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Jack Kornfield

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first: 2018-03-05
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“Well, two things come to mind. One is a question that when I sit with people many times at the end of their life that they then ask of themselves silently or out loud is did I love well? Because in the end what matters really The billboard would have a question rather than a statement and it would have a question something like How could I love myself better? So that it actually, it's not that I'm going to tell them something they already know this, but I'm going to remind those.”
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“Of 30 years, the British Parliament outlawed slavery in the British Empire decades before it happened in the US. And the Quakers were a big part of this, and the Quakers famously wouldn't take their hats off for the king. But when, what is his name Thomas Clarkson, who was the center of this group trying to end slavery and going everywhere to do it, when Thomas Clarkson died, all the Quakers of the England took their hats off because he'd freed so many spirits and so many lives. We have these amazing possibilities as human beings and we're just growing into them now culturally and it's about time. But they are possible and we each have a contribution to make it.”
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“Few centuries of the development of certain abilities for peacemaking, there's actually less war than there'd been, you know, respect for women, the reduction in child labor, all kinds of things. And in that same regard, there's a wonderful book called Bury the Chains, which is about the ending of slavery in the British Empire, starting with this handful of men who met in a British tea shop or printing shop and spent 30 years writing around the country bringing ex-slaves who were well spoken to talk about the Middle Passage and the horrors of slavery and so forth. And even though the British Empire's economic engine was built around slavery and sugar by the end of their work,”
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“Zantex from thousand years ago says to be awakened or enlightened is one with the trusting heart and mind. And it doesn't mean that we won't go through hard times we always have and we will again and we are now in many ways, but that we also have born within us the capacity to meet these difficulties with understanding and with courage, with compassion, and to transform them. And in that way, one of my favorite recent books is called The Better Angels of Our Nature by Stephen Pinker. He's a remarkable professor at Harvard Anthropologist, historian, talking about the growing consciousness of humanity in spite of the kind of wars and conflict and environmental things. There are so many good things that have happened that he charts over the last”
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“So for books, if you want something simple, I have books like an introduction to meditation that sounds true publishers, or I have a little book called The Art of Forgiveness, Loving Kindness and Peace, which is very simple stories and practices. If you want something that's richer and fuller, then you could look at one of my bigger books like A Path with Heart or The Wise Heart, the Guide to the Principles of Buddhist Psychology. And again, I think lots of stuff online and soundstrue is particularly a good place to go, along with my website. Then, and that 40-day mindfulness mindfulness daily, which has like 30 bucks or something, and is a really wonderful way to start. In terms of what I had written about the trusting heart, one of the greatest”
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“Kids who are trying to initiate themselves on the streets by shooting somebody or doing something that shows that they're brave, but it's not a lion. It's another person. Or trying to get the attention of the others and say prove how powerful or strong they are. So we desperately need these and we need them built into our education and to our psychology. And I can't give you a simple answer, but one of the people who has the most intelligence about this is a man, a colleague of mine named Michael Meade. And if you look at mosaic, multicultural foundation, his writings on initiation and what's possible here and the things he's led are very, very inspiring. So that's a place that I would look.”
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“Tradition in East Africa and the Maasai people, as everybody's heard, you know, a young man at a certain age of 14 or something will go out and kill a lion to prove that they're now an adult member of the society and that they're brave and that's part of their initiation. There were initiations for young women as well and it's not just in Africa the Mayans had initiations and in Thailand when I lived there back starting in the 1960s at that point almost every young man and many young women when they reached the age of 1920 they became a monk for three months or for a year and lived in an austere way and it was part of their initiation to learn both the inner life of themselves and also a kind of discipline. We don't have it and because of it”
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“So what you're talking about is a really big subject. It's a subject of initiation. And unfortunately, Bar Mitz was at least when I was a relatively lightweight and meaningless thing. You get up there and you recite your Hebrew portion of the Bible and now you're a man and they give you a bunch of presents. And there wasn't a lot of meaning in it. But the problem that you raise is that of the lack of initiation. And what's true is that it's been forgotten in our culture. One of the few places you get initiation is going into the military. That's an initiation. But a lot of these gang kids, for example, they're trying to initiate themselves, which can't really happen. You need elders and you need it in a ritualized way. But they'll go on, you know, if you're in the Maasai.”
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“Together for a long time as if we could sing them back into their bodies from this, as if they were lying there in the court of the king. So this is, and you ask the question, how do you make a setting that allows people to truly feel that they can tell their stories and be held in compassion, whether it's the grief of these gang kids that no one's really given them the place to give voice to, you know, or the vet who says, I can't tell you what I had to do.”
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“released the violence and the fears that they carried and planted their crops again and loved their families and resumed living in harmony with the community from which they came. And they told the ancient stories and sang the songs for three days and nights and when it was over Kukulane's eyes opened they untied him and he was back as a normal human being again. And after Michael told this story to vets who'd been telling terrible accounts of things that happened in this room 100 men stood up and we'd been working with a simple African chant, a song that was really an African chant of a prayer hold me for this living as hard. We all sang to the vets.”
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“And because it was slowed down, then the second thing they did was take a rope and tie it around him and put him in a huge cauldron of cold water which hissed off his body. And then they filled it three times with cold water and finally his body cooled down. And then the third thing they did is they took him and still bound and they lay him on a carpet in the court of the local king and they sang to him the stories and myths and songs of warriors who had protected the kingdom and then come back.”
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“King and army that had come to threaten their area. And so Kulane went out and almost single-handedly chased them and defeated them. But then he was coming back to his own town in a chariot covered with blood and his eyes blazing, bearing down on his own town, still possessed with the violence of war, with the god Mars. And they were all terrified he would come and do violence there too. And so they ran out, what can we do? What can we do? And they went to ask the old wise woman in the village, and she said three things. And so the first thing they lined up all the women in the village who bared their breasts. And this lowed him down as if it reminded him of his mother.”
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“So here we are, and there's these vets, and already stories have started to pour out about, I can't tell you what I saw, I can't tell you what I had to do. And Michael stood up and he said, let me tell you an old Irish story of an Irish warrior named Kokulane, or I'm not sure how his name is pronounced, something like that. And he was the most fierce and famous of all Irish warriors. And the Irish warriors were madmen because they would go out, they'd paint their bodies and they'd go out naked. And sometimes you just see them coming and you'd run the other way. But anyway, there was some marauding.”
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“Things that Michael Meade, Luisa Rodriguez, these guys from Mosaic Multicultural Foundation that I've worked with for years and are really wonderful. Michael, who's a great drummer and a storyteller and mythologist who's also been working in prisons and with vets and gang kids for years, he'll say, let me tell you an ancient story of returning warriors. And he has a handful of stories from Africa to Tibet or the Mayan tradition about warriors coming back with their hands covered with blood. And, you know, their eyes filled with the Mars with the martial energy that they can't stop the violence because it's taken them over. And here's a myth or a story that tells about how ancient warriors were brought back into their community. I'll tell you the myth if you want to hear one of them”
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“Say bring it back in and say their name and put their stone by this candle. The simplest possible ritual, and these guys and sometimes gals will come in, and their hands are full of stones. No young people should know that many dead people. And they'll say, this is for Tito and this is for RJ and this is for homegirl. And pretty soon there's a mound of stones and the names of people they've lost were put into the fabric of the air of that room and their hoods are no longer over their heads. They're sitting up like, okay, this is a place where we can talk about what's really going on. So there's something about making whether it's through the simplest ritual or making a container in which people realize that this is a safe place to talk about what we've never done before. With the vets, one of the”
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“Setting that honors who they are from the very beginning and say, well, we can't talk yet about the real things that we came here to do because there are too many people in this room who have not been acknowledged and not been respected. So would you go out in the parking lot and pick up a stone for every young person you know who's been killed and we light one candle and put it in the center of a table?”
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“Door for them to share these stories. So, a couple of images, one with gang kids and then one with vets. For gang kids who come in, or these kids who are trying to get out of gangs and might come with a mentor or something like that to some events we've had. You can get these guys in there, you know, their hoods are up and their hats are on backward and they're lean back and saying, like, come on, man, you're going to teach us meditation. You're going to teach us, give us some poems, stories or bits. Listen, we're out on the street. People got nine millimeters. You got to give us something better than that. So we try to make a”
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“And we need that. I do a lot of teaching of forgiveness practice and self-forgiveness. Those are also on those guided meditations that I teach. And for a lot of us, self-forgiveness like self-compassion becomes a very, very important way to liberate ourselves from what we had to do to survive in the past so that we're actually free in our life.”
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“And so it's locked up in their hearts, you know, and then what do they have? They can drink or they can distract themselves or get in blind rages periodically. But if you get a room of returning combat vets and hold it with a proper space of understanding and compassion, not only can they tell their stories, which they've never told, but they can listen to one another and say, oh yeah, I've been there and all of a sudden they're not so alone anymore. And that release of the weight on their heart. So there's a social dimension to trauma where we need to tell the story helps them release also what's carried in their nervous system and in their body. And there's some correlation between those two together that becomes very powerful.”
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“Capacities that we have to be present without getting lost to bring an understanding attention to these energies, just as you were doing with anger in ourselves are really, really liberating. And sometimes what's needed, like for the vets or the people coming back from the war, is also a kind of forgiveness practice in trauma work. And we'll come together and they'll say things like I can't tell you what I saw. Because in fact, people don't want to hear the horrors of war. They can't tell the story, and if they do often they re-traumatize themselves. And the people around them couldn't bear it. But there's something worse because they'll say, I can't tell you what I had to do.”
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“I'm the chairman of Ford Motors. He was actually the CEO perhaps before that. He's the chairman of Ford Motors. And he talks about it too. It was in 2008, I guess, when the auto industry was just about to melt down. And he called. We'd had some contact. He's a meditator. And he said, you know, I'm going to lose my grandfather's company and maybe the whole industry on my watch and it's hard to sleep. What can I do? And we did loving kindness practices and mindfulness practices together and so forth. And I gave him some practices that he could use. And it turns out that at whatever level you're on, whether you're incarcerated or whether you're a CEO or whether you're a returning vet, that these inner”
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“And down in Anaheim and gave a talk, you know, here's a room full of 3,000 or 5,000 people. And I ask, how many of you have some experience of meditation or mindfulness practice? And the majority of the hands went up. And that would not have happened 20 or 30 years ago. So Eastern psychology is now becoming more invisibly woven into the understandings of clinical psychology in the West, and it's beautiful. Now I want to say something else, you know, when you talk about working with a variety of population. CEOs, and there's a dialogue that Bill Ford and I did. He was that time.”
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“We're real interested to say, does this work elsewhere? So I came back and thought, well, what can I do? I got a couple jobs right away. And of course, what I knew how to do was be a student. But I was now a student of the mind and the heart. And I thought, well, how do I learn more about what happened to me in the monastery? Oh, I'll study Western psychology. And so that started me on that particular path. And I learned a lot of complementary things. There's some very good trauma work in the West that I've learned about that really enhances the compassion and loving kindness and mindfulness things that I learned in the temple. And now I've done a lot of years of teaching Eastern and Western psychology together. These principles that I've learned are spreading so widely in Western”
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“So after the first five years in Asia, there were a few other Westerners who would become monks. It was a handful, and some were going to stay for the rest of their lives. I'd learned a lot. And so that was kind of a choice. Am I just going to stay? And I realized, no, I want a family. I want a lover. You know, I was a young man after all, and just the celibacy for those years was actually pretty hard. I want to see if what I have learned really translates into the life back home. I don't want to just leave it. And so it was unrestling, but it became very clear to me that I wasn't fit for the monastery for the rest of my life. I had other, not only other desires, but also and longings, but also”
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“Or whoever it happens to be, the Dalai Lama, or whoever happens to come to you, the Buddha or some other great figure, that actually the goddess of compassion, that we carry that wisdom in our own heart. And part of what these contemplative trainings do is they give us access just by taking a little pause. It didn't take you 30 seconds. Okay, he appears. What do I do? Here's how my body would feel. perspective should I bring? Here's efficient and benevolent use of energy. Okay, now I remember. So these answers for the questions of the psyche and the heart don't require Going somewhere, they ask us to quiet and begin to listen. And as you do, then you discover your own inherent wisdom and your own compassion as well because the benevolent use that he offers to you, where does that live? It lives in Tim. It lives in you.”
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“Hell's going on, so I'll. You have your Zen training ahead. I mean, the other thing that... That's great, and then that you can hear in this rather than by giving you a cookie cutter answer, is that we actually have the wisdom that we're seeking or that's available. We have it in ourselves. I mean, you didn't have to fly to, you know, Kyoto and get in your time machine to go back and see Jigoro Kano.”
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“So take that in, take his intention, Zoe, and Zenyoko, Zenyo, the benevolent and efficient use of it, feel the pyramid, and now your assignment is that the next five times that this comes, which it will, maybe tomorrow or next week or so forth, bring in the blue pyramid, stable, powerful, cooling, so the energy is still there, and then you hear his voice say Zenyoko, Zenyo, and you go, oh yeah, I can use this, but I can use it in a benevolent way. And try it five times, and then text me, let me know what happened. Because now we're closing the loop. If you do it and see, now you're responsible. If you agree that you're going to do it, it's sort of it gooses the game a little bit. You go, okay, now I better do it because I have to let Jack know what happened.”
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“He comes up to you after giving you this gift and he touches you kindly on the shoulder and he has a few words of advice of how to handle this powerful energy that comes up in you because he knows all about it. And what does he whisper into your ear kindly”
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“What you're practicing, and you know this very well in athletics that. Yes, you practice things, but other times you also practice envisioning, whether it's playing piano or whether it's some Olympic training, that some of the times you just do it through visualization and it activates a lot of the same neural circuitry. So here you're starting to get the feeling. Of what it's like to be in the middle of this upwelling of anger and so forth, and then taking a couple of breaths and feeling the blue And the power then of that presence that cools you and allows the anger to be there but not in the same uncontrolled way. Now there's one more thing, and that is if you imagine again Jigoro Kano, I believe you said his name is.”
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“All right, so now what I want you to do is imagine taking this blue pyramid gift, which represents a kind of extreme stability and also a kind of power and cooling that's given to you by Jigaro Kano. And taking this into your body so that there you are filled with this energy and anger, you know, this huge wave of, you let that be there and you take this pyramid in and you let that energy be inside this stable, grounded place of power and feel what it's like to be inside this blue pyramid with this energy and feel how it affects it. Just notice as if there you're in that circumstance and now I'm remembering I am the blue pyramid and what does it feel like?”
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“All right, so we'll stay with it, and then there's one more little piece. So he gives you this pyramid. Free associate a little bit on what it might possibly mean because these symbols are like dream images and they come from a deep place in your psyche and this pyramid has a message for you, this blue pyramid. Just guess what it might be.”
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“And then you say, yeah, but how do I manage this when it takes me over? And so this end master or whoever comes reaches under their robe and pulls out a gift for you, which is a clear symbol of exactly what you need in that moment to help you regulate it so that you can keep the energy, but do it in a way that doesn't cause harm to you or another. And this clear symbol, you'll be able to see it's just what you need. So let yourself picture the gift that they put in your hand and let yourself imagine, see and vision picture what it is. And if you can't see it clearly, hold it up to the sunlight, you'll be able to.”
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“And see who appears. Somebody appears to you. And first, they look at you and they smile and they say, yeah, this is really, this is the big energy. And they appreciate you. So instead of saying, oh, you're a doofus, they say, oh, yeah, you actually carry some powerful energy and they acknowledge that they bow to you. Yeah, Tim, you've got it.”
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“Is that the wisest figure you can imagine, maybe it's the Buddha or maybe it's, I don't know, doesn't matter some great master or martial arts master who's mastered themselves as well as their art comes to you and let yourself imagine somebody's going to teach you how to manage this powerful energy.”
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“Then your question is what can I do to modulate it? I could give you, you know, okay, take some breaths, ground yourself, look at that other person, blah, blah, blah. But instead, as we're talking, let yourself Picture a circumstance recently. It might have been with the contractor doing your cabin or something else. And that uprising of the injustice of it and how right you are and how you're going to get this goddamn thing done and how you have to be hard and strong. You feel all that and feel that energy in your body. First thing is just remember what it felt like. And now you're becoming the kind of mindful loving witness of it and saying, wow, this is a lot of energy. So, can you feel that and remember that? Oh, yeah. Okay. Now next step.”
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“Well, I could give you an answer. First I just want to say that that anger, you know, yes, it's your habit or maybe your temperament, that's energy. And there's nothing wrong with energy. It's the power to let you do all the kind of things you've done in your life that are tremendously creative or resourceful or daring or whatever kinds of things. So you want to respect, okay, I'm getting filled with energy. And it might be then you want to lash out. But first you want to respect that energy. Wow, let me feel this in my buddy. Anger. How big is it? Okay. Then your question is.”
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“Yeah, nice, get it done. He was a fucking contractor and I decided to speak contractor ease, get the goddamn job done or I'll haul your ass and go, okay, I get it. Yeah, I'll send a team over. And that's all it took. So there's something playful about that as well. It's not that you can't, I've seen the Dalai Lama get angry at people. It's not that you can't use that power and that understanding when it's necessary to get very strong or forceful. And you don't have to judge yourself unless you hurt people. And then, of course, that's the misuse of it. But it's just part of being human.”
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“The other thing is that I have the same experience where we had a big remodel of our house when I was Some years ago, raising my daughter in my first marriage, and we were supposed to go and teach and travel in Europe, and this guy who was a good contractor, but everything, of course, gets more expensive and you have to do this. And it kept getting slowed down. I said, you are going to get this done so we could make these decisions form into Europe, and it's not happening. You've got to hurry up. I do that like three or four different times, and it doesn't happen. Finally, I go in. I get tests and I say, listen, you know, you said this in our contract, it was going to be done by the, and if you don't fucking get this done by the time I'm going to pull your ass in court and sue you, because I need this done, and I'm not going to pay you the goddamn money. He looked at me and he said, oh, you really want this done, don't you? I said, yes. Next day, there's a huge crew. It starts to get done. And I realized, okay, what I've been sort of talking meditation.”
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“And similarly, you have a personality. And anybody who has a number of kids realizes that you don't come in Tabla Rasa, that you actually, this kid is born and has this kind of temperament. So just like you don't want to look too closely at the body sometimes, you don't want to look back closely to the personality either. You know, it has its foibles and its fears and, you know, all of that. And so you start to kind of look at it and say, oh, there's a really good example of how neurotic I can get. Thank you. Thank you for reminding me. And then you get a little sort of like the keeper of the zoo, a little more tender with those kind of creatures. So it's bringing in the non-judgment or the loving kindness for the way that you actually are and not your ideal or bringing compassion, you could say. Yeah, this is a tough one and this triggered. I got triggered. So what?”
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“Oh, so there's a number of things to say. Yeah, first of all, you could call it relapsing or you could just call it like, yeah, this is being human. One of the most beloved poet in Japan was his endmaster named Ryokan. And there's a two-line verse of his that I particularly find fitting for this where he wrote, last year a foolish monk, this year, no change. And you can sort of feel the humor and the tenderness in it. And there's a way in which you see your personality that point, you know, you have a body, you have this particular body you're born with, and you can transform it in certain ways within the limits of the body that you were given.”
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“Or, you know, I don't know how old humanity is, but it's time to grow up. So that this work that we're talking about is both individual, but as you learn to meet your own life with greater understanding and compassion, it empowers you to move through the world in a different way and to help others do the same. And then you get that kind of joy of tutu in the Dalai Lama that you're somehow part of an awakening that you humanity now needs more than ever.”
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“And so we are now, you know, we've made these enormous developments outwardly where you have the great library of Alexandria and your smartphone in your pocket along with a million cat YouTubes or whatever. But there it is. It's all in there. And then What we need is collectively to develop a transformation inwardly of our inner life that is parallel to this enormous outer transformation. And the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff some years ago said we are a nation of nuclear giants and ethical infants”
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“And then Tutu starts to laugh and giggle and say, you know, I've been through so much, but I am not going to let myself live in that place. I'm going to let myself live in that which affirms life and in a kind of profound joy that we made it, that we're still alive, that we can contribute, that we can be here in this beautiful earth. And this shift of consciousness is what's needed for the world. Because if we look honestly, no amount of technology alone is going to save us. Nanotechnology and space technology and biotechnology and worldwide web internet computer or supercomputer technology is going to stop continuing warfare and racism and tribalism and environmental destruction. Those are happening based on consciousness of the human”
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“Country where he can't return and the burning of temples and texts and all of those things. And he and Tutu had a week together when they were asked, and this created this book, how can you be joyful? How can you laugh like this when you live through apartheid and the death of so many people around you? And Dalai Lama, they banter back and forth. Like brothers, Dalai Lama says, so much has been taken from me. You know, they've taken our sacred texts, they've taken our ability to make prayers in public. They've taken so much of our culture. Why should I let them take my happiness?”
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“And there is something both witty which he was, but also profound about it because we are not just our parental history or the historical circumstances of this place and body that we were born into, and something in us knows this so that when you look at the, there's a wonderful book that came out last year or the year before called The Book of Joy, which was a conversation between the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu. And both of them have marvelous laughs. I think people go to hear the Dalai Lama by the tens of thousands, not just for the Tibetan teaching, some of which are actually hard to understand, or even the fact that he's this Nobel Prize-winning world figure. I think people go to hear him laugh, that somebody who's carried so much suffering from the loss of his”
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“teaching devotional practices and meditation practices and he had a beard and white robes and beads and he was sort of in the guru outfit and a woman in the front row raised her hand and said aren't you Jewish what's with this Hindu stuff and Ramdas said well yes I am actually I was Bar Mitzvah as I was too and there are many things I love about the Jewish spiritual tradition, the generosity of it, the Kabbalah, all the great teachings on the many stages and states of consciousness, the Hasidic masters who are like Zen masters. And then he paused and looked at and he said, but remember. I'm only Jewish on my parent's side, but”
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“In a room, how many have had this particular kind where you knew someone died when they died, you know, a quarter of the hands will go up. Why is this? It's because who we are is not this body. We are the consciousness itself. And so with all these practices, what they allow us to do is to step out of what's called the small sense of self or the body of fear and reconnect with a field of connection, of interdependence, of compassion. And to take our history and to honor it, but not be bound by it. One of my favorite stories is of Ramdas, again, this wonderful spiritual teacher in the early years when he came back from being with his guru in India. He was sitting up there”
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“Youngest brother's wife Esta was dying of cancer and she is just a beautiful being and I spent quite a bit of time with her and with my brother. I had gone home, she was close to dying. I'd gone home to sleep and I wanted to get up early and hurry back because it was very close and I got my car. I had to stop at the drugstore to pick up a prescription hurriedly running dashing through the aisles and so forth. And I'm at the checkout counter and all of a sudden my whole body relaxed and I thought, oh, Esther died. And I got out to the car and I called my brother. I said, how's it going? He said, oh, Esther died a few minutes ago. And I said, I know. I'll be there shortly. And we've all had these experiences. If I ask,”
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“You for that, and now I have a different capacity. And let me just talk about that capacity a little bit because the capacity for presence and the great heart of compassion that's said to be your birthright is a really mysterious thing. Talk about identity.”
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“Yeah, thank you for bringing it up because it's so important for people when we come to that hypercritical shame place, we feel very vulnerable and we've been identified with it because you needed it. I needed these things for survival. And if you try to get rid of this stuff, you just end up in a fruitless battle against yourself and it's just more judgment. So what you described as saying, thank you for helping me survive. I appreciate it. Let me put it on the shelf or the altar. I'll put it in the lap of the Buddha or whoever, you know, the goddess of infinite compassion. You hold it for me. If I need it, I'll pull it back. And that sense that this isn't who you are, it doesn't describe who you are. It isn't who you are. It was a strategy because we're vulnerable beings and you were tender as a child. And you had to make sure you could survive.”
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