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Neil Pasricha

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“Yeah, so I started a blog in 2008 called One Thousand Awesome Things. I was going through a divorce and the loss of my best friend and I could feel that processing my emotions through a positive oriented blog where I was counting down one awesome thing a day. I mean, it's stuff I'm still writing about 15 years later, the new book our book of Awesome is literally a bunch of awesome things. I thought this is going to feel good. This is good for me. I feel satisfaction when I do it. I post every single one at 12 o'10. But then Shane, back in 2008, when you got a WordPress press blog, they all had a stats counter in the top right corner. Remember blog stats counters?”
2022-10-18 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Neil Pasricha: Simple Rules for Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Hey, for me, it's like I wanted to have a plan B in hand, in my mental pocket before I made that leap. If you can do those two tests, death bit test and plan B tests, I think you're ready to make the decision.”
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“Not the one that other people wanted me to. So the first thing is, what will you regret not doing more? Right? For me, at the time in 2016, it was like, I think I'll regret not leaning into this writer thing. Let's give it a shot. And the second thing is plan B, if it fails, this is a risk tolerance question. You're the investor here. It's like, if it fails, what are you going to do? It's maybe related to stoicism a little bit, like mentally picture your worst case scenario and declare your comfort level with that. For me at that time, I'll use my personal example. I thought, well, I guess I'll have to knock on Walmart's door again or, you know, check around if anybody else wants someone to run leadership development. Could I do that? Would I be comfortable doing that? Yeah, I could. And so if you can wrap your mind around that depending on your risk tolerance, if you're like, I burn the boats and I'm okay, fine. But for me, East India culture always have a day job. You need to have benefits. Already failed by not being a doctor.”
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“Number one deathbed test. Which will I regret not doing more on my deathbed, right? You've probably heard of the five graves regrets of the dying, nurse Bronnie Ware, palliative care nurse, has summarized the 2,000 people dying. The number one regret of the dying is I wish I lived a life that I wanted to.”
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“And a lot of people right now, Shane, are in that zone where they're trying to evaluate whether this opportunity that they're doing today is as good or better than the one that they have that they're considering. And for those people, I would say you need to do two tests. You need to do the deathbed test and you need to do the plan B test. If you were considering, like I was in 2016 after I'd worked 10 years at Walmart, eight of which were overlapping with writing and speaking and stuff on the side, I was like, do I want to lead into this full time?”
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“Now the food is fresher. Now the atmosphere is livelier. Now there's a live speech as opposed to everyone entering stuff in the Zoom chat. Okay, maybe we're aging ourselves here. I don't know.”
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“Getting the worst of all girls. I did a couple months ago down to New Jersey for a drug company. And it was the first in-person event they'd had. And they were ecstatic that there were lineups in the cafeteria. They said, Can you believe there's a lineup in the cafeteria again?”
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“Do they just like kind I was just about to say, don't you think that's just like the office with three people lonely under a dim light in the corner? Like, that's the worst.”
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“Ever period Now if Jason Free was on here he'd probably disagree so Toby Luckka was on here he'd probably disagree but that's my view Neil Pasrech is landing on the Elon Musk side of things”
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“It's a valuable and incalculable and priceless, the amount of conversation that when you're in a cafeteria at a company that was in person is now fully remote and you cannot calculate how valuable it was to hear somebody in the line ahead of you that's in another function or department talking about the product you think you're in charge of and turns out that it's happening in a different silo because two vice presidents left the meeting from the CEO and both that they were in charge of it and now we've got a huge replication and duplication of work and that kind of stuff is happening all the time never mind when I talked about before with the 4s is that you need to have social connection at your job and you don't feel as tethered to the community of your work when you don't meet or see anybody”
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“That's just like. It is always funny though when you're talking to someone professional, you hear like a meow in the background or something.”
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“Yeah, and it's also a moment in time. We could be having this conversation in 2021 or 2023. The culture will have shifted again.”
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“And they want to live in Dallas, they don't want to ombraft to Rochester, that's going to look like they're not on the fast track anymore. They're not going to be a hypo. They're not going to be a level one. They're not going to be in the top right quadrant of the nine box grid. They're not going to be the de facto incumbent to the VP and the SVP. So maybe they're okay with that. Maybe they're okay with that. You mentioned Conman. He's the guy that came up with a $70,000 per year kind of the famous study that that's all you necessarily need. So maybe we are, I hope. I think some of us will take this time to realize that I'm okay with a little less and a little bit more nature time with my. Family, time to invest in my physical health, and for me, that means a longer and more intentional life. That's some people.”
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“Well, We're talking right now in fall 2022 where we're in the dregs, we're in the trail, we're in the long finish of the pandemic. And what I'm arguing is that when we're working at home for a long period of time, I think that a lot of people have readjusted their life and have said that they may prioritize things a little bit different. If indeed you are saying, I want to be home, I want to see my mom more. I actually think I really want to live in Dallas because that's where my extended family is, although my company is based in Rochester, whatever, whatever, whatever, then, yeah, it's great for some trendy news media buzzword to label that quiet quitting because alliteration, so it goes viral. But really, what I'm saying is it makes sense, don't you think, that in the six months, 12 months, 18 months after a two-year kind of major interruption like that, people take time and pause to reevaluate their values and what's important to them? And if they do that and they find that they want to spend more time with their”
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“And you're talking about organizations that are in hybrid mode. And if you're 100% in person or 100% remote, this isn't this idea doesn't hold weight.”
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“People that don't go back to the office are going to end up working for the people that do, which I think means that on the philosophy of quiet quitting, you're implying that those who in general in life show a little bit more hotspot and go for it a little bit at a higher level or work above and beyond. Show up a bit early. Show up, period. We'll actually be the ones to get races and promotions.”
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“Well, the way that I define it, and maybe my definition is different than others, is doing the amount of work expected of you and not going over and above for the sake of going over and above. However, if you're trying to get a raise, get a promotion, stick out, you know, rise up. Of course, you're going to want to, you just posted a suite you said was your most controversial tweet. Guess you got sizzling responses”
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“You should do the minimum possible. We're talking about the great transition. We're talking about people sort of trying to find work that fits into their life, not try to fit their life into their work. And I think at a high level these are net positives because perhaps through the pandemic some people gained more clarity to themselves about what was important and they stopped following the hedonistic treadmill of trying to get straight A's and get into an Ivy League school and get the McKinsey job or the consulting job and kind of be an endless super achiever and they take it a step back in the pandemic and they said well wait a minute I don't know if I want to be working 80 hours a week I think I'd actually like to see my mom more”
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“My brain naturally orients itself to the negative. And it's not It's not even so bad as to know that my brain does that. It's also so bad, I believe these is to know that the algorithms inside social media and news media are designed. And we are, do you see anyone reviewing three stars? You see what I'm saying? You either got to be hyperbolically positive or hyperbolically negative, otherwise no one's going to read your views. It's astute to filter the Amazon reviews and find the three-star reviews and read them. But we don't do that. And if you look at what's at the top, it's the one-star, the five-star. We are doing that to ourselves at this point because it's how our things get read and noticed. You know, we're talking these days in society about quiet quitting, you know, the philosophy. Let's talk about it.”
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“And we know that's biological. We've got amygdala, A-M-Y-G, D-A-L-A, it's one of the oldest parts of our brain. It's in one of the most central parts of our brain. It's about the size of a walnut. This thing secretes fight or flight. Fight or flight hormones all day. We all have an amygdala. You don't want to take it out. It ain't going to be good for you. So you got to leave that thing in there. And it's secreting fight or flight hormones all day. It's wonderful when a Saber pursued tiger jumps out of the book and you got inside whether to fight it or run away. It's not so wonderful when you get a needs improvement on your performance review and you think that you're getting chased by a saber-toothed tiger. It's not so wonderful when you get a headline saying like don't eat this toxic vegetable and you click the link and it's like, you know, too many carrots has been shown to, you know, it's like we're falling into the trap that's a biological part of our brains. So of course when I look on iTunes, I look at the review for three books, my podcast and yes, there's 15 five-star review showing up. My eye am”
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“What I put in practices in that book like two minute mornings, right? I talk a lot about journaling, I talk about dot, dot, dot yet, adding a little sliver of light after you hear the door click in the frame. When I'm at my best, use those models and systems to have thicker skin than I used to. And so I would say, yes, I've improved on that, but do I have thin skin? It's not a yes or no black or white. I'm sure I could still get better. Someone could give me a verbal, hey, if this is on YouTube and the first comment's like, I hate that annoying brown guy's voice. Well, I'm still going to feel that. So I need to get better at avoiding the kind of nasty stuff online, I'm sure. We all do probably, though.”
2022-10-18 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Neil Pasricha: Simple Rules for Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So part of the reason I wrote that book was because I had found that I was suffering from anxious thoughts for days when I got, for example, an ASCII email. And after one of my speeches, a guy ran up to me and said, Neil, Neil, Neil, what's wrong with my son? He graduated from, he was a high school valetorian. He graduated from Duke. He was the top of his class. On his first day of work, his boss sent him an email, you know, kind of saying, you got to do this better. He called me crying from his bed saying, he's not going back to work tomorrow. And when I heard that story, I didn't say, oh my gosh, like, you know, can you believe what a failure son is? I actually recognized myself in the story. Like I was like, oh, yeah, that's a piece of work. So the whole nature of the books I write is really, like most self-help authors. And you know this, you're writing for yourself, right?”
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“Your cortisol and adrenaline levels by taking some deep breaths in nature, you create more energy and more positive mindset for the afternoon, right? And then we can talk about what you should do at bed because I have some, I have some prescription thoughts on that too.”
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“P-H-Y-T-O-N-C-I-D-E-S, phytonides. When you're out in nature, not when you're on a treadmill looking at a picture of the Muir Trail, I'm talking when you're out in an actual bush, you're breathing in this chemical, which has been shown to reduce your cortisol levels. You know, it reduces your cortisol levels. It reduces your anxiety levels by being out in nature. So part of the prescription, I feel as we talk about resilience and we talk about our mental health, as we talk about our happiness, is I think every single day People got to take two minutes of the morning. We talked about that three questions. I will let go of. I'm grateful for. I will focus on. And they need to take an interjecting sometime in their day to immerse themselves in nature. I say do it at lunch because I'm picturing people under, you know, fluorescent lights in clinical atmospheres. And I say know where the closest bushes, know where the closest tree is, know where if you can just reset your physiology and”
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“What he's put forward in a lot of his research, and it's wonderful research is that by immersing ourselves in nature, by immersing ourselves in nature, we actually do so much benefit to our mental health and our physiological health. We increase the production of NK cancer-killing cells. We increase our heart health. Reduce our anxiety, we reduce our stress levels. There it turns out that there's a chemical that trees release Shane called phyton sides. Have you heard of this?”
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“He's got a really wonderful chapter on what the decline of free play is doing to the resilience and anxiety levels of our kids. So I go deep on nature a lot. I've gone deep into it from a happiness perspective. I believe that a word that we're not using enough in society is shinrin yoku, which is, you're like, no one uses that word. What are you talking about? Well, there's a guy over in Japan named Dr. Jing Li, Q-I-N-G, and his last name is LI Li, and he's become the world's foremost researcher on Shin Rinyoku, which is literal translation is Forest Bath. Forest Bath. You know, in Japan in the late 1980s, there's a bit of a cultural crisis when a number of prominent executives dropped dead. In North America, we've got the highest level word in North America for working so hard is burnout. Burnout is the highest level. Well, they've got a word over there, and I don't want to crash here. I'm going to butcher the Japanese word, but it means death by overwork.”
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“And Of the first sentences we said is anxiety rates in college students. Clint are one in three. And I'm talking clinical anxiety. Clinical, diagnosed, anxiety in college students are one in three. So if you don't get it down, you get it up. And a lot of people are saying it's partly what you're saying is that the softness or the lower kind of rules or standards or whatever. But also, there's a lot of less free play. There's a lot less free play. There's a lot less time in nature. There's a lot less things that resilience has kind of created when you're perhaps in the woods and you fall off a thing and there's no one around or you're picking up worms or you know when when we're inside systems that are really corralling our behavior we have less ability to really kind of go wide on kind of what is and could be Johan Hari has written about this a lot in stolen focus”
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“There's a post that we have. There's a huge missing conversation on because we've been reluctant to say it's over. Right? I mean, I'm still wearing a mask to fly here today, et cetera, et cetera. So it's not like it's quote unquote over, but there needs to be a much more bigger conversation about the. The so what mala, how do we feel? Like that's the paper that goes in the filing cabinet for next time. We haven't opened that all the way yet.”
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“I do think that we have missed the conversation in society so far about this, the closure, what's happened. You know in corporate cultures there's usually like a”
2022-10-18 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Neil Pasricha: Simple Rules for Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think personally we've been through a lot, and what do I think is a model that can help us take more pictures? The winds pile up when you pile on the number of times you step up to the plate.”
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“I mentioned 10th book. Have they all been hits? No, but the only way I'm going to get to the next one that does well if you even care about measuring success that way, that's the whole other topic. We talk about success is could you just write another book? Could you just take another swing? Could you just come up to the plate another time? And what in your life can you sign up for the most? You know, when I was a kid, my parents would let me quit. I was in cubs. I quit. I was in baseball. I quit. I tried. I did the most one lessons of any kid. And they let me quit. And some people say, that's horrible parenting because they should force you to stick with it and plow through. Yeah, maybe. Or maybe they just let me take more pictures till I found the things I really liked and eventually kind of for me that was things around cartooning and communication and writing and things I'm still kind of doing today. And I went to go deep on them because I was allowed to take more pictures. So what's the data say on resilience now? There ain't that much.”
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“The guy that had the most wins, Sa You Young, was also the guy that had the most losses. Sa Young. You hear this story all the time in the news media, which is Tom Brady has the most completions. He just played the longest. He just took more pictures. He also has the most incompletions. You know, this guy's got the most. He's also got the most Super Bowl losses, you know, and so the philosophy I think that we've all experienced through the pandemic is we just took another pretty big picture. We just had another major life experience. All of us did. Those are alive right now listening to this have had a major life experience. Add that to the camera roll of your life. And if you want to increase your resilience further, take more pictures. What in your life do you take more pictures in?”
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“Have you ever talked to a wedding photographer and you say to them holy cow, like I was at that wedding too. How'd you get 50 amazing shots of me and the bride or the bride and the groom or the bride? The groom and the groom, whatever, whatever. And they're like, oh, I took a thousand. Did you hear me clicking? Like the whole four hours? Click, click, click. I took like a thousand, two thousand pictures. Of course I'm going to have 50 good ones. Whenever I've had that sort of apocryphal kind of story happen over and over again, it makes me think of when I was a kid, Shane, and my dad got me a book of baseball statistics. And as a baseball fan pre-internet, as a kid, we're the same age, this book of statistics is like you could spend days in this thing. But I started noticing something interesting, which is this. The guy that had the most strikeouts, Nolan Ryan, was also the guy that had the most walks.”
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“Well, first of all, when we spoke on the knowledge project the first time, it was, we didn't know, but it was the eve of the pandemic How are we doing? I will say A, there isn't too much recent data to go on, even the data on resilience that we're looking at now. It's still 2019 kind of data, which shows that resilience is pretty low. And it comes back to some of what I was quoting before with the work of Jonathan Height and National Institute of Mental Health kind of statistics. But I will say one of the models I've been using with my kids a lot these days on cultivating resilience. And I think you might find this interesting, is the philosophy of take more pictures. Is the philosophy of take more pictures? And so”
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“And that saved me from scanning the Twitter feed, which is so sexy and addictive. That I would have not been able to do what I wanted to do, which is spend half an hour before I saw you today preparing for the Parkins interview I have tomorrow, right? Like that's how I wanted to spend my time so the guardrails served me in that case. Can feel annoying sometimes, and there are failure points where you're like tired and lazy and bored, and you download the app and you scroll, and that's fine. But if you label that a dopamine treat and are aware of what it is, then at least you're living intentionally about it.”
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“I was walking here an hour ago down the street. There's a church just down the street from us here in Ottawa. And it says in the front of the church, tweet others the way you want to be tweeted. I don't know if you saw it. It's just down the street from you. And I was like, oh my gosh, that's hilarious. I'm going to take a picture and post it on Twitter. I was like, but I don't have to download the Twitter app. And then when I download the Twitter app, it's going to ask for my password. And it's going to send a code to my email, which I'm going to have to log into. Forget it.”
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“To get through the big Gmail stop sign that says, Are you sure you don't want to download the app? Yeah, I'm sure. You have to say I'm not interested every single time Right, and once in a while, they want to like check who you are again. So it's annoying. You got to click which things are actually like cranes or whatever, right? The only thing AI has to figure out is how to identify a crane for some reason, hilariously. And then on my phone, I've disabled all text alerts and notifications. So what I do is I have to click the green text button to then see if there's text waiting. I do not get any text flashing on my screen anytime. I've also disabled the news media and news headline service that's built into the iPhone as well. So on my phone, I've taken a lot of steps to make the device. In my mind, a pole device. It is designed to be a push device. And I have designed it to myself as a pull device, meaning that it serves me. I'm the master of that phone chain. And I have to do all these things. You have to spend like half an hour of work to get the thing to kind of do your bidding the way you want it to.”
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“Well, you know, on decisions, if we're making two or three hundred decisions a day, we're right away. And those numbers are spiking because what is news media and social media and text alerts and notification doing to us, right? We're forcing ourselves. Look at the front of everyone's phone. It's 16 little squares and all of them are yelling at you in the form of a red circle, right? interrupted by the news feed on the left if you swipe left that's a kind of that's the baseline how you get it and the text that come in so here's a rule i have disabled i've deleted all social media off my phone right away gone no apps on my phone yes i can still log in on a laptop but it's really annoying right and i believe the email app off my phone so if i want email on my phone i have to log in through the clunky browser”
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“So, on that one particular, that would not work for me. What I've done instead is I've given myself a label. So this is taking your rules analogy and I'm taking it into a slightly different direction. So I say to Leslie and my kids, and they all know this and people I'm with, I say I'm a carb snob. That's what I say. I have labeled myself a carb snob. Okay. You bring out bread at the restaurant. It's cold. There's no butter. I ain't eating that. You bring it warm. There's butter. It's delicious. Well, I'm a carb snob. And that's a pretty good carb, right? So on the on the, you know, this diet part part part part part particularly, by giving myself a label of carb snob, I'm really all eating carbs when they're really, really, really yummy.”
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“Move it to the investment. Those simple two rules avoided me from having to think about the investment timing, which of course was part of the principle of investigating an exchange-traded fund to begin with. So what I'm trying to say is, yeah, now that I think about what you're saying, that rule enabled me to start not thinking about it or trying to time a mark.”
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“Know, I like that. I like that phrase rules. I had that for years as a much more novice investor than you are. I had decided long ago to put any extra money I had into an ETF that owned the total world equities, right? Pretty obvious basic investment decision. But what I would do, Shane, is on the front of every month, when I said to myself, okay, now's the time I'm going to lop off the top of my check account, dump it in the saves, and throw it in the Vanguard Total World Equity Index or whatever it is. Well, shoot, that price went up a couple bucks. I think I'll just wait till next month. And then, so I'm inspecting the price and trying to time the decision. When I changed it to a rule-based approach, i.e. if the number of dollars in check account was over X moved to Y. The savings account. If the number of dollars in savings is over Z,”
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“And on the days when I don't. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I love that what you say about Rhodes. I find that you can sometimes see this in people's out of office. I got an out of office yesterday from someone you've had on the show. I won't say their name so I don't reveal their out of office. And it just said, you know, classic out of office like, hi, I'm away from the office right now. I'll be back, whatever it was, October 1st. I will delete my inbox at that time. So please email me again if it's important. I was like. Well, that's a pretty clear rule. There is no”
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“That word right? I don't know. Anything that you put into a system enables you to have more cognitive load available for the rest of the day.”
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“And glucose, which is why at the front of the supermarket after making decisions between 30 kinds of salsa and 12 kinds of eggs, you know, you got a wall full of sugar. That's why it's there, because your decision-making energy is low. You know, when Leslie and I got married, we go to the department store and we get the tells on gone. We get to choose which kind of glasses do you want, honey? Which kind of plates? And at the end of the day, you're exhausted. You're choosing $300 ice buckets that you'll never use because your decision-making energy is that. When I wrote the happiness equation, I did a study and I found out by my own research that we were making around 300 decisions a day. So by route, anything that you routineized”
2022-10-18 · The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish · Neil Pasricha: Simple Rules for Happiness · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“All the rules making energy is a finite resource. And there's that great book called Willpower by John Tierney. And it's a finite resource. When it's gone, it's gone. And there's only two ways to replenish it. Which is sleep?”
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“Know we don't rise to the level of our goals, we follow the level of our systems. I've inserted a system that is now baked in to my schedule in order to create a more effective me. And I have a better day. And the headache that I woke up with because the baby was awake kind of gets knocked out in the morning. So that's coming after the routineized breakfast. That's coming after the routineized two-minute mornings. And now there you go by scheduling those three things at breakfast in the morning, I have a better day. So I said that because I think if you don't have that kind of stuff, you're kind of wandering, what am I going to make for breakfast? What's in the fridge?”
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“Hit my goal of three. Well, what happens every morning when I do pick up my phone after I've done my two minute mornings, after I've done my routineized breakfast, I've had the same thing for breakfast for 15 years, right? The same exact ingredients in my shake. I check the phone and it's a guy on a video saying, get down to the basement, Neil. It's time it's Arms Day, man. Like, you know, pump that bicep. So I've got that routine. And if I didn't have that thing set up, I wouldn't do the workout. So that routine enables me to do the workout. And that's good because then I got energy for the whole day. You know the benefit of a workout? You had Naval on here talking about how working out every single day was the single greatest thing he does to enable everything else. So what I'm saying is there you go. I've inserted into my life like a system.”
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“Right, and I think I had tongue in cheek replied to you on Twitter and said, I will have accomplished my true priorities in life when I don't have a schedule. And what I'm actually finding out as I raise children with my wife and I try to live an intentional life is, well, actually, you know what, Shane? I disagree with my previous self. And I actually think I need habits and routine baked into my life because it actually makes me live a better life. So when I look I told you in the bottom right corner of my monthly dashboard says 12 workouts, right? That would be three per week. Well, so what I do is I use an app called Trainiac. It's a live trainer, like a real human trainer, but it's incongruous with me. So they send me a video and then I have to do the thing. And you get to tell them how many you want. So I say set it up for four per week. That way I yield managing up front, right? That way, if I miss a quarter of my work,”
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“A year or two ago, and it's so quote I'd heard other places, but you know, you put your classic Shane spin on it. So I'm going to paraphrase or something like, you know, show me your schedule and I'll show you your priorities.”
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“Your interest in getting more involved. And I do think energy operates at many different levels. It operates at universal levels. It operates at global levels and it certainly operates at local level. So energy you put into your community, you feel back. The property text that the small business pays from the hammer that you bought from the local hardware store is going to eventually pay for the flowers in your local park. We are a function of the microcosms we live inside and investing in your community.”
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