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Maria Shriver

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“Yeah And it was, what was interesting, my mother stepped in and was like, you know, don't complain here. I don't want to hear a yip out of you. Support him and carry on. And I was, I didn't even realize.”
2025-03-25 · The Oprah Podcast · Oprah & Maria Shriver on Heartbreak, Healing, and Finding Your Way Home · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Right, right. And I think the more they thought it was a phase, the more I dug in. The more I was like, okay, I'm out of here. I also wanted to find my own path. I didn't want to stay on the East Coast. I didn't want to run for office. You didn't want to be in politics. Yeah, I didn't want to be in politics. I didn't want to work at Special Olympics at the time. I didn't want to work in the government. And Arnold represented for me, somebody who lived on the West Coast, who had a freedom that I had never seen before.”
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“I see you now. You see all I wanted was for you to stand up, to raise. But now I see that wasn't your way. You had a way of doing things, a way I didn't understand. I wanted you to speak your mind, to yell out loud. I wanted you to take charge, but you had a different plan. You had your own way. And I didn't know that about my father. I just felt like what is going on here? Why don't you stand up? Why don't you get us out of here? Why don't you do something? And I didn't give him the benefit of what he actually was doing. I didn't understand him. I didn't understand the strength that he had. And I remember thinking to myself, I need to go out and get a different kind of man than this.”
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“I see you now came from the poem that you write about your father. Yeah, I see you now. I didn't, you know, I wanted my father to stand up to this terror that I felt as a child. And I didn't understand his quiet strength. I didn't understand the way he was showing up in the world. And I didn't, I think, until I went to Hoffman, until I thought of how scary it must have been for him, how he himself was trying to navigate this big, competitive Irish Catholic family, how he was trying to be a different kind of man in this family. And I didn't have any sense of that. I just saw him as somebody who wasn't weak.”
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“With empathy, not blaming them, but understanding them, what happened to them. And that was really the first time that I thought about what had happened to them.”
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“The Hoffman Institute, where you go to look at kind of patterns and process in your own family and how you can kind of look at your parents with not, you know, with the greatest sense of”
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“Trying to be somebody in her own family. I think in many ways she herself felt invisible in her family. And I think she felt she had no power in her family, that the power was all with the men. And so I have great empathy for my mother's journey. I have incredible empathy for what my mother went through. And I found that actually in going to Hoffman much later in life, understanding who my parents were when they were young, what were their dreams, how did they grow up? I hadn't really thought about them as two smaller individuals. You know, they were just big people to me. But trying to think about who they were at 12, who they were when they met, what their dreams were.”
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“I don't know. My father was mad about my mother. He thought he was the luckiest man in the world. He idolized my mother, adored her. And wanted to do everything he could to ease her physical pain and to help her become who she wanted to be. I think my mother was constantly herself trying to get her parents' attention.”
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“And I think it wasn't until really conversations that we would have or that I'd start to be thinking, wow, I don't think I should be feeling something. I don't know what I'm feeling. And then as I became a mother, I started to feel birth. I was always terrified to become a mother.”
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“Nobody picked me up and said, It's going to be okay. What are you feeling? The idea of somebody talking to me about my feelings was so foreign. I don't think that happened until I was in my 20s or 30s or somebody would ask me how I feel. And I'd be like, fine, what? What do you mean? How do I feel? I don't know how I feel. Just keep going. Let's keep working.”
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“And I just was terrified all the time. I was an only girl, as I said, and the feeling of like somebody's going to come in here. The house creaked. House and it was scary”
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“You know, both of my uncles had been killed, so there was this feeling in my family that people were getting killed. And so I thought, well, we're all going to get killed. And out to kill you. Yeah. And I lived in this house way out in the woods, lived next to a mental institution”
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“Doing behind those padded doors? What was she trying to keep out? What was she afraid of? And it brings me great grief to think of her behind the doors and to think of me and my brothers in front of the doors. Trying to get in. And I think that I started to think about in what way was I doing that? In what way did I have padded doors in my own life?”
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“My mother was sick pretty much all my life. And I think people didn't realize that really about her And so she had two padded doors before going into her bedroom. And she told us that it was because she was a light sleeper and needed to sleep. But there were two really double padded doors to get into her room, which you didn't get into. And so my experience was she lived at the end of the hall behind these two padded doors that there was no way she could hear me if I knocked on the door. And I just grew up thinking, well, gosh, I guess that's how people are. Their mothers live behind padded doors. And then I would see other kids whose mothers didn't live behind padded doors. And my parents had separate bedrooms. And I grew up like that. And I started to think later in life, what was she”
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“With my boys and my girls, and with my friends as well. To me, that's really important to go deep and to understand what are you feeling? What are you thinking? How can I be there to support you in any way? Because I didn't get that as a kid.”
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“Yeah, about work about my brothers and about what are we doing? How are we changing the world? But I realize after my mother died really that nobody talked to her about her feelings, nobody comforted her. Nobody talked to her about her grief. So how could I have expected her to do that for me? And I wanted to break that pattern as a mother. I wanted to break that for my own children. So I talk a lot about feelings. I talk a lot about your”
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“That was how I grew up, and I have come full circle to really thinking about the child and my mother, how nobody saw her, nobody comforted her. And I think our job is to heal ourselves so we don't continue the pattern, right? I didn't want to be, I admired my mother. She's still my greatest role model. I think about her probably every single day. I'm in conversation with her.”
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“About that, it's just like, let's keep moving, let's keep moving. And I think that came from her mother who had gone through losing two other children, and she just kept moving. She had a strong faith. And I think she wanted to represent a figure to her children. Things happen, but we have to carry out”
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“We didn't discuss feelings in my house. My mother had a saying where she would say, I don't want to hear one yiff out of you. And I don't think she did it to be mean. She did it to just keep it moving.”
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“I didn't even know what that was. I didn't even, nobody talked about love in my house. It wasn't a conversation anybody was having. We were talking about, we were out to change the world. We were talking about my Uncle Jack. We were talking about the Peace Corps. We were talking about people with intellectual disabilities. That's what we were talking about.”
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“And I got the message that you need to be this. And I never dawned on me to question that. I just expected that that's the path that I was going to take.”
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“And I wanted to be a lot like my mother because she was my role model, right? But it was. Chaotic and crazy and tragic, and there was constant upheaval. There were constant people coming in and out of the house. The table was filled with 15, 20 people. There was Mother Teresa, Robert Mackdamaro, there were vice presidents. Everybody was world leaders.”
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“And I was in the middle of all of that. And so I was like, okay, where do I belong in all of this? And I had a horse and I would go and spend my time with the horse because it was the only place that was quiet. It was the only place that I was like, I could hear myself think.”
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“When I was little, we lived on a farm kind of outside of Washington, D.C., and my mother started the special Olympics. So she had like 100 people with intellectual disabilities running around in the backyard along with a hundred volunteers and coaches. And then my father would have all these young Peace Corps volunteers who wanted to go out and change the world. And they were running around on any given weekend. And my mother had this camp during the week. And I had four brothers. You're used to all that. And I had four brothers and they had like 20 dogs. And I was the only girl. I am the only girl.”
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“I started writing, you know, yeah. I didn't, I had written obviously all the news stories. I wrote that kind of, but that's a different kind of writing. I wrote gratitude journals. You know, today I went and I saw Oprah. We had a fun time. This is what the day was like. But this kind of poetry sitting there and just being quiet and realizing, oh, wait a minute, I'm sobbing. What am I sobbing about? Oh, I'm lonely. What am I lonely about? When did I first feel lonely? Where did that come from? Oh, I'm heartbroken. Is this the first time I felt it? Oh, no, I'm not. Let me close my eyes. Let me think about.”
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“Know, conduct myself moving forward. Well, what does forward look like? And so I tried to stop myself, get quiet, and really think about who am I? How did I end up here? How did I end up in this place?”
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“Well, it made me get quiet, first of all. And it made me think about who am I now? How do I move forward if I'm not somebody's wife? If I'm not the first lady of California, who is Maria? How do I”
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“I could not. I could not. He realized after the four days that he was supposed to be there with me, he's like, I don't think this is a good time to quiet your mind. But he literally sat with me from 10 seconds to 30 seconds to a minute to two minutes to that being now an integral part of my life. But that allowed me to sit with myself, to be enough for myself, and to start writing from this quiet place that I had never been in my whole life.”
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“You said, I think meditation bob meditation Bob. He came to the hotel And he said, I'm going to teach you how to meditate. And I was like, and he was like,”
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“Who is your friend? What is she doing? Where is she going? What has she got to offer at the table? Where are you going to offer? Yes. What do you have to offer? And I was raised that way. And so what do I have to offer? So I would come prepared to the meal. I would come prepared to dinner and I had the feeling that that's what was expected of me. It never dawned on me that just being able to sit alone with a person or just being on my own would be enough. And so I think I started to look at that. And I remember when I got separated, you gave me the”
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“How are you going to be of service? Yes. Yeah, big time. You know, you were there. Hiding in the bathroom. Hide in the bathroom because it's too much pressure.”
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“I know, but I think I was raised in a family that taught you like you go out, you change the world, and that's the brass ring. There was no teaching that you're here, you're enough, sit down, it's okay. So I was like, oh, okay, we're going to go out and change the world. And if I'm not doing that, I'm not going to get involved.”
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“I am Mar Sentence stop. It's not my job. It's not the family that I'm in. I'm not somebody's niece, cousin, ex-wife, wife, friend. I am my own being. And who is that?”
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“Not enough. And I think that propelled me throughout my life. And so coming to the place where it would be okay to be myself, claim my own identity, I am. So, my mother”
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“Exactly. And so people would just come up to me and they would say, I'd say, Oh, hi, I'm Maria. They're like, no, no. But which Kennedy are you? Which Kennedy are you? And I'd say, well, I'm a shriver. I'm a shriver. They're like, but you're a Kennedy, right? Because I don't want to be talking to you if you're not a Kennedy, right? And then who's your mother? Who's your father? And I always had this sense of like that being just myself.”
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“I'd say it's really an exploration of my life. It's an exploration really of my childhood. My daughter calls it reporter poetry. It's poetry from the front lines of my life. It's an exploration of my childhood. Who was I? How did I end up in this family? What did this family mean to me? How did I become who I am today? What's mine? What's theirs? What should I drop? What do I want to own and who do I want to be? And I think I am Maria, as I write in the beginning, the reflection is when you're in a big family like that, you don't really have your own identity. You're a part of something larger than yourself.”
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“All my children, you were there when I got separated. You were there when I got divorced. You're there for me now. And I feel like hopefully I've been there for you through all of your transitions, from all the people you've been involved with, right? And I think that's one of life's greatest gifts to have a relationship that stands the test of time. And that's given me the strength to be standing here. I write in this book that when I got separated, it was a masterclass in friendship. And you were there for me. As you well know, you smile, but at every step of the way. And I think that's how we become who we are meant to be is that people hold our hands. They walk with us when we don't think we can get there on our own.”
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“Yes, in Baltimore. This is a supermarket, very glamorous. But the idea of having such a long friendship, you see, you know, you see someone through a marriage. You were in my wedding.”
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“Thank you. Well, I'm so honored to have you as my friend. And I love the idea of having such a long friendship. I love the idea of meeting somebody in my early 20s”
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