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Matthew Hussey

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“There was never a real option, it was never like a real thing that I'd considered. But I remember the thought that that triggered was I am just going to Live for the people that I care about now. I'm just going to live for other people, whether it's my audience, when I make a video, or whether it's my family, or whether it's my team who rely on this company for their living. I'm going to live for other people because I don't experience joy anymore. There's just this robs me of everything in my life. I'm always thinking about it 24 hours a day. There would be 15 seconds when I'd first wake up in the morning, where I'd forget that I was in pain for just a brief moment. And then it would rush back in and I'd remember. For me, it was the first brush in my life with anything. It was my first brush with something that My ingenuity”
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“This thing that's going to work, and I talk about it to friends and family. No, they'd be like, how's your head? And I'd be like, well, it's bad, but I'm going to go and do this thing. And I did so many different things. And every time when it didn't work, I would plummet even deeper. And it got so dark that I didn't know I thought, oh, I'm not signed up for this. I can't do this. I cannot do this for another 50 years. In my head, it was the closest I'd ever been to suicidal without truly going there in a practical sense. It was a kind of conceptual thought where I thought, I can't sign up for this for the rest of my life. Because I had friends that I love, family I love more than anything in this world. Staff, accompany all of these things. I had a big life”
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“I have tinn But it's not Tinnitus alone. It's kind of a pain and a throbbing that rides up through my ear and my head. It's been very traumatic because there were times when I was when... I couldn't I didn't know what I was going to do. It robbed me of all of the joy in life. I couldn't. Couldn't experience any joy. I was so, it was so centralizing this pain, this chronic pain. And I would go through cycles of every time there was some new treatment that I thought could help. Would get some hope, and that hope would give me a momentary kind of for a couple of weeks or a month before the treatment, I would feel uplifted, even though I would still be in pain, I would feel like.”
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“There are things for me Have prepared me for the rest of my life in some way. I had an issue with, I have an issue with my head and my ear that bothered me Say it bothered me Is ridiculous. It created. The darkest moments of my entire life.”
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“And that trauma that you went through, even if it wasn't a result of something that you needed to learn, may have been the catalyst for you to learn something that is going to prove essential for something you've yet to experience.”
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“Yeah, because you erased that trauma and you want to because, my God, who would want to go through that? But you're playing roulette with your wisdom Who wants to take that gamble?”
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“You start with a 60 year old's level of wisdom. Let's say that. You keep the wisdom. It's so funny. I was having this conversation with my fianc ⁇ the other day, and we were like, We would not go back to our 20s for any amount of money in the world. There is nothing. I would not want those extra years back if it meant that I didn't have the lessons that I have today that have brought me more peace than I had then.”
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“So forget the years that Stephen has already had your 29 right now. So forget the 29 years that have already happened. You, this brand new soul, is waking up this morning into Stephen's body at 29 with whatever his opportunities are and whatever his problems are. It would be awesome. You'd be so happy for the opportunity.”
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“Benefit from a kind of acceptance of just, I'm starting from where I am. Forget starting from when you were a baby and, you know, all of the circumstances you were born into and so on. I'm talking now. Forget what's happened. Forget everything you've done. I had a great brain, but then for 10 years I did a bunch of drugs. And then I hurt myself. And then blah, blah, blah, whatever. Doesn't matter. I think about it like this. Imagine that you woke up into your life right now. And your only job was to make the most of that life.”
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“Those ingredients extend to everything. Extend to everything. You couldn't have grown up in the most dire circumstances, but have a sharpness of mind that other people can't even relate to. And for that reason, if you know how to double down on that thing, anything can happen I love the idea. And I think that everyone”
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“Like you hear something, and you I've watched you in interviews, and when you talk, your speed of how you assimilate Information And draw patterns, you're good at patent recognition, which is why from a philosophical standpoint. There's a strength there, right? Because you're good at pattern recognition. These things, you just won the lottery on that one. Like with your brain, you just happen to win the lottery on that one.”
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“Because then you realize I'm in a different game altogether. This is why comparison is so insidious. What am I going to do? Compare myself to someone who got a completely different basket of ingredients and say, and by the way, the basket of ingredients isn't just what you got in life in terms of circumstances or parents or whatever, education. Your basket of ingredients is also what you got here. You have a sharp mind. Now, you've no doubt honed that mind. You've respected it. You've honored it by reading and by educating yourself and do all of these things. You also started with a sharp mind.”
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“And sometimes imagine if you took pride in being able to still make, even if you knew like this ingredient is this one sucks, like there's no getting around it. These ingredients I have right now suck You took pride in look what I can make. Of this. I get you made something amazing with your truffle salt and your, you know, your caviar and your uni, like, I get you did something amazing with that. No shit.”
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“Can either judge myself on my ingredients, which if I do that, I'm always at the mercy of the next thing that happens in my life. Something cataclysmic could happen in my life. And I lose everything. And then what? I'm going to judge myself and my life on my ingredients. To me, it's always how great of a chef are you? Ingredients are luck of the draw. Being a chef is something we can continue to get better at our entire lives. And it's actually the antidote to whatever happens. If you're a great chef, You can cook something out of whatever you have.”
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“Really being upset or frustrated about what the ingredients are that we were given. Imagine that you're not being judged on anything but how great a chef you are. Because that show isn't about ingredients. It's about shifts. Imagine life isn't about ingredients, it's about chefs. Don't aspire to have the best ingredients. Aspire to be the best chef. And the best chef. Going to be the one who can be the most creative with the ingredients that they have. I'm fascinated by that. Because if I apply that to my own life, I just go, whatever thing that just happened, I wish didn't happen. Whatever thing that's happened to me this year that is so painful, so devastating, so whatever, whatever that thing is, it just became a new ingredient in my life.”
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“There's a TV show called Chopped, and I'm probably, I'm not familiar with the show, but so I'm probably going to get wrong the concept that in my head, the concept of this show is very, very interesting from the point of view of confidence. I think the chefs get given different ingredients. So it's like just lucky dip. What do you get? What's interesting is If you get a basket of ingredients and I get a basket of ingredients, we're both getting judged on what we make of those ingredients. In that format, it's what are you able to do with what you have and what am I able to do with what I have? And I think there's something really fascinating about that because we spend so much of our lives mourning our ingredients.”
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“Know is super easy for anyone who's objectively decent looking to talk about how easy it is to go and approach someone or do this or do that. And you're like, you cannot even imagine what it is for someone who has been rejected their entire lives. They are starting from a completely different position than you in their confidence. It's so easy for someone to say, you just need to be confident. Okay, start from where I'm starting from and then tell me that. You know, confidence is a really, again, it can be a very insulting concept. But I do believe that”
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“But it's never from a place of being the victim. It's always from a place of what can I do, which I think is different. People, I think part of the problem for a lot of people is they conflate the idea of ownership with fault. And that takes us into some really dangerous territory. It's not your fault that something's happening. You can take responsibility for how you How you turn that into art? I thought about. Thought about confidence a lot in my career. And the injustices of confidence, right? Because we are not distributed things equally in life. You're not distributed things equally at birth. We're not distributed opportunities equally.”
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“Have to say okay, this thing is happening, it's not that it's happening is not my fault. That someone is making my life really, really difficult right now with what they're doing, their behavior, their abuse, their whatever, that is not my fault. But I want to get really curious about how I can. Handle this in a better way, in a more productive way. And one of the things our mutual friend, Louis Howes, who you're talking about, one of the beautiful things about him, both in front of the camera and behind the camera. That he is Lewis is not a complainer. Lewis is someone who he'll talk about the things that he's struggling with right now, or he'll talk about the things that he's trying to work on.”
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“Well, I think that to start with it, it makes you a much more likable person. The idea of extreme ownership is in some ways powerful. We all know there are things that have happened in life that are not our fault at all. There are things that we trauma we have experienced that it would be insulting to say that we have to take responsibility for these things. It would be sinister in some cases to suggest that. If we can get into the habit of genuinely saying Know how this is affecting me is something I can take responsibility for. And if I do, it actually gives me a shot at feeling better about this thing. It actually gives me a chance of improving it. Because if I say I'm powerless, then I can't have it both ways. I can't say I'm powerless and I have no responsibility over how I feel and then make it better.”
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“And I think there's something important in that because we're often seeking passion elsewhere instead of creating the passion where we are. I'm not saying every job is made equal in terms of its ability to allow you to do that. But I do think that... A lot more room to experience passion within the confines of where we already are than we think when we're constantly trying to change our environment to make things better.”
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“Sometimes it's reconnecting with what you do from a different place. And there are a lot of people that have convinced themselves that happiness lies in a career change. Happiness lies in them going in a different direction. And when we do that, we glorify everyone else's job. Think everyone else does a better job than me. Everyone else has something more exciting going. Everyone else has something that, oh, I wish I was where that person is. That's not true either. There was an imaginary at Disney who was one of the main imagineers responsible for a lot of animal kingdom in Disney World. And he got asked, Do you ever not feel excited about a project you're given? And he said, sure. He said, But my job is to find what's exciting about the project I just got given.”
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“And now, because it made money, and with that money, we went and bought a house and we got an expensive mortgage and we got the car and we did this and we did that or we just had the expectation now because our identity is built on earning that much money. So it might not even be the stuff that's weighing you down. It's your identity that's weighing you down and the perception you want other people to have of you or retain of you. That now has turned you into rat B. You're no longer choosing this thing. So I'm fascinated by that idea and I think that As much as there will be people in life listening to this who Have maybe grown tired of what they're doing. And therefore, have concluded that they need to do something else. Sometimes that's true.”
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“Well, there's a study that involves two rats. One of them is on a wheel that it controls. The rat can run whenever it wants to run. That's rat A. Rat B is on another wheel. Rat B doesn't get to decide Ra whenever that rat runs? And Rap B has to run. They're both doing the exact same amount of exercise. The results of the experiment are that rat A has all of the markers associated with all the positive markers associated with exercise. Rat B has all of the negative markers associated with stress. Both running the exact same amount. One's not doing more exercise than the other. But one is choosing. And the other one is having to. When we start to think that we're no longer choosing, When we're now having to do something, it could be the exact same thing. We were doing before. We used to be rat A.”
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“And I read those and I write sometimes I just write them out again. I don't get creative. I just write them out again. And as I write them, I connect to them again. And I play beautiful music. I play music that makes me feel really connected, usually not with words, a track that's an instrumental. And that process immediately begins my day with a feeling of being on the inside of my life instead of waking up and getting dragged. Through my”
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“When there's a moment happening, do you feel like you're on the inside of the moment? Or do you feel like you're on the outside looking in? And every day I wake up and the first thing on my best days, there are days where life gets in the way and I rush straight into work. And I always pay the price for that when I rush straight into work and emails and all of that. I pay the price for that. But more often than not, the way I start my morning is to wake up I get out my emotional buttons. Things that remind me what's important to me and what makes me feel good and connect me to those things.”
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“Do you feel connected to why this thing you're about to do, whether it's a conversation with a friend or a podcast or going to the gym, You feel connected to why that's even important to you? Not important in the world and blah, blah, blah. Everyone wants to change the world. Why it's important to you. What makes it meaningful to you, that level of connection, a friend of mine, Aubrey Marcus put it, I don't know whether it was his or someone else's, but he put it as being on the inside of the moment.”
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“At 27, I'm doing it for an audience of millions of people. We're the best-selling book and TV shows and all these things. I'm doing this on the most incredible level, this thing that I would do for free, for fun. I can't feel it. Why can't I feel it? What's happening? And I had someone once say to me at the time, you're disconnected. And at the time, I just couldn't, I couldn't even, I didn't even know what that meant. I just say I feel somehow like I'm on the outside of my own life. And what I've come to truly believe in at my core is that. So much of life is just about getting connected. When we, whether it's Simon Sinek talking about the power of why. Or anybody who's saying you need to find your motivation or it all ends up being about the same thing really, which is, are you connected?”
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“For living for me. Now, the reason I say all of this, even though this might seem disconnected from the idea of Of not allowing ego to rule and being connected to what's important. That this whole concept, what it's really about is being connected in life. What I experienced a lot in my twenties, which was really scarier at a certain point, was Paper, I'm doing everything that I thought I wanted to do. When I was a teenager, I was reading self-development books and talking about them for fun. I'd grab unimates and be like, let me tell you about this thing that I just read. And I'd have some very patient friends at uni who would be like, tell me more. That's really interesting. I would do that just for fun.”
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“Therefore, I have emotional buttons that get me to want to go to jiu-jitsu. I have these little triggers. One of them is a two-minute YouTube video where Anthony Bourdain is being asked about jiu-jitsu. And he speaks about it. And the way he speaks about it. Because I feel connected to him as an individual, it makes me go, oh, I want to go. Want to go, or there was a rich role had a phrase mood follows action. And that one phrase became an emotional button for me. I went, oh, mood follows action. That's so great. I don't even need to feel. Going before I go.”
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“And usually there's one thing that kind of triggers that formula. The reason I call them emotional buttons is because if there's one idea or thought or YouTube video or person even, an idea of a person, if there's one thing that can connect me to that formula, Then I can get there instantly. So, like, I don't know, Anthony Bourdain, who I really loved. Did jujitsu and he was really, really into it. Do jujitsu most mornings when I wake up and do jujitsu, I don't want to do it. I really don't. I'm so happy. Every time I come home from doing it, I'm like, I'm so glad I went. That was so good. I'm so, why don't I do this all the time? I almost never feel like going.”
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“I need a place where I can get back to that, and I need that formula. So I call these emotional buttons Have a list of emotional buttons in my phone, on my computer, and I teach this on my retreat. It started for me. This was selfishly just something I did for me. And to this day I'm always suspicious when someone teaches something. You never see them using that thing Never see them doing that thing? Because not because that makes them a hypocrite, it just, I feel like how important can it be if you don't do it This emotional buttons concept, I live this concept When I wake up in the morning, what I do is I immediately wake up and I look at these little formulas.”
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“I can try to bottle them and figure out was my formula for getting to this feeling of peace. I feel peaceful right now. I don't feel peaceful a lot. Isn't my tendency towards anxiety? I don't feel peace a lot. So when I feel peace, I want to know how I got here. How did I stumble into this wonderful room? And I look at it. I go, what's going on around me? What was I just thinking about that led to this thought, that led to the thought that what was the chain of thoughts that got me here? Who am I with right now? What did I just do? Because what I want is An hour from now when life does its thing because it will. Five minutes later, life will do its thing. I'll read an email. I'll get a phone call. Someone will say something that annoys me. And there it's gone.”
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“I'll tell you, I'll talk about what I do. I firstly. Very aware of the simple things that make me happy I have them written down. I was saying to you before we started, I'm a big note taker. I'm someone who I believe Winston Churchill said people occasionally stumble over the truth, but most pick themselves up and carry on as if nothing happened. I would say the reason I write so much when I feel something, if I feel something good, if I feel an emotion that I like, whether it's peace or happiness or I feel connected or I feel love for something or someone, I don't anymore just pick myself up and keep going when I stumble over an emotion like that. I pause life. I go, okay, hold on. What's happening right now? Why am I feeling this Can just kind of treat emotions as an accident.”
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“And what's curious to me is how do you take something that is a bumper sticker? Phrase and turn it into a kind of meaningful, practical way of living and reconnecting so that you don't fall prey to not taking that advice that we all can say it because it sounds good.”
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“And so I think that when that ego is driving and that ego is never fed, it's always hungry. It's always wanting more. There is the danger of just constant comparison, nothing ever being enough. Ultimately, anytime you do get something you think might be enough, you feel completely and utterly disconnected from the result after the initial high of it, which is no different from a drug fix. Here's the hard part, because we've heard this a thousand times. We all think that, you know, I get it. I get it. When you get money, it's not going to make you happy. When you get status, that's not going to make you happy. When you become known, that's not going to make you happy. We all can regurgitate that. And then five minutes later, we're back to chasing it in our own lives.”
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“Matt Damon won the Oscar at 27 for Goodwill Hunting. And Graham Norton, I always remember watching this interview where Graham Norton said to Matt Damon on his show How does it feel when you were 27 and you won an Oscar something people work their whole lives to do? How did you feel? He said, I went home My girlfriend went to bed or went to sleep, and Graham Norton joked like, so you didn't even get laid on Oscar night. He goes, my girlfriend went to sleep. And I laid in bed and I had this Oscar in my hand and I just felt so sad. Because I imagined this version of me kind of in a parallel universe that had worked his whole life to get this. And then realized 70 years later that this wasn't it, this wasn't the thing that worked.”
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“Think firstly, living in a constant state of never enough. Living in a state of fear that you'll never be enough. Ultimately, disconnected From the results of things, from how good things are already, and when you achieve that thing, there is a ultimately Scary moment awaits because it's not just a numbness, there is a There is a feeling of total disconnection, and when that happens, panic sets in. And it's a terrible feeling. It's a terrible feeling because then you really freak out. Because as long as you're telling yourself, yeah, life is really hard now. But when that happens, it won't be so hard. As long as you're telling yourself that, what you have to hold on to is hope. And the hope will drive you even if you're unhappy today. But when you arrive and it doesn't work, then hope goes away.”
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“Well, I loved music. That was something that really is always been true in my life. I've always loved music. Even at my events today, music play a big part and plays a big part because I've just never lost that love But I also just love ideas. There's nothing more fun to me than just discussing an idea.”
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“At one point, I thought I'm going to do this DJing thing. This is going to be my. Life and my dream was kind of, I loved self-development. I really loved, I was 14 when I got taken to a Tony Robbins seminar. In England, at the Excel Center”
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“I'm dating her because she happened to be the one who asked me out or at school whose friend came and asked me out on her behalf. And that's why I'm dating this person right now. It's not because I went to choose who I liked. It's because someone decided they like me and I said, well, I'm not going to have the confidence to go and talk to someone I really like. So I guess I'll say yes. And that was sort of, I would say that defined my early sort of teenage years with girls.”
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“Was really immediately taken by this idea that you could be better with people and that there were skills you could learn that weren't necessarily the things we were being taught in school that really could magnify your impact or the opportunities that you were able to have access to. As a teenager, one of the ways that that sort of manifests itself is oh, I might be able to talk to a girl I like So that was one of my early kind of. Self development journeys for myself was just trying to get the courage to be able to talk to someone that I liked because I realized early on, oh, the girl that I'm dating right now chose me.”
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“I was shy. I was quite, it's not that I wasn't, I was a likable teenager. I was good with people to the extent that I was. Was kind, I wanted to be liked, I wanted to be close to people. I kind of got on with everyone at school. Like there was no one, there was no group that I belonged to necessarily. I could hang with the guys who played football. I could hang with the guys who, you know, played dungeons and dragons. There was no one that I didn't like or get on with, but if it came to someone I thought was attractive I could not be my fun self, my best self, my confident self. Then I would kind of freeze up. And that was sort of in a way, how old was I? I was about 11 or 12 when I first picked up how to win friends and influence people off my dad's bookshelf. My dad was always into self-development. So I picked up that book and I”
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“Whatever normal is. And I always felt like I had to do something different. I had to do something that was, you know, when I was my dad, when I was a kid, he owned a nightclub and I was a DJ in that nightclub from 14 years old. He was a DJ when he first bought that nightclub. He went in there. Well, actually, the nightclub needed a DJ and they didn't have one. So he started DJing. That was how he became a DJ. And then through my teenage years, I did that. But I didn't just DJ for fun. I mean, I was like, you know, all my friends were going to parties and doing that kind of thing. I was always the one DJing the party. I was always the one working. I was always the one when everyone was going home at 2 a.m. I was going home at 2 a.m. to unload the car and all of the equipment and in my head I think it was still coming from that place of it was it was amazing.”
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“Well, I think for me as a kid, it was because I felt like there were problems when we had financial difficulties. I felt like there were problems I couldn't solve. I wasn't, they were too big. I wasn't able to do anything about them. So as I, as soon as I got the chance to go out there and do something, that became a kind of obsession. And I think, by the way, combining that with an insecurity that I was just desperate to feel. Special in some way, desperate to feel important in some way. So Know, I defined normal as bad.”
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“And I said, Why? She said, because she thinks you're going to be rich. Which sounds for me, even though it's a fairly shallow thing to say, there was something about that that was interesting to me at the time because I thought, oh my God, I've never been further from that reality. But from the way I'm talking, someone really believes me. Someone really believes that I'm going to be something or I'm going to go somewhere. But at the time, what it really was was I was just afraid and didn't want to be at the mercy of life, didn't want to be at the mercy of... Whatever I had in my head as the bad out there that could come and get you if you didn't get control. And I think most of my early adult life was defined by an obsessive need for control.”
2022-05-12 · The Diary of a CEO · Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think so to a large extent. I mean, we had a lot of financial insecurity growing up and I never knew if everything was going to be okay or not. For me, it was usually, it started out as a major bid for control. I wanted control over my situation. I remember we were living in a trailer at one point in my teenage years. And things are, you know, a certain way at home. And everyone loved each other, but it was, there was a lot of tension, as you can imagine. And I remember going into school and saying, you know, I'm going to do this and I'm going to do that. And I would speak so forcefully and aggressively about where I was going. And what was funny is there was a, I remember a girl at school who had never noticed me before. One of the popular girls, she said, my mum wants me to marry you.”
2022-05-12 · The Diary of a CEO · Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Imagine that you're not being judged on anything but how great a chef you are. We spend so much of our lives mourning our ingredients. Don't aspire to have the best ingredients. Aspire to be the best chef.”
2022-05-12 · The Diary of a CEO · Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Let's begin. We have to dispense with this idea that the one exists someone becomes the one by what we build with them. Any commitment long term requires true effort. I had an issue with my head and my ear. It created the darkest moments of my entire life. I'd always found whatever was going on in my life, I could fix it. I couldn't fix it”
2022-05-12 · The Diary of a CEO · Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Think of James Bond in real life, fairly says anything, not a hint of humanity. This would be a terrible person to have a relationship with. And we've been taught that that's what women want.”
2022-05-12 · The Diary of a CEO · Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT