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Jonny Wilkinson

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“But that's not what I want. I want surprise. And I can't have regrets and surprise. I can't have that kind of looking back. I can't have such an idea about how it should have been and then have freedom in the future. If I want freedom in the future, I've got to free up the past and therefore, you know, regret has to take a bit of a sideline on the bench.”
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“That is what I'd regret now about my future. I don't regret anything that's been, but I think sitting here now I'd be like it'd be a real shame if I just kept reacting for the rest of my life. I say is, but how nice will it be to let inspiration decide my future? Rather than My regrets or my old ideas and I think we mentioned about that train track regret for me is a classic of reaching back and going more of the same please Just planting your own. And in that respect, I think some people kind of, spiritual people do this. They look into people's futures and kind of go, let me just see how you are at the moment. Right. If you have that going on, I can pretty much guarantee what you've got coming.”
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“Yeah, good one. It's a good one. I used to spend all my time on these kind of things when I was younger. And now I just can't for the life of me. I can't find a place for regrets. Its understanding that for a start on a physical level, if I went back to wherever I was, as we've said before about other people, and inhabited that energy I see the world the same straight away I feel the way I do straight away I do what I think what I think I do what I do I create what I create I can't do anything different. It's inevitable. The now which includes everything that's come to the now is inevitable. and to resist that is to Not accept that is to continue reacting into the future. And I think the continuing of reactivity.”
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“at home with my family. Instead, I'm going to sit in the chamber. I'm going to be last to leave. And I'm not even going to go in the shower until the groundsman's turning the lights off in the clubhouse. Do you know what I mean? I'm going to be last out to show you guys that I care and I'm hurting the most. And it didn't mean a thing, you know, as far as I'm concerned, you know, like I said, it was part of a lesson I had to learn, but I think being seen as irrational in that way. As long as it's according to life you wish to live and it's not about not caring, totally different things, you know, it's a beautiful space to be in, I think.”
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“How dare you respond according to your dreams and the life you wish to live? Come and react according to the life that we want you to live. Come and react according to the life that you should be living, one way you sit here and show how much you care and how disappointed you are, whereas in fact now when I look back on I wish I'd been looking in that mirror with that guy, you know, I wish I'd been out there earlier saying yeah well you know what I gave everything the learning's taking place I don't need to sit here and torture myself with this the learning has taken place because I've got some great great contrast I wanted this I got this it's only refined my view immediately of what I want now even more and it's given me some understandings of what's working and what's not the fact that I'm going to think about them isn't going to change I've got them the question is as we said how the marker of whether they're on their way depends upon how much I'm enjoying this moment and what do I want to be doing now I want to be out with the guys or I want to be”
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“Head down in the change room. I'm trying to run this kind of thought through in my head of like, oh, how, you know, it wors against me. It never works out. And I've got to come back stronger. And, you know, what a wasted opportunity I'll never get this back. And what a failure, et cetera, et cetera. What's this going to mean for me? And then you see someone looking in the mirror putting their tie on. He's already had a shower. Already out there. Tie on and they're sort of like, where are we off to tonight, lads? And of course, society's voice or the changing room's voice or the team's voices, how dare you? How dare you be thinking about how good life can be?”
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“I think the best thing to be Seen at the moment with the way that society leans. I think it's quite powerful to be seen as illogical. Your responses because everything's leaning toward stress and winning and conquering and achieving and the reactivity in our stress has become a marker in workplace as you know the more stressed you are the more important you must be and it's almost like worn as a badge you know kind of like check me out I'm I'm pushing it I might not be sort of my future life is uncertain because I'm really willing to sort of give so much to this. Whereas to be seen as illogical and a bit irrational in that area, quite a strong place to be right now. Because of where we are. So, you know, when you're kind of, I said this before, we used to have games for rugby games where we'd lose. And I'd be sat there.”
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“And you're going to lose sort of your homeliness in the deep sea where it's all peace and your every wave. But as it is, we're in that individual thing and health and fitness is part of that movement. And health is about what you eat, what you drink, how you eat, how you drink, how you breathe, how you move, sleep, recovery, restfulness, peace. It's an endless journey. I think people think that health and what have you is about not being overweight, trying not to perish of anything before your time. And maybe hang on to being able to do some stuff when you're still reasonably young. Health is an endless journey of just unending discovery. Or if it's related to fitness, it's looking good for others and feeling attractive and having to eat stuff that you don't like tastes horrible. Wishing you could have this.”
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“We end up in a few years where we've lost it. And it's to remind yourself that it's health. Whereas if you're doing one thing the whole time without reminding yourself of everything you can do, everything as we're speaking about identity-wise, you become so obsessed with being this kind of person, you forget that you're everything. Yeah, but I'm being this something, but you've got to keep reminding yourself that you're everything. Otherwise, you're going to lose your grounding and you're going to get lost in the small.”
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“We sit now maybe sometimes for so long that we become very good at sitting. Aspirationally we've become great sitters the same way we've become great rugby players or whatever it is. So our bodies are starting to shape towards that and they're forgetting everything we knew before and now you find sometimes the best feeling you can get is by just stretching your arms back and going oh that feels nice. I'd forgotten how nice that was. Yeah, exactly. And the danger is that.”
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“Great, going for walks, yeah, not bad. sitting around sitting quietly no chance you know getting in and out of the car like I said terrible No way all these kind of things and yet people say I wish I'd made more of my life wish I'd enjoyed every moment but that starts with health health of physical mental, emotional and exploring that and that first of all comes with exploring the body and your classic would be”
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“I'm just trying to wash the dishes or what are you trying to do when you're doing triathlon? I've got a goal and I'm working, moving my body to get through that to achieve a certain goal. What are you doing when you're washing the dishes? Well, there's a goal and I'm working my body through it to get to a goal. It's the same thing. But there's an understanding that this I like and this I don't. This I'm willing to do this I'm unwilling to do this I'm willing to be joyful about and this therefore I've decided already is not, but to bring that kind of Whole engagement to every moment is health. When you have certain things which are great and others which aren't, that involvement and out involvement or lack of involvement is for me is what fitness was. You know, as a rugby player, training brilliant, brilliant gym.”
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“Genius way of living our life so that we can involve ourselves fully in every moment rather than have that kind of oh I've got to do that but it's fine because I'll go into the gym after but you know washing the dishes is a good one I use as a metaphor an idea for I once got asked by athlete triathlete About I was speaking to triathlete, and I said, you know, but you love doing a triathlon, but you don't like washing the dishes. But what's the deal with when you wash you the dishes, what are you trying to do?”
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“As antibiotics have found their way into all kinds of different foods. And so, you know, we're finding ourselves short of these things. And what they're finding out is that bacteria has a role in connecting the body in ways we don't even know. It's that incredible. And we're made of mostly of it. And the balance between all these kind of bacteria and even viruses and all kinds of things that are going on in us is imperative to our intelligence and how we operate. So that's been an effort behind that, but also trying to help us shift back towards health so that we have this kind of”
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“Strong men and maybe a story of the past, but where strong men were told if you carry on like this, you know, this effort to become the world's strongest man, your life expectancy is probably not going to be much more than forty five. And people are, yeah, okay, I'll take that. Because of the ambition, the drive behind what's behind that, which is absolutely up to absolutely everyone. But for me having finished rugby, I think I understood just how far I'd ventured from health. And the living drink side with the number one living stuff we do is around the connected nature of, you know, we're more bacteria than we are cells. And yet, yeah, we also live in a world where there's a great deal of sterility at the moment. So bacteria kind of disappearing. We're not getting outside so much, digging our hands in the dirt on top of that.”
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“You're like, okay, now what we're talking about here is a life fitness which has some balance in it. Now, don't get me wrong, I was one of those guys that was rugby-wise. I couldn't bend down. The idea that I would sort of have to look under the sofa for something, I'd be like, I'm going to have to lie, it took me about three minutes to get down and five to get back up. There's a real grace to that balance. And if, and you talk about”
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“Dangerous. It's a dangerous balance, I think, to take. You know, you have to look after health and then explore what your fitness can be rather than go after fitness thinking it's going to lead to health. It doesn't, you know, I work on this with my brother as well. The stuff we do with regard to the foundation, we speak about stuff. And one of the areas we talk about is life fitness, which is another way of talking about health, which is about that. effortless flowing capacity to be so graceful in what you need to do every day and not talking about the aspirational side you might say look I can bench press this and I can lift this look at the state of me look I've got no body fat and this but it's kind of like okay let's see you get in and out of your car”
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“And I think that was the difference for me that I spent my life being very fit but not really that healthy, and fitness is an interesting one. I think everyone kind of realizes this to a degree is that when aspirationally you really push yourself down a specific route physically to adapt to be able to do a certain thing very, very sort of fully you kind of You distance yourself slightly from the hole if you are, it's a bit like sort of a mountain as you climb to the more and more to the mountain it gets a bit more isolated up there. And I think Health is about what fitness can come out of. Unless you look after health.”
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“I think for a start, my brother's a fitness conditioner, we played together professionally up in the north. And then his side has always been the fitness conditioning side. So we have a really close relationship on that. And he's exploring loads of this stuff. My wife was trained to become a nutritionist, so she was exploring all kinds of things in the natural sort of healing side of nutrition, but also in nutrition as a whole. And I was looking massively into the mental emotional side of it. So we all kind of cross pars my wife and I, especially on kombucha and different kafirs, we started making them at home. We were putting, you know, going Blackberry picking, putting them in a real kind of shift compared to being in a changing room and unwrapping these kind of foil covered laboratory-based bars have been constructed.”
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“So it's a living drink, yeah, fermented. It's a probiotic. It's number one living, it's called And it's a combo strength. We've got water kefirs, which are more fermented drinks. We've got all kinds of stuff on the market around.”
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“That's kind of gold dust, and therefore, I think, you know, I turn up and I don't expect or think she should be or any certain way. I need her to be exactly as she wants to be and is because it's right for me and hopefully I'm being the same for her. But it's funny how we both kind of growing in our own ways, in our own directions. I think because of each other and now, you know, we've got someone else on that journey with us in our little world and exactly the same relationship. I think the best thing is both of us, neither of us are trying to lead a change in the other. We're both trying to sort of uncover more about ourselves and that's doing everything in the work and the relation. As you said before, you know, working on someone else really doesn't work for anyone, but working on yourself tends to work for everyone.”
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“I think it must be the same. I don't know for all people I did here, Eckart Toll say that relationships were the spiritual work for the West. For the East, I don't know what the case is now, but maybe it used to be sitting on hillsides, but people sort of think, oh, I can't do that because I've got my responsibilities, but it's like, this is the work relationships are massive like that. And yes, she's perfect in every way because she's perfect as she is, but also because she's She's exactly what I need. That means when I get challenged, I'm kind of like, this is what I need. And it's, you know, like I said, it's. and someone sort of provides that opportunity for you to sort of On every level, I think that's”
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“Finding out your passion, your joy and your true many is not something you need to worry about, just something you need to allow out and know that all these events are pointing you, I think, pointing us all towards all we can be, if we're willing to listen, but when we answer them, try and stop them, we're basically saying, no, no, I've found who I'm supposed to be, and therefore I don't need this. But when I think we're sort of willing to look at what we've been given and say, well, I must need this. And maybe there's something asking for this deeper that knows way more than I do. So, you know, I'll step out the way for a bit and have a good old listen.”
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“Whatever's happened this morning and whatever's happened on my journey here and meeting you, this has all been put in my path for me The same way it is for everyone. It's like, I miss, I heard another expression a while back saying that we're so important that without you, the universe couldn't be all that it could be. It would just be some of what it. Be and therefore it couldn't exist. That's how important we all are. We're here because we're supposed to be here. And what's great is that, you know, that.”
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“And I don't want to change a thing. And I think that's kind of for me, would I change anything? I don't want and I think that's a sign, you know, I feel like as was underneath so much of the rugby stuff, the achievement stuff, the saviour stuff, the warrior stuff, Martyr stuff, it was always a case of I'm not enough so I need to earn it from other people, from outcomes from life or whatever. And I think that question is, are you happy is like Do you realise that you're enough? Do you feel that you're worthy and deserving of being here? And I think that's the connection to And I think maybe that's the answer all this energy change stuff we're talking about or old ideas or it really comes down to recognizing that are you aware of just how worthy you are that this whole universe is answering to you with these experiences?”
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“It's like a yes or no. It's kind of like, you know what? Like to say it maybe in terms of Am I grateful to be alive? And I think am I full of gratitude is my way of looking at it. Am I? Am I in touch with that sense of of just being So pleased that I'm having this opportunity of life and yeah, definitely. And I wonder sometimes even in my darkest moments if you kind of go, you know, this is part of that journey as well. And in a way, when I look back, it's more so much more difficult at the time. I mean, almost impossible. When I look back, am I pleased and grateful for that? It's like, yes, I am, because it always turns out that it's the answer to a deeper connection And I feel like, yes, am I happy? I'm grateful.”
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“Sometimes when they don't really want to, it's kind of like, well, why not just sit quietly for ten minutes when you don't really want to, but just do it anyway. Just do it and just say, okay, I'll see. It's a bit like they're looking in the mirror when you go into the gym, you know, over day after day you don't see it. Someone else says, hi, what's happening there? You're kind of like, I've been going to the gym. It's like, all right, I haven't really seen it. It's the same with sitting quietly. Feels like nothing's happening, but.”
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“external truths, external situations, and they're not, this is the way the world is. And unfortunately, therefore, this is the way it is. That's the voice that comes from old ideas. And understanding you're working with old ideas and old ideas represent the energy state or shape it, that when you start to realize, well, hold on, on an energy level, if I just trust, I keep working with my energy and I trust as long as it takes, I'm going to work on it. That's it. Without this idea that this idea of how and when it should sort itself out. Well, you know, I heard that person talking about getting some revelations and I haven't had any yet, but I should have any some after two weeks. I'm not getting any, I can't even, you know, it's like, no, just leave it open ended. People go to the gym.”
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“Two voices you mentioned, which is this Kulfer happiness and this call for joy and freedom and all that the stuff which just blossoms out over and over again in ways that beyond belief. another voice that says I don't want that. I want it so much and I don't want it at the same time. And the don't want it voices. I think this is who I am, I think I am, and I want to save this whilst having that. Those are the two voices. And when you're locked into that, I want to save this. I want that because I can never have it. This is all I've got, and right now, if this is me, you know, what's the point? But understanding for me that those two voices that I'm working with”
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“and the fact that before I wouldn't have seen changing your energy, otherwise known as changing your identity, I guess in a way, or removing your identity, I wouldn't have seen that as an opportunity. So therefore you're stuck in that insurmountable space. And that's where the depression kicks in. What's the point? What's the point? This is me now. I can't live with, I can't live without this, I'm stuck, the needle is right in the middle, and every time I try and move it one way to get some clarity, once it goes that way, I panic because it has to come back. I don't want it to go that way. So I bring it to the middle, and I try and work it the other way, and it's like I don't want it to go that way. And it's this classic.”
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“They will always go together undoubtedly, yeah, because for me they do. You have that sense of panic and anxiety, which for me has always been around sort of finding these insurmountable issues throughout my life, what seems to be the insurmountable, which is basically saying according to how I've positioned my view of life, this is now insurmountable. According to my belief system, this means this is an issue and we can't pass each other. And The fear then kicks in, the lack of control, the panic kicks in, which again, the hysterical nature of it tells me that it's not rational to the moment. There's no threat here, but if I'm having that threat, I know it's coming from something deeper. But the fact that it's insurmountable, the fact, or it appears so,”
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“So I need at the end of it, I need you, I need that kind of like, thanks so much for your time. Yeah, I can't believe you're doing this and I need that backup call that comes when the person introduces you says, oh, they're over the moon. They're so chuff you spoke to. You've changed the life forever. You need that because that's what I'm, yeah, because without that, am I doing a good job? Once that goes is to be like, but I'm doing what I was supposed to be doing.”
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“using them to say what you need them to say for you, to fill that space. And once that goes, relationships, I think, take on a only level.”
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“Your own ideas of them, and in order to do that you have to let go of yours about you. And I think that's the selfless side of it. It's funny that expression, it's selfless, you remove yourself and you can be selfless. And just being able to sit there and listen and be fascinated by someone has been a really, I think, a big moment in that. And that kind of, yeah, it's been a That's been a nice change that moment for me was one where I suddenly realized, you know, that I've been playing a game. For so long, according again to that identity what I need from this, how it's going to look, I'm using people. I don't mean necessarily on that whole kind of exploitative, you know, I guess in a way it is, but you're kind of using them to get them to feel a certain way about you.”
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“By listening to the right thing to do and what people should say and how you should speak. But it's all the answers are in your own journey. releasing Of self-discriminations and judgments that then it just becomes so easy and obvious but so joyful and such a true exchange according to what's really being asked for rather than two people playing a game on the surface of playing our roles and seeing what we can get from each other. It's two people sharing what's really being asked for. And I sort of feel like if you like for me from that perspective, that's the first time I've I've kind of understood what it is to really care for someone. It's to completely let go of her.”
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“I wasn't talking to this person. as if I was forty they were fifteen. as if they were a young soccer player I was an ex robby player. I suddenly realized that I was exchanging on a level here where it was energy form to energy form, not age relevant at all, not even defined simply that I was performing a role of serving and being served at the same time. According to allowing and letting it be, whereas before it would have been, okay, before the call you kind of put on your mentor shirt, you know, going to be a mentor now, but a talk like this and give it the whole kind of, well, I guess if you're going to play sport, all this kind of stuff. But instead you phone up and suddenly I realized I'd lost that idea of the difference between people and people talk about it from age, gender, all these kind of things, you know, religion, race, everything. And you sort of think we're all trying to do that.”
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“Now you're deciding and limiting them, but if you want to be all you can be, you can allow others to be all they can be, you can allow a situation to be all it can be. And I think that kind of for me has been one of the biggest. An example I'd say was I spoke to a young football player a while back, maybe sort of 15, 16 years old and someone had said, would you mind just having a chat? I said, yeah, of course. I'd love to. You know, you get that inspirational sort of feel immediately that, yeah, this is one of those cooperative manifested moments of there's something that I've called for and this has been offered. And I think I'm going to explore this because it feels right that it's in my path. And we had a chat Midway through the chat, it came to me quite a sort of emotionally sort of, I guess, intense way. I suddenly realized that”
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“I speak according to the situation, not according to my identity, and I listen according to what's maybe more of what's really being meant What's being said, and again, it's this. I guess it's this different, more less solid idea of who you are that just suddenly opens up the understanding of what really listening is and being there is. I mean, being there for someone is such an amazing phrase when you really look at it, to be there for someone, it means fully being. Now, people are saying, but what's the best thing to do if someone's struggling is that would just be there for them? Okay, but you mean like just physically stand there and be loving. But if all of this is an effort, it's designed to get an outcome. But it's to get an outcome for someone else, you must have to know what's right for them.”
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“So come into this, you know, I dread to think what I'd have been like when I was 21, but I'd have been out there with my sort of agent or with my dad or my mom or something. And I've been waiting to come in and be like, yeah, and they'd be like, it's going to go find, don't worry. It's going to go find. He'd be like, yeah, it is. Just make sure I'm going to talk about that. And I might talk about that story if you ask me about that planned. basis I'm trying to achieve an outcome from this. When it becomes, which again is that whole kind of like what I create, what I actually create defines who I am. So what I'm going to create from this will define who I am. So I need to make sure it's how I want it to be all based on this idea of who I am, but without that idea.”
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“I think it's the openness is not. Conscious decision I'm not coming in and saying I'm now going to be so open about it the same way that I might have been unconsciously closed before, you know, still kind of not speaking about stuff, not because I'm sitting there thinking I'm not talking about this, but because that feeling says this is where I want to stay within the boundaries of this on the conversation. And now the boundaries are wider, not because it's not now a narrow boundary of all I ever talk about is how my suffering is kind of like, but you talk about, I guess, what's relevant to the moment, to the conversation. And it's inspired rather than pre-planned. Like I said to you before, I think I used to be a big one for preparation.”
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“and eventually you start to be in control a little bit more of how you're going to see each event so you can start to best you can shape those pieces to send you into the unknown which is why i didn't want to go before you know that's the the unknown was the threat the unknown was the was the potential slip up we're talking about was that kind of shady space where you're not in control anymore whereas now the unknown is like well if you want potential you want to see what life is it's unknown and the more unknown you see yourself the more you are aligned with life less ideas i have the more unknown i am the more i align with life the more that i start to to get that I think that more instantaneous response we're talking about instead of it taking 40 years for me it's kind of over that 40 years it's been sort of”
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“These are my understandings about how life is. This is how it's going to be. And so you end up just going round and round and round in circles. Instead of the classic cycle breaker, which is that random different piece. And sometimes it's a big shock or a trauma for people the way you kind of get a piece that's like completely different direction. Suddenly you head off into the unknown and people have those amazing experiences. But sometimes it's just a piece which is slightly less curved. And that's what those moments were for me, you know, that different understanding of like, hold on, I thought there was going to be joy here. I was convinced there isn't. And suddenly that cycle break in you're thinking just enough to change the piece a bit in your head here and you widen your circle.”
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“When its memory, and you start to realize its memory and then you start to realize that you have a say in the emotional involvement in that memory, you can release it from those memories. You can play with your past. Whereas people have a fixed idea of past And yet they want a different future. It's like a railroad track that has a certain piece that's slightly curved and the train is going along and reaches back from the previous piece and sticks it in front.”
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“All right, have some injuries why, so you can go through your own learning at the speed that you're choosing. You can't go any faster than you're ready for, and you can't go any slower. It is simply as it is, and as you explore, I think it kind of as you start to expand, the expansion takes place, I think quicker once you get going. I think more revelations come and it kind of opens up harder or faster. But the point for me being that trust is just. It may have taken forty years to get to this point from a but from an experiential level. I don't feel forty years has gone into this. It's been instantaneous because it's just memory, it's not forty years. It's our kind of lovely idea of people confusing the past with memory.”
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“Yeah, I think having, like you said, that insecurity is often, for me, just comes down to the opposite of trust. It's distrust in yourself or whatever. But when there's a different trust about it, that acceptance I'm speaking about is all encompassing, that when you accept now, it is a full acceptance of all that's been. Now, if you accept this, then everything from a physical perspective that's brought to here also sort of is accepted. Therefore For me it was my goal because deep down my inner calling was I want to be free, I want to be happy and I want this and so according to the energy I was in these were the cooperative components win a World Cup Why? So you can see that that's not quite where you need to be going.”
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“I fell out of love with rugby at all, not at all, just purely that I was in survival mode more and more and more, and the more I went into it, the less relevant creativity, growth, love, connection with teammates, excitement, passion, joy. It's just not relevant to that.”
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“What's my next step responsibility? And you can't get to that passion without the acceptance. And the acceptance is this is what I've got. This is where I'm meant to be. This is how things are. And once that come to ease with that, then suddenly there is that I can start to feel what it is I want to do next. while there's that resistance to this it shouldn't be this way and should I be doing this or I'm elsewhere future past passion and excitement are kind of like, look, whilst you're trying to survive, we're not relevant to you. You know, someone in survival isn't really interested in passion and excitement. And I was in survival most of my career, hence why I”
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“Sort of an effort version of how to get to the top. And what that means is when I look back, it's like, how was it? I never smelt the roses. That's what most people say, yeah, because there's another way to do it. And maybe that's how this has come out for you versus the first I don't know, you know, like these projects for me, the next things I'm doing seem to just kind of, oh, yeah, there it is. That's interesting. Whereas before it was get out of there, don't you dare, whatever it is I think that just comes from at some point just saying well okay this is what I've got And then What do I want?”
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“Sort of conflict, and it stressed them out of me, but it was so damn strong. that it had to Because I wouldn't let it not win. I just didn't do it in a way that was enjoyable. And now I think when you release the conflict, you get even more flow, you get an effortless version of what I've done through efforting I've efforted heavily. I heard that word recently. I really like it. I much prefer it than tried or given so much. But I've really made it.”
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“give to our limits. Look at how many years we spent suffering and telling ourselves certain things that have come from old ideas that no longer serve us. And we're willing to give all our time to those. But people are still like, it's too hard to find ten minutes to sit on an evening. What am I going to do when actually, you know, you have that moment where you sat watching something on TV and it's not really interesting you and you kind of like that's time there but once that ball gets rolling when your passion centers around something and everything comes out of that same passion so it's all aligned it's all kind of focused energy That's going to manifest, there's no doubt. I'm sure at some level, there's no way you get to where you are now without there being that drive. Now, I had that in the rugby, and a lot of it was.”
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