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Thomas Curran

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“Well, I would say it would be tricky, not impossible, but I think there would be a lot of clashes, a lot of... Tensions perhaps, but that's not to say it couldn't be worked through. That's not to say that, you know, love is love at the end of the day. But yeah, I would say it would be a challenge for sure.”
2023-11-01 · In Good Company with Nicolai Tangen · Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Of course, look, there will be definite cultural differences in perfectionism. We don't again, this is a great thing about perfectionism in some ways as an academic because the data is very limited. So there's a lot of opportunity to explore these research questions. What we do know from the data that we've collated is that if you look at self-orientism, for instance, that high self-set need and desire to be perfect, well, that's really high in the US, for example. But not so high in European countries. So the kind of very individualistic focus of the US economy, you know, the kind of American dream, so to speak, certainly is impacting on people's psychologies in terms of self-oriented, but less so in other areas. So we do see some differences that are linked to culture. And there's a lot of grounds to suggest that this is a very culturally dependent trait, and that's certainly the basis of my book, actually, is perfectionism, a cultural phenomenon. So I need more data, but I'd certainly say that there's...”
2023-11-01 · In Good Company with Nicolai Tangen · Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Certain to a certain degree, yes, about 30 to 40 percent of self-oriented perfectionism is inherited. So if you have perfectionistic parents, it's highly likely you'll probably carry some of those tendencies through yourself. But that also leaves a lot for the environment to explain. So it's a mixture of both.”
2023-11-01 · In Good Company with Nicolai Tangen · Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Self-oriented imperfectionism is a burning need to be perfect and nothing but perfect. And it comes with self-critical tendencies when we haven't met those high and excessive standards. So when we feel like we fell short, we feel very self-critical. We go in on ourselves. How could you be so stupid? What we think in sort of internal dialogue.”
2023-11-01 · In Good Company with Nicolai Tangen · Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source
“Okay, so I guess Starting point for understanding perfectionism is really to get into the weeds of it a little bit and understand where it begins. And perfectionism begins with a place of lack and a place of deficit of a feeling that we are not quite enough, not perfect enough. And from that starting point, what we're trying to do as perfectionistic people is conceal, disguise, hide, to repair in some way what we know deep down to be an imperfect self. So perfectionism is really about trying to overcome what we feel is deficit and lack through excessive standards, through trying to project into the world a perfect image of ourselves we want other people to see perfect performances, perfect appearances because of that starting back.”
2023-11-01 · In Good Company with Nicolai Tangen · Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT · source