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Paul Brunson

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“embryos, six embryos that are still viable. We have nine embryos that are still viable. And so what do you do? Some people will donate them to science. store them so every month since we began our cycles we have paid to store them. Now from what I, some people have told me that there are limitations in certain countries around how many years you can actually store your embryos, but it's such a grueling decision to have to make. And it's one that we made. I understand the desire to be apparent. I fully do”
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“I say this I understand the desire to have children. I get it. I wanted my wife and I tried for eight years. We went through IVF. You know, I get it. To this day, we still pay for our embryos to be frozen. It's like, it's one of those where I understand the desire to have children. Oh my God, it was probably sixteen years ago when we started IVF. We were early to IVF. And by the way, even before the 16 years, we had tried, naturally, to have a child. We went through one year of cycles unsuccessful. We end up losing one of our losing a child, devastating, absolutely devastating, and then we then have a cycle that works, which is our first son, Kingston. And then we have a cycle that works fairly close after our second son, Liam. But one of the untold stories about IVF, and I wish people talked about this more, is that you may still have.”
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“You know what Understand that. But you know what's worse? You know what is incredibly sad is that I've seen a large percentage of people say I have a biological clock, I want to have a child. So therefore, I'm just going to have a child with anyone. What happens? What happens? What ends up happening is it ends up becoming an incredibly difficult scenario to manage because you now are in a partnership with someone who you don't like, you don't feel safe with, there's no emotional connection. They create stress on you. They end up not being apparent to the child. That stress leads to other issues that you may have like autoimmune disease. You end up not being able to show up as your best self for the child. The child sees this and they have a myriad of issues as a result of you wanting to beat your biological clock.”
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“Like a narcissist, like a sadist, like a psychopath, like a Machiavellian, right? You know, there's a distinct group of bad people in the world. David Buss writes about this, that we have to realize they play on our fears. They understand when someone has low self-esteem, low well-being. They're attracted to that person. Why? Because they're better able to manipulate them. What's our best defense? The best defense in any relationship in life is our well being. It acts as a wall against all of the bad people in the world. And what it also does is it acts as a magnet for the great people in the world because people with high well-being and high self-esteem tend to surround themselves and understand and even attract people with high well-being and high self-esteem.”
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“Because, okay Can sit them across from the most incredible match, but they won't recognize it because they're making decisions based on their self-esteem. So they're making the decision that your friend made, right? How will this person look on my arm when I bring them to the Christmas party opposed to What's their well being look like or do we share any values, et cetera? So you can end up taking someone who could be great for you and push them away or dismiss them or worse, you can invite someone into your life who's not the best place for you because of result of your insecurities.”
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“But he never thought he was a stud, nor does he think he's a stud today, which is why I say go back to doing the inner work. We would take a client like that and oppose just saying, let's put you on a date, we can't do that. We have to begin to work with you so that you realize how incredible you actually are.”
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“Yeah, exactly. You know, I distinctly remember when I was on previously and you'd ask about what was one of the most profound things that you saw and I never had thought about that question until you asked it. And it was these men who were coming who had incredibly low self-esteem. And what it was is these were what I call late bloomers. Know it was the guy who always felt like no one liked how they appeared. They were the quote unquote ugly duckling. They then found the gym later in life, right? They found their mojo later in life. They were always studious. They were a bit introverted, maybe shy at the same time. Here they are. And when people walk past them, they're like, oh my God, this guy's a stud. Like, look at this guy's a stud.”
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“What I say, whenever you see someone who's walking around with a partner and you think, how did those two get together, right? Chances are there's an element, and remember I'm not talking about one is super high income or one has super high status. I'm just talking about you look at a coupling, you say they look odd, right? One of them could be traditionally attractive. One of them might not. Normally what's happened is that you have someone with high self-esteem who has no need for the public's validation of their partner at all.”
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“So there are many scientists that will say absolutely. But here's one thing I know definitively about attraction is attraction to someone else is largely based on your self-esteem. And this is what I mean the lower your self-esteem, the more dependent you are on the validation of the public. So therefore, you will want to have a partner who is considered to be attractive. So if society, if the script is that symmetry is it, or if the script is wearing This type of trainer is it? If that's what society is saying, then if you have low self-esteem, you want a partner to look like that because you need the validation of the partner. However... Whenever you see this is what I”
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“And once you begin to have those debates with yourself, that puts you on the path to making a decision that you're going to be more satisfied with in the long haul.”
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“You need to have a partner who's the same class as you. You need to, when you find your partner, that's the person that completes you. When you find a partner that's till death do you part, those pieces were handed to us. So there's no wonder why we're confused. We have all this evolutionary decision-making happening that we're not even aware of. And then on this side, we have society telling us this is the person that we should have, and this is the reason why. And I go back to why awareness is key. And understanding how and why we are gives us a power. It gives us autonomy over our decisions so that when you are making that decision on your partner, you can ask yourself, you know, yeah, I would love to have a partner who's over six feet. How important is that really to me? Why do I think I feel this way?”
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“Absolutely. Golden Mean, we talked about Golden Mean, where in essence this is women on average loving to see wide shoulders and a thinner waist. And men on average loving to see smaller hips, smaller waist, wider hips. Now, can people debate these concepts? Absolutely. Do they stand up? I mean, are there evolutionary reasons for these? Yes, because it speaks to being fertile for women or it speaks to being strong to protect, right, for a man. All of this does play a role. And sometimes we don't realize how Much of a role evolution has played in why and how we make decisions, which is why it's also important, though, to understand how the society that we have created as human beings also plays a role, how we were handed.”
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“Yes, I do believe that a large percentage of the decisions that we make handed to us genetically. So I'm with that. And I think the research suggests that. So if you have, for example, I was talking to Dr. Tara Swart and talking about a woman in the club, if she's ovulating or not ovulating, just based on that men are going to be attracted or not attracted. Or you think about scent, right? Really what we're trying to do with scent, the reason why we're turned off with scent is that it's genetic. It's that if we end up mating with someone who has too close of a genetic mirror to ours, the child won't be as strong. So we need diversification in our genetics. And we don't realize this, but we can determine that through our scent by being turned off. It's a whole sniff test. So do genetics play a role?”
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“It is. And you know why? Also, that's the exception. And I agree, I'm with you, it's the exception because. Most of us have poor well being. Most of us have low self esteem. Most of us do. I would argue most adults have low self-esteem, mid to low self-esteem. And what does that mean? It means that we need the validation of others, right? And this is the reason why I always say it goes back to us.”
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“Has that been her result? No. Does she appear to be incredibly happy and satisfied? Yes, right, with Tom Holland? That's from my outside looking in? Yes. Why could that have been the case? Because she grew up being handed a script. She grew up the Disney vocation of relationships. She saw the prince and how large the prince always was in comparison to the princess. She saw that the prince was able to pick up the princess. Like she saw all of these things, she believed all of these things. And then as she became more mature, as she realized that she doesn't need anyone's validation, as she understood the things and the traits that she loved, she was like this, Tom Hine guys, hot.”
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“Yes, but all right, yes, this is so good. All right, a couple of things here. Do we have these preferences? Absolutely. It's a lot of this handed us through evolutionary and our biology? Absolutely. Most of it handed to us through socialization. Definitely do we change as we increase our well being? Yes, so here's my point. If you were to go back and say Zendaya, look, you go back. Ten years, says Zindeluk, would you prefer to date a man that is taller than you? I would say there's a good chance she would say, I would prefer it, yes”
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“So, I think what's interesting when you look at different mammals. and the evolutionary biology is that there's lots of similarities, but then there's also lots of traits that are different. So it's one of those where we have to appreciate as Homo sapiens. We are unique. And we live in a structure that we have largely created ourselves. We're debating about the institution of marriage. I mean, marriage didn't exist for the vast majority of our existence”
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“No longer do we need to have a partner for pragmatic reasons. If you think about Moslow's hierarchy of needs and you just divide it into three categories, you would say the bottom kind of rung is all of our psychological and physical needs, food, shelter, right? Then that kind of middle rung is belonging and connection. And the top rung is self-evolved. Well, self-evolved, living our best self, contributing the most that we ever could to this world. Marriage and partnership and selecting a partner was largely based on that lower rung all the way through to the nineteen sixties. That's like yesterday if you think about how long we've lived.”
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“A large percentage of highly educated women are dating this way. But that's not all women. The other part is, yes, are women beginning to outearn men and out-educate men? Absolutely. In certain cities, Not in everywhere of the world. Men on average still earn more income. So if you look at the narrative that's handed to us, you could say, well, you know what? Men on average still earn more. But my point is this. My point is that I think we all need to reevaluate what it is that we want. No longer do we need to have a partner for most of us, or should I say this is me speaking out of privilege for many of us in the West.”
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“So the challenge, if I'm really interrogating this, is one is it's talking about highly educated women. So we know that highly educated women are on average dating hypergamously, right? Which is what you're talking about up. So someone who's dating, someone who has the same or higher level of education, the same or higher level of financial resources. And why is that? Because that's the script that society handed to women to say the only way you can survive is by finding a man who can deliver this to you, right? And I think we have to accept where it came from. It was this terrible society of, you know what, you're not going to be safe unless you find a man who could provide. But you fast forward to today.”
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“It's important to be able to understand. And you just asked me. You said, where are the most? I said nothing about how much money someone makes, nothing about how tall they are, right? But at the same time, what we have to understand is the narrative that is handed to about women is that all women are looking for the six foot plus CEO who's making over £100,000 or dollars a year. And that is also not the case.”
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“But do we need to extend more grace to our men? Absolutely, we do. Our men lonier than they ever have been? Absolutely. Our men confused absolutely, right? Are men being misled? Absolutely. Let's extend more grace to our men. What does that mean? That means being aware that we do live in a loneliness epidemic, being aware that less than 27% of men have a friend that they can feel is a confidant, that 0% of them now feel like they have someone who they can go to at 3 a.m. in the morning. It's being aware of these things. It is saying, you know what? I can appreciate other traits and characteristics outside of how much you earn or how tall you are, right?”
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“These are all facts However, we have to interrogate this data, but more so I think we have to interrogate the narrative that's being handed to us. So I feel like the narrative that's being handed us today is that, you know what, the top 20% of men or 10% of men, they're good, but the bottom 80% you suck. That couldn't be further from the truth. And I think we have to acknowledge, and this is where two things can be done. One, we live in a patriarchal society absolutely. Absolutely.”
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“You know what? How open minded are they? How much do they lean in? How curious are they? And then a third is how resilient are they? Because having a relationship with anyone means tough times. So are they able to bounce back or when things get tough, do they just land their back? So if you have a partner who's resilient, you have a partner who's open-minded. You have a partner who's focused and nurturing their well-being, you have a great partner.”
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“Values change. They change. I value things much differently today than I did ten years ago. Our values change. They're not constant. We need to throw away values. Are they important? Yes. Are they the most important? No. So therefore, let's deemphasize the focusing on finding someone who matches all of our values. Instead, well being key. Are they focused on their well-being? That's one. Two, yeah, values is important. But you know what's equally, if not more?”
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“Castors then interpreted that over the years to be what? Values You need to have a partner who shares your values, has the same religion, has the same accent. This is how we became regimented in class. This happened century after century after century, right? We get to today, you ask anyone on the street. We grab 10 people, nine out of ten, and we said, how important are values? Nine out of 10 would say, values is everything. What”
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“All right. So Talks about you have to have a partner, you have to find a partner who's equally yoked. What does that really mean? Equally yoked comes from oxen, right? So two, you have one ox here, one ox here. They're tethered together. They're plowing the land. If they're walking lockstep, they can plow the land. If you have one going off this way, one going off this way, you can't plow the land. You can't produce. So the Bible says you need to have a partner who is equally yoked.”
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“Oh, yeah. I mean, there's a million, but the core that I like to write about is, and I'll actually synthesize it. You want to have a partner who is aware of their well being and who is focused on their well-being. This is incredibly important because One of the most profound bits of research that I feel like I include in the book is that most of us believe that having alignment in the values of our partner is the most successful or is the number one determinant of having a successful partnership. We think it's about values. We're told it's about values. We're fed values, which, by the way, goes back to, you know where that goes back to? Religion You know how? Heard of, you need to be equally yoked Oh, you ever Not reading your Bibles”
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“Well, once again, what is success? Is it to me success is high satisfaction. High satisfaction has a strong correlation around well-being. Dr. Carol Riff, I think, is the OG of well-being. She doesn't get enough credit. She created a model called the Six Dimensions of Psychological Wellbeing. And in essence, if we are working to increase each one of these dimensions, so for example, one is having a vision of your life. Like, what is that vision that you have for life? And the question, though, is, do you feel like you are actively in pursuit of that vision? If you don't feel like you know what your vision is or you're not in pursuit of it, you're going to have lower well-being. Higher satisfaction you have in your relationship More successful your relationship is”
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“And I would say I'm with you Throw the system out About just one thing, and you said this, and there's research behind this it's the investment model theory. So the more you invest In the preparation of your partnership, in the actual partnership, the more that you're investing time, all resources, the higher satisfaction you have. That's fact, right? That's research. That's in essence what you're saying. So that's the way that I would approach it how can I invest as much as I can in this partnership with this person that I love?”
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“I could just sit here like so That is a myth, though, because we know where divorce rates are, separation rates are. We know that there are, you can get a divorce, so you can get out. She can get out. We have to put that to the side. But the key is to think about when I was like interrogate the fears is, well, what's the upside? What's the upside of having a partner for life? What would you say? Upsides.”
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“Perfect. I agree. This is one of the myths, right? This whole notion of till death do us part, which really was handed to us in religion. If you look through Christianity, Hinduism, even a lot of the modern day Islamic marriage ceremonies, there's some formation of you will be with this partner for the rest of your life. And I think what that does is it actually sets us up for a lower level of satisfaction. It sets us up for complacency. Oh, this is all we get. Instead.”
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“rest of your life. Think about this the anxiety is the fear of what has not even come yet. So that means that you can now interrogate your thoughts. Okay, you have fear over what? What's the fear”
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“And it almost feels as if there is a fear of committing. someone for the rest of your life because that's a massive i mean think about this Commit to someone for the rest of your life, for the rest of your days. And what we feel, because I've been there, because”
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“$25 in free. Free, right? That's the way it should be. But it is the reverse. Now, you're right. Marriage is hard to get out of. That's changing. There's now the introduction, especially in the UK of the no fault, right? But that still takes, it still could take six months or so. There still is a lot of haggle. So I agree with you there, is that it should be much easier to get out. But ultimately, what marriage is, is marriage is a declaration of commitment done in a formal way.”
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“With regard to getting out of it, this is the single biggest change that we need in marriages. Marriages, in my opinion, should be much harder to get into. You shouldn't be able, like literally you and your partner could go to Vegas, drive up, so a drive through, you could have an Elvis Presley impersonator marry you, you pay twenty-five dollars, and you're married. It's ridiculous. I think that there needs to be There needs to be hurdles in place. There needs to be some type of vetting, some type of premarital coaching counseling. So everyone is aware of the commitment that is about to be made. And you have the tools, you have skills around conflict management, et cetera. It needs to be hard. But then if you want out you should be able to get out in an hour. It should be easy”
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“There are many secular marriages, so you don't have to do anything religious related. And it sounds like a big difficulty that you have, could be the number one, is the wedding. But the wedding to me, the premise of it, is a public declaration of your love. And to your point, it could be as small as you want, it could be as big as you want, you could have as many as you want, right? That public declaration could happen 50 times over 50 years. It is up to you. So that is you and your partner navigating that space”
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“Government step up even more to incentivize. So you're going to see all types of benefits being thrown at people to get married, especially as you not only see marriage rates decline, but as you also see birth rates declining as they are. Your question around what should you do is that this is a question around values. And this is a question that I believe is very important to have early on. Now, I was saying, you know, when you meet someone, you should lay out exactly what you want. This is a very important question to have early, early on. Now, in terms of where you are with your partner, I would say that if she is four, if she is pro this. You were indifferent. Sounds like you're indifferent, not anti, but indifferent.”
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“So having to, well, it's interesting, there's different perspectives now on nuclear family, but I look at it as you have two partners. And that creates the nuclear family. That becomes an economic unit which drives a society. And as that has disappeared, there's been less of a base to drive society per many researchers. So as a result, what I believe is going to happen as we see right now in Singapore, as we see right now in China, as we see right now in Japan, you're going to see government heavily involved in incentivizing marriage. And marriage is already incentivized right now. In terms of tax benefits, being able to leave assets to your partner, leave assets to family members. So as a result of the decrease of marriage and decrease of nuclear families, you will see”
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“Yes, because your partner wants to. It's not losing enough. But here, all right, so. I think the institution of marriage. You're going to see this is my prediction that because Nuclear families.”
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“And sometimes we disagree with you, but sometimes we agree with you. And I think this is what we need. Because just talking about it and having the conversation around it helps to contribute to awareness which puts you on the path to developing skills, which then allows you to begin to heal. And ultimately, that's what therapy is. Therapy is healing. And so having the dialogue based on this podcast, based on a book, based on a television show, is truly not just a first step. That's a significant step towards your black belt.”
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“Is the first step so say it's Lottie and Dave? Lottie's listening to us right now, and she wants to deepen her emotional connection with her partner Dave. What does she do? She sends Dave a link to this podcast, and she says, let's listen to this together. Let's have a date night. Let's listen to this together. And let's just talk about what's happening. You know what I've noticed with one of the shows that I co host Married at First Sight UK, what I'm so proud about is I'm stopped all the time by men. And they'll say Paul, I watch your show with my partner. And our kids watch it as well. And we debate what you're saying.”
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“Have doubts about your relationship. We're told that if you're in the greatest relationship, if you found your soulmate, you should never have doubts. Myth. Myth, right? It's healthy to have doubts. But there are healthy doubts. There's unhealthy doubts. If it is a doubt that is about the growth of your relationship, that's healthy to express that. If it is a doubt that is predicated in your own fear or your anxieties or your traumas, that's unhealthy. So to know that informs how Jill and I have tackled that idea of let's normalize a conversation, is this a healthy doubt? It is. Let's build this into our relationship. So Jill, so... I know Jill adores Idris Elba, and she knows I will leave her for Beyonce.”
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“I've been with Jill for twenty plus years, right? She has never, we have a high level of satisfaction. It's normal to have attraction, right? So you take your thoughts to court and then you begin to recalibrate your perspective on the thing. So it gets to the point where, do you know that every anniversary, Jill gets the biggest bouquet of flowers from Idris Elba? I write love Aegis Elba. So I'm writing. So I've now, it's moved to a point where I couldn't even stand this idea to now it's so normalized. It's jokes about it. So it's very important for us to normalize how these conversations take our thoughts to court. And if we are, and we have to realize this, and I wrote about this in the book, is that it is also healthy.”
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“But we begin having conversations around it. It becomes a bit of a joke, right? It is embedded in our, in the normalization of it. And then I begin to do what I call taking my thoughts to court. Take your thoughts to court, right? Whereas I would identify, okay, what is the issue? What's the emotion? It's actually fear if Jill's talking about someone else. It was fear. But then I draw on that fear. What am I in fear of? I'm in fear of her leaving me. She's just going to leave me, right? Then take that thought to court. What are the facts that are the facts that I have to support or discredit those feelings?”
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“If we normalize it, then we begin having conversations around it. So my wife and I used to do or did around this and she will hate me for saying this, but I wrote this in the book. So it's cool is we started talking about celebrities. Easy, low-level way. People who are arm length distance. Who do you find attractive? Blah, blah, blah. I saw that my wife, as does, I think 99.99% of women and men loves Idris Elba. She's like, Idris is it. To the point where I was like, will you leave me for, I think she will leave me for Idris. It's like, she will definitely leave me for this man.”
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“And there are many different things that you can do, but I'll give two. One is that you just have to normalize that these behaviors are a part of our human experience. We'll all have physical attraction. Some of us will have sexual attraction, some of us will have emotional attraction to people who are not our partners. If anyone denies it, they are lying. This is one. We have to normalize this.”
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“Oh, my Stephen, come on, man. Are you? But absolutely, absolutely. And not only that, and there are different forms of attraction. You know, there's physical, there's sexual attraction, there's emotional attraction. But to your question of what do you do if you're level one in your relationship is you start with these baby steps. So Jill and myself, we had to start around this topic of attraction because I had a very hard time. Just thinking about my wife being attracted to someone else. I couldn't fathom it, the jealousy, the anxiety, the anxiousness. I have an anxious attachment style. So it just, it was just fear, right?”
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“All right, I like this. So, baby steps. So, in the book, I talk about how we have to normalize the fact that we will be attracted to people other than our partner.”
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“Partner doesn't even orgasm when they have sex. You look at the orgasm gap and you say, oh my God, you have men orgasming at 95% and women at roughly 65%, maybe a little bit higher in these committed relationships, that means that there's a significant percentage that never orgasm. I bet you their partner has no idea. No, no idea. Why? Because there hasn't been a conversation around it. Now, the issue is a two-way street. It's not only the man's issue that he needs to be aware and have the conversation, but she also needs to be able to tell him. But you know why she probably doesn't tell him? Because She doesn't want to hurt his feelings. She's not been having Think of how powerful it would be if they could just simply have dialogue and discussion.”
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