”
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“It's really bloody hard. Whereas I look at a lot of men in that situation who have kids and they don't have to worry so much about being vocal about the nurturing side of it if they're off doing a job overseas or whatever it is. There's no judgment. Whereas for a woman to go away and if they were working abroad or if it's like a female musician going on tour, the judgment around how what Is huge And commented on. I've had people, I had someone, this is an example, someone said to me on Instagram a year or so ago. And again, no judgment to this person. This is just a story. But I had posted me doing a yoga workout or, I don't know, some sort of workout. And they said.”
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“Women, that's quite a new thing. Obviously, there have been mavericks and amazing women over the years who have had huge ambition, been game changing in history. They're probably less celebrated in history, but they've been there. But I do think it's still seen as a different choice for women to say I'm very ambitious. I am ambitious, highly ambitious. I'm also a mum and I'm a nurturing mum who wants to bring her kids up well for them to feel loved and supported and safe. And it's hard to do both well. I try, but I've had to let my social life totally slide off the face of the earth to do two things really well. Or I'm not saying like my standards are better than anyone else's for me, for me to feel like I'm doing them well, that I can cope with the level of work and that I can cope with what's going on with my kids at home.”
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“Oh, yeah. I know you're hinting It's hard as a woman, and I can only speak from experience, a working mum, To talk about certain things in a certain way. Ambition being one, because for a man to say, you know, I've got great ambitions. It's been historically celebrated. I'm not saying anything out of turn. It's very obvious.”
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“Without sounding self indulgent, it's important. It's important to me. It's not important to anyone else. It feels important to me that I take that time to do it. So I would always encourage people to give it a go.”
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“I had books and books and books. Had. So when I went through my very bad depression, I burned all of them. They went. I didn't want to have a past, so they went. My dad, there was a big incinerator at work. He took a big bag in, said, don't look at any of them. I want them gone. And I did regret it for a while, although I've also made peace that it was actually a bit of a ceremony, a ritual for me to like, it well up in flames. You know, a lot of good times went up in flames, but there was stuff that I wanted in there, gone. And I know you can't erase your past. And that's not what I'm looking to do, but it felt like I could at least start again. So I have started writing again and I won't burn these ones. And it feels peaceful and”
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“Yeah. It's so therapeutic to do that. So therapeutic. I mean, I've written a diary since I was a tiny kid And I've said this before on my own. I only said it recently. I only felt, I guess, kind of brave enough to say it out loud, but I thought it would have some worth because there'll be people who have a similar thing going on. I wrote a diary since I was, I don't know, 12 nearly every night.”
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“But if you let them go and you decide to scare yourself a bit, there's all sorts of things you could be doing and trying. There's an expanse of stuff you could learn or experience in life. So I'm by no means at a place where I'm like nailing all this stuff, but I've learned even more by writing this book and I'm even more willing to give new stuff a try and to not listen to this voice that is yabbering on in my head the whole time.”
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“Try again. That's even harder to try something you failed at or supposedly failed at. But if you understand that those thoughts aren't true, you give yourself the space and freedom to try new stuff or to get into a relationship again or to have a best friend again if you got hurt, whatever it is, it's scary to do that stuff. I've certainly been trapped in walls like that before and believed that negative voice because it's been quite comfortable weirdly.”
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“People think it is true. I've lived my whole life knowing that I'm a bad whatever it is And that almost keeps you, and I've had this personally, it keeps you safe and comfortable in that because you don't try new things. You don't push yourself and you don't put yourself out there because I can't. I'm bad at that. I'm an idiot. I'm not worthy of greatness, abundance, whatever it is. So you keep yourself small and you build walls around yourself. It's much scarier to rally against that negative thought and to have to try new things”
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“Or you could just go walking and listen to that internal voice and know there's nothing wrong with it. It doesn't matter that that internal voice keeps saying something quite negative. You've just got to hear it and know it and then understand that it is not true. Like that is a given for anyone. Whatever that awful thing is that sort of cycle of thoughts in your head. I'm a piece of shit. I'm not worthy. I'm underserving. I'm a bad parent. I'm a bad partner. I'm a bad friend. They are all lies like all of it. We've all made mistakes. We've covered this. We've all made mistakes. We've all done things wrong. We will continue to do so for the rest of our lives. But that doesn't mean any of that stuff's true. We're just getting up in the morning and trying. We're all just getting up and trying. So all of that stuff in your head is other people's projections. It's not true. And that is sometimes hard to swallow.”
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“You get quiet because the more we distract ourselves, the less we know about ourselves. And we're just living via other people's projections of us. So we become what your work colleagues think of you. You become what your parents think of you, you become what your kids have said to you. You become the projection. The only way you will really understand who you are and hear that voice is by getting quiet. And that's not a one-off thing. Like, oh, I'm just going to get quiet today and see what happens. It might be through journaling, through writing. You know, I've just reread the artist's way. You do your pages every morning. You just write what comes to mind. You're getting to know yourself. God, I think this. I didn't even know I was thinking that, you know, it just spills out of you. If you don't like writing, you could speak it into your memos of your.”
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“Is. So whoever you decide to pray to, whatever it is, it doesn't have to be a god or a being. It can just be oppress and outwards. Please help me with this awful thought process that I have. I don't want it anymore. I want to notice and recognize my own worth and love. So it's quite a nice combination that I learned about in the book, meditating, followed by a non-religious, or if you are religious, a religious prayer, beautiful. But it's quite a powerful. Kind of listening and then asking Balance.”
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“Listen to that. And there's nothing wrong with that egoic voice. We've all got it, we don't think the key or the aim is to banish it from our minds and go, this voice can't exist. I must be egoless because unless you're living on a mountaintop in scarlet robes as an amazing, enlightened being, it's highly unlikely in the modern world we're going to have that experience. So we listen to it and you can have all the thoughts and the chatter going, but you don't have to believe it and you don't have to act on it. You just simply listen to it. And then you might afterwards, after your meditation, you might go for a walk or you might even, like another thing I learned in the book, do some non-religious praying where you go, right, I just noticed that my ego kept saying I'm a piece of because this happened. And the voice in my head, this ego kept saying that I am not worthy of whatever.”
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“Sit down and you try and have this peaceful moment, and then you've got the voices they start, and they might be really mean and it might be, like you said, you're a piece of schiss or it might just be, oh my God, I haven't emailed back this person or just silly lists of things we haven't done. And he likens it to you're listening to your ego. You're actually sat there without any distraction of a phone, a laptop, noise, being around people. And you're listening to it. And you have to sort of go to your ego, come here, babe. What's going on? Come it. Stop. It's fine. You don't need to waffle on about. I know this story. You've told me this before. And you listen to it because we don't in the day. We're trying to distract ourselves from that voice. Oh my God, I'm just going to eat some biscuits because I can't deal with all that crap in my head right now. I'm going to, or I'm going to work. I'm going to work until I am exhausted or I'm going to just scroll on social media. We'll do anything to not.”
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“I think I've had a lot of people say it. Heard a lot of people say you are not your thoughts. And I've gone, that's Kitsch. I like that. That's cool. I've never really applied it. And then I think, again, writing this book and talking to Jambo specifically in the book about this subject. And he had a really brilliant and sort of a more fun way of describing that voice in our head, especially when we go into meditation. And I'm not a daily meditator. I do a lot of walking meditation rather than sleep, which is actually luckily a sort of lovely Buddhist concept. Not that I'm Buddhist or aligned to any religion, but it's very much done by Buddhist monks as seated meditation and walking meditation. And I can deal with walking meditation a lot better. I can go out into nature with no phone, nothing, and just walk and look around me. And I enjoy that more than sitting. And there's, you know, that's a great introduction for me to get into it. But Jambo talks about this moment where you...”
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“If I've done a podcast of my own, or when I finish this episode with you today, I will be tired, like an old lady. I need to go home and be quiet. I'm going to take my daughter swimming later, just me and her, and we will just have some quiet time. Like I'm not the sort of person that after I finished, even if it was like the most amazing episode and it was this cool big celebrity, I'm not the sort of person that then wants to go out and drink champagne to be like, yeah, let's all be in a gang and celebrate that. I am drained drained to my core and I need to go to bed early and read a book before bed and be on my own. So although my job is to communicate and I love talking to people more than any other thing on the planet, I need something to counterbalance that. And that is solitude and tranquility and just peace and being a hermit.”
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“Yes, I think I used to believe I had to go because people had to see me out and I had to be seen in a cool place wearing the best dress or whatever. And, you know, occasionally I'll go to the odd thing if there is some meaning or support for a friend or whatever, but I haven't been to something like that in a very, very long time. And I'm an introvert in the truest sense.”
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“It's not easy, and it's much easier for me than it is a lot of people. There are some people that have such a difficult situation in life because systemically they're not looked after. People in the disability community, if you can't get into a shop because there isn't a ramp there, where do you feel you fit into society? You know, that is unfair. That is not a nice place to be where you are, whether it's physically or mentally unable to slot into parts of society because the framework isn't existing. I'm lucky because I am able to move around in society with ease. Mine's more cognitive and a silly mental game I play with myself because of, you know, in the past thinking I'm a shitty person, et cetera. So I think we have to. Notice how much of it is practical, which is”
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“I could look at the podcast chart and go, oh my God, I'm not even in the top 10. What does this mean? I'm not relevant anymore. La, la la la. And then I'm off on a cycle of hell with breaking myself about how crap I'm at my job. Or on a good day where I've woken up and I've done a few things I know make me feel good, I can then look at something like the podcast chart or Instagram and go, okay, there are people who are enjoying the work that I'm putting out there. I'm grateful. That's amazing that I have the opportunity to talk and do a podcast or write a book or whatever it is. And I'm naturally more inclined to feel grateful than I am to worry about where I fit into it all. So it's much less about where I put myself now because I think for all of us, it's inevitable that we're going to see ourselves in some sort of system or some sort of...”
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“Whether it's looking at how we quantify our popularity, this new framework of look how popular this person is, and that must mean something, or if it's just in your own friendship group, you haven't been invited to a party or whatever the hell it is. When we try and look at where we fit into it and how high up are we on the ladder or whatever or how far down am I on the ladder, it's how you receive that information. It's not reality. We're all beautiful beings of benevolent light. We are that. All of us are that. Yes, we'll make mistakes. Yes, we'll do shitty things, but we are all beautiful, amazing humans that are deserving of love and kindness, whether that's from ourselves or other people. So the rest of it is a bit of a game show. So I think I just try and extract myself mentally from it meaning too much. And just go, you know, like I say, like it's undulating on a bad day, right? I already feel like shit in myself.”
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“I don't think you can. I don't think anyone can in this day and age. So it's less about the situations I put myself in and more about how I choose to receive that information. Because it is just information.”
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“So, I'm obvious, it'll be different for everyone, but you can probably spot the patterns where you're in a little negative cycle. Versus the ones where you're being nicer to yourself.”
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