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  1. “I went down a rabbit hole, and Jordan Peterson, you know, I don't agree with everything he says. That's the term of 2022, isn't it? Disclaimer, I do not agree.”

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  2. “Having people with you that are going to drain you of energy becomes almost like a cost. And by going on your own or with someone better picked, you're going to be able to improve your productivity, your sense of the way you see things. So we do need to appreciate that people we surround ourselves with are either going to be a headwind or a wind in our sails. There can be the neutral lot, but we must take note of that. And I'm not saying that if anyone causes you any issues, get rid of them, but you need to weigh it up in the long term. If you're with someone who's got a pessimistic outlook on life and the world and they're not going to change irrespective of how much you help them, they will hinder your net position. So the values of how much your net position is important to you and your family and people around you, you might have to make the decision to let that person go.”

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  3. “Term I use is picking your passengers, where if I said you've got to drive eight hours tomorrow, that's one thing. But if I say I'm putting someone in the car with you, that's something completely different altogether. And for eight hours, you would be so meticulous on who you go with. I'm sure that if it was someone you didn't really get on with, you'd be like, can we not just get him a driver and drive him up? Your space in your car is so private to you and important to you. And again, even when you are traveling around or whatever it is.”

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  4. “Dying driving are tremendously higher. Shark attacks, again, in Australia, everyone goes, do you go in the sea? It's really dangerous. I go, mate, you've like so many times more likely to drown than you are to get bitten by a shark. But no one's getting in the water being free. Even you having three out of six of your friends that don't believe in monogamy, that's going to influence your availability bias of what you think is capable in a relationship. There's so much more to the topic of confidence than just your history, it's also your current and who you're with.”

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  5. “So, in part of the book, I come up with my own kind of theory with this, and I say that we must take into account that the history of someone will have an influence on how they perceive the world, but that doesn't mean it's fixed. So you might have asked some people on a date and never got a successful wave face to face, but that doesn't mean you're doomed forever. You might go, oh, you know, my ability to talk to someone's get the number, it's just not that good. How many people have you asked their number? Are three? It's not something fixed that we can never develop. On the other side of things where people will be overconfident in certain scenarios, it's also the availability bias turns into this as well, where we make decisions based on the information that's available to us. So I had a fun deep dive with this where people have a fear of flying, much more people have a fear of flying than they do a fear of driving. But driving that same distance, as far as fatality, is much more dangerous. Your chances are...”

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  6. “Everyone really confidences your almost set of beliefs you have surrounding something based on previous experiences. I could get you the most least confident person ever. I'm a shy, timid set here. I go, what do you like at drive-in? 93% of people say they're above average at driving, which doesn't make sense as a statistic. Human beings are massively capable of being overconfidence machines. Most exoneration cases are from faulty eyewitnesses. So whenever anyone's exonerated, I think maybe 70% of the reasons why from faulty eyewitnesses, if I said, was that guy wearing a red top? You go, yeah, yeah, he definitely was. So we do have the ability to be overconfident, which is not utilizing it in all the areas of our lives that we should.”

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  7. “System that we need the audacious people that are going to be impatient and do things. We need the critical thinkers and people that are more logistic with that. But if you look at the 16 personalities, none of those personalities are confident. Confident isn't a personality trait. You've got debater, entrepreneur, all of these things. So people need to appreciate that even though as an ecosystem, we all need to be vastly different. Confidence doesn't sit as a personality trait. It sets, it's almost like a set of values that each and every person can have because some things that we have are predetermined, like height, and yes, height can be influenced by the amount of nutrition you get growing up or whatever. But ultimately, it doesn't matter if you're introvert, extrovert, whether you're patient, impatient.”

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  8. “Have a very active mind, and I'm actually in the process of trying to arrange getting ADHD test as an adult because people I know that have been diagnosed in their older life say it's really benefited them understanding how their mind works. And sometimes I get so excited over doing things that will please me. I have blinkers on to other people, whether other people want to relax right now or other people don't want to be in the room while I'm filming content or whatever it is. I feel that sometimes I need to be more patient and go, okay, here's the idea. Write it down, do it tomorrow. That's one of the things that it's only after I've done it where I think I had no consideration for anyone else then because I created a pain point in my head that I wanted to action that. And I always break down our personalities. And this could be a really weird way to think of it, like a tribe, you know, whether you've got lefties and, you know, people on the right, whether you've got aggressive, people are calm people, we're all part of an...”

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  9. “But then again, you're being the person you need to be. And that's a massive part of confidence as well. The first thing that people need to have a real clear vision on is who they need to be. And that was the first thing that projected me from not being inherently confident person. Should have seen the sweatpatches I had from the last episode, you know, and I'm not trying to masquerade that fact. I'm not trying to hide it up or be dishonest with people. Instead, I have so many internal conversations with myself about who I need to be today because we do need to become a persona in certain situations like being a father for the first time, like doing your first business sales pitch, like starting your first podcast or your first day as CEO when you get promoted for a business. You might go from director to manage director. There is an element of you having to be an imposter, but you have to take it upon yourself with beliefs that you can do it because you can't get the evidence that you're good at it before you start.”

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  10. “I'm a good podcaster with no evidence that you are, but then 100 episodes in, you go, fuck, I'm actually all right, you are very good, by the way, as a podcaster.”

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  11. “Have this as well with imposter syndrome, and some people rebuke imposter syndrome, but we need to realize that every single person is going to feel like an imposter. You get someone macho going, nah, not me, but we will. And I like to point out to people that you will at some point be an imposter objectively, even being a parent for the first time. You have no previous experience bringing a child into the world. So the beginning, you need to pretty much lie to yourself and go, I'm a good parent. And then after three months and your your your your your young baby or child hasn't got any bruises on its head, you're like, well, I've got evidence, I'm a good charge, you know, he didn't fall over and hit his head on a table or whatever. And the same in any endeavor, your first podcast you did on Diary of the CEO, you would have had to say”

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  12. “Answering someone's questions, doing this, doing that I think that if people's first stepping stone to where they think they need to go is too big, they'll never take the step. And what I do as a coach in many facets of my life is to make that first stepping stone so small, they have no other option to take it.”

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  13. “Yeah, and they portray confidence in some areas of their life tremendously. But I think the main thing is belief. I think they want to believe they can do it, but they don't truly believe it. Unfortunately, action must come first, and you must actually prove to yourself that it can be done. And that requires a lot of work without any gratification. People don't realize that you say about everyone knowing how to lose weight on the outside. It's almost like a macro cycle, but really the micro cycle is the tiny habits in between. So someone can go, I need to eat less and move more. But like you say, that's nuanced. Really, we dive that down. We go, okay, let's go, no food till 1 p.m. Let's go, you know, two big meals, maybe one snack, whatever. And then we go, okay, 10,000 steps a day, although that doesn't.”

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  14. “I'm like, are my friends now resenting me because I'm trying to help them? And yeah, I had a bit of a, not falling out actually, having a chat with a friend. And he said to me, it's all right for you. And we were living together at the time. And I said, well, I didn't live with someone who had a fucking million followers when I was starting my business. I said that to him, and I said when I was starting out as a PT, I didn't have any friends that I could lean on to do stuff. And I was trying, I said, I'll do anything you want for you to start this business. I'm here for you. You can have my Instagram for a week and promote your business, whatever it is. But then you say, yeah, the talk and the actions don't always add up. And then you get to a point where you're like, do I want what's best for them or do I preserve the relationship?”

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  15. “With my friends, because I feel like maybe there's that point I'll get to where I find it will click and then I realize I'm actually ruining the relationship a little bit.”

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  16. “Confidence isn't like an award. It's not like a trophy that I give you to go on your wall. Well done, Siba Balt, you're confident. It's more like fitness where if you stop training it, you will lose it and you will lose it a lot quicker than you probably would expect. So people don't realize that with so many things, they're paying into this bit like fitness, a bit like going to the gym or going for a run. And when you put up this massive stop like, I'm going to use dating apps, although some people do find love and meet their forever person on there without realizing it, they are reducing their ability to train that area of them. A bit like when you maybe don't do work for a week, you go back and sit in front of your laptop. You're like, how does this work again? So there is a negative, definitely that goes along with the positive, like Newton's laws, where you've got all this convenience on one side, you're definitely brooding weakness on the other.”

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  17. “Was that when I needed it Because there's so much small talk on social media where, oh yeah, what you're doing this weekend, I like that idea, but it's giving us one of many walls we can hide behind because dating is difficult and it removes, sorry I've got a boyfriend, fake numbers, which I must have given my number wrong, people are hiding behind that.”

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  18. “Doing a swim on a Monday, an ice cream on a Tuesday, a coffee on a Wednesday, people will think you're a bit promiscuous. But you know what I mean? Then you can get more dates in. And again, we're going back into my marketing analogy, surely seeing five people in a week for 20, 30 minutes each is going to be better for your general building of prospects than it would be getting smashed on a Thursday night and shagging a stranger, never going to talk to again. So even the way people perceive dating can be hugely changed. And you talk about dating apps. There's one in London. It's called Thursday.”

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  19. “And when you go for a walk and there's movement involved, I feel it feels less interviewesque. You say to me, like, let's remove dating out the context. I want you to sit with a stranger and drink alcohol with them with a small chance they'll be compatible. Like, no. Imagine, you know, that's ludicrous. I don't want to do that. But when you break it down again, like the fear and insecurities, whatever, okay, if a date is too much, what about getting an ice cream at the beach? Okay, that's something I can do. And as long as you're not trying to lose weight.”

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  20. “And I actually like the idea of moving with someone. The two places I find the most organic conversations are driving and walking. Driving when you're not facing each other and it's not quite so interview-esque, people really open up and they're also in a place that's very relaxing for them.”

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  21. “So you're already giving people confidence to leave a relationship. And if you think you've got professional life, home life, and health as three things. A lot of advice we need to give people is around dating. And it's been maybe three years since I've touched alcohol on a date because I realized how much alcohol skewed the dating scene as well. And even my girlfriend won't mind me saying this, but it got to the point where I would drink to kill nerves before a date and you might meet someone and straight away look at my go, this isn't going to work. But in three drinks in you go, kind of all right. And then before you know it, you've shagged a stranger on a weeknight, you're hungover at work, and you put yourself off dating again because you know that when you first met them, you didn't want that. And the next day you did. You're painting, dating in a negative light. And even how I met my girlfriend now, I would say to people, let's meet and do something, whether it's going for a swim in the sea, going for a walk. Have you got a dog, trying to get a coffee?”

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  22. “Are so many people out there that if you ask them why they're with their partner, they give you the amount of time they've already invested in four years.”

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  23. “It's really a very big topic. And when I was writing the book, I was thinking fuck, this isn't the Dayton book, mate. There's going to be a lot of married people reading this. And I say to them two things. I go, one, there might be something in there that doesn't change your life, but it could fucking change someone else's, right? And even if you don't have many friends, you could instill that in your kids or whatever it is. And dating is such a big topic because it is actually an incredibly big pain point because people either don't have the confidence required to meet someone or they might not have the confidence to leave someone. And when I spoke about the sunk cost fallacy, people remaining invested in something purely based off their previous endeavor, whether it's time, energy, resources.”

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  24. “Or two, they're inspired, and you without knowing it are projecting confidence into the lives of hundreds of thousands because you're showing them it can be done. I think it was Nelson Mandela that said no one believes it's possible until it's done. And a good friend of mine, Lucy Lord, she bought me a little card that had it on it and gave it to me and I stuck out my window when I first got to Sydney. And it's so important that people do try their hardest endeavors like relationships because without knowing it there are going to be friends, even your group of six people in that group that you're inspiring them without even knowing it. And inspiration doesn't mean you have to be the best relationship in the world, but you're showing people it works. So I think that the buck doesn't just stop at sacrifice.”

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  25. “And there is every chance that the systems I've put in that book might not actually hold any weight, but if someone believes they will, they could end up working a bit like the game. You tell someone this is how it works, they have full faith in it. And it's an interesting one that some people just need to know that it can happen. And for instance, I talk about the link, we spoke about confidence and anxiety. Confidence and inspiration also sit on a parallel with each other because to get inspired by someone, what we really do is get confidence from seeing it happen. So you think about someone like Joe Rogan started off with being audacious. He then inspired us by allowing us to feel more confident about the chance that that could happen. And there are two trails that people go with this, and this was really interesting when I wrote about it. People see your success, this success of the podcast. They go two ways. One, they're bitter and they fucking want to hate you for it.”

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  26. “Exactly. And you got the temptations, whether it's a chocolate cake or a single person, or maybe not even single, but you need to really have like a clear set idea on what you want. And again, to lean on your values. And it's interesting to say about the book, the game. You realize in the first, the call to action wasn't so much a system, but a belief in a system.”

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  27. “Like a good idea now, whilst you're in the position of Only slept with one person for five years. But then when you experience the polar opposite realization and reality, what if you realize you made a grave error? You can't undo seeing or knowing or experiencing that. So again, I'm not this guy's been in a relationship. He's given us all advice”

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  28. “So when you're single and you're fucking strangers and you're feeling very numb afterwards and thinking, why the fuck did I do that post that clarity? A lot of people call it, you're thinking, co-op, what I do for a relationship, what I would do to fuck someone and want them to stay. But then when you're in a relationship, you get the opposite. When you're in a relationship, you're thinking, oh, it could be nice to sleep with a stranger or whatever it is. I think that we're always, they say grass is greener, it is very cliche, but we're always looking at that opposing sense of feeling to how we're feeling now and almost curious about it. But I think there are dangers of, you know, say you do want to open your relationship. You're opening the door to catastrophic things should they happen. And I think that there is definitely like a hard, hard wiring side of things where, you know, if you want that sense of freedom on your side, cool, but they're going to probably need that sense of freedom on theirs. And it might...”

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  29. “I could be getting this wrong as well, but there's something called the hot cold empathy gap. I think that's what it's called, where when we're angry, it's very hard to imagine being calm. When we're hot, it's very hard to imagine being cold. When you're in one state of consciousness, the opposing state feels very hard to reconcile.”

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  30. “There are so many people. It could also be other things like a lack of confidence in your partner. It could be a lack of confidence in your relationship. It could be all these things, but... My mind, I think better that you go for something that feels right. If you're someone that sits here and goes, I do not want to get married. I'm not saying, you know, it's going to fit everyone. But I think if you're someone that, importantly, there are sacrifices. And when I look to get married, it's not just about the relationship I have with that person. It's about creating a stable platform to bring up children. But again, we're almost bred in society like we can never be wrong. Ignorance is not a bad thing. We are all ignorant to so much. The majority of people couldn't tell you anything really substantial about history. You know, we don't know that much about so many things. I don't know what the motorways are called in the north. All of these things. So we're allowed to be ignorant of these things and we're allowed to be wrong. That doesn't mean we shouldn't endeavor to get the best possible outcome.”

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  31. “There's so many different places and avenues people can go. You know, back in the day, if you wanted to take someone for a date and you've got a wife, you could be seen out. You could be seen talking to that person. I think the repercussions of being a shithouse are probably a lot less severe now. And I think that Way society is going is worrying. It is definitely worrying that there are so many options. And what was that website? Was it Ashley Madison? It was a dating site for married people So, if you wanted to be like, look, we need to be hidden away at a bar and have millions of users. So straight away, I think it was brought down by that hacking group Anonymous or whatever. I could have got that wrong.”

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  32. “Get territorial on bits of land and kill each other, right? Savages. You know, you watch Braveheart, you're like, wow, imagine being a soldier back then, or you watched 300 and you're like, wow, these guys were spearing each other and going for lunch. So, you know, we are forcing our DNA and who we are into this kind of preset mold of, you know, do you take you to be a lawful? Of course, there's going to be a lot of people that don't suit that. I think at the moment as well, there's so many options. There's so much availability, so many secret places to slide DM, LinkedIn, private message, or your SO house app that could be used like Tinder, whatever it is.”

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  33. “Some respect, and you know what? The majority of it, yes, because we do get urges. And I think we're monkeys in suits, right? We are chimps.”

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  34. “Remember, we said about the expectation effect If you go into a relationship expecting that you're going to cheat or you're going to break up, I don't think that sets a good foundation for it. Again, I would like to go into a relationship and potentially a marriage or whatever, fully believing in it, but being happy to be wrong. And if I get divorced later on in life, as long as I tried my hardest and I committed, I can take that. I could take that as a loss or whatever it is. But somehow in this debate, we've lost the ability to try hardest at something. And do you know what? If 10, 15 years down the line you do lose it, be amical about it. Don't destroy someone's life and make them feel like a piece of shit because you cheated them or whatever. Instead, just call a spade a spade and be like, look, we might not be the same people we were when we met. I think people should try the best and try and build a stable home to bring up a child because that's what I've been exposed to. And if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. I also don't think the people should force the marriage at the point that it's broken because I think that two people under a house that resent each other try to bring up a family probably be better off.”

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  35. “Who hurt you? You know, like at what point did it is a societal structure being monogamous, but it's because there's a huge benefit to doing that. You're talking about sacrifice. You're talking about primitive urges or whatever it is. But the base of that, you get to support a family better. So I believe monogamy is good for loads of reasons. I do believe in it. And also my mom and dad are still together. They're each other's first girlfriend and boyfriend. But I do find that people that come along and try and tear down your beliefs of monogamy, they're the people that it didn't work for them so they want to burn the system. Same in the dieting world where you've got plus size models promoting body positivity. I think there's some absolute credit to that. I'm a personal trainer sat across with you that six-pack. But I think to them, they got fucked over so much in the pursuit of trying to get in shape that they decided to tear the system down for everyone else. Because it didn't work for them, they have to go around and influence the way you see it. So I think that's one of the...”

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  36. “So imagine you've got someone who injures his leg and they have to chop his leg off. I might butcher this when I'm saying it. He then might end up being angry at people that have two legs and make up his own reason. Actually, do you know what? Two legs is wasteless. You know, you don't need that. You only need one leg. And because something didn't work for him or his surroundings didn't suit what happened to him, he decided to tear everyone else's down. So when we talk about monogamy, where there are people that are in rope and relationships, I often look at them and you know, I was going to say without cause and offense, fuck them.”

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  37. “Just before we started talking, I was going to mention it's called the inner citadel, where if you can imagine that someone for whatever reason is.”

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  38. “Say either, but extra pressure on it, but yeah, it is, and I think that especially there's some crazy things going on in society where there are more women over 30 without children than under 30. And I think that's a statistic that Chris Williamson brought up on Jordan Peterson when they had a chat. And I was like, we're all. Not appreciating family life like the generation before us. And I don't think it's important that we take their values as our own. But I think it's very easy, like a kind of rip in the sea to get taken out without realizing that there's so much in our lives that we can prioritize that aren't the most important things. And my friends have got married and had kids and families very early. There are some that feed the confirmation bias or don't get married, mate. Or, you know, but the majority of them are very happy”

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  39. “Carol Dweck in her book, Mindset, talks about having a fixed mindset and an open mindset. And I appreciate for so many things. You could come in today with so many problems in the business and my mindset is let's do this, let's do this, we'll do this, we'll turn this up, we'll do better on this, we'll be fine. But with relationships, I was very fixed where if something went wrong, I was like, oh, this is your fault and we should stop this right away. And you can appreciate in some people's lives when things get tough and becoming better or they blame other people and discontinue. And I was fixed. And I only kind of realized that when I was older. And the negatives in your 20s are fucking a relationship aren't that severe, if anything, I was like, oh, I get to work more. You know, I have more time to myself.”

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  40. “Someone just sighed in the background over there. I never really respected them or took them seriously because I thought that my young 20s and even my mid twenties were more important to accomplish other things. And it was only as I got to my late 20s that I realized, hold on, maybe these values. Be good for professional life, but they won't be good further down the line in 10 years' time. In Bondi, there's a lot of wealthy older men that have got the sports cars and the young girlfriends. I don't envy them at all. I don't everything, oh, I'd love to be 40 with a 25-year-old girlfriend. I don't ever think like that. I think it's just been one of those things where”

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  41. “Really, got to make sure that I don't finish the race of life and have the money and the fame and realize that I was in the wrong race. And that was such a big epiphany for me. And I realized at that point that I was going to have to work harder in relationships”

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  42. “Yeah, and you know what? And there was an element of envy and bitterness and that fueled me in some respects. But I sat there on the beach and I thought to myself, what if you win the race of having the most money and the most notoriety and the most fame, but your friends that did the 9 till five and worked to retirement got the wife and the kids and the happy life? And also my mom and dad, my family is very traditional. I thought, what really are they going to prefer? Me coming home in a Ferrari or me coming home with a family? And that was a really big insight in my mind to what's important to you that I impress my family, yes, because I want them to think that their investment of even now 33 years is going to pay off. And I want them to one day sit back and go, we did a good job. So it's very important that I please my parents. And I thought.”

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  43. “Is one of those things. But yeah, I'm incredibly happy. And I think that. There has to come a point where I actually did a magic mushroom trip probably two years ago. And about eight of us, we sat by the beach. We just thought shit out. And what was crazy was if we went and got trolleyed on our coal and, you know, were absolutely... Caused chaos. That's legal. But for eight of us to take some magic rushrooms and sit and think about life and share what we're experiencing with people, that was legal. And I had time to reflect on. I do see different areas of my life like races, and I like to be in competition with people that don't even know I'm in competition with them. For years, I'd have a list of social media competitors that I'd never spoken to, and I'd work tirelessly to beat them.”

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  44. “I've always been very skeptical of talking about relationships on podcasts because by the time they go out, I'm no longer in a relationship.”

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  45. “Not brainwashed because I can't expect everyone to have the same values as me. But when everyone's like, oh, you know, buy a house, pay off the mortgage in 50 years you can retire with that. And I'm sure that's great for some people. My dad loves being retired. But me, that's my idea of hell. To wake up with nothing to do or no problems to solve, I think people underestimate that human beings for thousands of years have been problem solvers with much worse problems than what we have today. And the idea of just stopping that at a point in time just drives me crazy. But then I'm not sure if I'm just potentially why differently to other people.”

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  46. “No, but that could be denial because I like working and it's a difficult one now where I do have to distinguish things where I can't watch a film on my own because I don't see it as productive. But if I watch a film with my girlfriend, that's fine because it's almost like a blocked out in the calendar professional time. But then at the same time, I do like having downtime to train jiu-jitsu, skateboard to the beach, have a dip. I'm not like on my phone all the time. I do like leaving my phone in my car when I do stuff. I couldn't think of anything worse than retirement. This is why I kind of feel everyone is.”

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  47. “When I'm hungover or tired or on the road with tours and book signings or whatever, if I'm trying to burn the candle too much, I lose that spark to be able to have these creative ideas. And four or five days into a stretch of not having anything creative come in, I feel the pressure I'm posted in a few days. And to me, that's important that I stay on top of those things and be creative and come up with new ideas. I even have a set of standards that's pretty peculiar where I do look through my comments sometimes, although I know comments are the most poisonous place to go. The weight of one negative comment outweighs 100 positive. But when someone says that's your best video yet, I've accomplished something. That's what I want. So when I do go these long periods of time without being productive in that sense, it starts to drain on me and I'm starting to think.”

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  48. “All sense, whether it's having the energy on a Sunday morning scowl and game of tennis. I'm rubbish at tennis, but I like, you know, you know, when you throw a ball for a dog, how happy it is, that's me chasing the tennis ball around the tennis court. I'm awful, but I enjoy just doing that or productivity with work where So many times I'll be in the shower and I'll have an idea and the idea really excites me. And people around me know that when I do have an idea and I want to do it, you have to leave me alone to kind of hash it out, especially if I have a video idea. We could be going for breakfast. If I have a video idea, I'm almost like, I can't enjoy breakfast while I've got the idea in my head.”

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  49. “Can buy bottled confidence and they buy it in the version of alcohol because it breaks down those social struggles that they have. It makes them feel more confident or more importantly it makes them care less. And as long as we have alcohol available to us, people don't need to work on their inadequacies when it comes to social interactions or having the competence to do things.”

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  50. “Stretching myself too thin is something that is really important to me. And I haven't drunk in probably about six weeks at the moment. And as I'm getting older, I'm really losing and diminishing my relationship with alcohol because when I was younger, my values for happiness didn't sit around productivity. I could play Xbox all day. But as I'm getting older, my values are changing and productivity is so important to me. The drinking alcohol now inflicts that. And even now, I think to myself sometimes drinking makes me less happy because it negates my levels of productivity and it's only as I'm getting older that I'm starting to realize how important that is to me. And I think that when we're younger, we don't quite see it that way. We kind of look to use alcohol, and especially in the context of confidence.”

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