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Joe Hudson

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“Hey, you can't even control your thoughts. You can't even decide what thought you are going to have next is. It's just going to fucking happen. So you're completely out of control. And so it's all a gift. Can you look at life as all a gift? And that would go, wow, that could be really useful for one person. But the other person, they feel so disempowered that they're like, I can't even control my own thoughts, man. I am totally trapped. And they might really need at that moment to learn that, oh, I have empowerment. I have choice. And that's the advice that they need to hear. And so do the experiment, find out what's true for you in this moment. That's my, if there's a piece of advice, that's the one I want to give.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“You keep using the word advice, and I just want to, like, so for anybody who's listening, do not take my advice. Do not test it, experiment. Set up an experiment, try it out, see if it's true for you. I just made this shit up. Somebody else could make up something different. It's like, you know, Jeff Bezos made up Amazon. We make stuff up, but we're humans. But two is if you instead of just listen to it as a sound bite, if you actually do it and make an experiment out of it, you get to learn like it's in your bones. You get to see what's actually real for you. And what's real for you in this moment might not be real for you. What's in the next moment? So for instance, like I could give the advice that says,”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“That person has, that CEO has one person who they don't yell at, who they listen to, who they They'll take the objection from that they don't get angry with. Because there's somebody who doesn't approach them in fear. It's because somebody approaches them a different way, not with judgment, but like, hey, look, this is what we have to pay attention to. And so it's really about how you're coming at it and not what you're saying typically.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Like you're being an asshole, you're being a dick fucking stop it. He was like, eh, you're a dick, so what? What's the problem? He was coming from a place of love for me. And so I could not be defended in my response to him. And so it's really where you come from. It's the emotionally where you come from. That's the important part, not as much what you say. And you can see this a perfect example of this is this happens all the time in my work. So let's say there's a person who has a CEO and the person is scared of their CEO. Let's say this is the CMO and they're scared of the CEO. I can't say my truth. They're always getting upset. They're going to yell, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'll say, yeah, there's one person who says it, though, right? The answer is always yes.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Right. Well, yeah. Hey, sweetheart. I really hear you want me to take out the trash. And that's not my truth. That's going to be very different then. Defending that shame, the defending the shame is going to be like, you know, no, it's not my job to take out the trap, right? The thing you're trying not to feel the experience, which is what's going to do it. So it doesn't really, the response isn't the important thing. It's really where the response comes from. It's so interesting because people are constantly, this is something we teach in our connection courses It's really not about the conversation, it's about where you're at in the conversation. So, for instance, when my friend said to me, hey, you're a dick, here's what he didn't do. He's like, you didn't go, you're a dick.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, it's too what's required for you to love and accept yourself would be. And love and accept the emotion that you're having in the moment instead of resist it. You know, there's that saying, what we resist persists. It's how do you fall in love with and stop resisting the reality on the ground? And in doing so, it changes the reality on the ground.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“But I have to defend myself to get in the fight, and then I'm going to feel shame. So you can reverse engineer all your problems this way. It's like it's such a cool hack, but it's very hard for somehow or another. It's very simple, but very hard for people to utilize.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And okay, so what am I doing at that first time to not feel ashamed? Oh, I'm defending myself. Oh, and me defending myself is actually the thing that's starting the fight. So you can backward engineer it to, oh, I don't want to feel ashamed. Therefore, I'm going to defend myself, which creates the fight, which makes me feel more ashamed. So, any problem that you're having, you can actually backwards engineer it and see, oh, I can solve that problem by just. Being okay with that feeling. God damn it, you didn't take out the trash. Oh, that's a shame I don't want to feel. I'm not going to defend myself. I'm going to feel that shame. Oh, yeah. And then maybe I'm going to say I'm sorry. I didn't take out the trash or I'm going to say, I don't feel ashamed. I don't want to take out the trash.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“It is counterproductive, but I think the really cool thing about it is you can look at any issue that you're having in your life. So you can say, oh, like one of the problems that I have in my life is that I am constantly in an argument with my girlfriend or boyfriend, let's say. Okay, so you're constantly in a what is the thing that you don't want to feel in that argument. Oh, I don't want to feel ashamed. Okay, so you're getting in arguments because you don't want to feel ashamed. And that's making you feel more ashamed.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So that's an example. Or when I was When I was younger, you know, it was emotional abandonment. My dad was an alcoholic and I didn't want to feel that emotional abandonment again. And so I would get really hard when I felt like people were leaving me. I'd be like, what the, which of course made them abandon me quicker or I would try to caretake people, which would build resentment, which would make people abandon me. So whatever emotion that you're trying to avoid, you are inviting into your life in exactly the way that you're trying to avoid it.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, so let's take a since I'm a coach executives, let's do an executive example. So conflict avoidant executive. I don't want to feel. Out of control in this that I do when people argue. So I don't want to feel that level of out of control. So I am going to be conflict avoidant. I'm going to avoid conflict. Every way that we go to avoid a feeling becomes The way that that feeling gets invited towards us. So we all know what it's like to work for a conflict avoidant CEO or a boss. People get really fucking upset. Eventually people get really upset. Decisions aren't being made. There's all this tension. It's never relieved. We never get. And then, wow, sure enough, the conflict avoidance CEO is dealing with a whole organization that's tense and they feel completely out of control. And the fact that they can't do anything about.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“In that scene, and in that not only in the scene of it, but as the shame fell away, this is nothing I have to defend. This isn't something that like I'm a bad person because of. I don't need to be ashamed of it. This is just some actions that I took. And as that faded away then and then over the next couple weeks, lo and behold, I became less an asshole. So it's a strange thing when you really grok that, that it's often shame that holds bad habits in place. And so is the problem that I'm an asshole or is the problem that I'm ashamed of being an asshole? Is the problem that you're a smoker? Is the problem that you're ashamed of being a smoker? And so typically... There's so many assumptions built into everything that we call a problem. And if we look through those assumptions, the problems disappear, as in this case, it disappeared for me.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Like, oh, okay, what do I mean by asshole exactly? How do I define that? And the reason I, and it seems like a silly thing, right, when I'm using this example of asshole, but I remember this moment in my own development, I was in Bodega Bay out of all places. Very good friend of mine at the time was like, Joe, you're an asshole. And I was like, no, I'm not. And he's like, why resist it? Just fall in love with the fact that you're an asshole. I mean, just allow yourself to be an asshole for just a minute, just one minute. And I stopped and I could stop, and I thought of I was doing venture capital at the time. And I could think of all the things that I had done that somebody would call an asshole. All the ways in which I was unattuned to people, and I could, oh yeah, okay, I can totally see that I'm an asshole”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I am an asshole to my girlfriend. That's their problem. So one, you have to assume that the girlfriend doesn't want you to be an asshole as an example. Two, you have to assume that you know of being an asshole actually is, right? It's not just what your mom told you an asshole was. Like, you know, three, there's some validation, there's another assumption. There's some clear thing that says this in the world. Everyone's like, that's an asshole and that's not rather than what actually happens in the world, which is 50% of the people think that this person's an asshole and 50% think they're a hero, right? It's something like that. Also, that it's another assumption there is that the problem is that you're an asshole instead of that you're resisting the fact that you are an asshole and therefore it comes out sideways instead of really cleared. There's so many assumptions in there. If you see through those assumptions, usually the problem starts fading away.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Someone to So we have a set of five, kind of what we think are foundational tools for transformation. And we do these free workshops on them. And one of them is question the assumption. And that's a really great way to have people start to see through their stories. So at the beginning, I said nothing the critical voice in your head says is true. And this is how it applies. Typically there's an assumption that you have to make for the problem to be real. You know, if somebody says to you, for instance, if somebody comes to me and says,”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Oh, you're lying to me, or you're wrong, then they would to actually accept the experience of being seen in that way. And it does a couple of things. One of the things it does is it stops people from seeing themselves clearly. The other thing it does is it makes people forever want to be seen and complimented and acknowledged and validated because they're getting the food, but they can't digest it.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Don't do it quite like that. I do it with a lot more love than that. But yeah, so oftentimes I see that people's stories are a culprit, like how they describe themselves. And a great way that you can really see this in folks is that. Nine out of ten times that you compliment somebody. I really appreciate this thing about you. They're going to go, ah, nah, or my sister is even more or like that. If you knew me, they're going to do some sort of version like that. And it basically is one of the indicators that they can't actually feel who they are. They would rather, in effect, call you a liar.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“I would maybe put it a little bit differently. They're living in a story that describes an old version of themselves and it doesn't. Don't see themselves clearly enough to be able to see the whole issue. And so they're just kind of living with a story that's in the past. So that's a really common thing. So oftentimes if I do that in a coaching session, typically it's because they're showing me right there that it's not true. You know, so somebody's like, I'm so scared I can't do anything. I'm like, you just got in front of 100 people to ask me a question. Clearly, you're not so scared that you can't do anything. So I'm not buying it”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Oh, you mean, yeah, I think I've heard about this. I haven't watched it, but I think where you think it's all about being happy and you find out that you have to accept everything for happiness to really work kind of.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Imagine you're a little kid and you pick up a toad. You're going to pick it up. You're going to look at it. You're going to feel it. You're going to smell it. Some little kids are even going to lick it a little bit. They're going to really want to explore this toad. And that's what emotional inquiry is, is a somatic mental experiencing of an emotional experience in your body and what is it like and what happens when you welcome it, what happens when you love it, what happens when you resist it. So it's a series of experiments that you're playing with the emotion. And observations and felt sense of the emotion. And that I find to be incredibly, incredibly useful.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“We have a free audio on our website called Emotional Inquiry. And that would be the easiest way that I would, that's a really good entry-level first step into. Into emotional fluidity. But the bigger problem is that every step has a different thing. So if you're Might be a point where you really need expression and so emotional inquiry is not going to work. But just generally the emotional inquiry practice is a really good one. And what it is is.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Not entirely true. If you just sit there and feel them in that way without the full expression, they will move eventually, but it might take a couple decades. But if you can actually just move them, you can actually make the sound, move your body. All mammals do it, you know, like mammals releasing fear, they all shake. It's part of how we exist. And so that's also a really big part of emotional fluidity. It's not just being still and feeling them. It's letting the muscles move, making the sounds.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And so, like a very joyful life is a life where all the other emotions are deeply welcomed, not accepted, not non-judgmentally aware of. And I think those are really great steps, don't get me wrong. Like if you can be a non-judgmental awareness of an emotion, fantastic. The other thing that's a little bit different about what you said is that emotions do need to be felt. If you stop feeling an emotion, you have to constrict your muscles. So I can watch somebody come in, come up for one of my coaching, rapid coaching sessions. And by the crease in their eyebrow, I can know that there's repressed anger, by the hunch in their shoulders, I can tell you about the critical parent that they had. So the body takes on a shape that's based on the emotions that you've been taught to hold. And so you don't just by sitting there, well, it's not.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“It's definitely a huge part of it. There's a couple things that I noticed get in the way, or the translation gets in the way there. One is it's like, think about emotions as like kids in your house. And if like a kid came into your house and you're like, I will be non-judgmentally aware of you, you're probably going to get a very different response from the kid than if you're like, oh, I'm so excited to see you. Like I welcome you in my house. And the emotions feel different if you're like, I am non-judgmentally aware of this emotion. Or, oh, cool. Like, oh, cool. I'm sad. This is fantastic. If you have that welcoming invitation. And one of the things that one of the quotes that I'm most famous for is joy is the matriarch of a family of emotions. And she won't come into a house where her children aren't welcome.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“You can't get another way, and it's like. Nice dress You crank it another way and it's guilt. It's like, why would you ever do that to me? And then, if it's unkinked, then it's like Gandhi or Martin Luther King. It's like this very loving boundary that's set. It's this clarity of purpose. So that's how I think about it. So the idea is to get to fluidity, to unkink the hose so that all of the emotional experiences come out with love.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“That might be that, but the place might be a step that one has to take, but the place you want to get to is where the emotions are fluid, where it just moves right through you. It doesn't mean that you lose control. As a matter of fact, losing control means that there's still resistance in it. So the way I think about this is that emotions are like a tube, let's say, and there's water moving through the tube and you kink a tube one way, the water comes out a little funny, kink the tube the other way, it comes out a little funny. So let's say you have anger and that's the tube and you crank it one way and it's like”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Removed, or you got punished, or maybe every time you cried, you were made fun of. My particular background Was that. And so it's when you weren't allowed to feel certain emotions, you were told to cut it off because it wasn't going to be safe because you were either going to get bribed out of it or punished out of it or loved removed because of it or made fun of or whatever it is.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, not quite. So if you have somebody who's experienced a lot of emotional abuse in their life, then they might not be able to feel the emotions that they're having. And particularly where you experience the emotional abuse. So that might be the case for them. So for instance, if you had physical abuse and I put a quarter in one of your hands and a key in another one of your hands without telling you which was which, you wouldn't be able to tell me if you'd suffered enough physical abuse because you've literally cut that sensation off, right? And so similarly, people who've experienced emotional abuse can often not tell what the emotions are. Now, emotional abuse is a big word. Generally, people don't even like equating the two. But just to agree on terms here, when I say emotional abuse, I mean you were told that you weren't allowed to have a certain emotion. That's what I mean by emotional abuse. So maybe you got fed every time you got angry or you got your love.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“People aren't like, Oh, I'm like, I'm excited. Like, if you walked into a Denny's and there was this person, they're a 60 year old man and just excited and was excited for like 10 minutes, you'd be like, what the like, what's wrong with this person, right? But when we're excited, it's contagious. You know, I walk into a meeting and I'm excited. Probably other people are going to walk out excited. And so we're limiting just the ability to create collaboration by the fact that we're limited by our excitement. And I could go on forever. So there's so many experiences like this.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Really important just for the decision making part, how important emotions are to be able to fall in love with each of the emotional experiences so you're not making decisions based on your inability to feel stuff. That's like one. There's literally a thousand others. Most people, they feel stuck, they can have a big emotional release and they don't feel stuck anymore. When people feel overwhelmed, it's usually not the amount of crap that they have going on in their life. It's the fact that they have emotions that they are not sitting feeling or expressing. That's another huge chunk of stuff. Depression is usually unmoved anger is another example. So there's so many levels in which people not able to feel really limits their life. Just one that's like almost everybody can relate to is feeling excitement is something that most people can only do for about 10 to 20 seconds.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So, if you learn to fall in love with all of your emotions, then solution sets become available that you didn't have before. So if you are like, oh, I can't feel like a failure, well, then you're probably not going to take certain risks. And if you are, oh, I want to feel loved and I can't feel unliked by people, well, then you're not going to say your truth. And then the world is going to not give you the things that are truthful to you, right? I go into my boss. I say my truth. I get fired. Okay, I get fired. But then probably my next boss, I say my truth, I'm going to find a location where my truth is and how I want to be in the world is going to be acceptable. But if I don't do that, if I'm constantly managing myself, then I'm not going to have that reality. And so”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“And what it tells us, and this is not exact, I'm paraphrasing for a podcast, but we make decisions in the emotional center of our brain. We use logic to try to figure out how we're going to feel. So you can see this just by asking yourself the question, how many decisions have you made to feel like a success or to not feel like a failure or to feel happy or to not feel trapped or to, right? So there's these huge buckets of emotions that we are trying to feel and not feel. And we're making decisions based on those. There's no such thing as a logical decision, you know, that idea is like, I'm just going to be logical and just make a logical decision. It doesn't, neurologically, it's just untrue.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, great way to explain it. So for the logical folks, so in 2012 or so, there was a person who wrote a book called Descartes' Error. And in Descartes' error, the whole idea is that I think therefore I am. And this person's like, yeah, that's the error. And it's a neuroscientist who looked at people who had damage in the emotional center of their brain. And they just basically ceased to be able to make decisions. So their IQ would stay the same, but it would take them half an hour to decide where to have lunch or decide what color to pen to use. It would take hours and hours to make simple decisions. So their IQ would stay high, but their entire life would completely fall apart.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Would be even more subtle than that, which is, I wouldn't really wouldn't care if you think it's helpful to you or not, which I would just experiment with. Different ways of interacting with it. And I wouldn't even do it as a goal of okay, I want the voice in the head to be nicer to me. I would do it with the goal of just, hey, how do I learn? How do I understand this thing? It's like a far more productive self-development generally. It's far more productive. To learn, say, about the river valley by walking through it, putting your feet in the river. Going down the river with a canoe, smelling the soil, looking at the plants, then it is to, you know, say, okay, I am going to dam this river valley and try to, it's just not going to understand it the same way. You're going to make some mistakes.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“The way I like thinking about that is people are like, I understand the problem, but I don't have a solution, and I'm always like, if you understood the problem, there would be no question about the solution. You can't, if you fully understand a problem, you know the solution. So all you have to do is really fully understand the voice in your head through a series of experiments and the whole thing goes away.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“A lot of fear. So it's one of my favorites, one of my favorite ways to respond. But I've tried, I mean, gosh, dozens of ways. And there's a lot of like neat, effective ways. And I particularly think it's really good to set up a series of experiments rather than just take the one that I have because the experimental mindset means that you can never really fail. So typically somebody like Worst of the Voice in the Head, they fail and they go ah, fuck it because we have this part of our brain called the Hemenula. And the Jimenula basically is the part of our brain that is trying to teach us not to fail over and over again. So it's the thing that like when you go on a diet or you go to work out and then you don't do it one day and you say fuck it. I messed up and then you don't try anymore or you don't try for a couple weeks or whatever that thing. That's basically what's happening in that part of the brain. So if you do it as an experimental thing, then you actually, you can't lose. You're just learning about yourself. You're learning about the voice in your head.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, so the shut up usually doesn't work. I mean, experiment with all of it. You know, to me, one of my favorite responses is, oh, I see that you're really scared. Don't worry, I'm right here with you. I got Because the part of the deal is that the voice in the head has assumed the position that it's like the boss, but it's really like a little kid having a temper tantrum. I mean, if you listen to, if you just like dictated everything it said, it sounds like usually like a five-year-old having a temper tantrum. It sounds like the way your mom used to chastise you, or the way your dad used to chastise you, or whatever, whether teacher. But it isn't, it's not logical. It's not thoughtful. It's not typically not thoughtful. It's usually abusive.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Because right now, what it's typically doing for most people is that it says something, and the person's like, Yeah, or yeah, but I'm not going to do that, so fuck off, or yeah. And yeah, that'll never work. You know, something like that is it's kind of the response. And so what happens if you change the response to the voice in your head? And that gives you a crap ton of freedom. And it's the beginning of what can be a state where the negative voice in the head disappears, which is really, really quite lovely.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Or sing a musical to it, or go, I don't believe you. I don't like, as a matter of fact, I think the best way to work with the voice in the head is to pick an experiment every day and respond to the voice in the head in a new way every day, to have an experimental approach and say, oh, what's the relationship I want with this negative voice in my head?”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Okay, so I see the truth that I'd be healthier if I work out. I get that. Should I? Is that it really a should? There's another question. What makes it not say, oh, hey, why don't you enjoy working out? How do we get you to enjoy working out? What would motivate you to work? It's not doing any of that. It's you should work out. You should work out. So it's never an accurate thing that's happening inside of your head until you can see through that. It's hard to work with the voice in your head. You can do it, but until you see through it. The second part that I would say is that if you want to work with your voice in a head a new way, what most people try to do is they try to stop it. They try to, you know, control the voice in the head. And that doesn't work very well. So instead, I say change the way that you relate to the negative voice in your head. So instead of being, okay, you stop doing that. Stop doing that. Say, oh, I see that you're really scared. And I'm right here with you.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Should work out more. You should work out more. You should work out more. Or you need me, or you just sit around on the couch is a great example of one. But if I was your boss and I was sitting right next to you and I was criticizing you every couple minutes, there's no way that you would say, wow, I really need you. I couldn't be productive without you. It's a bunch of crap. Or you should work out. You should work out.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Yeah, I would say every single time the voice in your head is wrong. So it's not the critical voice in your head. So to be specific, I'm talking about the voice in your head that is critical and repeats. So, you know, there's the voice that says the same thing over and over again. You got to work out more. You got to work out more. You got to work out more, whatever that is. It's always wrong. And that doesn't mean there isn't truth to what it says. But it's incorrect. So as an example of this, like,”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“So that would be, I would say, one of the biggest ones. Another really big one that in a large category, I would say their relationship with emotions is all facada. They are either trying to pretend they don't have them or compartmentalizing them or trying to manage them rather than harnessing them and falling in love with them. So that would be another big place.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Non specific answer to that question would be a critical voice in their head and like and a relationship with that critical voice that is not productive. Oftentimes, the critical voice in the head says, You need me to be productive, but it's usually a huge. Detriment to being able to really be successful. And even if you are successful with a really critical voice in your head, you never get to enjoy it. You might have the money, but then you're like, oh shit, I'm still miserable. Or I got the car. I got the house. I got the money. I got the successful career. Like, why am I unhappy all the time?”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Like such an important tool for productivity. If you say, I'm going to figure out how to enjoy what I do 10% more and you succeed, you are 10% more efficient. Not only that, usually the quality is going to get a lot better too.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Most people try to do is they try to stop it, and that doesn't work very well. I think the best way to work with the voice in the head is to pick an experiment every day and respond to the voice in the head in a new way every day. One of my favorite responses is, oh, I see that you're really scared. Don't worry, I'm right here with you. I got you.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“It's the fact that they have emotions that they are not sitting feeling or expressing. Whatever emotion that you're trying to avoid, you are inviting into your life in exactly the way that you're trying to avoid it.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Lot of the people in my circles may have spent hundreds of millions of dollars to try to arrange a life that they enjoy and it doesn't fucking work.”
2024-08-08 · Lenny's Podcast · How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment) · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source