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  1. “I want my children to grow up in a fantastic world. Best way that that can happen is that if the people listening to this Discover who they are and their nature and the truth of how they operate. Not for them, but for their children and their children's children. So you want to do me a favor and make my daughters worlds a better place. Wow.”

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  2. “The connection course is coming up in September. And so that would be, it's a great place to start. It's foundational for everything else we do.”

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  3. “People doing they're like, What the hell was that? It's just a completely different thing. It's not like learning in the normal way. You literally sit down with another person and run experiments face to face with how you're being in the moment. And so you learn all this stuff through direct experimentation. And so if you find out it's right for you, you can do it through these workshops. And I'm sure there'll be a place where they can find out where to go for that.”

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  4. “Really want you to make sure we really want to make sure that you think that the courses are for you, that the courses are the way we do courses is that it's a very felt experience thing. It's not intellectual at all. It's really in your body. And the way we like doing it is that you bring real problems that you're having and you use the tools that we teach you for the and the foundational course for that is called the connection course. So if you want to get into it, go to the connection course to find out if it's right for you, if you're not already know that it's right for you. We do these little hour and a half free workshops and it'll give you a taste of what it is that we do because it's unlike anything that's going on out there that it's”

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  5. “Art of accomplishment, the podcast, it's art of accomplishment with Brett Kessler and Joe Hudson, I think. And then art of accomplishment, the website will show you where all the courses are. It'll give you a whole bunch of experiments you can run. There's all sorts of like really great information there. The other thing that we just mentioned also is just that.”

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  6. “Money, if you can really do a gratitude practice on the thing that you lack, there's a superpower in that one. It changes everything.”

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  7. “Entire life changed because I no longer defined myself by somebody who didn't have. I defined myself as somebody who did have. And so all of a sudden, I could look out the window and it wasn't, oh shit, I can't have that. I can't have that. I can't have that. Look out the window. I'd say, somebody made money on that. Somebody made money on that. Every fucking thing I looked at somebody made money on. 20 people, 20 companies made money on the fucking lamppost. The person who installed it, the energy company, the rubber company, like there's just, holy crap, it's all over the place. And then in that definition, all of a sudden it became really clear. And so it doesn't matter if the thing that you feel like you lack is time or the thing that you feel like you lack is love or the thing that you feel like you lack is.”

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  8. “Of tickled me, the idea tickled me. And then I was like, Well, what happens if I start focusing on everything I do have instead of focusing on what I don't have, which is where the gratitude practice came from? And so my wife and I would sit every day and just be grateful for all the physical stuff that we had. You know, we were living in a hovel. We were living 15-year-old year cars. We were like, we had no money. I was in debt. I was in like a big $40,000 in credit card debt or some crazy shit. And we just did it and literally was a three months later. My credit card was debt was gone six months later. I had $60,000 in the bank.”

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  9. “And I was thinking about how I didn't have enough. And then I thought, oh, this billionaire doesn't think they have enough either. I know him well enough. I'm like, oh, I have the experience of a billionaire right now. I was like, he's probably driving in a car somewhere thinking he doesn't have enough, and I'm driving in a car somewhere thinking I don't have enough, this is great. Like I'm a billionaire.”

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  10. “It can be gratitude for anything in your life. As a matter of fact, I would say do it for a couple weeks and then do it on the places where you feel lack. That's where the superpower comes in. Know, I was in my own personal life. I was. Meditating for like I spent like seven to eight hours a day meditating for like years and you can imagine I didn't have a lot of money so I was like I was so the joke I used to make is I would meditate and worry about money most of my day And truth to it's funny, but it's truth. And And one day I was like, Thinking about money and thinking I was driving in my car and I was thinking about this billionaire I knew.”

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  11. “And if you have a full body sensation of gratitude and you experience that for seven minutes a day, it'll change your life dramatically really quickly, really, really quickly.”

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  12. “I would Seven minutes, not no less than seven minutes. You can do more than seven minutes, but seven minutes of gratitude with another person every day. But it can't be, I'm grateful for this, I'm grateful for this, I'm grateful for this. It has to be feeling the gratitude and then seeing what comes out of your mouth when you're coming from the felt sense of gratitude and doing it back and forth. And so you're savoring the experience of gratitude and you're going back and forth with another human being. So call mom, dad, sister, brother, business partner, friend. And every day. Just express gratitude back and forth for seven minutes coming from the feeling, not from the thought.”

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  13. “Most people I notice, they feel like it's more likely for me to hear from a CEO, goddamn it, like everybody agrees when I get out of the table, when I get off the table, everyone's like, yeah, we're gonna do it, and then they don't do it. Why aren't they fucking doing it is more is, I'm gonna hear that more often than I'm gonna hear a CEO say, oh, wow, I really noticed that. Way the email system was working in our company. We were disempowering people by not requiring an action after every, you know, like I'm going to hear more complaints about why shit isn't working than I'm going to hear about strategies, like very gentle, simple strategies to change the culture. And so it's an amazing thing to me that it's so powerful and yet people feel so out of control with it.”

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  14. “Branson said it. He's like Culture Eats Strategy for breakfast or some such. But if that's true, then it's measurable and it can be a leading indicator. And it absolutely is. Like if you really pay attention to the culture on a team-by-team basis, it's an amazing, very effective way to drive results, but also very effective way to know when bad results are coming. Yeah. And what's interesting to me is most people feel like they can't control the culture. Like most people feel like.”

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  15. “I'll say for anybody who's running a team Harvard's got a couple of these, but we used to do these tiny pulses. There's a VC, like one of the strategies that was really effective that I saw very few VCs doing was I would want these, I would like to read the pulse of teams with these like short surveys and stuff. It was the most effective way of not very happy, didn't want to come to work on Monday. They weren't going to make their numbers. Like the likelihood of them making their numbers is like going down. So there was this interesting thing that just about how, you know, Drecker, I think, said it first and then the virgin guy.”

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  16. “You have to, and the other cool thing is most of the executives or the CEOs that I've worked with when they. To a point, and it usually takes them like we always have the goal of a month, it usually takes two months to make sure every one of their meetings is five star meetings. And once they've done that, then it's like, how do you make sure all of your teams have five-star meetings? If you usually, it's like within two months, and they usually have half the amount of meetings at the end of it. The amount of meetings in their companies are more effective. It's an incredible tool.”

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  17. “So he noticed, like, oh, the team didn't, the content, none of it was working for him. None of it was him. He was just like, ugh. And so he changed it. He was like, okay, I'm going to commit to that. I'm going to see what it's like for me to just say every one of my YouTube meetings have to be something that's super enjoyable to me. And when he did it, like his YouTube numbers went off the charts and like a very short period of time. It's just that common. Like wherever the meeting is that sucks. It means there's something else that's a problem that needs to be worked on. So that's typically how. So I can just look at usually sit in any team meeting and see at least three or four of the major problems that are happening in the company.”

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  18. “How do you make everyone of your meetings a five-star meeting? He's like, okay, great. He's like, yeah, I'm never going to do this. I was like, really? Tell me why he's my YouTube meeting's fucking suck. You know, he that's not where he makes most of his money, but like these YouTube meetings suck. They're never going to get better. And luckily there's a couple other people around at the time. And everyone's like, no, I love my YouTube meetings. What do you mean? Like, how could this not work for you?”

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  19. “So, what's required to make every one of your meetings five stars? And if you do that, that's one of the things we'll do inside of a company is work with them to figure that out. If you do that, every single problem with your company will come to the surface. Every single one of them. I had 10 five star meetings, but these two meetings sucked. That tells me exactly where we need to focus as a company. That tells me exactly where to look for the problem that's happening. And so it's like this, and it's the same thing with decisions. If you really start unpacking how the decisions are made, where people are frustrated in the decision-making process, you're going to find exactly the problems in the company. An example of this, I was working with a A friend, and he's a He's a content person, and we were just talking about.”

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  20. “And so I'll just really pay attention to a meeting. And one of the things we do is we talk about what we call five-star meetings, which is how do you make every meeting enjoyable? Literally, like, how is it that everybody, when they walk out of a meeting, they're like, oh, fuck, I loved. That was great. As it turns out, we've all been in meetings that are like hard as we've walked out and gone, oh, those are great meetings. And we've all been in meetings where like nothing happens and we're like, oh, God, another one of like just drive a nail through my head. I don't want to sit there.”

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  21. “Particularly true in Silicon Valley, but it's really true in all businesses that all we are as a company, as a group of people's relationships and ideas. That's it. Like, especially like Amazon, like what you got a couple buildings and some servers, there's not, you know, there's not a lot of hardware there and they wouldn't be useful without the people anyways. Anybody, whether you're running a farm or a shoe factory or anybody who's successful is going to tell you it's all about the people. And so the atomic structure is what are our meetings like and what How do we make decisions”

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  22. “We've run principles for teams. Teams be more effective. We have a lot of. I mean, I think I have at this point, I have 12 things that I'll go into a company and do with a company. So typically, the way I like to do it is I will go in and I will talk to some, like I'll talk to the leader typically and they'll say, this is what I want. And then I really want to assess. Like typically, if the person who is a big part of creating the problem has a hard time seeing the way through the problem or they wouldn't have been created generally. And this is not demeaning any leader. We all have these issues. So usually what I like to do is I like to go in and I like to talk to three or four people, see what their perspective, not just a leader's perspective. And then I like to sit in in a meeting or two and just see actually what the dynamic is. And one of the things I like to say about how to change a company is that the atomic structure of a company is the meetings and the decisions.”

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  23. “Just almost 100, if not 100% confident that that's going to create the life I want if I live by those principles, then you have a really good start. And make them simple. Minor things like embrace intensity or connection first or everything's in iteration. These things that I, if as soon as I live by them, things work company works.”

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  24. “We have a decisions course, which is like a large part of it is about how to do that. A difficult one to explain because there's a lot of nuance in it just as a for instance, one of the nuances is defining the principles not just by what it is, but what it isn't is a really significant, very minor thing, but it ends up being incredibly major. But if you're going to do your set of principles and you want to do them on your own, the main thing I would say is keep it to five. I wouldn't even do six. I don't do six, but keep it to five. And I would. Test each one of them for like five days. So make your principle and then. See if it works for you for like five days and then do the, you know, and keep on experimenting until you find five. And when you look at those five and you say, if I do that, if I live by those principles, I am.”

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  25. “Know a day, and I'll come back to you. But all of a sudden, my decisions get made automatically if I live by a set of principles. And very effective, I find very effective living by a set of principles.”

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  26. “And so we start all of our meetings with what are you scared to say in our business? What are you scared to say is one of not all of our means, but some of our meetings are started with what are you scared to say? Because we want to embrace that intensity because we know that if we lean into the thing that we're trying to avoid, our life is going to get better, our business is going to get better. And so if you can see what those principles are for you and then run experiments to see if they work and then refine them every once in a while. And so because of that, because that embrace intensity. If somebody comes to me and says Fucking up this business, you're doing it all wrong. Don't have to think about what I'm going to do. I'm like, oh, cool. Tell me what I'm missing. It's going to be immediate. Because I live this way.”

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  27. “You don't want to do it, but those are your principles, so you're going to go and do it. So, as an example for this, one of the principles that I live by is embrace intensity. So it's not create intensity. It's embrace intensity. It means that right now, any moment in my body, for instance, there's going to be a sensation that's more intense. How do I welcome that sensation? At any moment in running my business, there's going to be something that we don't want to talk about. How do I lean in and talk about that?”

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  28. “A lot of people, those principles are, you know, what do I have to do to get likes on Facebook? What do I have to do to, like, I'm going to do whatever I'm going to make a decision based on getting likes on Facebook? I'm going to make decisions based on whatever it is. Pretending that I want to get wealthy or trying to get wealthy, there's a series of things. But if you really take a look at what it is you're making your decisions on and then really think about what would be the five or six things that if I made decisions with these principles, I'm guaranteed success. Then experiment with them and then refine those principles and then experiment with them. And then there'll be these moments where you're”

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  29. “More you can fall in love with each emotional experience, the more you have and then the clear the decision making gets. So that's one thing for making great decisions. The other one that I find really, really useful and very hard to execute onto, you really understand it is. Creating a set of principles to live by. All have a set of principles to live by that we're doing it right so”

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  30. “Good team requires tension. So if you're going to avoid that experience, you're not going to be as easily, if at all, be able to create a quality team. So to be able to look forward to any emotional experience creates more and more solution sets for more and more optionality. So in creating a great team, for instance, You need to be good with people hating you. You need to be good with drawing boundaries and having people upset. You need to be able to have high expectations even if somebody's just, you have to be okay with somebody being disappointed with themselves. You have to be okay, being disappointed with yourself. All these emotional experiences have to be available to you if you're going to find the solutions to make. A quality team. And so”

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  31. “That's similar to what I said before, which is if you learn to fall in love with the emotional experiences, then you have more solution sets. So let's say I want to have All human beings. I want to be a part of a great team. There's nobody has ever raised their hand and said, I'd like to be a part of a shitty team. And yet, Majority of people at their work right now have shitty teams or not A teams, not great teams. Even though nobody wants that, if one of the things you're unwilling to feel is that conflict, that tension, as we talked about if you're conflict avoidant, you're not going to be able to make an A team because there's nothing that is alive doesn't require tension. A cell requires tension. Breathing requires tension. Playing pickleball requires tension.”

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  32. “I can run, then typically that's the most efficient way, enjoyable way to solve a problem as compared to I have to get to this problem by this time and we're going to do it this way and like usually that doesn't work. And I could geek out on why Lets democracies win over autocracies because they're far more experimental by nature and it's not one person saying how things are going, but it just generally just we're more efficient when we're exploring. And so we're more efficient when we're exploring ourselves and understanding ourselves and trying to improve ourselves.”

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  33. “I found a very valuable in my time is that if you really want to interview somebody And they claim that they've done something, you ask them kind of six levels down. So you improve sales. How did you do that exactly while we improved the pipeline? Okay, how'd you do that exactly? Oh, well, we made the pipeline more measurable by having things that could be very, okay, yeah. And so how did you know what were the seven stages of the pipeline and what made you pick them? You go six levels down and you can really understand if somebody was the person who solved the problem or if they're the person who is claiming that they solved the problem. So it's the same thing. It's the same thing. If we just explore a problem enough, the solution is apparent. If we understand the problem enough, the solution is apparent. And so typically, if we come to a problem with a kid's mind wonder, if we come to it like, what could I learn here? What's exciting? What are the experiments?”

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  34. “I just mean it practically, you know, it's like, can you really fully understand a problem if you don't understand the solution to it? You're right. So if there's a principle, and I can't remember the name of it, like it's Strickland principle or something, but. Something that the CFO that I used to work with said he would say, like, Problems get solved if you spend time on them. Like if you just give attention, enough attention to a problem, the problems will solve. Like that's the way it works in business, an unsolvable problem, obviously. It's not going to work that way. But the reason that that works is because the more you spend time on a problem, the more you understand it. And another one Love him or hate him. One of the things that Elon Musk has said that I find.”

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  35. “Yeah, because typically when you say, I want to improve, it means a subtext in that is once I do X, Y, and Z, then I'm lovable. Once I do X, Y, and Z, then I'm okay. Once I do X, Y, and Z, I'll be. Once I do X, Y, and Z, I'll be enlightened, whatever the fuck the thing is. But that's just not how it works. You know, what works is the person who loves themselves has loving relationships. It's not the person who's done X, Y, and Z so that they can be lovable has loving relationships. People who do X, Y, and Z so they can be lovable, have relationships where people are critical and constantly trying to tell them that they have to.”

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  36. “Or wants to occur. It's like that's our natural evolution. It's great. What makes it need to be better? I want to be better. It just slows it down instead of it's like saying that what I am is broken and therefore the whole thing. Slows down. So we try to word everything More in the experimental framework, but also we try to word everything as self awareness, self. Experimentation self discovery instead of self improvement. Because if you understand the problem, The problem goes away So just explore it, like just understand it as compared to making a list of things that you should do to get better that you will eventually fail. And then you'll just be stuck in this should loop where you beat yourself up. Where most people hang out a lot.”

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  37. “Love that I want to, the better part is kind of just gets a little bit in the way. So, right, yeah, we all want to, like a little kid. Wants to run faster. And they might want to be a better runner. But the part that they miss, the reason that they develop so fucking quickly is because they don't think they're going to be a better person if they run faster. It's the idea is like, yeah, you have this natural want. That want is the thing that moves evolution. Like a plant is like, oh, their son, I want to move in that direction as compared to like I should. Both of them are human concepts. But the want is like it's the thing that allows us to know that's our evolutionary path. Oh, I have this want to be closer to people. Oh, I have this want for great sex. Oh, I have this want for being able to have a business that supports me. These are great wants and they kind of show where the growth is occurring.”

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  38. “As opposed to this is who I am, and I'm going to be as genuine. I'm going to show you all my parts. I'm going to like be as genuine as I can with you. Then if you do get married, you're married to the right person. You're married to the person who actually sees all that and loves that and wants that.”

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  39. “Have a life of who you think you should be, not for who you actually are. And so if you move from authenticity naturally, certain things aren't going to work, certain things are going to work. Certain people are going to work, certain people aren't going to work, certain jobs are going to work, but the ones that you end up with over time are going to be the ones that are right for you, not right for who you think you should be. So if you, the most obvious of this is you meet a woman and you're like, oh, this is how I should be for them to love me. And you just do it. You just do everything that you think you should do. And then you get married. And then they love not you. They love who you think you should be. They don't love who you are. And so what kind of marriage is that?”

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  40. “Is that if you're successful, if you are one of the few people, I'd say 10, 15% who can say, I should be this way, this way, and this way, and then you do it, which is very few people can actually do that. What most people do is they say, I should do this, should do that, should do that. And then a decade later, they're still saying they should do the same things. But let's say you're one of those really successful people, then you have a life for not you.”

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  41. “And if it's like, oh, I'm evolving and I can enjoy it and I'm acting from my authenticity, then that's a very, that has a lot of alacrity. That moves quick. If it's, I need to improve. There's something wrong with me. I need to improve. I should do it. That all goes really fucking slow, right? Because there's a lot of emotional stagnation in that. There's a lot of should, shame. There's a lot of stagnation in that. And so you don't actually get that natural flow of life. And so the Taoists talk about this is kind of like a river always finds. Its way. It doesn't need like it just always goes in that direction. And so that's, we are naturally evolving. Like that is our nature. And then to put a whole bunch of shoulds and shit in the way just slows the process down. The other thing about authenticity that I think is really important to”

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  42. “Yeah, I mean, my favorite metaphor on this one is at what time in the journey of an oak tree is a perfect? Is it like when it's an acorn, when it's a sprout, when it's... 20 years old, 40 years old 150 years old, 200 years old, depending on the oak tree, like went, okay, now I'm perfect. The idea is ridiculous A similar thing for us. So the idea that I need to improve myself. It really disturbs the natural process that's at hand, which is we evolve. We as human beings evolve.”

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  43. “Perfect. Yeah. The reason I do the should thing is that as soon as you say you should and then you don't, then you can fail. And if you fail, then you're less likely to try it again. That's why the should just, it ends up usually in stagnation. You like think about the way it feels in your body when you say, I should do something, there's like a stagnation, there's a, whereas if you say something like, oh, I want to do it, here's an experiment I can do, or here's what I enjoy, there's less stagnation, there's more movement.”

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  44. “Yeah, just or I like to ask it as how do you enjoy a 10% more? Because if it's what can I change, then there's Can really make or break the question.”

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  45. “Do it. So, whereas if you really learn to enjoy what's in front of you, all of a sudden one thing that happens is that you're not as scared of enjoyment. Like you start saying, oh, wow, enjoyment makes me really effective. And so I'm one to do the things that I enjoy. And so you're more likely to do the things that you enjoy instead of having this story. I have to do X, Y, and Z so that at one point in the future I can do what I enjoy. And so it's just an order of operations things. If you learn to do the thing to enjoy the things that you're doing, you're going to naturally start doing the things you enjoy. If you only do the things you enjoy, you will not learn how to enjoy what you're doing very well.”

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  46. “In our society, typically it's how to enjoy what you're doing more. What happens typically is that if you... Find a way to enjoy the thing that you're doing more, you're more likely to do the things that you enjoy. So it's just a order of operations thing. As compared to there's people, a lot of the people in my circles because of who I coach and everything, they're billionaires. And they have spent hundreds of millions of dollars to try to arrange life that they enjoy and it doesn't fucking work. So they actually have more power to make everything that they're doing exactly what they want to do. But that doesn't work. Flying the jet. Or buying the island or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, doesn't.”

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  47. “And typically, what will happen is somebody will take a deeper breath, they'll settle into their body a little bit more. They'll relax a little bit more. They might physically get more comfortable. There's a thousand things that they might do to just enjoy the experience 10% more. And in that, they're becoming more efficient in that the quality is getting better. In that they're hearing what I'm saying differently. So it's just a really powerful tool. What I know, the problem to be is that some people will go, okay, now. Have to enjoy life. I'm going to like disregard all these negative emotions so that I'm in enjoyment. And that doesn't work. It's horrendous. It's just a recipe for shit, Stew.”

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  48. “That's one of the reasons that I think enjoyment is really great. The other thing is that if you enjoy Things they feel different. And it doesn't require that. I think one of the things that people do is they say this, they say, I want to join my life more, so I'm going to do less things like take out the trash, and I'm going to do more things like go on vacation. But that's not how enjoyment works. And like you can enjoy taking out the trash or you can hate taking out the trash. That's a choice. And right now somebody listening to this as an experiment that they can run is like, okay, you're going to stay listening to this for the next minute. How do you enjoy it? 10% more.”

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  49. “Like you have more energy, like you're stoked. Like, oh, I can't wait to do this again tomorrow. That's efficiency is that you've actually used the least amount of energy to get something done. So if you say, oh, I'm going to figure out how to enjoy what I do, 10% more than you and you succeed, you are 10% more efficient. Not only that, usually the quality is going to get a lot better too. If you enjoy running, you're probably going to run more than if you don't enjoy running. If you enjoy doing a podcast, you're probably going to make a better podcast and you're going to do it for longer if you enjoy doing it. So there's something really, really important about enjoyment because it's not only a measure of efficiency, it also has a strong correlation with higher in most things, has a strong correlation with how long you're going to do it, your staying power, the quality of what you're going to do, all of that.”

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  50. “So, I definitely would not want anyone to feel joy. Like, I wouldn't want to push somebody into or like, hey, you should feel joy. But what I would say that's like a close cousin to that is that. Enjoyment is Is like such an important tool for productivity. Enjoyment is such an important tool for living a meaningful life. So enjoyment is an amazing tool. As an example, let's say Drive a Ferrari. You're not going to say, Hey, that's an efficient car. That's a super efficient car. You're going to say, no, that's a fast car. But somehow in our own lives, if we get something done quickly, we're efficient. That's not efficient. You can go and get something done quickly, and then you're so exhausted. What's efficient is If at the end of whatever you did, you”

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