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Louise Perry

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“Think of the size of the beauty industry and like gym culture and whatever, like people are desperate to be better looking. So we kind of know this is important, but it seems a bit. I know a bit horrible to talk about it”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Normally, better looking waiters get more tips and waitresses, and then during COVID that was to some extent equalized. I know it's kind of horrible. I know, I know, but it's like, and that's why I think we don't really talk about it. I mean, people clearly know this because they work so hard to be good looking.”
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“Yeah, maybe Mother Nature's a misinjust as well. I think there is one of the reasons why talking about things like attractiveness is not very, I don't know politically correct is quite the right word, but is a bit like... Awkward and painful because it is quite hard not to just say, look, it kind of is a hierarchy, like there is an extent to which some people are more attractive than others. And lookism actually is like a massive form of social inequality that no one ever talks about So, people who are better looking basically do better in every way. People are nicer to them, they do better in their careers. There was this study of tipping during COVID because during COVID people working in restaurants, they had to wear masks. And so to some extent, it hid people's faces.”
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“Our society is less polarized. We do the same jobs. Men and women are friends with each other. There are lots of ways in which we are much more sexually egalitarian and mix more with the opposite sex than did our grandparents say. And I think to some extent people actually really crave polarity. They actually crave sexual difference maybe more than what they, that's one theory as well as to why BDSM is popular. People are like really drawn towards hyper macho, hyperfeminine behaviours.”
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“I mean, that's the point where there's the most divergence between the sexes, like lower body strength, between the sexes is, you'll know, I don't at the moment obviously, but I normally do powerlifting. And the difference between squat for men and women is much less than the difference between bench. So it may be that Everyone's trying to exaggerate the dimorphism. I think that, I mean, and it's also an interesting point around the way.”
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“Exactly they don't want too much or like the super super square jawed like intense look. And the reason for that is an interesting one. It seems to be because Women have this balance in choosing a partner where you want someone who's strong and will protect you and will provide you and being masculine is an indication of that which is good but you don't want someone who's so macho that he has like out of control aggression and might hurt you So the 10 out of 10 is a bit risky. You want your 8 or 9 out of 10. Like that's the sweet Guess so Or scary I don't think that men have that in reverse as far as I can tell the more feminine the better. Like men just really like, you know, all the signs of adult female fertility are attractive.”
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“I mean, there's lots of really interesting little data points about that, like perfect waste tip ratio that men like is 0.7. So, it's the waste measurement divided by the hip measurement should be 0.7, I think that's right. and like men having like upper body strength just straightforwardly like basically them all the better. There is this interesting thing with women where Too masculine is off putting?”
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“Yeah, and seems to be yeah, bad for self esteem, bad foot, you're sort of Realistic sense of. So is that a funny phenomenon, isn't it, where what looks good in 2D doesn't necessarily look good in 3D? You ever notice how sometimes women who have had a lot of work done will look really good in photos and then look a bit weird in person, like Uncanny Valley in person Actually, in 3D, it looks a bit odd”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. Yeah, it's really bad. I mean, this is why smartphones, it's why I worry about smartphones. I mean, there are other reasons. There are other problems with smartphones, like in terms of things like bullying through social media, whatever, but the porn one is really bad. It's very addictive. It really damages your real-world relationships. It affects your sexual tastes as well. You're more likely to, it's not like porn invents these things, like there's something like the choking phenomenon. It hasn't invented it out of thin air. It's feeding on an existing dynamic where women tend to want to be dominated and men tend to want to dominate. But it exaggerates it and it like it turns neuropathways in your brain into motorways, you know, because you're constantly reinforcing this positive response to the stimulus with orgasm, which is like a very, like you're training your brain, basically.”
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“Get support from social services and they can get help with addiction and they can get all the various issues that are so much more likely to confront. But the punters are disincentivized from because it's all fuel by demand, right? If there weren't men who wanted to buy sex, if there weren't men wanting porn and women too, if there weren't people watching porn. Industry would collapse, like it all depends on demand.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. And that danger is even more acute in other areas of the sex industry. There might be some people who really don't suffer those psychological And who find a way of doing it in the sort of safest possible way, and it's okay for them. I've spoken to those people, I trust that they exist, but I think they're very unrepresentative. And to say that we should basically design the law around those exceptions rather than around what would be better for the people who are suffering most, I think is wrong-headed. I mean, in terms of the sex industry in general, I would favour what the law as it is in places like Ireland and Sweden and France and quite a lot of other countries where basically buying sexes against the law but selling sex isn't against the law which I know seems kind of counterintuitive but basically you say that the punters are criminalized I'm talking about like on street sex work and brothels and stuff the punters are criminalized but the prostituted women are not so they don't have anything to fear from the police and they can”
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“In the world in the nineties, she's now a campaigner against porn industry because she says it's just so exploitative. It causes so much psychological harm and physical harm. I mean, just things like STDs and injuries during.”
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“and you also tend to hear from them at the point in their lives when they're in the middle of it and they are either haven't yet suffered the costs of it or kind of have a self-protective narrative that they're telling themselves. And I've spoken to a lot of women who be in the sex industry, including on my podcast, who will talk about this exact feeling of like, when you're in it, you just need to get through the day and telling yourself I'm empowered and this is okay and I'm in charge of this and whatever is a way of getting through the day. It's quite common for them to compare it to being an abusive relationship. When you're in it, like I love him, it's fine, you know, and then it's only afterwards after you've left the relationship and the emotional connection is gone that you can realize how bad it was for you. And there are some quite high profile examples of this, like Jenna Jameson's, she was one of the most famous porn stars.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Might be a small number of women for whom that's really true. But in general, I think, and this applies to other areas of sex industry, not just porn, the people you tend to hear from are the people who are doing best by it.”
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“So that's one argument against banning porn that people would keep doing it. It would be quite hard to read it with the internet realistically. And so it would sort of undermine faith in the legal system in general. And I take that seriously. But I don't think it makes anyone's life better.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We go because I don't think, I mean, I just, the only downside of banning it is basically the, it's sort of like during COVID when people were banned from doing things which everyone was doing, right? Banned from socializing, banned from seeing their families and people. In a lot of cases, kept doing it and just broke the law. And I think that that had a sort of destructive effect on attitudes towards the law. This also was one of the reasons, this is one piece of reasoning behind legalizing gambling back in the mid-20th century, that there was statistics showing that an enormous number of people were gambling. And so it just seemed ridiculous to ban something that everyone was doing.”
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“And in a trusting relationship. It is a problem though when that's translated into seeking out risky sex acts with someone who you basically don't know.”
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“Or get convicted of manslaughter instead of murder and things like that. So this is, you know, that's like a specific, that's like the extreme end of this phenomenon. The other end of this phenomenon is more like just the sexual script becoming more violent and becoming more aggressive. And yeah, and a lot of young women in particular having like absolutely terrifying to be choked out of nowhere by some man you actually don't know very well, right? That's a really distressing experience. There are also what people always say to this is there are also women who ask for it and there are also women who like choking. I think what's going on there is partly the memetic thing. It's partly like this is cool and this is what everyone's doing. So I want to do it too. So that's part of it. I think to some extent one difference between male and female sexualities is that women like to be dominated more than men do. And that's not necessarily about a bad thing as long as it's done in a safe way.”
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“Right. And I think that, and the reason that we can't consensus exists is because it was, I mean, we successfully changed the law on this. So hopefully this is happening much less often than it was in the UK, but it is a global phenomenon as well, where men will kill their girlfriends or their wives and claim that she died as a result of consensual rough sex when actually we think it's much, much more likely that she died as a result of domestic violence and deliberate murder.”
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“This has all been very normalized by porn. So I think that the most likely explanation for why this is more of a phenomenon among younger generations is because of porn is because it's become sort of part of the normal sexual script through porn.”
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“Strong and yeah. I think so. I mean, there might be some upsides in terms of one of the arguments that people use in favour of porn is that it reduces sexual violence. Now, I don't really know if that's true. It's very hard to measure. And I'm skeptical about it because I think that something that choking is now so, so much more common among young people. The proportion of, I can't remember off the top of my head, but the proportion of young women who say they've ever been choked in bed is so much higher than the proportion of older women. It just goes up.”
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“Right, it kind of kills that natural drive. It kills that natural motivating force, which is very, very compelling for young men.”
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“If ye live in a society where you can't have sex unless you're married or you can't have like sex legitimately, you might be able to have sex with prostitute or something, but basically your sexual options are massively restricted until you get married. And in order to get married, you have to have a job, you have to not commit crime, you have to have a house, you have to do all these grown-up things. You are going to be so motivated to do those things. They're so motivating. And I think one of the problems that does come with allowing premarital sex and allowing porn and basically like not inducing any kind of drive in young men is that they are less motivated to do those things. So like, why would I, you know. Would I work harder? Why would I? Why would I prioritize any of these things when I've got Pornhub? Or soon enough, sex robots?”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah. And there's various, I don't know if there's been proper studies, but there's anecdotal evidence that stopping using porn reduces erectile dysfunction and improves sexual health in various ways, right? I think there's also I coined this term cultural death grip syndrome, where I think you end up with... When sexual stimuli are so ever present and it's so easy to access like anything you can imagine at the click of a button with a phone in your pocket there's like this is like hyperabundance of sexual stimuli I think it affects people psychologically and I think it Think it actually reduces people's drive to form relationships because it's like sex loses the mystique.”
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“A color for your explanation. I've not done like science on it. No, I think it probably emerged on Reddit or something. And anecdotally, if you stop using porn Dakib syndrome. Tends to alleviate. So, like, you're familiar with no FAP.”
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“So Death Crit syndrome to be delicate about it is basically when. A man masturbates so much that it decreases his sensitivity and it makes it hard for him to then have proper sex.”
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“Those claims are often actually very shoddy, and there's a lot of like, it is prostitution. It's prostitution with a camera in the room. So it has the same issues as the sex industry does in general in terms of coercion and misery, basically. So there's that. But in terms of the effect on people who use it, yeah, I mean, it does seem to have this...”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah. I mean, there are various objections you can have, right? I mean, it's very much not a fair trade product. I think everyone knows that really, like deep down, right? It's the industry is really horrible and it has a tendency to take people who are already vulnerable and completely destroy them. Very high suicide rates among porn performers, very high drug dependency ratios, things like that. Yeah, you're not consuming something that has been ethically produced. And even when some porn claims to be ethically produced, it's often like...”
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“Like hyperversion of all the Western issues with dating and with like they're also very urbanized and like they're they're like hyper modern in a lot of ways and given that modernity seems to lead to low fertility they're like further along that track than we are”
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“A culture of low child mortality. And that means that in South Korea they're probably going to lose about 95% of their population in the next century.”
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“I mean, we're going to see really massive drops in population in somewhere like South Korea. They have the lowest birth rates in the world. I think it's like 0.7 or something”
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“And you can test this in the lab if you remind someone of death and then ask them how many children they want to have, they want to have more. I know it's crazy, isn't it? But it may be that there's something about having very peaceful and And comfortable ways of life in affluent societies that actually discourages people from reproducing, which it does seem counterintuitive, doesn't it? That's probably quite likely. I mean, what's probably going to happen, therefore, is that people who really want to have kids will be selected for. Because historically, Mother Nature didn't really care how broody you were. She just cared how horny you were, right? Because if you had sex and children were a likely result. Whereas now with reliable contraception, that's a lot less true. So probably right now.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, I mean, we're all descended from people who had 10 kids and a two bedroom heart. So our ancestors of all had children in much more difficult circumstances than we have. And I think that it's a really interesting mystery. Why does affluence make people less inclined to have children? One factor probably is it's a bit more, but mortality salience when people, this seems to be why they're a post-war baby booms. It's not actually because all the soldiers come home and they're really horny, right? It's because war reminds people of death and actually people have this tendency to respond to death by wanting to create new life.”
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“Yeah, I know it's funny, isn't it? Because it seems completely counterintuitive. Because often people will say in an expensive city like London, people will say, I can't afford to have kids. And they're sort of right. I mean, it is true that it's harder to afford, it's harder than it was 50 years ago, say, to afford a family home and to live on a single country. That's true, and that probably does disincentivize people from having children. Well, certainly, I mean, often what people mean is I can't afford to have children at the standard that I would like in terms of the size of my house and all of it.”
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“The single factor, which best explains it, is affluence. You cross a certain threshold in terms of GDP per capita and fertility falls a lot, and it's not that higher threshold. It's like 10,000 US dollars, something like that.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“We're going through an evolutionary bottleneck. We're going through a period where, and it's partly the pill. Big people, it's one of those issues that sort of attracts just so stories. People will often be quite confident about, oh, it's this, oh, it's this. Oh, it's feminism. Oh, it's capitalism, whatever. I think that the single factor that actually best explains why you're seeing such massive drops in fertility across not just Europe and America, but Northeast Asia, as you were saying, and also actually lots of like Middle East has quite low birth rates. Indian subcontinent has quite low birth rates. basically the only place in the world that still has high birth rates is sub-Saharan Africa. So this is basically a global phenomenon.”
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“No, it is. That is okay. I think that it is more common right now in our current cultural moment for women to be pushed towards the masculine role when it doesn't suit them than the other way around. I think historically it has been the other way around, right? The women who wanted to do the masculine thing and were really intelligent, ambitious and whatever were suppressed and were basically confined to the home, right? That definitely happened historically. I think we've kind of flipped though actually. And now it's more common for women to be told that being just a mum is worse.”
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“which is needlessly It's okay to want to be monogamous. It's okay to want to have children. It's okay to care more about your children than your career. None of those things are bad.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah and this feeling that This painful feeling that actually there's something much higher status about the masculine template, that there's something lesser, there's something worse about doing. Doing the feminine thing, you know, being the mother, I think is very baked in and is actually very anti woman, I think, you know, to say that being just a mum. Something wrong with that, that it would be better to have, say, a corporate job, that it would be better to. Live like a man. I think that when we Think that when we say things like that, what we're basically saying is that what women do is worse, that there's something worse about women. Something actually very deeply sexist about that in a way that I don't like at all. So a lot of what I try to do in my writing and podcast and everything is actually elevate some of the feminine stuff.”
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“Hear from a lot of those women. And, you know, in many cases, like I have had two women when we recently to say that they are having a baby because of me. It's amazing. It's so cool. Just because they had this anti-mother messaging can be so strong.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“They're worried about, well, they're worried about sexual violence to their daughters is probably the key one. They're also worried about, say, the impact of porn on their sons and they're worried about the children being miserable. Various ways. The other group of readers I hear from are women who have lived this and who have had this exact process of thinking I can have sex like a man, thinking I can like completely imitate the masculine template and that's good for me and have had this deep sense of cognitive dissonance. Which they've only belatedly realised was needless. Like they didn't have to actually put themselves through what they did, but they felt that they did, you know, they had this process of conforming to something that was bad for them.”
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“I would say probably the two most common groups of readers are dads. Who are really worried about their daughters in particular and also their sons and saying like, thank you so much for, this was the reason I decided to do a young adult edition of the book. So in a few months, there's going to be a young adult version, which is basically like edited, made shorter, simpler, whatever, because the book has a lot of very adult themes, obviously. And I had so many people saying like, I wish I could give this to my 14-year-old. And I just kind of feel uncomfortable doing so, but I really, really, really want them to know this stuff. And so we did a young adult audition for exactly that purpose. And often it is dads who are feeling mums too, but dads who are feeling really anxious about this.”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, although you know what since this book's hodged two years ago, I have had, and I really did feel a little bit when I was writing it, like, oh no, have I just completely ruined my life? Am I going to just constantly face, am I going to get constant grief for this? Is it going to be a complete disaster? And actually, I would say that like 95% of the responses have been incredibly positive. And I get emails, the messages all the time from people saying, Thank you. I've been thinking this whole time.”
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“and screen so thoroughly and like the criteria to be an adoptive parent are really really stringent is because they know that there is this issue i mean particularly because also children who are being adopted are more likely to have their own issues and like to be more difficult in some ways so i think there's a recognition that this is a this is a more difficult setup it's more risky setup and so you have to be careful”
2024-06-20 · The Diary of a CEO · "Casual Sex Is Almost Always Dangerous For Women!" This Is What Casual Sex Is Really Doing To Women - Louise Perry · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, potentially, and obviously some step parents can be really good. So it's difficult, isn't it? But I think the thing that people, I think the thing that people should know, I think the reason why it's good to know about the Cinderella effect is that if you're, it's quite easy as an adult to kid yourself and to be like, I'm not very happy with my partner, my husband, my wife. Sex not as good as it used to be. He doesn't understand me, like that kind of level of dissatisfaction. If only I was with someone else, everything would be so much better.”
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“It's things like my mum's boyfriend touch me. My mom's boyfriend looks me weird. My mom's boyfriend makes me uncomfortable. Things like that.”
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“Some cases, it's not just like violent abuse, it's things like stepparents are less likely to put a seatbelt on their stepchildren. Like that. It's like subtle but small ways in which stepchildren are disfavoured compared with biological children. And of course, some people will surmount that and be amazing step parents, ditto adoptive parents. Plenty of people will do a wonderful job, but it is a really significant risk thing. I had this woman called Katie Faust on my podcast a little while ago who is an American campaigner for children's rights. And she said, try this, okay. Google my mum's boyfriend and see what Google suggests. It's not pretty.”
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“They wake you up, they have tantrums, whatever. If you have a genetic investment in them, it carries you through those moments. You're like, I love you. I want the best for you. You know, you can sort of get over it. If you don't have a genetic investment in those children, even in fact, you potentially have a conflict if, say, you have children with the new partner. And those children are in the household, and you want those children to sort of be favoured and do better. Unconsciously, but there will be kind of a playing of favorites game. Like it's not just”
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“Is a thing called The Cinderella Effect in evolutionary psychology where children who have a step parent in the home are a hundred times more at risk of child abuse than children who don't have a step-parent in the home. A hundred times. I know. And obviously you have to be careful. I'm not obviously not saying that all step parents are abusive. By any means, we're just talking about risk. But it does go up by a lot. And what was, I mean, when this was discovered, it was taken as proof of the fact that parents having a genetic investment in their children is one of the reasons. I mean, like children are very trying, okay?”
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“There are massive benefits to their children from staying together. There are, of course, some instances, particularly with abuse, when it's better for the children. If the parents break up, that's absolutely true. But I think when you're talking about kind of... Vague unhappiness, dissatisfaction, like we've outgrown each other, like that level of unhappy marriage, I think it's much better for children to stay together. And one big reason for that is because the presence of step-parents On average, isn't good news for children.”
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