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Rangan Chatterjee

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“Then, what I do, I go to my kitchen and I put coffee on. I wrote particular with how I do my coffee. I weigh out 15 grams in the French press. I pour 250 grams of water in and I put a timer on for five minutes. Why is that important? It's not. It's the way I like my coffee, but the point is I know for five minutes my coffee's going to bruise. So in those five minutes, I don't go on Instagram. I don't check my email. I do a workout in my kitchen.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And that's how I orientate my own morning routine. So I started with mindfulness. Now I've been doing this for a few years, right? And currently my morning routine is about 30 minutes. But that's because I've created a life where I can do that and it works for me. And I get up silly early. That's also because my kids have always been early wisers. And I know if I don't get that time to myself, I'm just not as good a dad and I'm not as good a husband. So my bedtime has got earlier and earlier so I can get up earlier and earlier before my kids do. So I start off with mindfulness, which at the moment is a practice of breath work and then meditation.”
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“So that's my kind of overarching view on why they're so important. So, for me, I know if I do that morning routine, yes, it gives me perspective on my life. It allows me to reflect, but it also feeds the control leg of the core happiness stool. But it also means that I'm not exposing myself to micro stress tests. In fact, I'm getting back to baseline or I'm going into negative. I'm actually giving myself a lot more resilience and capability to face the day. So I was trying to simplify things to people. So I think a complete morning routine for me has got these three M's, mindfulness movement, mindset.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, what I suggest to people is many people leave the house in the morning having already accumulated about 15 microstress doses. So they're already a lot closer to their threshold than they would have otherwise been, which means they've got less resilience. They won't take much for them to get triggered, right? So I think morning routines can be so valuable is they can reduce how many micro stress doses you're exposed to first in the morning. So you are going into your day with much more headroom and much more resilience. But I think they're also useful. You're feeling quite stressed when you wake up and anxious, I think they help almost undo the damage of microstrosis and bring you back to baseline. Was that clear”
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“Each one of those things, right, is a micro stress dose. And each one of those is getting you closer and closer to that stress threshold. The mistake we make is that when something happens at 3 o'clock in the afternoon, right, when that email from your colleague frustrates you, you think it was that email, but it wasn't the email. It was the fact that you've already acquired 20 micro stress doses. You're right at your threshold. You've got no capacity to deal with it. So that email now bothers you.”
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“Man, I'm just going to put it on a snooze. You know, I need a bit more snooze, put it back. Six minutes later, it goes on again, MSD number two. You pick up your phone, you go, I'm quickly going to check email. Oh man, there were these three emails. I didn't get back to yesterday. Oh, man, I need to do that. MSD number three. Have a quick look on Instagram. Someone's left you a snarky comment. MSD number four. Then you realize, oh man, I've been in bed for 10 minutes. I had to get up, get ready. I've got a guest coming to shoot a podcast with. I'm not talking about your life. I'm just saying anyone's life. So here's the point”
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“I'm saying to people, and I've really found this to be true for pretty much everyone, let's say you wake up and you are far away from your threshold. You've had a good night's sleep, right? So you're feeling good. The average morning for a lot of people these days. Okay, let's say the alarm goes off at 6 30. So they're in a deep sleep. Alarm goes off, jolts them out of that sleep. They have to get it. Okay, that's micro stress tose or MSD number one. Okay, pick up the phone.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Big picture view here I have a bias towards morning routines because I have found in my own life that They've really, really helped me. Something to just talk about stress for a moment because this really plays into why I think morning routines are so important. Got this concept of micro stress doses and stress thresholds. So every one of us have got our own unique personal stress threshold, right? That depends on your life, how you deal with things and what's going on. What we get to that threshold that's when things start to go wrong. That's when we snap at someone. We have a fight with our partner. Our neck goes or our back goes into spasm, right? That's when you're at your threshold. Right.”
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“But you can choose your response to every single one of those things. You absolutely can. And when you learn to do that, that's freedom. You know, what's the Victor Frankl quote? In between stimulus and response is a space. In that space lies your power to choose your response. And with your response lies your growth and your freedom.”
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“That is going to lower their stress load, and that means they're going to be better able to show up in their life and deal with their stresses. Right? So when people say, oh, health, happiness, it's the preserve of the middle classes and the wealthy, I disagree. I absolutely disagree. And I'm so passionate to get that message across. Health and happiness can be accessible to everyone. Yes, it can be challenging for some people, no question. There could be lots that you want to change. There could be lots that you ideally would wish it wasn't the way it is.”
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“Actually, we're all having the same universal human experience, the same ingredients are there in all of us that when we apply them, they make our lives better no matter where we are. When I was working in Older, an area of low socioeconomic status, a lot of my patients want benefits, very poor income levels. You know, you would say struggling area financially. I can't take away their poverty and their stress from life. But if I can help them have 10 minutes of themselves each morning and do some breathing practices or even write in a journal what they're feeling.”
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“Conversation with my wife about something that's been bothering me and I haven't said anything yet. Everything I recommends to even is simple. I don't think anything I've suggested so far costs any money at all. Of them actually take that much time. I'm really, really passionate about. Making sure this information is accessible to everyone I've worked in affluent areas I've worked in some very, very deprived areas, right? And actually, we're all Of course, there are different pressures.”
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“Several hours beforehand, who was going to end up needing high dependency beds or intensive care? It was like, it was really simple concept that by doing this regular checks, we can then take aversive action and make sure that person doesn't end up going downhill. And I see my daily practice of solitude as my early warning system. Like it allows me to see what's coming up, right? I know for years, Stephen, I say I know, I know now, but I didn't know then when my stress load was going up work, family pressure, I'd feel this real tightness on my right upper back, but I was so busy I didn't even notice it. Now I notice, I know. If in the morning when I'm doing my solitude practice, I feel it. I'm like, oh, okay, there's stuff going on, right? What is there? Is it work? Is it emotional? And it allows me to intentionally say, okay, do I need to cut out some commitments I've got? Do I need to have a”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Without your phone, without music on, right? Without an app that you're looking at, without distraction, just sit. With a journal if you want, but just see what comes up because often we're so scared of what's going to come up, we distract. And I would say, you know, for me a daily practice of solitude, for me typically it's first thing in the morning is so needed, right? The way I describe it to people Like an early warning system. Right, so when I was a junior doctor in Edinburgh, I remember being taught. You're looking after sick patients. If you do regular what we call ops, so heart rate, respiratory rates, you know, temperature. Depending on what parameters they fit into, we could detect”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, every summer now, I take a social media break. I tried it two years ago for the first, I think three years ago for the first time. It took me a few days to really get into it. Then after two weeks, I didn't want to go back on. Now, I'm not anti-social media, right? I can see the value that it has. I use it to try and spread helpful messaging as you do. I felt really good, and what I really experienced even is I. These deep innermost feelings to come out. I started to figure out what I think. What I think, not what the world thinks, because that's half the problem. Going back to what you said, that person who's confused and doesn't know where to start, here's another tip for them. See if you can have 10 minutes a day.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“15 years ago, you go into any coffee shop in London, you'll be standing in the queue, you'll be waiting. You know, there might be five people in front of you. Fine, you'll be looking around. You might bump into someone you know, you might be daydreaming. Now what happens if you go into any coffee shop? Everyone's head down stuck in their phone, right? You're looking, you're trying to catch up with your emails, just have a quick, cheeky look on Instagram. I'm not criticizing anyone for doing that. But that comes at a cost. It means these little micro moments of downtime where your brain is trying to solve problems for you and process life. They're being lost. If you're constantly consuming, if you're constantly consuming content from outside, whatever it is, even good content. Even nourishing content, if you're constantly consuming, you're not allowing your own thoughts and emotions to come up.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Success is success, happiness is happiness, they can sometimes coincide, but they don't always. But they can do if you back up, if you take a pause, you start to do some of the things that we're talking about, you start to have a bit of time to reflect. You know, solitude, Stephen, is so important. Every bit of our free time now is sucked up. I went to this gorgeous coffee shop next to your studio just before I came in, right? Now I imagine.”
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“Right? Yeah, sure, try it with your parents who hopefully you love. Try it with your enemies. Try it with that person at work you don't like. Try it with that boss who really pisses you off and riles you up every time. Try it. Maybe you can't do that straight away. Maybe you have to work up to that. This is a skill. Happiness is a skill. You can get better at it. But how would you know how to get better at it? When did you get taught the skill of happiness? I didn't get taught it, right? They don't teach it at school. They don't teach it at university. I didn't learn it from my parents. I didn't learn it from society. In fact, the lessons I learned from society were that you need to earn more money. You need to get a better job. You need to get a nicer car, a nicer holiday. Those things are signs of success and therefore happiness. And it's a myth. I think that's the biggest myth we fought for. We think that's what happiness says.”
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“It's true for all of us, actually. I think we can all apply that. Every single interaction in our life. And in fact, my challenge would be try it. Suck it and see. See what life feels like. See what your experience of life physically, viscerally, emotionally. See what it feels like when you start to show up like that day to day. If you're skeptical, okay, I hear your skepticism. My challenge to you if you're skeptical is try it for three days. Just try it. I'm not here to try and convince people. I'm not here to tell people what to do. I know this has literally transformed the way I show up with the world. And try it with your enemies.”
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“Was that the pain of losing was too great because it reminds me on a deep primal level I am not loved when I lose when I'm not the best. So it's that feeling of safety. And here's the other thing. If I did win, I wasn't happy that I won. I was just happy that I didn't lose, right? And then you compensate, you don't realize it. It might be a bit more sugar that evening, a few extra beers that night. That you need something. You need a junk happiness habit to deal with it. We're all going through that. My parents, your parents, right? They've also had childhood programming that they're playing out. And I think when we really get that, we can be compassionate.”
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“Maybe second, third, fourth year at Unicam's Remember. On a Sunday, often after the passing of the Friday and Saturday night, we'd end up in Diane's pool hall in Edinburgh. A game with one of my mates. And I'm a pretty decent pool sneaker player, right? If I was ever losing go into the toilets and look at myself in the mirror, give myself a talking tip, suddenly, give myself a little slap on the face, come back out. More often than not, I would go on and then win the match. And I thought I just liked winning, and I was competitive. That was all the story, complete nonsense. It wasn't that I liked winning.”
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“We create these behavioral patterns usually in childhood, right? Because we want the love and affection of our parents. We want the validation because they're our caregivers. We need that to feel safe. So touching on what we said earlier, I knew that if I came out with 100%, there'd be smiles at home. Everyone's happy, wrong as them well, right? So I internalize that. I think that's the way to be loved in life. Fast forward, I'm at university, and there's a pattern here in all aspects of life. Like whether I was seven and if I lost at Ludo, my mum says I would literally toss the board up and storm out the room. Like I was furious if I lost at Ludo. And it sounds like a funny thing that your mum embarrasses you with from Tinesa. Now, actually, now that I've unpicked it, it's actually very serious. I remember I was at un”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah absolutely and it also comes down to Any trauma that they may be carrying from their childhoods, this is the other thing I've learned, Stephen, is that, you know, without going into details on mum and dads that I don't have permission to share, you know, there were traumatic things that happened early on in mum's life. And so now I can look at that with a deep level of compassion that oh That's why Mum behaves the way she does, because actually she got programmed at a young age that I have to be a certain way. Right? And then you pass it on. And that thing you said about your mum and my mum. Let me share something from my life that maybe just fits in there a little bit, which is”
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“Self-esteem, or I think you just nailed it. That's what it is. It's protection. It's to give you that feeling of safety. That's what we're always craving. We want to feel safe. So it makes you feel safe. Actually, it's not me. It's out there. It's not in here. It's out there. That's the problem. If that changed, I think that's part of it.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, I wasn't calm, a contents you know, at all I'd get triggered. I think they were you know whatever, you know, I may even shout in my car, you know, for the sake of my career should probably just not go any further. But I'm just joking. You know, I'm saying I probably said things in my head or scream them out that I'm not particularly proud of now.”
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“I she, it's so wonderful to see sometimes it's like well done, mum like you're not it's just so wonderful to see that any one of us can change at any age, right? We can make subtle choices, small things that make a big difference. You know, I also grew up very protective. You know, you'd see things that weren't there. Man, if someone cut me up in my 20s, I'm not sure I should even say what went through my mind, right?”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Why ever? I would say this is how. My mum very much has shown up with the world, and similar stories here. You know, there is all kinds of reasons for that. And you absorb that. You think that's the way, you know, that's what your parents, how they react. It's often what you absorb as a child. You think that's the way. So I can't believe they did that. They did that differently. I would feel differently. And it's really understanding that you have a choice. How you show it with the world. You have a choice in how you feel about a situation. You can choose a different story. To be fair to mom, mum's now, AC1, she's pretty immobile. Me or my brother give her breakfast on most days. She is changing”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“He's spot on, Stephen. It also comes from Having lived through the mental turmoil of taking a different path, of blaming others and seeing yourself as a victim. And often we absorb these sort of patterns from our parents, right? I can see clearly now how mum and dads would react to the world. And I can see how I absorbed a lot of that. And I thought that's how you show up with the world. But we can all choose to approach the world differently. Just because you have approached the world a certain way. All the years you've been on this planet, let's say until this conversation, right? Everyone listening or watching has a choice. At the end of this conversation, They can decide whether to act on something they've hurt.”
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“You start to process your insecurities. Then if people praise me now on social media, say, oh, wrong in that podcast changed my life, or your book has really had an impact on me and my mental well-being. I like hearing that, but it doesn't artificially elevate my ego like it might have done a few years ago, but at the same time if I get criticism. If I get criticism, it doesn't drag me down to those depths either. I'm just a lot more level. Did that make sense?”
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“Because it's pressed on one of your insecurities when you get truly secure in who you are, what other people say It doesn't affect you like I've noticed this in my own life, right? We started off the conversation talking about external validation. Like the problem when you need external validation for your self-worth is that when you get it, you feel great or you think you feel great. It's a very fragile way of feeling great. But when you get criticism, you go to the other extreme where you feel worthless and you turn to whatever your junk happiness habit is, Instagram, gambling, drink, porn, whatever it is, right? You turn to that as a way of compensating. But when you do the work, when you look for social friction and you allow it to become your teacher,”
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“In the past, five years ago, when I was first on BBC One, about seven years ago now, actually, I would have got triggered. I got so frustrated. I would have felt really bad. What's going on? Why is this happening? All I'm trying to do is help people would have created this narrative. Now, it's like, why is this triggering me? Is there some truth to it that I can learn from? Or is it because the other person's having a bad day and they're taking it out of me? You become a master if you practice this every day, right? Because what happens is that you take control over your inner. Thoughts, you take control of your own happiness because it's like, okay, it doesn't matter, you're being given opportunities every day to learn something. For me, I can speak, but I know this to be true for most people.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“If you're waiting for them to change in order for you to be happy, well, you could be waiting a long time. And if we go back to my core happiness stool, you've lost control. You have no control because you're dependent on other people. So I talk about this as social friction, right? Just as in the gym, you know, you can do physical friction. You can push up. You can press up against your body and you get stronger. I'm saying you can press up against other people and also get stronger. So every time you get triggered, I actually do this. I do this every single day. Let's say social media. Let's say you get a negative comment. Let's say I get negative comment.”
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“Things that I use the most along with, which sort of goes along with this, and this is sort of the big heading in chapter five of the book, which is called Seek Out Friction, right? Look, this is when you become a master of your own happiness, right? The whole goal of my work at the moment is to, I don't want people to be dependent on the actions of other people for them to be happy, right? If you constantly getting triggered and frustrated by the tone of your colleagues emails or the way that your partner is talking to you, right?”
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“Whatever you think of that, if you can have compassion for that person and understand if I was them, I'd be doing the same thing. It changes everything. It changes your physiology. It changes your perspective. And why I think that's so powerful, particularly now more than ever, Stephen. Like we seemingly we're in a very divided and toxic world, right? Seemingly. What we need is more compassion, right? But how do you get compassion? We can't just say, you know, I want to be more compassionate. That can work for some people. Use this, right? Make them a hero. Say to yourself, if I were them, I'd be doing the same thing. You know, it really helps humanity. It helps you feel better individually, but it will help connect you with people around you, people who've got different views and perspectives. It allows you to sit alongside them. So this is probably one of the...”
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“Let's just see could we write a different story? What might have happened? Well, it could be that every shopper that day took one extra role. And so by the end of the day, when the TV cameras came in, no one actually did anything that bad. They just took one extra role. And the supermarket stock was all planned around average shopping habits and behaviors. Okay, it could be that someone was really, really scared and anxious. And let's say they've got colitis and they have to go to the toilet 20 times a day and they're petrified. So maybe they did go and buy 10 packs. Or maybe, let's say to another extreme, maybe someone is skint, right? They've got no money. They've got no prospects in life. They thought, you know what, I can make a fortune here. I'm going to get them all. I'm going to sell them on eBay. Okay”
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“Toilet roll shortage on the shelves, right? So, what do people do? Now, I understand that was a very unique situation. People are getting triggered, people are getting scared. I understand that. But let's look at what was happening. People were bad-mouthing. Who are these people who are taking all these...”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, the way I put it in the book, there's this little section called Make Everyone a Hero. I think it's such a great sentiment in life. Whenever something happens you don't like, make them a hero. Make them a hero. I challenge people. Try that for seven days if your life has not been improved in any way, fine. Forget it. Say the guy was spouting nonsense. I'm not interested. I'm getting back to my cynical nature. I'm going to see the worst than everyone, right? Fine, it's up to people. Make them hearer. The person who cuts you up, find a way to make them a hero in your heads. Right? March 2020, what happened? Everything's getting locked down.”
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“You will ever live in is the prison you create inside your minds. So, for people who are listening who struggle to forgive, who struggle to see the other side, who see someone put a tweet up and then spend an hour getting agitated and frustrated, Humbly suggest to you if Edith Eager can write a different story. In the hell of Auschwitz. I kind of feel we probably can as well.”
2022-03-28 · The Diary of a CEO · Dr Rangan Chatterjee: 3 Steps To "Core" Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Is that you can always create a different story on any single event. She said, when she was in Auschwitz, she was totally free. The prisoners, they weren't free. They were the ones who won't be able to act and behave the way that they wanted to. They were trapped. In her mind she was free. After her parents had died, she had to dance for the guards, right? And she said, The last thing my mum said to me was Edith, nobody can ever take away from you what you put inside your mind. So she's dancing there. She knows her parents are dead, but in her mind she said Wrong and I was dancing in Budapest Opera House. There was a full orchestra, there was a full crowd. I was dancing there. The other thing she said to me It's I've been in Auschwitz, but I can tell you the greatest prison.”
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“We know that anyone who's got a partner or had a partner, you have a row, you have a disagreement. Well, depending on which side of the table you're sitting on, you have a completely different perspective of the same situation. Right. So I say in any situation, choose a happiness story, right? I'll give you another example. One of the most profound conversations I have ever had on my podcast was with this lady called Edith Eager. When I spoke to her last year she was ninety three years old. Age of 16 Was getting ready that evening, she had a date with her boyfriend. Knock on the door, her parents, her and her sister get put on a train, taken to Auschwitz. Within a couple of hours of getting there. Edith's parents get murdered. Somehow she gets through. That she is, she survives. What she has taught me.”
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“If they could act differently, they would. And what that does is it brings such a deep sense of compassion to every single day of your life. You can start to have a perspective for them, for example. It could be maybe their daughter was sick last night and up and they didn't get much sleep. Maybe they think they're going to lose their job when they're late for work. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. The truth doesn't matter, right? For your happiness, the truth I would say doesn't matter. Again, I don't mean to be controversial, but I think some people will take that. I think that's quite controversial. You're a football fan, right? There was a study done football match, one incident, right? Two sets of fans, they were interviewed about the incident. Both of them had a completely different perspective on the same incident, right? We all know that. There's a foul or, you know, one seems like, that's definitely a foul. That's a foul and a yellow card. The other side, that was nothing. He didn't touch him.”
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“You just forget all that stuff for a moment and go, okay, let me just see if I can start broadening my perspective. Because once you start broadening your perspective and start seeing things from somebody else's perspective, it changes everything. So one of the ways I do this is to understand that this phrase, yeah, I'll go as far as this. This phrase has had the most impacts on my health and happiness above anything else. If I was the other person, I would be doing exactly the same as them. Again, a very simple phrase, but when you really, really get it, you're basically saying, if I was that person, with their childhood. With their parents, with their life experiences, I would be acting in exactly the same way as them. And if you think you wouldn't, I would very gently invite you to consider that this may be your ego talking.”
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“Man, I could see it in you. I can see it in my patients. But you know what? It's pretty hearts sometimes to put the mirror up and see it in yourself. Do you know what I mean? I think the other, you know, I think you've asked a brilliant question, what can that person do? I think the other thing, probably arguably the biggest, this is the biggest thing I think that's had the most impact on my happiness and wider health over the past few years. This understanding of perspective. There are multiple perspectives. Same situation. And I think this is a really important point for people to get. So let's say someone's stuck in their life. I don't know what to do. I'm trapped here, right? I don't know. I get up, I go to work, you know, I try and look after my family. I don't know this stuff about values and all that kind of stuff. Okay, fine.”
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“Make an effort once a week. I'm going to phone one of my best mates just for 10 minutes, just to say hi. Even that's helping you become more aligned. It's helping you get to that happy ending. So maybe there's some useful stuff in there for people to kind of take and actually start applying.”
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“compassionate doing things for others, enthusiastic, present and in the moment, right? All of us. And what I love about these exercises, they really bring awareness and intention to your life. You could say, yeah, I really value health. I really value my health and well-being. And then they can assess their life and go, I do nothing each week to support that. I say that's who I am, but I'm not. You can say, as I did for many years, I valued my friends. You know why I got so busy with work, I wasn't making time to see them. And again, it's not about beating yourself up. This is really, really important point. This is about honesty and awareness, right? You're never going to become the person who you want to be until you know who is the person you are right now. It's not about guilt. It's not about shame. It's about just transparency going, okay, all right. I'm not aligned at the moment. Okay, fine. No problem. I'm going to take one step this week. I'm going to...”
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“Yeah. So I know. Each week, then, for happiness habits, if I have, let's say, five meals. Around the dinner's table with my wife and kids, that where there's no phones and were totally understood in the moment, right? I know that I'm doing that. I know if I record an episode of my podcast each week, I know that I'm doing something that's going to improve the lives of other people. And if I have time to, I don't know, play guitar, play snooker. You know, whatever, you know, I've got all kinds of creative passions each week, then I know that if I just consistently do that, just a little bit each week, I'm getting to the happy ending that I want. And for that person who may be listening to this and struggling, that may be something else that they can start doing. What's really interesting, Stephen, is we think we're all quite different. There was a study from last year which showed us that actually, despite all our differences, we feel as if we're being our true authentic selves when we're being kind.”
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“Relationship piece. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And so this is not about catching anyone out. This is something I think we can all benefit from, myself, including on a regular basis. It doesn't mean you can automatically change the entire trajectory of your life, but it does mean this is about intention, right? It's like if that's what the goal is at the end. Well, like for me, I know. Three happiness habits for me are Number one, spending undistracted time with my wife and my children each week. really importance two doing something that helps improve the health and well being of others three. Having time to pursue things that I'm passionate about. Those are kind of my three. I'm doing the final piece”
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“I love them. I mean, first of all, thanks for sharing that. So, what's really interesting when you do the second part now And go back and redo the first one What's really useful, I think there's a real deceptive simplicity with this exercise. It gives you the sort of granular day-to-day Look at your life and happiness, and it gives you the $30,000 for kind of big picture view. And you can see if they're aligned. So if you do the three happiness habits each week, doing something for someone else. Sorry, serving others, engaging creatively, and, you know, moving. Will that get you to your happy ending?”
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“Okay, no, no. I think they probably are. And I'll share mine in just a second. Second here. So let's go to the second part of the ex science. Okay, it's called Right Your Happy Ending. So imagine now you're on your deathbed. So at the end, if this is it, right Look back on your life. What are three things you will want to have done?”
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“Yeah, okay, so you've picked what I call three happiness habits. So each week, and please correct me if I've misinterpreted any of this Each week, if you could do something that serves others. If you could engage in your artistic passions. And you could do a form of movement you enjoy.”
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