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Mel Robbins

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“Because here's the thing that's really important it's really not about other people. See, energetically you're hooking yourself into other people because you have an opinion about what they should or shouldn't be doing.”
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“Put the guardrails up, right? But there is so much controlling that we do in our lives of other people, and it is ruining your relationships. And a great example of a way to use this is let's say that you see that your friends are going out for brunch this weekend. They didn't invite you”
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“And look how much stress it created. And look how much adjudicat I created. So there's so many things going on, Steven. And first of all, I should also say there are exceptions. First of all, you're not just going to let your kids do whatever they're going to do if you're a parent because you're supposed to”
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“And some of the really important topics too. Like if your kid wants to drop out of school, you can say what you need to say. Ultimately, it's their life. Let them.”
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“Let him do what he wants to do. Why am I worried about what he's doing? Why am I not worried about where I'm going to have dinner? And so it was just this moment and it immediately kind of unhooked me. And then from that point forward, I just noticed a million situations sitting at the restaurant that night, and the waiter is busy with other stuff and they're not coming to the table. How does everybody feel when that happens? Let them let them be busy. Let them take care of the other table. Standing in line and people, I don't know what it is about the world today, but people cannot stand in lines. Fidgeting and this and that and the other thing. And the person is letting in people from that line and they're not letting in people from this line. Let them. Let them.”
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“Just let them do what they want. An Oak yells over and says, hey, mom, I think we're going to go to this taco thing. Now, the taco place that they were going to, Stephen, is like the size of this table. There are 20 kids. It is hailing outside. They are dressed to the nines, and I could feel that volcano of control coming up like you can't go to the taco place, you're in a tux and you got the new sneakers and her dress is going to get ruined and you don't even have an umbrella. What are you thinking? And Kendall has my arm. She's like, let them. If they want to go to a taco stand in the pouring rain and ruin their dress, let them. It's their prom, not yours. And as she said it, I started just repeating those words to even let them let them go to taco stand. Let them let her own issues. Who cares?”
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“All of a sudden it starts to rain out of nowhere, and by rain I mean a hailstorm. It is raining sideways, and I realize none of these kids have umbrellas. None of these kids are prepared for this, and so I turn to our son and I'm like, oh, where are you guys going for dinner? He's like, well, I don't know. And I turned towards my husband. I'm like, they don't have plans for dinner? What do you mean they didn't make a reservation for the prom? And so I start to get all worked up. And now all the other parents are like, wait, you didn't make, do you want me to call the in? Do you guys want us to order pizzas? And the ramp up is happening. And I start to jump in and my daughter grabs my arm. And she says let them.”
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“Like most moms, you know, completely obsessed about everything. It's also my son and this is his first prom and I had had daughters so it was a totally different circus with our daughters. And I thought that his would be drama free because he's a guy, but it actually became more dramatic because he doesn't say anything. And so everything Stephen was a last minute scramble, right? Like from getting the tucks to he needed to have these certain Stan Smith Adidas sneakers and we had to overnight those to the fact that he was just going to go with his friends and then all of a sudden he has to date and then she wants a boutonier she doesn't want a boutonier and then we're going to the and every step of the way I had internal opinion why doesn't So we get to the pre-prom photo party that's a lot of peas. And our daughter happened to be home from college. And so she was there for the weekend.”
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“And so they'll let them theory is this simple theory that I credit my daughter with teaching me that has created so much peace in my life because like every other human being on the planet, I had no idea how many opinions, how much frustration and expectations I had about what other people were doing or what they should be doing. Like it's just unreal how obsessed we all are with everybody else and what they should be doing and what they're not doing. And when you start to use the let them theory, You will notice it's just unbelievable how much you need to use it. There are exceptions. I mean, I can explain a lot about this. I'll give you the quick story about how I learned it because I think it's very helpful. So it was our son's junior prom. So he's 11th grader in the States.”
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“Technique, no? So the let them theory. Is based on a simple truth. The fastest way To take control of your life is to stop controlling everyone around you. You have no idea how much time and energy and attention you are wasting. Trying to control other people. You have no idea how much energy you are burning through thinking about, worrying about, obsessing about what other people are doing, what they're not doing, what they're feeling, all of which you have zero control over.”
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“And not be revven that internal engine so much, but to be able to just, this is not a technical term. I feel like I've smoothed out my nervous system. By doing traditional talk therapy, guided MDMA therapy with my husband, EMDR. All of the behavioral activation therapy, which is kind of leading with a behavior first approach and start acting like the person you want to be. Let them, okay.”
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“I think a lot of this. We're talking about an conscious decisions that anybody's making. That there is so much conditioning and programming that happens that we are unaware of as we're growing up and as we're moving through young adulthood, that you don't even realize how much you avoid stuff or how much you're coping by being busy or you're coping by drinking too much or you're chasing stuff because you feel a deep sense of self-loathing. And that most of the decisions, at least this is for me, were all reactions. Just again, like just trying to do the best that I can, but not really in control of anything. And until I really believe this until you can drop into your body. And just calm down your nervous system.”
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“However, if you look at a lot of our experiences growing up, most of us get a lot of positive attention when we achieve. And so we become, whether you want to say driven or dragged, it's probably just a message. For me, I think I was probably, to use your words dragged since I wasn't in control of it, but more and more, I feel profoundly driven.”
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“Yes So for me, if I Put it through the lens of the bad things that happened. It would probably be Just like outrunning, like a psychiatrist one said to me, it's very interesting to me that when this, you know, incident happened in the fourth grade and this kid climbed on top of you while you were sleeping, you are in a state when you're sleeping where you are completely supposedly safe. And so I'm not sure, Mel, your nervous system ever reset back to a place of feeling safe. And then the hypervigilance of having a caregiver who is always kind of very erratic with their personality also made me feel, always on the move, always on the move, always on the move. You know, if you're on the move, nobody can catch you. And so slowing down, if you put it in that context, becomes unsafe, right?”
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“And you can still do them I will never like getting out of bed. And I still get out of bed when the alarm rings. I don't like emptying the dishwasher, and I still do it. I don't like exercising. I still do it. I don't like eating healthy a lot of the times. I still do it. I don't like. Taking a breath and centering myself. When I really want to just scream at my husband Can I still do it? Because I let my emotions and my anxiety and my trauma responses and my fears run my life for far too long. And I would rather be in the daily I don't know if you call it a battle or you just call it I'm just in a daily dance with myself to constantly come back to alignment and peace and showing up as the kind of person that I want to be rather than how I may feel in the moment”
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“Well, I don't know. Dude, I wake up every, I still, I know all this. And this is the other like, I think, is a really important thing for you to hear, not you, Stephen, but everybody watching and listening to us. And that is that I personally feel like it's important to understand that you may never like the things you need to do”
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“That means my emotions and the sensations in my body and the patterns that have been hardwired for a long time and the coping mechanisms that just run on autopilot, that's what's driving you. It's not up here”
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“But here's the thing you're not making your behavior decisions with your brain. You're making them with the sensation in your body. If you don't feel like doing it, you don't do it. See, before it even gets up here, you feel it in here. And this was the thing that was revelatory for me. It's like, oh my God, like my emotions drive my entire life. And that's why I feel out of control. And that's why I'm frustrated with myself. And that's why I can talk till I'm blue in the face about what I need to do and what I should do and what this and what that. But when push comes to shove, if I don't feel like doing it, where I'm scared or I'm this or I'm that, I don't do it.”
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“Who is in the kind of shape that you want to be in? Ask yourself what the behavior is because I'll tell you, the reason why you're not taking those behaviors is because this chain of events in your body from sensation to perception to feeling an emotion to thinking is constantly telling you, meh, I don't feel like it. I don't want to. It's not going to work anyway.”
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“There's two ways around it. One is to work with a licensed therapist who can help you do Of understanding yourself and understanding your default thinking patterns and doing the work to challenge those assumptions and change the way that you think. That absolutely works. If you will commit to the process of doing it. The second way, and you can do these together, certainly how I did it, is to look at your behaviors and understand that there is this chain of, there is this order that happens in your body, and reverse it. Take a behavior first approach. What if you want to get in better shape, what does somebody do”
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“Sensation is the first thing that you feel that then triggers that whole pathway, or you have any kind of anxiety, again, sensation of the alarm that then triggers a whole pathway of action and reaction. This is one of the reasons why you feel out of control. It's because the sensation and the wiring in your body is actually triggering this chain reaction and you don't even realize it. It's why avoiding things or freezing has become your default response to everything because every sensation triggers the exact same thing, which leads to an action of avoidance.”
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“My sensation, my perception, my emotions about things and my thinking, all four or five of those things actually precede what action I take. And I'm not in control of what I'm doing. My emotions and my sensations and my trauma and like all of the stuff that has been running on like autopilot forever, that is controlling who Mel Robbins is. And at some point, if that's working for you, fantastic. If there's an area of your life that you're not happy in, then you got to reverse the order. Or, I guess, or you can go to therapy for months and months and months and do the work and slowly but surely you will change the way that you think which also helps. But I find that understanding that that is the chain of events. And for those of us that have any kind of childhood trauma.”
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“Then perception, so sensation, perception, then feeling, then thought, then action. That is the biological chain of events that happens in a nanosecond. And I know that this is what's happening. So I have the feeling. I then have the perception happen, which is I look around, it's dark, Chris is next to me, I then have an emotion about it, overwhelm, frustration, like, you know, usually something negative. Then I have a thought which is, I don't want to get out of bed. And that for years would trigger the action I would take. And what most of us I certainly didn't understand that sensation, perception, feeling or emotion, thinking, and then action is the chain of events. That is how you're hardwired. This is how it works. Like, this is how it works. It wasn't until I understood that holy cow, if I don't reverse the chain.”
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“Going to get out of bed, right? I mean, that's how it's supposed to work because when you set the alarm the night before, you're setting it for a time where you're basically supposed to get up. So you are making a promise to your future self in the morning that you're going to get out of bed. Well, what happens? All kinds of things happen. You go to bed, the alarm rings, and the first thing that you feel is a sensation. And for me, the sensation that I always feel in my body is something that I would call. I don't know if it's the cortisol. I don't know if it's partying. I don't know if it's menopause. I don't know if it's the fact that I have a fabulous bed and my husband's next to me and I don't want to get out of bed. I don't know if it's the fact that I live in southern Vermont and it's freezing. Like I don't know. But the first sensation is.”
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“I do not expect to feel motivated. I do not expect to feel like doing things, and I make myself do them. That does not mean, by the way, that I have great willpower. That does not mean that I consider myself to be a disciplined person. That means that I understand the biology of how most human beings work. And the biology of how most human beings work is that you feel a sensation in your body. So let's just take an example like getting out of bed. You set the alarm the night before. I know you don't, but most normal human beings set the alarm the night before. And when the alarm goes off,”
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“Oh my god no, I think motivation's garbage. I mean, I, and I always thought that was funny given that I was a motivational speaker for a long time. And here I think it's garbage. And the reason why I think motivation is garbage is because it's not there when you need it. And I don't rely on motivation.”
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“Like, there's just so much information out there. And then I make a decision okay, well, what are the two or three things that I'm going to do? And then I start doing it. And I wake up every day and I do those things, even if I don't feel like it, even if my self-talk is pretty poor. And here's what happens over time, for me personally, is if I see myself taking actions consistent with somebody who exercises or somebody who is taking care of her hormone health or somebody who is not drinking or somebody who is writing a book. If I see myself taking those actions, it changes the way that I look at myself. The action first approach is what I personally believe in because I think it works faster.”
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“Kids. Like everything's changing. It's really confusing to figure out what's going on. I could go on and on and on about this as somebody who's in the middle of it trying to figure out what to do around my changing hormones and how to get better control of my health. And so what do I do? I feel a little discouraged right now. I don't really know what to do. I just know I don't like how my body is feeling and how it's changing. And so I make a decision and a commitment to myself that I want to feel better. I want to understand this. And so that decision is super important because without deciding that I want to do something, I'm not doing anything. And then I start to study all of the experts and what people have to say about this topic of hormone balance and gut health and women's health and how to regulate your hormones naturally.”
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“With the time that I have left in my life, I really want to start to enjoy myself. I want to take better care of myself. I want to feel happy. You don't even have to believe you deserve it yet. You can just want it. You've got to start there. You've got to start with wanting something better for yourself. And then I personally think the most important thing is to start acting like the person who has the things that you want right now, even though you don't feel like it. And the reason why I personally prefer to hack this change of going, okay, I want to, like here's something that I am working on right now. So I'm 55 years old. I'm in the middle of menopause. It's a complete nightmare. And I feel as out of control with my body as I did when I was pregnant with one of our three.”
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“And so, yes, your self-talk, which is probably buried somewhere very deep, this is not my area of expertise in terms of psychiatry or neuroscience, but we just interviewed him and it was fascinating, is informing what you think about yourself. And of course, what you think about yourself then drives the things that you do. Is it thought-driven or behavior driven? Is it nervous system driven first? Is it subconscious driven first? Here's what I know. I know that until you make a decision that you no longer want to feel how you feel, or you no longer want to think the way that you think, or you no longer want to have the kind of results or no results that you have until you make that decision that, you know what? I know I don't feel great. I know I doubt myself. I know I've had a lot of bad things happen.”
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“I think one of the most interesting experts to talk to about that topic is I think his first name is Paul Dr. Paul Conti from Stanford. I know his last name is Dr. Conte, but I just interviewed him for our podcast and his work is all on the inner voice and the subconscious. And that there is this narrative that you have that you may not even be aware is talking to you all the time. And when you start to turn toward what that self-critic is saying, you know, you're never good enough. Why'd you screw that up? And you start to examine what it's telling you. It would be as if I was walking behind you, Stephen, all day long going, boy, you really suck and you blew that. And my God, you're never going to amount to anything and you're going to be alone and you're going to do this. And we do it to ourselves.”
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“That so many people just don't know that they're stuck in patterns of abuse or patterns of thinking that they can change. And if you're not aware that you're stuck in something, there's no way you can change it. And so it makes me extremely sad that there are so many people that are not aware of how much better and how much more present and how much more joy they could experience in their life.”
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“And actually, that's one of the things that really I'm so curious about with you because I like you, talk to so many people and have so many people writing in. And the number of people that are living their life at 40 or 50 or 60. And they are defined by the trauma that happened in their childhood. And that's not to say that the trauma wasn't profound or wasn't impactful. And having experienced childhood trauma of my own that I didn't discover until later in life, I find it so sad.”
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“Oh my God, yes. What really breaks my heart is how stuck people are. And that there are things you can do to change your life for the better. And if you don't have hope. And you don't have this breakthrough where you have for just a millisecond this insight where you go, well, what if things did work out? If you don't have that moment, most people stay so stuck in resignation.”
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“To continuing this pain that you're in is to try something different because it's the only thing that might be slightly less painful than what you're doing, you get to that point where, you know, I call it the fuck it. This is bad, so fuck it. Let's try something else. And so I really believe that. And I think people, you can't tell who's going to change because it's a long game.”
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“Like, the kind of people that are actually going to change will thank you for the hope and thank you for a specific piece of advice. And then they are moving so fast out that door because they realize that change doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't happen with one insight. It is tedious. It is painful. It is lonely because it is a game of just moving the ball down the field inch by inch by inch. It's not glamorous. It's lonely as you start changing everything around you starts changing. People around you start like it just it's not even fun in the beginning. And so you'd either have to have an incredible amount of hope or a ridiculous amount of inspiration and delusion, or you have to be in so much pain that the alternative”
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“I'll tell you, that's an energy thing. I mean, you're somebody who invests in a lot of people, and I would imagine that in addition to looking at the business model, you're actually looking at the person and talk is cheap.”
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“What if this is the time, sobriety sticks? What if I go to therapy and I actually do change the way that I think? What if I could recover from this narcissistic abuse that I've been kind of struggling with after that relationship or that marriage? What if I could get out of debt if that person did it, maybe I could do it? And without either hope or Or that kind of rock bottom moment, I don't think you're going to change.”
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“Or you're going to bump into somebody's story somewhere on this planet who has been in the position that you're in right now facing the stuff that you're facing right now, and there is something about their story at this exact moment in time that will ignite something in you that is missing and what is missing in you right now is hope. Because when you're stuck and when you are on a downward spiral, whether it's just in your own head or it's in self-destructive behavior, the thing that's missing in your life is hope. You don't believe right now that anything is going to make a difference. And so until you get to the point where you just hate what you're doing so much that it's worth trying. Or you have somebody crack open a door and just a little light comes in and you have this moment where you go, well, what if”
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“Yeah, and look, you know, we're having an intellectual conversation. And, you know, the fact is it's really hard to change If it were easy to develop great habits or change your mindset and it could happen like that, everybody would have six-pack abs. Everybody would have four companies like you do. Everybody would have a hit podcast. Everybody would have their dreams come true. And it is very difficult to change because we are hardwired to spot patterns that seem similar and to repeat them. And so I do think it's important to say that if you're struggling, if you're frustrated with yourself, if you're at that point where you're so sick of yourself and your excuses, I've been there, Steven's been there. This is a normal part of the human experience.”
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“What you're talking about is a fundamental fact, and that is you cannot change another person. People only change when they're ready to change. And if what it requires is more pain or hitting a rock bottom, or the stakes becoming so high that That somebody sees the cost of continuing to self sabotage or to go on the path that they're going down? That for some people is the only moment in time where they see that they want things to be different and that You can't want somebody's sobriety or their healing or their financial freedom more than they do.”
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“You're going to feel that rise up because you've never done this before. You always go and you know you're going to get blowback. But if you get really quiet and you drop in and you ask yourself, okay. If I were to go to the bar tonight, does that feel like something expansive? Or does that feel like something that's shrinking me a little bit? And you'll know the right answer for you. And that's a tool that I have used over and over and over again in my life to know what to do. Don't answer how. It doesn't answer when it answers what.”
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“Even though you're nervous about it, even though you're not quite sure where you're going to go. If the decision is wrong, when you get quiet and you drop in, you will feel a sense of shrinking. You'll feel constrained. You'll feel a little depleted in your energy. And we often mistake that kind of nervousness that you feel before you make a decision to quit your job or a decision. You know what? I'm going to get serious about my finances. I'm going to stop going out to the bar on the weekends and I'm going to commit to listening to this podcast two hours every weekend to start learning and start mastering skills. And it literally put these things that I want first. Now, on Friday night, when your buddy's calling like, hey, we're going down to the pub, you want to come. When you are about to say no.”
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“The problem is if it requires you to do something new, what's also going to happen is you're going to have a fear response, and we mistake those moments of change or those moments where you're going to try something new, the moments of vulnerability, the moments where you're going to risk a little, the moments that require courage. We mistake the very natural response to change, which is a little moment of feeling alarmed, with your intuition being wrong. And so one way that you can tell the difference is the feeling of the decision. If the decision is the right decision in terms of a decision that is aligned with who you are and your soul and your DNA and just this deep wisdom inside you, even if it's scary, you will feel a sense of expansion. You will feel like something is growing, that there is possibility.”
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“And you will always have somebody who admit that they knew seven years before the divorce, they knew a year before the breakup. They knew before they even hooked up with the person the first time that this was probably not the right thing because it felt a little off, but it was confusing because, you know, you've got all the like rush of the adrenaline and the attraction and all the hormones and all that stuff. But deep down inside, if you got really quiet, you knew that this was not the right decision for you. And so the issue isn't the accuracy of your inner wisdom. The issue is your courage in following it. Because following your inner wisdom and making decisions that are aligned with what you are meant to do in your life, the kind of people you're supposed to be with right now, the kind of support that you need, the things that are interesting to you, it always requires you to do something different than what you're doing now.”
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“It's not that you can't trust yourself. Because your instincts have always been right. I want you to go back through the five or six horrible relationships that you just had. And I want you to look backwards. And the fastest way to do this is look back through your photos. And that'll take you back on the timeline. And that'll remind you of all this stuff. And I want you to look at your face and I want you to just be honest with yourself. When did you know this wasn't working?”
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“If you just accept the premise that we are energetic human beings, that we give off energy, we receive energy, we've all had the experience where you walk into like a retail store. And all of a sudden something feels off. That is the compass I'm talking about signaling to you based on your experience, based on your DNA, based on the generational wisdom that is passed down through your ancestors, that there is something there for you to pay attention to. The problem is not what your inner compass is telling you. And the problem is that you won't listen to it. And I can prove it because if you have somebody that comes up to you and says, oh, man, I've been in this relationship, in that relationship, and the other thing, and I'm just unlucky in love and I can't trust myself and I doubt that, I always say to somebody, stop.”
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“So I personally believe that we are all born. The second you come out and into this world, you are hardwired with this natural intelligence that is your own personal inner compass and that it is tuned into what is unique to you. It is constantly programmed by the experiences of your life, but it is always signaling toward what is uniquely”
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“Have that moment where your intuition tells you it's that way. Let me give you the secret to how to make your next big move. And the secret is this. Pay attention to what sucks in your life because there are positive navigational signals and there are negative ones. And when it comes to my life, Stephen, you seem to have been able to tap into the positive. I have a much greater like, I don't know, I'm more deeply connected to the negative shit, the jealousy, frustration, feeling anger. Anytime those emotions come up in my body, it's just a directional signal from deep inside of you telling you, you're supposed to pivot. Like, do not head in the same direction. Do not keep going the same speed. Make a change.”
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“When you think about your life as a road trip and you're the driver, that means it's about navigating where you go next. And at any single moment, you can pull over, stop the dam car like if you feel lost, if you feel turned around, if you have hit a dead end, do not find your way by continuing to drive in circles. Stop for a second. Assess where you are, tune back into the navigation system that is inside you, and you can turn your life in a new direction. You do it over and over and over again in business. You have this natural curiosity, this natural drive. If your instincts tell you to go, you point towards it. I have that. But for everybody that's listening or watching us who feels like you don't ever.”
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