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James Bay

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“Look, thank you. It really, you know, those are incredibly kind words. And I appreciate them. And I'm a bit blown away that you feel that towards the music. So I'll hold on to that for sure.”
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“I don't know, and that's what keeps it exciting. That's also what makes me sort of. Fight with all these voices. It's also what makes it exciting.”
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“Men in black. Yeah. Yeah. So otherwise, I'm answering the same as you. There's a sort of fantastical fantasy world within which I would do it again where I was. Where I was just doing it. Before I said that I thought well, no, I really excited about what happens next”
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“So much of it was brilliant. But there's a caveat to my answer. I would do it all again if you let me. Like, I didn't, if I wasn't going to waste the time I have going forward. Like, can I just go back in time, do it all again, and come back to this moment, and then carry on from here as I was. Do you see what I mean?”
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“Because it's like there's consequences with how I ask it. I want to say yes I want to say I do it all again because it was fucking brilliant.”
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“That I can't then, you know, explore sort of sharing or, you know. Um, Using is the wrong word celebrating again. It's been sort of enlightening. Help me feel lighter two. Share it. To celebrate like full stop. Because it's so easy to get dragged down by. Sort of darker thoughts that are always going to kind of exist. Don't like forget the light on the horizon, the silver lining. That's there as well. Leonard Cohen, I'm not going to get it right, but he said something really great about everything has cracks in it. That's how the light gets in. Know, he smashed that when he said that.”
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“Yeah. And oh shit, I'm going to go and leap. I'm going to go and do something. I've got to go and take a risk Or else I risk Nothing being my day to day. Yeah, that's sort of dangerous. I yeah, like I was just feeling quite sort of safe keeping my private life private and my but there was so much I had to say about it. I give my private life private and my trying to sort of say. You know what my public life is people who are interested and that's that I suppose I'll use this word, the most wonderful way to go about it was to share in the way that I have today with you, but also by celebrating one of the greatest things in my life. Will always sort of change and evolve and has done for the time that Lucy and I have been together. So it doesn't sort of set something in stone.”
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“I've struggled to see them when they've been there sometimes I just needed to make music that celebrated and represented them to remind myself. Because, yeah, sometimes I feel like I'm drowning 2019 But there is leaping always as an option.”
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“So I've looked at it from all angles. Yeah. If it's my concept, then I have looked at it from an angle from which I do celebrate it enormously. Is also the way I think you delivered it then, but I've also sort of looked at it from a nervous standpoint and not moved. In a fight against and in a campaign against the negativity that I've struggled with in the last few years, and actually a lot in my life, it's not just about 2019. Just was having a particularly difficult time that year. I wanted to use it as an album title to represent so much of what is in these songs, so much of the heart in these songs is about in the face of difficulty, I have this and this and I have you and that reference is Lucy quite directly most of the time. That's the you I'm talking about. It's about silver linings”
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“And there's been some voices in my head that have really stopped me sort of trusting that beautiful sort of concept that you've just sort of presented there.”
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“You'll never know, you know. know if the net will appear. I think we want the net to appear. We want to leap, do something wonderful in the end, and land safely. If you don't leap, there's no wonderful in the air. There's no landing safely You've not gone anywhere or done anything. And then you probably did.”
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“If that's surprising to people because they think I sort of spend my life getting up on stage, that's a different thing. I know that might be confusing in itself, but it's just something I do and I know how to do and I love and I compartmentalized it in a different place in a different way. But just to leap in many respects, sort of literally figuratively, spiritually, whatever, I struggle.”
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“We need another two hours for that. Because it's something I needed. It's been a bit of a mantra as a word. I sort of needed it. I've needed to hear it. I've needed to use it. I've needed to say it. I've needed to exercise it. Leap and the net will appear is a phrase, a quote from a guy called John Burrows. He said leaping the net will appear. I read that, and it sort of blew me away. Because I'm so paranoid about the net, where it is, when it's going to be there, how strong it is, will it hold? I hate to admit, I feel like I'm sort of revealing a side of myself that I'm quite sort of self-conscious about, but I'm very concerned about the net. And I'm quite can be so reluctant to leap.”
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“Released music and all of this stuff and been on TV a bit, or whatever our choice together has been to keep our private life quite private. But then there was a moment where it felt like a She didn't exist. And that was just awful. It felt like that we were living a lie. So it's overdue in a way that I'm saying, this is Lucy. She's like one whole half of me. More than that, here's what she means to me. So on the one hand, it's the first time I've been more sort of public about talking about my relationship. On the other hand, it's a total celebration. And rightly so. She was sitting here now listening to me say that, she'd be like, cool down. Simmer down, like you're getting a bit over the because she's the most humble person I've ever met, but Yeah, it was sort of time.”
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“More than ever before. I've been very honest in all of my lyrics that I've sort of ever written really, but vulnerability requires me to, being vulnerable in my sort of lyric writing requires me to kind of be more direct and open up and be more open and talk about what I'm talking about in the songs. So much of What she means to me. Went into this album A more vulnerable and more direct way than it ever had before. And we were actually at a point I felt like it was overdue in a way because our choice, our choice together, has been in the last nearly ten years, where people have known about me in some capacity, in some public capacity, and I've gone around the world and sold tickets to shows.”
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“Yeah, because we're, yes, but I suppose as I look back in a sort of pragmatic kind of fashion at that moment when she went away, it was such a big, scary, big, wide world moment for her. I went into my first year living away from pitching my hometown, first time ever that I was like on my own, doing my shopping for myself or like, you know, paying the rent for myself. And to check in with each other every other day, when the time difference allowed on Skype or whatever it was. a very expensive text message. So critical to us feeling all right. anybody's ever trying to do. Whatever age they are is just feel all right. She helps me do that, did back then and still does. And I know I do the same for her. Know she's like a sort of anchor You know, the rest of me is sort of flowing around in a stormy sea.”
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“Fitting in I can't explain it fully. It feels like a wonderful sort of coincidence sometimes that we've, you know, we've all, here we are all falling through life. and our paths have never veered too far. Away from each other's. About it that all kind of just comes down to chance, which I love, because she never Compromised, especially in the earlier years, she had an opportunity through the degree that she did to go to America for a year and she did it. And we decided to sort of hold on to each other in that time. I didn't get to go. We sort of said we'd be together and just sort of see on the other side sort of thing.”
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“Cal Tragic Difficult Difficult. She sort of helps. Tame my kind of wild emotions She absolutely sort of knows them so well and she, I mean, I think it's important to say, like, and I do the same for her. She knows how to let them kind of run wild and free. But she knows how to sort of. Sharpen my focus when I'm struggling to do it for myself She's quite vital I'm very okay with saying that. been on a journey man And we continue to get to be on one, and that's just. Important to me. A beautiful balance It's a beautiful balance.”
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“I hope so. I do try to. And you know what? A beautiful way, she'll say, Yeah, Know she'll say, like, all right, she will give me the time of day. She's steely, and I love that. She's driven. She's ambitious for me, for us, for her, for our family. I do I do talk to her about it”
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“Every She knew me before I. Know, got near the music industry. I think she knew me who went together, but she knew me intimately as a friend before. I even was certain how much I definitely wanted to leave my safe little hometown, venture into the big wide world and try and Wanted to sort of stick with me ever since. And there were many years when we had no idea where it was going or if it was going anywhere. And we're still not certain. We still live every day like it could all be gone tomorrow. And as a result, in the healthiest way I can possibly express, I feel like I need her. She's got the most. healthy and brilliant bullshit radar I've ever met. You know, mine's not so good. Mine's sort of attracted to the shiny things and the shiny possibilities and she's like. I suppose I'll say she's got my back often better than I have.”
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“But yeah, there's a song called a whole bunch of songs in this album I could happily and easily reference, but One Life has been a big moment, One Life is a song that was a big turning point in the writing. I love the gesture I've only got one life and I want you in it as a lyric, as a notion.”
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“And how I feel. And I just, I'm trying to change the landscape, my immediate sort of landscape in my life, my personal life. And that's why songwriting is such a therapy, can be such a therapy for me because those very personal issues and scenarios will come out in my songs. And then I'm actually glad to say that I've arrived now on this third album with songs that manage to say. Those affectionate things that we've now listed a number of times that I'll happily list again”
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“It's taken me going into a new depth of vulnerability to find ways to say in songs these things I love you, these things like I need you, these things like thank you because those phrases were not thrown around freely in my house. It's not to say they didn't exist in my house when I was a kid. It's not to say they didn't exist there. But I'm not used to that environment. I want it, and I've had a baby. And I want it in her life. And I didn't write these songs when she wasn't here yet when I wrote these songs. But for half of them, I knew she was on the way. So it changed my perspective again, and it probably did affect the writing. It's all sort of so honest that it's, of course, rooted in feelings that are about me.”
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“And when you talk about, you know, I'm trying to access a different kind of affection, I am and I had said to you, I am trying to access that. And I had said to you that I felt like I have grown up to be a different kind of affection than the people I grew up around, my immediate family. Yeah, I'm not afraid to say that because I don't criticize them. For how they were affectionate. It was different. It was different. And as a result, and I've talked about it, and I will talk about it now, like in the writing of this album,”
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“Yeah, you're feeling it does in this new music. 100%. I'm really glad that you feel that because I'm trying to access that for all the reasons that you're sort of circling around, actually. Yes”
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“No, you know, I. Also, the other reason I feel like a salesman sometimes, you know, but also the other reason is that these songs, they mean a lot to me. I write about things that... My There's been a degree of sort of vulnerability that I've sort of gone to in the writing of these songs for this new album leap that I don't feel I had been able to tap into before and reach.”
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“And there's a handful of my other absolute favorite artists of all time who are recognized all around the world, who haven't got near to certain award ceremonies or whatever, and it just couldn't matter. But I suppose my point is that I've found it unfortunately easy to get wrapped up in the hype of those. Those things. Hate to confess that Part of my working through it all is getting out into the open so I can hear it sort of with my own ears as well because music is not those things it's so much more than that and that's why I fell in love with it as a small child In a way that I feel is the same as I love it now. I love it just as much. I'm just as blown away by great music. As I was when I was, I don't even know how young.”
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“On that, just quickly on that, I can't tell you how many times people I work with have sort of like, and me as well, we've gone, wow, our Grammy would be great, wouldn't it? That would be awesome. And we've also said, like, five would be awesome. And we all know that ten would be incredible. Just off the top of my head, a household name legend called David Bowie. Got one, I think, posthumous Grammy Award for a music video. And the Grammy Award won for the music video is just as valid as the rest of them, but it's a little further down the list, you know, the big record of the year, Artists of the Year, all those ones are the most exciting ones, apparently and he didn't suffer, it seems, for that one music video, Grammy Award.”
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“He's funny, man. Yeah, and it does come back to that when I reference trauma and Maggie's concert and Sam, what he was saying. It's funny how that works, but we see there are some real one in a millionaires who might have two, three, four consecutive peaks. And everybody else looks at that. And even the people who go through that look at it as like, but something could be better. It's funny. I can't explain that and I suffer from it like so many people do but if nothing else, it's because I really care about and love what I do and I really want to be in it. I really want to be. Kind of on the pitch, I've slipped into a football analogy.”
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“Performance creating, creating, writing, recording, releasing, performing There in all of that is so many opportunities for connection, not just with fans, but with people I work with as well. I cherish my working relationships. I don't love Lots of people coming in and out of my sort of work circle. I like to grow with people.”
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“Yeah But the drive is there. I keep coming back to things I said before. The ambition is there. Know, I'm very hungry to be doing it”
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“Said, I've got more perspective now, and I appreciate when you tell me that you think my work is so well known. And I thought before all that, that it was all over. I just thought it was a decent bit of wisdom from obviously, yes, granted, he's a total legend. And, you know, he's going to be quite a good example in that respect. But it's so easy to slip into that mindset of like, it's all done. You've had your time. Life is I'm trying to remind myself of that.”
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“He said, I was 33, and we'd had our initial sort of spike, our high, our hits late 60s, very early 70s We had it all and it went away and I always believed. In pop and in music and in entertainment, you have your big moment, and then it's all down from there. He said, and then someone offered us the opportunity to write a soundtrack for a movie. The movie was Saturday Night Fever. Obviously, ever since then, you know, he's talking as a 50 something year old. He said it's just been up and up and up from there. And now you're telling me I'm a household name. He said, I, unfortunately, if I'm honest, he said, I still struggle with all sorts of these demons that I'm not good enough in having this and that success.”
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“What do you think of my music? What do you think of me as an artist? She's been quite open with him about, I'm about 1034, I'm ancient. People in pop music think they're ancient beyond 21. Everybody. And he said, no, you're not. No, you're not in that ancient. That'd be silly because he was in his 50s or something at the time. Said, what do you think of my music? What do you know about me? He says, You're a legend. She said, You're a household named legend. I love all your records. You're brilliant. He said, you know what? He said to her, when I was 33, I've just got divorced. I've fallen out with my brothers. I hadn't had a song on the radio for years. If we were doing any gigs, we were playing Working Men's Clubs. This was the late 70s, I think.”
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“There'll be no processing and talking about who feels what and how and how it makes them fit this, that, the other. Perspective is You know, very important zooming out in my life, I find is helpful very often. Somebody actually, not to go off on too much of a tangent here, but it really resonated with me only a couple of days ago, someone from my label was telling me about her time a long time ago now actually, but she was working with the beees and it was in the early 90s. Their household name to us today. Everybody knows a BG's music like they know other household names. And this lady was talking to me. She was saying, she said, I was about to turn 34. And I was working with Barry Gibb. And he said,”
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“The river is so many things in that metaphor. The river is the dealing with those voices. It's probably confronting some of the issues that I've carried forward from my sort of childhood. If not a lot of those issues. The river is the fighting with an imposter syndrome, an issue with imposter syndrome. The river is kind of a lot of the sort of demons that I have ultimately. But getting in the water would give me sort of perspective. and wading through. That teaches a lot probably about it being everything being about the journey rather than the destination In my household at home, it was about we're furious, we need to get to not furious, so we'll force ourselves straight there.”
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“And I need to get better at getting in the water, getting a bit wet, wading through against the currents that are trying to send me downstream and climbing out the other side and drying off and it all taking the time that it takes. Because you typically, like the river I'm talking about is never any less than like 20 feet wide. So I'm not jumping over it. You can't I can't fly. I'm going to have to just get in the water and go through.”
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“That's a good question, a hard one to answer. The symptoms are so invisible to most people, everybody really, and often me, because I feel a sort of duty, sadly sometimes in my personal private life as well, to be so on. So much of the time. Sometimes there's a, you know, like a sort of drug I use to keep myself high, it feels like that because that means that I don't have to feel the sort of despair. Know again, like when I go back to my parents, my family, my home life, they had lots of people around, very social people. And everything was very up or it was shouting and fury or it was like calm water. There was no in between. And it turned me into this person where Know if there are two sides and a river in between There are two banks, and I'm on one bank, and I want to get to the other bank. I always try and jump over the river.”
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“Bringing in a broader perspective and then asking myself, you know, are these voices right, honestly? Because in the worst moments, I'm saying, yeah, you're absolutely right to all these voices and I'm not good enough.”
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“Well, the things I've just said really therapy's taught me. Very sort of crucially it's taught me that they're not going to go away entirely. And I think that's been a really important thing to learn and talk about again and again and again because I can be quite... I can't think of the word, but I would absolutely like to work out what the ingredients, what the recipe is to get them to go away forever. I'd like to know what it is and use it and be done with it and never hear from them again. And so therapy's teaching me still that. That's not the process. The process is about talking with them and asking them, hey, you know, reasoning with myself Reasoning with them, bringing in more context.”
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“Saying could have been better saying they're just waiting for Ed Sheeran on that tool, which they were, granted. But they'd take even something like that that was okay. It's okay that, you know, it's very exciting and flattering and humbling that I've been invited to open on that tour. And that's what it is. But the voices were turning those things around on me and saying and using them as a reason to tell me I wasn't good enough.”
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“Yeah, and that was definitely had a lot to do with the negative voices and feeling like they were all getting way too loud and way too much and way too overpowering. And it could feel at times like I was sort of drowning in those. And there was such a stark contrast between the walking on stage with the big sort of smile and the grand gestures and the performance because that's a real spike in the day. It's a real high. It's wonderful and it's a real process. And I know it to the point that a lot of it. Is sort of like muscle memory. I'm in the moment, no question. I'm in the moment. I'm very present, but I know how to do all sorts of things on stage and I know I'm good at them and I've done them for 35 minutes and I'm off stage and the voice is back. I'm walking down the steps from the stage. The voices are back in there.”
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“So, yeah, perspective, trying to sort of gather a better and a broader perspective on your present circumstance or whatever, or me on my present sort of circumstance, trying to sort of get the full context certainly helps. The negative voices quieten down a little bit”
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“I'm learning. And there's a part of my mind that wants 100%. There, everywhere. I want 100% be the headliner at this thing. I want 100% be able to stop those voices so that they never come back. I'm just still sort of trying to learn that there's no 100% anything anywhere. Everything is a gentle sort of balance.”
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“My life remains kind of grey just personally in privately. And that's not helpful to when I get that idle time back in the moments that I do Because all the things that colour life feed wonderfully in my most of my experience into that idle time, whether I do create something or not. So they are an obstacle. They are a barrier, those negative voices. Trying to grow and get better at sort of managing them and dealing with them and understanding that no voices. Narratives kind of go away entirely happy or sad. They don't. 2019 was a difficult year. And I've learned since then, through various types of therapy one of those is songwriting for me, another one is typical therapy as we know it, speaking to somebody. I've learned a little bit more about. Sort of being able to quiet the negative voices or control them a little bit.”
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“The longer I sort of exist with these voices, the negative ones, the more they can have an effect, unfortunately, a negative effect, the more that they can sort of They can stop me going out into the world and doing certain things. You know, the more they can get into my head and sort of inhibit my ability to sort of. Speak to you in a free flowing way, for example Go to a party I've been invited to by an artist I might know or by somebody whose work I might admire. I'm being sort of hypothetical in that respect, but it could very much sort of be a reality. And the benefits of coming and speaking to you and the benefits of going to some party or whatever. Just that those are the things that color life. That's just a good thing. Sometimes the voices get so loud that I don't go and do these things and”
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“Some of them say it's very nice to be here You've been invited to Talk on this podcast that's had so many exciting guests. Some of those voices say, Yeah, they just had someone pull out, so they've got you last minute because, you know, there was someone exciting who clearly... You're a backup. You're just a backup. You're just somebody who they thought, all right, I guess, you know, there's a voice that's quite extensive in those kind of details and sort of takes me apart a little bit. So it's versions of that one voice and it's versions of that other voice that are speaking often in my head and that's what they're saying.”
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“Kind of yes, and I know that it's winding up my managers, for example, who I've had a very close and longstanding relationship with, people I cherish. And they're saying James, like mate. You've got to sort of rein that in. You've got to try and find a way to rein that in because. Because it's okay More okay than I'm able to realize half the time. And I don't want to jeopardize my relationship with them or all sorts of people. I'm working out, therefore, that I Potentially control some of the unhappiness. And make my life better and easier as a result. Just trying to tame the various voices.”
2022-08-04 · The Diary of a CEO · James Bay: Imposter Syndrome, Trauma & Controlling The Voice In Your Head · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“deep inside. Deep inside because it's sort of a voice I recognize from Various chapters of my life. The one hand I was too sort of timid and uninterested in drinking and partying as a teenager to sort of go out and get amongst it. On the other hand, Voice was talking to me back then saying. Waste your time doing that, James. A better songwriting, get better at singing, get better at playing guitar. Get to the point where it's, you know, you're able to confidently play well and make it look effortless. To that point, and then maybe we can have a night off.”
2022-08-04 · The Diary of a CEO · James Bay: Imposter Syndrome, Trauma & Controlling The Voice In Your Head · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's a standard issue, I suppose. It's a sort of, sorry, it's a standards issue. I'm holding myself to a standard that might be unrealistic, but then I'm so driven, or I feel so driven and ambitious to achieve those kinds of things that I can't shake that voice.”
2022-08-04 · The Diary of a CEO · James Bay: Imposter Syndrome, Trauma & Controlling The Voice In Your Head · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT