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  1. “So, yeah, I think I do the small things now so that in the long term in the future, someone else can reap the benefits that I did of them.”

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  2. “He only really ever did these things, not for himself, but for people that didn't exist yet. Almost like confidence is predicting success in the future. We can create success in the future by doing these small things. So I think it's definitely stemmed from that where it's not so much about me because I'm happy now. But if I keep doing these things, I can create happiness for people further down the line. We talk about privilege as well. Like we could talk about any form of privilege, whether it's racial, economic, whatever. We need to take some ownership that the reason someone like me can take and experience privilege now is the fact that people before me were long-sighted with their goals and ambitions and the people before them were as well. My parents made very smart decisions for me to be able to be able to go to Australia at 27. That is a privilege for some people. They have family members that rely on them. They have professional, if you're a police officer, you work in a hospital. You don't have the luxury of just leaving your precinct to go on a jolly to the other side of the world as a PTI did.”

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  3. “I think one thing it's difficult to credit yourself with stuff, but I've always been very good at seeing long-term benefit of short-term actions. And for me, even little things, I've got a strange insight. My dad commuted into London for 50 years, same business every day. It's about an hour and 25 minutes from where we live. There I'm back every day. He never pulled sick days. He was never lazy. My mom was also incredibly consistent with the upbringing of me and my sister. And I look back at the amount of sacrifice that they made, short little things like putting up with my behavior or my dad going into work on a train every day. And I think.”

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  4. “Instant gratification and evidently not enough people have that ability. And there have been so many days where I've just not wanted to do anything. But you do it anyway. And you kind of fall in love with these very small, minute repetitions. And it's the only thing that I've ever really found hard in my life. And it definitely sounds like I'm coming from a point of privilege. I feel like I've done a disservice. You probably expected a lot more battle-hardened people. I wish I could say it was a tour of Afghanistan or working in a ward during COVID or, you know, saving someone's life Probably haven't probably done Liver King Dirty a little bit there.”

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  5. “The only real thing that I would say has been hard or even noteworthy would be the ability. Fall in love with repetition of dull tasks. It sounds like really weird thing to say. It's the only really painful thing I've ever done in my life, really, where there are things you need to do every day consistently for years without any form of”

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  6. “I've got to try and answer this. That sounds like a pussy. Rite of passage. Hardest thing I've ever done. All the things that come to mind are like jokes I can make, like putting up with Diran's disorganization or something, you know, Bal, I've got to think about serious answer.”

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  7. “I'm a nervous. That's a question I feel like is you know when you're at an interview like ready to get a job, the like the last question if you want to win this job.”

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  8. “Oh snap. I didn't think about that. When you said he was the last one on, I was like, oh, that's really cool. I was like, I kind of would have liked to have met him and just to be in his aura. Not because I'm a fanboy, but like, I always look at him and I'm like, I don't know how he smells.”

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  9. “And I was like, it's one of the first times I really felt the impact of what even just sitting and talking someone can do for your own habits. And I found it such a shame that some people won't be inspired by other people's success. I feel like it's a shame that so many people see success and see as a reason to be bitter. And yeah, for me, it was great. I left feeling for a start. I think you forced a lot of people that didn't like me to listen I know a lot of people would have gone, why the fuck? Steven sat down with him And they've gone probably listened to, and I got a lot of people messaged me going, I thought you're a dick.”

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  10. “Seeking inspiration from people that have done it from our last conversation, I didn't realize how much our conversation had impacted me until I got home and I was like, I'm not producing a good level podcast. I was like, I need to get proper microphones. I need to invest in better cameras. I need to do a better job editing. And then your social strategy as well. Just every facet of it, I was like, I was inspired by you doing better than me. And that was something that I, three months later, I went, fuck, sitting down with you. I was like, that really rubbed shoulders in a way that benefited me.”

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  11. “Sometimes my biggest fear is setting my sights on a mountain where I could reach the summit. And I think some people haven't realized they've reached the summit. And it's very important that you get to that point and you set a new height to accomplish. So again, I was talking about jiu-jitsu, but for me, that is something that will never be finished. I will never conquer that. And it doesn't have to be martial arts for people, but there should be something that you move away from your business because someone can take away your business. Someone can take away your social media. Someone can take away everything, but they can't take away that. And having something where you know you'll never master it, I think now I've discovered that I'll never be bored. And I love that because if I break my leg tomorrow training, I can teach. And if I can't teach, I can study. And if I can study, I can pass on the information to other people. I feel like stagnation is like my biggest fear. And I think a lot of people just haven't realized that they're there. So they just need to set their sights on something.”

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  12. “I was like, there's a lot of people here, and if someone asked me to go into the middle and be like, James, here's a microphone, chat shit. That's a lot of people. My story views were a quarter of a million the same day. And I was like, How is this real? How is this real? And when you think about the amount of people you can talk to, I can't comprehend it.”

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  13. “I almost take more happiness from helping thousands than I would one. And the financial implications are obviously very different, but it's amazing to see a video where so many people, the video might take me 15 minutes to make an edit and put out. I do my own editing. It's probably the happiest moment of some of my days. I love the creation phase. I've had an idea, it's been born, I've recorded it, run to my room, I'm editing it, getting all perfects. And then I put it out and I check the next day and I'm like, I can't comprehend the amount of people that might benefited and especially when something gets a lot of views. And I'm sure, say you put this podcast out. I'm not sure I did this the other day. I was watching England play rugby. I was in a stadium with 50,000 people.”

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  14. “And it almost seems like a bit of a waste. No disrespect to my clients had before. They were the people that enabled me to sit here right now. And I'll be forever grateful for them. But it did get to the point where I was like,”

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  15. “People say this now, they go, would you PT someone for £2,000 an hour? I go, it's tempted, but that one hour I could spend making one video that could”

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  16. “The other tough thing to take into account was the fact I was servicing about seven hours a day of PT, which is like seven one-to-one meetings. And I mean, Quite hard because at least when we do a podcast now, if it's two hours, we can go hard for these two hours because we know there are going to be millions of hours listened to. But for me, that one hour I spend with a Just one person We were to record this, and only one person would listen to it, you'd be like, I'm not sure this is really cost efficient. So those seven hours a day, although I had a purpose in those lives, it almost got to the point where I was like, I could be helping more unless I enjoyed doing social media, although it didn't pay off for the first four years.”

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  17. “The way I feel now I didn't think was possible when I was younger. So when I was 27 and made this decision, I didn't know that I could have purpose in that respect. I was very happy just being a PT in the gym, but I never realized I'd always, up until this point of, I'd gone 26 out of 27 years, never earning enough money to really get by. I'd never really succeeded in business 27. This is the first time I've actually accomplished anything. All my jobs and relationships before I'd just been failed at. At 27 years old, I'd done nothing remarkable with my life whatsoever. Rugby career, average, grades, average, job performances, average. At 27, I was actually excelling in something for the first time in my life. So being bored was a very strange emotion I couldn't decipher. I was like, what is this feeling? Because I'd never succeeded at anything really, I didn't think it was possible to be successful on bored at the same time. And then flying to Australia, I was never bored.”

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  18. “Sometimes when people are experiencing almost like a bit of malaise or they're not experiencing happiness in its full emotion, they think that, and this is only one spectrum of it. Not sure of the emotion they're experiencing. And for me, I realized, although I was successful in the UK MPTing, I was bought, I wondered what this weird emotion was, why I wasn't feeling the same. Motivation to go to work. I wasn't enjoying the same transactions and I realized that my growth had shunted without realizing because I was comfortable. I was earning good money. The highest paid PT in my gym. It was easy to just remain there.”

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  19. “Going to minivan in Croatia sent me to do what is arguably no, it is the best single decision I made in my life also. And I look back now and I'm like, whoa, the universe, the butterfly effect. I had picked a different seat on the minivan. I don't know where I would be today.”

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  20. “Crazy you say that this point you have before about asking the question I was visiting in split they have these in Croatia they have these like waterfalls and you go out in like minivans and you go and explore them usually we did yacht weeks after we were like dying a little bit let's go to a waterfall do something wholesome there's a guy on a laptop at the back of the minivan and I was like what are you doing and he was like oh I have an accountancy business in Miami I was like okay but what are you doing here he's like I'm working I was like what you're working on a laptop from Miami right now now and I was like being inquisitive and he goes can I recommend a book and he recommended the book for our work week and I got home and I read through it and there were some things that just didn't apply to me at all but then the one sentence summarized exactly every single emotion I felt for the last year and it said the opposite of happiness is boredom and within three weeks I flew to Australia one way that was my inception moment a book recommendation from a random”

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  21. “Someone out there wants to express their opinions on topic, maybe they're a physio, maybe they're a PT, maybe they're an investment bank or a mortgage broker, they're petrified to put in their opinion out there because they're worried about what other mortgage brokers or PTs are going to think. They're worried about the people that are never going to give them money. That's the fucking craziest thing. PTs are petrified about what PTs think. How many fucking PTs sat in your consult? Oh, yeah, I'd like to use my PT. Could they post something? Because something is better than nothing. They don't have to be controversial. Is there one step they can take? And if people can identify that one small step, if it's too big, break it down. And I just don't understand why people can't set themselves that mental exercise.”

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  22. “Maybe. Maybe they're going to go do it again. So there are little things like that, or at least if you have something in front of you that is really petrifying you, is there some way you could break that down into an actionable step? Say, you know,”

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  23. “I didn't know what it meant. He's little and not often. And I was like, fuck, that's a really good point. And there's been studies on this where people Up to class late. They think everyone's looking at them. They ask students at the end if anyone came in late. The proportions were much lower. And even people that wear t-shirts with embarrassing characters on it, they think that half the people they interacted with would remember and the percentages are much lower. We seem to think that we're in the Truman show in every single action we take, that the world cares about us, but they don't even notice we're there half the time. The chances are the people I was petrified of behind me didn't even listen or they were too busy.”

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  24. “And then I walked away, I was sweating from that, and I realized why it was such a great example because it's not about the discount. It's about putting yourself in a situation that makes you feel very uncomfortable. And then when you leave, you realize, why did I create this fast? Why was I sweating? Why did I have adrenaline? Why did I have sweat patches from such a simple interaction of being uncomfortable? And I felt very accomplished. And I won't lie. When I got back to writing, I felt invigorated. I'm never going to use that stamp card. To me, I'd rather not worry about the card and pay it extra for the coffee. But I was like, wow, I was like, what else can I do? And I only did it as an exercise to help me with the book writing process. And I was like, wow, I get it. I get why people would tell other people to do that because people seem to think people are paying a lot more attention to us than they actually are. Mark Manson, he said as his favorite quote on your podcast, people wouldn't care what other people thought of them so much if they realized how seldom they do.”

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  25. “So I was like, can I get a 10% discount on my coffee, please? And she just looked at me like, what? And I was like, I'm such an entitled little prick right now. This is how I must seem. And she was like, what do you mean? And I was like, can I get a 10% discount? And at this point, I was like, this is the most uncomfortable I've been. I was like, I would rather go out 5,000 people in a crowd. No, nothing pre-organized. I'd rather do that than do this situation right now. And she turned around behind and they had like a stamp card where you get your 10th coffee free. And she was like, you buy 10, you can get 10% off”

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  26. “So there's an exercise online which is very popular in asking 10% discount on a coffee. And everyone's really attacked this because they think it's about the discount. It's not. It's about looking fucking stupid. So the next time you order a cup of coffee, you're to ask for a 10% discount. Not because you expect to get one, but because it's a really fucking uncomfortable situation. In many cases, you're asking someone who can't give you a discount that's completely out of your control. There are people around you and it's just a weird thing to ask. So I wrote the chapter. I'm in Sydney and I thought, I'm a fucking hypocrite if I don't do this. So there's like a little cafe near where I work. I was like, I'm going to do it. And there's no one there. I was like, sweet, no one's in the queue. And as I get there, it got to the point where I just didn't get served. And then there's two people behind me. I was like, fuck, don't do it. And I was like, well, it's going to feel very difficult writing the next chapters of the book feeling like a fraud.”

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  27. “about your work, what can you do today? You can work on your inadequacies, whatever it is. And it doesn't have to be this huge mountain of, oh, I'm going to ask a supermodel on a day. It doesn't have to be that. You don't have to double your salary asking for a pay rise. You just need to do something that you could do to develop your inadequacies.”

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  28. “So, what I would say to this is if we can try and develop a sense of gratitude towards these inadequacies, because those inadequacies, even from eight years old public speaking, show you the path to progression without understanding and really dialing down to where you're inadequate, you can't have a path. And so many people that are kind of lost in life, they're like, I don't know what I should do in my life. Cool. Well, can you identify something that you're insecure about and can you work on it? Again, I'm insecure about how I look naked. Can you work on it? Yeah, then fucking work on it because, you know, again, I think it was Simon Sinek who sat opposite you and he goes, passion comes as a byproduct, not reason to start something. It's a reason you remain invested in something. And people need to appreciate that passion may not exist in their life right now. And it might not exist for another five years because you might do another career for two years and you fucking hate it and then you do another for three and you'd love it. Three years in you feel passionate about it. So if you're five years away from truly feeling”

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  29. “People seem to correlate confidence with success, but that's completely wrong. Confidence is much more of a relationship to failure. And I stumbled across that by accident with the door knocking. I was completely fine. Someone told me to fuck off, knocking on their door to sell empower. I was like, cool, one in 100 is a sale. That's one of the 99. So it becomes that point on the PTF, even on the floor, trying to help the guy with his pec flights. He wasn't telling me to fuck off. I was so fine with that because I knew I'd have to talk to a finite amount of people to get sale. So when people can be truly happy with losing, not being happy with being defeated, very different, then you build a sense of confidence. And if we all imagine our friend that's got the most confidence in the world, they're just beaming with it all the time. If something doesn't go right for them and they fail, how much does it affect them? Often not a lot, because they're not caught up with failing. They're caught up with what or how many times they would have to fail to accomplish success.”

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  30. “One of my favorite quotes in that book was from one of the most famous martial artists of all time called Hickson Gracie. And he goes, losing is not the same as being defeated. And that was massive. He said it on my podcast where he goes, you can lose. But if you turn up and you go again, you've not been defeated. So if someone competes in jiu-jitsu and they lose a match, that's cool. But if you lose and you never compete again, as far as I'm concerned, you were defeated that day. So for me social strategy, whatever it is, if people can appreciate whether it's asking for a number, ask him for a pay rise, start in a business. Losing is one thing, being defeated is something completely different.”

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  31. “Wins feel the same, all losses can feel the same. So it's not competition. If you sell a business for $5 million and someone else sells one for $500 million, you don't get a different dopamine and serotonin. You're not on an Uber surcharge. You're not waking up like, oh my God, I feel amazing. But the same with pain. For me to struggle in my business, which was very important to me, someone might go, well, yeah, my dog died. And I said, well, we're both fucking sick. This is shit. But I'm so grateful to the version of myself back then that took action from that because.”

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  32. “And all the other PTs were like, Is it your birthday? I was like, I don't charge money to my clients anymore. I have an online business. But if it wasn't for that day where I literally had the lump in my throat when I was messing my mates and I was like, I'm not good at work. I'm failing a PT business, which is the only reason I came to Australia. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't have got the whiteboard. I wouldn't have got the markers and I wouldn't have gone home and gone live on Facebook, which just so happened to be the beginning of a compounding effect to build a following. It was then 50,000 followers. I bought a camera, learning how to edit terribly. My first video that I ever filmed without an iPhone was one that did an aloe vera. I didn't know how to wet the camera, didn't know how to edit properly. I did one long piece that I put on Facebook. I was like, Aloe Vera, isn't that fucking sunburn? What are you drinking it for fat loss? Well, you're an idiot. And although that was kind of like not even that bad, like no one died. But in the same respect that all”

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  33. “I had to do a speech for three minutes. I had about 3,000 followers live on Facebook with use of a whiteboard. The first one got maybe like 100 likes and I was like, I've gotten fucking viral. And I decided that I was going to do my six hours of PT, try the best I could, which wasn't even enough to survive at that point. But then I was going to go home and do everything I could to build an online following and to build an online business. And that was in March. By May, I left the gym started to pay rent for a year. But had one remaining client, it actually, I made more money staying at home than I did going to the gym. And I had one client. And she said to me, she couldn't afford to go to a festival. So I said, instead of paying me $120, which is like 65 pounds, I said, bring me a gift. I like training you. We have fun, bring me a gift. So she come in. She's like, I got you a Lululemon hoodie. I was like, sick. Cost less than the PT session. So I'd go in, I'd skateboard in, and I would literally just go in to train this client for free, but have a gift.”

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  34. “I was like, I was thinking about the fact I might have to move back home to my parents. And I've just moved into paradise. The week before, I had to borrow about £500 off my dad to buy a sofa. I still have that sofa now. And like being 27 at the time, messaging my dad and asking him to PayPal me 500 quid so I could buy a sofa and some of the IKEA stuff. I was like, this doesn't feel good because I had everything I wanted in the UK. I was doing well. I went to follow my dreams and then suddenly I was borrowing money from my dad at fucking an age where I shouldn't have to. And that was the point for me where I was like, I need to do things differently. So there's a street called Pitt Street. I walk down it and there was an office works and went into office works and I bought a whiteboard and some markers. And it was only 2 p.m. in the afternoon. I was like, I'm done. Went home 3 p.m. 3 p.m. in Australia is 6 a.m. in the UK. So I set up a tripod, got my iPhone. I didn't know how to edit. Didn't know how to record.”

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  35. “And for the first six weeks in that gym that I met Durunen, I was failing. I was not creating a client base. I was doing 25, 30 hours a PT a week in the UK. I moved to Paradise and I was struggling to do six hours. And this is the crazy thing now. I'm in Sydney and people go, oh, James, I love your stuff. I go, well, in 2016, no one loved it. I couldn't even get people in for a free session. I would say to people like, hey, mate, can I give you a couple tips with the exercise you're doing? And they'd be like, no. And so I've gone from this stage of my life where That was demoralizing because at least if someone told me to fuck off when they're doing a peck fly in my old gym, I could go into the PT room and have bans with other PTs. We'd pick ourselves up and go, oh, don't talk to him. Mr. Grampy Guts doesn't want any help, even though he can't contract his chest or whatever. But in this gym, I kind of had nowhere to go. So on the 13th of March, I sat in an area called Australia Square. And my two housemates said, how's it going? And I was like, not good.”

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  36. “Are struggling, or the fact that I was English, he was just a nice guy. And he was like, hey, mate, do you want to get a coffee? And I pissed off so many of the other personal trainers by prospecting so hard on my first day that one of the trainers said, if you talk to my client again, I'll take your head off. And I was like, wow, this is a competitive gym.”

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  37. “13th of March 2017. I was in Sydney. I'd been there. And personal training in the UK did well, earned good money, lived with my parents, moved out, moved back in for a bit. My mum and dad were heroes for me. When I was doing the long hours, you have to do, I remember someone saying, as a personal trainer, get your first thousand hours under your belt. Because once you've done that, everything else is easy. I just focused on that. And it went really well. My mum and dad helped me. My mum would leave leftover food for breakfast. So I'd literally be eating like Yorkshire pudding and roasted potatoes at nine o'clock in the morning, cold at a Tupperware. And then I'd come home from rugby at like 9.30 in the evening. My mom would be like, give me a washing. You know, you go to bed. So then when I went to Australia, that's what I wanted to do again, just face-to-face personal training. But I went into a gym with 32 other personal trainers. Diran, who's listening somewhere here, was the only person that introduced themselves to me at a 32 PTs. Whether it was because you saw...”

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  38. “So for me, that small interaction there kind of pays into this pot that this little crusade I'm on of trying to eradicate bullshit. And I'm definitely roughing up some people on one side, but on the other side, I'm making people's lives better, I think. That makes me feel good. That's a selfish endeavor. I'm helping people because it makes me feel good. Like to continue that. And at the same time, I live a great life. It sounds really cliche. People go, I have something that other people will never have. And that's enough. And that's how I feel all the time. So, yeah, it's a bit crazy.”

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  39. “Me just going, thanks for that. Isn't enough. So, and I find myself putting it on like, guys, you didn't have to. That's fake. I just, it weird me out. So when people compliment me in real life, I get very awkward. And my friends laugh about it. They're like, you know, relax, bate. She's just saying thank you. And then she started crying. And I was like, what have I done? And to me, this is still very, very strange thing that a stranger with Christ seeing me when I've never met them, spoken to them on the phone or messaged them. From that interaction, it's apparent that there is a net positive effect for what I'm doing. And I do take pleasure in that, even though I do find it incredibly awkward.”

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  40. “I got to Shoreditch this morning about quarter to seven. Couldn't get a coffee. So I'm walking down the road to try and find something. And I ended up going down the road and a lady just said thank you. And I said, what for? And she goes, you've changed my life. And I was like, thank you. And I was talking to her. And she started crying. And I get very awkward. I get awkward when someone gets me like a birthday present. When people are like, oh, get the cake out. I'm like, for fuck's sake, even at Christmas, it feels weird to be given gifts. I just feel very awkward and I feel like.”

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  41. “Yeah, so it's one of those things where we must appreciate some things, you know. Pure net benefit aren't going to benefit us in the long term. Now, if you're in a relationship and you're masturbating, I would say that maybe isn't as severe as being single and masturbating. Because being in a relationship and say you masturbate here and there or you have a long shower and enjoy yourself, that's one thing. But if you're singular, At least if you're in a relationship, you're not hindering the potential quite to the extent of inaction on this side.”

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  42. “Did you have commerce? You're right. It is one of those things where it's a complex topic and I'm not coming at it from a position of expertise. When you said that, I thought I've never heard it put so succinctly that there is a benefit to abstaining from things that you like. And Liver King, exact same philosophy, he goes, We don't eat the liver because we like the taste, we eat it because it's good for us. And he's like, no one likes training, but we do it. Do I sound like him? He's like he's in the room again.”

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  43. “One of those things where we just need to take it into consideration. And for someone, if I was to sit opposite someone today and go, could your life be better if you stopped drinking as much? If they say, yeah, you should probably fucking not drink as much. Could your life be better and your day-to-day life be better if you stopped wanking to porn? Yeah, well, maybe stop wanking to porn or at least do it less.”

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  44. “And especially if you've somehow misinterpreted where you're at in the day. And then an arm comes around and goes, hey, babe, and you're like, fuck. Yeah. So there will be a lot of female listeners that can't appreciate. To the full extent what it's like to be a man once you've ejaculated. And they call it post-nut clarity and all these things. I'm sure I'm going to be absolutely slammed for saying this. But it is a change in psychology. Like instantly, there's no other way that you can experience it. Again, the hot cold empathy gap. When you're horny, you can't imagine not having a sex drive. And when you've not got a sex drive, you can't imagine being horny. But, you know.”

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  45. “Now, you said not to make the table, make a noise. It's one of those things where. I'm not saying make it illegal, get rid of porn. I'm not saying that. I'm saying that we need to take note of the conveniences in our life.”

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  46. “But like that is bullshit. That's my, I'm kind of trying to fill the gap there with like some kind of defense. You could probably do it.”

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  47. “Masturbation in general, I'm in a healthy relationship, so I haven't really got the time to do it as I did before. The urges are there sometimes, don't get me wrong, because it's also a form of escapism. You know, people might fantasize about sleeping with other people. And I think that if any”

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  48. “Porn is great, fast food is great, and all of these things. Although that's great, there is a utility and a benefit to depriving yourself of them.”

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  49. “Abstaining from masturbation, improve your net position fucking probably. Because you're going to be in a position where you can't just get the gas out the release valve every now and then that suits your purpose. Because even some people are getting desensitized to sexual intimacy because of the amount of time they're spending much important. That's not good for anyone. Imagine you get to 40 and the idea of actually fucking someone doesn't seem as good as the idea of watch important. And this is something, especially with young people, the realized or the reality of having sex when you're 16 and what you've watched on porn is vastly different. So we cannot say that this is just a net benefit or a net positive thing for people. So the utility of deprivation is to appreciate that sacrificing some things in your life has a positive effect. To stop drinking, for instance, will have a net positive on other areas of your life to stop eating junk food or at least reduce the amount or reduce your adiposity, the amount of body fat you have. There is a utility to depriving yourself.”

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  50. “But I do agree with the majority of the things he says. And masturbation is something that we kind of just pawn and OnlyFans. We're kind of like, oh, you know, let people live. But, you know, there are some OnlyFans models being murdered by their fans, whereas some of us might think, oh, it's good for society. We've got porn where men can access more naked women in an hour than a man could ever access in a life 20, 30, 40 years ago. That, again, Newton's laws of opposites, a reaction opposite reaction. That's going to be doing things to people. And if I'm in a bar and I'm like, you know, I really want to talk to that person again. I'm using a data analysis. It could be anything. If I go home and masturbate some really hot people in porn, I'm going to be like, oh, no, I'm just going to have another beer with my mates. So having that utility of deprivation, and if you abstain from, and I'm not saying I'm not anti-porn or no fap or whatever they call it, I'm just saying to people to consider the implications. If you stop, if you're someone who's lonely and you're single could...”

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