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Lewis Howes

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“Might impact 10, then it's 20, and Yeah, and I think the traumas that our parents had or didn't heal are going to be felt in our childhood and our adulthood until we heal it. So, and that might be their grandparents and their grandparents who'd like pass it down. So we either need to heal it now or otherwise we're going to pass it down to our kids.”
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“Yeah, my grandparents influenced my parents, their traumas, and their beauty influenced them, which influenced me. And I felt like I had to. Heal the traumas of the past legacy as well, just like I'm carrying with me the beautiful parts of the past and leaning into those, but also healing things that were brought down that they never healed. So there's an impact with the legacy.”
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“But no one you know is going to know you in 100 years knowing you interact with is going to know you. So the big scheme of things, you know It doesn't matter after a hundred years, really, but it matters because everything is a reflection of our past.”
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“his legacy. I'm a part of his legacy. He was a part of my foundation, and now I'm going to be a part of that. And I think about that because I want to make sure that my last name is meaningful and would make him proud. You know, I want to make sure that am I doing things in alignment with what he taught me would make the world a better place, would be good for our community? Am I living to the highest level of the values? Not the stuff that he didn't do well, but the stuff he did well do well. And so I think it's important because we're going to be interacting with people. And when we're gone, they're thinking of us in a positive way or negative way. And they might be acting like we acted in either of those ways. So I think it's valuable and important. And I think about it in that sense, but I also think about that it's not important because in 200 years, no one's going to remember. Maybe, you know, like someone has a memory of in a history book and they talk about you.”
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“I think yes and no. It is in the sense that like with my dad passing, I think about his legacy, right? And I've had a lot of Like sad moments, and I've also had a lot of beautiful, grateful moments thinking about his life and his legacy and what he, how he lived, what he taught during his life, and what he left behind in terms of wisdom and lessons. And I think it's important to For me, that's valuable in the sense that I'm going to be around, you know, my siblings are going to be around. His grandchildren are around who experienced him. They're going to have We are going to have memories and an imprint based on his life and how he lived with us. And now it's all about how we show up.”
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“I would have been happier sooner inside had I learned that skill of healing, of inner peace, emotional regulation, all these things that kind of held me back from being 100% my authentic self and in my power towards building everything that I'm doing.”
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“I mean, it's like, what would you do if you were starting all over again? You know, if you were 21 or you started your podcast again or, you know, you were getting started again in your business. What would you have done differently is what I get asked. And what's the answer? I mean, the answer is... I don't know if I would have done anything differently because it's all given me a lot of wisdom and experiences to where I'm at now. I wish I would, I guess I wish I would have known this stuff sooner, but I think we all need to learn things as they come to us. I guess what I wish I'd known differently is how to have inner peace. I wish I would have had that skill because I think I'd be farther ahead.”
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“Yeah, and it doesn't mean I'm perfect, and it doesn't mean I have it all figured out, and it doesn't mean I'm not going to make mistakes in the future. Just means that's the path”
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“Right. Because then it's no more chase. It's no more thing to work towards. And here's the thing I'm happy today because I have inner peace. And I think. There's no goal that I've accomplished in the past that has brought me inner peace when I accomplished it. I felt depressed and anxious with a lot of goals from the past. Now I feel happy with just showing up and giving my best day to day. It's as lame as that sounds. The healing work has allowed me. It doesn't mean I'm like satisfied. I still am driven and I'm hungry for more. But I'm just in such a beautiful place in my relationship with myself and my relationship with Martha and my relationship with friends and family, my team. I just feel like, man. If this was it, I'm in a peaceful place, and that's beautiful.”
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“Then I'll be like, awesome. I'm doing this podcast for nine years now. It's like I've been doing this for a long time. Last year, we got over 100 million views just on our YouTube channel alone. So we're in the hundreds of millions a year of, and I don't calculate it as a... We had over 100 million just on YouTube of 24 minute watch time. So for me, that's a deep encounter of someone introspective, learning, diving in, you know, overcoming something and trying something new. That's meaningful to me. And so if we can do that weekly for a while, then I'll take an assessment and say, okay, where am I at in my life this season? Am I striving for more? Am I maintaining? Am I shifting? I'll reassess it then.”
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“Say, great, we gotta repeat this over and over again for a while until I feel like, okay, what's the next goal? I mean, if we get 100 million lives weekly.”
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“It gives me a target. It's something I can measure. It's not too unrealistic. It's a big number. But I feel like, yeah, how things are going, maybe it could happen in a year. Maybe it's 10 years. I don't know. But it gives me a focus and it keeps me in alignment on the things I say yes and no to does this decision, project interview partnership serve 100 million lives or get me closer to it or is it a distraction? So it helps me get clear on saying yes or no to things as well.”
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“But I know there's something more inside of me, and so I'm striving to serve 100 million lives. One of the reasons that's meaningful to me is because I believe that we're all here for a reason. I believe that we all have a certain unique set of gifts and talents. And I want to see how far those talents can spread. I just feel like that's part of my calling at this season of my life. And I'm 100% happy and fulfilled with all the efforts I've had to this moment because it's everything I've been able to do. But I know there's so much more. So this is just something for me to aim towards, to reach towards”
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“Yeah. So the masculine masculinity, once I started opening up about my healing journey and seeing the impact and the responses that men were having. Like, gosh, I need to write about this, don't I? Internally, I was like, this needs to happen next. My book agent was like, let's go do another book about business or marketing. And I was like, I just can't do it. Like, even if I make no money, this has to come out of me because if it can help one man heal their internal relationship with themselves and then heal their relationship with their family and their marriage, whatever it might be, then it's worth it to me And so I just felt like I needed to put it out. And So I'm happy to help one person and I feel accomplished. I feel purposeful, useful. I feel like my talents were for something meaningful.”
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“If you succeed. Well, helping one person matters to me. When I wrote my book, The Mascan Masculinity, I remember thinking to myself, this probably isn't going to sell 100 million copies, right? It's about how men can be vulnerable. Like most men don't want to buy that book”
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“What's the mechanism? Right now it's podcasting, YouTube, social media, books, events, all those different things. Maybe in the future there's another mechanism. For me, I'm not attached to the mechanism I'm committed to the mission. And so I'm flexible and open on how. I want to make sure that I'm a A messenger, and I'm a facilitator of messages with other messengers. And that's the mission for this season of my life until something shifts inside of me where it says, you know, that's not your calling anymore, then I'll listen to that next mission.”
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“People ask me that. I think when I came up with that number, it's because I'd already impacted millions at the time. And whenever I ask people like, what's your dream? And they say they want to change the world. It just doesn't seem real. Like, okay, what does that mean? And then some people say, I want to change billions of lives. Okay. It just seems like it's hard to It's hard to measure that quickly. Like, how fast is that going to happen? But I'd already impacted millions. And I was like, okay, what would it look like? How long would it take me to reach 100 million people at once like in a year? And then how could I, what would it look like to do it in a month and then in a week? And then how could I repeat that every week?”
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“Everything is based on mission. The mechanism is kind of irrelevant. How I do it is irrelevant. The mission is to serve 100 million lives weekly, to help them improve the quality of their life. That's the mission.”
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“Exactly. It's about having a short period of pain versus a long period of pain. And the short pain is diving into the fear. Maybe the pain is a week, a month, or a year in order to overcome that fear. Until you overcome it and transcend it, or having this numbing, low-level pain for the rest of your life by not choosing that. Which one do you want? You know, for me, I just can't live that way.”
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“Keep it open and explore. And it's been magic and beauty on the other side because I've gone all in that as well. Every time it's just something magical happens.”
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“It's brought me so many opportunities because I spent a year obsessing over this and failing. Again, it's brought me incredible financial resources. It's put me in front of, I've traveled the world because of speaking. It's brought me business deals. I've met and collaborated with other speakers that I met on stages at these events. It's given me confidence by having this skill. So every fear that I have, if I master it and I go all in on it, something magical and beautiful happens on the other side. Same in relationships. After the previous relationship, I was like, okay, I can be afraid and be single for a year and like guard my heart or I can open my heart, keep it expansive, not closed off after this pain and challenge, keep it open and see what's possible. And when I met her, I was thinking to myself, I don't know if I want to like go into this, but I was like, let me.”
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“I remember thinking before I started Toastmasters, like if I want to get a job, I need to learn public speaking. If I want to improve in the career that I go into, I need to be able to communicate in the boardroom and get my ideas across, even if I'm an employee. I just need to be able to communicate. Or if I'm a CEO one day, I need to be able to inspire. If I want to be on stage, I need to be able to get a message across to influence and impact people. So I was like, if I want to accomplish my dreams, I need to overcome this fear.”
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“It's always. The amount of confidence I have over the last 15, 20 years really, of just taking on these different fears that I thought I would never be able to do. Let's talk solitancing. You know, I started that 17 years ago. It's opened up a world to me. I've traveled the world. I've salsa dance in every major city around the world over the last 17 years. I've met incredible people. I have had so much fun I get to just go and dance and have fun. And it gives me an incredible sense it's a tool that I can take out at any moment whenever needed. It's a language that I can speak to so many people that speak that language. And it's given me a level of confidence that I never had without that because it was a fear and now it's something that's fun that I've mastered. It's incredible. Same thing with public speaking.”
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“a podium and read word for word, I didn't look up once of my first speech. The point where I was like, okay, I'm writing a speech and then looking up a couple times while reading it, to then it was like just note cards. To then it was bullet points. To then it was a slide. To then it was nothing. But it was mind-blowing because it took a year to kind of get a baseline of confidence. And it took every week showing up. But I'm telling you, if I could do something like this, it's possible. But you got to be willing to be so uncomfortable to overcome these fears sometimes.”
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“He said, go every week for a year and come back to me when you're done. And that's what I did. I went to a Toastmasters Club every week for a year. And I remember it was terrifying for the first few months. But the more I did it and just messed up, I just kept messing up. But I found someone, a mentor me there, I practiced it consistently every single week. My next speech, I would put myself in uncomfortable conversations to just be made fun of or just feel like I'm so stupid around these people. But every week I'd show up, I would get a little bit more confidence, a little bit more confidence to the last week of the year. I remember I had no notes, no props, no nothing, and I was extremely poised and confident and got like the standing ovation at the end of the year because they saw my journey. The first speech, I had everything written out word for word. Word for word, I looked down at about”
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“I was also terrified to dance, and I started salsa dancing obsessively because I wanted to overcome this fear. And when I was learning this skill of salsa dancing to overcome that fear, I met a guy who was a public speaker and he got paid to speak around the country. And I said, how do you do this? And he said, meet me tomorrow at this coffee shop, and I'll answer any question you have. Because we're literally like in the middle of the dance floor and I'm asking this. So I meet him at this coffee shop in McClellance, Ohio. And he was like, if you want to overcome the fear of public speaking, you need to practice it every week. And I recommend joining this thing called Toastmasters, where you can practice in a safe environment where they're not going to laugh at you.”
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“And it got to the point where it was so terrifying because I would get up and I was not able to read until really about tenth grade. No joke. When I went into eighth grade, that private boarding school, they tested me, reading and comprehension and everything, and I had a second grade reading level. So when I was in school, it was so hard for me to stand in front of the class and read aloud because the simplest words I didn't know what they were dyslexic. So it was just challenging to read. And then I'd feel nervous and then I would sabotage it and then kids would laugh because I couldn't read. And so it's just kind of like a traumatizing thing that I had to learn how to let go of and heal. And so I just never wanted to speak in front of people. And I remember, this is funny, I was also”
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“Yeah, I don't know if it was like this in school in the UK, but in America, at least in Ohio where I grew up, the teacher would sometimes say, okay, we're going to have you guys read aloud, right? And, okay, Lewis, open up chapter one, paragraph one, and stand up and read in front of people.”
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“Huge fear, man I could not stand in front of two to three friends in school and really even have a conversation. Like I didn't know how to, if someone would ask me a question, I would get nervous. I couldn't even respond with really a small story. Just because I was so, the story I told myself that I was so used to being made fun of and picked on growing up that I would just didn't want to speak that much because I didn't want to be made fun of.”
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“Incredible, yeah, and so my audience would be like, Oh, Lewis is going through stuff in this. Oh, Lewis is going through a breakout. Oh, Lewis is in a relationship.”
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“Yeah, right. I get the biggest neuroscience. I've had so many, and this year has been like the year of therapists and neuroscientists and spiritual gurus and just being like figuring out more and more about emotions, about regulation, about healing, about inner child work. Because I have people on there where I'm like, when I'm struggling in something in my life, I bring those people on and like, teach me how to overcome this.”
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“Yeah, and rewriting the script. At not diminishing the things that happened, but acknowledging them and healing them in a different way and processing it in a healthy way. So that I can meet myself where I'm at now and And then really start elevating.”
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“and working on the evolution of all the memories of the past that wrote a story and developed chapters in a book that That did not serve me.”
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“So she's like, we want to tap into the 11 and 12 year old self. And she's like, find a photo. That's my next homework is to put a photo of myself when I was 11 or 12 and start healing that part of my life. And there was a bunch of different stuff that happened in that phase that I haven't fully healed or forgiven myself. And so that'll be the next work to do. And it'll be like stages of life until I meet myself to where I am now.”
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“And so now she said, we've healed the five-year-old version of you that was sexually abused because I don't get triggered about it. I don't get reactive to it. I'm not defensive and guarded anymore. And I'm also shifting the way I don't please people in relationships anymore. So I've done a lot of things to do the work about intimacy and relationships and just in life. She's like, now. Go okay, am I done? Because this is a lot of work. You know, it's like it's a lot. You're diving into your emotions, you're tapping into uncomfortable stuff. You're like crying. It's all these things. She's like, this is a journey. Do you want to go to the next level in your life? Or are you satisfied? I'm like, okay, you got to keep going, you know? There's always something else.”
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“Some weird stuff, but for whatever reason it's worked for me. Because now I can look at a situation and say, okay, do I feel triggered? Oh, where's that coming from? Is it from that hurt child? If so, all I need to do is have a conversation with that part of my mind and say, I'm an adult now. And the adult is here and I got your back. I can take care of this. I know how to process and soothe things in a healthy way. I don't need to lean onto an addiction or a reaction or whatever it may be to process. I know how to handle this. I know how to breathe. I know how to take a walk. I know how to have a conversation and process. You're safe. You're okay. It's all going to be okay. Whereas before, I didn't have that ability to communicate with a wounded part of myself.”
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“Had this photo for the last year, I'll just show the camera, the photo of my five-year-old self. And in the last session I did with her, it was all about healing the inner child, right? It was all about healing the inner child and doing the... I did some weird stuff like putting myself in spiritual. and mental environments where I'm talking to my five-year-old self and looking at my five-year-old self, hugging my five-year-old self, integrating my five-year-old self with my adult self, and kind of reparenting that psychological child.”
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“Definitely things you can do on your own. I would read a book called How to Do The Work by Nicole La Pera, which gives you a lot of exercises and practices and things like that on how to do the work yourself so you can get the book for 25 bucks and start there. And start your own ritual and healing process, whether it be journaling, whether it be, you know, other types of meditations, things like that. She has different rituals in there you can do. I would recommend, I don't think there's anything more powerful than sitting in front of a human and talking to someone about how you feel and what you're going through. So whether that's a priest or a parent or a teacher or a friend that you trust, someone you feel like who has a little bit more wisdom than you, I would start there until you can afford the therapy.”
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“It's sidetracked me a little bit, but it's not pulling me off. Like I'm needing to face it and deal with things and process, but it's not like defeating me to where I feel like I'm exhausted. And that's because I'm holding myself emotionally accountable and doing the work.”
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“Need to ask ourselves why am I so triggered? Where is that? That's a wound somewhere. Where is that wound? And how can I start the healing journey? I'm not saying the things are going to happen in life and you're never going to feel something, but just not react and be overwhelmed emotionally to where it takes you away from love and takes you away from your mission. But if something is so strong that it causes you to lose sleep for three days or causes you to react in a negative way, it's pulling you away from your heart from love and from your meaningful mission. And I think we just got to get back to, okay, why is this stressing me out? How can I process this in integrate healing in a healthy way so that when life happens, it doesn't pull me off my mission. And that's something I've experienced for the first time in the last three months is really like life has happened in a big way for me.”
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“And his answer was beautiful. He said emotional regulation. I was like, I 100% agree. Because if we don't have the power to regulate our feelings around a situation, an environment, something that happens in events, then that event has power over us as opposed to us over that moment. And if it has power over us to where we react so strongly.”
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“The biggest killer is not healing. That's the biggest killer. Whatever wounds we have, be on the healing journey. It's not going to happen overnight. It's not like a moment. It's a journey of healing. And I think the more people are willing to dive into their heart and their emotions and whatever insecurities, wherever they feel triggered, that's where you need to lean into because that triggers going to come up in a relationship big time if you haven't healed it. So it's the emotional healing I think is one of the most powerful things. It's funny. I interviewed a brain surgeon. Don't wear a thousand brain surgeries and studied the brain. And he's also a PhD in neuroscience. So he studies the mind and thoughts, and he was a brain surgeon. And I said, what's the number one skill you feel like human beings should learn to master?”
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“I would say the biggest killer of relations. Is being out of integrity with your authentic power and abandoning yourself. To create peace in the relationship. Because if one person is doing that, Two people are doing that. There's some type of codependency, there's some type of. wound on why we're doing that Creating that. So for me.”
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“I think it was in the first maybe few months of us dating, but I don't feel like it is anymore. Yeah, I feel like every day I create more and more peace and connection and safety. And she's just an incredible person. Like, she's just a great human being and trustworthy. So it's like, even if something happened to me, she could be an incredible, you know, incredible mom.”
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“Didn't accept me fully, that weren't happy with who I was. And so that's on me. And I never felt like I could go to the next level with any of them because I was like, something's off inside. And I feel like I'm changing who I am to make them happy and they're still not happy. So I can't have kids. I can't see myself living like this for, you know, 20 years with someone.”
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“But I've had a commitment challenge in seeing. Around family and kids, because I never trusted the person I was with fully. So I couldn't see myself having kids with them, and I kept waiting to see something to shift to where I felt like this was kind of where my head would go. This is maybe weird, but I would say if something ever happened to me, could I trust this person would take care of my kids? And I just never felt that because I never felt like I could trust him with me. Like again, I take full responsibility and accountability because I chose people.”
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“I haven't had a commitment challenge because I've always been committed. I've been in very long term committee relationships.”
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“There's a smirk on your face, which is why this is something that I say to her. I go, Listen, I'm really intentional about building a deep, strong foundation. Let's keep building a strong foundation and everything else will follow. If I feel a sense of peace, I feel a sense of safety in this relationship just like you, then all these other things are going to happen naturally. And they'll probably happen fast naturally once we both have a deeper foundation and just experience life more so.”
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“Some point, yeah. I mean, it may evolve, may change into family and all these other things. So it's like when that season happens, there may be less travel for her.”
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“First met her, I said one of my values is alone time. Like that's one of my values as well, is having a lone time, having enough space in our home so that I can go in a room and do what I want to do and watch sports or chill and you can do what you want to do. And I feel like we have space. Doesn't mean I don't want to be around her all the time, but I also value my space alone time, and so does she. So it's having those conversations. And with business, I said, listen, if you can come on any trip, like you're more than welcome to come, I'd love for you to come. But she's doing her own thing. She's traveling as well back and forth from Atlanta. And she'll be filming two movies later this year and gone for two months at a time. So I'll need to travel at those times and she'll travel with me. And that's the season of our life right now.”
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