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Gad Saad

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“evolutionary adaptive version of that, which is scanning the environment for environmental threats once. is at the right level of behavioral regulation, right? Check the back door that it's locked. Wash your hands once when you shook many hands at the party. But then what happens to the person who does this stuff from OCD? There's a warning flag that goes up in your head. Then you tend to that flag. And what happens to the flag? It goes down and it's finished. The OCD person, the flag is hyperactive in an infinite loop. I wash my hands, flag goes down, as I walk away from the sink, flag goes back up. I wash my hands again. I am stuck in a repetitive ritual for eight hours in scolding hot water where the skin is coming off me. I didn't go to work because I've been washing my hands since seven in the morning. That's what happens with pornographic addiction, right? I'm sitting and surfing the internet six hours for porn. So it is at the dysregulation part of that behavior. So it's not that there's anything innately evil or”
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“If they're done at the right amount, they're not a problem. It's when they go on the bad side of the curve. Let me give you, again, a big view of this problem. OCD, obsessive-compulsive disorder, is a psychiatric condition, and it can manifest itself in different obsessions or different compulsions. So obsession could be, I'm engaging what's called ruminative thinking, right? Did I say something at yesterday's party that was stupid and now everybody thinks I'm a moron? Now I will start to try to speak to everybody at the party in a ruminative, obsessive way, to make sure that I didn't say anything. Now, compare that to germ contamination fear as a form of OCD. I will now wash my hands repetitively six hundred times to make sure that I didn't get infected by anything when I shook somebody's hand, right? Now there is an”
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“A good one. Well, the research is unclear on this. So I've seen studies that have exactly to your point have said, hey, you know what? It spices things up as long as you do it openly. Again, it's a question of modulation. Remember, I said doing it at the right time, right amount, the right context and so on, right? If once in a while, for whatever reason, whether it be alone or in the context of a couple, you decide to incorporate pornography to spice things up, good for you. If you can't get to work on time, because you're spending six hours feverishly masturbating to pornography, and then you don't have the sexual vigor to then be intimate with your partner, then we have a problem, right? So many psychiatric conditions that are rooted in behavioral dysfunction.”
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“You could shop for as many new bile, fertile, ready young women, and you never have to see the same woman twice if you serve for the next 600 years. My brain has been hijacked. So pornography is not something that we've evolved a gene for, but pornography utilizes existing systems to trap us. That's why, by the way, in two of my earlier books, I talk about the evolutionary roots of dark side consumption. Dark side consumption are maladaptive behaviors like pornographic addictions, pathological gambling, eating disorders, compulsive buying. So I explain how these maladaptive behaviors have a biological signature.”
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“The Jews have the Jews and the Gentiles. The Christians have the believers who are going to be with Jesus in heaven and the rest of you assholes who are going to burn in hell. The Muslims have the believers and the kufar, which is a derogatory term for non-Muslims. So all of those religions have at least Abrahamic religions have the same structure of us versus them. that background pornography is not something that specifically evolved in us because there was no pornography in the ancestral savannah but we've for example men have evolved a preference for visual stimuli men have evolved a greater pension for sexual variety now there is a product that piggybacks on those innate preferences that says hey guess what there is a screen where I'm going to take you where you”
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“For example, you could say religion is an adaptation. If you want to say that, this is what you'd have to argue. Groups that are religious by virtue of their religiosity exhibit greater communality, greater cohesion, greater in group outgroup demarcation, so groups that are religious tend to outlive groups that are irreligious. So that would be an adaptive argument for why religion evolved, an exactation argument for why religion evolved is that religion solves no adaptive function, but rather it piggybacks on systems that already exist in my brain. So for example, I already come with the brain that's coalitional. I view the world as blue team, red team. There's us, there's them. That's already a mechanism that's built into my brain for other reasons. And now religion comes along and piggybacks on that.”
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“with adaptation is when there is a phenomenon that piggybacks on an adaptation itself it serves no purpose you follow what I mean so for example the color of our skeletal system is not an adaptation there were already path dependent engineering solution that led to the fact that our skeletal color is the way that it is it's it's not itself an adaptation how would you use this and I'm going to come to pornography in a second”
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“Not quite I say so I say that porn it makes perfect evolutionary sense that porn is a behavioral trap that can lead to addiction so I'm not saying it's good for you I'm not saying that we've evolved to specifically consume porn but here's what porn is doing so in evolutionary theory there is a distinction between an adaptation and an exaptation and adaptation is something that has evolved because it confers either survival or reproductive benefits so my preference for fatty foods is an adaptation that's linked to survival my desire to use high status products to impress the ladies is a behavioral trait that helps me in the mating market okay and exaptation not to be confused”
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“It's never a lost cause wherever I am in my mating desirability score, there are always effective intervention strategies that could improve my score. So I'm currently at a 42. I think that if I do strategies ABC, I could probably get up to 60. And 60 is going to open me up to a lot more desirable women than when I was 42.”
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“Crack a book, so for example, even with my own children, right? You would think having the father that they have, they're born, they come out of the womb and they're reading. You know how hard it is for me to get them to get away from this damn thing, right? It's one of the biggest frustrations I have as a parent. And as I said earlier, they're very graceful. They're very poised, probably compared to other children. They're a lot more knowledgeable. But it's not a reflex for them to say, of all things that I could do right now, I want to go to a room and read. Whereas it is a reflex that I still have today with complete full dedication. So read more. Learn how to speak better. Again, mating is a compensatory process. There are things that I can't change about me. I can't change my height. I can't change the symmetry or lack thereof in my face. But if I'm thinner, all other things equal, I'm probably going to be better.”
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“In shape. Okay. So, you know what? Hit the treadmill. Looks matter. They don't matter to women as much as they do to men. But, you know, my wife often jokes with me. I don't know if you've ever seen this on the internet. I will often post, you know, in a joking manner a photo of me from 1985 in actually in Southern California in San Diego where I'm in my soccer physique days where I have the eight-pack and the V and the whole thing, right? And my wife would joke with me. She said, how come I?”
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“So that's true for both men and women across cultures. But social status is preferred by women in men in every known culture. Physical beauty and youth is preferred by men over women in every culture. So some traits, the advice would be the same. Some traits will be sex specific.”
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“No man has ever uttered the following words Linda You have a gorgeous body I'm unbelievably sexually drawn to you but you're not exhibiting the type of alacrity to improve your GPA score and your lack of assertiveness in your studies suggests that I'm not going to have sex with you tonight. No man has ever uttered those words, but a lot of women meet a super hot guy at a club. He opens his mouth and what comes out is retarded imbecility and suddenly the sex opportunity has just shut down. So why am I saying all this? There are some traits that if men were to work on, that's going to bring them more bang for the buck than if women worked on. Other ones, both. So for example, kindness. and intelligence are universal traits equally desired by both men and women.”
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“Some of the advice will be exactly the same for both sexes. But some of the advice would be sex specific in recognition that not all of the mating attributes are equally desired by the opposite sex, right? So for example.”
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“incredibly intelligent, right? So beta and alpha doesn't just mean tall and dominant and I have a club and I beat you with it. It means do you exude the types of cues that on average in the mating market people say goddamn, that's an attractive guy. Whatever that means. That's how I define it.”
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“So, yes, it's used colloquially. Beta mail would be none of the markers that exhibit the types of qualities that women would find attractive you possess. So it could be social dominance, it could be physical dominance, it could be high status, it could be assertiveness, it could be ambition, it could be, look, one of the reasons why women say I love, I'm very attracted to a funny man, a funny guy. What they're effectively saying is I want an intelligent man because it's very, very unlikely that you could be a very funny satirist if you're not intelligent. Dave Chappelle is probably smarter than a lot of my colleagues, but they have a lot of degrees. But he wouldn't be able to stand up in front of an audience, keep their attention for an hour and a half on really powerful social commentary where they pay $150 to come if he weren't.”
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“You're exactly right. By the way, that's the exact same mechanism that explains something called the overconfidence bias, which is a cognitive bias, whereby we overestimate something. So for example, if you ask most professors, so do you think that you're teaching... Ability is it below average average or above average? ninety percent of professors say above average what statistically that can be well why does that happen it's exactly for why you said the students who thought i was great took the time to come up to me and say professor love the course the ones who thought i was an asshole they didn't come up to me so what did my brain code only the great ones and therefore i must be great”
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“Because they're getting impatient, but you're just as oblivious as those assholes. So so many of social interactions are because of people's lack of self-awareness. And I am shocked. By the extent to which most people lack self awareness. So it's not that 95% of the people that I meet are unbelievably socially gracious and it's only the 5% degenerates that are bad. It's the opposite.”
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“You are able to diagnose because autism, you can't give a blood test that shows, oh, there's a marker of autism. So the way that you typically diagnose autism early is through various tasks that they go through. So there is a task for children that you suspect might be autistic where they will fail on such a test, which makes sense intuitively because you know that autistic children don't have very good social skills, are emotionally withdrawn, don't read cues well. So for example, if I'm sitting with you for 25 minutes while you lecture me about why Kamala Harris is a great president, I didn't sign up for that. You want to shake my hand? That's great. Now you can tell if you are self-aware that I'm getting impatient. You should be able to tell that my children are starting to shuffle uncomfortable.”
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“Theory of mind is a ability that you must have in order to have meaningful social interaction. What is theory of mind mean? When I'm chatting with you, I have to be able to put myself in your mind. So for example, if I'm talking to an audience that knows nothing about evolutionary psychology, I might alter the specific words I use because I have theory of mind that makes me say they don't know what domain specific computational systems would be. If I use those words, I just lost. Not because they're dumb, but because they don't know that jargon. So I already exhibited a good communicator skill, which is I put myself in the theory of mind of my audience and I modulate my message depending on who I'm speaking to. Well, autistic children, by the way, fail on theory of mind. So one of the ways that you”
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“almost all of them could be linked to what you said, which is a complete lack of self awareness, which let's break it down even more. There is a concept in psychology called theory of mind. Are you familiar with it? No.”
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“I love that you're asking this because one of the things that frustrates me the most in social interactions is when, so I'm not a beautiful woman, so I don't get that violation, but I get a million other violations for all sorts of reasons, one of which is that people do recognize me a lot and they do come up, so they don't do it because they're trying to get me behind the bushes, but then they'll stop me and lecture for the next 25 minutes about whatever idea they're having in their head. Now, I'm polite. I'm thankful that people appreciate my work and will come up, but I didn't sign up while I'm walking with my children and wife for you to lecture me for 25 minutes uninterrupted without me saying a word. If you come up and say, oh, I read the persecution, Professor, loved it. Do you mind if I take a picture with you? I'm always gracious. But so all of those social.”
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“Well, by the way, perhaps, but if you were an empathetic person, you'd say the fact that she may feel threatened is enough reason not to.”
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“Those guys are at the other end of the curve, right? Knowing when to act in the right way at the right time, in the right measure, they're not doing that because the likelihood of that beautiful girl when you come up and act like a rather harassing buffoon in that context of her saying, you know what, I'm sold. Let's have massive sex behind that tree right now, right? Therefore, we know that statistically speaking, that approach is never going to work. It's done for no other purpose than to harass. Whereas when I'm at a party where we are supposed to be mingling, and I come up to you and I say, forgive me, I hope you don't mind. I just want to say gorgeous dress. Does that seem like what I just said is similar to how they're acting? So life is about modulation. And those guys are certainly not modulation.”
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“soldier whose very cowardly, meek, lacking courage That's not good. If you have a soldier who is so bold, rash, reckless in his risk taking, that's not good either. So too little is not good, too much is not good, and the sweet spot is in the middle. So in the happiness book, I have an entire chapter whereby I argue that everything in life, the number one universal rule of optimal flourishing is to find the sweet spot irrespective of any context that you're talking about. And then I demonstrate it through a bewildering number of examples. At the neuronal level, at the individual level, at the societal level. So now let's apply that principle to here, right?”
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“Other way, like a hill. Right. So the inverted U is basically the mathematical representation of something that certainly the ancient Greeks taught us long ago, but they weren't the only ones to say this. Everything in moderation, right? So Aristotle in his golden mean argument said, look, if you have, let's say, a”
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“Got you, but I've got a ready deployed answer for that. Life is about modulation, right? Saying the right thing and the right way at the right time, right? I'm sort of paraphrasing a quote of Aristotle, which, and not the person of mine, in the happiness book, I have a whole chapter that is going to address your beautiful woman's story. So I talk about the inverted you. Does that ring a bell? Do you know what that is? The inverted you?”
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“Compensate for that. My humor won't get me higher score. My looks won't get me. My education, my accomplishment, I'm dead because there are a lot of... I can very quickly judge where I can put you in the pigeonhole. So there are ways. You know what? Why don't you crack a book and read a bit, right? Why don't you stop playing video games?”
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“Now, you might say, well, yeah, boy, does it add a lot of inches metaphorically when you have Ferraris and so on? But there's a more general story here. He owns the world, he walks, like he owns it, right? But he's not of great. So if you ask women, yeah, it'd be great if I'm six foot two and I walk big, but I could be six foot two and very meek and very tepid and very beta, or I could be five foot seven and I'm messy. Most are going to go for messy. So that's what I mean by the way when I say that mating is a compensatory choice. Compensatory means that to your earlier point about made desirability, we are judged on a basket of goods. If it were that we're only judged in a non-compensatory way, meaning, so for example, if it were that women say, I always go out with the tallest guy, then there is no way for me to.”
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“Domineering looking man that she's with therefore that makes it even less likely that you can get her, yes? Okay, David, I found her, the girl over there with the high heels in the middle of the dance floor. That's the one you sure got? Yes, that's the one. He stands there. Dominant tattooed guy goes to the bathroom. David, in great white shark mode, goes up to the girl. With her high heels, he's coming up to here. Haha I hear them smiling. He comes back to me complete cold, says she'll call me tomorrow bullshit, David. No way. Zero chance. It's not happening. Next day, come, come. This is kind of an Arabic thing. Come. Hi David, it's Candy. We met yesterday the thing. I'm looking forward to meeting you. How did you do it, Stephen? He did it because testicles this big? He's seven foot two. In his”
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“Three, but a bulldog, right? I always like to say just because then it makes it easy. I say a messy height. So that makes it easier. He's not Messi's height. He's shorter than Messi's height. He's shorter than Maradona, right? But he walks like he's seven feet tall. So we used to, in the early 90s, I would come visit him. He used to live in Newport Beach where we are now. And we'd go to clubs. I'm single at that point. And my brother would say, all right, God, we're going to play the game. I'm like, oh, his name is Dave. I'm not in the mood. Find the most beautiful and unattainable girl here. Oh, come on, man. I don't want to do this. Do it. All right. So I look around. So now I want to find not only the prettiest girl, I want to find an impediment to you getting her. What's an impediment?”
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“One of my brothers has been in Southern California since nineteen eighty four. He became very, very successful and wealthy, was an Olympian judoka. He represented Lebanon in the nineteen seventy six Olympics. The reason why that's relevant is because physically he's very dominant. But my brother is two feet tall. Obviously not, but he's shorter than me. I'm like five, six, five, seven. And he's maybe five, three.”
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“I'm fifty nine with a big personality, this kind of bullshit doesn't get to me. That's why I speak openly and publicly to the chagrin of all of academia. But the 21 you rolled, who doesn't have that same strength of personhood, do you think he's going to think twice before at the next party walking up to a girl, mustering up all his courage to ask her if she wants a coffee? Of course he is. So I think that's where that problem of dynamic comes from. And I'm now going to share a personal story with one of my brothers, which is also in the happiness book, which speaks to when you're the opposite of the non-bold timid guy.”
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“You're walking down the street and you see a guy complimenting a woman, and it appears that she's not welcoming that compliment. Is that sexual violence? And so I will first just attest the algorithm say no. And then it comes out, ooh, I understand why you might be, but that is a form. Are you with me? Yes. So now.”
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“Where are those men, Professor? Well, those men are too afraid to come out. I'll give you a couple of examples At my university we now have a mandatory sexual training module that we have to take otherwise we can't continue it's it's part of like you know you have till October 15th to get the refresher because until my benevolent kind employer taught me how to speak to women, I was clueless. So the first 57 years of my life, I walked around as a Middle Eastern savage not knowing how to interact with women. Of course I'm being sarcastic, right? But then my benevolent employer came along and through very, very cute, condescending and patronizing cartoon vignettes, they teach me how to act.”
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“Stereotypically, of course, are seducers. They pursue women. I mean, women will say I love Italian guys how they approach. Now, we're not talking about, you know, being persistent to the point that they're harassing you, that they're pinning you down physically, but there is a dynamic of courtship whereby men who are bold, men who approach, men who take chances, who are confident are going to get the pretty girl. Well, now imagine if you create a dynamic for all sorts of reasons, one of which is radical feminism, the other one of which is the pathologize half of humanity called men through the label of toxic masculinity. No, it's called sexiness. A guy who jumps into a building to save a puppy and he's called the fireman. That's what we fantasize about. That's not toxic masculinity. That's masculinity, right? And so a lot of women will write to me and say,”
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“I get tons of women who write to me and ask me sort of the paraphrasing Where are the bold men? I go to a place, I'm looking super, you know, ready to meet people. I'm easy to look at and no one approaches me. Well, if you inculcate over many generations that if I approach you and say, my God, my name is God, you look lovely. What a beautiful dress. That's a compliment becomes a form of compliment rape. Then is it surprising that I may be a bit ambivalent in approaching you? I mean, I often joke that given some of what is now considered hashtag me too, Italy should cease to exist because the whole country is hashtag me too, right? What do I mean by that? Italians.”
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“If I am a neurosurgeon and a diplomat and I'm a woman, I don't say oh, well, now that I have all that I need, let me look for the illiterate seventeen year old Kabana boy who can't read three words, because that's what I want. No, she even wants, she insists more on the guy being meeting her or higher in status. So if I'm older, tall and super educated, it's a death blow.”
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“PhD from Stanford and you're a woman Good luck Why? Because number one I've gotten older so there's a smaller pool, right? Number two I'm tall, I want a taller guy. Number three when I'm a PhD I'm a woman now when I'm a PhD I want a guy who is as educated and accomplished as me or more So now I need to find a six foot four guy who's also a PhD right here's the paradox by the way that people don't realize people think that oh the reason why women always desire high status guy this is bullshit it's not true is because historically they have been dominated by the patriarchy so they sought that which they didn't have and that's completely falsified by the fact that very high status women actually insist more on the guy being higher status so if it were so for example if”
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“Well, and it's small, it's small and tall, not I was going to finish. It's not just the height. So I said death blow would be you get older, you're tall, and you're very educated. So if you are a 38-year-old, six foot two,”
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“One, right? So women, it's a non-starter that a woman doesn't want a shorter guy than her. She might, I mean, Leonel Messi is my height, but he's Leonel Messi and he found a gorgeous woman who's shorter than him, right? But what you don't want now, if I'm a six foot one woman, now, of course, there are still six foot two and taller men, but just statistically speaking, we've just shrunk the possible pool. There is a gorgeous guy, super handsome, very funny, very educated, who's five eight, but I'm six one. I tower over him. If I wear heels and I add another four inches, he becomes my son.”
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“That's true, although from a strict evolutionary perspective, the mate all other things equal mate value of men goes up with age, made value of women goes down with age. Now here is how you reduce your chances in the mating market if you're a woman. You ready? Course, just aging, yes, number one. Number two, if you're tall. That's a death blow. Why? Because it's not that women want only tall guys because then All the other guys, we would have been twiddling our thumbs in frustrated celibacy. But women want a guy who's taller than them. That's what's guaranteed. There was actually a study done a few years ago or many years ago now where they looked at 720 actual couples. Guess how many violated that norm. Women taller than men out of 720.”
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“The hot quarterback when I was eighteen has become fat, he's lost his hair, and he's consistently unemployed, and shows no interest other than playing video games. So what's happened? When we first met when we were eighteen, our mating values were the same. But now Hot Cheerleader has become neurosurgeon. Her score has gone really up. Hot quarterback is now a degenerate. Now there's a huge difference in our mating scores that's going to put a huge stressor on our marriage. So one of the things I argue in the happiness book is, yes, make sure to meet someone who matches you in your mating value and work hard at making sure that you stay at the right mating value. Once we get that diversions, I'm predicting divorce.”
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“So I argue, I predict, although I haven't tested it, that what will predict the likelihood of a couple staying together into the future is whether their mating overall mating scores stay in line or they begin to diverge. So I'm the high school quarterback. So all the girls think I'm hot. I get to go to the prom whatever it's called with the cheerleader, the head cheerleader. She's the hot girl. I'm the king of the high school. That's great. At that point when we're both eighteen, we assort on our mating value. Let's fast forward. Ten years later, the hot cheerleader is now finishing her third year in neurosurgery. Yes? There's a lot of hot, pretty smart looking male doctors.”
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“or expect a girl in the eighties. It wouldn't be good for an eighty seven to go with a thirty six. We all want to get the hundred. Both men and women want to get the hundred. But what stops us is that I don't score 100. So I want to get the gorgeous supermodel and so on. But maybe I'm not good enough to get her and all women want to get the highly accomplished gorgeous male Olympic swimmer who's both brawny and a neurosurgeon, but they can't get him because he's got the pick of the litter. So usually we end up assorting on our mate value. But now here's the part where I propose.”
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“But here's the other part about assortative mating. This is actually something that I first proposed as an open question many years ago on one of my appearances of Joe Rogan, and I received like 100 emails saying, oh, I want to do that research with you, which I still haven't done. So maybe it'll happen now. So let me repeat it. So I argue that people assort based on their overall made desirability score, which is the question you ask, meaning if I'm an 87, I'm unlikely because the mating market is literally a market. It's a market If I'm an eighty seven, I can command a girl eight.”
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“Humans engage in what's called assortative mating. Assortative mating is the idea that birds of a feather flock together. So there are two maxims. There's the birds of a feather flock together and there's the opposites attract. Opposites attract only works well for short-term mating. I am sexually coy and shy and I'm an introvert. You're sexually daring and extroverted. That complementarity might actually result in a nice trice behind the bushes. But for long-term mating, if you want to assure success of a long-term marriage, then it's overwhelmingly birds of a feather flock together. And usually here what we mean is we share similar values, we share similar goals, similar mindsets. We really have to assort on these. If I'm an acerbic atheist and you're a committed Catholic who views everything through Jesus, it doesn't take a fancy professor to know we're not starting on the right foot.”
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“God's hide. Well, I'm not tall, that goes against me. But I'm not very hard to look at. That goes for me. I play soccer really well. I learned very quickly when I was fifteen that the best way that you won't get bullied by anybody is when you're the big soccer star. Okay, I've done pretty well in my life. So there are some traits that I score badly on and some traits that I can compensate on. And so we can put them all into a basket and say, okay, well, what on a scale is zero to one hundred, what would Gad score on his mate desirability scale? And so that's what that scale is. It's basically taking all of our attributes and then saying, what do you score? Stephen, a 78 or a 92. Now here's what's very interesting to that question, which you didn't ask.”
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“As a matter of just listen to famous rock stars and what they say as to why they became musicians. I mean literally almost to the word. It's as if they plagiarized each other. Oh, I quickly realized that that's how I can get the girls. Right? They never said it's because in my childhood I grew up listening to Bach and Mozart and it tickled my auditory reflex, right? They usually said, oh, I go to a party and I break out the thing and the lineup begins. And then Jean Simmons sleeps with five thousand girls and the lead singer of Simple Red, who's a rather forgive me, whatever your name is, he's ginger guy. He's not exactly the model of my sexual dreams if I'm a woman, but yet he was, you know, with tons of women, right? But to finish the point about mate desirability scale. So now imagine all of those attributes that I can cook. So, okay.”
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“He's creative He's got the assiduousness to have the discipline. Why is a violin virtuoso attractive? All other things. Or Picasso. Picasso is a short little guy. He's frumpy. He's bald. Yet he's got a very, very long line of very attractive women saying, can I have sex with you, Picasso tonight? How is that possible?”
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