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Michaeleen Doucleff

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“Children were raised for hundreds, thousands of years in these kind of big groups. And there's a lot of data to support that. And that's how Europeans were doing it. And then the Catholic Church came along about the 1500s and started having these laws to prevent close cousins from marrying and having children, which is totally legitimate, like biologically. You don't want to marry your first cousin and have a child. But over time, they started extending it out to like second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth cousins. I mean, you and I are sixth cousins, right? But we're not related at all. And whether this was intentional or not, what it did was it broke up this like big family living because like you couldn't marry anymore into these groups and it really like took intergenerational living and squashed it down slowly and slowly to what we now think of as like the nuclear family so you go from living in an environment where you know”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“The theory is, and it's really fascinating, is that before the 1500s, people in Europe lived like people everywhere in the world in these big kind of cleans or groups of like family, like big and not like all one house, but kind of in the same neighborhood. And it was, you know, it was like communal living, right? And this is how.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, he was like a sports writer and he wrote about golf, I think, and he was also super into guns and he actually like blew his hand off and stuff. And he like, I think he saw like there was like this market for parenting advice. And he wrote, yeah, like he was one of the first ones to really write about sleep training, which is totally crazy, like around the world, like leaving a baby to cry. And it's a very unique style and he was kind of the one of the first people to suggest it and recommend it.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Good luck. Exactly. My husband always says, like, we took all these birthing classes, but he was like, why didn't we take all these parenting classes? Like, now what do we do now that it's, you know. So that, I think, around the 1700s is the when that really started to get going, losing this kind of the teachers. And then parents started turning to the medical industry and parenting experts. And you can see the progression of like, what do we do? We don't really know what to do. And so parents are hungry for these pamphlets basically from orphanages that doctors had made to still like say like, how do you raise like 40 kids, right? And they turned into these like parenting manuals and books that were very popular because parents stopped really knowing what to do. Parenting books today you can trace all the way back to those pamphlets. It's really incredible. And of course they weren't the way you raise children in a home.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's a big question, but it dates back to probably the 1500s in Europe. It actually, one scientist thinks and has this whole theory and book about how it dates back to the Catholic Church. We could talk about that. But in general, what's happened is we've lost the parenting teachers. That's, I think, a really key aspect of it, that traditionally you have a child, often very young, you know, in your 20s, and your parents or aunt or neighbor would teach you how to raise that baby. And then by the time you have your second or third baby, you kind of know, right? But now, like me, when I had my daughter basically handed me this baby, sent me home and it was like. By myself”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, there's so many things that are different. One anthropologist said that there's about 40 to 50 things that we do as parents that you can't really find anywhere else except in places that have westernized. And then there's like four or five things that we are really missing that are really key to Raising a child that you enjoy being with, raising a child that's helpful and respectful and confident. I mean, that's really, if you look at our data, right in Western society, we have this epidemic of children who are anxious, who have kind of lost confidence. And then for sure, we have children that like we struggle to get them to help, right? And be helpful around the house and kind of work together as a team. And so there's a couple things that we're not doing that really support that.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Western society has kind of veered off the path, you know, and kind of gone into this valley of strange parenting valley where we've kind of, yeah, we've kind of lost sight of like what kids actually need, what the parent-child relationship actually needs to really function.”
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“Yeah, it cooks all together. The M is like. So praising is a really interesting topic that's very unique in Western society. In my entire travels, I've never seen a parent praise a child. Like it's not necessary.”
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“So, the first thing tea is like this idea of like, A lot of the Western relationship, parent child relationship is based on control. The E is a different way.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I spent 12 years at NPR covering mostly viruses, and they would send me around the world. What was really surprising to me and why I went on this journey to like learn this other way of parenting was when I came back to San Francisco and I tried some of these techniques and methods, they worked like amazing on my little girl.”
2024-06-25 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · #197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT