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Tara Brach

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  1. “So if I was going to continue, and I'm not, because I realized I was moving right into a guided meditation, but just to sweep through the body and senses, is there anywhere that can relax just a little bit more right now? And what you'll find is if you ask that question, you'll notice that without even knowing it, the body tenses and to re-relax and relax is really, really helpful.”

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  2. “By the way, what I'm describing, most people would do this sitting. This just happens to be me because I just like being outside when I can. But everything I'm describing, for those that are listening, sit in a way where ideally it's comfortable, but you can sit up tall because really you want the posture to invite forward the qualities of mind that matter to you. So we want to be alert and we also want to be at ease. So the idea is sit comfortably but sit with your spine tall and I would not use the kind of thing you described, Tim, is there's good reasons for judo but for For training and meditation, let it be more relaxed. You don't need anything that adds tension to the body.”

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  3. “They can be touching lightly, but you can also place some palms down right above your knees and just let it be a light touch there and just feel the contact, the warmth, the tingling, and that's fine too.”

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  4. “There are what are called mudras that are hand positions that in a refined yoga kind of perspective have energy circulating a certain way, but the deeper purpose of practice, if you're training your mind to pay attention, if you just soften and relax your hands, there'll be a flow and you won't be perpetuating tension.”

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  5. “the parasympathetic, which is much more ease-filled. So I sweep down the eyes, the mouth. I go to the shoulders and let the shoulders fall away from my nexum so that I can just soften in the shoulders. And even again, as you're sitting, you might feel the shoulders from the inside and see if it's possible to have a little bit of that melting of ice to water. And then what are to gas, kind of letting go. And it's really, really helpful to let the hands rest in a very easy, effortless way because when I have my hands by my side or if you have your hands in your lap, because again, when we're Stressed, we have these micro muscles that tense in the hand. So by consciously softening your hands, you're actually deconditioning that stress reaction.”

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  6. “The little muscles around the eyes are tense. So by softening the eyes and letting the brow be smooth, that actually helps the mind to quiet some. And you can actually put a half smile on the mouth It's amazing. There's a lot of research on this too, that if you have a little bit of a smile and you can feel the inside of your mouth smiling, that that actually sends a message to your whole nervous system to you can relax the whole fight-sight freeze constellation and access more of an evolutionary terms it's called attend and befriend that there's just more of a benevolent witnessing when there's a slight smile So that's another trick. And again, even if you're not sitting for a long meditation, just pausing and closing your eyes and relaxing the eyes and having a little bit of a smile itself, just even a 30 second pause can shift you from the sympathetic nervous system, which is really very defensive and aggressive.”

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  7. “So I begin very much with a kind of sweep through the body with my awareness. And I will kind of starting from the head down, I'll just soften and relax different parts of my body so that I'm feeling the life from the inside out. So I'm feeling a sense of sensation. So if you're listening and you just close your eyes, and I sometimes will use the image of a smile to help to deepen that sense of presence and ease that you can sense the eyes smiling. You can smile into your eyes and feel the corners of the eyes up a little and let the brow be smooth. So there's just a way of softening in the eyes. Because when we're thinking a lot, when we're in that home movie that's filled with a kind of incessant inner dialogue and a lot of fear usually or stress,”

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  8. “Well, sometimes I'll start open and really take in the, you know, I'm right by a stream and right now there's incredible birds and the sounds of the currents and everything. It's quite lovely. So I'll take it all in, but I'll close my eyes eventually just to kind of quiet my mind more”

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  9. “Sure. And any one of the components, the first Is really pausing. It's like getting that ah, okay, I've stopped this forward motion. It's like we always have the sense that we're on our way somewhere. So it's really a sense of, okay, I'm pausing to be right here and that this moment matters as much as any moment in the whole universe. Because we tend to think that this isn't what's important. It's yet to come or it's back there. And in that space is your power and your freedom So that's the beginning. It's just getting, okay, pausing and arriving.”

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  10. “And when I was younger, more athletic, and that's a whole other story because I did lose it for a while. But I find that for me, just moving and moving vigorously and being in nature is, you know, if I had to say what my religion is, it's, you know, being a nature. I just love it. So we go and we do a kind of up-down hike by the river and in the hells. an hour into the hike I have a place by a stream that I'll stop and then I'll do a meditation there. So I do a standing meditation there and could last anywhere from 20 to 45 minutes and then we do the rest of the hike and I come home.”

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  11. “Number one I mean, I'm amazed. Because I got Well, I am woken if I don't wake up myself. I get up real early. I mean, I naturally wake up around, well, not real early, but five or so, 5.30. But if I don't pop out of bed, then I've got a dog that will climb on my chest and lick my face and nudge me out of bed. And so... She does that because we go right away, straight from, we go right down to the river. I live right by the Potomac River. So I usually hike for about three to four miles in the morning. It's the first thing with my dog and it's almost any weather.”

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  12. “So we have a little time together. I share that story because if we don't pause and deepen attention, we live out patterns we've been living our whole life to keep us separated from ourselves, our highest self and each other. And, you know, we don't know what's going on for others. You know, it's not like everybody has just endured that kind of a loss, but everybody's struggling hard. And we're so quick to take personally and to read our lives into things, to be able to pause and both bring mindfulness and attention inwardly and then outwardly, this is what's going to change the world. This is what's going to allow us to step out of reactivity that fuels wars and actually be more collaborative. This is evolution.”

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  13. “And then the second step is, okay, so what's going on inside me right now? You know, what are we seeing? And so he noticed there was anger. And then he could feel underneath the anger that anxiety, and many of us know the anxiety of when we're busy and on our way. And it feels like our whole world's going to fall apart because we're going to be late or not prepared. So he could censor his anger and fear underneath the anger. And then as he had tea with it, as he just stayed with it, he found some more space and some more presence. So when he looked up and he saw the little girl, he thought, oh, she's cute. And when it was his turn, the woman had left with the girl, he said to the clerk, you know, that little girl was adorable. And the clerk beamed at him and she said, oh, thank you. Actually, that's my little girl. My husband was killed in Afghanistan last year, and my mom brings her rye every day twice a year.”

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  14. “Always a good start. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then as the story goes, he went the end of the day to a supermarket to, you know, because you need to fill up on supplies. And he gets into line. And in front of him is a woman with just a few items in her cart. And not only that, she's got a baby and this is not the express lion. And so he starts fuming because why doesn't she get in the express line? She's in front of me and taking time. She hands the baby to the...”

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  15. “That's exactly right. We're online again in a way because what happens is when we're reacting to the world, we kind of cut off from some of the parts of our frontal cortex that actually can make us most effective. And I'll give you an example of story that's always touched me of This is a surgeon or commanding surgeon in the Army who took an anger management course. So this is to do with anger Dim. And he took this course and it was very much based on mindfulness, based on what is happening in this moment and can I opened it as he took the course because he was ordered to actually.”

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  16. “This is yourself. I get that this is intimidating and so there's a you create a space of presence for what's there. And in response to it, you said earlier is couldn't this be passive or kind of a chill stance? It's really out of that presence that we can then act in a way that is most intelligent and most empowered. So this radical presence and radical acceptance that I'm describing, these two wings of what's going on and let's have tea, that's not our permanent stance. That's the grounds for action. It's like we've come home into the moment. We've come into some stability and balance. And then when we respond to the world, we actually are responding from our full potential. We're not in a reactive mode.”

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  17. “This is the first wing of mindfulness that we say, okay, so here's what it's like right now with our senses, very embodied. And then the second wing, which is let's have T, is really like saying, I'm just going to allow how this experience is right now to be just as it is, and I'm going to bring some interest and some care to it. Let's have tea. So it's a way of being with ourselves that's intimate, that's full. And naturally it extends because if you can say to yourself, okay, here's what's happening. There's some anxiety and okay, let me be with it, then when you run into another person and they are aggravating in you in some way and judgment comes up or they're intimidating you, you can say, oh, okay, so this is Mara again. I see you, Mara. And you're saying.”

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  18. “Practice that in any moment that we can pause and say, you know, you can ask that question. So what is happening inside me right now? And I invite all of you who are listening just right now, you might just check in. What is happening inside me right now? You might check the ceilings in your body, sensations, if there's a mood.”

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  19. “And what those two communications really say, I see you, Mara, is mindfulness. I see you. I get in this moment what's happening. Okay, there's fear. There's anger. It's this capacity we each have to pause and just recognize this is what's here right now. It's an honest recognition. So he said, I see you, Mara, and that's considered the first wing of presence, seeing what's here. And then the second, come, let's have tea, is instead of fighting what's here in the moment, there's making space for. There's getting to know it. It's the quality of heart. It's the quality of heart space that lets the life be just as it is in the moment. And these two wings of presence that you see in this myth really are the very foundation of a meditation.”

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  20. “weapons turned into a flower petal. So by the morning morning star when it rose, there was a heap of petals in front of him. But interestingly, Mara did not just vanish in the Buddha's lifetime. Mara would keep appearing. And so the Buddha would be teaching in a field somewhere. A lot of people gathered and Mara would start lurking in the outskirts. And the Buddha's loyal attendant would be freaked out and he'd say, oh my God, Mara's here. What are we going to do? The shadow has come. But the Buddha would kind of say, chill, it's okay. And then what he'd do is go right tomorrow and say, I see you, Mara. Come, let's have tea.”

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  21. “Okay, so in the Buddhist mythology, and this is to me one of the most amazingly contemporary relevant kind of principles in the universe, the Buddha's awakening to a larger reality came through, he sat this night under what's called the Bodhi tree. It is the tree of awakening. And through the night, the god Mara who represents anger, greed, pride, aversion, passion, jealousy, all the forces that can take over and create misery attack them. So there were arrows and flames of light and spears and so on coming at them. He sat through the night and practiced this quality of presence so that all the attacks, each of the”

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  22. “You're exactly right. And interestingly with meditation, what it does is it actually serves that. You become better at that.”

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  23. “But that only happens when we are operating in a collaborative way. So the very domain that you are engaged with is really a more evolved domain. It's not the competitive domain. It's going more towards collectivity, towards belonging to a field and you're working to wake up to that and gauge other people in it. In a way, when you ask that question, what will keep my edge? Really the new edge that we want to keep is our capacity for empathy and collaboration and mutual creativity.”

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  24. “That's exactly where I was going, is that the thing you most want To experience and to produce. For you, Tim, is world-class learners and world-class teachers, which I'm imagining, if I read into that, would then allow there to be more creativity, healing, and well-being on the planet Earth. Yes?”

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  25. “And when you think of the moments when you're happiest, it may give you, we might get an initial rush of chemicals when we feel personally recognized and personally the best. I know I wrote in my most recent book, My Special Person Complex, you know, where I get caught in feeling important in some way. And yet that's not when we're happiest. In fact, the way that you consent in an evolutionary way is we are as a species learning to identify with wider and wider circles of beings. We're able to feel a sense of, as you and I talk, that it's not me proving something or impressing, but there's some collectivity that's going on between us that's creating an entirely new field.”

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  26. “Yes, yes, that it's very self-focused so that we're doing things so that we can, I can be the best because I want to be recognized because I want to be special because I'm an important person. So it's that kind of thing.”

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  27. “a kind of universal intelligence and creativity that moves through us. So I do think of it that this training actually can allow us to access our greatest potential. Now here's a couple of pieces to it that in the egoic state, dominance and competition are really the way to flourishing.”

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  28. “So if you look at it in terms of evolutionary development, both your own evolution and also as a species, the more that we learn to direct our attention, the more we have access to what's called whole brain thinking where we really can be creative, where we really can be spontaneous. It's almost like it evolves this past the identification with a separate self into something more whole. And I think often of all the Huxley describes this reducing valve of awareness where in the egoic state, the mind just takes in the information so we can survive and do our daily functions. And it kind of blocks out a lot of the vast mysteries of the universe. And as we meditate, that reducing valve doesn't reduce so much. So we actually have more of the flow of”

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  29. “And just the way we know we need physical exercise to maximize our bodies' health, we need to mentally train too. And so meditation is very broad. There are many different kinds of meditations, but a training of the, I'll call it the heart mind, really what it does in a very specific way. This is what research is showing, is it activates a part of the frontal cortex where there's kind of neurocircuitry that really has to do with being able to have a larger perspective, being able to have better executive functioning, being able to have more empathy, being able to have more compassion. And it started evolving in the human species. It's what led us form tribes and be able to start collaborating more. And it's collaboration that's actually allowed us to have the greatest of the scientific kind of breakthroughs and so on.”

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  30. “Well, how about this? Here's the way that I think is But I like to frame it, is that Meditation is evolution strategy to bring out our full potential.”

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  31. “So let me ask you a question about that then. If you had a step back and look at your life, what is the most important place that you would want to win a gold medal? I mean, if you really think at the end of your life looking back, if you could be the very best in something, what do you most want to be best at?”

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  32. “Yeah, do you feel like it causes you suffering? And if so, how do you notice it as suffering? Because I get that you've gotten rewards for aggression.”

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  33. “just experience directly contact the sense of the pleasure in the moment and just notice that and then if there's this arising of a sense of wanting more you just notice that and then you come back right to your body again it's staying in the moment that actually interrupts the chain reaction that leads to grasping on the things but that takes practice to i mean it's like for most people As soon as we have the first few spoons of ice cream, it's kind of like we forget and we just spoon it in and we don't taste until at the end there's something lingering and then we have to have more and we're already leaning into the future so to stay with each bite there's actually a fulfillment in it and we don't go down that track of having to have”

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  34. “Yeah, it's a wonderful question because really if we look at our lives where they're suffering, if we're not happy and if we're not at home, it's really because of the sense of I want things different. I want more. There's not enough here. And that's attachment. It's like I have to have more. It's a have to have feeling. And so my experience is that the more we actually are in the moment and in the senses, like right here, right now, the more we decondition grasping. So the very training of, because grasping comes like you have something and then you have the idea that you need to have more to be happy. But if you actually let go of the idea”

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  35. “then becomes harmful for our body. Are we taking hedonistic pleasure in being with one person sexually, but then it turns out that it doesn't work out with that person? So if you see what I mean, when there's attachment and it's a tight holding, it actually causes suffering.”

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  36. “I like it. I think it's possible to take tremendous pleasure in this world. In fact, one teacher says, why fixate your desire on one thing? Why not just desire it all? And the more we're in that kind of receptivity where there's just an amazing appreciation for the simplest things, for everything, actually there's a lot of freedom in that because there's not a lot of clenching and holding on and having to control where the idea of mindful hedonism could fall on its face is if we become attached to the particular currents of hedonism being a certain way. If we become attached to always having a certain food and then we end up getting addicted, are we get attached to a certain chemical substance?”

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  37. “Exactly. I mean, the more attachment there is, the more when we come apart, the more, you know, pain and feeling of vengefulness and everything flies up. So, no, it didn't have that”

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  38. “I would have viewed it that way because as I say I came up from a very I came out a pretty independent thinking people but that's what happened and I married them and it turned out that he was as I said a very you know a wonderful wonderful human and he continues to be a dear friend and brother. I mean he really is. We're very much, we had a child together. Even though we divorced, we co-parented and we're good friends. And I think, Tim, that part of it is because we didn't fall in love in a romantic way, when we decide divorce, there wasn't the kind of painful tearing apart that brings up so much anger and senses of betrayal and so on. We were able to move on together.”

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  39. “I was very upset by it. I pleaded not to have to do it. And ultimately it was my sense that, well, to be dedicated to this path means to go along with this. That was somehow or other how my mind construed it, that I needed to surrender, I needed to surrender my wants and just do it. And I'm still in, I can say right now in my current state of mind kind of”

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  40. “There was a man who lived in Canada and needed a screen card. That's what it was. And he was part of our larger community and they wanted him to be able to move into the country and get a green card. And so they were looking for somebody to match him with. And they knew I was single. And they made the arrangement for me not only to marry him, but I had to leave where I was living, which was Boston, and come down to Washington. So it was It seemed in my mind to be absolutely this crazy groundless pairing. I couldn't imagine, I mean, it was just so far from what I ever imagined for myself. And when I met him, he was a perfectly nice person, but very, very far from anybody I would have naturally, in my own choosing, have picked as a mate. So it was really, really...”

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  41. “Yeah, so maybe just to make a broader comment that for some people from some traditions, it may well be that given a handful of people that there may be somebody in that handful that it really does work better for them. And so this is not like a judgment that culturally this is a bad ritual, but in this particular case, it happened, I'd say, a good number of times, maybe three quarters of the marriages of the, you know, we were all in our 20s when we first joined the ashram were arranged by the head of the whole organization. And so mine was. And it was not done by any criteria that any of us could ever think of. It was very much that”

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  42. “open up into the present moment with a very kind of profound quality of just simple acceptance and presence to really notice what's going on right here. So I got drawn to Buddhism because that capacity for mindful presence became more and more what drew me. So after I left the ashram I started reading and then going to retreats that were Buddhist meditation retreats. And I also had a child. So I was juggling a juggling a few different worlds there, but they came together okay.”

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  43. “I left the ashram. I had been doing a lot of teaching while I was in the ashram yoga and meditation. And I left and got very drawn. My meditation kind of started shifting and I got very drawn to Buddhist meditation, which interestingly is, if you think of a lot of the yogic meditations, very much of a training and concentration. And I suspect we'll get more into the different kinds of meditation as we speak, but it can really allow you to quiet the mind and settle the mind and have access to experiences of a lot of peace. It can be very, very profoundly pleasurable. And I love that. But what it didn't teach me was mindfulness, which was really how...”

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  44. “It could have been the killer, it could have been the nail to the coffin. But what it made clear to me is that I really want that it was intrinsic to the spiritual path to trust and embrace the life that's here. And that doesn't mean, Tim, that I felt like my ego, that I was ego-free and that I didn't make mistakes. And, you know, I mean, I'm very, very aware of all my imperfections. It more meant that on some fundamental level, I was going to trust my goodness. And so it was a turning point because it was after that betrayal that I chose to really, I really committed myself to accepting myself as I was. And since then I ran into this quote from Carl Rogers who says, you know, it wasn't until I Accepted myself just as I was, that I was free to change.”

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  45. “Of any real sort in my history, I think if I had already been an abused person and I'd already had trauma in my nervous system, that it would have been much more difficult for me to process that. But as it happened, after that experience, for the hours after it, I remember going into a little kind of a chapel and crying deeply, the humiliation of it, the pain of it, the hurt of it, the kind of the betrayal, like how could somebody I had kind of trusted do that. And then I got to a place where either it became very clear to me that either I was going to in some way believe that he knew something and use it against myself. I was going to absolutely get behind myself in the sense of really dedicate to embracing myself, not to buy into some badness because it could have easily played into the trance of unworthiness.”

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  46. “But I was in a group of several hundred people when he had me stand up and he said, you know, you're trying to blame your miscarriage on such and such. And you miscarried because of your ego. And he was very, it was very crude and it was abusive. It was an abusive behavior to here I was two days after a miscarriage to have me in that vulnerable place be rated in that way. And so that, and I'm glad you brought it up because that, you know, I had already had a lot of misgivings about Ashram living, but his behavior made it utterly clear to me that I couldn't be part of something where the leader would treat people in an abusive way. And interestingly, I have had no abuse or”

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  47. “Sure, sure. Yeah, I had been trying to get pregnant and really eager to have a child, and I finally got pregnant and I went to a gathering, we would gather for about a month in the mountains. And I remember it was very, very hot, and it was very rigorous activity at our gatherings. And I miscarried. So I wrote a note to the spiritual leader of the community and basically said, you know, we might want to warn some people that if you're pregnant and you're in this kind of heat, it might not be a good idea. And I think that that must have made him feel like I was saying, well, you're teaching something about your teachings caused me to miscarry, which of course wasn't.”

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  48. “So I went along with a lot of stuff because, you know, again, I was having very intense altered states of experience that were very lovely. I've learned to concentrate my mind and had a lot of devotional experiences and so on. But the structure and the authoritarianism of the community got to me. So I left after 10 years and then right after leaving got pregnant and had my son, Narayan.”

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  49. “of rigidity just made it so I needed to continue on the spiritual path but not inside the ashram environment so I left right I left I stayed for 10 years and I had an arrange marriage this is something that's not not so typical in the West you know to have you know had all the normal longing to you know fall in love and Prince and shining armor and get married and instead I was assigned my husband and I don't know if I should speed over that one or not”

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  50. “You know, the ashram, the strengths and the positive aspects were, you know, it made it very easily to have a very regular strong practice. The nice thing about having group of people, and I really recommend this to all of us, is that to periodically be able to practice with other people and exchange what's going on, that sense of community can keep nourishing and enlivening what's going on in terms of awakening. And the ashram had a lot of rigidity to it, Tim. It was, you know, I joined when I was 21 and I came from this very kind of liberal background. I was very independent, and yet I joined something that had quite a hierarchy. It was very patriarchal. It was really very different from what I would have thought for myself. And gradually those qualities of the kind of”

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